Please don’t worry about your expression of femininity. There are definitely guys out there who are attracted to that. Don’t try to change yourself in anticipation of what you think guys want. Be yourself.
I’d lovingly disagree -- just trying to be upfront and honest but I feel like it needs to be said, being a feminine guy has huge draw backs and most gay men themselves are into masculinity -- even the FEM guys are into masculinity and won’t date each other (in mass). It’s just the truth man -- IF you want to attract GAY MEN you should act like a man. Yes, there are men who are into feminized men but I’d venture to say that most gay guys you find attractive will find you more attractive if you hold back on the fem stuff. We all choose who we want to be and what parts of ourselves we want to show. You don’t HAVE TO wear your femininity on your sleeve. You’re a very handsome guy and you sexy features but the fem stuff def knocks you down and this is just reality man
6:07 I understand your logic BUT you are identifying with make up and making it your entire personality where as you can play the game of life to your benefit -- I’m just saying …you are playing the game BY CHOICE on hard and then complaining …because it’s hard. If you’re a man willing to reject others because they reject your make up you’ve become tooo identified with the make up and are crying on self imposed pain. There are standards for men and standards for women and they aren’t going away man. Just some real gay bro to gay bro thoughts -- no intent to offend just think as a community we need to stop lying to ourselves and each other
Love, I’m 23 and sometimes I feel like I’m at death’s door 😂 I never been in one either. I think for me, love is too precious to rush into. Patience brings the greatest gifts. You will find someone who makes you their everything. ❤️Love from London❤️
I'm sorry but you were not single for "25 years", you have been single for 8 years. I'm sorry but I think it's dumb when people say things like that and count EVERY year of their waking life. You were not trying to date when you were a toddler lol. And you said it yourself, you came out at 18 so were you even trying to date when you were in high school? I'm just saying. And believe it or not, 18 is good enough time to come out and the truth of the matter is that when gay guys come out in high school, we are VERY lucky if we get the chance to date and I guarantee you that more often than not, most don't date in high school because we just don't have that opportunity. I came out at 15 (I'm 31 currently) and I remember there was not very many out gay guys and the very few that were, I was just not interested in. I say all this to say that you still have time and 18 was a good starting point. It's better than coming out in your 30s and 40s. Heck some even wait longer until they're in their 60s and 70s, now THAT is a long time lol. So be fortunate you got it early and still have plenty of time. Though LA... Yeah that won't be easy but it can still happen. And finally the femininity thing. So I'm a fellow gay man who is also feminine though compared to you, I 'do veer more into the overtly feminine (how I dress) and yeah, it's true that not many gay men are into feminine men and this will be a big factor in your dating life. I'll be honest, I haven't been in a relationship neither, never even on a real date and I know it's because of how I present myself and my less than masculine attributes. It can suck and it can be lonely but I'd rather just be true to myself than pretend to be something I'm not and I've seen what happens when feminine gay men do a 180 and change themselves. Their dating lives do improve but they are deep down miserable and can crash and burn. I'd rather not experience that and so I decided to just be true to myself while carrying the cross to bear with it. I do think that feminine guys who still dress in a masculine-ish way whereas the only "feminine" things they may do is wear things like lip-gloss, jewelry, and/or nail colors do tend to fair better in finding a guy who won't mind it more-so than a guy like myself. So I would say you'll be fine so long as you're realistic about the kind of guys you're trying to date. For example are you open to dating other guys like yourself? If so, then I'm sure you'll find a guy in the near future. If you're chasing for uber masculine guys though? Yeah that will be a bit of a struggle because again, it's true that the vast majority of these gay men mainly prefer other full-on masculine men. Not saying it can't happen but it's rare. Anyway that's my own 2 cents, good luck~
I have social anxiety too. I hope you find Love, but am super proud of you for not settling. It is so much better to wait for the right time and person!
Your so kind...I know you were with Chynna for a bit...Talk with Beckett maybe God is leading you elsewhere and NO I am not anti gay OK??? Just let God lead you Tyler..Not being unkind or judgemental I am sincere
Tyler, I can relate to this so much as I am also a 25 year old gay man who has never been in a relationship! Literally not even close lol. We have a lot of similarities in the way we think and the outlook we have so I truly wish you the best and I appreciate your vulnerability on this platform! It can be exhausting finding someone in the gay community, but ultimately that right person will be there for us someday!
