Why it’s so important to rest after birth ?
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- Опубліковано 3 тра 2023
- After 9 long months of pregnancy, most women are eager to jump back into their old fitness routine to get their pre-pregnancy body back. However, after your delivery, you are told to get good rest for 6-8 weeks - here is the reason for that
Your placenta has an average diameter of 21-22cm that implants on your uterine wall. Once you birth the placenta you are left with a large wound.
If we saw this wound on the outside we would be in bed resting, we would have people doing everything for us, no one would let you over do it. Yet when you give birth it’s expected of you to rest but also still manage everything else.
Lets be honest this actually leaves little time to rest.
It takes on average 4-6 weeks for this wound to fully heal. During this time your bleeding, your feeling sore and things feel really different. Not only have you given birth to your baby, but you have also birthed an organ.
Your body is amazing at healing but it also needs your help to
🔸️Nourish
🔸️Rest
🔸️Support
When these three things are set up, women may experience a quicker healing time and feel better much faster.
Even if your birth was straight forward, this wound like all wounds can reopen, bleed and be susceptible to infection when your overdoing it or not prioritising rest and recovery.
Your body is doing so much during this healing time.
Do yourself a favour and REST!
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Rest will only happen if you have the right people who care and will help without any judgments or demands.
Do not surround yourself with people that do not value you enough ❤
It's painful when people around you feel you acting up when you are actually healing and needing help and you end up being all by yourself..😢😢
Very true... parents of the woman are those who care without any demands and with true care....❤
@@temmylolar5153It’s better to be all by yourself with your baby than be with people who expect you to perform as tho you haven’t just given birth. It’s ok to have dirty house, laundry, dishes and even if you aren’t showering or brushing your teeth as long as you get through the day with you and your baby fed and on bed resting. Your body won’t heal properly if you try to get other people’s approval especially if they don’t care about your well being.
I was just going to say the same exact thing. Even with all the help in the world, if you are breastfeeding you are it. No one can help you there. You are on call 24/7. Not to mention that in America you are expected to bounce back 6 weeks from a vaginal delivery and 8 from a cesarean section. It’s really laughable. Other countries have it much better in that regard.
Blessed are those Women who have good families to treat them well.
Not everyone women have the same privilege
True
True
Yes, agree...
True me to 6th day baad hi sare kam karne lagi thi 😢
Very true am one among them. Feel tears when I see the comments about their families. Lucky people.
We are 4 daughters in laws ...My mother in law never ask us even to get out of bed in 40 days ...she says these 40 days are yours to take rest and to take care of your baby....even if we say after 40 days that we aren't well she gives us whole 2 months ❤❤
She is uneducated but such a nice lady hats off to her...she never allow us to call our mothers on day of delivery she says mothers can't see their daughters in pain...and spend whole week with us from the time of delivery
(Thanks for your kindness,love prayers...stay blessed you all😘)
Maschallah
How much lucky you are. You all are blessed to have such MIL
She wouldn't "allow" you to call your mother on the day you gave birth? That's outright cruel. I have to be misinterpreting this.
@@TheRentFanYes you are. It’s a nice thing.
@@potato1084 I'm confused how blocking communication with a birthing woman's mother is a good thing. Assuming that they have a good or neutral relationship, it's a primal drive to want one's mom on such a day. Mother-in-law is not the same.
For people who didn't understand and have opened the chat box for the an explantion:
The red part on the balloon are the muscles of the uterus of vagina that inflate during pregnancy. It is the place where the baby grows. Woman after delivery should take a good amount of rest so that the muscles get normal. The normal size of the uterus is the balloon when the lady in the above video removes all the air from the balloon....
Respect To All Mothers❤
Thanku for explanation ❤
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Thank you. But how does rest shrink the uterus?
I understood it..... But want explanation what if they won't take proper rest..... How would it impact it.....🙃🙃🙃🙃
Wtf uterus of vagona see as a bio student i say vagina is the entrance and then cervix and uterus hope u don mind
I am eternally thankful to my mom and in-laws they helped me with my deliveries. I took good rest for 6 months and spent wholesome time with my babies
Rest of only 20 days...
@@Dhwani21sep soo sorry
You really are lucky lady😮 stay blessed
@@Dhwani21sepu deserve better
Me also Lucky 6 month rest 😊
My mother in law took great care of me after my c-section, she gave me complete rest for 3 month, she took care of my me and my daughter both as a new born.... blessed to have her....love her a lot
Edit:- Thanks for so many likes.
Ladies who thinks are unlucky, i must say you all got more strength and power to deal with your thinks, you will enjoy in future but for me it will become miserable for me to live without my mother in law, I will become a lame person.
