Friends, don't take the bait. They want us to react. Yes, let them tell on themselves. They can't help themselves because it's about them. I don't even read their BS. They will undo themselves. Be patient! Great advice Wendy. You got it!
Hello from Canada. Amen Sister..... as Dionne Warwick sang, "Walk On By". Be patient and kind to yourself in Healing. Create boundaries and cultivate joy. Blessed Be. Peace to the World.
Yep..I see clearly and am getting my nervous system back. I won’t defend myself. I have the higher ground. I don’t work with these people anymore and unfortunately some are blood family. I engage with truth and beauty and have my chosen family. ❤❤ I’m in a safe place now.
switching the narrative is EXACTLY what happened today! Your description feels like you were observing everything. The master of lie, deny, gaslight repeat cycle. Incredibly insightful. thank you.
Thank you so much, Wendy. It took me quite some time to figure out that this is what he's been doing to me all 48 yrs of our marriage. Now that I've seen that he's the one that has been causing me so many problems with others in my life, I'm leaving soon!!!
I let it go too long and things got dangerous June 7 2024 LOST EVERYTHING EVEN NOT ABLE TO SEE MY CHILDREN AND GRANDBLESSINGS A WHOLE YEAR NOW WITH ME GHOSTED ON THE RUN HOMELESS FAMILYLESS NOT A PENNY IN MY POCKET AND NOW ON FRI 1/18/25 HE CANCELLED MY ONLY SOURCE OF INCOME A CREDIT CARD WE COSHARED SINCE 1992 SAYING HES THE PRIMARY ON ACCOUNT! BEWARE BE WARNED BE PROACTIVE BC EVEN THOUGH YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEN THEY SNAP AND FLIP THE NARRATIVE AND BECOME A STRANGER WITH OUR BESTIES COUPLE HIM DOING IT TP HER FIRST ABOUT 3 years BEFORE US.. I STUPIDLY THOUGHT MINE DIFFERENT BUT NOT! NOW WHATS HIS IS HIS AND WHATS MINE IS HIS HE SERVED ME DIVORCE PAPERS AT MY HOTEL 12.18/24 46 YRS TOGETHER 3 SONS NOW 7 GRANDBLESSINGS NO PREP RUN!!!!!! NOT WORTH IT HEED MY FORWARDING!! I THINK BC THEYRE SENIORS AND FACING MORTALITY FEARS TAKE OUT ON US AND FIRST WIVES CLUB!! RUN TODAY BEFORE RUNNING FOR LIFE LIKE ME!! :(. Xo
I'm at 10.06 and I've not heard a UA-cam posting yet that was so word , and I mean word, perfect in its narrative. Also thanks for the term DARVO. It's a total education. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌿👑. Bless you.
Yes, indeed, Wendy. It’s a tremendous learning experience. That’s the best part of it. Take the lesson. Tough pill to swallow but it’s worth the trouble.
You have touched on a friend of mine who flipped out on me and called me horrible names. I had to tell her to leave my home. We were friends for years. It really scared me! It's crazy how you can read this energy. I walked away and was calm and non emotionally disconnected from them.
Ok. Switch energy and become attuned to where she was mentally when she flipped out. Become attuned with her experience. Although I am not saying what she did is right, look at her life wounds and then rebook at your perspective in the situation. It is very difficult because we want to stay in our own lane with what we think and feel. She may have had old tapes playing or there may have been some justification in her action. Or, she was hiding something from you such as slight or misunderstanding between the 2 of you over the years. So, she became triggered and then flipped out when she could no longer control her thoughts and feelings. Or....you could have done something 🙄 that you know nothing about. Or...??? I guess, take it apart, analyze each piece of it from a mile high in the sky. Then when you realize the entire dynamic in a meaningful way, go to her in a non reactive state. Listen first to what she has to say. Bring that into the understanding you previously gained and then respond accordingly. Hahaha. I'm laughing at myself because this is exactly what I need to do with one of my sisters that got angry with me 2 weeks ago and hasn't spoken to me since. Now I know why she is angry because I became attuned to her perception and now realize how she felt. But, I had to take a big step back to acknowledge it. Bless you. I hope you and your friend heal this.
