Can you please bring a video about how budhisam has divided.and my problem is that which budhisam is the correct.anyway I can surely say that theeravadee budhisam is the world cleanest teaching.but it will be better if you explain about that😊❤️
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I am a atheist who is looking for meaning and finding myself and your videos have helped me learn more about to me the most appealing faith. No gods or made up stories just virtues to help you become a better person.
Wow. I want to learn more about Buddhism as it seems like my type of religion! I don't want a handbook of rules for the life of what I can and can't do. The way you put this is really enticing!
I’m a long term alcoholic and I’ve been really bad to myself and others around me. I can’t take this negativity and self destruction anymore. It’s either suicide or learning to be a better human. Ill try the latter so thank you for helping. Thank you.
I just found your videos Doug. I was raised Catholic, but was attending a nondenominational Christian church. As much as I tried I just couldn’t believe the Bible stories, the Resurrection etc. I always felt there was something wrong with me. I used alcohol, weed and other substances for years to shut my brain up. I stumbled upon Michael Singer and his teachings and they have been life changing. He talks about Buddhism concepts a lot. Along with yoga and Jesus. Started going to a Heart of Recovery meeting and am new to Buddhism and meditation. Thank you for making these concepts so easy to understand. Buddhism can seem intimidating to the Western mind. I’m not giving up on myself! Hugs from Austin, TX ❤
I have started to learn more about Buddhism to cope with depression and anxiety. A lot of the practices are starting to become more intuitive to me and made me a better person. I still have a long way to go though.
I grew up christian, I always felt like there was something spiritual but I never actually felt it. I was told I would find peace if I just prayed but it never happened. For a while I felt like I didn't want to have a religion, then I found your videos. I've never felt more at peace than now and I feel like this is the right path for me. Thank you.
I experienced the same thing. Grew up Christian and always questioned the teachings etc. I couldn’t be open about it because religion is a very emotional topic for many people and I approached it in a logical clinical way. I feel a bit more peace here.
I am someone who struggles with mental health issues and has just started to practice Buddhist practices. I thank you for these types of videos. It is helping me a lot.
It really is extremely hard! It needs constant self-reflection in every day life. Sometimes it's so frustrating to realize one's own unskilful actions, there is so much anger, impatience, prejudice etc. I know a lot about it. But then, we are just people. I guess any effort counts. Great vid, as always. Thank you.
Indeed so Martin! We are all just people with greed, hatred, and delusion. Take solace in the fact that you are at least seeing what so many don't! It's a start. 🙂
I donayed a lot of my posessions a few years back and since then iv kept up with this practice. Ironically i feel i have gained more than i lost. It felt good to loose all that stuff and felt good to know it will be used by others
I’m just starting to learn about Buddhism and I really appreciate your videos. As an agnostic I had never really considered Buddhism until I watched a few but it honestly seems like I could benefit from practicing it. Thanks so much for your time and efforts!
Drug abuse and poor choice has brought me here, you are very informative and easy to listen too, this is something I really want to devote myself too and you have been a fantasic introduction. Thank you
I love learning about Buddhism and I made a video on one of the 3 marks of existence in Buddhism know as imperminance which is to say that nothing in life is permanent, not your job, your emotions or even the very elements that make up life. It's all a constant dance that we should be aware of and not instinctively react to. Be aware of imperminance on a permanent basis, ha! Be the silent witnessing presence in the here and now. Great video! :)
i saved the whole series to a playlist. i like to think im always new to it all even though my interest in the concepts started in 2011. plenty of helpful books and I learned a lot since then, but also unlearning.
Yeah, it is said generosity and ethics were the first topics Buddha used to teach first to people interested in his path. Probably they are core human values, without them human beings are not better than insects. As the Dalai Lama says, we can have a good human society without religion or religions, but it is not possible to have a good human society without compassion.
Agreed, and thanks for sharing that quote, however I think insects are actually not a bad thing to be compared to in many ways, for example bees sacrifice their lives for the well being of the hive, although I'm not sure that is so much of a conscious choice in the same way that we think and more of the way they are biologically wired. Sorry, I don't mean to be picky and critical over semantics, I just wanted to say to anyone reading the comments that it is very interesting (at least IMHO) learning about insects and animals and the way different species interact socially in herds or solo.
@Bernard de Fontaines Absoloutely! There is some fascinating stuff in the insect world, from jewel wasps laying eggs in living cockroaches to cordyceps fungus that takes over an ant's behavior to the complete dissolution of caterpillars into basically a DNA soup and then amazingly completely reassembling themselves into a beautiful butterfly. I read an article that pollution has killed so many bees in some parts of China that people had to polinate plants themselves with Q-tips. They are such an important part of the food chain through pollination and fertilization as you already mentioned but also as a food source for bats, birds, other insects, etc. I rescued a hummingbird and was giving him a sugar solution and then took him to ProjectWildlife in San Diego, which is an awesome rescue non-profit I used to volunteer at and they said that within a day hummingbirds catch so many fruit flies and other insects that their diet is mainly protein and they have a fruit-fly concentrated liquid that they feed them. They been have a policy that they will release the animal where they were found os they can find their family or in the case of social animals their flock, etc. They have awesome people. They rescue everything from mice to mountain lions and if an animal is not native to the area and is invasive they will not kill them, they will rehabilitate them and release them to humane societies with no kill policies in other states or other rescue organizations in states where they are legal. If you ever want to donate money to a worthy cause, there are so many but I have firsthand knowledge of them and they are genuinely good people and they use the money efficiently and in a way where they can get the most use out of it to save the most animals. Donating your time is also great as are vehicles and drivers for releasing animals. They are all volunteers at the local place I worked at, I am not sure about higher up in the organization. Sorry to go off tangent but it's amazing how small hummingbirds are but they are so tough. If you put out feeders for hummingbirds please clean them often, every few days or at least. rinse once a week because if they are not cleaned hummers can get fungus or bacteria that can rot of f their beaks! If you love hummes and enjoy having them visit but you aren't able to clean out feeders consider getting bird baths that are higher up where they can get a drink and a bath. Just make sure it cannot be climbed by cats. Also NEVER use honey and not every type of sugar is safe. Use table sugar only (white sugar) and mix it using a ratio of 1 part sugar to 4 parts water. Another great way to help hummingbirds and enjoy them if you can't clean feeders all the time due to illness or jus not having enough time or whatever which again is SO important so please be honest with yourself and don't hang them if you feel that yu can't keep up with them, (which I get it, I am not trying to shame anyone here but I don't think people realize the harm it can do to them, I never knew until someone told me so I'm asking please take it seriously, so many people's hearts ar in the right place and they just aren't aware of some stuff sometimes) if you have kids, work, school, other pets, multiple feeders, etc., etc., etc. and feel like you may forget, please consider planting butterfly and hummingbird attracting plants instead. Nectar is the best source of food besides the additional insects anyway.. and as a bonus, these plants are beautiful. Again, please think about trying to plant them in hanging pots a little bit away from fences or walls if possible to protect hummers from cats, etc. birdwatchinghq.com/how-to-clean-hummingbird-feeders/ becausebirds.com/hummingbird-feeder-safety/ www.thespruce.com/top-hummingbird-flowers-386271 www.sdhumane.org/programs/project-wildlife/ I was getting the link for Project Wildlife and came across this: patch.com/california/santee/never-take-injured-animal-or-bird-project-wildlife Of course I don't know the details or if the bird had any other internal injuries or something which caused them to make the decision to euthanize her. I do know that while I was there