God bless her, u r fortunate to have such mother in law
@@bettychristie3285 Thank you
Same here!! I appreciate her a lot ❤❤
Meri mother in-law me care ki meri or rest bhi karawaya ye bolkar Sawa machine phir to Mai sab karne lagugi
Lucky you unlike me from day 2 I started doing work not lucky all to have good mil
Lucky who get rest😢..not possible for everyone.
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I agree 💯
Same
Different blessings for everyone, this one just wasn’t mine
Same here too...no time for rest, when baby sleep....i have to finish lots of works..
That's why we have a tradition that for 1 month mother doesn't work totally and first go to temple with baby and start doing small work but nowadays one woman make video that this is my body and baby don't force your tradition on me
I got back to work 10 days after my c section and after 15 days washed all clothes and bed sheets not everyone get privileges later I suffered with diastasis recti yet people say you have a big belly you should have small trimmed waist yet I am a teacher student a housewife full time mother of three yet no one to help me no in laws no one I am home schooling children and taking care of everything without any domestic help ... sometimes you need to be emotionally strong no one can decide your strength until you tell them that is your strength
Same for my mother.... She had it too hard with papa being in the army and posted to Jammu and my mom to be the eldest daughter in law to manage the whole house along with a new born and nobody to lend her help for any rest.... I wish she had it better...
But being a young and innocent comes with its own problems of not able to prioritise your own good and being all into pleasing your in laws family to make it urs....to become a family for the people who don't give a damn....
I just wish she had it better too...like so many in the comments here
I wish she hadnt had to work with those stitches not even healed.. wish I be capable enough to atleast make her life comfortable and give her all the much deserved love and care!
I pray that God will give you the strenghth mama! I hope you will soon get a chance to relax and enjoy all you work hard for. Thank you for being there for your kids🙏🏽
I'd also politely ask if you could ask your husband if he's there to help you with the house, just basic chores. Cause I do believe you need at least a weekly day to rest. Much love🤍
I guess the culture and society we belong is still way too stereotypical ... can't blame anything it is the whole mindset here I have three sons and I teach them to be humble and kind and always give helping hand my eldest son who is 5 yrs. Old help a lot in cleaning up his toys the younger ones are still too young to understand let them enjoy their lives in sha Allah I hope they will grow up to be kind one day I ll teach them to be kind to their spouse that is how I can bring a small change
this is why womencare opting out of marriage and children these days. the weight on a womans shoulders is unbearable.
@@katydoe677 true
I always say I won the lottery with my mother. She’s almost 70 years young and I am 3 weeks postpartum with my third child and My husband works 1st shift. This women has been taken care of me my two girls and my house (laundry, cleaning, food & more) while I heal and take care of my child. I hope to take care of her when she needs it and aspire to be just like her with my daughters and daughters in-law. Thank you God for my mother.
Your mother sounds like an angel, you're lucky.
P.S.Don't give for granted your children will want children too. If they don't, don't push them to donit
A women will never forget how she treated before and after her delivery 🥲🥲
Like if you feel the same 🙂
Yes..I returned fifth day after my c section..
My mother in law who came to visit me gave me half kg coccinea vegetables and asked me to cut...that was just 7th day..evn the doc doesn't even remove the stitches....to cut a hard vegetable at that time definitely puts pressure on belly......that's one of the worst experiences she threw at me....at the time my baby became one year old,I went through a severe panic attack n became suicidal for a short span....
True😢
Yes you are right 👍. I started cooking 9 days after my c section. My in-laws stay with me but they didn't helped me. Managing house hold chores with my 2kids were too hard to me . Now after 10 years my in-laws again came to me....now they need my service as they are too old. But I'm unable to serve them as I could not forget my hard days of delivery....😢
@@trivenibandi5429 no need to look after them....just give them food n medicines...no need to go extra lengths n ruin your health by giving them head n foot massages ...if you want to serve,serve your parents,not these idiots who gave us nothing but troubles
@@9lirika yaa at present I'm providing them food and medicines......but cleaning their room, clothes and other chores are expected by my husband from me......but how can I do? I'm running short of time with my work .
But my husband and In-laws don't understand my pain.
Young women choose your husband WISELY. Mine cheated on me right after birth because it had been "too long". You need to find a husband that loves God MORE than you ❤
Hope you find someone who
deserves you dear. ❤
Yes this is so true! Mines cheated throughout my pregnancy. So I left at 38 weeks. I’m due any day now but I have the help of my father and his lovely wife. Thank God!
Mines was all in but was sexually frustrated because DR put me on pelvis rest for most of my pregnancy so no intercourse and went out and cheated throughout my pregnancy.
@@melissajohnson1082 what an asshole!
Praying you find the husband who is truly deserving of you and respectful no matter the circumstances ❤
Blessed are those who have the support and care to recover and rest. The reality is most of us have to keep going because we don't have that luxury.