He wanted me to act out! I knew it! So I didn’t. At one point I did show some annoyance but I caught myself. I can see where it did affect my finances, due to my energy being spent negatively… the mind games. However God is so good I got double for my troubles and was blessed in a way I would have never thought. I feel so blessed ❤and loved by the Universe
Yes, my mother! Non stop sabotage and sister blaming everyone else, weaving their own webs and getting stuck in their own lies, blaming everyone else. I didn't act unhinged, made them madder. I just left.
Reverse darvo, because I reject whatever their trying to say. I don't care what they have to say and I'm not going to listen or accept anything that they have to say because they are just trying to cover their own arse. However, in court their own words can be used against them. 😊
You are exactly describing the last year of my marriage. It’s almost been a year, and I will be moving into a divorce. I had no idea after 18 years together that this was happening to me, until I started reading about gaslighting, DARVO last year when I decided to end the marriage. At that time I thought it was just a separation and to take some space from what was happening, my body was on fire, I was mentally collapsing, and definitely in flight and later, freeze state..I started to become afraid for my life. Within two months he moved to a different country. Over the last few months, in connect with my own intuition, the fog has cleared, and many truths have emerged about my marriage with clarity of vision. I feel on stabler and centred ground now.
This is about my Mother. 💯💯💯💯 She took my money... threw all these photos, books and my childhood stuff at me but never gave me my financial information. Soo conveniently left that book out lol. She stole money from me many times and pretended to pay it back. She felt entitled to anything that is mine and yes wanted me to look crazy through reactive abuse.
I understood every word spoken wendy!! You have explained my situation to a T... thank you for your wise words of wisdom. Im glad there's someone on this planet who understands my situation. Thank you for getting me through the past 4 months... ❤
Thank you, Wendy. You bet I am grounded, clear headed and also focused. Most importantly, I've been well disciplined and committed to my early morning routine, even on freezing cold mornings when it's dark outside. I don't like gyms, so I had to be creative using the outdoors, including park benches, stairs, various paths, trees...The birds come out to greet me and we have a conversation, I whistle, and they reply in kind. I've seen blue birds, scarlets, turtle doves? swallows, geese, swans and I recently introduced myself to one of the younger owls. he/she looks like a teenager by the size of it. I do a 1 hour fast paced walk along a pretty treelined parkway which follows alongside a lake circling the 5-mile park, but I only do 2 miles, then when I reach my quiet spot, I give thanks to the sun as it rises, Spirit, which I ask to help me manage my sometimes-angry thoughts. I also do Pilates, flex training, yoga and high kicks. I add 3 sets of 50 jumping jacks, high knee lifts then floor exercises. Lots of squats. I found many of these on UA-cam. I have developed a well-balanced temperament along with a peaceful mindset. I usually think about storylines, plots characters as I converse with Spirit, my ancestors, Arch Angel Michael, and guardian angels. I also recite a Psalm 23, the Our Father, and Hail Mary. They're great for timing planks and squats. This all adds up to a higher spiritual energy. I end with breathing, meditation, affirmations, manifestations, my gratitude list, and visions of me winning a literary award. That's just for my own entertainment. I'm not a brilliant writer just a wannabe. However, I have a special story I must write down. The Targeted Hate and Slander Campaign that has been ongoing for...who knows how long. I recently learned I have quite a few haters enemies, liars, and overall vile and vulgar types who are miserable with themselves, their lives, jobs, credit card debt, loans, underwater mortgages, care loans, school loans. I suppose If I had such financial albatrosses to carry around all day, and I saw an average person exercising alone early in the morning looking carefree and actually singing some Carpenter songs, I WOULD RELEASE MY TEMPETUOUS EGO AND LET IT TAKE OVER MY MIND. There may be fake photos and stories that are unflattering to put it mildly, and vulgar with a caption at the bottom. I am at a loss for who I angered so much that they resorted to assassinating my character to decimate my professional reputation. Thanam moving toward ascension and alignment. I wasn't aligned with the universe for many years due to a few Tower moments here and there. Now I'm in a better place, and I constantly maintain a particular mindset and that I've met my wonderful life changing Spiritual Energy Readers. am a peaceful, non-confrontational, person with kindness and compassion to spare. The Golden Rule. Kindergarten philosophy.
