To my first year self: don’t let go of doing the things you love just for academic success. Don’t give up your good habits because you have to study. Take the time to go for a run, play the violin, read a book just for fun. Giving up on those things will not make you a better student.
Im starting university in September at the age of 22 and I really needed to hear this. I have a lot of hobbies that I want to maintain and one of my biggest fears is having to give that up, especially as someone with mental health problems😅
@@UnJadedJade Thank you you your video, can I please ask you a few questions: how long do your written essays have to be? How many can you get given,per week/term/semester? Do you have to wake up extremely early,such as 6am?
My life at uni just means studying. I don't have friends. I have no reason to have nights out. I have no one to go to parties with. All I do is study and spend time with family. High school was way better. I've never heard anyone say that their experience is like this so in case anyone else is experiencing the same thing, here is your sign that you're not the only one. But keep going, it's only a few years out of your hopefully long life. Everything that comes after will definitely be better.
it´s the same for me, but it feels horrible to wait for six years (thats how many years med school in germany is) until life hopefully feels better and easier. idk, i know i`m investing in my future but it feels like i´m wasting my time being unhappy
That's precisely the feeling I'm getting. I'm currently in my final year studying music, a CANNOT WAIT to graduate and get this flipping thing over with! High school was way better for me as well, a seemingly perfect balance between work, friends and family.
The piece of advice I would give to my younger self, would be to not try so hard to be like everyone else and to focus on you :) you feel more empowered and successful just doing what you feel is right and makes you happy rather than seeking it from other people
The timing of this video is just perfect. I started uni in fall 2019 and had pretty specific expectations due to how it's depicted in mass media and society. I'm a rather introverted person, which added to the pressure of acting a certain way and be different from the "true me" in order to fit in. I was honestly quite relieved when everything shut down due to covid a few months later. Last week, after over two years of only online classes, my uni went back to in person teaching, which meant I finally had to leave my comfort zone again. At first I was excited, but to be honest, it's not going too well so far. All friends I made in first year except for one have now changed subjects or unis or completely dropped out. Yesterday, after an exhausting week of trying to fight my fears, meet new people and adapt to "normal" uni life again, I just...broke down on the train home. I couldn't stop crying, I couldn't even really breathe because of how insecure and lonely and overall lost I felt and because I knew I still would have to go back on Monday. I was so frustrated and angry with myself for being so different to "everybody else", who all seem to have their lives together, have huge groups of friends and somehow don't struggle at all. Thank you so much for acknowledging that it's okay if uni is not one of the best, but actually one of the hardest parts of your life. Too few people talk about this! Just keep going, and I guess there's a pretty high chance that things will get better eventually - or at least you'll come out of it all stronger. To anyone feeling overwhelmed: you're not alone. ❤
I feel you. Especialy the friend thing was hard. I also started uni în 2019 and went the pandemic came we al had to go home. I already had spent a year home because I strugled alot with my mental health and what I wanted to do. For most of that Time I became pretty lonely as All the people I knew left Town. I almost lost all my friends during that Time. So I was really excited to go to uni, a breath of fresh air, în the begining. Im also introverted and makeing friends dont come natural or eazy, it was harder then I thought it would be honestly. But I tried to push myself spenak to as many people as posibile. When I had to go home it was hard în my mental health, being again alone în my old room. I trind so much to change myself And situation and somehow I eded up where I started. All the friendships I was beinging to make were lost for the most part. Since then we came back to uni I feel Im surounded by acquaintances and stragers But no friends. Everyone esle seemd to adapt reayl well and have big groups of friends. I feel so lony and out of place în this city. I honestly dont know what to do Sorry for the rant but it did made me feel a little bit better wrting about it. I dont have anyone în real life that Im condortabpe talking about it
I resonate with your experience so much. I started university in 2020 and had one semester in person - I initially had a great time, I got into a relationship and was having so much fun - university seemed to be everything I had dreamed of. Then lockdown happened and semester two was completely online - I also went through a break up during that time. I struggled so much with loneliness and fear of covid. When the lockdown ended, I wasn't relieved - instead, I found that my social anxiety was worse and I was so scared of covid that I didn't really leave the house, even when there were no restrictions. University is in-person again this year and it was really hard to push myself to go out again, especially since after my breakup I actually had no friends at university. I had all these expectations/dreams that I would make new friends and have this "perfect" uni life - but I'm halfway through the semester and I am still struggling with intense anxiety and loneliness - I haven't found "my people" and I'm constantly stressed with the workload. University can be a very anonymous and unforgiving place and it really hasn't fulfilled the narrative that the media puts out. Thank you for sharing your experience and it's nice to know that we aren't alone in this.
