AUTISM/Potty Training Meltdowns starting the process for ABA therapy
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Emily, my heart goes out to you. My daughter is autistic and is now 7. We did not even try disciplining her until she was 5, partly because we did not think she’d understand. When she got upset as a young child my goal was to soothe her and help her feel better. Once she turned 5 it was like flipping a switch, her receptive language grew overnight, she calmed down and she wanted to please us....for the most part. Transitions are hard for autistic kids, Sawyer may need more TLC than discipline at this age if he’s like my daughter. Hugs to you all!
The psychologist told us to look away from our daughter when she’s showing bad behaviour and say nothing, make no fuss, then when she does the right thing look at her and engage again with happiness.
Nothing else he worked. Reward charts just go over her head.
Would be ever so stoked if you’d check out her journey on here.
It's a very natural thing for Sawyer to learn from watching his older brother and daddy at the toilet, they learn very quickly that way.
Hi Another Linda just coming on to make the exact same comment!
Yes I agree with this too. They prefer to pee in toilet than a potty too
I have commented on almost every one of your posts lately, because of how much Sawyer reminds me of my son. I have a 7-year-old autistic son who acted a lot like Sawyer as a toddler. He doesn't have meltdowns anymore, or if he does they last less than 5 minutes. What changed things for us was when we started letting go of things. Like if he did something that would hurt himself or others then we did the time out and talking to him or taking away things, but if what he was upset about was something different (like because someone left) we would actually do the opposite and show a ton of affection and emotion to let him know we totally understood how he felt and that it was a valid emotion, and ignored the bad mood (again as long as it wasn't hurting himself or others) and it was amazing how much quicker he would calm down.
I think it is very important to view behavior as a form of communication. Give him a way to express how sad and upset he is at people leaving (just an example) and that emotions are not always a negative thing, and I think you will see a change in how he reacts, though it may take a while. I understand the fear of the future. I had worked at a daycare previously for over 10 years and had NO idea why nothing I KNEW was working with my son. Finding out he had autism was almost a relief by the time he was 4 and diagnosed.
I made this video shortly after he was diagnosed.
ua-cam.com/video/qf_WYZKIwoU/v-deo.html
It’s great to see that sawyer loves the one on one time with his therapist! Maybe Emily could have someone watch the kids a few times a week so she can just have one on one time with just sawyer. He seems to really cherish that special time doing things he loves.
Hey Emily one of our Foster sons came to us at 5 years of age. He is diagnosed with cerebral palsy, global developmental delay, age regression and pretty much feral if I'm honest. The one thing that real helped us with potty training was a singing potty watch on Amazon. When it would sing we would run and dance to the potty making it a party 🥳 Hope this helps!
Yes, we also had a potty time video that we watched throughout the day and sang the song as well. I also had a jar filled with dollar store items that if they had success they could get a little toy or candy or snack out of it ir do bubbles. As they began getting more and more toys, we had them do it for every three stickers of success. We also used thick underwear with rubber diaper covers to catch the pee. I firmly believe they have to feel the wetness. During the summer we would play out in the yard in the underwear so they could feel the wetness too. I refuse to use pull ups they are am expensive diaper in my opinion
Good luck.
Get a handicap sticker for your car, since you have Griffin. I assume you can park closer.
We have a handicap placard for our van the parking is still super far from where the door is at the preschool
My son has adhd,ocd,autism and I had a hard time finding what worked with him and me and my husband just keep working with him. We took things away and it took a long time to get him to realize what he was doing wrong and we just worked with him and now he is 13 and so we’ll behaved and we got him the helped he needed and he has turned into such a good man. So just keep doing what you are doing and it should get better with time.
My 3 year twin boys have autism and they started school this past fall. They were not required to be potty trained starting school so I would put them in pull ups.
Honestly I think their teachers did an amazing job getting them potty trained or maybe it was seeing the other kids in their class going to the restroom and it clicked for them. But they will get there!
I agree......totally, as I was a teaching assistant in autistic classes for 3 years - it works seeing other kids and how simple it is.
