Meg, you are so so so talented. The amount of times I’ve burst into tears and been so terrified of riding my horse because of a bad fall is overwhelming. It happens to everyone.
I just had my first fall ever so I got back on and jumped it again and almost fell off again… I’m scared to ride her! ( it was not her fault at allll )
I am everywhere apparently 😂 And to the other person, getting back on after a fall can be really hard! About a year ago I had the worst accident ever. My OTTB had a freak spook when we were cantering and I had been zoned out and didn’t react fast enough, so I went off his side (he’s 16.2) and slammed into the ground hard. I fractured some ribs, and screwed up my left shoulder really bad. Like nerve damage and cramped muscle stuff. I was too dizzy to get back on so I just walked him around and the next day I forced myself to ride even though I felt like hell. I almost fell off again when he spooked in the same area but I made it through without stirrups and then burst into tears. It took me months to get over that accident and it wasn’t even my scariest fall! However, I’m still suffering from the injuries a year later so that sucks. Just always remember to get back on, and even though you’re scared, you’re not alone. In a way, you have to hold your horse’s “hand” (hoof) to help them get the confidence too!
Also important to say that not only can bad falls be confidence breaking, they can cause trauma and you can suffer from ptsd related to the event. It's a whole other beast than just confidence and it's okay to cry and feel afraid as you battle that.
I completely agree, a little while ago I was trotting with my lesson horse, and she just started cantering out of the blue. (I’m fairly new to horseback riding.) It was my first time cantering and I wasn’t on a lunge line or anything- it was terrifying. Since then I’ve suffered a confidence loss and I’m even scared to trot with that specific lesson horse.
@@hellotheresmallchildHappened to me but with a fall. The lesson horse they give me is pretty difficult: I'm learning as a young adult and she is pretty good for me because she's an expert horse, but has a bad temper on her worst days. She threw me on the sand every lesson for 3 weeks, and I spent months being terrified of her. Then I learned new things and progressed since then (with her) but I' scared of winter
In late 2021 I had my first jumping lesson with a specific horse (I had jumped before and had been riding for about 6 years, just the first time jumping on this horse). He was quite green still (around 6 or 7 years old) and very eager to please. My instructor told me to give a bit more leg before the jump - he took it too enthusiastically and started galloping right before the jump, causing me to loose my balance. I fell and broke 2 vertebrae in my lower back. Luckily I didn’t end up paralyzed, but it was close. I’ve technically recovered fully, but I still have chronic pain. I haven’t ridden since, even though I keep telling myself I want to. There’s a block there. I don’t think enough people talk about PTSD in the equestrian world. It only sunk in for me at the end of 2023 - almost 2 years after the accident - how much trauma I still have from it, and now I’m working with my psychiatrist on finding a therapist. Every time I look up horse riding PTSD, I get articles about PTSD in horses or about using horse therapy for people with PTSD. Which is nice enough, but when the PTSD is caused by riding and the only things you can find are the positives of riding, it’s so very isolating
Meg,As a person who has taken years to get their confidence back you were somebody who I looked up too and used to gain the confidence back. You are a wonderful rider and just know this happens to everyone you are not alone
I have to say, I lost my confidence a while back. Still have to gain some of my confidence back, Meg, I’ve been watching you for a bit. We both still have some learning to do. I got bolted off with and shattered my right elbow. I ride western, the trauma I still have from it is still holding onto the horn in a canter. And I’m just now starting to take away from that habit in a trot. I love you Meg, keep it up.
Hey, I shattered my elbow too a few month ago when the lesson horse I was riding bolted. How is your arm now? Rehab for me has been really difficult but I’m hoping to get back into riding someday ❤
Boy, do I FEEL you. It can be very tough. For me it helps to consciously remember that I started riding out of love for horses and nothing else, that me and my horse are PARTNERS and BOTH OF US are allowed to have bad days. One good day doesn't make you a good rider, but one bad day doesn't make you a bad rider either!