Wow, it means so much that so many of you can relate. It's very reassuring to know that my feelings are not so uncommon after all. Thank you all for sharing, I'm sure we can do it!
@@andreeab2948 I relate so much to this : for the first time I forced myself to speak to a lot of people but it didn't really work cause I wasn't myself, it wasn't a genuine spontaneous desire to connect, I was just doing this to be able to say I have friends cause that's what "normal" and what psychologists say matters a lot in happiness. I just wasn't myself and I hated it. I'm pretty sure people noticed it and that's why I made almost no friends and the ones I made were kinda incompatible with me so I dodged them. I was constantly introspecting myself, judging myself before, during and after interactions. For a few weeks/months now I have cared and tried to care less and less to control how I behave, to be myself, not force myself to talk to some people or say some things, like I stopped asking everybody what hobbies they had etc. I was afraid I would have nothing to say, like blank. But it's not true. When I let myself be free, say what comes to my mind, have no expectations and don't judge myself, I do have things to say, I spend a good time and I think the people I interact with spend a good time too. I think those are some of the keys : not forcing yourself to do anything and not judging yourself for being a certain way or saying certain things, and being confident that if you don't try to control how you act things will turn out great. Maybe also realize that things aren't as serious as we think they are. Since I'm in this mindset I made what I consider to be a true friend, I spontaneously talk to more people and I'm happier. Anyway that's it for me :)
I think its important not to define or expect a single time in your life to be the “happiest.” Your life will have ups and downs and thats okay. I particularly think we as younger people need to remember that age doesnt subtract from happiness- there is no timeline on being happy or finding “the best time”
my advice is don't rush anything. when i was in high school i was constantly thinking about how my life is gonna be great when i start uni (and in a lot of ways it is), but as soon as i started uni, literally 2 weeks in, i was like what's next? stop rushing to the next thing and enjoy where you are now. and even if it's hard, it's the greatest period of growth trust me and it will get better :)) i feel like this comment is all over the place sorry lmao
I’ve never related to something more in my life!!! We went to college thinking it was going to be the best years of our lives but having a realistic expectation of the experience and truly understanding the fact that you’re going to evolve and grow as a person helps you navigate life during this time. Ugh I wish I had this video 4 years ago so helpful Jade 💜
I would tell myself to prioritise having a social life. I used to put so much effort into academics but would get burnt out and end up with bad mental health so quickly (which then caused bad grades) because I didn't have the social life to balance things out. it's good to have fun with friends and connect with people, it really turns the experience around.
my issue is I would go to an extreme to the other, like only studying one semester and only drinking in bars the other one because "what's the point of trying if I don't have good grades?" so yeah, balance is key (hopefully it works out better for any new student in the comments)
I'd say to myself that even though many people around me are doing things last minute and pulling all nighters, drinking caffeine or not eating well - that should not be the norm of what a "student" is. You should keep exploring yourself and how you work best, and honour that. Manage your time well and take care of yourself, study smarter, not longer.
I always felt like others knew how to study through time while I was doing all nighters (didn't work out well for me in the long term), need help with management
My advice to my younger self before going to college would be to care less about how you will be perceived by others and put more thought into what will make you happiest. There are so many sources of external pressure, like pleasing parents and impressing peers, that have shaped so many of the decisions I've made in college. But I wish they hadn't. As hard as it can be to tune out that noise, it is so necessary for learning what will make you truly happy. Lean into being uncomfortable and take the time to learn who you are without the opinions of others swaying your perception of yourself.