the people I knew there and worked alongside would do everything in their power before resorting to eutanizing any animal and it was always a decision made with the goal to be releasing the animal back into the wild and the anima being able to survive in their natural habitat. If that wasn't possible in the case I witnessed we would find a safe place for the animal to live out their days in a rescue, be adopted if legal (and one person kind of looked the other way on a ferret who was adopted, he was fixed.). Some even became animal ambassadors for various organizations, particularly larger birds of prey who cpouldn't make it on their own in the wild. I'm surprised at this story and if true I wonder if they knew the situation (that the mallard could live in their pool and they would feed her and try to protect her). I am not doubting this woman's story and can definitely empathize. Officers are not trained to handle wild animals and his comments do not necessarily reflect PW's planned actions accurately necessarily. I mean I don't know as I wasn't there and want to give the benefit of the doubt to the lady, PW and the officer.. obviously I can;t do that as it seems that this wasn't handled well UNLESS the female mallard had sustained injuries the lady was not aware of that would've lead to her death? I just wanted to say after reading this story that there is a number they give you when yu drop off an animal for medical attention or help and you can go on their website and see pictures and text about their recovery and current condition and check up on them to make sure htey are doing okay or at least know what happened to that animal. When I was there they took all possible measures and when they euthanized an animal it was to stop that animal's pain when there was no chance of recovery to spare them a long, slow and agonizingly painful death. I cannot speak for that incident but it does make me sad. Please also don't get the impression that I am in any way some sort of spokesperson for PW as I am not involved with it at all beyond having volunteered there before. It concerns me that more could've been done for the mallard or if they'd know she could've been taken care of by the person who rescued her... but still, I can;t imagine them putting down a healthy animal/ any animal that could possibly recover just because they didn't have a place for her. I am also concerned that people will read that and they may not take an animal to get help or may delay it because of doubt but I just don't know, and to be fair although I am biased because I trusted those people I don't know when this occurred or who is still volunteering there now. www.yelp.com/biz/project-wildlife-san-diego
I have been reaching this channel to study English, the videos also remind me to practice calmer and kinder in my day. I gain more knowledge of Buddhism history. 🙏 Thank you
Hi Doug, I am a student social worker in the UK and I have been looking at the principles of Buddhism which align so well with this profession. Thank you so much for the guidance
I am confused and scared spiritually right now. I'm struggling with strange experiences with certain phenomena, and feel drawn to budhism as a place to ground myself. As an athiest, and an admirerer of science and the scientific process, I never in a million years would have guessed I would be here, like this. But, looking for anawers has lead me to Buddhism over and over. Thank you for the introduction.
1. Generosity-be less possessive, help people (not only friends), money donations, giving time, smile, simply being polite, kind words, spreding your goodness. How i can be more generous? Expand it. 2. Kindness and compassion - being non-harming, *five precepts*, how can i be more kind? Dont harm intentionally. BUT DONT BY NICY-NICE! SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP, but criticise with the right mindset. 3. Meditation-mental calming
In the beginning seek to resolve your troubles first - try to understand life. Meditation is an advance level to be attempted only after resolving the main issues. Practice the Noble Eightfold Path in sequence - right understanding, right thought, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness and right concentration.
Hello Doug! not sure if you’ll this but you’re an amazing person and helper, i’ve always had a negative mindset but when i found buddhism i feel like there’s no more of that, i want to happy and healthy and treat others with compassion, i want to be a better person
That’s great to hear jaz, yes our mindsets make so much difference to our lives. But changing in this way takes time and effort in practice so don’t give up along the way! 🙂
I am also battling myself from day to day. I have suffered quite a lot in my life. I am 21 years old. Had a horrific childhood and lost my mother when I was barely 14. I believe and God and Jesus, but I am still trying to find my place in this world and find out what kind of a man I am. I want to be a strong, but gentle and kind man. I am not a pacifist, if I need to fight(in literal sense or e.g. with words) I will, but only if it is necessary and the only option I have. Learning about Buddhism is opening my appetite for knowledge and it calms me.
This is common sense basic Buddhism practice for a happier life, although Buddhism goes much deeper. I find what helps being kind, is recognising we are all essentially the same. One of a kind. And the Golden Rule is to treat everyone how you would like to be treated.
Thank you for the videos. I was really confused about how to start with Buddhism. You make it really easy. I will try my best on this suggestions. Warm hugs 💗
Hey there doug, how am i, a 14 year old boy going through high school, supposed to convert with the little amount of free time i have due to high school?
Hi Justin, I wouldn't really worry about it a whole lot. "Conversion" isn't much of a thing in Buddhism; there is nothing you really need to "do" to be or become a Buddhist. If you think the practices are worthwhile then do them, that's all there is to it. They don't really need to take much time. 🙂
This has helped me a lot learn more about Buddhism thank you so much, I want to walk in my grandmas, mom and sisters steps into this religion and this has helped a lot ☺️☯️🕉☸️
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve been really struggling in life lately due to a handful of toxic people. I’ve been trying to apply these principles. I’ve been really really struggling to find harmony in needing to deal with some of these situations. I was worried I couldn’t stand my ground ever. Life is suffering right? I literally got goosebumps and shed a handful of tears at the realization you provided. I can preserve my kindness and harmony while also not always allowing evil to prosper if I am able to come from a place of kindness. It seemed so beautiful and simple once explained. I truly don’t have the words to express myself but I needed and appreciate yours more than I could ever explain. Thank you Sir.
Doug, if you could, can you please do a video on walking meditation? I find your video so helpful thank you so much. I’m new to Buddhism and I’m really enjoying it. It’s brought me some inner peace I’ve never had in my life.
thanks doug for all your work. i have a semantic point of order. :) surely, we practice dharma, rather than buddhism. buddhism cannot be practiced, it is rather a religion, a set of beliefs.
Yeah that's one way to look at it Gary. I usually think of "Buddhism" as just short for "the Buddha dharma", though of course it has a much broader meaning as well.
I’ve realized recently with everything going on in the world that I hold a lot of anger of stupid tiny things and would like to get rid of that anger and resentment towards others and I’m hoping meditation and maybe Buddhism can help with that
Yes, anger is a real problem for us. Buddhist practice can help, but it takes time and effort. Meanwhile try not to get angry with yourself for your own anger!
I got into Buddhism so much. I bought a ton of used books and was devouring them. I got overwhelmed. I got one book about practicing Buddhism and it says to bow or kneel before a Buddha statue 3 times then recite the three jewels. Being Catholic at that point I had to stop. I couldn't in my conscience say I take refuge in the Buddha, the Sangha, and the Dharma. I felt this is a betrayal of God. So, I gave up. But I am still attracted to Buddhism and I am thinking about it. Maybe I just went in too fast. The concepts of Buddhism I found difficult to grasp.
Not sure if i am going to get a response... But anyway... Where does a Buddhist draw a line when being Kind and Generous to being taken advantage of one? I'll try to explain...I am being good and kind, but people slowly realize that due to that they can say whatever they want to me and push me to be "too good"over and over again by just knowing that i won't get really mad or confrontative cause deep down i know that some stuff doesn't need to be over analized? I am not sure if i explained myself Correctly.
It's a good question Tamaki. Being kind and generous means also being kind and generous to yourself. If someone else is abusing your kindness, then it's good practice not to foster that relationship.
@@DougsDharma I just find it completely unnecessary to place myself into a situation of physical discomfort, especially at my age, and expect the mind to be able to find the peace to come anywhere near meditation. We are lucky to be living in an era in which a sangha or a venerable sir is at your fingertips.
