This Makes WOMEN Want To COMMIT (This Mistake Pushes Her Away)
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Life is so short and you don’t get it back. If you like a girl, let her know and go after her, if she don’t like you or thinks, it’s weird, then that’s all you really need to know about her, great video brother.
Life is the longest thing you'll experience, and using that as a reason to rush into a relationship will only make it feel longer if it goes sour. Telling a girl you "like her" is terrible advice. Let it happen naturally, either it works or it doesn't.
@@Dad_of_Warno that's a cope that leaves it in women's hands to manipulate men, it's like going on endless interviews for a job
Imagine a job telling you they will interview you an indefinite number of times but don't worry, just let the process happen
@@moneylineparlay105 manipulate me how? That only happens to weak men, you allow what you tolerate. Be the leader, don't give up your power by asking a woman for a relationship, she should be asking you.
@@Dad_of_War yes and she never asks you lol
@@Dad_of_War keep going on endless interviews, she will hire you one day LMAO
Saying to a woman that you’re looking for a long term commitment, it’s a filter mechanism. You want to leverage this tool and make sure that your intentions are clear. The real woman that are ready for LTR will appreciate it and feel honored. That’s how you win her heart.
Men need to move with a purpose, then great things will happen. At the end of the day, the men decide who he wants to marry to. The woman will feel privileged to be the chosen one. The woman is already evaluating you for LTR since the first encounter. Also, she will deeply consider chemistry in the evaluation process. Well said LFA.
Any thing other than that, run to the mountains. Pick your woman wisely, kings. It will make you or break you.
Mature statement.
What you're saying is somewhat opposite of what other manosphere people are saying and it jives more with me because I'm a Christian and follow Christian principles. Right now, I'm trying to listen to different viewpoints and hopefully I can weed out the crap and let God lead me
Brother you are such a force of positivity, you can't even imagine :)
I had an amazing GF from 17 to 20. Left her cause I wanted some other experience before commitment, and to prove to myself that I was able to seduce women. I'm now 25, had experiment with many girls since but all I can say is that chemistry is everything. And manosphere/alpha content just fucks up your mind. Trust your gut feelings, be real with the people.
I'm glad you said this. Needs to be said.
Truth! There needs to be chemistry and compatiblity. You can tell pretty much in the first minutes of communicating if there is chemistry
Was about to say the same thing, it's all about chemistry and how you get along with her.. as long as you observe some basic rules like don't be really clingy, it's all good. Like the other guy said, this red pill dating stuff really messes with your mind
Do you regret leaving her?
25? 😂You seduce toddlers. You don’t know jack
In my opinion, most people ignore their gut feelings when it comes being in a relationship maybe because of fear of being alone.
there's an easy way to get over that feeling. Face the fact you alone will die when your life is over. No one else goes with you, only you yourself. If you can get comfortable with that thought, you can be alone while you're alive no problem.
@@donttreadonmetal5073 I appreciate it, Thank you.
Thank's, LFA. Your advice is real, positive, and deep
You are doing a good job. We are all learning something here.
Thanks Bud! You are so original.
More truth bombs in this upside down clown society! Keep dropping them brother…much of the brethren need the direction.
Great message and great video, thank you LFA.
Thank for the video LFA. Man you hit every topic dead on. 🔥🔥🔥👍🏿👍🏿💯💯💯
Salute!
Appreciate your advice man. You make alot of logic and understanding in your advice. Your helping me and a ton of others. Thanks!
Real talk as always my brother ..
Salutations from the UK ✌🏼
I just got to say thank you brother for all your advice and everything you do. Wish I had found you months ago. Probably would have saved me a lot of trouble but your message is definitely coming through loud and clear. Thank you bro.
even though you don’t get the views or likes that you deserve, your videos help a lot, they give information, relaxation and understanding, keep them up and never stop bro 💪🏻
So glad I found this channel, dude is full of infinite knowledge.
Great message
Great video bro
Great talk brother and so mature and true 👌🏾😃💚
Great stuff!