I'm so grateful that you have shared this with us. I think it is extremely helpful for us all to see an amazing rider like you have moments that we have. It is okay to have these times and, I have not gone through a fall as bad as yours was, but I understand what it is like to be absolutely in the moment, having a good time then all of a sudden something triggers us and we break down. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. We are all very grateful for you being there and sharing everything. Keep being amazing xx ❤
I had quite a bad fall in February, the horse spooked at a dog and took off jumping over a fence, i fell, and couldn’t breath, i had to sit there for a few minutes breathing and taking in what and just happened, My confidence has just finally started re-building and i’m starting to try get to where i was before the fall,I’m not the best with confidence and after something knocks it down it takes a while to get back up, now i know what to do if she spooked and hopefully i’ll keep it in mind. ❤ now i’ve even jumped bigger than i ever had before, and i hope you can improve like me and get your confidence back, and just know, even if it takes longer to get back on after the fall, you NEEd go get on or your confidence is never going to change. ❤❤❤ i hope this helped people who have recently fallen off and are trying to find more confidence in themselves meg you truly inspire me to ride ❤
Oh Meg. You are so amazing. Falls make things harder. Sometimes I haven't even fallen, its just been something stupid that I did, I feel like I don't wanna ride. Its a feeling that people get. Well done for getting back on a nd trying again. Now you are back to your old self, and congrats! Your foal is gorgeous
I felt the same today. I have been showing for the past 4 days and this weekend I fell of 2 days in a row in the same division. My horse would refuse at a jump and not go over. They put me down a division and he still refused and was rearing. I felt like couldn’t do it so I just was done. Please don’t loose your confidence I know I’m really late to post this but just don’t give up❤❤❤
Meg, you have so much talent and i have watched you for so long and i know how much you love riding and jumping, i hate to see you like this and i feel really bad. you are so great at riding and are such a great horse mom. i love you so much and it will be ok.
Meg, you are one of the most talented riders I’ve EVER seen! And I get loosing confidence bc of a fall, I’m sure it’s happened to most of us equestrians! Your horse will be there for you and your trainer! We are all supporting you! You got this Meg!!!❤❤❤❤
Och, my heart broke hearing this. I remember only too well trying to come back from a serious fall. You are a strong, capable woman, and you will get there in your own time
I’m so sorry that your in such a state, I had a bad fall on my pony yet I didn’t give up and neither will you! I have been watching you for months and your such a strong, brave and beautiful rider! Don’t give up and keep going! Your doing amazing ❤❤😊
I remember when I watched my confidence start to shatter around horses. My first big horse starting bucking in the paddock without warning, without ever having done it before. Threw me clean off. I’ve never been so scared getting back on a horse in my life, and when he did it again after slowly building my confidence back at a pony club event, I broke down in tears. Felt like an idiot but I couldn’t help it. I found out the cause what a broken component in my saddle, pinching him quite badly, but I was still afraid. And it sucked. But people like you, pushing on through bad falls, showing me that it’s okay to be afraid and that it shouldn’t stop me, helped me figure it out. So one day I got back on, and I just started riding again. You are an incredible rider. Please don’t let any terrible fall, any scary encounter, tell you differently. You got this!
This made me cry, I recently rode the most challenging mare I’ve ever known in a games class with advanced riders and beginners . I lost my confidence after she freaked out from a show off beginner cantering on her flank. Thank you.
This helped me so much. I thought I was the only one going through setting like this. Thank you for being open and honest about it. I hope you get your confidence back x
Thai is so many people with unaddressed trauma~fear to whatever degree go through when untreated. Kudos and support to you! So easy to just sweep it away, but it never goes until you address it.
Meg, you are a amazing, remember a fall happens to everyone. Also, ur on a big beast! Controlling it going over fences ! Yes falls are very confidence knocking love u meg!.😊
You CAN do it girl!!!! My mum lost lots of confidence and never riden a horse after the horse nearly knocked her off the edge of a cliff But im riding a horse now to show her that she can try again❤
Meg, u can do this! We are here for you❤. I too lost my confidence riding 2 years ago after really bad fall of my own mare I raised. Didn't want to ride her for months, it takes time and a lot of trust building . I can tell I still don't feel confortiblle riding through some places, but trying to overstep this slowly. Send love, be safe. You got this!!❤❤
Oh dear I know exactly how that feels. I lost my confidence in riding and unfortunately unlike you I stopped riding altogether so you did so great by continuing. I hope one day I can back into riding again. I miss it so much.❤
Yes.. i Lost mine in the Summer in the woods and now I’m so scared to go in the woods I know how it feels and I felt like I couldn’t ride my own horse 🐴 but yea I’m sorry 😞
Hey you’re not the only one three months ago I had a concussion and I haven’t been able to get my confidence back but a couple days ago I did so I know you can do this God is with you
I understand you so much, i had a bad fall a year ago and broke my arm, i used to jump so well, i started riding again recently and i was able to jump very small cross poles, though my last lesson i had a horse that had the exact same canter as the pony that i was riding when i broke my arm ( it was also a similar jump) this brang back so much PTSD that I ( not the pony) forced refused the jump. I could both comprehend why i couldnt ride anymore and was so angry at my self. I cried every hour of the day and when somone asked me “whats wrong” i could never explain bc it sound so silly “i couldnt jump my pony” and people never want the full story so i always shorten it and it sounds like such a stupid reason to be sad
Meg we all have bad days,today I hade a bad lesson and started to just freeze, I rode a new horse and it was raining,so it was vvvvveryy spooky😂so he tried to bolt away on me and I almost fell off😢Don’t let it get to u, ur an amazing Rider!❤
i lost all confidence in horse riding after i fell of and almost broke my neck i had a massive bruise on the back of my neck and one right on my arm and i tried starting again and i really just couldnt bring myself to it im just scared i went for 3 weeks and almost fell of again belive me i was so scared but i did give up which i really shouldnt of and thats one thing to say and ur so talented and please dont do what i did!