Patrick, thank you so much for the support, I had no idea other people felt the way I did/were in the same situation as I was. We’ve got to stick together! I am always here for you!
@@patricksuarez1977 that's wonderful. I subscribed to your UA-cam channel. Maybe Tyler can help you with your editing. I don't see any recent videos but your first one was awesome ☺️
I am 57, gay, and never had a boyfriend. Out at age 22, and was SO VERY happy to do it. It was an explosion of happiness. A boyfriend has always been my wish, I was ready to adopt kids and everything. I had a plan, but it never came true. I hope there is someone out there who can tell me "what happens" to old ugly gay people. People have ALWAYS said to me, "When you least expect it, that person will come along". I'm 57. I gave up being a "wall hugger" or "the guy holding up the wall" MANY years ago. NOBODY will "come along". DO NOT BELIEVE people who say that.
I'm 38 and haven't dated in 14 years. None of my past boyfriends were even relationships really, just a couple flings, nothing lasted beyond a month or two because they cheated or dropped me. I hate trying to meet anyone on apps, I really want it to happen organically in real life. I met a cute guy at work who's always been super nice and talked to me a lot and made me laugh, the guy even brought me SALMON!! But he turned out to be straight (how?!) My best friend who used to identify as pansexual decided he was straight also, and that's the worst because he's adorable and always checks up on me and we always text and say how we love each other and cuddle platonically (he has Asperger's and past trauma, so he's a really special, unique case in that way). I tried making a move on him once and we talked about things, and he's like "I love you as a friend and we can cuddle, but I'm not physically into guys". Idk if the universe is just telling me it's not my time and I need to be patient (as if I haven't been patient enough for the past 20+ years lol), or if I need to be more assertive/confident or what but it's killing me, I just want the kind of loving relationship I've always wanted since I was a teen 😢 Sigh.
I'm 39 and and I've never hadba boy or anything close to that. Men just aren't attracted to me and I'm not mad at them for that( i understand) but it's very depressing.
La dating scene sucks, its not you! You’ll find someone and when u do you’ll realize relationships aren’t the most important part of your life anyways. Focus on you and your hustle and someone will come along. Love you!
Hi Tyler, this was my first time watching you. Just wanted you to know you are not alone. Us gays feel especially alone because we realize how accessible dating is for heterosexual people. And when we look within our own community, it seems to be a culture of hooking up and over sexualization. Keep those high standards. They will get you far. This period in your life when you are single will be most important when you eventually find someone. You will remember your days being single and thank yourself for looking out for yourself. Good luck with everything in looking inward and learning to love who you are.
It's 2024 and I just found your video. I would be turning 21 later this year, no relationship experience, never went out on a date. Sometimes I feel pretty unlovable and undesirable, because I'm only desired sexually. And yes I do wonder what is wrong with me? Am I that boring that no one wants to get with me. It's really a difficult journey. Looking at the time frame, I hope you have found a significant other at this point. Thank you very much for the video, it just made me feel that I am not alone. ❤
Just keep being who you want to be and at the right time someone will come along. You’re still young and have plenty of time for a relationship. You look amazing and have the best hair! You keep being your number 1 fan
Sweety I sure pray that changes for you Don't concentrate so much energy to looking for someone. Let it go. Live your life and be happy. Then the right person will come along
After being with a lot of men you realize a relationship is not the most important thing in the world. How is your relationship with yourself? If you can't count on yourself in a bad time you cant count on anyone else. Idk I just dont care as much for men. I'm picky too and when you face the odds and mature you realize it may not be in the cards for you and thats fine. Hollywood and social media sell you this lie that you need validation from someone else.
It’s okay to be single cuz we don’t have heterosexual’s society pressure, but still, I think the longer you’re single and alone the more you’re not into relationships…. Maybe it’s just me?
Tyler,I love your genuine heart. The person who falls in love with you will be so damn lucky 😘 Thank you for sharing ❤️. Have a wonderful day and Happy New Year.. I think your handsome as heck... Especially your gorgeous eyes and 👄
I had my first (and until now last) kind of relationship with 25 which did not last long but had an important impact on me. It wasn‘t a very pleasant experience in the end. However thanks to him (like for real), even though I‘m a very romantic kind of person wanting a relationship, I learned to REALLY prefer being single as long as I haven‘t met the right one. And I know he is somewhere.