Hang in there Emily....ABA was a life saver, my son had no words at 5. Six months in he had single words, 1 year he had sentences. I did not leave my house for 2 years because of temper tantrum’s, within months I saw a decree, and I can’t tell you the last time he had a melt down. . We have been doing ABA for 6 years and I owe ABA to his success. My son is in a regular classroom and has friends... I will say the first few months are a little hard, try and stick with it.I know it’s hard❤️❤️
2 Biggest tips we’ve learned along the way: First. preempt everything you can. Transitions are hard and there are more of them everyday than we realize. Say things like “today so and so is coming. Griffin goes first and sawyer goes next.” Use pictures to show it. “Next we are going in the car. We will have to wait. And wait. And wait. I’ll bring a book to read you while we wait.” The need for control is often rooted in anxiety. Also, Sawyer’s idea of ruined, devastating, uncomfortable is different than yours. It can be helpful to add the phrase “for me” at the end of anything he is upset about. “Waiting here is too hard for me.” “This place is too loud for me” “these stickers are not in the right place for me” Second, meltdowns are not a behavior issue. It’s how the brain says “this is too much for me!” We can only prevent them by watching for triggers and support them by teaching coping skills. When they feel this way what should they do? We have an indoor swing that is very soothing. Also soft things to touch, fidgets, music, books. And most of all peace and quiet. Our kiddo really struggled from age 2 to 5. Then we started figuring out what the triggers are and the most effective coping skills. Now meltdowns are very rare. Our kiddo knows when they begin to feel overwhelmed and has tools to use and words to communicate that to us.
Exactly!!!!
🙏🏻 for all of YOU ❤️ You are doing awesome ! I
I do hope you can find care for Griffin & Sawyer where you could have them cared for out of the house 1 -2 afternoons a week or even every afternoon, where maybe the boys can be picked up from school and cared for by a qualified care giver to give you some quiet, some rejuvenation, some time of your own during waking hours .... Some sort of weekly relief that you know you will have so that you can have time to put yourself first , so that when you have all 6 , you can handle all the balls in the air you are trying to simultaneously juggle 🤹♀️& you need time look forward to in your daily life ....more time to rest your brain & body or do things you just cannot while they are there .... it’s soooooo much for you & Will ....
I worry about all as the twins grow & get so very strong & probably bigger than you by age 11 or 12 ( probably Griffin will be bigger than you by the time he is 11 or 12) , that the girls or even you could accidentally be hurt since he doesn’t realize his own strength .... hopefully the Thearpy the boys receive will help with all of that before they physically get bigger & stronger if they still struggle understanding rules, etc .... 1or 2 kiddos can take ALL one’s energy & focus , juggling 🤹♀️ everyone’s schedules & running a household ... Your daily load of meals, laundry , household needs , kids nurturing needs, making sure everyone is here or there on time .... that would physically, mentally & emotionally drain anyone ... take care of YOU sweet Emily so you can deal with all 🙏🏻 , Big {hugs} , & ❤️ I’m so sorry you don’t have your Mom , or Aunties to help you with the kiddos ....it’s not easy to find 100% trusted care . {hugs } 🤗
Finding Coopers Voice! Amazing autism mom, watch her. She's definitely great with experience and advice. My oldest daughter is special needs and I've been where you are. It does get better sis!!! Hugs
love it when Sawyer says yes!
I came over from the landing crew. Your so pretty... Love your family already.
Maybe Harrison and Will can take Sawyer potty when they are home and show him by observation.
I know medication is a controversial subject. And I know he is reacting to something. Since he’s having several a day, it might be worth at least discussing it with his dr at his next appointment. It was a game changer for me. It’s not just them it effects. It effects the whole family to the point of being miserable all the time. Luckily for us the medication works with no side effects. He’s not zombie like. It helps with the behavior issues.
The book, “Uniquely Human” gives a wonderful perspective on Autism and approaches to challenges involved. Highly highly recommend.
You’re doing wonderfully. It will all come together with time. Don’t worry about what other people think when you are out in public ❣️❣️please don’t give up on going out. The more you go out the easier it will get. I remember one of my children thought meltdowns in public would get what she wanted. But it didn’t and the more times it happened and the more times I just ignored the outburst it began to happen less. Plus as Sawyer learns different ways to communicate the less it will happen. Have hope it won’t be like this forever. Sawyer is a very smart boy and he is trapped by his autism. Give him time he will go far❣️❣️❣️💗love your family. And you Emily have grown so very much. You got this girl❣️❣️❣️👍😁🥰
I’ve heard that switching over to cloth diapers during potty training can help too because they can feel it more. But I would still
put an overnight diaper on during sleep.
