#lonely #authentic #advice this is raw unedited content... male lonliness is a huge thing... i hope you can find relatability in my thought process. kind regards, tom game is the game.
I get what you mean man. Im not a guy and i obviously dont truly understand male loneliness, but i am lonely and have been for like, most of my life because for women as well, love or acceptance is conditional, relying on what we provide (although what people want from us is different). I get how shit things are and how tough it is, and I hope things get better for both of us. We're there for you.
literally 2 days ago i lost all of my friends, i’ve dropped out of college, i work one shift a week and i hate my job. the only reason i leave my house is to see my boyfriend, who is all i have in the world at this point. and while he is lovely, i miss having a group of girls to go out with. i totally get where you're coming from, sometimes it’s nice to be lonely but at the same time it’s so draining, especially in this generation where i’m surrounded with people who have had the same friends since they were 11 and i haven’t been able to hold anything stable down for longer than 2 years. i wish social media didn’t exist so i could be lonely without judgement haha.
If you're college age then you're completely fine, all those friends you had are going to lose contact with each other when they get to Uni so you'll all be in the same position. I'm sure you'll find friends at Uni.
update on this, i started at a new college. my boyfriend is still my best friend but i finally have found my people. im the happiest i’ve been since i was a kid. im busy every day and, although that’s overwhelming, it’s the best feeling in the world. if you’re reading this, it’s your sign that things will get better if you allow them to. get out of the mindset that nothing will ever change because that’s what’s holding you back. obviously there’s still moments where i feel like shit, but that’s normal. it’s taken me a while to realise that a shit day doesn’t mean a shit life. im so excited about this new chapter of my life and my hobby has finally turned into my career. the only way is up. you’ll find your people eventually, i promise.
I’m 21 and been working since I was 18, I feel u about it being hard to make friends when you want to meet people but u aren’t sure if they are the type of people you want to be around if they smoke, drink etc. it sucks forever sure. I’ve not been to uni and I can’t really afford to go so hearing my friends who I’m still somewhat in contact with talk about the new friends and relationships they made makes me feel like I’m missing out a lot.
Felt that put yourself out there bro, or move. Im in the process of both. Itll make your world trust me. And if not you gain people skills in the process.
100% factual stuff... just wait until you start college and everything will be fixed, you're gonna find buddies to hang with and girls to date and it's gonna be a good experience. Just remember not to judge people on the basis of what they do - try and be cool with everyone and you're gonna see and learn so much by approaching it this way and it's gonna go a long way cause it's like a trailer for what lies ahead in your life.
bro is me fr. you aren't alone though, lots of us are in a similar boat. life will improve we just gotta keep moving ahead and taking it day by day even though it's hard
Good job on not drinking. I have all my life, trying to fit in with this f'ed up world. All it does is give you a few moments of fake happiness and a whole lot of pain afterwards. At the same time I think its important to create the life you want. And that doesent necessarly mean what everyone else is doing. Good luck.
I feel the same way maybe because I just don’t think that people really understand my way of thinking. Funny how when you fix an “issue” and then you miss that “issue” and the “issue” in this case is being alone. Being lonely for a while especially after covid changes people and I’m one of them. In terms of academics I got a lot better and went from doing jacksh!t to getting straight As after Covid so maybe being alone removes distractions. It does have side effects though.
Been my life for 5 years I’m 25 , save up for a mortgage. my dad said to me , the people you can truly trust you’ll be able to count on one hand… this is true. If you wanna chat or socialise go to the pub the losers there will make you feel better when you know you have your s together. Most people settle down but I can’t be asked to join a rigged system like marriage. Stay strong 💪 the establishment/ government system deliberately done this to communities like church
Love you bro. Give partner-social-dancing a try. You can go by yourself, usually guys are needed, and the act of dancing really does connect you with others. Cheers.
i think maturity plays into loneliness in young people too , i'm 16 i see the world in such a different light to everyone of my age that i meet and even most people older than me , i notice things and come to realisations where nobody else does and i've never found anyone that analyses things quite like me , i've ended up ultimately with a handful of occasional friends that just get bored of my constant prattling on of things irrelevant to them that i find so fascinating.
Same except I broke up with her a few weeks ago for unrelated reasons and I still feel just as lonely. I don't think there's anything that could fix it, my brain is just fucked up.
I get what you mean man. Im not a guy and i obviously dont truly understand male loneliness, but i am lonely and have been for like, most of my life because for women as well, love or acceptance is conditional, relying on what we provide (although what people want from us is different). I get how shit things are and how tough it is, and I hope things get better for both of us. We're there for you.
you're gonna be okay. and you're gonna make it through. you always have and always will. sending love
Don’t worry bro we are there for you 😊😊😊😊😊😊
literally 2 days ago i lost all of my friends, i’ve dropped out of college, i work one shift a week and i hate my job. the only reason i leave my house is to see my boyfriend, who is all i have in the world at this point. and while he is lovely, i miss having a group of girls to go out with. i totally get where you're coming from, sometimes it’s nice to be lonely but at the same time it’s so draining, especially in this generation where i’m surrounded with people who have had the same friends since they were 11 and i haven’t been able to hold anything stable down for longer than 2 years. i wish social media didn’t exist so i could be lonely without judgement haha.
bro you are lonely without judgement. The only one passing judgement on you is yourself, the rest don't care.
