22 here, also grew up “ugly” and slowing coming out of my shell recently. i 100% relate with the not-dating reasons (fear, waste of time if i do break up) yet also very much open to finding “the one”. thank you for sharing your experience!
Same but I’m 21. As a teen I started doing makeup and that’s when I got male attention. I stopped because I felt icky for a bit that people only liked me when I looked a certain way but now I’m getting back into it. Relationships scare me and cause of my childhood experiences, I overthink way too much haha. I’ll get there eventually.
Omg same!!! And people around me encourage me to start dating just to experience it , also sometimes Indirectly make fun of me??? It’s ok tho bcoz I know what I want and I tend to think more practically. Everyone has different timelines and to date because of FOMO is digging your own grave , lol
@@strawberrytiramisuif you apply make up again, you’ll attract men who like your make up face. Men need to know that women are bare faced at home, and should accept that. Your natural face is your real you. With acne, wrinkles etc. All normal. You’re soulmate is someone who accepts you 100% for who you truly are. And you only want to spend time with your soulmate right, and not with some bad boy who wasted your time. Your hubby is waiting for you, go look for him. Do hobbies and meet new people that way.
The hardest part about being chronically single, for me, is the insecure people who base their value being in a relationship, so they feel the need to constantly brag about their partner to me, ask me about how my (lack of) love life is, etc. Other people seem to care more about my love life than me.
Man I hate them since I know they see me as someone less than just because I don't have a romantic partner (those ppl are always miserable too so that helps)
Whenever you say "please don't label me" I agree with you so much !!! I've also never dated and I'm giving myself free space to do that with a person whoever that will be
I’ve never felt so seen and connected to a person I’ve never met before. I think I now know why I find your videos so comforting. I really look up to you Via please never stop posting
youre honestly so real for not wanting to date because of fear of breakups, thats me too 😭 mentally i dont think i could ever process a break up, i feel like it would just wreck me. plus i agree with wanting to date someone who is "the one" so you dont have to go through a lot of people and waste so much time and effort.
@@dibamansur4843no, a lot of people find their soulmates because they never did hookups or focused on attracting people. They just did hobbies, and met their soulmate the natural way. Lots of couples who did hookups end up divorced anyways.
@@dibamansur4843how so? my friend didn’t find “the one” until she was 21. her FIRST boyfriend ever and now they’re getting married. Babies are probably next!! 💗
the amount of things we have in common, I’m speechless. Single forever, never dated, kiss, etc., Scorpio, but make it worse, I’m 26. But I’m glad I’m not the only one who has never experienced all this. ✨🖤
same here 🖤scorpio, 26, only ever been on first dates, which all sucked, so I agree that the market is to blame. My friends are amazing and have set the bar very high. But I also realised that it comes down to how open I am to dating. When I'm working towards specific goals, just the thought of introducing a new man into my life stresses me out. 😭
I agree with you so much when you talk about how you want a long term partner. I’m not into dating around, I really just want to find my person that I can grow with and share my life with. I don’t want to worry about having to entertain multiple people because I just want to commit to one person. I can’t do casual lollll like I really want to build a deep genuine relationship with one person
@dibamansur4843 Your comment is even more dumb. There isn't 1 formula to everything not everyone dated around to get a partner. It's clear they are intentional with their relationships and will date someone who they see the potential for a long term relationship.
@@dibamansur4843 Not being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’ll be alone lmao. Some people have lots of close friends or a big family. There are also Aromantic people who have zero interest in romantic relationships.
3:40 I’m 19 yo, have never dated or kissed a boy and I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me "are you lesbian?" and once I even got asked if I was asexual, It’s a shame how people see such a trivial thing like that and think it’s so important that if you’re not interested it must be for some reason, it’s almost like if they see it like a requirement or a need, people would even start treating me different when they found out I've never had a boyfriend
Same!!! I’m 16 and definitely have gone through this with my friends, it’s even worse with growing up stereotypically “pretty” bc people were always so confused when I said I didn’t have any interest in dating
bro realll. thats why i dont tell people :// because most just don't get it. I especially don't want to say it to guys cuz im afraid they'll start thinking they should make their move like no. its not an invitation.
19 too, and throughout my high school years people were discussing my sexuality trying to figure out what "I was" and I also got the famous "I think you're aromantic and asexual" just because I never had a boyfriend and I wasn't interested, at the same time who did they want me to date? The completely immature high school kids who spend their time creating rumors and drama ? Who spend their time drinking and smoking weed and are obsessed with the idea of losing their virginity? Hey no thank's.
As 22 years old, I grew up ugly and just hit my second puberty. When I started to became "pretty" and man tried to close to me, I immediately rejected it. I work hard for this and there's the same guy that insult me before, try to get close now just because I turned "pretty" so I thought that it's a big reason why I stay single. I'm just happy now I'm getting better for myself
Girl I am sitting so close to you on that same boat. I'm turning 23 in a couple of weeks, never dated, kissed, done the deed, nothing. And I fully know that its due to me and my priorities. I hate the dating scene right now and trying to navigate it sounds so draining. I'm completely open to being in a relationship, but I struggle to even develop crushes. I have had several guys approach and flirt with me, but I've just never been interested in them (or was too dense to realize they were flirting). Part of me worries if I'm getting to an age where not having any experience is weird. I've heard some people online even consider it a red flag. Idk, life is crazy, I don't need the stress of dating in my life, but at the same time I want that kind of connection with someone.
Wait whaaaat ?? Never having been in a relationship is NOT a red flag. Not being able to be single and basing a person's value on being in a relationship is one.
I am 29 and never been in relationship or dated. I think it is better to be by yourself rather than with wrong person. I love my own accompany and peaceful life at the same time, I respect myself.
I’m currently 19 and never dated before, after talking to a guy I fell hard… fell ig into a situationship, took so much of my time and thoughts. It’s not worth it, I was waiting for their text, replaying our conversation in my head. It was bad. It’s best to focus on myself and friends/family. And get my glow up and self worth back up!! Thank u so much for this video girl, you’re the best!!! 💗💗
All the stuff about friends is so real, especially for everyone our age like in our twenties. They should definitely be raising your standards, they should be encouraging you. Looking back at my old friend group who completely trashed my name after freshman year of college, like they never wanted to hear about my day, my grades, how my life was going and its such a red flag looking back on it. I am very quick nowadays to identify who I want to be friend and who I never want to see again. Friendships are trial and error and its taken time to learn that they can be a good thing and open back up to them, nothing is a waste of time if it made you happy in the moment
Girl I’m 29, never been in a relationship or on a date. I have high standards and morals with Godly influence that drives my life. The men who HAVE shown interest and approached me, have only wanted one thing- to hook up. Even when I was 260lbs, the guys approaching me didn’t want to date me , they wanted a quick secret hook up with the big girl- and I never once gave them ANYTHING. I’ve never been intimate with a man or kissed one or anything lol and yes sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing to think that I’ve never even been in a relationship- but girl.. When I find a good, Godly man with biblical principles and a kind and loyal heart.. that’s gonna be it! I also know myself and my life, and I know that my habits and reactions do not make me ready to be a GOOD, Godly wife. I have selfish tendencies of not doing things when I really don’t feel like it. And with marriage, it’s all about giving and sacrificing what you want because you’re now in a partnership with another human. So it’s not always about what I want or when I want it, it’s about them too- and I’m so used to doing my own thing at my own pace, whether that’s fast and getting everything done and over with, or procrastinating for a month. So there’s a lot for me to work on. I don’t share how I feel, I bottle it in. I was also in a collision with an 18 wheeler when I was 17 so 12 years ago- and I’ve had 27 surgeries bc of that so I’m not an easy person to love or take care of. I’m in pain 24/7 and sometimes it’s so bad that I don’t get out of bed all week except to use the bathroom and bathe, I’ll do a whole week without speaking more than a few words If my family asks me a question or something. I have severe IBS so it’s just annoying to travel with me or to be with me and I know that and yet I can’t do anything about it However the personality traits, I CAN do something about and I’m working on it! There’s so many people in their 20’s & 30s who have never dated or been in a serious relationship and often times it’s not our fault, it’s just that we haven’t met the right guy yet. I’ll never lower my morals or standards just to date a guy bc he gives me attention , I will wait for the right guy!!