when i lost my confidence i couldn’t even walk i couldn’t trot or walk over a pole, when ur confidence starting building up it helped me❤ ur the reason i am still riding ur the reason i love riding i am been looking at you for almost 2 years learning and loving how u are❤ your my idol and i want to do grassroots some day js like you, and maybe be meet❤❤❤ i love u meg❤😙🫶🏼
It’s ok❤ I used to get really excited to jump but back in July I had a really bad fall after my pony spooked when we landed the jump and the stirrup slammed into the back of my neck underneath the helmet, and my ankle got caught in the other stirrup then over time I got less nervous. But after another fall in January when my pony refused a jump and went flying and completely totaled my arm I lost it again. Just know things take time and will get better
The problem is that this can turn into a spiral. You as a rider loose your confidence and get nervous, which in turn makes your horse nervous. I've been through that and it took a long time to find balance again
I have fallen of the same horse four times and I thought I would have fear getting back on the horse. But I learned that you take baby steps do some ground work and do some grooming. And ride slowly and when you feel comfortable. And what help me is that a close friend or your riding coach can help too.
well she would have gotten it if she would have leaned forward that's why, but It is really scary sometimes to jump things that are passed your boarders, meaning like pasted your limit for something and then you feel like giving up, don't give up, takes breaks and think it through to be come confidant.
Loss of confidence is a horrible thing. However if you get on a horse you can expect to take falls, majority of those falls are damaging only to your pride, the odd one will hurt and cause damage. As a child - way back in the 50s i learned to ride at a riding school. My parents struggled to pay for my lessons and I learned that by riding the remedial ponies I got extra free rides. As an added bonus, it taught me many things possibly the best was how to fall. Also we played a lot of gymkhana games which also taught agility and how to land on your feet running. Twice in my long professional career did I lose some confidence, once was when a young horse over jumped steps X country, I regained it when competing on the same horse, not riding into a drop fence and saw my old riding instructor standing by the fence. I immediately gathered the horse, legs on and popped the drop with no problem. My fear of her anger at me not riding it correctly was greater than the fear of the drop! (It wasn’t my instructor but a similar looking woman!) The other was after I had a bad back injury, told not to ride, and I had a fall with a stallion. Neither of us was hurt and I thought that if anything was meant to happen it would have been then. That was it. Sit up and kick on. What is to be will be. Some of my nastiest falls have been when I wasn’t doing anything risky. Good luck to you.
That happened to me with my horse. I was on the diagonal to a jump. He left early, and I was popped out of the saddle. I scanned back on to the saddle but he turned the diagonal and I went flying into one of the pillars holding pur roof up. I wrapped around it and sustained really bad injuries 😬 we are great now as a matter of fact we are riding for a NCEA team! 🎉 however I did have multiple melt downs and refused to jump that jump for the longest time.
I’ve been through the same! I was just riding my horse then another bucked i feel of swinging my head hit the wall i had 8 months of no confidence walking lessons
Yes sadly myself I have lost my confidence before because I was like about two no three years old and I got stance on by a horse and I rode her the next day and I fell off so I lost my confidence but I got back it’s so just not nice losing confidence😢😮
I completely lost my confidence with my mare to the point that I was even afraid to lead her out to the paddock. It took a long time to over come my fears in riding her and also being ok being around her. She wasn’t a nasty dangerous horse but she was young and green and something she did and I don’t know what, ruined my years of experience and comfort and almost made me feel like a beginner horsewoman again.
After a bad fall I would physically tremble every time I went to jump for almost 2 years. It took amazing trainers and friends who were patient and never made me feel bad ty get back.