You want what is extremely rare. Most relationships don't last and cause a lot of financial and emotional misery in the end. Just be you. Find peace in yourself
Wow, I do not know where you are in life right now because you posted this 6 months ago. It sounds like you are being protected. Serving self is the road to destruction. Serving , loving, and following Jesus is the road to life and meaning.
Yo Tyler! I'm also 25, and I've never been on a relationship either😅 I used to and sometimes still worry about this..but the thing is there has never been anyone I've been interested in either..hang in there..everyone we got this. I do understand being the 3rd or 6th wheel
I adore you! Be patient, it will happen. In the meantime, Miss Patti Stanger needs to roll out a dating show with you as the star! She is ahh-maxing at match making!
I feel like I’m ugly and it’s truly sad I just feel like no one cares about me I’m so over everyone just seeing others happy makes me sad it is what it is tho I’m over people
False. There is a stronger force that brought you to life for a reason. Your life 100% serves a purpose (regardless if you know it now or not), that is why a stronger force decided you would be born. Whether people around you show care for you or not, is irrelevant, since there is always a tomorrow and we all have different eras in our life paths, with different levels of "care from others towards us". I have lived long periods of life, when I really felt no one cared about me, but I also had subsequent periods where friends came along and felt cared for. Your worth is ABOVE whether others show care for you or not. Still, new people who do show care for you, willl come along later in life.
@@josephlawson1960 Thanks ❤️ I been trying to get well is so hard worst when you are practically alone in this world and for us been gay super difficult
Hello my lovely Tyler❤️, as a woman of an older age group to you PLEASE understand that you are following the right path of setting standards, that accompany you and the life you want to live. Making conscious choices should never be a negative attribute, it should be promoted. I first saw you on Chyna's channel and was so impressed with you , I subscribed to your current channel.i adore you and know in my heart that you will find your life and soul partner....don't try because it is all set ready for you.... just have faith ❤️XX
Tara, THANK YOU for this. Your words are so encouraging and I really appreciate and agree with everything you just said. Thank you for the support and amazing advice. ♥️♥️♥️
Wow man did you have a girlfriend before? I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either and got rejected by 2 of my crushes in my college recently. Btw yesterday I heard a song which was released in 2009 and I felt nostalgic hearing it and it reminds me of a girl whom I knew since my school days. She was in the same grade as me but we weren't in the same class and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so the same age as me and I followed her on Instagram but she hasn't accepted my follow request yet. I wish she could be my girlfriend now but she is too pretty and I was considered a loser by most guys in my grade in high school so maybe she would still find me lame even though she probably didn't know me properly. She also probably has a boyfriend. I really wish she follow me back so I can chat with her and get to know her.
Please don’t worry about your expression of femininity. There are definitely guys out there who are attracted to that. Don’t try to change yourself in anticipation of what you think guys want. Be yourself.
thank you so much 😊
I’d lovingly disagree -- just trying to be upfront and honest but I feel like it needs to be said, being a feminine guy has huge draw backs and most gay men themselves are into masculinity -- even the FEM guys are into masculinity and won’t date each other (in mass).
It’s just the truth man -- IF you want to attract GAY MEN you should act like a man. Yes, there are men who are into feminized men but I’d venture to say that most gay guys you find attractive will find you more attractive if you hold back on the fem stuff.
We all choose who we want to be and what parts of ourselves we want to show. You don’t HAVE TO wear your femininity on your sleeve.
You’re a very handsome guy and you sexy features but the fem stuff def knocks you down and this is just reality man
6:07 I understand your logic BUT you are identifying with make up and making it your entire personality where as you can play the game of life to your benefit -- I’m just saying …you are playing the game BY CHOICE on hard and then complaining …because it’s hard. If you’re a man willing to reject others because they reject your make up you’ve become tooo identified with the make up and are crying on self imposed pain. There are standards for men and standards for women and they aren’t going away man. Just some real gay bro to gay bro thoughts -- no intent to offend just think as a community we need to stop lying to ourselves and each other
I'm 49 and never had one you aint missing out on much learnt to live along and get use to it.