Advice to my younger self would be that joining societies is great, but to properly make friends you also need to build on those relationships outside of the pre-organised activities. That does make it an extra time commitment thing and balancing all that can be hard (I am a serial over-committer) but I've learnt that for me friends are more important than academic or extra-curricular commitments.
to my younger self: uni is not a competition that you need to rush until you win it. it’s always about the process. and please don’t get stuck into this nerdy stereotype! xoxo
Im so stressed, i took a few months off since my mental health was drowning...my friends are gonna graduate this may but I will be graduating in November. I'm a private candidate and have lost my friends since I don't go to school anymore. I often feel like I'm far behind in my life although it's just a gap of few months. Idk what to do I'm sorry for the rant, felt the need to get this out my head
@@thewaffle2570 don’t worry, bro! it’s really nice that you took these gap months to invest in yourself, it’s something I’ve often thought about doing as well though. College has taught me that each experience is unique. For example, during college years, our classmates majors often diverge in so many ways. And after college each of us will pick a different path. And still, we have time for new choices. Good luck in your journey!
Jade, this content is outstanding, empowering and impactful. It's the honesty and truth society needs to hear more about. If I was to give myself advice to a younger version of myself, it would be to not bend to peer pressure. The depiction of what is a typical university student needs to change as so many people are made to feel uncomfortable just for not fitting into that bracket. Thank you for being so open 💙
This video touched me so deeply and showed up just as I needed it. I'm in my second year studying as a Bulgarian student in the Netherlands during Covid. Spent my first year at home online, came to the Netherlands for the second year and couldn't find accommodation and I feel like I am just now - a year and a half in - trying to get used to the new country. It's just a lot sometimes but I'm grateful for everything that has happened to me because it taught me and keeps teaching me so much. My piece of advice to myself 2 years ago would be: "Take it one day at a time and try to not think about the future too much. Yes, we have to make plans and make sure that we are on the right track but this can backfire as it brings way too much stress sometimes. Enjoy every day because all of them are different and you will never get to be right here right now again and try to live for the moment a little more."
The piece of advice I would give to my younger self would be “no rush, you don’t need to prove anything to the people around you. Prioritize your mental health ❤️”
I would tell my younger self to never seek friendships or romantic relationships out of loneliness. Seems obvious but uni is such a lonely place when you start and know anyone that it took me two years to realise i had surrounded myself with people that didn't appreciate me, just because i felt terribly alone. Don't be scared of solitude and embrace it, there you'll find your way to truthful people. I am an introvert so that's specially hard but, sometimes it just takes a kind word and a little bit of determination to make new friends (: also Don't EVER compare your grades with anyone else's (even your high school self). And good luck
What I wish I knew before university: pick a school in a place/city you want to live in and that has programs that you are interested in studying. It sounds obvious but I just followed the crowd of where most people were going instead of looking into schools in different parts of the country that may have been smaller/less well known. Also, it's okay if you don't know exactly what you want to do, choose something to study that interests you and go for it, even if you don't know exactly where it will take you. Just keep following the things that light you up!
My advice to my younger self is to pick a path based on what is true to you and will make you happy instead of picking a path/university that looks impressive to other people.
What would you advise if I like many fields of study? I really am afraid of being stuck in one job and I can’t switch to another one. I’m in my 3rd year of uni
I would love love love to hear you talk about how to draw healthy boundaries with your classmates. Unfortunately, my studying environment isn't very friendly and my classmates are competitive. However, whenever I help someone I find them demanding too much from me, and I often struggle to know when should I help and when should I not. Being in that environment makes me feel like I can't be myself comfortably and it's suffocating.
