Psychologist reviews Dear Zindagi | Is therapy really like this?
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2021
- A lot of people have asked for this review. Let me know your views in the comments. Also please give me any suggestions on how you would like me to improve the quality of these long form videos as I'm new at this!
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This video does not constitute clinical advice and is for informational purposes only.
The way she reviewed w out being biased and her every point is digestable. This young lady is visionary and creating awareness as much as she could in every aspect. SUPER PROUD OF HER
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Idk why I’m nervous about this one as if I’ve never posted videos before 😂
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Him talking about his own childhood and his life was a part of self disclosure. It is a technique used when a client is not able to share a certain experience at all and to kind of open the way for the client to share their own experiences.
It is indeed a controversial technique. I also didn’t understand when I had first watched the movie. It was explained to us during my certification in TISS and there is a lot of research out there on the same.
Self disclosure must be used very carefully , should be limited and as a part of therapy only.
Exactly!!! I was going to comment the same.. this technique is used to that the client will open up and it indeed did happen
Can u tell me which othet techniques he used in his therapy?
My therapist did talk about her personal experiences with me. It was helpful as we could relate with each other.
When this film first came out and watched it, I too had thought that Shah rukh (the psychologist) was being unprofessional by being too friendly and sharing his personal experience and also leading her on. Glad I wasn’t the only one. Overall, he wasn’t bad.
~wannabe/aspiring psychologist.
I've been following you on Instagram since a long time, and now on UA-cam. I cannot really explain, but I feel that you are the kind of person who would genuinely care about her clients' and their wellbeing. These videos are so helpful and nicely put Divija, these give a strong sense as to what you can expect in therapy and what therapy should ideally be like, I love the videos! Great work :)
Thank you so much for saying that! Means a lot. :)
This is the kind of content our generation needs!!! Thankyou so much Divija ,
was waiting for this since ages.
You make therapy so simplified and approachable for everyone.
I think he too started liking her a little bit maybe not the same way, because you see in the starting few therapies he says "this chair creaks when you really like someone." Later he sits on it and it doesn't creak, so he explains "No, it doesn't happen to me." BUT in their last therapy session when Kaira leaves he sits on the chair and this time IT CREAKS. That was very subtle but probably showed that he too felt a personal connection (maybe friendship) with her but choose to remain professional.
I feel in this movie….they were trying to show that even Shahrukh got attached to her in some way and even he was slightly falling for her…as they showed that in the last scene when she hugged him….but he tried to keep it professional still by telling her we cannot meet outside to hangout.
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But seriously, I loved this review and had similar thoughts while watching the movie. Alia Bhatt's character is usually so stigmatized by our society that it was necessary to talk about it. I don't like how this movie is so underrated and according to my parents, "Really boring!" Anyway, it's my comfort film.
The way review without getting biased was such a amazing job . Every line was to the point and accurate . You described everything so beautifully ❤️❤️
Actually I think he did acknowledge her feelings in their last session and made her feel that it was completely okay but that might not be right just correct me if I’m wrong.
Yes, he did acknowledged her feelings in the last session and also encouraged her to express her emotions clearly.
Yes, in the end he did but I didn’t like the way he treated her in the ferry scene. It was cold 👀
@@awkwardgoat3 yes, he should have done the same thing before on the ferry
Loved the review!!
When my friend and I were watching the movie she was a little concerned seeing how the termination of therapy in the movie was very one sided and that's not how it's supposed to be. It's supposed to be something the client and therapist decide on together and it's gradual. But I get how that couldn't be covered in the movie.
Also the kursi scene!! You try many kursis like how you try different therapists and see which one works for you. That scene helped me a lot in going back into therapy. Overall really liked the movie!!
I think they purposefully tried to make it look like hez leading her for the sake of plot , so as to show how transference can occur in therapy and that maybe how the clients can forget that they are a therapist who is supposed to be accepting of them and not someone you can hope for a relationship with just because they are being kind and accepting.
I had the same points in my head when I watched this movie. It feels so good to watch this video and have my views validated. Great job.