8:45 had me dying laughing 💀
Keep trying if he is happy to sit he will gradually get to sitting longer to go to the toilet.
I work at a nursery and we have toilet trained a child who is 3yrs 7m and non verbal just through repetition of placing him on the toilet whilst changing his pull up.
Keep your chin up and whilst he is happy to sit keep placing him on the toilet.
Check with your caseworker at Sawyers school. Our kiddo got ABA from the school district as well as PT, OT and speech. They implemented ABA into her classroom setting and take data and make adjustments based on the data they collect.
Stay strong Mom and Dad! You’re doing a great job!!!
I think remembering that meltdowns are a loss of control and are horrible to experience (from the inside). Do your OT's do sensory integration therapy? ABA is controversial because Autistic adults who have been though ABA have ended up with PTSD, It is also controversial because it was designed from the principle that Autistic people are not human they are just a shell of a human being, It was also made to help parents not the kids, The goal in ABA (in terms of original) is to make the autistic person seem as "normal" as possible which can be extremely exhausting and painful for autistic people. They are some of the biggest issues with ABA. I think that it is highly necessary to do a lot of research to find out from all different sources - This channel has a interesting perspective of ABA from the inside - ua-cam.com/users/SomedayIllSleepFamilyVlogs Maybe have a look at positive Behavior support (PBS) would be helpful to you as an alternative. Thank you
you do what ever you think is right for saywer your a great mother stay strong and he will get there when ever he is ready
My older brother had a very hard time with potty training due to being on the spectrum. I remember my mom using Cheerios. She would but a few in the potty (3-4) and have him stand and aim at the Cheerios! She made it a fun game. He was afraid of sitting on the potty and this helped him a lot! Give it a try!
Little boys do like to “watch”what is happening when they pee,try him standing up? That’s how I got my boys dry,I have to admit it’s easier to do in the warmer weather!!
A bit of encouragement here, my son is autistic, he is now 36. He lives near me, I his own apartment, has a job. Thirty years ago there were no programs, I struggled. We too moved to a different state to get services. For me it got easier as my son got older.
My son is super high functioning autistic. He didn’t have much of a speech delay but we struggled a lot with meltdowns from age 3-6. He would throw fits constantly in public and almost daily in kindergarten. He really really struggled regulating emotions. But I swear at age 6, he started to get better! He’s 8 now and rarely has meltdowns or fits. He can become frustrated easily but he knows how to pull himself out of it so well now. I just wanted to say this to say that don’t take hoe sawyer is now at age 4 for how he will be forever! I have seen it improve and I believe it will improve with sawyer as well. It may take a little longer but I think he’ll get there as he gets older and learns how to communicate and control his emotions better. Just take it one day at a time and understand that he’s still very young. Hang in there ❤️
Emily. You are doing really well in fact I don't know how you do it having 2 kids with additional needs as well 4 others because I struggled enough just having our son before he was verbal as I like yoy just didn't know what to do to help him.
Try noise cancelliing headphones with him especially when out because noise may be over stimulating him. As soon as Sawyer is more verbal you may find his meltdowns will lessen if not stop. We found with our ASD/ADHD Son (nearly 8) that as soon as he was speaking his meltdowns subsided drastically which I was greatful for becuase it got to the point where I didn't want to go out anywhere with him anymore as he had several meltdowns every time I took him out.
Don't push him with the toilet training because when he's ready it'll happen naturally, have you thought of trying a training seat on the toilet it's self rather than the potty - our son wouldn't use the potty at all apart from to play with it but as soon as we tied him with a training seat on the toilet he started to want to do it, as soon as he was dry during the day almost immediately he was also dry/clean at night as well. Love and hugs to you all from a fellow Autism mum 🇬🇧.
I can’t relate to having a special needs child but I was thrown a medical curveball when my daughter was 2. She went from a normal kiddo to needing lots of medical attention and that adjustment took me a long time oh it’s still hard and hard to accept for sure. Praying for you!