27 turning 28 and same situation. I've never got in a relationship because I've always felt I was not ready. I'll wait the right girl! When I find the one I'll give it to her as a gift. Until then, I won't give it for free! I feel that, nowadays, young people treat themselves so bad due to peer pressure. I mean... I would like to have someone but not anyone. I can't understand why people stay with other people just due to interests or commodity, That freaks me out. About finding the one, as a software engineer and as I work from home, It's a bit hard to find it through natural process, but I am also working on it! Keep your head up as I will. we will find our other half, I have no doubts!!! :)
You're smart! Wait for the right one! I married the wrong guy and finally got out of a 11 year toxic marriage last year! Take your time! The right one will find you!
@@barbosa7797so smart. My parents met when my dad was 28 and my mom 22. I believe they were both virgins too (they had had a few girlfriend/boyfriend but that didn't work.) Stayed together their whole lives and I never saw them fight. Each had found the right one!
This is honestly so real. You have so much free time when you're not in a relationship. SO MUCH. If you're not lonely/looking then there's seriously no point. Enjoy and own your freedom (as you have been doing)!! Signed, someone who just turned 30. 😢
stoooop how did you put my exact thoughts into words? Dating to marry is the best honestly, not knowing whether one only likes guys, being late to the game (and therefore I'm a bit uncertain tbh) etc. etc. it's things that I suppose I'll carry with me into my 20s
Love how you voice so many young women's thoughts, especially those of us who haven't dated or done anything before but also don't want to do it just because. Really enjoy your channel :)
As someone who has been through their fair share of heartbreaks and also believed that dating is a waste of time if there isn't a long-term future or it doesn't work out, I just want to say that dating to learn is not a waste of time. You learn SO much about yourself and about what you want in a partner--and you simply cannot figure that out by being single. Of course, most people do not go into a relationship thinking it will not work out, you just never know until you really try and see for yourself. Compatibility, chemistry, having shared goals, changing over time--all of these are so complex and you cannot figure it out before entering a relationship with someone else. Dating is hard but that is the way it is. :/
i think both her view and your view can be true :) pretty sure via knows alot about herself by spending time with herself + she knows what she wants in friendships and says she would look for something similar IF she were to look for someone
@@indecisiveCHIBI and she'll experience it, or she won't. it doesn't really matter and it's not someone else's decision either. as someone who has dated around a lot i regret it
@@moths.for.valentine I'm not telling her to date around. I'm just giving her the insight because I also had the mindset of "I don't want to waste my time." Like ofc no one does-- I don't enter relationships wasting my time but sometimes it doesn't work out and it sucks but I wouldn't call it a waste of time.
Coming from someone who is in a long term-relationship right now, I’ve learned to give myself me time. I would go on solo dates and making sure I don’t always have to be with my partner. I think as I get older ( I’m 23), I’ve learned to give myself time and not always depend or be with my partner all the time. I used to always want to do things with my partner, but now I do enjoy my own company. Even if you are not in a relationship, take yourself out, love yourself and show up for yourself, take care of yourself. That’s the most important aspect before you get in a relationship.
girll i turned 23 few days ago, scorpio, intp and i have never dated, let alone had a fling or situation and i relate to almost everything in this video that I'm amazed to find someone who's really similar to me.
As someone who has dated I think you have a great mindset about dating. It does take a big investment & you need strong boundaries to date without being drained. Loved the grwm chit chat & i’d like to hear more about your content creation journey 🫶🏽🫶🏽
girll, I relate to literally everything you've talked about, specifically the relationship aspect and the fact that we're the same age made me feel so much comfort. Thank you
Via, genuinely this felt like having a conversation with a good friend I haven't seen in a while. I resonated with everything you said down to a tea girl! I look forward to your videos, you're doing great!
It's just WILD to me how I can relate so much to someone so different from me 😅 Nonetheless I guess humans are humans despite differences and what units us is bigger than what separates us ❤ I luv this Via girl ngl
I started dating 2 years ago when i was 24, now i am 26 and my boyfriend left me, i feel like i should have focused on having close friends because my bf was my only friend. I think it is better when you have friends that you can count on during difficult times and also enjoy happy times. Thank you so much for another video Via! I wish you the best ❤
this is why I follow you and connect with you so much. i feel seen when you talk about relationships since I am 18 years old and never been in a relationship and before I used to feel left behind and now I don't feel like that. what you say about you never being in a relationship is what I feel 100%. i really enjoy your videos Via because I feel seen by you.
i love u lia , i had a really hard day today like all my classmates ignored me and i was outcasted . i burtsted out asa i reached home and opened my laptop. im so happy u exist like you are my comfort youtuber . thank u
Omg Via everything you said about dating is *exactly* how I feel, like its quite insane, it's like you just pulled it out of my brain😂Thank you for sharing because I don't think I've ever heard anyone say something I related to this much before on this topic! Love your vids x
You are so relatable on so many subjects thats insane! Like from not labelling, to being scared of the ocean to not forcing things you don't like (eg alcohol) and so on. I love you girl!
You say you really admire someone who has generosity, and a lot of love to give. I’ve only watched a handful of your videos today, but I see that quality in you a lot! Seeing you interact with your friends is very wholesome.
I'm a little older than you and when I was around your age I was in the exact same position about dating! it's very ok to be "late" to the game and prefer not to bounce around dates just because everybody is doing the same, you'll meet the right person eventually and you just need to be open hearted to the experience. I'm engaged now to my first ever boyfriend and the love we have makes up for everything I "missed" in my 22 years of not dating ❤
2:31 no cause i started watching you last year and now you have inspired me to start uploading videos! its so so amazing to see your growth on this platform and i am very proud of you via !!!
this resonated so much and also so relieving to hear that i‘m not the only one at 24 with no experience at dating/romantic relationships whatsoever. thanks for this vid, via
we have the same philosophy on relationships it's crazy! I'm 21 and also never dated, I've been here when you were still 70k im shocked you're 607k now!!!! Good job for sticking to this, Via :)
This was honestly such a good relaxing video. I love the way you talk and I can relate to a lot of it (mostly the never dated anyone or anything) and to hear someone with the same experience just feels very nice. So, thankyou ❤️
Honestly, as someone who is turning 23 in a few days, just a day after yours hehe 💟 I find it comforting that I'm not alone in having these experiences (Being scared and not having experienced relationships yet). It kinda makes me realize that I dont have to force myself just because some other are experiencing it already. Anyway, it's nice to watch someone like you, you're like the older sister we never had. 💛💟
genuinely im really appreciative of you saying ALL of this. im 21, just graduated with zero prospects (which is actually an environment ive lowkey created for myself by not caring about my own future), grew up overweight and 'ugly' so never experienced being desireable so don't really understand why my friends are constantly after their next fix of it, which is good because my life is not consumed by dating, but also kinda sucks because i guess it wouldve been nice, but i literally do not know what im missing out on. i cant classify my sexuality because being undesireable has killed my own desire and i dont really find anyone attractive until i get to know them and find the things i may love about them (a pattern i've noticed but that has never grown to anything romantic -- but that doesn't mean unsubstantial, because i have some pretty great friends!)