Spot on! I just lost my Brazilian girlfriend after 3 years of relationship. She asked me even 2 times in one month about my intentions like if I want to marry her. After I said am not sure about it she changed completely and I couldn’t save our relationship anymore and I tried but she became distant with me and the harder I tried to get her back the worse things became so I gave up on her eventually. Lesson learned, I screwed it up, I know she really wanted me to want her 100%
She tried to pressure you into marriage after 1 month dude, you dodged a bullet! After one month you still barely know each other
@@fonzworthbentley7455 "after 3 years of relationship".
@@fonzworthbentley7455 Did you read the post? He said they’d been dating 3years.
@@fonzworthbentley7455He said 3 years.
@@fonzworthbentley7455no, read the comment she didn't pressure him into marriage after one month of relationship
Great point made here
I have been watching and reading red pill stuff for many years. And I have come to a point of hopelessness. But I know what you said is true. So thank you so much for reminding me. Now I can believe in it again
God is Good. Keep preaching the truth dude. Lots of gems of wisdom here. Take note guys. Peace and love.
Been watching you for two years and a bit, LFK. This, at least for me, is your best video thus far.
To think what you said is considered counterintuitive today, too.
It’s great that you debunk what many so-called men’s content creators are saying.
Women just want a good man at the end of the day.
And the ones who want crap men probably need to sort some stuff out with themselves.
I’m over 50 and had much experience with women. , never ever ask the woman for a commitment relationship, if she asks you can agree, but if you ask her she has the upper hand and you will pay in the long run. , trust me on this one guys
Hmm. I don’t see the correlation between taking the lead and losing the upper hand.
I agree lfa, can't a real "alpha" do what he pleases and demand/request what he desires. Isn't there some virtue to being a respectful man who does not sleep around or play games. We are high value men, we can get women. But we want to choose you. I think that true confidence let's you not lose the upper hand, maybe guys who feel like it is all a facade/bluff, "knows" they are giving up the upper hand, basically insecure. If we are secure, they will be overjoyed.
Thank you 💯
Quality bro 👌
This video brought me back to life, Bro.
i'm beginning to see how simple it really is. like you said in an older video, attraction can't be negotiated. if there's mutual attraction between you and a woman it's pretty easy to make things work out. just know what you want and deny playing immature games.
Thank you for the video. You’re right. Chemistry’s gotta be there first. It just makes the first stage of the relationship easier.
Love the shirt 👍
Dude I haven't been to this channel in a while, good job on the subs do0d. Nice
Agree with most of the recent content (20vids), but not with the chemistry example in this video (from @14:55). Chemistry is a double-edged sword. I definitely believe its not right to discard someone in the very beginning because of the lack of chemistry. Sure, if you are looking for a one-nighter then yeah, but value over time, you threw out a perfect opportunity.
Long-lasting relationships start slow with no extreme emotions - no rush, no stress, etc. It should feel like entering an harbour after long trip, not the other way around. In the heat of things (chemistry) it is very easy to overlook the red flags, which most tend to sugarcoat for themselves. Fireworks in the beginning usually isn’t a good thing, it’ll wear out after a month or three and after that it usually wrecks because of no chemistry. Then the toxic emotional spiral starts to spiral.
You are the positive men’s dating coach. Many men’s channels disparage women but not yours.
I’ve noticed that every time I feel like I have possible chemistry with a girl, her face just lights up when she sees me, we talk fairly easily etc. she is spoken for almost every time. My luck isnt so good I guess lol. Well that and I don’t go out enough
I really love your content man. I'm your key demographic - 33, a lot of LTRs, 2 brief man-ho phases - and new to the dating side of red pill philosophy. But a lot of it didn't set completely right with me. It absolutely works to draw women in -- but if you allow it to mask your personality, you diminish the innate character traits required to 'create' chemistry. I've been seeing a girl I have insane chemistry with, consciously avoiding talk of commitment because of logistical reasons -- but also because red pill teaches you that women should chase that from you. But if I keep playing coy and amplify her negative feelings, I'm just going to frustrate her and pass up a chance with a chick that I really like. I think this video finally tipped the scale for me. Thanks brother
Retaining makes you the Chemist🤛🏻
You are so smart. 😌
He gets that shit from Me honey.
