Matt Hansen - WHERE YOU BELONG (Official Visualizer)

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  • Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 269

  • @litvixen1364
    @litvixen1364 Рік тому +263

    This song on repeat already. Bawling like a baby. Trauma bonds are the hardest to break.

    • @jessicalefay
      @jessicalefay Рік тому +9

      Girl me too sheeewwww... Just feel it. We'll be better people for it. Sending love.

    • @BreezeofBliss
      @BreezeofBliss Рік тому +3

      Trauma is just an unhealed emotional wound. You can heal. You've got this!

    • @katarzynastomskapoetry
      @katarzynastomskapoetry Рік тому +6

      I see You. I feel you. I hear you. You will get there. I promise.

    • @angelaaharrah8853
      @angelaaharrah8853 Рік тому +3

      Absolutely yes! I'm ten years into a healthy loving marriage with three amazingly frustrating daughters.. I'm the happiest I've ever been but there's always that one person that tugs at your heart a little bit in the worst way.

    • @twintaurean520
      @twintaurean520 Рік тому +4

      The hardest to break…. I feel that on a level not many have ever experienced to understand

  • @beckyeon922
    @beckyeon922 Рік тому +117

    To all the people who listen to this masterpiece, hope you heal from all the pain you suffered.. Life goes on no matter what don't let them bring you down.. Fighting 💪

  • @maloriemclain1500
    @maloriemclain1500 Рік тому +172

    Lyrics to this masterpiece 💜
    Did someone you know
    Ever turn on a dime
    From an angel right into a monster?
    You still wanna stay
    Wanna help, wanna heal
    Only so much that your love can offer
    Why did I try for as long as I did?
    Back on the ropes when I knew I should quit
    Where do I run 'cause I've got no more blood left to bleed?
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    You tried to protect
    And you always defendin'
    Even when they’re caught red-handed
    But all that you get
    For your purest intentions
    Is your heart wrapped up in a bandage
    How many tears do my eyes have to make?
    How many years is it gonna take?
    Where do I run so that I make it out in one piece?
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    'Cause all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong

  • @victoriahess1119
    @victoriahess1119 Рік тому +17

    These are the words I wish I could have told my adopted mom before she passed. Thank you for helping me scream them to the stars. Maybe her energy will feel the pain she caused me and my brother. She is in my past forever now.

  • @ghxst2910
    @ghxst2910 Рік тому +69

    I’ve been waiting so long and needed it for even longer

  • @faiththepacifist1756
    @faiththepacifist1756 Рік тому +33

    I didn't think I needed this song so badly.... Now I can listen to it, I can finally heal and move on.
    Thank you

  • @Sally-0729
    @Sally-0729 3 місяці тому +6

    My past is exactly where my stepfather belongs as well as my own mother!! Two abusive parents towards me ! One was sexually abusive and the other was mentally and physically abusive but they are both gone and i have met them go and do not want to think about them ! Let God take care of everything for me!! I am a survivor with the Grace of GOD!!

  • @localhound9657
    @localhound9657 Рік тому +25

    This is probably the song I’ve ever cried to in my life. I’m no longer on speaking terms with my mother for 7 weeks now and I’m deeply hurt and this song just explains to me or how I felt about her. Shes my mom you know and il always love her but she chose her path and I chose mine. It’s time to move on and for my mental health she belongs in the past. they belong in the past!

    • @katrina5403
      @katrina5403 Рік тому +1

      I JUST FOUND THIS SONG MYSELF. I HAVE NEVER HAD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MOM. I HAD MY SON WHEN I WAS 23 SHE NEVER ACCEPTED US -- SHE SAID HE & I WERE OUR OWN FAMILY-- SHE TOLD ME WHEN I WAS 2 I COULD TAKE CARE OF MYSELF SINCE MY BROTHER WAS COLICKY THAT'S HOW SHE RAISED ME AT A DISTANCE. I TRIED FOR MANY YEARS AFTER MY SON TO ESTABLISH A RELATIONSHIP BUT HE ACTUALLY TOLD ME IF SHE ALWAYS UPSET ME WHY? SHE NEVER LOVED ME I MOVED 10 YEARS AGO TO ANOTHER STATE SHE & MY BROTHERS KNOW WHERE IVE BEEN NOBODY HAS CALLED OR CARED, SO IVE LEARNED IN MY 54 YEARS GOD IS MY (& YOURS) FATHER WHO UNCONDITIONALLY LOVES US ALL. HE KNOWS THE HEART OF EVERYONE SOMETIMES EVEN FAMILY DESERVES TO BE A PAST. I PRAY FOR YOU & YOUR SITUATION DONT LOSE FAITH. STAY STRONG FOR YOURSELF & LOVE YOURSELF TO HEAL

  • @atd8134
    @atd8134 Рік тому +11

    Matt Hansen is officially my favorite singer! So underrated!!!