It’s so nice to see someone who has similar experience as me, lowkey we had a very similar life girl I’m not even kidding. Like when you said the things about using art as coping during teen years and now wanting to go back to actually enjoy it, it’s all very similar to my experience too. I’ll also turn 21 in December and I’m actually planning to go to grad school after I graduate this spring, and i was feeling embarrassed that I have basically no experience with dating and all, but your perspective on it is very cool, like it’ll happen someday and that we shouldn’t compare ourselves with others, thank you for sharing all of this!!!
I also started dating when I was 23. I'm a late bloomer also and I'm proud of that. I work on my self first, got confident being alone for a long time and that taught me a lot. Now, I am already 28 and with the love of my life. :)
You have no idea how much this video helped me feel better about myself and the fact I have never dated anyone. I feel really insecure about it and always feeling left out. Thanks to this video I realise that I’m not only one in that position and that it’s doesn’t mean anything bad. At one point I even thought that it must be something wrong with me so thank you for proving me wrong.
I resonated so much with this. I went on my FIRST ever date when I was 23. Despite his niceness, I couldn’t see him as more than a friend. My friends and family kept telling me to give him a chance, but I think they mistook my enthusiasm for desperation. I’m ready and willing to find a life partner and put in the work to maintain that relationship, but I’m not looking for just anybody. I’m also not willing to put up with dating just for the sake of it, so I don’t see myself wasting time in a situationship. I also haven’t had genuine a crush on anyone in real life in so long. And I absolutely agree with your sentiments; unless I find someone who can show me NOW the qualities I’m looking for (commitment, initiative, maturity), I’m not interested in daydreaming about the what-could-bes.
Via this video made me so happy. I’ve been watching your videos for not that long but I’ve been noticing that I can relate to most of the things you say and what your opinions are. I could just never describe my feelings as well as you did. So this video helped me a lot. I think you are an amazing person and you give me so much inspiration and insight. I’m glad you make the kind of content that speaks to me on such a level and gives me something to relate to.
this might be the only time ive watched a yt vid and related to everything that has been said. ive always felt alone in my experiences but this made me feel seen and not alone. reading the comments reassured that as well💕
The more i watch your videos the more I realise how much we are alike. Honestly it's very comforting knowing someone is or feels the same way you do, because sometimes i wonder if i am a weird one so watching videos like that gives me comfort
your 'standards' in dating is literally my standards, along with the thing that i also want the person to have a clear past. not because having a past is a bad thing per se, but because if they were in a relationship and it's my first, then i would go paranoid. i have this thing, and good for them if their previous relationship didn't work out, but the next one isn't going to be me. i just want my first to be my last and want the same for them too.
I started watching for video a while back, and I feel like you're a lot more mature than most adults really are. You should be proud of yourself, and who cares about chasing after guys, they should be chasing after you. You know what you're worth, who you are as an individual, and you stick to your moral principals and I look up to you for those reasons. Whatever you want, you're going to get it. Love you♥♥♥😝😝😝😝
i very rarely comment about things like this online, but i really wish I had friends like you. i'm in the same boat you mentioned about feeling bad when you tell friends your accomplishments because it feels like bragging. i feel elated when i see people i care about get their bags, but i feel like i don't receive the same amount of encouragement when it's my time to "win." so happy to hear you've got new people around you who celebrate things with you!
you’re the first person on the internet that i relate to soo much 💗 i absolutely adore you and your content wish you all the best in life 💖 kisses from Poland !!
I’m also like you. I’m 23 old, never kissed anyone, nothing. I think I grew up so scared of everything, I don’t trust guys easily… it’s difficult to make me feel comfortable. I know exactly what I want, but it’s so hard to find someone that I like and he likes me back. Also I don’t socialize much, so I don’t know many people. This sucks so much.
Omg Via, i found your insta a little bit ago and your youtube now, and I really love your vibe! fellow november scorpio hehe, and your fits are so fire! I love your comment about just knowing what you want and wanting to remain unlabeled, i feel like people are so OBSESSED with labels, like personally i say I'm bi for ease of communication, but I try to avoid labeling myself because I don't feel attraction the same way as most people. And nothing gets on my nerves more than if someone tries to assert their version of "normal" onto me, like girl bye.
I think this is one of my favorite video doing make up/skincare while talking/ranting it feels like you're really talking to me while i listen and pause to give my own thoughts lol
I understand how it can be draining for someone to have a relationship, but it really depends on if you find someone suitable for you. Im in a long term relationship and we´ve learned how to manage our time. Since he understands that I love being alone and having time for myself and my friends and I understand that he likes being with his friends too. It does take some trial and error, and of course I think being single is AMAZING and so important for a person. But I also think that being in a GOOD and healthy relationship is more like fertilizer, its really great and beautiful but you don´t NEED it to live a happy life.
I'm also a 22 year old woman whose never had a significant other. I relate SO MUCH in this video, feeling late to the game, feeling inexperienced or behind is such a real thing. I relate so much, like feeling like if I'm gonna date, it will be for the one. Situationships suck. Thanks for opening up, I feel like theres a lot more feminine people who feel this way but are too afraid to express it. Thanks for this video :)
You avoided such drama and angst. Good for you. You didn't miss anything at all. I'm 47 and the one thing I wish I could have said to my teenage self (besides save 10% of each paycheck) is: boys are not that important. YOU are. I can't tell how much time I've spent crying and waiting and stressing about boys. Sex and romance is so overrated. Go with the nice one. Now I'm dating fictional characters lol and if I get a new real boyfriend (oh I will) he will need to be a fucking gem❤
Hi I’m 21 and never dated… one or two people asked me out in high school but i was and i am not confident at all. When i was younger i actually were scared of boys idk why. At 19/20 i was wondering if it was my standard that were too hight but as you said, i want a long term partner (and ya know how relationships are these days). And i don’t want to jump on the first guy that pay me attention… (btw sorry for my English im not native…😅). What i wanted so say to the girls that are in the same situation than me is : « you’re not weird, don’t try to please your family or friends by dating if you don’t want to! Just take your time, YOU ARE NOT ALONE ♡
I'll be 25 and same girl, but I feel totally fine about it. It comes when it comes, that's how I think about it. I'm very grateful for not having dated before, because if I look back to my friends and all the others who had dated in school etc., they all are not together anymore. Some had dramas and heart breaks. I don't think I missed out anything. I'm glad I had time to focus on myself, finding myself, focusing on my studies and I'm still growing. I also don't like the idea of being attached to someone yet, because I don't know where I will live in the future, I might live abroad or travel for a long time since I'm interested in learning languages and cultures. Being in a relationship could be a problem and lead to giving up my dreams and goals, needing to settle down somewhere. I have a friend who got married and asks her husband for permission to meet friends etc. and she does it so he feels like 'he is the man'. Seeing those things makes me glad being single ngl. You mentioned that you're worrying of not being experienced while your partner might be. Maybe you will also be the first for your future partner and have your first together. If not, a person that truly loves you will be glad to be your first experience. So view it positively and let the time give you the right one. I have friends who were engaged then broke up, now she got married at 30 with a guy she met at an island while travelling in Turkey. Another friend was complaining about being single while others have found a partner, one year later and now she has a boyfriend she met through pubg game. I also know a guy who was so desperate to be in a relationship, just because his friends are and he didn't want to be singel. So he said he would accept anything, even open relationship as long he is not single. I told him to have some values and that he shouldn't be so easy to get and appreciate himself more and just wait for the one. (He even asked me out...😭)
For everyone here, I also never dated no one until mid 20's. I was always sure I was ugly, no one ever asked me out blabla. Until I got into therapy and realised there was so much more to it. I had to accept I MYSELF had a problem and be humble enough to seek help. 3 years after therapy I started going out on dates. Everything I was so sure about myself and date was just my brain bad coping protecting mechanism. I also found out Im bissexual.