Thank you for teaching me how to be a man. My dad passed away 2020 and all I have left are people like you on UA-cam trying to help people like me. God bless you and I am going to be a man.
Great video to listen to on a christmas morning.
I feel like this is where im at with this girl, there is chemistry, and we have made the connection for life, but i am not oke with where im at in life and i cant give it her. She became cold/distant. It took me by surprise but w/e, i went along. Previous time her "bye" gesture was more of a question, will i see you again. And i said no- which i regret- in the form of a goodbye. So this time when she was distant, i told her "i'll see you again", i didnt look at her face but her reaction was a surprisingly happy nod or bow in agreement. I feel like a beta, i might be wrong about a possible future but im learning, and i felt good after she rejected me. She's strong enough to do so, cuz i really think she is sweet and helpful to others but i dont want her to be a doormat.
Hi, LFA. Im a longtime follower and I listened to you frequently over the years. I noticed you have some connection to Brazil, I just bingewatched some of you vids and I heard your sad story about a brazilian chick that set you up, and I also heard you say CINCO DE MAIO. Im brazilian myself, and I'm about the same age as you, I also share many of your concerns and questions about todays world and dating game, honestly you are very very like my closest friends. I just wanted to know how do you deal with being religious and be guilt free from hooking up with many chicks, because I have this issue myself. I always had this, I struggle with doing that, not because I can't, but because it weights heavily upon my conscience. Thats just an idea for a future subject or video. Thanks man. Regards from São Paulo
Exactly. I've looked at so much dating advice from various coaches or advisors (including my parents advice), then looking at actual relationships, whether most of it actually made sense. Ultimate conclusion is that just about none of it matters because the relationships that works is one that comes through a genuine way of living that you have chosen for yourself. Things just happen. There is no answer to how to get a girlfriend/wife. There's just learning how to understand and live with that person. Who you choose is your own choice and all it really comes down to is the way you two spend time together and apart.
It's almost black pill, but it's not. Black pill says you're either lucky enough be found attractive or you just ain't gonna cut it and there's nothing you can do to change that, then there's some saying that applies somewhere which is that nothing matters. Though, in truth, it's a little more gray. The truth is you maybe at where you're at now, but you can form a better view of life and start to live better, that will at least improve your chances of finding someone.
Though at the end of the day, all it takes is the right kind of person and some discernment. Very little need to learn about masculinity and femininity, but it can help find your way in life, if you're careful.
I needed to read this. Thank you.
18:21 truth be told
There's a lot of confusion and mixed messages on social media regarding relationships. I see so many videos where people say pursue women and then not to. It's creating this like double mind. This isn't a knock on you LFA at all. It's just a trend that I see and it makes me wonder if any of the videos I see are helping the lives of men where they are producing lasting results cos to be honest, it just seems like things are getting worse. The signs of the times. Peace.
The guys telling you that commitment turns women off are lying to scare people into buying their solutions. I’m simply giving advice that’s universally true.
I'd argue that at the start you should invest in getting the contact and connection going, but then the woman should do her best to keep the connection going and you lean back a bit more. Of course you need to keep it going as well, but if you push a lot, it can result in her pulling back. It's a dance. But heck, I can't tell a lot. Just my 2 cents of how I think it works.
I have had that chemistry , i was a pro drummer in the 80s one night in Ft.lauderdale during my break I met a girl we talked i could taste and smell her without touching her it was a DNA thing . Never forgot till this day . Chemistry is GOD doing his abracadabra it is that heavy ❤❤❤!!!
I noticed mine was a virgin in videochat, so I decided 5 days later to marry her.
@@blockaderunnersound retarted
By the way, just because a woman is smoking hot and you find her a 10 physically, doesn't guarantee that she's the one
8:48 Chemistry!
This one was great! Thanks. Truth was spoken here tonight.
In my case, I felt chemistry/compatibility/connection many times.. but just to find out, the girl was manipulating me for attention or playing me. In other cases, I had issues with self-esteem/body image etc. Either way hard to think any family can last in the west.
tru
Hello LFA
Chad and Tyrone? Save some ladies for the rest of us bro.