My last lesson I cried for the first time since I was 5 during riding (i’m ten now) I was extremely frustrated and I felt the same exact way. Just know that my instructor said “it’s ok to cry every rider cries at one point” and it was really hard. The reason I was crying was because I was cantering a really low jump and I usually do ones way bigger, and he would not stay in the canter or he would trip or he would just stop. And I just felt like I could never do anything.And you just proved to me other people act and feel the same. Thank you. ❤💕 (btw later I did two filler jumps as a course and my instructor said then “now see if you wouldn’t have cried earlier and gotten frustrated you would not have been proud of what you just did. So, in a way that made you feel better.” This is something people should remember.)
Megan when i met u,u were amazing well done for getting back on would say the best way start from polework or groundwork and build up your confidence with her that way. Never forget your amazing
Can you give some tips on it throughout the journey ,I understand ,taking it from another equestrian who lost her confidence I would like to know some tips
Meg, you’re generally one of the most talented riders I’ve ever seen and its inspiring for you to show that not everything is perfect! Dee and jam are both such beautiful horses and they will take care of you! Remember no one’s pushing you and we’re all here for you ❤
About a mounth or two ago I got on a wrangler horse who dosent supposablly buck and I got bucked off into a a fence into the black berry bushes and I pulled a muscle and had broken glasses and I finally got my own horse that dosent buck or bolt she is a ranch and wrangler horse like the last horse my horse has more confidence in me then I do it’s not me being trumatized it’s the confidence I need to gain with my mare and the trust and bond we are starting to build my most recent ride I had a simmler panic attack near the same place I had fallen that put me out of the saddle for two to three weeks at the most shes starting to trust me and I’m starting to trust her but every equestrian goes threw a confidence slump
A few weeks ago i had a massive confidence knock,the horse i was riding kept taking off,bucking,broncing,kicking,tossing his head and refusing.I now am scared and nervous to jump again,I used to jump rounds of 1.20 and now cant barely jump 90cm :/
I remember, I was on a young stallion, about 4, sand he was still green so he tried rearing and bucking. Eventually I fell off and for the next 3 months I had to ride beginner ponies until I could ride him again.
I lost my confidence about 1,5 years ago I cried Avery time I rode this one horse but when I rode other horses I felt fine but I took a break from riding for about half a year and i came back stronger im not saying you need to take a break from that horse but start building your confidence slowly do something you’re not scared of doing for example some ground work or something like that it helps a lot ( i hope you get your confidence back soon you’re a great rider and I look up to you 🫶🏼🫶🏼)
I'm happy for you with how you want to get back to the person you are. You have thousands of people here cheering for you. And we all want you to take it slow and let you gain your confidence back. Love ya Meg ❤️
Meg, you are so so so talented. The amount of times I’ve burst into tears and been so terrified of riding my horse because of a bad fall is overwhelming. It happens to everyone.
Tasnks for spreading awarness about riding❤❤❤
So true :(
Also why do I see you everywhere lol
I just had my first fall ever so I got back on and jumped it again and almost fell off again… I’m scared to ride her! ( it was not her fault at allll )
I am everywhere apparently 😂
And to the other person, getting back on after a fall can be really hard! About a year ago I had the worst accident ever. My OTTB had a freak spook when we were cantering and I had been zoned out and didn’t react fast enough, so I went off his side (he’s 16.2) and slammed into the ground hard. I fractured some ribs, and screwed up my left shoulder really bad. Like nerve damage and cramped muscle stuff. I was too dizzy to get back on so I just walked him around and the next day I forced myself to ride even though I felt like hell. I almost fell off again when he spooked in the same area but I made it through without stirrups and then burst into tears. It took me months to get over that accident and it wasn’t even my scariest fall! However, I’m still suffering from the injuries a year later so that sucks.
Just always remember to get back on, and even though you’re scared, you’re not alone. In a way, you have to hold your horse’s “hand” (hoof) to help them get the confidence too!
and I didn’t know I had tiny fractures in my ribs until 6 months later 💀🤣
Also important to say that not only can bad falls be confidence breaking, they can cause trauma and you can suffer from ptsd related to the event. It's a whole other beast than just confidence and it's okay to cry and feel afraid as you battle that.
I completely agree, a little while ago I was trotting with my lesson horse, and she just started cantering out of the blue. (I’m fairly new to horseback riding.) It was my first time cantering and I wasn’t on a lunge line or anything- it was terrifying. Since then I’ve suffered a confidence loss and I’m even scared to trot with that specific lesson horse.