This sounds very familiar. It sounds just like the Justin Baldoni law suit for $400 million against Blake lively and what’s-his-name, filed this week. Reading the complaint sounds just like this story. Brilliant. Bravo to anyone who can pull the rug out from under a lying Narcissist. I love it. Keep up the good work. 💐🐍
My gut has told me from the beginning that there ARE things hidden and deceptive. This particular darvo tactic has occurred a few times. I just thought he had insecurity or jealousy issues. Or, someone with anger issues. I feel that this main person I'm dealing with has been using false information about me to undermine me to others; to blame me for mistakes made by this person and the group involved. And, rather than take responsibility blame me. What you described is completely the situation. However I didn't consider the possibility that it was to get me to walk away or to be able to say we CAN'T deal with her she's too difficult, unappreciative, lying, cheating, whatever I don't know. We can't help her because she refuses to cooperate. Thank you for telling me WHAT I needed to know. For some reason my intuition said don't go alone to this meeting. Luckily this time I brought in a stranger to be there (they weren't aware I had someone coming into this meeting) and this person SAW this behavior taking place. Afterwards, I did Not ask the person to speak to me of anything they saw or heard or what they thought about it. They are simply a reliable resource I can pull if I need one. There will be no more meetings without a witness or a recorder. THANKS Wendy you gave me the information I needed.
This Darvo tactic sounds exactly like a Narcissist. I've been listening to Dr Ramani to learn more about Narcissistic traits. Thank you for the reading.
Omg this title stopped me in my tracks! I just did a deep dive into what DARVO is because I couldn’t understand why I was getting so confused in this narrative. Crazy making but I Figured it out! I see it clearly now and I need to reevaluate my situation
very helpful. I guess it's also showing their POV & how they see things and relationship and where they are at in terms of being willing to consider someone else's position - same as for both people - and whether after that there can be resolution or compromise reached or just have to walk away, take the lesson and leave the rest behind
Do you believe a 'DARVO' spirit has been unleashed on the world? I have read the comments here and have recently observed and realized that this 'spirit' of evil/negativity has been used by a group of coworkers on me. I have realized God is protecting me and guiding me to higher ground. The situation completely blindsided me, which in it's self, is a huge surprise. I usually am aware of the games being ran around me and avoid walking into the traps others can create to change the situations which effect me. Not this time. And, that is because it was time to shift my own narrative. Take on different ways and 'new clothes' to make my life more in my control vs the control of others who only are using my talents for their own gain and not mine. I need you to know Wendy, since I found your reading channel in November, every reading I have listened to has been SPOT ON! THANK YOU!
A beautiful reading Wendy, thank you very much ❤ Sounds like my story as alot of your readings do A twin flame situation, 1000 miles apart,meeting purely serendipity, A anxious attachment vs a avoidance attachment, divine intervention with a dream during a Summer solstice and archangel michael,move in silence escape And evade The story corelation of the native Lesson of the 2 dogs or 2 wolves we have inside me in the east a white wolf her in the west a dark wolf, me in the east as illumination her in the west as introspection Also the ego and the shadow And how we recognize we can feed the ego or feed the shadow Recognize we have both and using the shadow to our benefit to keep our ego in check ✔️ Feeding the good dog 🐕 a little more than the bad but recognizing that bad dog is there and keeping it tamed Our shadow ,offers things we don't like ,but also offers answers to Correct our behavior in a POSITIVE way and not a negative way Me the Rez dog ,the Native dreamer ❤🙏🙌
I need to remain silent all of 2025. Thank you. My mother uses DARVO all the time, thank you for the explanation! I said I want to protect my peace, in a text, and to stop over monitoring me, and stop making jokes about my situation. She said I was in a mood because I was on my cycle. And she went off. When she texted me back I was reading the preview of the text, and my phone died. I decided it was a sign. I got angry and wanted to reply aka (keep it going as you said) but instead I left my phone on "dead" . She's right don't respond right away, silence is key. I will go further to say don't tell people that you are making boundaries, protecting your peace or anything like that, JUST DO IT! Saying that just makes them angrier.