Will do!😂
It's all about how you do it
4:38 and that is all the advice you need basically
Haha you can get an LFA jigsaw🤙🏼
Going after Casey 😂. Casey puts out some decent content, albeit it seems to be for attracting the modern type female. Traditional women won't respond well to that type of game after a while, but it does work for attracting women with daddy issues if that's the type of woman you want. Keep up the quality content 💪
Not going after anyone. But most dating coaches are teaching men to create temporary trauma bonds rather than solid family bonds.
@LFA Exactly! Bottom line is they're teaching men to do what you need to do to get a girl that's not wife or girlfriend material. Mental problems, low morality etc. Teaching people things you shouldn't be doing, go after a girl you shouldn't be going after. It's actually a sick/ scary concept when you say it out loud. But that's what it is.
LFA; you mean you're not gonna try to sell the scrambler like Bobbi Rio🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂
17:00 Golden Nugget Video!
Everyone online is now a relationship gurus and genius.
And fitness guru, and financial guru. And chosen one guru.
@@LFA you are absolutely rig about the whole chemistry thing I agree with you on that. But at the same time I still kinda agree to what these red-pill community and manospheres are talking about. A woman in her younger prime years really isn’t looking to settle down or date quality men. They wants these so-called good guys when they are now in the decline. Not all younger women, but majority. Remember when you were in high school or early college years you will notice that the so-called back room bad boys where getting all the women. While the nerd who wears eye glasses study all the time gets As grade going to college to be a medical doctor gets overlooked and under appreciated by those younger women. And it’s even worse now in our public high schools, thanks to social media.
They will settle down if they’re with a man they want to settle down with. There’s no point in being afraid to show certainty. Show certainty and weed out the people who are uncertain.
I find modern women to be very responsive to men who are direct, confident, dominant, and assertive. But they are hesitant with men who are emotionally uncertain, fake alpha, distant, and using forced tactics to attempt to appeal to women.
Maybe you should do a program, perhaps it could help some people.
Excellent vid.. Start up good stuff.. unlike all the other BS vids from those guys that just keep saying.. Treat them poorly.. they wil love you more!! LMAO Ohh and props on the shirt!! Rah!!
I liked this video I feel the same about men if I like a man I will let him know.
Are you going to discuss the Danny Masterson life sentence?
How do I get chemistry? I think I have a friend who know a guy that has a degree in chemistry. Maybe I should ask him.
Young but wise
I been there two man. Well, said about the chemistry. One of the finest women I’ve ever seen in my life ended up kissing at college and it just felt… fake? Never mouth kissed my older sister so I cant compare but it just didn’t feel like it was supposed to be happening, if that makes any sense.
Laughed out loud at the kissing your sister part - you can’t make that isht up. Its there or it isnt…
You think it's a good idea for the man start the "where are we going" or "let be exclusive" conversation? Or let her do it? I'm in a situation where we act pretty much like we are in a relationship for tha last 2 months but never had that conver, maybe theres a way I can force her to initiate it
***Temporary
🤟🏼
I love this message
I have had that no chemistry thing recently. There is this girl I have been talking to for a while. Insanely attractive, body like they used to draw female superheros in the comics. I finally got in good with her and we started fooling around and I wont lie it was fun but afterward I felt kind of meh about her. There was just nothing about her other then her insane body that made me want to be with her. And once I had her once I lost almost all interest.
You made some great points. I think the whole idea that commitment itself will cause a relationship to cease is just disingenuous. It’s coming from guys who are making a commitment to women who don’t want commitment, i.e OF girls, pstars, instagram th*ts, etc. Same can be said about guys who say once they were vulnerable the women cheated. Like no. She was always a cheater. A woman doesn’t just decide to cheat on you overnight. A mature woman would know you’ll have ups and downs. You’ll make mistakes. For anyone male or female to believe they’ll have a blank faced for years or decades is insane and unrealistic. She’ll see you at your worst. You need to acknowledge that. But some guys don’t. They try to paint this perfect image because they’re unwilling to accept reality and trying to play into her delusions. Bad idea.
women don't commit...men do. sucker's game.