The way he was crossing the line by addressing his childhood memories can it be due the fact that this job can take a toll on therapists as well and it might reflect in their working or dealing with certain clients
I mean it could but therapists should ideally know when to draw a line, right? That is part of the job
@@awkwardgoat3 Agreed ❤️ It was a great experience to get a review from an actual therapist . Best of luck for the future ❤️
Loved this video , and love your content and you , I love the fact you are open minded and really care for ur fans and help them to understand things ❤️
waited for long, just to see this
its finally here now
I was contemplating watching Dear Zindagi again since a few weeks. Then was waiting to watch your review and decide. Watching it now. Thank you ❤️😊
This is a great video! I love how you clarified stuff and also revealed the positives, made me feel comfortable about therapy... I'll be going to my first therapy session soon and I'm excited and nervous about it at the same time!!
Wish me luck 🙊🖤
Also, you have a really sweet voice 💜
Ayiiiiiiiiiiii👋This is too good liked how you choose to be specific,picked out topics, analyzed scenes and articulated the theme behind it💜 It is sometimes mentally and physically exhausting to put ur views,record and retake the same without thinking that "kya maine kuch galat to ni kaha?","have I covered the theme and understanding behind it well?" Its exquisite bro👊...
Thank you so much for understanding all the work and effort I put into this 🥺🥺
I could totally see you running a tv show exposing/busting fake councellors/therapists without degress or with bad practices in near future...you'd be the next chris hansen
This made my day 😭😭
been waiting since so longgg, finally its here
Ufff finally! Been waiting forever for this
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and wow this was really really nice review. everything made sense. loved it all how you explained
Loved this review! Maybe you could watch and review the therapy scenes in Atypical, the series. I personally LOVED the show! Much love
I’ve been waiting for this one ☝🏻❤️
I really loved the way you did this. I have written a full fledged paper on this, hahaha. But my work was to show the positives of the movie so I haven't covered criticisms. But I did observe this before.
This was really great and informative to watch 👏
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Nicely explained, Divija. Good job! :)
Was waiting for this😍😇
@awkwardgoat3 I agree with you on this.
There is a bit more experimentation with the therapeutic environment, self disclosure which also led ro transference.
But As you said movie maker might have done it to make it entertaining and not turn into a scholarly lecture on therapy for students.
Emotional validation, being non-judgmental, being empathetic, good rapport building, making client independent by not helping during cycle fall incident, positive regards etc etc is shown very efficiently.
Overall, it's an awesome review!
Having said that, regarding that feri rejection incident, I can think of an another angle,
Where Jug (therapist) got the hint that kaira (client) is falling for her when she asks for a coffee date.
So he might have deliberately
rejected her proposal in a cold way to see how she deals with the rejection, if "dealing with rejection" was an issue in her past relationships.
In this way he can verify the efficiency of the coping mechanisms that she learnt during her previous sessions. (for dealing with rejection)
Since this was not the last session so therapist had things under his control.
As client's reaction will be visible in her next session.
Again, this is just an assumption, so by nature, has the chance of being incorrect. 🙂
It was really unbiased review...&
Nicely explained ❤️
Finallyyyy the wait is over 😀😀😍
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Can't wait for more such videos
In trauma informed therapy, therapist disclosing about themselves is acceptable and actually helpful. As is changing the physical setting of the session, including the body in the therapy.
But yes all therapists need good boundaries
YOU'RE THE BEST DIVIJA BHASIN!💓🥺 Waiting for the day I can get a therapy session with you!❤️ Lots and lots of love😚
Wow this video really got much more engagement than other videos .........
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Was waiting.
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I have been waiting for this since yesterday , thanks for this 🙌🤩. It was really a nice video ! Loves it & looking forward for more such videos😇
Wow you were waiting in the future 😂
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I really like this movie and I m very happy with the fact that u were neutral during this video and every point was justified !!!❤️❤️❤️
we need more videos like these... lets gooo
I pray that we find real life dr. Jugs. Personal sharing is ok if u are to be friendly with patient and teach them a lesson through therapists life
Loved your review ma'am 😍💜
Yess divija!