Hi! I've recently, and thanks to your videos, become very interested in buddhism. I was wondering if you consider joining a buddhist center, an essencial step for the practice. I live abroad right now and I don't speak the language of the country, so it would be hard for me. What do you think? Thank you ☀️
Indeed Inês I have been a member of a Buddhist center for many years, and have learned a great deal there. If you can't find any ones local to you that are right, there are online opportunities as well. They may not be a perfect replacement, but they are better than nothing.
Be a truth seeker - try to understand the conditions of ourselves, others and the world - how they are , how they arise, how to change for better - seek answers to our troubles
Love the video and definitely think I wanna spend more time into checking out Buddhism, my mental health just can't handle my current way of living anymore, but do you have any advice on how to deal with toxic family members? I don't easily call people toxic, but recently I started being a bit more positive, working out to try and help my chronic pain which I've had since I was 11, eating healthier, trying meditation, yet my older sister who's 23 randomly sees me stand in the kitchen and gets mad at me for starting at a plate for too long (I have extreme brain fog due to many health issues mentally and physically) and starts an argument. It's very tiring to go from a good day to crying in your room because a family member was in a bad mood and suddenly attacks your mental health and shames you and when I ask her to stop she says quote ''that's your problem for being a pussy lol''. Are there any tips you would give for that? I have a lot of mood swings aswell thanks to my mental health issues combined with physical issues taking a toll on me which are already hard for me and I'm trying to fix, but its very hard to control those whilst at the same time getting a ton of negativity in from a family member just when I'm starting to feel good and doing my best :( I'd appreciate any tips and ways to calm myself down and hopefully be less hurt.
I'm very sorry to hear that kurochi chan! I have an earlier video on dealing with family, and why it's particularly difficult: ua-cam.com/video/UtxeDSsmXJY/v-deo.html It might be good to search out some professional help like from a psychologist, family therapist, or the like.
@@DougsDharma Thank you for the video and I'll check it out immediately :D! and sadly I've gone to psychologist since I was 11 and now at 19 my mental health has just gotten worse, my last psychologist shamed me for having an eating disorder and as it's a small town my only option now is helping myself, its just a bit hard but thank you for the consideration
Well it is sad that they dont have compassion for you, but if they hold themselves to the same standard and don't alow themselves to be sad that can be very damaging and ultimately if yo can, please be compassionate towards them. It takes work and is very hard but we can ultimately choose how we react to things and get strong enough eventually with practice to not allow negativity to ruin our day like this. I am NOT saying that you are not already strong, as someone who has unfortunately experienced a lot of physical and emotional pain I know it isn't easy and it takes a strong person to deal with pain daily and still strive to stay positive. Is there any way yo can limit your contact to toxic family members, at least until you've had a chance to work o your mental health with a professional? ar you able to afford speaking with a therapist? there are support groups for people with pain which are free and full of compassionate people in many meetings, if yo can find one close to you I'd advise you start there and remember that happy and fulfilled people don't treat others the way your family member is treating you, so even though it can be hard, try to remember that she is obviously struggling with something and is projecting it onto you to attack you, and that mindset will only limit her in the long run, particularly if you are able to find ways to not let it get to you. I know it isn't easy. Wishing you the best, reaching out for help and admitting the issue and being motivated to do the work to improve is the first step and your mental health is absolutely worth it and is the most valuable resource we have and is the stepping stone or prerequisite to a (as cringey as it sounds) thriving life. You can do this. You got this. Never give up on yourself. It is worth it. You are definitely worth it. Also a good way to get out of your head and all the daily problems is to help others, maybe find some time in your week to volunteer to read to seniors who are lonely, to help out at your local humane society, find a soup kitchen and feed the homeless, check it out. You might be surprised how many organizations are closeby that need help. Being around animals always helps my mental health as well, and nature, and exercise. Do hobbies you enjoy that you are good at which will build up your self esteem so when someone tells you put-downs, you know in your heart and are reminded daily that it's not true because you know you are talented, valuable, compassionate, creative, whatever traits you like about yourself and how you choose to treat others. Eventually you will feel bad for anyone who feels the need to put other people down, and not in a self-righteous way as if you are above anyone else but in a genuine compassionate way.
hi doug i am 15 and my mother is a hard core Christian. i am interested in Buddhism and i consider myself already a Buddhist. i am vegetarian, i know the five precepts and eightfold path fairly well. if i cannot got to a temple and i can not have a shrine at my mothers house what else could i do besides read.
Well there are online talks, meditations, even retreats you can join too. But if you can find a local meditation center that would be best ... even though you might have to wait until after COVID for it to open again.
Hi Doug. I’m wondering how would I go about finding a teacher to help me learn more about Buddhism on a more one-to-one basis? Your videos are great and I have been reading a book about it, but trying to figure out the specific steps on how to implement the jargon (there’s a lot!) and practices into my daily life is confusing.
Well I do have courses over at onlinedharma.org/ ; as for finding a teacher one-on-one, there are many sanghas that you can join that will provide that sort of guidance. While I don't teach meditation, I do occasional dharma teaching.
Much metta to you. Just wanted to know whether people suffering from low mood, depression, ruminating thoughts can be helped with mindfulness meditation & loving kindness? If so then what's your point when people in depression are always in low mood? Thank-you
Yes I definitely think these practices can be helpful, but in mild cases only. For serious cases of depression one really needs professional help through a therapist or psychologist first.
I find this video very useful. Im very Buddhist curious but im a bit scared if the things i have to change about my lifestyle.even if i know it will be good for me! So contradictory I know but still
Ha! Well no reason to be worried Annlaug, change is something you have to want to do, otherwise it won't be successful. I think you'll find it makes you happier though in the long term!
FOR THOSE WHO ARE STRANGERS TO BUDDHISM ; IN A NUTSHELL BUDDHISM CAN BE SUMMARISED AS FOLLOWS ; * the three main basic principles or basic foundations of Buddha Dharma. 1 DEPENDANT ORIGINATION ( cause and effect ----- which includes KARMA ect ) 2 THE THREE CHARACTERISTICS OF EXISTENCE. ( anicca, dhukka and anatta ) 3 FOUR NOBEL TRUTHS . ( which includes Nobel eight fold path ) Please be clear about the above teachings. * THEN PRACTICE THE FOLLOWING: ( very important and essential ) 1 DO GOOD THINGS. 2 AVOID DOING BAD THINGS. 3 PURIFY THE MIND. ( this is the hardest and most difficult part in Buddhism which involves a lot of practice like meditation etc. ). If item 3 is difficult , practice items 1 and 2 at least. To achieve this you need Mindfulness, Effort and common sense.( right and balanced view ). These are common to all forms of Buddhism but rituals and practices may differ. ( rituals are NOT at all important in BUDDHISM ) When you have a sound , clear knowledge about the above topics , you can practice ANY form of Buddhism or follow ANY religion, yet you will be on the correct BUDDHIST path to achieve peace of mind. As lord buddha preached , please DO NOT accept any of these blindly .( please use your common sense and analyze before accepting ). LORD BUDHDHA only preached common sense and the true reality of existence. P S: NIRVANA IS ONLY A STATE OF MIND. AND NOT ANY OTHER PHYSICAL WORLD OR REALM OF EXISTENCE. .( it is a state of mind you achieve here and now and NOT something you achieve after death ) THANK YOU
with generosity, how do you know or make sure to not give too much of yourself or your resources that will possibly hurt you in the long run? i have had trouble with giving too much of myself to others in the past...
Yes this is a great question Madison, there is no perfect answer. You must learn to be generous with yourself as well as with others, it's a "middle way" between giving everything and being too stingy. If you notice that you're giving too much of yourself, back off for awhile and what's key is, try not to feel bad about it. Generosity should be a two-way street.
Before I was born. Every year at Christmas time my parents used to spend roughly the amount of money they spent on us kids to buy stuff for the wishing tree.