I’m not experienced in autism toilet training.We do have beautiful autistic kids at the school I teach at and the teachers have Indian type tents for melt downs.They are never closed just in an wide open position so that they are always still part of the room but have a chance to calm down with a book or another simple activity,say for Sawyer something with numbers and letter? Not sure if this is good advice in your case at home though.I don’t know a lot and can’t really help.But I pray for you all and I know prayers help.You are getting things going and yay for school starting.😊You have a huge capacity to live your kids and they thrive.You have so much on your hands with the boys but your other children are still are beautiful, beautifully behaved(with moments of course like any kids!) ,happy and absolutely love you and Will. You do it all and you should be so proud of yourselves.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
How is posit doing with potty training my son is three abs still not
I have a daughter and a son both on the spectrum, what I found worked with potty training was letting them pick out the potty themselves and I know how easier said than done it is but perseverance and repetition worked it took 6months for my son and he was 3 1/2 when I started training, you have 3 more kids than me so I can't even imagine the pressure you're under, give yourself a break your doing your best also never doubt that you know whats best for your child thats the 1 thing I wish I'd believed earlier on in the journey.
We potty trained our special needs student all the time lots of hard work!! We gave them 1 cup of water and 5 - 10 minutes later had them sit on potty up to 10 minutes with a stool under feet (legs start to hurting). Maybe too much work but an idea from my PT person given to me 3 years ago.❤️
One momma to another you are doing amazing don’t get that even on the hard days!
Saw an ad for “Autism Parenting Magazine” as I was watching the video - maybe another support for you?
i’m the first to post i’m new viewer and i love y’all
Emily, read “too loud, too tight, too fast, too bright”. It is written by someone with sensory issues. Also read “the out of sync child” series.
As a parent to two autistic boys and previously a carer in a care home specialising in dementia (therefore low communication) an amazing but simple trick to help potty training is to simply use Luke warm water in a jug and pour it slowly over the bottom of the belly/genitals while they sit on the toilet/potty. This stimulates the bladder to release itself and for the person to urinate. The child can then feel the sensation of needing to go and then see the pee, eventually this leads to them linking the two together and when they get that sensation it means they need to pee. As long as the water is warm it is a pleasant experience/sensory feeling and he can see and feel the pee simultaneously making it easier to recognise and link the two. Worked great for both my boys back it up with lots of verbal "ooh look you're doing a wee" "where is the wee?.. then here it is you see it, you feel it etc.." and also I have always given consequences to both of mine even if the meltdown is from frustration or over simulation they need to learn there are still consequences to the wrong reaction to that frustration and there are other things they can do to calm down. Autism should not be an excuse to be badly behaved or, to not know right from wrong. I accept sometimes we all make the wrong choice and that is the same for them too but we then also have to accept those choices have a consequence.
I'd but your house in a heartbeat its gorgeous! I'm in scotland unfortunately xx
I’m a preschool Speech Language Pathologist and I’m not quite sure why ABA would be considered “controversial.” From my experience, it’s a great jumping off point to prime a kiddo. It lays an excellent foundation of skill that an SLP can then use to work on generalizing to more natural settings/situations. It has also been my experience that it often takes a mixture of several therapeutic approaches to hit on a formula that works.
Its because very large portions of the autistic community say that its abusive and have ptsd from being subjected to it. ABA was literally founded on the principle that Autistic people aren't really people and its geared towards making them normal.
Try giving him a quiet space ( away from everyone) when you notice he is starting to go off, he can play quietly until he is calm. Tablets can be over stimulating also so I’ve reduced it in our house to 30 min a day right after afternoon nap. This works for us, it’s not perfect but it helps.
They do limit screen time.
I got my son a potty watch that had a timer on it he is autistic and is ten now. He would refuse to sit on potty but he liked wearing the watch and would go when the timer on watch went off. But I’m going to be honest that helped get things started where now he doesn’t fight to go to the potty but developmentally he is probably at the level of a 2-3 year old and still has accidents we toilet him on a schedule but he still doesn’t tell us if he has to go but now he doesn’t refuse and have meltdowns about going.