Even though I'm an "old subscriber" & know most of the general stuff, it's still fun to watch these types of videos. Also that makeup turned out _GOOD_ 🔥
I resonated with this video so much. I was in a situationship about two months ago and never again will I put myself through that. Everything goes so well until you ask them if you can progress in the relationship which just resulted in her telling me she doesnt know what she wants yet and ghosting me. I used to believe that older people are the mature ones but apparently that wasn't the case as we were both 24 years old lol.
Via is literally the best friend everyone needs man. I love your content so much that I binge and rewatch your channel again and again. Just be yourself and be happy. Until then, PREACH QUEEN!! :3
Gurly being so real when she said that she knows what she want and is not willing to settle I situationships because that sucks honestly. Never resonated so much before. Love ya Via, keep on slaying 🫶🏻
i feel that a lot. i didnt date anyone until 28 because there was nobody i wanted to invest that much time and effort to. but because i wait until i find the right person, i feel like i know what im looking for better than if i were to date during college or younger. and the wait is really worth it.
Birthday girl coming up !🥳 Happy Birthday Via in advance ! 🎈🎂 I really enjoyed your video today ♥️ Thank you for posting and expressing your thoughts! Made my day and I’m sure many others as well ! As far as the dating topic I’m in the mindset that I don’t want to just date around these days . If I were to go on a date I much rather prefer to get a feel for a woman’s character ,personality , how we vibe and just overall chemistry together 🧪♥️. I guess my preference would be to get to know the girl some first ✨ Hope you’re enjoying your new place and area btw !
Im in school for art, and no, it doesn't take the joy out of it if your addiction IS art. I love it here even though Im tired. Im so glad this is my passion. Now, as in the video Im the same way, but Im 18 bout to be 19 😭. I am just now trying to get to be myself and learn about what I like for me. Im sad. I've never been in a relationship, but after talking it out and hearing you a beautiful woman, say you just dont feel like it right now, but you'd like it one day, feels comforting. Ill be happy when I bump into them but, I wanna learn to be ok without that.
This makes me feel SOOOO much better because i’ve literally never had a crush before and people always perceive me as aromantic or asexual when I genuinely just haven’t found anyone that I want to be with yet 😭. I’m only 17 but it made me feel so behind. It’s taken a while but i’m just now realizing that it’s okay and everyone moves at their own pace. I’m so glad i’m not the only one who’s experienced this 😭😭
me too and i’m 20. i think i’m just really picky in who i want to be surrounded by let alone date. atp i’m just leaving it up to fate bc there has never been someone i have had genuine interest in. dw you are not alone 😭
You have no idea how much this video helped me🥹 Like girl, I'll turn 22 at the end of November, and my dating life is same as yours. And the fact that you talked about this this much honesty😭 Thank you🫂It felt like a "girl talk💌" as your my order sister🧚🏻♀️✨️So thank you for making me feel alright with where I am💌
after watching the whole video I can conclude that you are just a high-value human being and that's simply so admirable! If anything I'd want, it'd be that mindset of yours. So fucking bold❤
It's so crazy how I said the EXACT SAME THING to the guy I'm talking to right now. "I'm willing to communicate everything", "I don't believe in potential, I only see results". I feel like I'm very cold blooded in a way you know? Like relationships are suppose to be romantic and all, but being so logical loses the core of it? Idkkkk... And omg sameeee, If I date someone, I want that person to be the one. It's just crazy how I said those exact words and have like 90% same beliefs. Oh yea, did I say, ffs I'm also intp.
I feel like you’re my twin!! Maybe it’s bc we are INTP but literally I have experienced everything you said (Minus the fact that I’ve never and still don’t have any friends). I’m 22, just graduated(stem girlie), can’t get a job, no dating experience, ambiguous sexuality, and dreams of being an oil painter… seeing you makes me feel so reassured that I don’t have to do things on other people’s timeline and I can do things my way.❤
'it's not my fault I dont have a crush... we should blame the crush market.' lmao she's so funny, I love this channel.
Ikr!😂
She's so real for that
22 here, also grew up “ugly” and slowing coming out of my shell recently. i 100% relate with the not-dating reasons (fear, waste of time if i do break up) yet also very much open to finding “the one”. thank you for sharing your experience!
Same but I’m 21. As a teen I started doing makeup and that’s when I got male attention. I stopped because I felt icky for a bit that people only liked me when I looked a certain way but now I’m getting back into it. Relationships scare me and cause of my childhood experiences, I overthink way too much haha. I’ll get there eventually.
Omg same!!! And people around me encourage me to start dating just to experience it , also sometimes Indirectly make fun of me??? It’s ok tho bcoz I know what I want and I tend to think more practically. Everyone has different timelines and to date because of FOMO is digging your own grave , lol
@@strawberrytiramisuif you apply make up again, you’ll attract men who like your make up face. Men need to know that women are bare faced at home, and should accept that. Your natural face is your real you. With acne, wrinkles etc. All normal. You’re soulmate is someone who accepts you 100% for who you truly are. And you only want to spend time with your soulmate right, and not with some bad boy who wasted your time. Your hubby is waiting for you, go look for him. Do hobbies and meet new people that way.
@@rikawrites7104 sammmmeee
The hardest part about being chronically single, for me, is the insecure people who base their value being in a relationship, so they feel the need to constantly brag about their partner to me, ask me about how my (lack of) love life is, etc. Other people seem to care more about my love life than me.