I'm not sure what you mean. If you want to know what the Buddhist equivalent of the Bible is, I have a video on that topic from quite a way back: ua-cam.com/video/dYNWDFOBtQg/v-deo.html
Yes, I have a couple of videos on that topic. See here for some books that got me started in Buddhism: ua-cam.com/video/u51Yh65TunU/v-deo.html and see here for some books I'd recommend on early Buddhism: ua-cam.com/video/UGNfiyRMkgw/v-deo.html (this is a very early video of mine, so the A/V quality is a little poor!)
is it okay to use Tarot cards while being Buddhist? most things ive read said its okay as long as you don't use it for profit. i just got a deck,but i would never use it for profit. id mainly just use it for some insight into my subconscious,like i do with pendulums.
Well I'm probably the wrong person to ask since I don't believe in such things, but doing forms of magic aren't a problem in Buddhism unless they're done to harm. The Buddha said monastics shouldn't involve themselves in these kinds of endeavors, but that's because monastics aren't supposed to make a living and aren't supposed to be involving themselves in things that aren't the dharma.
life make more sense if we see it as a learning period spanning millions of lifetimes - good or bad results from previous and current karma - all our experiences , seemingly good or bad, are to guide us to enligthenment, ending suffering - just lessons of life to be accepted as they come with no likes or dislikes - try to understand what our experiences are trying to teach us in becoming the best compassionate human - form no views
Im a Buddhist from Sri Lanka. I kindly request you to seek into theravada buddhism .one of the few monks I know who actually who know what real buddhism is,are meemure dammavansa thero.cuz buddhism not something so simply.its all about understanding that there's nothing called me or myself.
Thanks Sarith. I'm sure if you ask the bhikkhu he will tell you that when the Buddha gave an introductory talk to laypeople about practice he did not discuss anatta. That said, I have many videos on anatta that you can see for example in this playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PL0akoU_OszRjA9n0-U24ZCpfEQVFxeGz2.html
@@DougsDharma oh ya ya .that's correct.one should not first start with the deep side .I just thought to help you'll with what we've goy here.because real buddhism is disappearing here too.and it's so sad to see it
What guided meditation practice would you recommend for beginners (any channel etc)? I used to meditate daily, but now I am out the loop and would like to get back into it, but I need to follow a guide before i can just sit on my own first
I don't listen to guided meditations online so I'm not the one to ask, but people like Sharon Salzberg, Joseph Goldstein, Jack Kornfeld are usually good places to look for that sort of thing. 🙂
Where is the actual book? I want to read the “holy book” not read discourse about that book. Where can I find a copy of the Pali canon? For instance, the Bible is easily accessible, the Quaran is easily accessible, the Tora is accessible. Where is the Pali canon?
I will be doing a video on this, but you can find answers in several of my videos, for example this one about finding sources about early Buddhism on the internet: ua-cam.com/video/LtT2v1vQBTk/v-deo.html
Freebie mini-course at the Online Dharma Institute: onlinedharma.org!
Can you please bring a video about how budhisam has divided.and my problem is that which budhisam is the correct.anyway I can surely say that theeravadee budhisam is the world cleanest teaching.but it will be better if you explain about that😊❤️
Talking about Buddhism, this will give you Power! ua-cam.com/video/FAsCMaqSrmY/v-deo.html
@@DougsDharma get this shittt off my technology NOW AND WHERES MY OPTION TO REMOVE IT MYSELF??? HMMMM? THE LORD JESUS CHRIST REBUKE SILENCE AND COMPLETELY REMOVE ALL THE DARK DEMONIC ENERGY IN THE WORLD COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THAT SMOKE 🙏🏻 USMC NEVER DIES ⛑️💀💯⚖️😎🦁😇👻
I am a atheist who is looking for meaning and finding myself and your videos have helped me learn more about to me the most appealing faith. No gods or made up stories just virtues to help you become a better person.
Yes, I think if you look at it from a secular perspective that's it right there.
Wow. I want to learn more about Buddhism as it seems like my type of religion! I don't want a handbook of rules for the life of what I can and can't do. The way you put this is really enticing!
You are stardust and when you die you will be stardust again. That is the meaning of life.
Finding yourself will be difficult sence their really isnt a ones self.
My reaction when I discovered Buddhism a couple of years ago exactly!
I’m a long term alcoholic and I’ve been really bad to myself and others around me. I can’t take this negativity and self destruction anymore. It’s either suicide or learning to be a better human. Ill try the latter so thank you for helping. Thank you.
Hey great Sha, all the best on your journey. 🙏😊
Keep it up Doug. You're making the world a better place.
Thanks for the comment Ricky, I'm trying! 😄
I agree!
I just found your videos Doug.
I was raised Catholic, but was attending a nondenominational Christian church. As much as I tried I just couldn’t believe the Bible stories, the Resurrection etc.
I always felt there was something wrong with me. I used alcohol, weed and other substances for years to shut my brain up.
I stumbled upon Michael Singer and his teachings and they have been life changing. He talks about Buddhism concepts a lot. Along with yoga and Jesus.
Started going to a Heart of Recovery meeting and am new to Buddhism and meditation.
Thank you for making these concepts so easy to understand.
Buddhism can seem intimidating to the Western mind.
I’m not giving up on myself!
Hugs from Austin, TX ❤
Wonderful, best to you on your journey!
Thanks man for teaching the real buddhism not just pray and meditate.
You’re very welcome Albert. That’s my aim.
I have started to learn more about Buddhism to cope with depression and anxiety. A lot of the practices are starting to become more intuitive to me and made me a better person. I still have a long way to go though.
Join the club, Wade! 😄
@@DougsDharma You are awesome!!!
I'm now looking into Buddhism. The Buddha and the religion is truly winsome.
Yes I think it is very beneficial. Thanks okenola!
I grew up christian, I always felt like there was something spiritual but I never actually felt it. I was told I would find peace if I just prayed but it never happened. For a while I felt like I didn't want to have a religion, then I found your videos. I've never felt more at peace than now and I feel like this is the right path for me. Thank you.
You're very welcome! 🙏
I experienced the same thing. Grew up Christian and always questioned the teachings etc.
I couldn’t be open about it because religion is a very emotional topic for many people and I approached it in a logical clinical way.
I feel a bit more peace here.
I am in Asia. I am clear with Buddha teaching. I am so glad to hear from you.
Welcome!
Your channel is really outstanding and unique about Theravada Buddhism. We really need such kind of channel.
Thanks Paulo! 🙏
Bodhisattva Dr. B. R. Ambedkar said, "spreading dhamma is greatest work on this earth"
You are doing the greatest job.....
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I am someone who struggles with mental health issues and has just started to practice Buddhist practices. I thank you for these types of videos. It is helping me a lot.
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I'm in the same boat.
I think this could be really good for People with mental health struggles.
I very much enjoyed how you explained things. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
It really is extremely hard! It needs constant self-reflection in every day life. Sometimes it's so frustrating to realize one's own unskilful actions, there is so much anger, impatience, prejudice etc. I know a lot about it. But then, we are just people. I guess any effort counts. Great vid, as always. Thank you.
Indeed so Martin! We are all just people with greed, hatred, and delusion. Take solace in the fact that you are at least seeing what so many don't! It's a start. 🙂
@@DougsDharma Thanks, Doug. that's kind of you. Btw, sorry if I am commenting too much :D feel free to ignore it. :D
Hey Martin, also be kind( non harmful ) to yourself.. first walk before you run..🙂
we do what we can - be patient - take your time, its ok - form no views - try the Platform Sutra (Hui Neng)
That you recognize where you are...great start. Just remember...Rome wasn't built in a day. It will take time. But...it will be with it in the end.