Depends on how they feel about the man they’re committing to.
@@LFA that's the problem, you never really know about how they feel...you can't trust what they tell you, even when you walk down the isle and they say "i do" to all the vows. Again, it's a sucker's game.
You’ll know how they feel when set boundaries.
You can't escape the psychology of a woman, though. The second she's "validated", you're too available, and she doesn't value the internal guts of a man. You're screwed.
She shouldn't always have clarity on where things stand-you should make her need you and fight for your approval.- this needs to be maintained throuhout or she will level up, because she is hypergamous- it has nothing to do with looks or status.
If that were true, no woman and world history would’ve ever said yes to a proposal from a man. Who’s teaching y’all this stuff?
@LFA ua-cam.com/video/2Mv_RQgsG8s/v-deo.htmlsi=I5159yeXq8Ul-VcP
lFA. I like you but 76% of marriage ends in divorce..it's easy to get married.. it's not easy to STAY married. Especially nowadays with propaganda and social media..If I told you there was a 76% chance you'd die if you went outside today..you surely wouldn't go outside. Women aren't special in terms of making them the center of your universe, they do and Will leave men for acting overly interested giving full validation.
This video was for guys who want to be in the 24% of marriages that don’t get divorced.
@LFA I don't disagree with you. It still is what it is and women are who they are. Appreciate you
We can choose to be part of the problem or part of the change.
good man, good talk! remember though that there will be a lot of men that don't have kids, and that's "normal". since the beginning of time 60% of men don't have kids and 40% do. And for women it's 80% that do have kids and 20% don't. So if you are a Man who doesn't have kids, you are in that 60% group and are "normal." So by that math, the men that do have kids (the most fit, strong, and attractive men) on average do so with 2 different women (assuming 50/50 of the entire population is evenly split b/w men & women). And the "unattractive" and weaker men's genetics don't get passed on to the future generations (only Chad's dna Does (lol)). This too is evolution and is normal. But to create the "healthy" modern society we had in the past (back in the 1950s or whatever...) you have to by definition "have" lots of men who are raising kids that are not their own (b/c those 60/40 and 80/20 numbers are how the human species procreates under all conditions and across all time, even before recorded history). And since we are in some type of twilight zone now where right is wrong and wrong is good (if you watch the MSM), I would bet that large numbers of the 60% of men group who shouldn't be procreating (based on evolutionary characteristics) are [having kids]. And lots of super fit men are being somehow flipped or bumped out of the 40% group who should be passing on their dna, but are monk mode, not having kids and not being fathers. Nothing really can fix this, it's been going on too long. That is not to say the efforts you are making with these videos, as analogous as they are to "putting a band aid on a 50 cal. gunshot wound," are in vain. Keep being the light you are, the good man that you are LFA! I am with you!!
Haha matan evans
If ur ever wondering if she likes you she doesn't.
I think its good to let the woman come with the suggestion of a committed relationship first though.
The notion that you cant committ to a woman I think came from guys often making the mistake of thinking that the woman now is their girlfriend after the first date. And starts acting clingy.
I'm pretty sure my audience doesn't need to be told not to act clingy.
@@LFA I'm referring to where I think the notion evolved from. And went to the other extreme.
True
Agree.
50 or 60 day to day?! Man I need to move I might see 1 a week Im attracted to! Thanks for the video tho
LFA what all does that shirt say?
Looks like,God is Good!
ALL THE TIME
@@LFA amen, thanks for the reply it was informative
Is this in direct contradiction to Corey Wayne?
Probably not.
@@LFA just wondering because he's always talking about being ambiguous and not really thinking about "relationships" as a man...
Beware of Trophy wives, they are not always a keeper.
Solid video that I needed to hear as starting something new with a women were both attracted to each other the chemistry is their now to see our values 🫡
Just because that guy has the grill doesn't garenty he is always happy eather just saying
There's no benefit for a man to get married
Explain
Marriage is a sacrament
Never lust over a woman
Women love my money? 💵 🙄
That hot chick who posted online asking for a sweet tea was for the streets. Seeking attention online. You dodged a bullet
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