Love, I’m 23 and sometimes I feel like I’m at death’s door 😂 I never been in one either. I think for me, love is too precious to rush into. Patience brings the greatest gifts. You will find someone who makes you their everything.
❤️Love from London❤️
Same here. 24, just started coming out to others last year. Feel like I missed that highschool dating scene
I'm sorry but you were not single for "25 years", you have been single for 8 years. I'm sorry but I think it's dumb when people say things like that and count EVERY year of their waking life. You were not trying to date when you were a toddler lol. And you said it yourself, you came out at 18 so were you even trying to date when you were in high school? I'm just saying.
And believe it or not, 18 is good enough time to come out and the truth of the matter is that when gay guys come out in high school, we are VERY lucky if we get the chance to date and I guarantee you that more often than not, most don't date in high school because we just don't have that opportunity. I came out at 15 (I'm 31 currently) and I remember there was not very many out gay guys and the very few that were, I was just not interested in.
I say all this to say that you still have time and 18 was a good starting point. It's better than coming out in your 30s and 40s. Heck some even wait longer until they're in their 60s and 70s, now THAT is a long time lol. So be fortunate you got it early and still have plenty of time. Though LA... Yeah that won't be easy but it can still happen.
And finally the femininity thing. So I'm a fellow gay man who is also feminine though compared to you, I 'do veer more into the overtly feminine (how I dress) and yeah, it's true that not many gay men are into feminine men and this will be a big factor in your dating life. I'll be honest, I haven't been in a relationship neither, never even on a real date and I know it's because of how I present myself and my less than masculine attributes. It can suck and it can be lonely but I'd rather just be true to myself than pretend to be something I'm not and I've seen what happens when feminine gay men do a 180 and change themselves. Their dating lives do improve but they are deep down miserable and can crash and burn. I'd rather not experience that and so I decided to just be true to myself while carrying the cross to bear with it.
I do think that feminine guys who still dress in a masculine-ish way whereas the only "feminine" things they may do is wear things like lip-gloss, jewelry, and/or nail colors do tend to fair better in finding a guy who won't mind it more-so than a guy like myself. So I would say you'll be fine so long as you're realistic about the kind of guys you're trying to date. For example are you open to dating other guys like yourself? If so, then I'm sure you'll find a guy in the near future. If you're chasing for uber masculine guys though? Yeah that will be a bit of a struggle because again, it's true that the vast majority of these gay men mainly prefer other full-on masculine men. Not saying it can't happen but it's rare.
Anyway that's my own 2 cents, good luck~
I'm 37 and never been in a relationship. So you're good
Lol. I am 35 and never been in any relationship 🎉❤
I have social anxiety too. I hope you find Love, but am super proud of you for not settling. It is so much better to wait for the right time and person!
You’re completely right, Marley. Thank you so much for watching!
Your so kind...I know you were with Chynna for a bit...Talk with Beckett maybe God is leading you elsewhere and NO I am not anti gay OK??? Just let God lead you Tyler..Not being unkind or judgemental I am sincere
Tyler, I can relate to this so much as I am also a 25 year old gay man who has never been in a relationship! Literally not even close lol. We have a lot of similarities in the way we think and the outlook we have so I truly wish you the best and I appreciate your vulnerability on this platform! It can be exhausting finding someone in the gay community, but ultimately that right person will be there for us someday!
What part of California do you live?
Patrick, thank you so much for the support, I had no idea other people felt the way I did/were in the same situation as I was. We’ve got to stick together! I am always here for you!
@@lisamartinez3332 hi, I also live in Los Angeles!
@@patricksuarez1977 that's wonderful. I subscribed to your UA-cam channel. Maybe Tyler can help you with your editing. I don't see any recent videos but your first one was awesome ☺️
I sugest you be your self ,we can't refuse our condition but we'll be able adaptation into our posision
Is Tyler in a relationship now? You got a bf already?
I am not, still never have!