I donayed a lot of my posessions a few years back and since then iv kept up with this practice. Ironically i feel i have gained more than i lost. It felt good to loose all that stuff and felt good to know it will be used by others
See, that's great!
I’m just starting to learn about Buddhism and I really appreciate your videos. As an agnostic I had never really considered Buddhism until I watched a few but it honestly seems like I could benefit from practicing it. Thanks so much for your time and efforts!
You're very welcome Ryan, yes a lot of agnostics appreciate Buddhist practice.
Drug abuse and poor choice has brought me here, you are very informative and easy to listen too, this is something I really want to devote myself too and you have been a fantasic introduction. Thank you
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I love learning about Buddhism and I made a video on one of the 3 marks of existence in Buddhism know as imperminance which is to say that nothing in life is permanent, not your job, your emotions or even the very elements that make up life. It's all a constant dance that we should be aware of and not instinctively react to. Be aware of imperminance on a permanent basis, ha! Be the silent witnessing presence in the here and now. Great video! :)
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i saved the whole series to a playlist. i like to think im always new to it all even though my interest in the concepts started in 2011. plenty of helpful books and I learned a lot since then, but also unlearning.
Great yes, learning can be helpful but sometimes you just need to practice and see.
Yeah, it is said generosity and ethics were the first topics Buddha used to teach first to people interested in his path. Probably they are core human values, without them human beings are not better than insects. As the Dalai Lama says, we can have a good human society without religion or religions, but it is not possible to have a good human society without compassion.
Well said Alicia. These are soooo important, we often lose sight of them when thinking about "higher attainments" in Buddhism and elsewhere.
Agreed, and thanks for sharing that quote, however I think insects are actually not a bad thing to be compared to in many ways, for example bees sacrifice their lives for the well being of the hive, although I'm not sure that is so much of a conscious choice in the same way that we think and more of the way they are biologically wired. Sorry, I don't mean to be picky and critical over semantics, I just wanted to say to anyone reading the comments that it is very interesting (at least IMHO) learning about insects and animals and the way different species interact socially in herds or solo.
@Bernard de Fontaines Absoloutely! There is some fascinating stuff in the insect world, from jewel wasps laying eggs in living cockroaches to cordyceps fungus that takes over an ant's behavior to the complete dissolution of caterpillars into basically a DNA soup and then amazingly completely reassembling themselves into a beautiful butterfly. I read an article that pollution has killed so many bees in some parts of China that people had to polinate plants themselves with Q-tips. They are such an important part of the food chain through pollination and fertilization as you already mentioned but also as a food source for bats, birds, other insects, etc.
I rescued a hummingbird and was giving him a sugar solution and then took him to ProjectWildlife in San Diego, which is an awesome rescue non-profit I used to volunteer at and they said that within a day hummingbirds catch so many fruit flies and other insects that their diet is mainly protein and they have a fruit-fly concentrated liquid that they feed them. They been have a policy that they will release the animal where they were found os they can find their family or in the case of social animals their flock, etc. They have awesome people. They rescue everything from mice to mountain lions and if an animal is not native to the area and is invasive they will not kill them, they will rehabilitate them and release them to humane societies with no kill policies in other states or other rescue organizations in states where they are legal.
If you ever want to donate money to a worthy cause, there are so many but I have firsthand knowledge of them and they are genuinely good people and they use the money efficiently and in a way where they can get the most use out of it to save the most animals. Donating your time is also great as are vehicles and drivers for releasing animals. They are all volunteers at the local place I worked at, I am not sure about higher up in the organization.
Sorry to go off tangent but it's amazing how small hummingbirds are but they are so tough. If you put out feeders for hummingbirds please clean them often, every few days or at least. rinse once a week because if they are not cleaned hummers can get fungus or bacteria that can rot of f their beaks! If you love hummes and enjoy having them visit but you aren't able to clean out feeders consider getting bird baths that are higher up where they can get a drink and a bath. Just make sure it cannot be climbed by cats. Also NEVER use honey and not every type of sugar is safe. Use table sugar only (white sugar) and mix it using a ratio of 1 part sugar to 4 parts water.
Another great way to help hummingbirds and enjoy them if you can't clean feeders all the time due to illness or jus not having enough time or whatever which again is SO important so please be honest with yourself and don't hang them if you feel that yu can't keep up with them, (which I get it, I am not trying to shame anyone here but I don't think people realize the harm it can do to them, I never knew until someone told me so I'm asking please take it seriously, so many people's hearts ar in the right place and they just aren't aware of some stuff sometimes) if you have kids, work, school, other pets, multiple feeders, etc., etc., etc. and feel like you may forget, please consider planting butterfly and hummingbird attracting plants instead. Nectar is the best source of food besides the additional insects anyway.. and as a bonus, these plants are beautiful. Again, please think about trying to plant them in hanging pots a little bit away from fences or walls if possible to protect hummers from cats, etc.
birdwatchinghq.com/how-to-clean-hummingbird-feeders/
becausebirds.com/hummingbird-feeder-safety/
www.thespruce.com/top-hummingbird-flowers-386271
www.sdhumane.org/programs/project-wildlife/
I was getting the link for Project Wildlife and came across this:
patch.com/california/santee/never-take-injured-animal-or-bird-project-wildlife
Of course I don't know the details or if the bird had any other internal injuries or something which caused them to make the decision to euthanize her. I do know that while I was there the people I knew there and worked alongside would do everything in their power before resorting to eutanizing any animal and it was always a decision made with the goal to be releasing the animal back into the wild and the anima being able to survive in their natural habitat. If that wasn't possible in the case I witnessed we would find a safe place for the animal to live out their days in a rescue, be adopted if legal (and one person kind of looked the other way on a ferret who was adopted, he was fixed.). Some even became animal ambassadors for various organizations, particularly larger birds of prey who cpouldn't make it on their own in the wild. I'm surprised at this story and if true I wonder if they knew the situation (that the mallard could live in their pool and they would feed her and try to protect her). I am not doubting this woman's story and can definitely empathize. Officers are not trained to handle wild animals and his comments do not necessarily reflect PW's planned actions accurately necessarily. I mean I don't know as I wasn't there and want to give the benefit of the doubt to the lady, PW and the officer.. obviously I can;t do that as it seems that this wasn't handled well UNLESS the female mallard had sustained injuries the lady was not aware of that would've lead to her death?
I just wanted to say after reading this story that there is a number they give you when yu drop off an animal for medical attention or help and you can go on their website and see pictures and text about their recovery and current condition and check up on them to make sure htey are doing okay or at least know what happened to that animal. When I was there they took all possible measures and when they euthanized an animal it was to stop that animal's pain when there was no chance of recovery to spare them a long, slow and agonizingly painful death. I cannot speak for that incident but it does make me sad. Please also don't get the impression that I am in any way some sort of spokesperson for PW as I am not involved with it at all beyond having volunteered there before. It concerns me that more could've been done for the mallard or if they'd know she could've been taken care of by the person who rescued her... but still, I can;t imagine them putting down a healthy animal/ any animal that could possibly recover just because they didn't have a place for her. I am also concerned that people will read that and they may not take an animal to get help or may delay it because of doubt but I just don't know, and to be fair although I am biased because I trusted those people I don't know when this occurred or who is still volunteering there now.
www.yelp.com/biz/project-wildlife-san-diego
Thank you so much, I will always practice generosity, kindness and compassion.