This is the outcome of fourth time through the cycle. I’m waiting for her return. My tools of resiliency and new info/skills for navigating with avoidant fearful person looking for a different outcome. I’ve consulted here for 4months. Good guidance, many thanks. R
This sounds exactly like my situation I’ve been in fight or flight forvthreee months partly due to my roomate attacking me while I was in a bad state already and did more after and keeps being mean and distant
Truth is always SILENT, while ALLOWING,liars to DO, what they do. KARMA is retiring off the party with the MOVING UPPER set of LIPS. Can you pick which one? ❤
I think the situation is all too lenient with abusers. And too demanding of the abused - despite the strength, patience and restraint demonstrated. Where is the Justice in that? And it’s not just about money. It’s about my children. How is that fair? What lessons or defense? Abuse is wrong and the abused should never ever to be cross examined. What world is this?
Wendy. I wish I could bring you to Court with me. Just bring you in and say OK start talking. And you would know exactly what to say. Hopefully I know exactly what to say. I’m pretty sure I’ll be OK. But geez, it would be pretty easy to just bring you in and let you talk. Ha ha ha. You’re awesome. Thank you for your support.
😮anyone who knows him knows he is a lying 🤥 fool! This is my ex he stole his own kids college funds ! Need I say more…….. leading a double life! My life speaks for itself! Anyone he believes him I need not have contact! He turned one of my kids against me, time tells all ……… he bamboozled me for many years, so I can’t even hold that against my son turned against me
Accusations are Confession Projections and Reflections ❤ I dont need to tell my side of anything anymore ❤ They cant help it but tell on themselves Im Irrelevant in all of it❤ Let the spotlight be theirs Ill hold the light❤ 🕊️🕯️🎚️ Jesus is my light ❤
Reverse darvo, because I reject whatever their trying to say. I don't care what they have to say and I'm not going to listen or accept anything that they have to say because they are just trying to cover their own arse. However, in court their own words can be used against them. 😊
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Friends, don't take the bait. They want us to react. Yes, let them tell on themselves. They can't help themselves because it's about them. I don't even read their BS. They will undo themselves. Be patient! Great advice Wendy. You got it!
And the advise in response is so spot on. Wise caution, first heal and stabilise. Perfect. 💯📌✅🎊
Hello from Canada. Amen Sister..... as Dionne Warwick sang, "Walk On By". Be patient and kind to yourself in Healing. Create boundaries and cultivate joy. Blessed Be. Peace to the World.
My story~I soul resonste. I didn't know it was called DARVO. Thank you for your insight🫴🌀🪽💛🪄✨
Yep..I see clearly and am getting my nervous system back. I won’t defend myself. I have the higher ground. I don’t work with these people anymore and unfortunately some are blood family. I engage with truth and beauty and have my chosen family. ❤❤ I’m in a safe place now.
Thank you. Surrender is truly sweet; in the mind of God all is known: divine justice is an imutable law. 🦋
Amen. Observing her craziness. I said nothing just calmly made my boundaries.
switching the narrative is EXACTLY what happened today! Your description feels like you were observing everything. The master of lie, deny, gaslight repeat cycle. Incredibly insightful. thank you.
Thank you so much, Wendy. It took me quite some time to figure out that this is what he's been doing to me all 48 yrs of our marriage. Now that I've seen that he's the one that has been causing me so many problems with others in my life, I'm leaving soon!!!