@@hellotheresmallchildHappened to me but with a fall. The lesson horse they give me is pretty difficult: I'm learning as a young adult and she is pretty good for me because she's an expert horse, but has a bad temper on her worst days. She threw me on the sand every lesson for 3 weeks, and I spent months being terrified of her. Then I learned new things and progressed since then (with her) but I' scared of winter
In late 2021 I had my first jumping lesson with a specific horse (I had jumped before and had been riding for about 6 years, just the first time jumping on this horse). He was quite green still (around 6 or 7 years old) and very eager to please. My instructor told me to give a bit more leg before the jump - he took it too enthusiastically and started galloping right before the jump, causing me to loose my balance. I fell and broke 2 vertebrae in my lower back. Luckily I didn’t end up paralyzed, but it was close. I’ve technically recovered fully, but I still have chronic pain.
I haven’t ridden since, even though I keep telling myself I want to. There’s a block there.
I don’t think enough people talk about PTSD in the equestrian world. It only sunk in for me at the end of 2023 - almost 2 years after the accident - how much trauma I still have from it, and now I’m working with my psychiatrist on finding a therapist.
Every time I look up horse riding PTSD, I get articles about PTSD in horses or about using horse therapy for people with PTSD. Which is nice enough, but when the PTSD is caused by riding and the only things you can find are the positives of riding, it’s so very isolating
The trauma is not in the occasion, it is in the nervous system. I highly recommend trauma release by somatic Experiencing. Best to all of you!
Meg,As a person who has taken years to get their confidence back you were somebody who I looked up too and used to gain the confidence back. You are a wonderful rider and just know this happens to everyone you are not alone
I lost my confidance but i learnt and got it back, get doing what you are doing! I believe in you, God bless you
I have to say, I lost my confidence a while back. Still have to gain some of my confidence back, Meg, I’ve been watching you for a bit. We both still have some learning to do. I got bolted off with and shattered my right elbow. I ride western, the trauma I still have from it is still holding onto the horn in a canter. And I’m just now starting to take away from that habit in a trot. I love you Meg, keep it up.
Hey, I shattered my elbow too a few month ago when the lesson horse I was riding bolted. How is your arm now? Rehab for me has been really difficult but I’m hoping to get back into riding someday ❤
I understand how this feel I lost my confidence and struggled to even go near my pony,I’m sure all/most equestrians have been there ❤
Boy, do I FEEL you. It can be very tough.
For me it helps to consciously remember that I started riding out of love for horses and nothing else, that me and my horse are PARTNERS and BOTH OF US are allowed to have bad days.
One good day doesn't make you a good rider, but one bad day doesn't make you a bad rider either!
I'm so grateful that you have shared this with us. I think it is extremely helpful for us all to see an amazing rider like you have moments that we have. It is okay to have these times and, I have not gone through a fall as bad as yours was, but I understand what it is like to be absolutely in the moment, having a good time then all of a sudden something triggers us and we break down. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. We are all very grateful for you being there and sharing everything. Keep being amazing xx ❤
I had quite a bad fall in February, the horse spooked at a dog and took off jumping over a fence, i fell, and couldn’t breath, i had to sit there for a few minutes breathing and taking in what and just happened, My confidence has just finally started re-building and i’m starting to try get to where i was before the fall,I’m not the best with confidence and after something knocks it down it takes a while to get back up, now i know what to do if she spooked and hopefully i’ll keep it in mind. ❤ now i’ve even jumped bigger than i ever had before, and i hope you can improve like me and get your confidence back, and just know, even if it takes longer to get back on after the fall, you NEEd go get on or your confidence is never going to change.
❤❤❤ i hope this helped people who have recently fallen off and are trying to find more confidence in themselves
meg you truly inspire me to ride ❤
Oh Meg. You are so amazing. Falls make things harder. Sometimes I haven't even fallen, its just been something stupid that I did, I feel like I don't wanna ride. Its a feeling that people get. Well done for getting back on a nd trying again. Now you are back to your old self, and congrats! Your foal is gorgeous
I felt the same today. I have been showing for the past 4 days and this weekend I fell of 2 days in a row in the same division. My horse would refuse at a jump and not go over. They put me down a division and he still refused and was rearing. I felt like couldn’t do it so I just was done. Please don’t loose your confidence I know I’m really late to post this but just don’t give up❤❤❤
Meg, you have so much talent and i have watched you for so long and i know how much you love riding and jumping, i hate to see you like this and i feel really bad. you are so great at riding and are such a great horse mom. i love you so much and it will be ok.