So important! 🙏😊
I have been reaching this channel to study English, the videos also remind me to practice calmer and kinder in my day. I gain more knowledge of Buddhism history. 🙏 Thank you
Wonderful to hear Hoa Luu! I wish you the best on your language and dharma studies! 🙏
Hi Doug, I am a student social worker in the UK and I have been looking at the principles of Buddhism which align so well with this profession. Thank you so much for the guidance
You're very welcome, Ella. 🙏
Just discovered your videos - and I absolutely love them!
Sending love from a beginner buddhist from Denmark 🙏🏻😊
Glad to hear it Caroline, thanks for your comment! 🙏🙂
I am confused and scared spiritually right now. I'm struggling with strange experiences with certain phenomena, and feel drawn to budhism as a place to ground myself.
As an athiest, and an admirerer of science and the scientific process, I never in a million years would have guessed I would be here, like this. But, looking for anawers has lead me to Buddhism over and over.
Thank you for the introduction.
Your eyes reminded me of my dad. Thank you for the teaching. This can help many people on their path with Buddhism . 😊
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Thank you Doug for sharing your experience strength and hope
You are very welcome!
1. Generosity-be less possessive, help people (not only friends), money donations, giving time, smile, simply being polite, kind words, spreding your goodness. How i can be more generous? Expand it.
2. Kindness and compassion - being non-harming, *five precepts*, how can i be more kind? Dont harm intentionally. BUT DONT BY NICY-NICE! SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP, but criticise with the right mindset.
3. Meditation-mental calming
Thanks Ania!
In the beginning seek to resolve your troubles first - try to understand life. Meditation is an advance level to be attempted only after resolving the main issues. Practice the Noble Eightfold Path in sequence - right understanding, right thought, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness and right concentration.
Thanks vimal kirti.
Hello Doug! not sure if you’ll this but you’re an amazing person and helper, i’ve always had a negative mindset but when i found buddhism i feel like there’s no more of that, i want to happy and healthy and treat others with compassion, i want to be a better person
That’s great to hear jaz, yes our mindsets make so much difference to our lives. But changing in this way takes time and effort in practice so don’t give up along the way! 🙂
I am also battling myself from day to day. I have suffered quite a lot in my life. I am 21 years old. Had a horrific childhood and lost my mother when I was barely 14. I believe and God and Jesus, but I am still trying to find my place in this world and find out what kind of a man I am. I want to be a strong, but gentle and kind man. I am not a pacifist, if I need to fight(in literal sense or e.g. with words) I will, but only if it is necessary and the only option I have. Learning about Buddhism is opening my appetite for knowledge and it calms me.
Yes, kindness is the message. It's not always easy!
@@DougsDharma Of course it is! Being dangerous man but not using that power and being kind and generous is what it means to be a man.
@@DougsDharma Good things are never easy.
Doug I'd love to hear your Buddhism Story. I love your dharma talks.
Much love and thanks
My pleasure, Martin. I have a "dharma vlog" playlist where I get into some of that: ua-cam.com/play/PL0akoU_OszRgETTJkXqTwpGWR5CxoK4ZJ.html
This is common sense basic Buddhism practice for a happier life, although Buddhism goes much deeper.
I find what helps being kind, is recognising we are all essentially the same.
One of a kind.
And the Golden Rule is to treat everyone how you would like to be treated.
Thank you for the videos. I was really confused about how to start with Buddhism. You make it really easy. I will try my best on this suggestions.
Warm hugs 💗
Hey that's great Janela girl. Let us know how it goes and if you have other questions!
Hey there doug, how am i, a 14 year old boy going through high school, supposed to convert with the little amount of free time i have due to high school?
Hi Justin, I wouldn't really worry about it a whole lot. "Conversion" isn't much of a thing in Buddhism; there is nothing you really need to "do" to be or become a Buddhist. If you think the practices are worthwhile then do them, that's all there is to it. They don't really need to take much time. 🙂
Doug's Secular Dharma awesome! thanks!
Me too!
@@Unknwnalibi that’s weird I’m Justin 14 and in highschool...
@@schecter5035 now im a 16 year old haha, buddhism helped me when i was younger but its not for me :/ good luck
This has helped me a lot learn more about Buddhism thank you so much, I want to walk in my grandmas, mom and sisters steps into this religion and this has helped a lot ☺️☯️🕉☸️
Glad to hear it Tomi, all the best!
Dear,Sir...You are doing an amazing work.. Thank you.. Love, Respect and Gratitude.. Stay blessed ❤🌷🌷
Thanks very much Kajal Dash, very kind of you. Be well. 🙏🙂
This is both concise and actionable. Commendable! Thank you.
You’re very welcome Anders, thanks for the comment!
@@DougsDharma Yes, precisely! Thank you for sharing practical tips and reflections.
Wow keep this up!!all the intelligent people in the world are expecting these kind of teachingss!!💥💥💥💥💥💥❤️🙏 namo buddaaya, 🙏
Thanks Seneli! 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve been really struggling in life lately due to a handful of toxic people. I’ve been trying to apply these principles. I’ve been really really struggling to find harmony in needing to deal with some of these situations. I was worried I couldn’t stand my ground ever. Life is suffering right? I literally got goosebumps and shed a handful of tears at the realization you provided. I can preserve my kindness and harmony while also not always allowing evil to prosper if I am able to come from a place of kindness. It seemed so beautiful and simple once explained. I truly don’t have the words to express myself but I needed and appreciate yours more than I could ever explain. Thank you Sir.
You are most welcome, Kemosabe! I'm so glad my video was helpful to you. 🙏😊
Thanks Doug
Doug, if you could, can you please do a video on walking meditation? I find your video so helpful thank you so much. I’m new to Buddhism and I’m really enjoying it. It’s brought me some inner peace I’ve never had in my life.
I have a couple of videos on that topic. See: ua-cam.com/video/SPEoWeF7ClE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/SVVjjy3RAks/v-deo.html .
thanks so much doug
Thank you for a simple thought provoking explanation much appreciated
You're very welcome Julia!
Another great introductory video Doug. Thanks so much.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I undertake to observe the precept to abstain from taking life.
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Thank you for this, Doug!
My pleasure!
Thanks for the great video Doug! Best way I have seen to start practicing Buddhism.
Great! Glad to hear you found it useful CMS!
@@DougsDharma What is CMS?
@@craigsmachineshop2040 Sorry, abbreviated your name!
@@DougsDharma oh, ok. You can just call me Craig. :)
Doug this is one of the best videos you have done. It realy is that difficult.
Thanks rjh, glad you liked it! 🙏
Thanks for making this video I really appreciate it♥️
You're very welcome Danna!
thanks doug for all your work. i have a semantic point of order. :) surely, we practice dharma, rather than buddhism. buddhism cannot be practiced, it is rather a religion, a set of beliefs.
Yeah that's one way to look at it Gary. I usually think of "Buddhism" as just short for "the Buddha dharma", though of course it has a much broader meaning as well.
I’m so glad I found this! Thank you 🙏🏻
You're so welcome!
Thanks Doug these videos are really informative keep it up
Thanks, will do Chris!
Thank you so much for these amazing lessons
You're very welcome, Arman!
I find your videos very peaceful
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Thank you.
You're very welcome!
As a grumpy old guy, i agree with this message . I may not be 'nice' but i try to be kind.😉
😄😄Ah, grumpy old guys are lovable too.
@@DougsDharma So gorgeous women keep telling me....ahum. 😎
Thanks!
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Great content, congrats and thanks!
Thanks for watching Felipe!
Really nice video! Thank you
My pleasure!
I’ve realized recently with everything going on in the world that I hold a lot of anger of stupid tiny things and would like to get rid of that anger and resentment towards others and I’m hoping meditation and maybe Buddhism can help with that
Yes, anger is a real problem for us. Buddhist practice can help, but it takes time and effort. Meanwhile try not to get angry with yourself for your own anger!