Man I hate them since I know they see me as someone less than just because I don't have a romantic partner (those ppl are always miserable too so that helps)
Whenever you say "please don't label me" I agree with you so much !!! I've also never dated and I'm giving myself free space to do that with a person whoever that will be
I’ve never felt so seen and connected to a person I’ve never met before. I think I now know why I find your videos so comforting. I really look up to you Via please never stop posting
Aw that's such sweet words 🥰
youre honestly so real for not wanting to date because of fear of breakups, thats me too 😭 mentally i dont think i could ever process a break up, i feel like it would just wreck me. plus i agree with wanting to date someone who is "the one" so you dont have to go through a lot of people and waste so much time and effort.
That’s an unrealistic take
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Not completely
if at the ends, only break up happened then dating is really a waste of time. @@dibamansur4843
@@dibamansur4843no, a lot of people find their soulmates because they never did hookups or focused on attracting people. They just did hobbies, and met their soulmate the natural way. Lots of couples who did hookups end up divorced anyways.
@@dibamansur4843how so? my friend didn’t find “the one” until she was 21. her FIRST boyfriend ever and now they’re getting married. Babies are probably next!! 💗
the amount of things we have in common, I’m speechless. Single forever, never dated, kiss, etc., Scorpio, but make it worse, I’m 26. But I’m glad I’m not the only one who has never experienced all this. ✨🖤
same here 🖤scorpio, 26, only ever been on first dates, which all sucked, so I agree that the market is to blame. My friends are amazing and have set the bar very high. But I also realised that it comes down to how open I am to dating. When I'm working towards specific goals, just the thought of introducing a new man into my life stresses me out. 😭
Don't wanna ruin mood but ladies i see myself in 10 years as same as you I'm just a 16 yr child
I agree with you so much when you talk about how you want a long term partner. I’m not into dating around, I really just want to find my person that I can grow with and share my life with. I don’t want to worry about having to entertain multiple people because I just want to commit to one person. I can’t do casual lollll like I really want to build a deep genuine relationship with one person
You can’t find someone long term if you don’t date around that’s so a dumb take you gonna end up alone
@dibamansur4843 Your comment is even more dumb. There isn't 1 formula to everything not everyone dated around to get a partner. It's clear they are intentional with their relationships and will date someone who they see the potential for a long term relationship.
@@Jade-iw3ll what you saying is not even logical you need to date around to know if the person is right for you
@@dibamansur4843 Not being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’ll be alone lmao. Some people have lots of close friends or a big family. There are also Aromantic people who have zero interest in romantic relationships.
Ditto! I wish you the best!
"I dont believe in potential I only believe in results." Op-!! She ate with that!!
@@ladydiamond6611 Never heard something more dumb
3:40 I’m 19 yo, have never dated or kissed a boy and I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me "are you lesbian?" and once I even got asked if I was asexual, It’s a shame how people see such a trivial thing like that and think it’s so important that if you’re not interested it must be for some reason, it’s almost like if they see it like a requirement or a need, people would even start treating me different when they found out I've never had a boyfriend
Same!!! I’m 16 and definitely have gone through this with my friends, it’s even worse with growing up stereotypically “pretty” bc people were always so confused when I said I didn’t have any interest in dating
bro realll. thats why i dont tell people :// because most just don't get it. I especially don't want to say it to guys cuz im afraid they'll start thinking they should make their move like no. its not an invitation.
So true ❤
19 too, and throughout my high school years people were discussing my sexuality trying to figure out what "I was" and I also got the famous "I think you're aromantic and asexual" just because I never had a boyfriend and I wasn't interested, at the same time who did they want me to date? The completely immature high school kids who spend their time creating rumors and drama ?
Who spend their time drinking and smoking weed and are obsessed with the idea of losing their virginity? Hey no thank's.
As 22 years old, I grew up ugly and just hit my second puberty. When I started to became "pretty" and man tried to close to me, I immediately rejected it. I work hard for this and there's the same guy that insult me before, try to get close now just because I turned "pretty" so I thought that it's a big reason why I stay single. I'm just happy now I'm getting better for myself
Girl I am sitting so close to you on that same boat. I'm turning 23 in a couple of weeks, never dated, kissed, done the deed, nothing. And I fully know that its due to me and my priorities. I hate the dating scene right now and trying to navigate it sounds so draining. I'm completely open to being in a relationship, but I struggle to even develop crushes. I have had several guys approach and flirt with me, but I've just never been interested in them (or was too dense to realize they were flirting).
Part of me worries if I'm getting to an age where not having any experience is weird. I've heard some people online even consider it a red flag. Idk, life is crazy, I don't need the stress of dating in my life, but at the same time I want that kind of connection with someone.
Wait whaaaat ?? Never having been in a relationship is NOT a red flag. Not being able to be single and basing a person's value on being in a relationship is one.
I am 29 and never been in relationship or dated. I think it is better to be by yourself rather than with wrong person. I love my own accompany and peaceful life at the same time, I respect myself.
I’m currently 19 and never dated before, after talking to a guy I fell hard… fell ig into a situationship, took so much of my time and thoughts. It’s not worth it, I was waiting for their text, replaying our conversation in my head. It was bad. It’s best to focus on myself and friends/family. And get my glow up and self worth back up!! Thank u so much for this video girl, you’re the best!!! 💗💗
Same girl same.. even the situationship ruined my mental health so...
All the stuff about friends is so real, especially for everyone our age like in our twenties. They should definitely be raising your standards, they should be encouraging you. Looking back at my old friend group who completely trashed my name after freshman year of college, like they never wanted to hear about my day, my grades, how my life was going and its such a red flag looking back on it. I am very quick nowadays to identify who I want to be friend and who I never want to see again. Friendships are trial and error and its taken time to learn that they can be a good thing and open back up to them, nothing is a waste of time if it made you happy in the moment
i feel so connected with you because i'm your age and never dated before, you've become my comfort youtuber 💘
Girl I’m 29, never been in a relationship or on a date. I have high standards and morals with Godly influence that drives my life.
The men who HAVE shown interest and approached me, have only wanted one thing- to hook up. Even when I was 260lbs, the guys approaching me didn’t want to date me , they wanted a quick secret hook up with the big girl- and I never once gave them ANYTHING.
I’ve never been intimate with a man or kissed one or anything lol and yes sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing to think that I’ve never even been in a relationship- but girl..
When I find a good, Godly man with biblical principles and a kind and loyal heart.. that’s gonna be it!
I also know myself and my life, and I know that my habits and reactions do not make me ready to be a GOOD, Godly wife. I have selfish tendencies of not doing things when I really don’t feel like it. And with marriage, it’s all about giving and sacrificing what you want because you’re now in a partnership with another human. So it’s not always about what I want or when I want it, it’s about them too- and I’m so used to doing my own thing at my own pace, whether that’s fast and getting everything done and over with, or procrastinating for a month.
So there’s a lot for me to work on. I don’t share how I feel, I bottle it in.
I was also in a collision with an 18 wheeler when I was 17 so 12 years ago- and I’ve had 27 surgeries bc of that so I’m not an easy person to love or take care of.
I’m in pain 24/7 and sometimes it’s so bad that I don’t get out of bed all week except to use the bathroom and bathe, I’ll do a whole week without speaking more than a few words If my family asks me a question or something.
I have severe IBS so it’s just annoying to travel with me or to be with me and I know that and yet I can’t do anything about it
However the personality traits, I CAN do something about and I’m working on it!
There’s so many people in their 20’s & 30s who have never dated or been in a serious relationship and often times it’s not our fault, it’s just that we haven’t met the right guy yet.