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I let it go too long and things got dangerous June 7 2024 LOST EVERYTHING EVEN NOT ABLE TO SEE MY CHILDREN AND GRANDBLESSINGS A WHOLE YEAR NOW WITH ME GHOSTED ON THE RUN HOMELESS FAMILYLESS NOT A PENNY IN MY POCKET AND NOW ON FRI 1/18/25 HE CANCELLED MY ONLY SOURCE OF INCOME A CREDIT CARD WE COSHARED SINCE 1992 SAYING HES THE PRIMARY ON ACCOUNT! BEWARE BE WARNED BE PROACTIVE BC EVEN THOUGH YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEN THEY SNAP AND FLIP THE NARRATIVE AND BECOME A STRANGER WITH OUR BESTIES COUPLE HIM DOING IT TP HER FIRST ABOUT 3 years BEFORE US.. I STUPIDLY THOUGHT MINE DIFFERENT BUT NOT! NOW WHATS HIS IS HIS AND WHATS MINE IS HIS HE SERVED ME DIVORCE PAPERS AT MY HOTEL 12.18/24 46 YRS TOGETHER 3 SONS NOW 7 GRANDBLESSINGS NO PREP RUN!!!!!! NOT WORTH IT HEED MY FORWARDING!!
I THINK BC THEYRE SENIORS AND FACING MORTALITY FEARS TAKE OUT ON US AND FIRST WIVES CLUB!! RUN TODAY BEFORE RUNNING FOR LIFE LIKE ME!! :(. Xo
JUST LOOK AT SISTER WIVES ALL 3. GONE FOR LAST ONE BOTH ROBYN & KODY NARCS!
Yes. This happened to me. I cant believe im listening to my story. Thank you. One year exactly away from all. Rebuilding from the bottom up.
I'm at 10.06 and I've not heard a UA-cam posting yet that was so word , and I mean word, perfect in its narrative. Also thanks for the term DARVO. It's a total education. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌿👑. Bless you.
Yes, indeed, Wendy. It’s a tremendous learning experience. That’s the best part of it. Take the lesson. Tough pill to swallow but it’s worth the trouble.
Perfectly said thank you very helpful!
You have touched on a friend of mine who flipped out on me and called me horrible names. I had to tell her to leave my home. We were friends for years. It really scared me! It's crazy how you can read this energy. I walked away and was calm and non emotionally disconnected from them.
Wow, that's good, showed her true colors
Ok. Switch energy and become attuned to where she was mentally when she flipped out. Become attuned with her experience. Although I am not saying what she did is right, look at her life wounds and then rebook at your perspective in the situation. It is very difficult because we want to stay in our own lane with what we think and feel.
She may have had old tapes playing or there may have been some justification in her action.
Or, she was hiding something from you such as slight or misunderstanding between the 2 of you over the years. So, she became triggered and then flipped out when she could no longer control her thoughts and feelings.
Or....you could have done something 🙄 that you know nothing about.
Or...???
I guess, take it apart, analyze each piece of it from a mile high in the sky. Then when you realize the entire dynamic in a meaningful way, go to her in a non reactive state. Listen first to what she has to say. Bring that into the understanding you previously gained and then respond accordingly.
Hahaha. I'm laughing at myself because this is exactly what I need to do with one of my sisters that got angry with me 2 weeks ago and hasn't spoken to me since.
Now I know why she is angry because I became attuned to her perception and now realize how she felt. But, I had to take a big step back to acknowledge it.
Bless you. I hope you and your friend heal this.
Oh my. This was incredibly helpful. It describes a theme currently playing out in my life with my daughter and her father, my ex. 👌
He wanted me to act out! I knew it! So I didn’t. At one point I did show some annoyance but I caught myself. I can see where it did affect my finances, due to my energy being spent negatively… the mind games. However God is so good I got double for my troubles and was blessed in a way I would have never thought. I feel so blessed ❤and loved by the Universe
Yes, my mother! Non stop sabotage and sister blaming everyone else, weaving their own webs and getting stuck in their own lies, blaming everyone else. I didn't act unhinged, made them madder. I just left.
Reverse darvo, because I reject whatever their trying to say. I don't care what they have to say and I'm not going to listen or accept anything that they have to say because they are just trying to cover their own arse. However, in court their own words can be used against them. 😊
Beautiful, so true
You are exactly describing the last year of my marriage. It’s almost been a year, and I will be moving into a divorce. I had no idea after 18 years together that this was happening to me, until I started reading about gaslighting, DARVO last year when I decided to end the marriage. At that time I thought it was just a separation and to take some space from what was happening, my body was on fire, I was mentally collapsing, and definitely in flight and later, freeze state..I started to become afraid for my life.