Meg, you are one of the most talented riders I’ve EVER seen! And I get loosing confidence bc of a fall, I’m sure it’s happened to most of us equestrians! Your horse will be there for you and your trainer! We are all supporting you! You got this Meg!!!❤❤❤❤
Och, my heart broke hearing this. I remember only too well trying to come back from a serious fall. You are a strong, capable woman, and you will get there in your own time
I’m so sorry that your in such a state, I had a bad fall on my pony yet I didn’t give up and neither will you! I have been watching you for months and your such a strong, brave and beautiful rider! Don’t give up and keep going! Your doing amazing ❤❤😊
I remember when I watched my confidence start to shatter around horses. My first big horse starting bucking in the paddock without warning, without ever having done it before. Threw me clean off. I’ve never been so scared getting back on a horse in my life, and when he did it again after slowly building my confidence back at a pony club event, I broke down in tears. Felt like an idiot but I couldn’t help it.
I found out the cause what a broken component in my saddle, pinching him quite badly, but I was still afraid. And it sucked. But people like you, pushing on through bad falls, showing me that it’s okay to be afraid and that it shouldn’t stop me, helped me figure it out. So one day I got back on, and I just started riding again.
You are an incredible rider. Please don’t let any terrible fall, any scary encounter, tell you differently. You got this!
This made me cry, I recently rode the most challenging mare I’ve ever known in a games class with advanced riders and beginners . I lost my confidence after she freaked out from a show off beginner cantering on her flank. Thank you.
Seeing people cry makes me cry too❤
Horses 🐎 have such an amazing way of showing us what is deep down inside of us and helping us work through it.
This helped me so much. I thought I was the only one going through setting like this. Thank you for being open and honest about it. I hope you get your confidence back x
Meg. You can do this I believe in you, you are an amazing rider and you can push through this
Thai is so many people with unaddressed trauma~fear to whatever degree go through when untreated. Kudos and support to you!
So easy to just sweep it away, but it never goes until you address it.
Meg, you are a amazing, remember a fall happens to everyone. Also, ur on a big beast! Controlling it going over fences ! Yes falls are very confidence knocking love u meg!.😊
You CAN do it girl!!!!
My mum lost lots of confidence and never riden a horse after the horse nearly knocked her off the edge of a cliff
But im riding a horse now to show her that she can try again❤
Meg, u can do this! We are here for you❤. I too lost my confidence riding 2 years ago after really bad fall of my own mare I raised. Didn't want to ride her for months, it takes time and a lot of trust building . I can tell I still don't feel confortiblle riding through some places, but trying to overstep this slowly. Send love, be safe. You got this!!❤❤
This happens to all equestrians! We believe in u Meg! I’m like this too , fine on any other horse but when I get on storm I have a breakdown ❤
i have been like that too, but everything you lose is a step you take
Bless you, Meg. ❤
You can do this Meg!! ❤ The amount of times I’ve felt like giving up is more than I can count. You are such a good rider!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Meg you can do this never give up on your dream and you can do better then I can and I'm a level 4 riding school
Oh dear I know exactly how that feels. I lost my confidence in riding and unfortunately unlike you I stopped riding altogether so you did so great by continuing. I hope one day I can back into riding again. I miss it so much.❤
Meg we all suffer with self confidence in our lives but I have to applaud you for sharing your experience. After all “It’s ok to not be ok”
Yes.. i Lost mine in the Summer in the woods and now I’m so scared to go in the woods I know how it feels and I felt like I couldn’t ride my own horse 🐴 but yea I’m sorry 😞
We are all so proud of u Meg and I hope you get your confidence back soon ❤️
We’re right here by you girlie ❤
Hey you’re not the only one three months ago I had a concussion and I haven’t been able to get my confidence back but a couple days ago I did so I know you can do this God is with you
I understand you so much, i had a bad fall a year ago and broke my arm, i used to jump so well, i started riding again recently and i was able to jump very small cross poles, though my last lesson i had a horse that had the exact same canter as the pony that i was riding when i broke my arm ( it was also a similar jump) this brang back so much PTSD that I ( not the pony) forced refused the jump. I could both comprehend why i couldnt ride anymore and was so angry at my self. I cried every hour of the day and when somone asked me “whats wrong” i could never explain bc it sound so silly “i couldnt jump my pony” and people never want the full story so i always shorten it and it sounds like such a stupid reason to be sad
Meg we all have bad days,today I hade a bad lesson and started to just freeze, I rode a new horse and it was raining,so it was vvvvveryy spooky😂so he tried to bolt away on me and I almost fell off😢Don’t let it get to u, ur an amazing Rider!❤
Love this, it's real and it shows how emotional this can be and that's such a good thing! You got this ❤
i lost all confidence in horse riding after i fell of and almost broke my neck i had a massive bruise on the back of my neck and one right on my arm and i tried starting again and i really just couldnt bring myself to it im just scared i went for 3 weeks and almost fell of again belive me i was so scared but i did give up which i really shouldnt of and thats one thing to say and ur so talented and please dont do what i did!