From a young muslim gurl, moving from a country in Africa to Europe for study at the age of 17, id tell myself im so proud of you and I don’t know how you did it and why you did it, and the the fact that’s you’re still going in this journey it’s shows how strong you’re, and i know you can handle whatever will come your way, it’s been a whole different journey that’s you weren’t aware of its challenges but if i had the opportunity I’ll do it over again cuz it’s shaped a whole different personality of mine, and im so grateful for all the people I’ve meet who’ve impacted my life tremendously
Learning to be kind to yourself, and recognising that everyone’s uni experience will inevitably be different to yours. There is no right or wrong way to be a student, follow what makes you happy and most at home in your environment. It’s for such a short time, and to punish yourself for not having a conventional or stereotypical uni experience is such a waste of precious time.
I’d tell first year me… Focus on yourself first and don’t waste your time chasing after people because at the end of the day everyone has their best interest in mind and so should you. That doesn’t mean you can’t be there for others but rather don’t over extend yourself and make sure you’re meeting your needs first. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
I am graduating this june and my younger self could have really used this video. My advice would be that, since this is a very complex moment in our lives with identity crises, investing into our careers, creating -hopefully- life long friendships, it is very much so okay that sometimes one of these may take a backseat. Sometimes you may focus more on academics, sometimes into your own development journey or whatever. It will all fall into place. When we micro analyse our life in tiny fragments, it may seem more unbalanced than it actually is. Love this channel and the community you created Jade💛
I'm extremely grateful that you made this video!I've moved to another city to start uni effectively in September 2021 because covid messed up my plans for my first year.Besides everything, I've always had to fight a huge peer pressure and the fear that if I didn't fullfil the classic uni student stereotype, then there was something I was missing out.Getting used to live in a city, doing everything alone, learning how to live with strangers and meeting new people has been exhausting, but nobody ever talked about this.I made a couple of "friends" , but for various reasons I don't see them as much as I expected, I just feel that we are not on the same wavelength anymore and it feels lonely sometimes.Thank you for sharing your experience and harsh times at uni!Many students went/are going through the same situations and it's a huge relief to know that you're not the only one struggling.
Jade🥺 I’ve grown up watching your videos and have always been on a similar timeline to you (gap year, starting uni, etc…) and this video couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I’m struggling SO hard with uni right now. - changing my major to something “easier” and feeling like I’ve failed - feeling like I wasted time taking two gap years, and like I’m behind all my 18 year old peers - going from a small school in a tiny town to a massive university, and coming to terms with no longer being top of my class - not having found “my people” at all Literally just everything you talked about in this video. I always romanticise other people’s uni experience (even seeing yours on social media), so hearing this from you is such a comfort❤️
Thank you so much I'm in my first year at uni and this was exactly what I needed! I was feeling lonely, not feeling like I belonged, struggling with academics and this was just reassuring to watch knowing that I'm not alone :)
Thank you so much for this video. Hearing you talk about it and reading the comments gave me some peace. I’m struggling with the same things (doing my full bachelor abroad) and it’s been lonely and very hard. Only in my first year so praying things will get better soon, although it’s gotten considerably better already
Im in my first year now and I relate to everything u said. Its different when someone can put your struggles into words. You should definitely start a podcast. This was genuinely such a helpful video. I always think of how I have so many "friends" or acquaintances but no real close friends that see me for me. Hopefully next year will get better.
This is an incredibly honest video and I think that many uni students will relate. Thank you for letting us know that we aren’t alone in these complex emotions and times in our lives Lots of love from Canada💚
Jade, words can’t express how how grateful I am for this video and how much I can relate to everything you said, so thank you, from the bottom of my heart. 💙💙 I’ve almost finished first year at university and I can say that it definitely hasn’t been the best year of my life, in fact it’s been one of the unhappiest years I’ve had. I’m extremely introverted at university and don’t fit into any of the expectations at all like going clubbing, drinking, being confident and meeting soo many people. I’ve also felt the loneliest I’ve ever felt and found it really difficult to make friends and moving away from home for the first time. I’ve been really unlucky with my flat mates this year so that hasn’t been great but I’m holding onto a bit of hope that next year will be better!! Although I am starting to enjoy it more, it’s only enough for me to keep persevering and I by no means love it. X
Hi Rosie, I can very much relate to some of your struggles.. you're not in this alone! What I realised during this year - that there has been always a loving family behind with which you can do check-ins as much as you need (I hope it is the same for you), just as good old friends. Also, what I can recommend is 1) sticking to daily casual magic just like Jade 2) enjoy your personal space as much as possible with the activities you love 3) try to grow as a person by watching similar "shared terapy" videos or videos of life philosophies or of other people who live a solo life - that might help empower you and feel again you're not there alone!