Have to do what you can. No heavy lifting.Try to do as much as possible propped up in bed or couch. Very simple meals. No standing on feet cooking big meals. Have older kids help as much as possible.You can direct them
That's the story of my life
It's really hard when you don't have a mom, actually. I have 3 kids and this last one is my 4 th and it was sxc section. I'm 2 weeks postpartum and I have had to bath the baby, take care of myself at the same time. I feel it's the hardest recovery for me.
It's really hard when you don't have a mom, actually. I have 3 kids and this last one is my 4 th and it was sxc section. I'm 2 weeks postpartum and I have had to bath the baby, take care of myself at the same time. I feel it's the hardest recovery for me.
@@kamsongkmazaba7381 Blessings and best wishes to you and your family.
After 8 days of my delivery i started to wash clothes do all house work even my husband did not supported me it was my 1st delivery without my parents without any help i struggle a lot with that stitches pain only God knows me how much pain I have gone through.
caesarean or normal delivery???
Exactly same. I would be dead without God and reading the Bible. This world is very harsh on women
To mana kar deti kaam karne se.....koi zabardasti karta to Police ko bulaati.
Same to me...i am cs having postpartum depression,anxiety.after 5months i need to leave my son to get back at work here in qatar 🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭
@@shaniennur5938 I will be praying for you. I care for you to he here❤️
I'm very lucky to have my mom in my life...she treated like a child when I gave birth to my child...love u maa❤
Thank u for 100 likes
Love you ma ❤🎉
So i
I just gave birth 2 weeks ago. I thank God for my Mom who take care of me and my other children. The fact that I choose to exclusively breastfeed my baby it’s kind of challenging to have a good rest, But I take it because this is a short term sacrifice for a long term benefit. May God blessed all new moms out there.❤️❤️❤️❤️xoxo
In my culture a mother is assisted for 40days(6weeks) before resuming her normal life after baby delivery. Even going back to her husband, she will go back in style like a bride again. So good time to rest and rejuvenate. Thats why issues like postpartum depression is a wild terminology. Take care of your new mothers people❤
It would be interesting to compare the levels of postpartum depression in countries where moms get 6 weeks of rest vs countries where moms don’t.
In my home my 2 sisters for their deliveries my mom and grandmother took care for all most 5 months atleast they didn't alloted to touch cold water as a girl I feel lucky to have such family
Yes I have same experience because of my Aai❤.
On my second delivery my husband ask to lookafter my house cores by myself I have to get up after 8 9 days hardly was very difficult time n still I got my 3rd pregnancy n I am too.much worried who will lookafter my kids I am living alone in other cities while my relatives live in other city 5 hours distance
@@Readysetgoansfun66 kudos to your patient level sis🙏
My 2nd delivery I’m start home work in 1st day because I have no one neither husband
@@Flavour2080i m also worried about my second delivery
Important note for almost all injuries, including those caused by birth: REST MEANS PAIN FREE ACTIVITIES! Laying around can lead to dangerous blood clots and muscle atrophy. The 5-5-5 rule is not backed by any research. Resuming activity will vary from person to person.
Thissss 🙏🏻❤
Exactly!! Im seeing people complaining about cooking...loll whats wrong with cooking or cleaning if it not too physically demanding...its good to be active but using common sense ....im healing very well and im moving around not just laying up in bed
I know this is true but with the extra hormones, producing milk, and lack of sleep a new mom should never be taking on obligations like cooking for others. The stress is too much and can cause postpartum depression. So can sitting around doing nothing do be active but not taking on responsibilities that stress you.
This is why in India it is tradition to pamper new moms ..elders don't allow new moms to go outside for 40 days ..don't give them any work except their baby's work..they give them massage and then hot bath daily and give nutritious food which help to increas milk supply and strengthen their bones
Then become lazy and let the elderly to take care of their children
I don't think working moms get this luxury 😢
@@sanskritipatkar9778IT'S NOT LUXURY IT'S BASICS
@@Honesty211IF GIVING YOUR BODY THE NECESSARY REST IS CALLED BECOMING LAZY THEN YES BE LAZY
@@multipurpose6984 working moms need to go to office as soon as maternity leave is over. Also those women who live away from family are not lucky enough to enjoy the postpartum treatment that you call "BASICS" but It is a luxury for them.
I was so depressed in those days...bcz I started to cook food for every one in 10th day of my operation...I can feel the pain why people don't think this time is very important for newly mother...I hope I'll definitely help my other family members into their difficult phase
Same with me can’t tell the pain inside 😢no rest from day 2 everyone is not lucky 😢
Same happened with me 😢😢😢
It’s heart wrenching to hear your stories. I wish and pray for enormous strength for all you women out there who face such issues. I pray that this painful time glides by smoothly and you feel no pain at all. May there be a time waiting ahead where you all get the rest you all deserve and more.