My daughter is 4 and has meltdowns. I sit next to her and just wait. I tell her I am there for her if she needs me. I also tend to my other daughter during this as well. She can calm down on her own if I am there waiting for her.
She is also autistic.
My ASD son was 12 before he was fully trained.. Its in their own time.. I tried everything and it was just trial and error with these kids..
Griffin is adorable 🥰
I recommend the facebook page “Finding Coopers Voice” with Kate Swenson. She also has a supporters group called Coops Troops with so many amazing mothers of autistic and special needs children. The support and advice you will find there is awesome.
Dear Sweet Mom, I am 79 years old, a mom of six children, grandma, great grandma, and school psychologist, but still remember some awesome melt downs of my children and grandchildren (who are now grown up and lead good lives.). Three year olds can have spectacular tantrums, even when not autistic. My suggestions: don’t always assume the behaviors are from autism, no discipline please, the therapists need to work on better ways of leaving, forget numbers and letters for the present, this is more important, eg they could practice leaving for a second or two, giving rewards when he’s successful, leaving for longer and longer periods, you know the drill, this behavior isn’t willfulness, it’s actually a demonstration of his attachment to others and a good sign! I know it’s tough for you - get support from your new friend from Landing Crew - you are a good mother - it shows itself in all your children! Good Karma to you and your whole family - give them all hugs from me!
Emily, Cooper of Finding Cooper's Voice has come such a long way the last couple of years. He's now potty trained (she has a video how she did it), going to stores, engaging in daily life. He was even able to go to an arcade with the family. You can find Kate and Cooper on FB.
I'm 32. I have Autism. Try a calming box with sensory toys when he gets upset. A meltdown is very different than a tantrum. I noticed some people in the comments mentioned tantrums. Meltdown vs temper tantrum. Although they may look similar, meltdowns are different from temper tantrums. A temper tantrum is usually a child’s method for getting what he/she wants. A meltdown, however, has no purpose and is beyond a child’s control.
To be more specific, a temper tantrum happens when a child is:
Frustrated with not getting what he/she wants, Not able to do what he/she wants, and is Not able to properly communicate. A child might stop a tantrum after the following responses: Being comforted by a parent or caregiver, Being given what he/she wants (although not an ideal strategy), or Being ignored and giving up on his/her own. Kids who throw temper tantrums are aware and in control of their actions and can adjust the level of their tantrum based on the response they get from a parent or adult. Here we can use behavioral strategies to manage tantrums. Meltdowns have entirely different causes. Because they are triggered by sensory overload, a child on the spectrum having a meltdown can have a few defining characteristics. Autistic meltdown symptoms may: Start with pre-meltdown signs called “rumblings” which can be verbal or physical behaviors that signal an imminent meltdown, Be preceded with stimming, Be caused by overstimulation or an undesirable sensory input, Not be limited to young children and can also happen to teens and adults, Happen with or without an audience, and Last longer than tantrums. Once you can tell the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown, then you can apply the right strategies to deal with the situation.
I think it might be very helpful to try to see if you can pick up the signs that a meltdown is coming with Sawyer, so if it's manage the right away he may not have as long of melt downs. He needs direction and coping skills. If you see him starting to get frustrated or anxious before the meltdown starts, bring him his calming box with his sensory toys (only for calming down and meltdown times. Not play time). Maybe try bringing him to his room where it's quiet with that stuff so he can hopefully calm down easier. It's good to predict a meltdown and catch it at a 2 or 3 before it gets to 10. How does he feels about weight? Maybe a weighted vest, weighted blanket or weighted lap pad might provide calming relief and help him with grounding himself in addition to the calming sensory box. Those are some ideas I thought of that might help. I'd recommend trying out some of these and maybe talking to Sawyer's therapists and or doctor and seeing what they think could help him most. I don't want to overstep any bounds and im saying this to help honestly but I'd highly suggest to stop with timeouts, tablet time being taken away or yelling with Sawyer. His behavoir isn't improving cause your using punishments for things he can't control. He really apears like he doesn't understand. It's punishments for a nerotypical child. He needs guidance. Punishing him isn't going to help him. It's making it worse. I know your trying to help him. You're a wonderful loving mom, but punishing him isn't the best way to handle his meltdowns. His tablet could be a great coping device in general even when he isn't having a melt down. It's probably why he loves it so much. When I'm anxious or going through a meltdown my phone helps me a lot. I watch videos. It distracts me. I love watching your videos in addition to others. It doesn't help right away but I have to have some way to cope. If I didn't I'd go crazy. I'd get to 10 in a matter of a minute or less. It's very important for me and others with Autism to have a game plan of what to do. A way of coping. I've been in situations where I'm out of the house and I'm overwhelmed and my phone dies. It's so stressful that I'll have a meltdown because I had no way to ground myself. I'll always make sure it's charged and i have my charging box with my cord. I use head phones too. I love them. It blocks out the sounds around me. I do this at home too. I'll watch show or listen to music with my headphones on and it's calming and helps me prevent a meltdown or calming down from one. I love my noise canceling head phones too. I wear them on New Year's and July 4th or if I'm anywhere where it's loud to me. It helps me so I don't have to plug my ears.