when i lost my confidence i couldn’t even walk i couldn’t trot or walk over a pole, when ur confidence starting building up it helped me❤ ur the reason i am still riding ur the reason i love riding i am been looking at you for almost 2 years learning and loving how u are❤ your my idol and i want to do grassroots some day js like you, and maybe be meet❤❤❤
i love u meg❤😙🫶🏼
I feel this, you don't even realise how low your confidence is until you break
´Never give up if the horse doesnt give up on you´
This comforts me that I’m not the only one that does this
Horse riding is so hard mentally, dont ever feel like you can't do it. Don't give up.
I hope you are doing better now!! You are an amazing rider and influencer.
Ty so much you helped hi had a terrible fall as-well and-now you made me confident
I've lost my confidence twice and I know its hard to get back.❤❤ Don't give up😊
This happened to me every day when I started riding but I learned that no one is ever perfect
The fear eats at you and it’s hard to gain it back. Just find a horse that you can trust to build it back again. Your doing great
It’s ok❤ I used to get really excited to jump but back in July I had a really bad fall after my pony spooked when we landed the jump and the stirrup slammed into the back of my neck underneath the helmet, and my ankle got caught in the other stirrup then over time I got less nervous. But after another fall in January when my pony refused a jump and went flying and completely totaled my arm I lost it again. Just know things take time and will get better
Meg u are like literally the best rider out there you can power through and I know u can
I'm so sorry girly 💓 it'll get better🤕 I promise you 🫂
The problem is that this can turn into a spiral. You as a rider loose your confidence and get nervous, which in turn makes your horse nervous. I've been through that and it took a long time to find balance again
I have fallen of the same horse four times and I thought I would have fear getting back on the horse. But I learned that you take baby steps do some ground work and do some grooming. And ride slowly and when you feel comfortable. And what help me is that a close friend or your riding coach can help too.
I’m in the same boat, just work your way up! Don’t rush into something you are afraid to do.
that's right you should never be scared of your horse you did the best I seen other people that would never get back up on their horse
Well you thought me something and you learned something. And you are an awesome rider Meg!
well she would have gotten it if she would have leaned forward that's why, but It is really scary sometimes to jump things that are passed your boarders, meaning like pasted your limit for something and then you feel like giving up, don't give up, takes breaks and think it through to be come confidant.
Don’t worry we all have been there ❤😊
Loss of confidence is a horrible thing. However if you get on a horse you can expect to take falls, majority of those falls are damaging only to your pride, the odd one will hurt and cause damage.
As a child - way back in the 50s i learned to ride at a riding school. My parents struggled to pay for my lessons and I learned that by riding the remedial ponies I got extra free rides. As an added bonus, it taught me many things possibly the best was how to fall. Also we played a lot of gymkhana games which also taught agility and how to land on your feet running.
Twice in my long professional career did I lose some confidence, once was when a young horse over jumped steps X country, I regained it when competing on the same horse, not riding into a drop fence and saw my old riding instructor standing by the fence. I immediately gathered the horse, legs on and popped the drop with no problem. My fear of her anger at me not riding it correctly was greater than the fear of the drop! (It wasn’t my instructor but a similar looking woman!)
The other was after I had a bad back injury, told not to ride, and I had a fall with a stallion. Neither of us was hurt and I thought that if anything was meant to happen it would have been then. That was it. Sit up and kick on. What is to be will be. Some of my nastiest falls have been when I wasn’t doing anything risky.
Good luck to you.
That happened to me with my horse. I was on the diagonal to a jump. He left early, and I was popped out of the saddle. I scanned back on to the saddle but he turned the diagonal and I went flying into one of the pillars holding pur roof up. I wrapped around it and sustained really bad injuries
😬 we are great now as a matter of fact we are riding for a NCEA team! 🎉 however I did have multiple melt downs and refused to jump that jump for the longest time.