I m from Nepal .my mom also work after 3days of delivery she cooked food for everyone .my father and his mother, brother, sisters are so rude .so that mom have heavy bleeding too 😭😭🤧
@@dilkumarirai8100so heartless. I don’t think I can do such a thing knowing my health is at stake for anyone. I never had a child but if I feel that I am not well enough I don’t take that risk and I make it clear. I tell them if I am suffering, having sleepless nights, y’all be busy enjoying yourselves so I won’t risk my health for anyone.
As a new mommy am spending my whole day with my new born with the help of my mom .. I feel really blesses
Same with me!
Iam mother of 2 kids. I would say new mother's to be out of household chores for at least 6 months after delivery. Don't bother what others think if you are taking rest.
It's not same case for everyone
Yep, our place got pretty messy 😂
My baby is 5 months old now it’s a real roller coaster without help
Those who care and understand are so lucky. Ever since I'm out of the hospital, I have not rested
Stay strong momma. 🙏
Day 5 pe uthke saare kaam aur baccha sab sambhal liya.(tab tak husband ne kiya sab)...without house help.. without family..
Mujhe bhi Rest karna tha but kismat me nahi tha.😶😓jab kisiko dekhti hu apni beti ki bahu ki care karte huye to..dil tadap uthta hai😢
Mujhe bhiii
At least ap to 5day paya main a to pehle din se suru kiya
@@Flavour2080 dear 5th day pe cooking vagera sart kiya...
But c-section raatko hua aur subh se baby ko sambhal liye feeding changing sab😢
Sis mai to day 1 se baby and khud ko sambhal rahi hun....meri c section delivery hui thi...
@@sakshimanottra3002dear jab family ka support na ho to bhagwan himmat deta h sab sambhalne
When my mother had me, she said she wasn’t fed well because my father didn’t know how to take care of a woman who gave birth, would cook just dal and so veg fry etc. Then i know this one, my mom gave birth ti my brother and i was 4 years old at that time, she had both of us normall but my brother was born at home under the help of a nurse and neighbors. He was born early morning like 4 am something so when it was morning i went to school and my mother was hungry and my father didn’t cook anything so she had to wake up and cook food that too kneeling down because we didn’t have a table for gas and everything was on the floor. Hearing at stories like this, it hurts cause women needs so much care during the first few weeks post delivery. Tribal people, specially nagas are amazing at taking care of new moms, thankfully i grew up in nagaland and my mom learned so much how taking care of new moms is important so when i give birth next time, i can only trust my mother because i have nobody else. Also my husband stays abroad because of his job. Otherwise he is an excellent husband
"My latter days shall be better than my former days"🙇🏽♀️❤
I’m so grateful my boyfriend and mom have been here for me so I can rest and heal. It has been a process but I am so grateful
I am very lucky to have my mom and peddamma.They took care of me like child,they never gave me any work. Now my son is 10 months old,today also my mom take care of my health my baby health. Really Mother's are gods.
I am very lucky to have such family
Lucky person
This video is great for women to figure out the most important things before getting pregnant ❤
some people continue their expectations from us during that period also... and except mother no one cares about us
100% true
This is so true nobody can care as much as our lovely mothers. Kuch saas bhi hoti hain jo care karti hai par meri saas meri nanand se kehti hai 1 hafte ho gaye hain theek ho gayi hai ab to Ghar ka Sara kaam bhi kar sakti hai. Jabki meri mom wahi thi mere paas aur keh rahi thi ek dedh mahina aaram karna body weak hoti hai is samey.
Meri nanand mujhse kaan me kehne lagi meri maa ke hisab se to tum theek ho chuki ho par tumhari maa ke hisab se nahi.
Wahi hai na log kitna bhi educated ho jaye India me baate wahi dakiyanoosi karte hain.
Jab baat khud ki beti pe aati hai to khoob care karte hain lekin Bahu to Bahu haina beti kabhi maanenge nahi.
Its not applicable who didnt have a supportive family or who have preterm babies
Its a rollercoster ride for mothers
Thank to my husband, 3 month now, he still take care of the house, I just Cook but not hard and he usually help me. My Mom couldn't did much cause health problem but still try her best. My sisters really help me in my first month, one was coming in the country specifically for helping me. My mother in laws not in the country but she is the one told my husband to not let me doing anything (he would not, cause he's good educate and so in love but mother was there to call every day and make sure) I'm so lucky thanks God.
I took rest when my mom was with me... but after 4 months I have got additional responsibilities that I have to take care some one else. After that my health was worsen that I can't handle alone now even after 9 months . My advise to everyone please take rest atleast for 6 months or more as adviced.