I hope this helps you guys!! I know this is all new and so hard!! You guys are such good parents. Sawyer is so blessed to have you both looking out for him. You guys got this!! ❤
Hey. It's been on my heart to share with you about the gaps diet. I know you are a busy Mama but I feel like this could really help Sawyer. It is to help autism and a bunch of other things. We did it a couple of years ago to help my stomach pains and my daughter's sensitivities to food. I tried to attach a picture of the book but I'm not sure how to do that in comments. Its called Gut and psychology syndrome.
I am praying for you and your little guy. ❤
Have you ever used first and then boards and visuals for sawyer to help him with meltdowns ? I work with children his age with autism using visuals even with the verbal children works well
Emily, I hope this information helps you and Will. These are things I learned teaching children who were autistic.....first, Potty training children is hard but if the child is not getting the signal that they need to pee or poop....nothing you do will work. Think about it, what makes us know we need to go to the bathroom...we feel it. We feel the urge or the signal as they call it. If Harrison is not getting that he is not ready to potty train. I have watched parents with children who do not have autism get frustrated and try to force the child to potty train or punish them. That is punishing them for something they can not control at the time. Forget the stickers or anything but getting him to sit on the potty if you are going to continue for it is a distraction and can trigger a meltdown.
Second....meltdowns. A meltdown for an autistic child is not misbehaving. It is not being "bad". It is being over stimulated for some reason. It could be loud noises...like yelling, screaming, banging things. It could be too bright of lights. It could be too many people in the room or space or too many close to him. It could be being hungry or too tired and needs a nap or could be a change in routine like suddenly deciding to go out in the van or a change in time for dinner or lunch, change in bed time. Figuring out what made him have the meltdown helps in controlling it. Being cooped in a small space can trigger a melt down. In his case, this is probably why he has them in the van when made to stay in it for a length of time. Too many in the van, tight quarters, too much noise. Being consistent in what you do is so important.
I hope this helps you for dealing with an autistic child is hard but something you can do. It is hard because it requires us to pay attention to them all the time just monitoring what they do and watching to see what is triggering them.
I wonder about the teacher or therapist having an end of visit routine like a song and then a first/then visual first bye bye therapist then an activity that he enjoys like a special letter or number book or a painting activity that he likes. Here’s an example of a first/then visual.. www.autismspeaks.org/sites/default/files/2018-08/Visual%20Supports%20Tool%20Kit.pdf
Hi Emily. One of my grandchildren is autistic he would never use the potty but will use the toilet. The trouble is you can't reason with them its nothing you are doing or not doing. And as for other people don't worry about them. Just look out for you and yours. Hope this lets you know others are going through the same as you.
You should look of Jenni Farley on youtube and see her videos of her son, the treatments they did and how amazing he was going at her last update
As an autistic adult, please be careful with ABA. Occupational therapy and speech therapy combined, overtime will be more beneficial to Sawyer than ABA. But it will take time. In Australia, we also have support workers, I don't know if they are called the same thing in the US, (possibly disability workers?) who can help with behaviours around the house.
When I was potty training my oldest I’d sit him on the potty chair in front of the tv. He’d be entertained and side tracked and would sit and pee.
Speak with teachers for pointers. Having observed them at school they don't cut any slack (or they would lose control of the room).