Within two months he moved to a different country. Over the last few months, in connect with my own intuition, the fog has cleared, and many truths have emerged about my marriage with clarity of vision. I feel on stabler and centred ground now.
This is about my Mother. 💯💯💯💯
She took my money... threw all these photos, books and my childhood stuff at me but never gave me my financial information. Soo conveniently left that book out lol. She stole money from me many times and pretended to pay it back. She felt entitled to anything that is mine and yes wanted me to look crazy through reactive abuse.
I understood every word spoken wendy!! You have explained my situation to a T... thank you for your wise words of wisdom. Im glad there's someone on this planet who understands my situation. Thank you for getting me through the past 4 months... ❤
Oh my, what absolute Divine Grace & Timimg.
This is truly amazing and my story to a T.
So grateful to have found you Wendy Wing 🪽☯️🎆🤍☮️
Thank you ⚖️
❣💯❣💫💫💫 Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender DARVO ... the R always gets me stuck. HUGE HUGZ!!
Spot on 100 percent!
Lips are Movin--thats a song 🎵 😂❤
Perfect advice: Did this some months ago, shut down the 180 switch of vengeance, or be drawn.
Regained my essence and peacefull harmony.🙏💖
🤍🤍🤍AbSOULutely Wendy! Yet again your wise insights pierce through the veil! TY so very much for the confirmations!!! Onward... 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you, Wendy. You bet I am grounded, clear headed and also focused. Most importantly, I've been well disciplined and committed to my early morning routine, even on freezing cold mornings when it's dark outside. I don't like gyms, so I had to be creative using the outdoors, including park benches, stairs, various paths, trees...The birds come out to greet me and we have a conversation, I whistle, and they reply in kind. I've seen blue birds, scarlets, turtle doves? swallows, geese, swans and I recently introduced myself to one of the younger owls. he/she looks like a teenager by the size of it. I do a 1 hour fast paced walk along a pretty treelined parkway which follows alongside a lake circling the 5-mile park, but I only do 2 miles, then when I reach my quiet spot, I give thanks to the sun as it rises, Spirit, which I ask to help me manage my sometimes-angry thoughts. I also do Pilates, flex training, yoga and high kicks. I add 3 sets of 50 jumping jacks, high knee lifts then floor exercises. Lots of squats. I found many of these on UA-cam.
I have developed a well-balanced temperament along with a peaceful mindset. I usually think about storylines, plots characters as I converse with Spirit, my ancestors, Arch Angel Michael, and guardian angels. I also recite a Psalm 23, the Our Father, and Hail Mary. They're great for timing planks and squats. This all adds up to a higher spiritual energy. I end with breathing, meditation, affirmations, manifestations, my gratitude list, and visions of me winning a literary award. That's just for my own entertainment. I'm not a brilliant writer just a wannabe. However, I have a special story I must write down. The Targeted Hate and Slander Campaign that has been ongoing for...who knows how long. I recently learned I have quite a few haters enemies, liars, and overall vile and vulgar types who are miserable with themselves, their lives, jobs, credit card debt, loans, underwater mortgages, care loans, school loans. I suppose If I had such financial albatrosses to carry around all day, and I saw an average person exercising alone early in the morning looking carefree and actually singing some Carpenter songs, I WOULD RELEASE MY TEMPETUOUS EGO AND LET IT TAKE OVER MY MIND.
There may be fake photos and stories that are unflattering to put it mildly, and vulgar with a caption at the bottom. I am at a loss for who I angered so much that they resorted to assassinating my character to decimate my professional reputation. Thanam moving toward ascension and alignment. I wasn't aligned with the universe for many years due to a few Tower moments here and there. Now I'm in a better place, and I constantly maintain a particular mindset and that I've met my wonderful life changing Spiritual Energy Readers. am a peaceful, non-confrontational, person with kindness and compassion to spare. The Golden Rule. Kindergarten philosophy.