I am 57, gay, and never had a boyfriend. Out at age 22, and was SO VERY happy to do it. It was an explosion of happiness. A boyfriend has always been my wish, I was ready to adopt kids and everything. I had a plan, but it never came true. I hope there is someone out there who can tell me "what happens" to old ugly gay people. People have ALWAYS said to me, "When you least expect it, that person will come along". I'm 57. I gave up being a "wall hugger" or "the guy holding up the wall" MANY years ago. NOBODY will "come along". DO NOT BELIEVE people who say that.
I'm 38 and haven't dated in 14 years. None of my past boyfriends were even relationships really, just a couple flings, nothing lasted beyond a month or two because they cheated or dropped me. I hate trying to meet anyone on apps, I really want it to happen organically in real life. I met a cute guy at work who's always been super nice and talked to me a lot and made me laugh, the guy even brought me SALMON!! But he turned out to be straight (how?!) My best friend who used to identify as pansexual decided he was straight also, and that's the worst because he's adorable and always checks up on me and we always text and say how we love each other and cuddle platonically (he has Asperger's and past trauma, so he's a really special, unique case in that way). I tried making a move on him once and we talked about things, and he's like "I love you as a friend and we can cuddle, but I'm not physically into guys". Idk if the universe is just telling me it's not my time and I need to be patient (as if I haven't been patient enough for the past 20+ years lol), or if I need to be more assertive/confident or what but it's killing me, I just want the kind of loving relationship I've always wanted since I was a teen 😢 Sigh.
Im 40 and gay and never. What is wrong with me?
NOTHING is wrong with you! we are all on our own journey ❤️
Try being in your 50s. And still faced with the same dilema??? Now with erectile and performance issues, beginning to creep in.
I'm 39 and and I've never hadba boy or anything close to that. Men just aren't attracted to me and I'm not mad at them for that( i understand) but it's very depressing.
Lol im not too picky im just ugly 😂 Luckily me as an introvert am not too bothered by it.
Tyler you will find your someone, don’t change a thing ❤️🙏🏻
P.s NEVER stop wearing lip gloss because I adore your lips and the shine😊😘 XX
You’re the best!!!
La dating scene sucks, its not you! You’ll find someone and when u do you’ll realize relationships aren’t the most important part of your life anyways. Focus on you and your hustle and someone will come along. Love you!
Hi Tyler, this was my first time watching you. Just wanted you to know you are not alone. Us gays feel especially alone because we realize how accessible dating is for heterosexual people. And when we look within our own community, it seems to be a culture of hooking up and over sexualization. Keep those high standards. They will get you far. This period in your life when you are single will be most important when you eventually find someone. You will remember your days being single and thank yourself for looking out for yourself. Good luck with everything in looking inward and learning to love who you are.
God bless you Tyler. I think you're smart to wait for QUALITY. No regrets. Peace!
You’re totally right. Thank you so much.
It's 2024 and I just found your video. I would be turning 21 later this year, no relationship experience, never went out on a date. Sometimes I feel pretty unlovable and undesirable, because I'm only desired sexually. And yes I do wonder what is wrong with me? Am I that boring that no one wants to get with me. It's really a difficult journey. Looking at the time frame, I hope you have found a significant other at this point. Thank you very much for the video, it just made me feel that I am not alone. ❤
They,re loss bro your cute, be proud of you, it takes time to find a decent genuine one, im still looking for one !
Just keep being who you want to be and at the right time someone will come along. You’re still young and have plenty of time for a relationship. You look amazing and have the best hair! You keep being your number 1 fan
Thank you, Laney 🥺♥️♥️
Sweety I sure pray that changes for you Don't concentrate so much energy to looking for someone. Let it go. Live your life and be happy. Then the right person will come along
25? Lmao. I'm 39 and never had a relationship still.
After being with a lot of men you realize a relationship is not the most important thing in the world. How is your relationship with yourself? If you can't count on yourself in a bad time you cant count on anyone else. Idk I just dont care as much for men. I'm picky too and when you face the odds and mature you realize it may not be in the cards for you and thats fine. Hollywood and social media sell you this lie that you need validation from someone else.
i love this. thank you.
You are loved ❤❤❤ I think you are very cute
It’s okay to be single cuz we don’t have heterosexual’s society pressure, but still, I think the longer you’re single and alone the more you’re not into relationships…. Maybe it’s just me?
ooofff i felt that
Hi how are you
Im 55 never been in relationship its so hard to drive it you belive it?