Emily idk if this will help or if its controversial i really didnt mention it to anyone cause it ended up working?? But i have a severely autistic son that just turned 6 last week. We had been trying potty training since he was almost 4. No luck. He doesnt really like toys per say but does like textured things (soft, crunchy, grooved etc) he also likes things like fidget spinners. So i say this thing on amazon....it was a big penguin that attaches to the back of the toilet and half the body hangs into the toilet with a little pinwheel between the penguins legsso when they pee and hit it with their steam it makes the wheel rotate round and round. Like a water wheel if u can picture it. My husband told me to get it cause it was like 6 bucks if it failed no big loss. So when it came my hubby showed him how it woked and even tho he doesnt have the greatest dexterity he was amazed and kept trying to work it. It took 3 months of him trying to work it BUT he didnt realize because of this he was going into the potty all the time to pee. Now he uses it with ease. The poo was a little more difficult cause he wld hold it but eventually once he got peeing in their down he DID start pooping in their too. So idk i was desperate. He needed to start kindergarten and even tho at his special school they didnt need to be potty traines to attend it just worked out that in his class the boys and girls were all PT and he wld have been the only one needing a diaper change. I was TERRIFIED OF HIM GETTING MADE FUN OF!!! Not by his classmates but the older kids that weren't as impaired as himself. I spent many MANY a sleepless night worries abt that more than anything.
Adhd child we put soap n Cheerios in potty told him to make bubbles or sink the Cheerios.
Thinking of you
Try to sit Sawyer on the toilet backwards so he can watch himself go. Sometimes that helps them make the connection. If he has not gone for a while have him sit there and keep drinking water until he goes. I have done this with older children who don’t really understand what they are doing. Good luck.
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I have a 7 year that has been diagnosed with high functioning autism level 2 and didn’t like going potty and we had trouble with potty training him and he was 4 and we said u can’t go to school in pull-ups no one will change u and he didn’t like that we said that. I also have b/g twins that r 11 month younger then him so they were 3 and going potty in the potty so he wanted underwear but he kept going potty in them so we took him to the store and he picked Spider-Man undies so we would say don’t pee on Spider-Man so u can go to school and between that and the other 2 going potty and him seeing that he just decided he was ready.
Underwear with plastic pants to protect the furniture and then he will feel when he is wet as well. That is how we were potty trained.
Wow I am jealous of that basement! My dream is to have a huge basement like that and being able to turn it into a gross motor area for the winters. And YES to the underwear with the pullup! I know pullups are easier and less mess but he honestly probably doesn't even notice when he is peeing in them. Underwear or naked is the way to go
Hi Emily,
My son is 10 now. Some potty suggestions: don’t show him the entire page of stickers, they can still be a great reward but give him one of your choosing after he sits. Also first/then visuals have been hugely useful for my son. So first potty/ then sticker.
For meltdowns I can sympathize so so much with you. Only thing is to remember the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown.
I had my son naked and standing up in the tub. As he had never seen himselfe pee before. Once he saw his pee coming out he would do it again and again. And slowly he understand that when i take my pants off i can see myselfe peeing. I started this when he was about 3.5 years old he is now 5 and can go pee by himselfe. We are still working on the poop part. But every little step that they learn you feel so good. Good luck. Let me know if u want to know more about abt how i did it entirely. You just gotta be consistint. And i know how hard it is with having other kids as well
I know this seems completely insane but what about eventually getting a therapy dog for the boys? They help with meltdowns a lot.
I need a diaper change here uh oh 🙉
As far as punishment goes they don’t understand the word no or y u r taking things away mine throws tantrums for those reasons and because he gets to frustrated we just have to talk to him but he does have a lot of communication just hard to understand have u tried a communication device so he can have more words to communicate that has been our saviour that he can communicate and that he can communicate with a heavy speech impediment and that we can understand him
Did you think about trying CBD oil for saylor to see if that calms him down. The best is made by Jenny Crawford monarch botanicals. Their the purest on the market and work great on autism no thc in there products. You can find her on facebook or on her website
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Would distractions help (with Sawyer)? To avoid meltdowns.