My mother in law passed away when I was pregnant 😢 but thnx to my mom she take care of me n my baby till his annprasahan (6 month ) ❤
Started to wash clothes the day I arrived from hospital on the 4th day . Nobody helped to go to washroom which is one stair up . Nobody helped to chlimb 20 stairs on arriving at home . My mom was very sick still she took my clothes to home and washed all after she got to know all these .
Maa to maa hoty ha na😢
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Thankful to my Mom for helping me rest to the fullest after my 2 kids were born. She is my hero.
She sounds amazing!❤
Mothers-im-law always want to compete with their daughter-in-law. That's why they challenge and won't support their daughter-in-law when they need help, because they feel like they're winning for once
Like my own ,jealous n selfish mother in law
Leaving me in labour ward to go home n wait for call if I hv delivered after we came home, she didn't even bother to take care of me or the grand child till now
So all the love I once fell for her is gone 💔
But God is my helper
@@bettychristie3285I feel u dear 😢 same with me from day 2 I have to walk on pain n cook for meal even mil will not help me i got just max three hour hardly sleep that also how much u sleep I’m still healing from postpartum depression plus my wounds 😢
Everyday I worry about American women who have to return to work 2 weeks post partum 💔
Society is broken
Shame
yes this great country does not respect women at all. They view us as work horses. we may have better homes maybe some health care, maybe, but we can never retire because the work at home, our other job, will always be there even if we stop one job. the cooking cleaning and shopping for food etc will last till we die without help.
Many are stay at home mothers or housewives so they don't work only the husband.
They shout for equality they get what they wanted life was good when woman were not working America is doomed. Talk about India
Respect to all momma’s and about to be momma’s go through so much pain, exhaustion, discomfort and give life to a beautiful soul 😊
Once a woman has delivered there are so maney hormonal physical and mental changing and alot of healing is necessary.
Thank you for all the Caretakers of Mothers during this time.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Need to be super lucky to have these facilities. For me, work started the next day. Even when my stitches for csec had gaps suddenly. May Allah bless all women with what is must at this time.
Allahuma Ameen
Thank you mom ❤.... I had c section. Completely 11 months my mom take care of me like a little baby. She didn't allow me to do even a simple work.
Mom or mil , did you live with her the entire time.
Not everyone gets that chance, unfortunately 😢
Yeah😢
My husband & me took full care as we don’t have elders. From day 1 of my emergency c section,till now me & my husband is doing everything & it’s been 3 years. My husband is my mom at that time.
Watching this one month post. First day released from hospital my MIL and husband expected me to still show up to the baby shower instead of canceling it or understanding I needed to rest and could not assist . From there of course I’ve been up and down cleaning and doing the most because I chose a horrible partner.
Find a job and divorce him.
Don't worry about kids, they'll be understanding after growing up.
Divorce him as soon as kids enter teen age. and support kids Emotionally.
If you are worried about ending up lonely, don't worry you have your kids. Till then become rich as possible as you can.
I am so sorry my dear sister. I have been there and I am still there. I choose very badly but that's my own fault. I read my Bible daily and love Jesus. Thats what keeping me alive ❤ I started listening to audio bible otherwise I would be dead.
@user-hq1nk4kx9t I can't agree with your advice. Even when bad marriage, you can grow together and get things better. He never stop being the father even divorced it's like you are still married. At least when you live under the same roof, you have a say in how to raise the children. I suggest the book Created to be his help meet. It makes things better. We are all fallen
Seriously, C-section mein bhi inlaws chahte ki ab toh kaam kre bahut rest ho gya , even during this time period we totally take care of our baby
True same here after my operation she daily used to cone in hospital and ltr on to my room n would say the home is too mess i can not work daily same dialogues thats why i had to do complete home chores on day 9
45 days Tak to koi nahi bolta.
Chahe inlaws ho ja gharwale.
Uske baad to karna padta hai.
Doctors bhi recommend start your routine...
Jo Maine dekha hai...
Baki kisi ka pata nahi .
@@ramnikkaur5917 within a month I had stated my household chores. Even I had my third C-section
Thank you for this video. I’m four days postpartum and I’ve been probably doing too much trying to keep the laundry done dishes done food made phone calls answered. And of course everything with my new baby right and on time and everything he needs. It is really a lot and today I went up the stairs from my basement after changing over laundry and felt ….not great. I realized I’m pushing myself too much. It’s just hard I guess to not do all the things.
This video honestly made me tear up a bit. Thank you for sharing it ❤
I came out of hospital after a c-section and was pushed back into the kitchen to feed all of all of the guests that came to see the baby. I wasn’t even allowed to breastfeed my baby: ‘’who will run the kitchen and make sure everyone eats?’’, said my mother-in-law. 😢
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They will definitely living their life like hell.