  • @lynnevans3097
    @lynnevans3097 Рік тому +15

    His voice ❤ you can feel it all

  • @scorned_lover3082
    @scorned_lover3082 Рік тому +28

    10 years of marriage, 7 years of abuse, 5 years of fixing me when it was him who needed the help. 2 weeks it's been since I walk out 😢 I've been striped of everything

    • @CorruptHeart88
      @CorruptHeart88 11 місяців тому +2

      I feel your pain....was 19 years for me...💔

    • @destinymarian2198
      @destinymarian2198 10 місяців тому +2

      I’m proud of you, you beautiful soul

    • @meganfox9744
      @meganfox9744 9 місяців тому +1

      12 years for me 😢

    • @PinkPixie-km3jg
      @PinkPixie-km3jg 9 місяців тому +1

      I hope you're doing okay 6 months on. Well done

    • @Paragonghost
      @Paragonghost 7 місяців тому +2

      GOOD....

  • @sidneywomack4170
    @sidneywomack4170 Рік тому +10

    After 5 years, I finally left. I've had the preview to this song on repeat for weeks. I needed this ❤️

    • @brittanym.
      @brittanym. Рік тому +2

      I've been in a rough place for the last 5 years too. I feel like I'm so close, but still struggling to actually leave. Do you have any advice?

  • @Be_You.
    @Be_You. Рік тому +4

    Pain, soul, passion, love, broken-heart, and healing- all in one. What a gem to the soul.❤️‍🩹✨

  • @kelliefowler146
    @kelliefowler146 Рік тому +7

    Crazy how much a song can speak exactly how your feeling and what your going through. Best song I’ve heard in so long and it came out As soon as I needed it🖤 your music is amazing please keep them coming!

  • @yanethgarcia6136
    @yanethgarcia6136 Рік тому +15

    Been waiting for this song to out out for a fat minute. I'm glad its finally out! Song is so relatable and I love it! Your amazing Matt! 🤍

  • @jessicalefay
    @jessicalefay Рік тому +7

    Just ridiculous tears rn...... You have no idea how much this song can help people to face the trauma and heal it. Thank you again for being you and following your heart. It's beautiful

  • @TheHallofmemories
    @TheHallofmemories Рік тому +36

    Man, I feel like this song came out just when I needed it. But instead of putting another person behind me, I need to put the old me behind me. 💯/💯 love this song so much!!! Definitely having this on repeat for a long while!

  • @tiffylubee13
    @tiffylubee13 Рік тому +3

    One day out of a mentally, physically, and verbally abusive relationship and this song had me shaking and pouring tears but thank you Matt for making this song❤

  • @Gthing79
    @Gthing79 Рік тому +7

    This song found me at the perfect time...
    Though it doesn't feel like a perfect time.
    Thank you for this song, sir.

  • @Karma777-e8u
    @Karma777-e8u Рік тому +7

    Absolutely floored by this, every single word is like matt is singing about my life, beautiful lyrics beautiful voice, thank you matt ❤

  • @Miraculer4life
    @Miraculer4life Рік тому +10

    Song arrived just in the right moment of my life!! 🥺💗

  • @justrees4929
    @justrees4929 Рік тому +14

    I've been struggling over the last week after my mother, who I haven't spoken to in over a year, was hospitalized for the 3rd time since October. She's slowly dying, well, killing herself basically. She doesn't wanna speak to me and I feel the same. No one understands how I feel. No one understands how much it hurts every time I hear she's back in the hospital because yes, she is my mom, but also how it brings up every awful thing I've ever been through with her as my parent. Thank God for therapy I guess. This song is cathartic and all I can say is thank you for sharing it with the world.