I’ll never lower my morals or standards just to date a guy bc he gives me attention , I will wait for the right guy!!
27 turning 28 and same situation. I've never got in a relationship because I've always felt I was not ready. I'll wait the right girl! When I find the one I'll give it to her as a gift. Until then, I won't give it for free!
I feel that, nowadays, young people treat themselves so bad due to peer pressure. I mean... I would like to have someone but not anyone. I can't understand why people stay with other people just due to interests or commodity, That freaks me out.
About finding the one, as a software engineer and as I work from home, It's a bit hard to find it through natural process, but I am also working on it!
Keep your head up as I will. we will find our other half, I have no doubts!!! :)
On the same page (29yrs)
You're smart! Wait for the right one! I married the wrong guy and finally got out of a 11 year toxic marriage last year! Take your time! The right one will find you!
@@barbosa7797so smart. My parents met when my dad was 28 and my mom 22. I believe they were both virgins too (they had had a few girlfriend/boyfriend but that didn't work.) Stayed together their whole lives and I never saw them fight. Each had found the right one!
Bless you!! May God be with you.
This is honestly so real. You have so much free time when you're not in a relationship. SO MUCH. If you're not lonely/looking then there's seriously no point. Enjoy and own your freedom (as you have been doing)!!
Signed, someone who just turned 30. 😢
stoooop how did you put my exact thoughts into words? Dating to marry is the best honestly, not knowing whether one only likes guys, being late to the game (and therefore I'm a bit uncertain tbh) etc. etc. it's things that I suppose I'll carry with me into my 20s
Love how you voice so many young women's thoughts, especially those of us who haven't dated or done anything before but also don't want to do it just because. Really enjoy your channel :)
As someone who has been through their fair share of heartbreaks and also believed that dating is a waste of time if there isn't a long-term future or it doesn't work out, I just want to say that dating to learn is not a waste of time. You learn SO much about yourself and about what you want in a partner--and you simply cannot figure that out by being single. Of course, most people do not go into a relationship thinking it will not work out, you just never know until you really try and see for yourself. Compatibility, chemistry, having shared goals, changing over time--all of these are so complex and you cannot figure it out before entering a relationship with someone else. Dating is hard but that is the way it is. :/
i think both her view and your view can be true :) pretty sure via knows alot about herself by spending time with herself + she knows what she wants in friendships and says she would look for something similar IF she were to look for someone
@@moths.for.valentine True to some extent, I think often times people don't know what they want until they experience it for themselves.
@@indecisiveCHIBI and she'll experience it, or she won't. it doesn't really matter and it's not someone else's decision either. as someone who has dated around a lot i regret it
@@moths.for.valentine I'm not telling her to date around. I'm just giving her the insight because I also had the mindset of "I don't want to waste my time." Like ofc no one does-- I don't enter relationships wasting my time but sometimes it doesn't work out and it sucks but I wouldn't call it a waste of time.
@@indecisiveCHIBI I was about to say the same her view seems limited
Coming from someone who is in a long term-relationship right now, I’ve learned to give myself me time. I would go on solo dates and making sure I don’t always have to be with my partner. I think as I get older ( I’m 23), I’ve learned to give myself time and not always depend or be with my partner all the time. I used to always want to do things with my partner, but now I do enjoy my own company.
Even if you are not in a relationship, take yourself out, love yourself and show up for yourself, take care of yourself. That’s the most important aspect before you get in a relationship.
girll i turned 23 few days ago, scorpio, intp and i have never dated, let alone had a fling or situation and i relate to almost everything in this video that I'm amazed to find someone who's really similar to me.
I'm also a scorpio and Intp Lol it must really be a thing with us 🤣
She's such a beautiful human - inside and out!
As someone who has dated I think you have a great mindset about dating. It does take a big investment & you need strong boundaries to date without being drained. Loved the grwm chit chat & i’d like to hear more about your content creation journey 🫶🏽🫶🏽
girll, I relate to literally everything you've talked about, specifically the relationship aspect and the fact that we're the same age made me feel so much comfort. Thank you
Guys wake up via posted
Via, genuinely this felt like having a conversation with a good friend I haven't seen in a while. I resonated with everything you said down to a tea girl! I look forward to your videos, you're doing great!
2:51 this whole bit about relationships is exactly how I feel! I thought I was the only one? I’m happy I’m not alone
It's just WILD to me how I can relate so much to someone so different from me 😅 Nonetheless I guess humans are humans despite differences and what units us is bigger than what separates us ❤ I luv this Via girl ngl
I started dating 2 years ago when i was 24, now i am 26 and my boyfriend left me, i feel like i should have focused on having close friends because my bf was my only friend. I think it is better when you have friends that you can count on during difficult times and also enjoy happy times. Thank you so much for another video Via! I wish you the best ❤
this is why I follow you and connect with you so much. i feel seen when you talk about relationships since I am 18 years old and never been in a relationship and before I used to feel left behind and now I don't feel like that. what you say about you never being in a relationship is what I feel 100%. i really enjoy your videos Via because I feel seen by you.
i love u lia , i had a really hard day today like all my classmates ignored me and i was outcasted . i burtsted out asa i reached home and opened my laptop. im so happy u exist like you are my comfort youtuber . thank u
Omg Via everything you said about dating is *exactly* how I feel, like its quite insane, it's like you just pulled it out of my brain😂Thank you for sharing because I don't think I've ever heard anyone say something I related to this much before on this topic! Love your vids x
i missed your chatty / makeup vids!!! so happy to see them back
You are so relatable on so many subjects thats insane! Like from not labelling, to being scared of the ocean to not forcing things you don't like (eg alcohol) and so on. I love you girl!
You say you really admire someone who has generosity, and a lot of love to give. I’ve only watched a handful of your videos today, but I see that quality in you a lot! Seeing you interact with your friends is very wholesome.
I'm a little older than you and when I was around your age I was in the exact same position about dating! it's very ok to be "late" to the game and prefer not to bounce around dates just because everybody is doing the same, you'll meet the right person eventually and you just need to be open hearted to the experience. I'm engaged now to my first ever boyfriend and the love we have makes up for everything I "missed" in my 22 years of not dating ❤
2:31 no cause i started watching you last year and now you have inspired me to start uploading videos! its so so amazing to see your growth on this platform and i am very proud of you via !!!
this resonated so much and also so relieving to hear that i‘m not the only one at 24 with no experience at dating/romantic relationships whatsoever. thanks for this vid, via
we have the same philosophy on relationships it's crazy! I'm 21 and also never dated, I've been here when you were still 70k im shocked you're 607k now!!!! Good job for sticking to this, Via :)
This was honestly such a good relaxing video. I love the way you talk and I can relate to a lot of it (mostly the never dated anyone or anything) and to hear someone with the same experience just feels very nice. So, thankyou ❤️
Honestly, as someone who is turning 23 in a few days, just a day after yours hehe 💟 I find it comforting that I'm not alone in having these experiences (Being scared and not having experienced relationships yet). It kinda makes me realize that I dont have to force myself just because some other are experiencing it already. Anyway, it's nice to watch someone like you, you're like the older sister we never had. 💛💟
I enjoyed meeting you, I started watching your channel due to your honesty of anxiety. I'd like GRWM that shows your products. Your makeup is so cute
I feel like I am you, you are me. So glad someone else has these thoughts and problems
genuinely im really appreciative of you saying ALL of this. im 21, just graduated with zero prospects (which is actually an environment ive lowkey created for myself by not caring about my own future), grew up overweight and 'ugly' so never experienced being desireable so don't really understand why my friends are constantly after their next fix of it, which is good because my life is not consumed by dating, but also kinda sucks because i guess it wouldve been nice, but i literally do not know what im missing out on. i cant classify my sexuality because being undesireable has killed my own desire and i dont really find anyone attractive until i get to know them and find the things i may love about them (a pattern i've noticed but that has never grown to anything romantic -- but that doesn't mean unsubstantial, because i have some pretty great friends!)