Wow your mother in law is mean to you!! No real mom do that to a child who loves, do not never call her mom, doesn’t deserve it
I think app ke husband bhi insan nehi hai janwar hai aur woh guest bhi jo dekh ke chup rahe kucch bole nehi saas ko
Mukafate amal has to began for the lady
Wisely Demonstrated, Thank you🙏
I was and am blessed to have had my mom my sisters and my dad around, on top of a doula I had come tc of me before during and after my 2 pregnancies and I had a nanny. N ofcourse I didn’t forget my dear hubby wasn’t helpful but he made sure provided me with the best of watever n anything I wanted or needed ❤
My coworker got pregnant at 6 weeks postpartum. Instead of congratulating her I spent 5 minutes asking "what the..how the ..when the..but how..could he ...i mean what how how!? "
I faced some problem after delivery. But my mother in low helped me lot. thanks to her❤.
Thank you maa ❤ you were there for me for almost 2 months to take care of me❤ I love you ❤
I am thankful to my mother for giving me all privileges after my delivery ❤❤❤❤
Thank you I’m 8 days post birth with a 3 yr old and 5 year old tandem nursing and I was just feeling so frustrated about all I need to do to manage the house and kids trying to make myself do it all but my bleeding started increasing and I got dizzy after nursing from forgetting to eat , so had to lay down but was feeling like a failure. Noticed this video and it helped put in perspective how many weeks it takes and what my body is going thru at the moment. ( husband works out of state so I feel responsible for everything and worry I’m neglecting too much that needs tended to .. i don’t have family / help but it helps to at least remind myself not to beat myself up about it all and that I’m not a failure to be laying back down right now)
God willing some day if my daughters have children I will be there in every way she could want / need to give her the space to enjoy motherhood and rest and heal . I’ll never forget these experiences and hope some day I can gift my daughters with a transformed experience
My 5 yr old told me a few weeks ago that when she is pregnant some day she will have a husband who brings her food in bed. It made my heart sad to know she was seeing an example of what she doesn’t want for her future , but it reminded me that some day there will be different experiences and that my daughters will have each other and god willing me too to support their journey thru motherhood and beyond in all the right ways because we are learning so much together now for that future.
Altho on his days off I should be fair- my husband drives a fair distance here and he does bring me food in bed and especially 3rd trimester I did lay around and he took care of the kids and did the house . I would feel guilty laying there knowing how hard he works and that he will get no rest then drive back and return to work- but I rested for the baby growing in me and for the kids for the remaining week so I’d have more of me for them. But I just realized when he would arrive to bring me food he would sneak it into me to bed so i could eat in peace , and he would do the house after they were asleep for the night so I just realized as per my daughters comment to me about her future husband , that she didn’t actually ever see him doing those things for me. Anyhow wanted to be fair and say that side of it but sharing this comment because I know a lot of moms watch this and automatically think - well I can’t rest I don’t have that luxury. And I understand this , but it helps to hold some self compassion for letting yourself mentally rest when you encounter some of your limitations and are unable to do it all.
My mom always came to stay with us after my husband had to go back to work a week after I gave birth. He cooked, cleaned, did laundry so I could sleep and be with our newborn at the time. He needed to go back to work and she flew in every time (4 kids) she did the same like my husband and she stayed for a week. I would slowly take care of things like dishes but my husband would still cook and do laundry. I miss having a baby in my arms.
Never had the chance to rest in my 3 deliveries, even worse I had to stand the next day cook because my mother in law was with us to see the baby , I will never forgive them
😂😂😂😂 most important the so called good men give examples of nani dadi"s time if we say we are in pain 😅😅😅😅
And they think they are worthy of true love 😂😂😂😂 what a joke 🤣
Currently 19 weeks. Just my husband and I. No support from our families which really sucks but we will find a way and hire help if we need to ❤️ sending love to all the new and experienced moms out there.
After a struggle full delivery ,Even after 10 months, I am resting❤thank god for the supportive family
Women from good families r always good
😊people are really blessed who have super caring ,supportive parents nd in laws....mere yaha to me nd my husband 1st day se khudki or baby ki care le rhe hai nd sab kr rhe uska....na koi massage,na rest nd koi help ..evryone thinks that we both can handle this phase also,so they just help us 10-15 days wo bhi bs upar upar ke kam krne me as lyk khana khilana nd bs akar puchna kuch chahiye thts it...till 1st day I was not able to take rest nt even singleminute nd even no one come to tk care of my baby nd me..nw he turns 7 month bt no one knows how my baby is doing nd how much I need them ...ajtk ek din Bhi ais jata nhi ki ye sab soch kr or videos dekh kr rona na ata ho 😊 bt fn when u hv super supportive partner,u can surely rise above storm🧿🤍
I have three kids. And i didn’t have nobody by my side . I was alone. My husband works and i was with my 3 delivery the second day out of my home doing house chores and watching after three kids
I didn't get any rest coz my babies were immediately went to NICU IN AN GOVERNMENT HOSPITAL
And no one can imagine what I have went through that time..