    • @paigestephens7029
      @paigestephens7029 Рік тому +2

      This breaks my heart give yourself some grace and remember that you are not the parent here. You’ll be on my mind and heart ❤

  • @solareclipse2130
    @solareclipse2130 Рік тому +6

    I assume this song talks more about leaving a toxic romantic relationship, but this hits me as the people I see in this song is my mom and her side of the family. I have left my mother in the past. And once I move out, she’ll finally be where she belongs. My love for the rest of my mom’s family leaves me feeling like I’m being bled dry of it. I will always love them, they are helpful, but so much has happened that I’m drained of any compassion when I’m around them for too long. I’m glad that there’s a song that I can feel like I can put the people who need to be in the past can stay in the past

  • @lukedonnelly7031
    @lukedonnelly7031 Рік тому +3

    you are just a different breed matt hansen, all of your songs are so beautifully written

  • @SR3272
    @SR3272 Рік тому +19

    I've been waiting for this to come out....trying to break a trauma bond, but honestly.....it's been over a year and I still feel it everyday

  • @ashk8380
    @ashk8380 Рік тому +1

    Dear Matt Hansen
    Just a few weeks ago I foundout about your music by instagram i came around a sponsored song and it was yours and i remember it like it was yesterday the song was let them go the first time I heared it i went through all kinds of emotions happy to tears to mad to thankfull to happy again that song made me realize that sometimes its better to let go then holding on cuz sometimes holding on ends up hurting you more then letting go! That song helped me in so many ways!
    And then Just a few days ago i came across the short from this song and Just like the last time all the emotions i felt with this one straight up i felt the same!
    Honestly when i saw this vid online it was uploaded Just a few hours earlier ( time difference) i had to put it onto the speakers after the second or third time i had listen to the song i knew the lyrics
    Thanks for your music!
    Music has always been my way out cuz of my troubled childhood soo thank you so so much!
    Im really really glad I got that sponsored video of you and that I found you! You made a big difference in my life!
    Big hugs from me
    Ps. Your music reached the Netherlands ❤

  • @jd4262
    @jd4262 10 місяців тому

    It's crazy how humans can hurt each other so deeply... this song goes to the deepest part of my broken heart. If you're listening to this and you're still single... let it be a lesson to you to stay single! Much much less heartache to be single

  • @kaitlynamira3916
    @kaitlynamira3916 Місяць тому

    I found you right when your songs literally described my life and what I’m going through. It is so amazing how people can write songs and depending on how you interpret them they can really put a lot of things in perspective for you. Thank you for this song and the meanings behind it

  • @katarzynastomskapoetry
    @katarzynastomskapoetry Рік тому +4

    11 yrs ago I escaped covert narcissist who I was married to. This song is my anthem - a reminder what I have went through and not to takemy freedom for granted. He certainly belongs in my past.

  • @brianaespinal4243
    @brianaespinal4243 8 місяців тому +3

    Lyrics:
    Did someone you know ever turn on a dime
    From an angel right into a monster?
    You still wanna stay, wanna help, wanna heal
    Only so much that your love can offer
    Why did I try for as long as I did?
    Back on the ropes when I knew I should quit
    Where do I run? 'Cause I've got no more blood left to bleed
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    Where you belong
    You try to protect and you always defend
    And even when they got red-handed
    But all that you get for your purest intentions
    Is your heart wrapped up in a bandage?
    How many tears do my eyes have to make?
    How many years is it gonna take?
    Where do I run so that I make it out in one piece?
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    Where you belong
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    'Cause all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong

  • @haileebruce3591
    @haileebruce3591 Рік тому +2

    This song really helps me been listening to it non stop, reminds me of all my trauma from the past and it helps me be able to let things go

  • @Tintanya1
    @Tintanya1 Рік тому +1

    I've been counting down until I could hear this full song. So beautiful and honest. Playing on repeat.

