This is very true. Had really bad depression for years (which got to dangerous levels during the pandemic). Have been steadily getting better since 2021, and nowadays I feel basically like I dont have it anymore. The difference in mood is absolutely insane. I remember clear as day (and also cause I kept a lot of diaries) how I used to just constantly feel like shit even when there was no reason to feel down. It was just a saddness that followed me wherever i went, and although there were moments of happiness, they all felt dulled. I knew that wasnt normal even when I was so depressed I couldnt trust myself to make any accurate assessment ever. .... years later, now that I am more or less completely cured, the difference is like night and day. I feel sad sometimes, sure, but I dont have this dark cloud that constantly makes me feel bad no matter what. Sometimes i still wake up in the morning and cant believe that the depression is gone, cause everything is just so much better now
@@OLBICHL There isnt really a secret, unfortunately. Everyone has something else that's gonna work for them. I was on meds for years and in therapy for even longer. They helped me out a lot, but in the sense that they helped me survive the worst years of depression. Without them, I am certain I wouldn't have made it through. But what actually ended up making me steadily feel like the depression was going away was just... changing my life completely. I moved, i started studying something else, I met new people. It was many things at once, but I think that there must have been something about my old life that kept me in that depressed state. I could think of a couple of things, my relationship to school at the time probably being on top of the list. I guess what you can say for sure is that, while depression is definetly something chemical that's wrong in your brain and that needs to be fixed (meds, therapy, etc), there are also circumstances in your life keeping you in that pit. It's not easy, but you gotta acknowledge them head on and ask yourself "what do I gotta do to make myself happier?". The answer is rarely something obvious, like money. It's usually something pretty complex, and not something that can change suddently. Therapy is a great help to figuring out what exactly that thing is, but only acknowledging your problems wont't help you much. You gotta actually step up and work on changing them (which is something that is incredibly hard to do because depression feels like this monster that takes all the energy from you). If you dont have the luxury to just completely change your like quickly like I was able to have, then I suppose the answer is small steps. Start a new hobby. Work on a bad habit you have. Try socializing with more people and making new friends. This is stuff that is acomplishable without a huge life change, even if they also take loads of energy. I wish you the best luck! And remember - even if it doesnt seem like it (and I know it often doesnt), things eventually do get better, even if they have to get worse first
@@liaspooked4980 yeah, that's a good advice... some changes sounds like a great idea... when I was a kid my dogs really helped me, but I never had a pet for over 20 years and I've been thinking of getting a doggo but I'm too scared that the responsibility could be too much for me to handle -...- maybe if I volunteer in a shelter, that could be a good first step
It's so refreshing to hear about wanting to learn more about someone's situation before pronouncing a diagnosis. There are McDoctors out there who just hear you say "sad", check the box and write out scripts so they can get another patient in.
This is very true. Had really bad depression for years (which got to dangerous levels during the pandemic). Have been steadily getting better since 2021, and nowadays I feel basically like I dont have it anymore. The difference in mood is absolutely insane. I remember clear as day (and also cause I kept a lot of diaries) how I used to just constantly feel like shit even when there was no reason to feel down. It was just a saddness that followed me wherever i went, and although there were moments of happiness, they all felt dulled. I knew that wasnt normal even when I was so depressed I couldnt trust myself to make any accurate assessment ever. .... years later, now that I am more or less completely cured, the difference is like night and day. I feel sad sometimes, sure, but I dont have this dark cloud that constantly makes me feel bad no matter what. Sometimes i still wake up in the morning and cant believe that the depression is gone, cause everything is just so much better now
what's the secret? how did you overcome it? I thought I was free from it but it came back like nothing changed
@@OLBICHL There isnt really a secret, unfortunately. Everyone has something else that's gonna work for them. I was on meds for years and in therapy for even longer. They helped me out a lot, but in the sense that they helped me survive the worst years of depression. Without them, I am certain I wouldn't have made it through. But what actually ended up making me steadily feel like the depression was going away was just... changing my life completely. I moved, i started studying something else, I met new people. It was many things at once, but I think that there must have been something about my old life that kept me in that depressed state. I could think of a couple of things, my relationship to school at the time probably being on top of the list.
I guess what you can say for sure is that, while depression is definetly something chemical that's wrong in your brain and that needs to be fixed (meds, therapy, etc), there are also circumstances in your life keeping you in that pit. It's not easy, but you gotta acknowledge them head on and ask yourself "what do I gotta do to make myself happier?". The answer is rarely something obvious, like money. It's usually something pretty complex, and not something that can change suddently. Therapy is a great help to figuring out what exactly that thing is, but only acknowledging your problems wont't help you much. You gotta actually step up and work on changing them (which is something that is incredibly hard to do because depression feels like this monster that takes all the energy from you).
If you dont have the luxury to just completely change your like quickly like I was able to have, then I suppose the answer is small steps. Start a new hobby. Work on a bad habit you have. Try socializing with more people and making new friends. This is stuff that is acomplishable without a huge life change, even if they also take loads of energy. I wish you the best luck! And remember - even if it doesnt seem like it (and I know it often doesnt), things eventually do get better, even if they have to get worse first
@@liaspooked4980 yeah, that's a good advice... some changes sounds like a great idea... when I was a kid my dogs really helped me, but I never had a pet for over 20 years and I've been thinking of getting a doggo but I'm too scared that the responsibility could be too much for me to handle -...- maybe if I volunteer in a shelter, that could be a good first step
It's so refreshing to hear about wanting to learn more about someone's situation before pronouncing a diagnosis. There are McDoctors out there who just hear you say "sad", check the box and write out scripts so they can get another patient in.
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Which salad? There are lots of them.