Yk i love this movie so much cause I can really relate to it,i don't feel guilty that I sometimes hate my parents because of the way they treat me or the kind of environment they gave me grow up. Honestly my mumma, she absolutely hates this move, she literally said (when the scene comes where kaira is fighting with her family in the party) that "this is such a ridiculous movie, kids shouldn't be allowed to watch this as they will learn to fight and argue with their parents". I kinda felt bad that she didn't understand the main motive of the film but I was like yeah okay, she has her own perspective,she wasn't grown the way I did. It's normal for her to think that way because she was never taught about all these stuff. Maybe if I was in her place and would've gotten married at a very young age i would think the same.
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This was such a good review! I always wanted a therapist to review this film but I still had a question, can you please comment on the last bit of advice that you've got to try all "chairs" before knowing which one you like best?
It depends on the person and if they have the capacity to deal with “trying” many chairs. Some people are okay with it, some people aren’t.
@@awkwardgoat3 that's true.
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There are few deleted scenes available on UA-cam. That explains the ferry and there is a plane scene that is really good which idk why they deleted from the movie. Check all these deleted scenes.
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Divija, Please review the therapy scenes in Made in heaven. I think there is a strong portrayal of therapy in the show.
I really loved your review. I was just hoping that someone witth knowledge of counselling made a video of reviewing the film instead of a lay man perspective. Like a counsellor, therapist or a person Studying that. And I saw your video and it was just of what was perfect.😊
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Well said
I would want to know that what is wrong if a person is crossing his personal boundaries by telling personal experiences without being personally involved or willing the other person to get involved emotionally. When every day of our life have so much impact on us and almost everything penetrates at the deeper level of emotions , then I guess there is nothing wrong by crossing little boundaries if that's not offensive in other manner. And the onus of not falling in love falls entirely on patient that's what I believe. Because in movie they have shown this sicne shahrukh has to be proved hero of her life. But when our choices are clear who we like. we can simply be comfortable with almost everything the other person is opening upto. Because loving a person has to do more with interpersonal connection than just a good conversation...
Nicely explained in a balanced way 👍
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I like making bonds. I have been in therapy for over 6 months. I have never taken this long to crack a human open. My therapist just wouldn’t talk about himself. He smartly has his way out and we end up talking about me. I almost feel selfish talking so much about myself 😂
My therapist if self disclosed I’d fall for him cause no one has understood me better 😭😭😭😭so I guess good decision 😂
Is this just me???
I went to therapy for being better as a human. And then I came out with a million disorders. So 10/10 recommend therapy. When there’s problems addressed, there’s solutions
Does mental health problems like long term depression, Anxiety issues,Past traumas,and bipolar disorder needs a psychologist or a psychiatrist ?
Or it will solve by itself by time plss suggest something..
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Can u plz tellme what are the techniques he used in his therapy,other ther self disclosure
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will you review k-dramas related to therapists too?? if yes then please do one for "soul mechanic" !!
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Also I agree with everything, plus this was not boring at all, some videos of other people are just straight up boring because they try to increase the length, this video was ON POINT, meaningful, non-biased, no hate, just PERFECT.
Edit: There could've been one improvement though, and that would be adding a subtitle track, though it wasn't a major issue, would be nice if we had subtitles
It was the the opposite for me. I was trying to decrease the length cause I personally don’t like long videos 🙈
@@awkwardgoat3 yeah because not many people will like a long video, no wonder why Instagram Reels and YT shorts are better performance than normal YT Vids and IGTV/normal posts, also hopefully you saw the proof 😂😂😂 if you know, you know
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Have you seen the channel Therapist reacts. You can do something like that.
Would love to see yours professional opinions on mental health issues in movies.
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Hii...can you please say what are the courses you studied and in which colleges???
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Your video reviews is superb. But at the same time, I feel that taking her to a beach was okay from his pov because she grew up in goa and yet didn't feel comfy in the city so maybe this had some good impact and made her have some good memories too of the city, even if with him. Tho unprofessional, it kinda worked for her.
Yes, like I said. The beach thing is a bit unorthodox but it’s not completely wrong. The cycling and ferry thing was too much 😋
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BTW you can use OBS to record your screen. It's free and doesn't put a watermark on the video. Just so you have a clean recording and you can avoid reflections like 7:15
Imma google what that is. Thank you! I wasn’t able to screen record cause it was Netflix 😭
@@awkwardgoat3 i just looked it up and seems like you can't record netflix due to piracy reasons 😕.
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Nice review very nicely explained😊👍