  • @natashafessler-do5jm
    @natashafessler-do5jm Рік тому +3

    I have been listening to this on Spotify since it's dropped at midnight ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SONG

  • @flirk7778
    @flirk7778 Рік тому +6

    Did someone you know ever turn on a dime
    From an angel right into a monster?
    You still wanna stay, wanna help, wanna heal
    Only so much that your love can offer
    Why did I try for as long as I did?
    Back on the ropes when I knew I should quit
    Where do I run? 'Cause I've got no more blood left to bleed
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    Where you belong
    You try to protect and you always defend
    And even when they got red-handed
    But all that you get for your purest intentions
    Is your heart wrapped up in a bandage?
    How many tears do my eyes have to make?
    How many years is it gonna take?
    Where do I run so that I make it out in one piece?
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    I barely made it out fighting
    You drained all the life from my love
    Sometimes in moments of weakness
    I want you back in my arms
    But all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong
    Where you belong
    I gotta put you behind me
    With all the pain that you caused
    'Cause all of the bruises remind me
    The past is where you belong
    The past is where you belong

  • @graystormdrizzleclan6567
    @graystormdrizzleclan6567 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this song with the world

  • @tayuibea7144
    @tayuibea7144 Рік тому +3

    Finally😭😭😭😭. Been waiting for so long. So much love Matt. This is an incredibly beautiful song

  • @shelbyhull7587
    @shelbyhull7587 Рік тому +2

    I’ll loved all your music since your first covers 🥹 beautiful voice!! You’ve come so far🥹

  • @lynnmcdonald2444
    @lynnmcdonald2444 Рік тому +1

    THIS!!!!THIS!!!!!THIS!!!!
    SHOULD BE THE SONG FOR ALL SURVIVORS OF ABUSE. I'VE SENT IT TO ALL I KNOW!!
    I AM AN ADVOCATE AND WILL SHARE SHARE SHARE
    YOU ARE AN ANGEL
    MATT

  • @jasmineneely6136
    @jasmineneely6136 Рік тому +1

    I've been begging and dyeing for this song omg I love it your amazing keep up the good work I mean it your music touched my whole soul

  • @pringleeeee
    @pringleeeee Рік тому +5

    This is soooo good. I’m in love ❤️❤

  • @enrysc.5438
    @enrysc.5438 Рік тому +1

    I JUST LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH

  • @shelbyhull7587
    @shelbyhull7587 Рік тому +2

    So beautiful😢❤ Thanks for sharing your story

  • @michsapien
    @michsapien Рік тому +5

    I am going through a separation probably a divorce. We’ve damaged each other a lot. It’s hard to let go, and I want to because I know I have to love and respect myself. For now that’s my goal as well as getting close to God. Idk what will happen with my husband I truly don’t. But for now I just want to focus on me ❤

    • @mshabs2238
      @mshabs2238 Рік тому

      Best of luck! Don't give him a second thought. Move forward with your head up.

  • @arielleebhoff8198
    @arielleebhoff8198 Рік тому +1

    You have no idea how much this means to me at this time I really needed to hear your words. Thank you.❤

  • @terriepps9087
    @terriepps9087 Рік тому +1

    The is now on repeat!!!! I need this sing so bad.

  • @rosettadmytruk3472
    @rosettadmytruk3472 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for this beautiful song, I feel like I can heal with this song 💜

  • @rosewright6198
    @rosewright6198 11 місяців тому

    Such a powerful voice, already singing along. I love this so much.

  • @koridevereaux
    @koridevereaux Рік тому +1

    The timing of this is perfect. Thank you so much

  • @amieineese2718
    @amieineese2718 Рік тому +1

    Oh wow what a song. 🙂 I love it.

  • @lapheanasasmr2396
    @lapheanasasmr2396 Рік тому +1

    Finally thank you so much for releasing this. It's a beautiful, emotional and over all amazing song

  • @bfast999
    @bfast999 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for blessing us this song

  • @emkoa6975
    @emkoa6975 Рік тому

    Yesssss finally I love you what a way to wake up!!!!!!!

  • @Mountains4ever
    @Mountains4ever 11 місяців тому

    Just heard this song for the first time today and i really needed it. My girl left me a couple months ago and I’ve been a wreck and broken down every day since she left. She has BPD and really destroyed me. I feel trauma bonded from everything and I can’t stop missing her and loving her and I want her in my arms again. These lyrics hit home

  • @Shannon-wo5xz
    @Shannon-wo5xz Рік тому +1

    Never been so excited to listen to a song or have a song I relate so much to xx

  • @natashawatts8118
    @natashawatts8118 Рік тому +1

    So stoked this finally dropped!! My soul needed this!!