Not enough sleep
Not enough eat
No tym to rest
And no one was allowed there to help me
Coz that wasn't hospital
That was a jail for me
And my in-laws were criminal
They didn't allow and not even help financially for private hospital
... Me and my husband was left alone .
And also i lost my twin 1 child
... And all i have now is my twin 2 my daughter
...
😔
I am so sorry. This world is crazy horrible. The only thing keeping me alive is my faith in God and reading the Bible. Shalom sister
My mom taking care of my 5 years old daughter and also me. after delivery I’m only taking care of 3month old baby boy
My mom care me like a kid. she giving food to me bed itself sometimes i will be busy with baby mom will feed me 😊
Heart full thanks to my mother ❤
Not everyone are lucky to get rest
Right
100 💯 true
Same here.ab kya bolna
So true i didn't received such type of treatment from my in laws though I had c-section
True
Your explanation video is very accurately. Even man's also understand this video. Thank you so much sister
My mother is far from me and very ill. My mother in law has never helped me ONCE. I remember going out for my chores and doing all my s*it at home, alone, with high temperature. I am waiting my 4rth currently, and I have no illusions. Everything will be on my shoulders, but my 3 beautiful children who are a little grown up now, have already offered to land a hand. Bless them
I am so grateful for my mom and mother in law and all my beautiful friends who have supported me and helped me through my 6 deliveries. From child care of my other little ones to meals being delivered…. It’s all such a blessing. Thank you Jesus.
My MoM was very Brutal with me during pregnancy as well as after that. On 7th day she brought me home from hospital, she already fired maid before that. And on 9th day after my C- section ,I had to clean my room by holding my stomach with one hand as it had stitches.
So yes everyone do not get this privilege.
You should left your mother in law home with your baby and husband...
@@babymochi1057 Actually my mother in law is good ...She is my mother , the one who gave me birth ,she was very brutal towards me .
Rest after delivery you just forget yourself so forget about rest but when think about our little one feels relax and calm❤️
Having a supportive partner or family member is absolutely a blessing. My husband and I made six weeks of freeze-ahead meals this time around, and other church members have been bringing meals as well. He makes sure our older two leave me and the baby alone while we are napping.
He got me to the hospital with 15 minutes to spare when my water unexpectedly broke (in bed early in the morning). I was nervous I was going to have to give birth in his Mustang, but he reassured me the whole way, that the roads were clear and that even if I did have to give birth in the car, the seats could be replaced (haha, I think he plans to put lighter seats in anyway). He went home before the baby and I were discharged to clean our bed up, and did the dirty laundry that was in the baskets the day I went in to labor. He has been my biggest help so far, with my mom and my mother in law and our oldest son sick.
With my other two births, my mother, mother in law, and my grandma came to help me and let me bond with the babies. This time around it's been only him, aside from the short times where I can help, but he's been doing the majority.
Our new baby girl is so sweet and laid back, but wants to marathon nurse a lot so I don't get much else done these days (this is hard for me, I like to have my hands busy)
That is to say i don't lay around being waited on hand and foot as that would drive me batty. I do what I'm able to do.
He's really been amazing.
😢😭my mother don't even get rest for even 6 days after my birth i love my mother
In west africa you go back to your mothers house after giving birth to get pampered and have massages. It can prevent having post partum depression as well
That's amazing. that is a common practice in India too but now sadly slowly declining
America could learn a thing or two. Here, if you’re not caving to every whim your baby has with a smile on your face and a spring in your step, you’re shamed and harassed and verbally abused and threatened with CPS. 🤦♀️
For how long?
@@aidamwakalinga6182 it depends if you miss you house or not😄. In senegal it's around 2 months
@@genericagayeThen I will stay to my parents house for not less than 2 months 😂
My mom was here for two weeks after baby was born. She did everything for us. All the meals, cleaning, the laundry and anything else. She’s a saint. She had to get back to help care for my dad but I love her so much and appreciate her. I didn’t have to life a finger when she was here. Unless I wanted to…
I give birth here in uae im alone only my husband beside me and after 2month i go back to work. Everyone who have there family beside them your so lucky im happy for u all.. ❤
Not everyone is blessed to have some one to. Look after delivery
Very useful video and u show with practical
Amazing body of a mother! 🥰 I’m 31, pregnant and pcos warrior and a single mom 😊
Pls do some yoga poses to prevent uterine prolapse in the peri menopausal stage
Whats that can you explain simply?