Very helpful. Thank you
I'm so glad I found this page. Thank you for posting these and hope you continue to do so. They're very helpful ❤
You’re very welcome Anastasia. I plan to continue, so no worries! 🙂
This is gold..
Thanks Bobby! 🙏
Thank you, very helpful
Glad it was helpful Claire!
I got into Buddhism so much. I bought a ton of used books and was devouring them. I got overwhelmed. I got one book about practicing Buddhism and it says to bow or kneel before a Buddha statue 3 times then recite the three jewels. Being Catholic at that point I had to stop. I couldn't in my conscience say I take refuge in the Buddha, the Sangha, and the Dharma. I felt this is a betrayal of God. So, I gave up. But I am still attracted to Buddhism and I am thinking about it. Maybe I just went in too fast. The concepts of Buddhism I found difficult to grasp.
Devotional practices such as prostrations and chants are one possible way, but you don’t need to do them if you don’t want. Not everyone does.
I think I’m a Buddhist and don’t know it..thankyou for the vid.
You're very welcome Ru!
You become a Buddhist the day you start working on yourself
I guess Buddhist practice enables one to be a better person
I think so, if it's done with diligence and insight.
be the good in the world.
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Not sure if i am going to get a response... But anyway... Where does a Buddhist draw a line when being Kind and Generous to being taken advantage of one? I'll try to explain...I am being good and kind, but people slowly realize that due to that they can say whatever they want to me and push me to be "too good"over and over again by just knowing that i won't get really mad or confrontative cause deep down i know that some stuff doesn't need to be over analized?
I am not sure if i explained myself Correctly.
It's a good question Tamaki. Being kind and generous means also being kind and generous to yourself. If someone else is abusing your kindness, then it's good practice not to foster that relationship.
I find retreats unrewarding. Meditating and reading Dhamma by myself at home is WAY more rewarding.
Great, it's certainly more convenient!
@@DougsDharma I just find it completely unnecessary to place myself into a situation of physical discomfort, especially at my age, and expect the mind to be able to find the peace to come anywhere near meditation. We are lucky to be living in an era in which a sangha or a venerable sir is at your fingertips.
Hi! I've recently, and thanks to your videos, become very interested in buddhism. I was wondering if you consider joining a buddhist center, an essencial step for the practice.
I live abroad right now and I don't speak the language of the country, so it would be hard for me.
What do you think?
Thank you ☀️
Indeed Inês I have been a member of a Buddhist center for many years, and have learned a great deal there. If you can't find any ones local to you that are right, there are online opportunities as well. They may not be a perfect replacement, but they are better than nothing.
Be a truth seeker - try to understand the conditions of ourselves, others and the world - how they are , how they arise, how to change for better - seek answers to our troubles
Indeed so vimal kirti.
To me it’s a way of life
Yes, for sure.
Thank you for this! 🥰
My pleasure, Cecelia! 🙏😊
I love your videos, 😊
Glad you like them!
Great video
Thanks! 🙏😊
Love the video and definitely think I wanna spend more time into checking out Buddhism, my mental health just can't handle my current way of living anymore, but do you have any advice on how to deal with toxic family members? I don't easily call people toxic, but recently I started being a bit more positive, working out to try and help my chronic pain which I've had since I was 11, eating healthier, trying meditation, yet my older sister who's 23 randomly sees me stand in the kitchen and gets mad at me for starting at a plate for too long (I have extreme brain fog due to many health issues mentally and physically) and starts an argument. It's very tiring to go from a good day to crying in your room because a family member was in a bad mood and suddenly attacks your mental health and shames you and when I ask her to stop she says quote ''that's your problem for being a pussy lol''. Are there any tips you would give for that? I have a lot of mood swings aswell thanks to my mental health issues combined with physical issues taking a toll on me which are already hard for me and I'm trying to fix, but its very hard to control those whilst at the same time getting a ton of negativity in from a family member just when I'm starting to feel good and doing my best :( I'd appreciate any tips and ways to calm myself down and hopefully be less hurt.
I'm very sorry to hear that kurochi chan! I have an earlier video on dealing with family, and why it's particularly difficult: ua-cam.com/video/UtxeDSsmXJY/v-deo.html
It might be good to search out some professional help like from a psychologist, family therapist, or the like.
@@DougsDharma Thank you for the video and I'll check it out immediately :D! and sadly I've gone to psychologist since I was 11 and now at 19 my mental health has just gotten worse, my last psychologist shamed me for having an eating disorder and as it's a small town my only option now is helping myself, its just a bit hard but thank you for the consideration
@@yulana990 I am very sad to see you're having a difficult time. I hope you come out of this stronger :)
Well it is sad that they dont have compassion for you, but if they hold themselves to the same standard and don't alow themselves to be sad that can be very damaging and ultimately if yo can, please be compassionate towards them. It takes work and is very hard but we can ultimately choose how we react to things and get strong enough eventually with practice to not allow negativity to ruin our day like this. I am NOT saying that you are not already strong, as someone who has unfortunately experienced a lot of physical and emotional pain I know it isn't easy and it takes a strong person to deal with pain daily and still strive to stay positive.
Is there any way yo can limit your contact to toxic family members, at least until you've had a chance to work o your mental health with a professional? ar you able to afford speaking with a therapist? there are support groups for people with pain which are free and full of compassionate people in many meetings, if yo can find one close to you I'd advise you start there and remember that happy and fulfilled people don't treat others the way your family member is treating you, so even though it can be hard, try to remember that she is obviously struggling with something and is projecting it onto you to attack you, and that mindset will only limit her in the long run, particularly if you are able to find ways to not let it get to you. I know it isn't easy.
Wishing you the best, reaching out for help and admitting the issue and being motivated to do the work to improve is the first step and your mental health is absolutely worth it and is the most valuable resource we have and is the stepping stone or prerequisite to a (as cringey as it sounds) thriving life. You can do this. You got this. Never give up on yourself. It is worth it. You are definitely worth it.
Also a good way to get out of your head and all the daily problems is to help others, maybe find some time in your week to volunteer to read to seniors who are lonely, to help out at your local humane society, find a soup kitchen and feed the homeless, check it out. You might be surprised how many organizations are closeby that need help. Being around animals always helps my mental health as well, and nature, and exercise. Do hobbies you enjoy that you are good at which will build up your self esteem so when someone tells you put-downs, you know in your heart and are reminded daily that it's not true because you know you are talented, valuable, compassionate, creative, whatever traits you like about yourself and how you choose to treat others. Eventually you will feel bad for anyone who feels the need to put other people down, and not in a self-righteous way as if you are above anyone else but in a genuine compassionate way.
hi doug i am 15 and my mother is a hard core Christian. i am interested in Buddhism and i consider myself already a Buddhist. i am vegetarian, i know the five precepts and eightfold path fairly well. if i cannot got to a temple and i can not have a shrine at my mothers house what else could i do besides read.
Well there are online talks, meditations, even retreats you can join too. But if you can find a local meditation center that would be best ... even though you might have to wait until after COVID for it to open again.
Hi Doug. I’m wondering how would I go about finding a teacher to help me learn more about Buddhism on a more one-to-one basis?
Your videos are great and I have been reading a book about it, but trying to figure out the specific steps on how to implement the jargon (there’s a lot!) and practices into my daily life is confusing.
Well I do have courses over at onlinedharma.org/ ; as for finding a teacher one-on-one, there are many sanghas that you can join that will provide that sort of guidance. While I don't teach meditation, I do occasional dharma teaching.