Happier since I have heard your tarot readings. Thx
This sounds very familiar. It sounds just like the Justin Baldoni law suit for $400 million against Blake lively and what’s-his-name, filed this week. Reading the complaint sounds just like this story. Brilliant. Bravo to anyone who can pull the rug out from under a lying Narcissist. I love it. Keep up the good work. 💐🐍
Yes, weird. Just do everything backward. Act like it's good the way it is
My gut has told me from the beginning that there ARE things hidden and deceptive. This particular darvo tactic has occurred a few times. I just thought he had insecurity or jealousy issues. Or, someone with anger issues. I feel that this main person I'm dealing with has been using false information about me to undermine me to others; to blame me for mistakes made by this person and the group involved. And, rather than take responsibility blame me. What you described is completely the situation. However I didn't consider the possibility that it was to get me to walk away or to be able to say we CAN'T deal with her she's too difficult, unappreciative, lying, cheating, whatever I don't know. We can't help her because she refuses to cooperate. Thank you for telling me WHAT I needed to know. For some reason my intuition said don't go alone to this meeting. Luckily this time I brought in a stranger to be there (they weren't aware I had someone coming into this meeting) and this person SAW this behavior taking place. Afterwards, I did Not ask the person to speak to me of anything they saw or heard or what they thought about it. They are simply a reliable resource I can pull if I need one. There will be no more meetings without a witness or a recorder. THANKS Wendy you gave me the information I needed.
This Darvo tactic sounds exactly like a Narcissist. I've been listening to Dr Ramani to learn more about Narcissistic traits. Thank you for the reading.
Thank you Wendy.
Omg this title stopped me in my tracks! I just did a deep dive into what DARVO is because I couldn’t understand why I was getting so confused in this narrative. Crazy making but I Figured it out! I see it clearly now and I need to reevaluate my situation
very helpful. I guess it's also showing their POV & how they see things and relationship and where they are at in terms of being willing to consider someone else's position - same as for both people - and whether after that there can be resolution or compromise reached or just have to walk away, take the lesson and leave the rest behind
🌹 You are a gift - and much appreciated 🙏
Do you believe a 'DARVO' spirit has been unleashed on the world? I have read the comments here and have recently observed and realized that this 'spirit' of evil/negativity has been used by a group of coworkers on me. I have realized God is protecting me and guiding me to higher ground. The situation completely blindsided me, which in it's self, is a huge surprise. I usually am aware of the games being ran around me and avoid walking into the traps others can create to change the situations which effect me. Not this time. And, that is because it was time to shift my own narrative. Take on different ways and 'new clothes' to make my life more in my control vs the control of others who only are using my talents for their own gain and not mine. I need you to know Wendy, since I found your reading channel in November, every reading I have listened to has been SPOT ON! THANK YOU!
This just happened to me today with my son…. Quite disturbing and very disrespectful at the time.
A beautiful reading Wendy, thank you very much ❤
Sounds like my story as alot of your readings do
A twin flame situation, 1000 miles apart,meeting purely serendipity,
A anxious attachment vs a avoidance attachment, divine intervention with a dream during a
Summer solstice and archangel michael,move in silence escape
And evade
The story corelation of the native
Lesson of the 2 dogs or 2 wolves we have inside me in the east a white wolf her in the west a dark wolf, me in the east as illumination her in the west as introspection
Also the ego and the shadow
And how we recognize we can feed the ego or feed the shadow
Recognize we have both and using the shadow to our benefit to keep our ego in check ✔️
Feeding the good dog 🐕 a little more than the bad but recognizing that bad dog is there and keeping it tamed
Our shadow ,offers things we don't like ,but also offers answers to
Correct our behavior in a POSITIVE way and not a negative way
Me the Rez dog ,the Native dreamer ❤🙏🙌
Holy cow. If there are others who are feeling this.... what a collective, eh? 🤷🏼♀️ 😔
I need to remain silent all of 2025. Thank you. My mother uses DARVO all the time, thank you for the explanation! I said I want to protect my peace, in a text, and to stop over monitoring me, and stop making jokes about my situation. She said I was in a mood because I was on my cycle. And she went off. When she texted me back I was reading the preview of the text, and my phone died. I decided it was a sign. I got angry and wanted to reply aka (keep it going as you said) but instead I left my phone on "dead" . She's right don't respond right away, silence is key. I will go further to say don't tell people that you are making boundaries, protecting your peace or anything like that, JUST DO IT! Saying that just makes them angrier.