If you're college age then you're completely fine, all those friends you had are going to lose contact with each other when they get to Uni so you'll all be in the same position. I'm sure you'll find friends at Uni.
update on this, i started at a new college. my boyfriend is still my best friend but i finally have found my people. im the happiest i’ve been since i was a kid. im busy every day and, although that’s overwhelming, it’s the best feeling in the world. if you’re reading this, it’s your sign that things will get better if you allow them to. get out of the mindset that nothing will ever change because that’s what’s holding you back. obviously there’s still moments where i feel like shit, but that’s normal. it’s taken me a while to realise that a shit day doesn’t mean a shit life. im so excited about this new chapter of my life and my hobby has finally turned into my career. the only way is up. you’ll find your people eventually, i promise.
I’m 21 and been working since I was 18, I feel u about it being hard to make friends when you want to meet people but u aren’t sure if they are the type of people you want to be around if they smoke, drink etc. it sucks forever sure. I’ve not been to uni and I can’t really afford to go so hearing my friends who I’m still somewhat in contact with talk about the new friends and relationships they made makes me feel like I’m missing out a lot.
I'm 20 and in the exact same spot. I don't drink or vape whilst it seems everyone my age does, so there goes socializing on weekends.
Start your self-improvement journey.
Felt that put yourself out there bro, or move. Im in the process of both. Itll make your world trust me. And if not you gain people skills in the process.
100% factual stuff... just wait until you start college and everything will be fixed, you're gonna find buddies to hang with and girls to date and it's gonna be a good experience.
Just remember not to judge people on the basis of what they do - try and be cool with everyone and you're gonna see and learn so much by approaching it this way and it's gonna go a long way cause it's like a trailer for what lies ahead in your life.
bro is me fr. you aren't alone though, lots of us are in a similar boat. life will improve we just gotta keep moving ahead and taking it day by day even though it's hard
Good job on not drinking. I have all my life, trying to fit in with this f'ed up world. All it does is give you a few moments of fake happiness and a whole lot of pain afterwards. At the same time I think its important to create the life you want. And that doesent necessarly mean what everyone else is doing. Good luck.
I feel the same way maybe because I just don’t think that people really understand my way of thinking. Funny how when you fix an “issue” and then you miss that “issue” and the “issue” in this case is being alone. Being lonely for a while especially after covid changes people and I’m one of them. In terms of academics I got a lot better and went from doing jacksh!t to getting straight As after Covid so maybe being alone removes distractions. It does have side effects though.
I felt this way when last year, but things are getting better. It can be a long road, but if you keep on walking you will get there!
Been my life for 5 years I’m 25 , save up for a mortgage. my dad said to me , the people you can truly trust you’ll be able to count on one hand… this is true. If you wanna chat or socialise go to the pub the losers there will make you feel better when you know you have your s together. Most people settle down but I can’t be asked to join a rigged system like marriage. Stay strong 💪 the establishment/ government system deliberately done this to communities like church
I wish the best for you bro ❤.
Sometimes i feel like my friends just dont care about me and only hang out if they gain something from me
Love you bro. Give partner-social-dancing a try. You can go by yourself, usually guys are needed, and the act of dancing really does connect you with others. Cheers.
You'll definitely meet new people at uni, everyone will be in the same boat
You are very mature for your age. Idk if you realise it.
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i think maturity plays into loneliness in young people too , i'm 16 i see the world in such a different light to everyone of my age that i meet and even most people older than me , i notice things and come to realisations where nobody else does and i've never found anyone that analyses things quite like me , i've ended up ultimately with a handful of occasional friends that just get bored of my constant prattling on of things irrelevant to them that i find so fascinating.
We the lonely guys are screwed
That is just how it is
im 20 and have a gf but still feel lonely
Same except I broke up with her a few weeks ago for unrelated reasons and I still feel just as lonely. I don't think there's anything that could fix it, my brain is just fucked up.
I'm 19 too
Billions will fight.
Start self-improvement. I promise you won't regret it.
realest shit i've ever heard
I dont know man its a bit of a stigma.
lose weight u got great facial features. then just find friends through social activities and hobbies you got this bro
You don't need to lose weight to make friends or to meet new people
@@eggybread. No, but it will make it easier. People will treat you differently if you look good. And this is coming from a former fat dude
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literally no one cares cares abt you buddy
maybe thats the blessing in disguise tho
hot damn the golden trooper doesnt care about us, DAAAMN we are so sad
Bro leave the poor dude alone
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Why did you care?