You are so good do not give up on your dreams
Yes meg im an equestrian and im so used to it❤
Horses listen..your horse can tell your sad and doubting. They will be there for you ❤
You had me in tears everytime I’ve seen this ❤️
You got this you are talented and you will get better with time to help you deal with it
I’ve been through the same! I was just riding my horse then another bucked i feel of swinging my head hit the wall i had 8 months of no confidence walking lessons
Yes sadly myself I have lost my confidence before because I was like about two no three years old and I got stance on by a horse and I rode her the next day and I fell off so I lost my confidence but I got back it’s so just not nice losing confidence😢😮
I completely lost my confidence with my mare to the point that I was even afraid to lead her out to the paddock. It took a long time to over come my fears in riding her and also being ok being around her. She wasn’t a nasty dangerous horse but she was young and green and something she did and I don’t know what, ruined my years of experience and comfort and almost made me feel like a beginner horsewoman again.
You got this you ate so talented!!!!!
we all have had our riding slumps so don’t feel alone. (i’m in mine rn)
your such a good rider keep trying
You are good I now how you feel because I had when I spread.my arm and conclusion I lost my confidence
After a bad fall I would physically tremble every time I went to jump for almost 2 years. It took amazing trainers and friends who were patient and never made me feel bad ty get back.
You can do this Meg! ❤
My last lesson I cried for the first time since I was 5 during riding (i’m ten now) I was extremely frustrated and I felt the same exact way. Just know that my instructor said “it’s ok to cry every rider cries at one point” and it was really hard. The reason I was crying was because I was cantering a really low jump and I usually do ones way bigger, and he would not stay in the canter or he would trip or he would just stop. And I just felt like I could never do anything.And you just proved to me other people act and feel the same. Thank you. ❤💕 (btw later I did two filler jumps as a course and my instructor said then “now see if you wouldn’t have cried earlier and gotten frustrated you would not have been proud of what you just did. So, in a way that made you feel better.” This is something people should remember.)
Its okay take your time calm down
Megan when i met u,u were amazing well done for getting back on would say the best way start from polework or groundwork and build up your confidence with her that way. Never forget your amazing
My daughter Amelia had this happen to her after a bad fall and then she had no confidence at all but she eventually got it back 😊😢❤
❤ take one day at a time, take one footstep at a time, one breath at a time. You will get there ❤
Meg I lost my confidence for a long time every lesson I would go to the middle and cry
never give up no matter what
Can you give some tips on it throughout the journey ,I understand ,taking it from another equestrian who lost her confidence I would like to know some tips
Meg, you’re generally one of the most talented riders I’ve ever seen and its inspiring for you to show that not everything is perfect! Dee and jam are both such beautiful horses and they will take care of you! Remember no one’s pushing you and we’re all here for you ❤
You got this Meg
Keep on..keepin on...on day at a time...😊
About a mounth or two ago I got on a wrangler horse who dosent supposablly buck and I got bucked off into a a fence into the black berry bushes and I pulled a muscle and had broken glasses and I finally got my own horse that dosent buck or bolt she is a ranch and wrangler horse like the last horse my horse has more confidence in me then I do it’s not me being trumatized it’s the confidence I need to gain with my mare and the trust and bond we are starting to build my most recent ride I had a simmler panic attack near the same place I had fallen that put me out of the saddle for two to three weeks at the most shes starting to trust me and I’m starting to trust her but every equestrian goes threw a confidence slump
A few weeks ago i had a massive confidence knock,the horse i was riding kept taking off,bucking,broncing,kicking,tossing his head and refusing.I now am scared and nervous to jump again,I used to jump rounds of 1.20 and now cant barely jump 90cm :/
I remember, I was on a young stallion, about 4, sand he was still green so he tried rearing and bucking. Eventually I fell off and for the next 3 months I had to ride beginner ponies until I could ride him again.
Heck man going through the same sort of thing anyone got recommendations
I’m sorry, but just remember that we’re here for you❤
I lost my confidence about 1,5 years ago I cried Avery time I rode this one horse but when I rode other horses I felt fine but I took a break from riding for about half a year and i came back stronger im not saying you need to take a break from that horse but start building your confidence slowly do something you’re not scared of doing for example some ground work or something like that it helps a lot ( i hope you get your confidence back soon you’re a great rider and I look up to you 🫶🏼🫶🏼)
I know that feeling.. It takes time. You will get back. It is funny how you can ride another horses besides your own when that happens.
It's never the horses fault ❤
That’s me today
Does anyone know how I can get my confidence back in jumping because it would really help me out x '
I feel you❤
um hi i had a bad fall and i lost my confidence and i am scared to ride again but i mis it so much i dont no wat to do
I'm happy for you with how you want to get back to the person you are. You have thousands of people here cheering for you. And we all want you to take it slow and let you gain your confidence back. Love ya Meg ❤️
@Maria CANCER I wish you luck along your journey.