Content like yours makes me feel so seen, there are barely people like us and it’s nice to gather around since we always feel outcasted
It’s so nice to see someone who has similar experience as me, lowkey we had a very similar life girl I’m not even kidding. Like when you said the things about using art as coping during teen years and now wanting to go back to actually enjoy it, it’s all very similar to my experience too. I’ll also turn 21 in December and I’m actually planning to go to grad school after I graduate this spring, and i was feeling embarrassed that I have basically no experience with dating and all, but your perspective on it is very cool, like it’ll happen someday and that we shouldn’t compare ourselves with others, thank you for sharing all of this!!!
I also started dating when I was 23. I'm a late bloomer also and I'm proud of that. I work on my self first, got confident being alone for a long time and that taught me a lot. Now, I am already 28 and with the love of my life. :)
Genuinely i love hearing you talk. In friendships having deeper discussions is my favorite thing. ❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing with us Via❤❤
Yess breakups are DRAINING, a hole in your chest and memories coming back and forth,
You have no idea how much this video helped me feel better about myself and the fact I have never dated anyone. I feel really insecure about it and always feeling left out. Thanks to this video I realise that I’m not only one in that position and that it’s doesn’t mean anything bad. At one point I even thought that it must be something wrong with me so thank you for proving me wrong.
I resonated so much with this. I went on my FIRST ever date when I was 23. Despite his niceness, I couldn’t see him as more than a friend. My friends and family kept telling me to give him a chance, but I think they mistook my enthusiasm for desperation. I’m ready and willing to find a life partner and put in the work to maintain that relationship, but I’m not looking for just anybody. I’m also not willing to put up with dating just for the sake of it, so I don’t see myself wasting time in a situationship. I also haven’t had genuine a crush on anyone in real life in so long. And I absolutely agree with your sentiments; unless I find someone who can show me NOW the qualities I’m looking for (commitment, initiative, maturity), I’m not interested in daydreaming about the what-could-bes.
Via this video made me so happy. I’ve been watching your videos for not that long but I’ve been noticing that I can relate to most of the things you say and what your opinions are. I could just never describe my feelings as well as you did. So this video helped me a lot.
I think you are an amazing person and you give me so much inspiration and insight. I’m glad you make the kind of content that speaks to me on such a level and gives me something to relate to.
I just love you sooo much!❤🫶my fav yapper and its a grwm this is such great introduction to get you as a person
this might be the only time ive watched a yt vid and related to everything that has been said. ive always felt alone in my experiences but this made me feel seen and not alone. reading the comments reassured that as well💕
The more i watch your videos the more I realise how much we are alike. Honestly it's very comforting knowing someone is or feels the same way you do, because sometimes i wonder if i am a weird one so watching videos like that gives me comfort
I am so happy yayyyy. Love you Via. From Kenya. I also love this community you've built. The comment section is relaxing.
your 'standards' in dating is literally my standards, along with the thing that i also want the person to have a clear past. not because having a past is a bad thing per se, but because if they were in a relationship and it's my first, then i would go paranoid. i have this thing, and good for them if their previous relationship didn't work out, but the next one isn't going to be me. i just want my first to be my last and want the same for them too.
omg icb i watched u when u were at the beginning!! ur channel speaks a lot to me it genuinely helped me understand myself a lot
I started watching for video a while back, and I feel like you're a lot more mature than most adults really are. You should be proud of yourself, and who cares about chasing after guys, they should be chasing after you. You know what you're worth, who you are as an individual, and you stick to your moral principals and I look up to you for those reasons. Whatever you want, you're going to get it. Love you♥♥♥😝😝😝😝
FACTS!!
i very rarely comment about things like this online, but i really wish I had friends like you. i'm in the same boat you mentioned about feeling bad when you tell friends your accomplishments because it feels like bragging. i feel elated when i see people i care about get their bags, but i feel like i don't receive the same amount of encouragement when it's my time to "win."
so happy to hear you've got new people around you who celebrate things with you!
you’re the first person on the internet that i relate to soo much 💗 i absolutely adore you and your content wish you all the best in life 💖 kisses from Poland !!
I’m also like you.
I’m 23 old, never kissed anyone, nothing.
I think I grew up so scared of everything, I don’t trust guys easily… it’s difficult to make me feel comfortable.
I know exactly what I want, but it’s so hard to find someone that I like and he likes me back.
Also I don’t socialize much, so I don’t know many people. This sucks so much.
Omg Via, i found your insta a little bit ago and your youtube now, and I really love your vibe! fellow november scorpio hehe, and your fits are so fire! I love your comment about just knowing what you want and wanting to remain unlabeled, i feel like people are so OBSESSED with labels, like personally i say I'm bi for ease of communication, but I try to avoid labeling myself because I don't feel attraction the same way as most people. And nothing gets on my nerves more than if someone tries to assert their version of "normal" onto me, like girl bye.
I love your videos so much, literally you're my comfort UA-camr I relate so much to what you say (pls never stop posting)
your channel is one of my favorites. i feel comfortable when i watch your videos 🫂🩷
I think this is one of my favorite video doing make up/skincare while talking/ranting it feels like you're really talking to me while i listen and pause to give my own thoughts lol
我真心好欣賞妳可以把心事都在鏡頭前講出來，讓我感覺好安慰🤎我即使面對最親的人都講不出來，（尤其是感情相關的事）總是有一道跨不過的坎，所以也沒有人會跟我分享內心事，所以看你的影片的時候都很感動
I understand how it can be draining for someone to have a relationship, but it really depends on if you find someone suitable for you. Im in a long term relationship and we´ve learned how to manage our time. Since he understands that I love being alone and having time for myself and my friends and I understand that he likes being with his friends too. It does take some trial and error, and of course I think being single is AMAZING and so important for a person. But I also think that being in a GOOD and healthy relationship is more like fertilizer, its really great and beautiful but you don´t NEED it to live a happy life.