@@DougsDharma thank you. I’ll see if I can find a Sangha first. The courses are a little out of my price range.
enjoy your video
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Much metta to you. Just wanted to know whether people suffering from low mood, depression, ruminating thoughts can be helped with mindfulness meditation & loving kindness? If so then what's your point when people in depression are always in low mood?
Thank-you
Yes I definitely think these practices can be helpful, but in mild cases only. For serious cases of depression one really needs professional help through a therapist or psychologist first.
I find this video very useful. Im very Buddhist curious but im a bit scared if the things i have to change about my lifestyle.even if i know it will be good for me! So contradictory I know but still
Ha! Well no reason to be worried Annlaug, change is something you have to want to do, otherwise it won't be successful. I think you'll find it makes you happier though in the long term!
FOR THOSE WHO ARE STRANGERS TO BUDDHISM ;
IN A NUTSHELL BUDDHISM CAN BE SUMMARISED AS FOLLOWS ;
* the three main basic principles or basic foundations of Buddha Dharma.
1 DEPENDANT ORIGINATION ( cause and effect ----- which includes KARMA ect )
2 THE THREE CHARACTERISTICS OF EXISTENCE. ( anicca, dhukka and anatta )
3 FOUR NOBEL TRUTHS . ( which includes Nobel eight fold path )
Please be clear about the above teachings.
* THEN PRACTICE THE FOLLOWING: ( very important and essential )
1 DO GOOD THINGS.
2 AVOID DOING BAD THINGS.
3 PURIFY THE MIND. ( this is the hardest and most difficult part in Buddhism which involves a lot of practice like meditation etc. ).
If item 3 is difficult , practice items 1 and 2 at least.
To achieve this you need Mindfulness, Effort and common sense.( right and balanced view ).
These are common to all forms of Buddhism but rituals and practices may differ. ( rituals are NOT at all important in BUDDHISM )
When you have a sound , clear knowledge about the above topics , you can practice ANY form of Buddhism or follow ANY religion, yet you will be on the correct BUDDHIST path to achieve peace of mind.
As lord buddha preached , please DO NOT accept any of these blindly .( please use your common sense and analyze before accepting ). LORD BUDHDHA only preached common sense and the true reality of existence.
P S:
NIRVANA IS ONLY A STATE OF MIND. AND NOT ANY OTHER PHYSICAL WORLD OR REALM OF EXISTENCE. .( it is a state of mind you achieve here and now and NOT something you achieve after death )
THANK YOU
with generosity, how do you know or make sure to not give too much of yourself or your resources that will possibly hurt you in the long run? i have had trouble with giving too much of myself to others in the past...
Yes this is a great question Madison, there is no perfect answer. You must learn to be generous with yourself as well as with others, it's a "middle way" between giving everything and being too stingy. If you notice that you're giving too much of yourself, back off for awhile and what's key is, try not to feel bad about it. Generosity should be a two-way street.
Hi Doug. I would like to convert to Buddhism. How did you do it😊?!
Well it’s not really necessary to “convert”, but I have a video on that general topic here: ua-cam.com/video/tK_sTcv0dg0/v-deo.html
It gives us satisfaction when we harm people who harm us.
That's true Kaleab, it's also unfortunate since it only perpetuates the harm.
Before I was born. Every year at Christmas time my parents used to spend roughly the amount of money they spent on us kids to buy stuff for the wishing tree.
Interesting, I don’t know that tradition at all.
Thank you!
You’re very welcome Sam!
Does anybody know if there is a Buddhist version of the bible anywhere online? I’m trying to read it but I don’t want to buy it just yet.
I'm not sure what you mean. If you want to know what the Buddhist equivalent of the Bible is, I have a video on that topic from quite a way back: ua-cam.com/video/dYNWDFOBtQg/v-deo.html
Can you make a podcast
It's been on my mind, we'll see.
I’m a DeadHead here tryna find some happiness so maybe this’ll help
I hope so Olde Althie! 😀
Kindness and Compassion: towards all beings; thus I am going vegan this year.
Can you recommend some books for people new in buddhism?
Yes, I have a couple of videos on that topic. See here for some books that got me started in Buddhism: ua-cam.com/video/u51Yh65TunU/v-deo.html and see here for some books I'd recommend on early Buddhism: ua-cam.com/video/UGNfiyRMkgw/v-deo.html (this is a very early video of mine, so the A/V quality is a little poor!)
@@DougsDharma Thank you, sir. Can you,by any chance, make a video about the similarities between buddhism and stoicism?
Yes indeed Plastic Pinocchio, I have a video on that topic out already! ua-cam.com/video/wJ0iQiNf6ZE/v-deo.html
@@DougsDharma You have me covered sir. Thank you so much.
Thripitaka
First step Control and Rule your:
eat,sleep, and live alone.
Easier said than done! 😄
@@DougsDharma That’s why you need to try
is it okay to use Tarot cards while being Buddhist? most things ive read said its okay as long as you don't use it for profit. i just got a deck,but i would never use it for profit. id mainly just use it for some insight into my subconscious,like i do with pendulums.
Well I'm probably the wrong person to ask since I don't believe in such things, but doing forms of magic aren't a problem in Buddhism unless they're done to harm. The Buddha said monastics shouldn't involve themselves in these kinds of endeavors, but that's because monastics aren't supposed to make a living and aren't supposed to be involving themselves in things that aren't the dharma.
truth seekers seek from all sources - Buddhism teaches the highest levels. Helping others is right livelihood.
I use them on and off but not for fortune telling. I may pull three cards and that is what I need to concentrate and improve on.
@@DougsDharma That's a good answer, Doug...☸️ Thank you.
life make more sense if we see it as a learning period spanning millions of lifetimes - good or bad results from previous and current karma - all our experiences , seemingly good or bad, are to guide us to enligthenment, ending suffering - just lessons of life to be accepted as they come with no likes or dislikes - try to understand what our experiences are trying to teach us in becoming the best compassionate human - form no views
Yes, compassion is so important vimal kirti. Thanks!
Im a Buddhist from Sri Lanka. I kindly request you to seek into theravada buddhism .one of the few monks I know who actually who know what real buddhism is,are meemure dammavansa thero.cuz buddhism not something so simply.its all about understanding that there's nothing called me or myself.
Thanks Sarith. I'm sure if you ask the bhikkhu he will tell you that when the Buddha gave an introductory talk to laypeople about practice he did not discuss anatta. That said, I have many videos on anatta that you can see for example in this playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PL0akoU_OszRjA9n0-U24ZCpfEQVFxeGz2.html
@@DougsDharma oh ya ya .that's correct.one should not first start with the deep side .I just thought to help you'll with what we've goy here.because real buddhism is disappearing here too.and it's so sad to see it
What guided meditation practice would you recommend for beginners (any channel etc)? I used to meditate daily, but now I am out the loop and would like to get back into it, but I need to follow a guide before i can just sit on my own first
I don't listen to guided meditations online so I'm not the one to ask, but people like Sharon Salzberg, Joseph Goldstein, Jack Kornfeld are usually good places to look for that sort of thing. 🙂
@@DougsDharma Thank you for the reply :) I really appreciate it
Where is the actual book? I want to read the “holy book” not read discourse about that book. Where can I find a copy of the Pali canon? For instance, the Bible is easily accessible, the Quaran is easily accessible, the Tora is accessible. Where is the Pali canon?
I will be doing a video on this, but you can find answers in several of my videos, for example this one about finding sources about early Buddhism on the internet: ua-cam.com/video/LtT2v1vQBTk/v-deo.html
Disregard my reply on your other video. You answered my question here. Thanks!