Tyler,I love your genuine heart. The person who falls in love with you will be so damn lucky 😘 Thank you for sharing ❤️. Have a wonderful day and Happy New Year.. I think your handsome as heck... Especially your gorgeous eyes and 👄
Lisa, your message made my day. Thank you so much, love!! ♥️♥️♥️
@@iamtylerwells I am happy to hear that. Now you made my day ☺️
But would you date a guy who wears make-up?
sure! why not?
🙏💕
You are loved❤❤❤ I think you are very cute
😊 thank you
I had my first (and until now last) kind of relationship with 25 which did not last long but had an important impact on me.
It wasn‘t a very pleasant experience in the end. However thanks to him (like for real), even though I‘m a very romantic kind of person wanting a relationship, I learned to REALLY prefer being single as long as I haven‘t met the right one. And I know he is somewhere.
I'm 33 year old and I have been in open relationships just for sex ... Never found someone who loves me.. for long relationship
Thank you for this. I'm in the same boat as you are and I often feel that I'm the only one. You give me strength.
We are in this together! ♥️🙏🏼
You want what is extremely rare. Most relationships don't last and cause a lot of financial and emotional misery in the end. Just be you. Find peace in yourself
Wow, I do not know where you are in life right now because you posted this 6 months ago. It sounds like you are being protected. Serving self is the road to destruction. Serving , loving, and following Jesus is the road to life and meaning.
Yo Tyler! I'm also 25, and I've never been on a relationship either😅 I used to and sometimes still worry about this..but the thing is there has never been anyone I've been interested in either..hang in there..everyone we got this. I do understand being the 3rd or 6th wheel
I adore you! Be patient, it will happen. In the meantime, Miss Patti Stanger needs to roll out a dating show with you as the star! She is ahh-maxing at match making!
I feel like I’m ugly and it’s truly sad I just feel like no one cares about me I’m so over everyone just seeing others happy makes me sad it is what it is tho I’m over people
False. There is a stronger force that brought you to life for a reason. Your life 100% serves a purpose (regardless if you know it now or not), that is why a stronger force decided you would be born. Whether people around you show care for you or not, is irrelevant, since there is always a tomorrow and we all have different eras in our life paths, with different levels of "care from others towards us". I have lived long periods of life, when I really felt no one cared about me, but I also had subsequent periods where friends came along and felt cared for. Your worth is ABOVE whether others show care for you or not. Still, new people who do show care for you, willl come along later in life.
Same way.... just had a mental breakdown😭😭
@@josephlawson1960 Thanks ❤️ I been trying to get well is so hard worst when you are practically alone in this world and for us been gay super difficult
❤️❤️❤️
Hello my lovely Tyler❤️, as a woman of an older age group to you PLEASE understand that you are following the right path of setting standards, that accompany you and the life you want to live. Making conscious choices should never be a negative attribute, it should be promoted. I first saw you on Chyna's channel and was so impressed with you , I subscribed to your current channel.i adore you and know in my heart that you will find your life and soul partner....don't try because it is all set ready for you.... just have faith ❤️XX
Tara, THANK YOU for this. Your words are so encouraging and I really appreciate and agree with everything you just said. Thank you for the support and amazing advice. ♥️♥️♥️
I support you as a person. :)
Thank you, Meredith 😊
I am 63 and get over. You don’t need them.
Wow man did you have a girlfriend before? I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either and got rejected by 2 of my crushes in my college recently. Btw yesterday I heard a song which was released in 2009 and I felt nostalgic hearing it and it reminds me of a girl whom I knew since my school days. She was in the same grade as me but we weren't in the same class and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so the same age as me and I followed her on Instagram but she hasn't accepted my follow request yet. I wish she could be my girlfriend now but she is too pretty and I was considered a loser by most guys in my grade in high school so maybe she would still find me lame even though she probably didn't know me properly. She also probably has a boyfriend. I really wish she follow me back so I can chat with her and get to know her.
@@manosijroy8282 Why assume whether or not they’ve had a girlfriend and not a boyfriend? After all, this is a gay video 🤦🏽♂️
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Thx for watching Dad
@@iamtylerwells 1st question
The only thing I would change in you is to get rid of your lipstick coz they would make it more pleasurable to kiss you :)