@@kajalchauhan8361 the uterine muscles weaken with age causing the uterus to shift down eventually to come out of vagina…. That is uterine prolapse. It is a very common occurrence in women
If you haven’t read the description, the red circle is representative of the wound where the placenta was previously attached. When the placenta is removed, the wound is left and it bleeds heavily and takes 6-8 weeks to heal! If you had a wound the size of a dinner plate on the outside of your stomach, a wound that is visible and bleeds as heavily, then women would be encouraged to rest, to look after themselves! Many cultures are wonderful at post partum care - however in the West there is an expectation for women to return to normal asap.
Women are so blessed to have help like that
It’s priceless✨♥️🙏🏽
thanks to my mother in law she is so nice .maine C-section ke pure 3 mhine rest Liya unki wjh se
I want to see how uterus heal after C-section
Me too
I'm not lucky....I go to work just 9 days ..😢
Dont worry dr😊 nimthara thumba jana idare including me also iam doing all work in my house 😒
Same situation in my in laws house I do all work alone in just one month delivery
@@sagafsamsi-dz4pw😒😞
I love you dear 💖😘 coz you show the real pain of a mother with such good examples. Your videos are very neat and clean. Thank you so much. Blessed to have such a beautiful heart woman in the world.❤
God blessed with such a caring Mother...... I feel proud to have her in my life
Not every women's are privilege with caring family
This is why it's so important to wait to at least the 6 week mark to have sex again. You can DIE if you have sex and get sepsis!
Alhamdullilah mre dono bachon me, me apny ghr thi or mje puray 40 days rest krwaya mri ami mre hubby ka alag alg khana bhejti daily or abu lekr aty or hubby nashta bna dety thy bht shukr he Allah ka or pehli baby me nanden bhi 10 days ruk kr gai thi Allah sbko khush abaad rkhy jbhi hm bad me bht sara kaam rny k qabil rehty
I thank God that I have a mom ,dad and a husband that cares me a lot ❤❤❤
Thats the reason for 6 months pregnancy leave. Which India has
Indias traditions are the best.. every tredition has the scientific reasons...but the sad thing is India's only not following them in the name of morden n insulting our tredition many times...
Not having my mum or mum in law around me in the country I stay is bad enough. The sad thing is they don't genuinely care to know if I'm doing OK or not after i had my baby. None of them check up on me for any reason. It can be very painful. But i'm thankful to God for being my support and for my husband too. If you get enough support, be grateful. It is pure gold.
Wuooo i am soo thankfull for my sister that has been with me, I am 3 weeks post and she has been cooking and cleaning and doing all the things in the house, mom is not close but she has been my second mom 🥰
My mother had to work during and after her pregnancy because of my grandmother she was very strict and treated my mom brutally my mom had to cook for lots of people as that was before my aunties got married she cooked and worked for almost 15people she is a mother of 4 children and there was another one who is no more but the thing is my mom's belly is puffed maybe it's something internal but she thinks that is fat
Sasural me rah not possible rest for 6 week💔
100% ✓
i admire everyone who has a village ,
i am currently pregnant and have a toddler 🥹 my mom passed last year , and so did my bf’s mom so it just kinda feels empty without the both em. praying God gives me the strength to do this mommy thing all over again w a toddler. ❤
Prayers to all the ladies especially out in male dominated communities/foreign lands where women are treated like crap 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 We need to normalize sending well wishes for each other. I’m blessed in America…Thank you to my mother in law and sister in law who took care of me and still does 😢 Also my baby dad although we have our days … my baby loves him. -5months new mama
Kaas c section operation k baad bas do char din rest milta..to bhi kafi tha 😟
😢
@@blackshine872 apna apna luck sis
Maine tho 7 th day ko hi sare kaam shuru kardiye, mummy aanahi payi merepass. rahnahi payi sasuma, unko tho bus bahane chahiye the door rahne ke.
Great.. you are so lucky ki sasu ma aa nhi payi... meri toh ayi fir bhi delivery ke next day se hi sare kaam krne pade.. aur upar se inke nakhre.... ki time par khana nhi milta, acha khana nhi bana, kitna khati rehti h ......husband k kaan bharna😢😢😢
Worst days of my life
@@MakeLifeCreative ha kya meri sasu ma ayithi 1 1/2 month ke baad,ek din lunch late bana tho kehene lagi hum patient hai humko time pe khana chahiye tho maine kaha main b patient hi hun, aur mere husband ke kan bare sasu ma ne, kub jamke ladai hue mere aur pathi ke fir kya maine kaha main yaha nahi rukungi, tho mere husband unko ghar wapas bej diya😁