I'm also a 22 year old woman whose never had a significant other. I relate SO MUCH in this video, feeling late to the game, feeling inexperienced or behind is such a real thing. I relate so much, like feeling like if I'm gonna date, it will be for the one. Situationships suck. Thanks for opening up, I feel like theres a lot more feminine people who feel this way but are too afraid to express it. Thanks for this video :)
You avoided such drama and angst. Good for you. You didn't miss anything at all. I'm 47 and the one thing I wish I could have said to my teenage self (besides save 10% of each paycheck) is: boys are not that important. YOU are. I can't tell how much time I've spent crying and waiting and stressing about boys. Sex and romance is so overrated. Go with the nice one. Now I'm dating fictional characters lol and if I get a new real boyfriend (oh I will) he will need to be a fucking gem❤
Thank u I needed that
i feel like because you wont settle for anyone you’re going to find someone fantastic
Hi I’m 21 and never dated… one or two people asked me out in high school but i was and i am not confident at all. When i was younger i actually were scared of boys idk why. At 19/20 i was wondering if it was my standard that were too hight but as you said, i want a long term partner (and ya know how relationships are these days). And i don’t want to jump on the first guy that pay me attention… (btw sorry for my English im not native…😅). What i wanted so say to the girls that are in the same situation than me is : « you’re not weird, don’t try to please your family or friends by dating if you don’t want to! Just take your time, YOU ARE NOT ALONE ♡
you’re so relatable, watching this video I felt I was listening to myself talking through you, ur amazing Vi
10 hours of Via yapping would truly make me happy, gurl I love your content
I'll be 25 and same girl, but I feel totally fine about it. It comes when it comes, that's how I think about it. I'm very grateful for not having dated before, because if I look back to my friends and all the others who had dated in school etc., they all are not together anymore. Some had dramas and heart breaks. I don't think I missed out anything. I'm glad I had time to focus on myself, finding myself, focusing on my studies and I'm still growing. I also don't like the idea of being attached to someone yet, because I don't know where I will live in the future, I might live abroad or travel for a long time since I'm interested in learning languages and cultures. Being in a relationship could be a problem and lead to giving up my dreams and goals, needing to settle down somewhere.
I have a friend who got married and asks her husband for permission to meet friends etc. and she does it so he feels like 'he is the man'. Seeing those things makes me glad being single ngl. You mentioned that you're worrying of not being experienced while your partner might be. Maybe you will also be the first for your future partner and have your first together. If not, a person that truly loves you will be glad to be your first experience. So view it positively and let the time give you the right one. I have friends who were engaged then broke up, now she got married at 30 with a guy she met at an island while travelling in Turkey. Another friend was complaining about being single while others have found a partner, one year later and now she has a boyfriend she met through pubg game. I also know a guy who was so desperate to be in a relationship, just because his friends are and he didn't want to be singel. So he said he would accept anything, even open relationship as long he is not single. I told him to have some values and that he shouldn't be so easy to get and appreciate himself more and just wait for the one. (He even asked me out...😭)
Via can be so relatable, and I love her vibe 💗
For everyone here, I also never dated no one until mid 20's. I was always sure I was ugly, no one ever asked me out blabla. Until I got into therapy and realised there was so much more to it. I had to accept I MYSELF had a problem and be humble enough to seek help. 3 years after therapy I started going out on dates. Everything I was so sure about myself and date was just my brain bad coping protecting mechanism. I also found out Im bissexual.
via, can you talk more about high standard in dating or crush or whatever involve in it? you inspire me alot! i love you girlll❤❤❤
Even though I'm an "old subscriber" & know most of the general stuff, it's still fun to watch these types of videos. Also that makeup turned out _GOOD_ 🔥
I resonated with this video so much. I was in a situationship about two months ago and never again will I put myself through that. Everything goes so well until you ask them if you can progress in the relationship which just resulted in her telling me she doesnt know what she wants yet and ghosting me. I used to believe that older people are the mature ones but apparently that wasn't the case as we were both 24 years old lol.
Via is literally the best friend everyone needs man. I love your content so much that I binge and rewatch your channel again and again. Just be yourself and be happy. Until then, PREACH QUEEN!! :3
Gurly being so real when she said that she knows what she want and is not willing to settle I situationships because that sucks honestly. Never resonated so much before. Love ya Via, keep on slaying 🫶🏻
Probably my most favorite and comforting video on yt. Never felt soooo related.
i feel that a lot. i didnt date anyone until 28 because there was nobody i wanted to invest that much time and effort to. but because i wait until i find the right person, i feel like i know what im looking for better than if i were to date during college or younger. and the wait is really worth it.
Birthday girl coming up !🥳 Happy Birthday Via in advance ! 🎈🎂
I really enjoyed your video today ♥️ Thank you for posting and expressing your thoughts! Made my day and I’m sure many others as well !
As far as the dating topic I’m in the mindset that I don’t want to just date around these days . If I were to go on a date I much rather prefer to get a feel for a woman’s character ,personality , how we vibe and just overall chemistry together 🧪♥️. I guess my preference would be to get to know the girl some first ✨
Hope you’re enjoying your new place and area btw !
omg im scorpio entp
I relate with you a lot and that really makes me feel safe and not alone
Im in school for art, and no, it doesn't take the joy out of it if your addiction IS art. I love it here even though Im tired. Im so glad this is my passion. Now, as in the video Im the same way, but Im 18 bout to be 19 😭. I am just now trying to get to be myself and learn about what I like for me. Im sad. I've never been in a relationship, but after talking it out and hearing you a beautiful woman, say you just dont feel like it right now, but you'd like it one day, feels comforting. Ill be happy when I bump into them but, I wanna learn to be ok without that.
This makes me feel SOOOO much better because i’ve literally never had a crush before and people always perceive me as aromantic or asexual when I genuinely just haven’t found anyone that I want to be with yet 😭. I’m only 17 but it made me feel so behind. It’s taken a while but i’m just now realizing that it’s okay and everyone moves at their own pace. I’m so glad i’m not the only
one who’s experienced this 😭😭
me too and i’m 20. i think i’m just really picky in who i want to be surrounded by let alone date. atp i’m just leaving it up to fate bc there has never been someone i have had genuine interest in. dw you are not alone 😭
You have no idea how much this video helped me🥹 Like girl, I'll turn 22 at the end of November, and my dating life is same as yours. And the fact that you talked about this this much honesty😭 Thank you🫂It felt like a "girl talk💌" as your my order sister🧚🏻♀️✨️So thank you for making me feel alright with where I am💌
hey girl ive been following you since over a year and you're videos have helped me so much
i feel like an awkward older sister being so proud of the younger sister when i watch your videos. You give me inspiration/motivation to do better. Ty
after watching the whole video I can conclude that you are just a high-value human being and that's simply so admirable! If anything I'd want, it'd be that mindset of yours. So fucking bold❤
It's so crazy how I said the EXACT SAME THING to the guy I'm talking to right now. "I'm willing to communicate everything", "I don't believe in potential, I only see results". I feel like I'm very cold blooded in a way you know? Like relationships are suppose to be romantic and all, but being so logical loses the core of it? Idkkkk... And omg sameeee, If I date someone, I want that person to be the one. It's just crazy how I said those exact words and have like 90% same beliefs. Oh yea, did I say, ffs I'm also intp.
This is so relatable 🥹 I love your videos so much!!🫶❤️
YESSS, PERFECT TIMING.
im so happy someone is speaking on this
I feel like you’re my twin!! Maybe it’s bc we are INTP but literally I have experienced everything you said (Minus the fact that I’ve never and still don’t have any friends). I’m 22, just graduated(stem girlie), can’t get a job, no dating experience, ambiguous sexuality, and dreams of being an oil painter… seeing you makes me feel so reassured that I don’t have to do things on other people’s timeline and I can do things my way.❤