  • @Lys-Anne
    @Lys-Anne Рік тому +1

    I ammmm so happppyyy it is out, I just love it sooo much, the lyrics, the voice, the energy, it is a masterpiece!

  • @paireneasharobinson8238
    @paireneasharobinson8238 Рік тому +1

    I been waiting for this song to come out. This is one of my favorite songs because I understand what the meaning of the song

  • @ry3942
    @ry3942 Рік тому +1

    Matt's music is my form of therapy

  • @masterpimp2000
    @masterpimp2000 Рік тому +1

    Finally! Thanks Matt, its a piece of Art. Already on Repeat. 💯🤝

  • @yourgirlsofiedits
    @yourgirlsofiedits Рік тому +1

    The highlight of my day! Love this song! 🎉

  • @sofialale
    @sofialale Рік тому +1

    As always in love with his songs 😍💙

  • @alavifitopedia5728
    @alavifitopedia5728 Рік тому +2

    Keep making these amazing songs bro. I know you are underrated but one day you’ll be on top artists. I’m sure about that! Your voice is powerful and healing❤️

  • @livelife0412
    @livelife0412 Рік тому

    YES !!!! Am buzzin

  • @SeveredInfinity
    @SeveredInfinity 9 місяців тому

    I recently stumbled across you and your songs, this and let em go really strike chord with me, this one in particular. They remind me of my ex, I miss her… every day… and think “I want you back in my arms”… but I am starting to think … “the past is where you belong”.

  • @1Baby_Blues-Venus.
    @1Baby_Blues-Venus. Рік тому +1

    Waited so long for this and it’s so worth the wait 😭😭😭😩❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @2PMisTimeless
    @2PMisTimeless Рік тому +1

    FINALLY WAITED SO LONG!!!!

  • @ECarman79
    @ECarman79 Рік тому +2

    You Drained All The Life From My Love... brilliant lyrics.

  • @xcruthlesscx
    @xcruthlesscx Рік тому +2

    Beautiful. 😢
    I got so emotional listening to this.
    Thank YOU for this masterpiece..
    your voice is so majestic.
    Shed a little tear because your song reached a part of my past I wanted to forget.
    It’s bittersweet how things ended so quick…
    Still, I love this song ❤

  • @PROTOxKILLx142
    @PROTOxKILLx142 Рік тому +2

    Always releasing good music

  • @shellydurkin7660
    @shellydurkin7660 Рік тому +1

    I really needed this right now because I am just going through this ❤❤ LOVE IT

  • @ChristalW32
    @ChristalW32 Рік тому

    Yay! Congratulations.. now let's take it to the top.

  • @kya6256
    @kya6256 Рік тому +2

    fantastic song

  • @ismarayrodriguezdita
    @ismarayrodriguezdita 2 місяці тому

    I really love your songs ❤❤❤❤

  • @marileportasdelreal8881
    @marileportasdelreal8881 Рік тому

    In tears 😭❤️

  • @rebekahwestwood
    @rebekahwestwood Рік тому

    So amazing 😍

  • @rachelmaslow3972
    @rachelmaslow3972 Рік тому

    The song of the decade is FINALLY here!!!

  • @sirubenpo
    @sirubenpo Рік тому +1

    Your music sir save my lonely soul 😭✨

  • @littlecuddlefish
    @littlecuddlefish Рік тому

    I am sk glad it's finally out!! I'm gonna listen to this on repeat!

  • @Cukhoailag
    @Cukhoailag 7 днів тому

    Soo goood ❤

  • @sehamalkholani1840
    @sehamalkholani1840 Рік тому

    Just on time! ♥️

  • @deavenbryant98
    @deavenbryant98 Рік тому +1

    This song hurts me to the core. It’s so true to trauma I endured. I wished I had this when I was being abused by those who were supposed to love and protect me as a child. Truly a gift🫶🏻

  • @viktoriahocmanova9879
    @viktoriahocmanova9879 Рік тому +1

    Masterpiece ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

  • @destinylynne9850
    @destinylynne9850 Рік тому +2

    My favorite song is on repeat

  • @kaybee8117
    @kaybee8117 Рік тому

    i NEEEDED this song right now

  • @nyeinnyeinaye2718
    @nyeinnyeinaye2718 Рік тому

    Finally I got this song thank you.
    💛💛

  • @frihet43
    @frihet43 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Matt This song is perfect I needed so much ❤️

  • @justinawall-sm7xt
    @justinawall-sm7xt Рік тому +1

    I've been waiting for so long, awsome song love it

  • @kellybrewer5569
    @kellybrewer5569 Рік тому

    This is everything!