You’re the best thank you ❤
U are very gifted
Brilliant 👍🏼
Confusion 😮😮True
Thank you❤❤❤ always ❤
Its going good and you are doing great
Omg!!! Thank you. Love your messages ❤❤❤
💯🎯 Creating receipts as they go to make the false narrative fit 🤦♀️
Wendy this is so very helpful, thank you so much
....THANKS WENDY!!! (I MUST'VE MISSED THE DEFINITION OF "DARVO" TACTICS"...???)...
Thank you , yes ❤
Thank you ❤
Thank you, Wendy 💚✨️💚
MUCHAS GRACIAS POR LA INFO LINDA! ME SIRVE MONTÓN 😌😌😌✨🌟✨
All i know is .. i hung up without hesitation .. their disrespect is not worth my energy .. no words left.
Access denied.
Wow this is exactly what happened no more tho
What they did was so extreme totally extortion.
Thank you so much ❤
thankyou 🙏 ♥️ 🕊 🌹
This is the outcome of fourth time through the cycle. I’m waiting for her return. My tools of resiliency and new info/skills for navigating with avoidant fearful person looking for a different outcome. I’ve consulted here for 4months. Good guidance, many thanks. R
This sounds exactly like my situation I’ve been in fight or flight forvthreee months partly due to my roomate attacking me while I was in a bad state already and did more after and keeps being mean and distant
Terrifying.
Truth is always SILENT, while ALLOWING,liars to DO, what they do. KARMA is retiring off the party with the MOVING UPPER set of LIPS. Can you pick which one? ❤
I never knew it had a name. Things went from great to Darvo in a hurry. Is it defense or offensive
Dr. Ramani, Dr Les Carter (Surviving Narcissism) and many others can give you answers and support.
I think the situation is all too lenient with abusers. And too demanding of the abused - despite the strength, patience and restraint demonstrated. Where is the Justice in that? And it’s not just about money. It’s about my children. How is that fair? What lessons or defense? Abuse is wrong and the abused should never ever to be cross examined. What world is this?
Btw Am no contact!!!!!! Thank goodness
God is in control😂❤
Im not going back it's a strong Good bye. I'm not even addressing drama. 8 done owe anyone a thing.
Respond don't react.
Darvos....like where the 'wef' or 'who' meets. Switxh information
Unhinged....😂😂😂, yes. To busy jumping for joy. ❤❤❤ Thank you for your message
Yes, but the Village is called Davos. Without r
Wendy. I wish I could bring you to Court with me. Just bring you in and say OK start talking. And you would know exactly what to say. Hopefully I know exactly what to say. I’m pretty sure I’ll be OK. But geez, it would be pretty easy to just bring you in and let you talk. Ha ha ha. You’re awesome. Thank you for your support.
u talking about me w my daughter.
It doesn’t matter I’m standing strong in the spirit of Jesus Christ and no weapon formed against me prosper this is all ego ego ego unhealed ego
😮anyone who knows him knows he is a lying 🤥 fool! This is my ex he stole his own kids college funds ! Need I say more…….. leading a double life! My life speaks for itself! Anyone he believes him I need not have contact! He turned one of my kids against me, time tells all ……… he bamboozled me for many years, so I can’t even hold that against my son turned against me
Yeah tarot cards really tell you this 😅 get a grip
Accusations are Confession Projections and Reflections ❤ I dont need to tell my side of anything anymore ❤ They cant help it but tell on themselves Im Irrelevant in all of it❤ Let the spotlight be theirs Ill hold the light❤ 🕊️🕯️🎚️ Jesus is my light ❤
Reverse darvo, because I reject whatever their trying to say. I don't care what they have to say and I'm not going to listen or accept anything that they have to say because they are just trying to cover their own arse. However, in court their own words can be used against them. 😊