You could try putting chereos in the potty and tell him to aim/pee at them in the toilet and see if that works. ☺
My daughter is autistic and i tried ti put her on a potty and she lost it big time, so I said I'd let her do it in her own time, she was 4 years old and one day decided no more nappies and that was it, not a single accident 🤩🤩
Howdy young lady ❕ Just wondering when your going to give your address or a POBox❔Try not to get so stressed. I know it's hard but please try.💜
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underwear and pull up probably not the best idea the underwear will get wet yes he will feel it but there got more chance of leaking down the leg instead of going in the pull up
Get another potty and have your little girls sit on it as same time as he does or have his older brother sit on the big one when he on his to show him nothing scary to it. And what to do. Never know your younger girls might just start using it also.
tablet on the potty
I don’t know if you know this but meltdowns and tantrums are different a toddler can control a tantrum but a meltdown is somethings they can’t control. I know it’s difficult but try to find out what’s triggering his meltdowns if he’s having them in public. Kids with autism like routine try letting him know what’s happening before you do it. You said he’s good with reading try telling him and showing him through pictures or words he may not understand verbal language very well put might be a visual learner. I hope some of this helps you and I hope you don’t take any offense to anything that I’ve said I wish you and your family well.
I know it’s really hard to not react when they are having a behavior but trust me my son had very bad aggressive hitting meltdowns and is a lot better now. You have to be very straight faced no reaction when they are doing a behavior that upsets you. I tell him that I am upset and I don’t think that was a good choice but I am very matter of fact about it and don’t give him a big reaction that he wants. He wanted the attention even if it was negative attention and when I stopped giving it to him the behaviors slowly got better. I give him a lot of positive praise and attention when he is being good so then he tries to do more of the things that are good that he gets attention for. I’m honestly just getting the hang of this now and he is ten and trust me it’s hard I would go in my room and just cry because I was so frustrated and wanted to yell at him because I was upset. I also tried putting him in his room to calm down because he would hit and he would hit his sisters but this was very bad he felt like I was trapping him in there and would hit and kick the door and pull his curtains and curtain rod down and then I would go in to see if he was calm and he would hit and scratch me because he was mad at me. I made a area in his room that has a bean bag chair and blankets and i call it his calm spot and he now goes there on his own when he is upset and frustrated sometimes I’ll just tell him hey are getting upset why don’t you go to your calm spot. You are doing a great job and I hope this helps!
Absolutely get ABA therapy!!
Absolutely not. I am Autistic and ABA is extremely harmful :(
ABA therapy will be great for Sawyer!
So many people now suffer from PTSD because of ABA :(
@@Patricia-li8bh There are different ways to approach ABA, not just one
@@simplyshannon9053 Yes, but because ABA's foundation is deeply flawed, there is no good approach to ABA. I know some people talk about how there is new ABA and that new ABA is good. But there are so many reasons why new ABA is still harmful: autisticmama.com/even-new-aba-is-problematic. I was diagnosed with autism late, so I never went through ABA. But I can imagine how much it would have made me suffer in silence :( Because ABA has a direct impact on the Autistic community, the voices of Autistic people are the most important voices in response to ABA. This is another article going into greater detail: sociallyanxiousadvocate.wordpress.com/2015/05/22/why-i-left-aba.
@@Patricia-li8bh You can’t deny the progress, independence, and so many positives that the majority has gained from ABA. You can site sources about anything, that doesn’t make it true all the way around. We will just have to agree to disagree on this subject.
@@simplyshannon9053 We can disagree, that's okay. But I can't ignore all of the traumatizing stories I have heard. And the fact I have never heard an Autistic person say one positive thing about ABA. Yes, ABA is evidence-based, but evidence-based practices do not take into consideration ethics. This is all coming from someone who knows firsthand how an Autistic brain works. And Autistic voices matter as much as any other voice :(
Have you watched fathering autism on UA-cam? They're such a great family to follow and have a fifteen-year-old daughter with autism. Linda
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Have you ever watched the UA-cam family, fathering autism?
This is just my useless stupid idea, but you've tried speaking, yelling, and taking things away, so I was just wondering, what if when any of the boys did something not good, you could try to show them that you are very upset and not happy with them... I wonder if it will work (probably not) anyway, love ya
Aba works wonders!!!!