  • @sophiejames4776
    @sophiejames4776 10 місяців тому

    I LOVE YOUR MUSIC. YOU ARE MY FAVORITE ARTIST PERIOD.

  • @MegaHerosmash
    @MegaHerosmash 10 місяців тому

    This song hits way to personally. I love it. I needed this. Just separated from my fiance of 5 years who I did and still unfortunately do love but can no longer accept the disrespect and lack of care especially with a kid in the picture. It hurts and just like the song says, every once in a while I fall back to wanting her back. But I know the pain and cycle will just continue.

  • @melissabee5708
    @melissabee5708 11 місяців тому

    This one kicks ya right in the feels….

  • @samcabrera7382
    @samcabrera7382 Рік тому

    The fact that my AirPods died in the middle of the song…but I’ve need this song for so long and it has opened my eyes

  • @marthawach9034
    @marthawach9034 Рік тому

    Thank You ❤for this matt

  • @lynnlakeview7534
    @lynnlakeview7534 Рік тому

    Yes!!!! 🙌🏻 the short didn’t do it justice!

  • @italiangoddess86-transform79

    Wow this is everything

  • @SadGirlWalking
    @SadGirlWalking Рік тому

    this gives me the chills

  • @Nikki6is
    @Nikki6is Рік тому

    ❤ love this

  • @allwynsjourney2225
    @allwynsjourney2225 Рік тому

    Been waiting for this, ty for releasing it

  • @BreezeofBliss
    @BreezeofBliss Рік тому

    OMG this is so good.

  • @madsraine6705
    @madsraine6705 Рік тому +3

    I'm struggling listening to this song. I'm having a hard time forgiving someone that was family for assaulting me in front of my child. I know I should forgive for me but the damage they caused... Idk if I could. There's something of this song that hits so close to home, but it's a vocalization I needed.

    • @brittanym.
      @brittanym. Рік тому +1

      I'm sorry to hear that you went through that. It's really hard to forgive when a boundary that big is violated by someone who was family. I grew up being told I needed to forgive, and I knew I should forgive too, but if I could go back and give my younger self some advice about forgiveness it would be this. Don't be afraid to create some distance, from the person, from the location, from others even if they are well meaning and just trying to help. Sometimes forgiveness comes in the background while we focus on moving forward rather than what we are trying to forgive. It took me a really long time to forgive my dad for my parents divorce, I didn't want to, and for many years didn't think I could, but I can honestly say that I have now. It doesn't erase the wrong, or even the hurt sometimes, but I have made my peace with it. Forgiveness can't be rushed, it's a process, the more we "should" ourselves I think the harder it gets. It's certainly not easy, I can relate to this song now because I'm having to separate myself from my mom and sister so that I can heal and forgive them too. It's so hard, and there are days I just want to forget they exist, but it's a process. Just give yourself a lot of grace, and keep moving forward, you'll get there.

    • @madsraine6705
      @madsraine6705 Рік тому +1

      @@brittanym. This was incredibly recent for me too. Approx. 3-4 years. I've since disconnected and cut off the person who did this. I know I should forgive, but right now I'm not quite sure that's a possible task I can do. Maybe one day, just not today. I'm even in therapy for all that I endured that day and days well years prior that I endured too. Maybe one day.

    • @brittanym.
      @brittanym. Рік тому

      @@madsraine6705 Wow, I am so proud of you for setting those boundaries and seeking counseling! That takes incredible courage, and bravery! 🙂
      Forgiveness comes with healing, and healing takes time, and time seems to take patience. Sometimes I feel like I lose patience with the process, I feel like I should be more healed, or should have learned how to set better boundaries, or I should have conquered my fears and separated from my family and the pain I feel around them, or that I should be more forgiving toward them. But at the end of the day we are only so strong, and in training to become stronger. We can only take it one step at a time.
      You are on the right track, and I fully believe over time the healing, and forgiveness will come. You're doing an amazing job! Plus in this process you're teaching your child resiliency, how to handle the process after a bad situation, and how to be mentally healthy. That is a wonderful example for your child! 🙂