@@matyashansel438 hey, thank you very much for the lovely reply. I’m so glad there are a lot of other people who have felt the same way as me. I will try some of those things especially looking for daily casual magic x
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear that. I started university during the pandemic, moved away, no friends, classes just online, no really possibility to connect with new people. I have been so hard on myself why I don't enjoy it, why nothing is how I imagined it. What you said kind of kicked home. I just started crying bc I was the only person dealing with this in my old friend group and that made it even worse. Hearing that words from someone else is somehow very relieving. We're all going thorough it. Stay strong!
So yeah uni hasn't quite gone the way I expected it go, it has been more demanding and more stressful than expected but I have also learned things. Some things I've learned are: Getting things done and learning is more important than grades, you don't need to party all the time and that stressing about things is not going to change the outcome. Uni is something that I have very much enjoyed but if I was able to do it again I would probably do a lot of things differently but then I can't do that because some of those things were learnt by doing a degree and everything thing that comes with it. Thank you for making this video, I do like reflection stuff and I need to do some of that myself. :-)
As weird as it sounds, my piece of advice would be that you can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. Seek those people who you find the deepest connections with, realise they are few and have fun with them
I relate so much to the different parts of the video. It's a relief to know I'm not the only one to feel and live what you depicted (+ the comments too)! I think everyone knows and experiences what you described (loneliness, expectations about partying, finding your people, academics, etc.) but just never speaks out loud about it: it's almost like it's a taboo in some ways. Thank you Jade for making us (uni students) heard and seen :) Wishing you the best for the end of your semester
Dear Jade, Thank you for always being so honest and transparent about how you feel, and the things going on in the background of your life. As 17 year old, I always watch videos like these to get a sneak peek into what the next chapter of my life could entail and I always have many hypothesises as to what it is like being a University student. Though I am not a university student, many of the ideas throughout you videos resonated with me, particularly the idea of having friends and selecting those who really are the people that you choose to FaceTime etc
such a great video 😩 so relatable in so many aspects! uni definitely isn't the ideal picture-perfect haven most people say it is and so trying to manage those expectations together with the workload is so difficult. but i think knowing that almost all uni students go through this at some point of their university journey somewhat makes this whole process feel less lonelier :) but a piece of advice i would definitely give to my younger self/those who have yet to step foot into uni is to just not have any expectations and be open to trying out things and finding out who you are. i think getting into uni just right out of high school can be daunting, but i think that's where uni sort of comes as a blessing in disguise. i also think, especially when choosing a degree/course, to always do research, and if possible, seek advice from seniors so that navigating through uni will be less confusing and frustrating. yup! this video spoke to me on so many levels omg, thank you for sharing your pov!
I would tell my younger self that it's okay if you don't have the stereotypical college experience. That there is nothing wrong with you and it may look like the people around you are living their best lives (sometimes), but there is so much pressure to look or be perceived a certain way in college. Of course nobody wants to look like the "lonely person with no friends" and to be honest, that was kind of me my whole time at Uni. I graduate this year and can say those "friends" I had are no longer in my life. It's hard because I guess I wanted to find my people and make those lifelong, lasting genuine friendships, and I didn't. But it's okay. I'll be okay. There is much more to life honestly (not saying that a sense of belongingness isn't important and that you shouldn't want that - it's only natural we do). But the best thing we can do is cultivate that relationship with ourselves because that seriously impacts our connections with others. Also, I wish I had spent way more time focusing on building the life I desired (my goals, aspirations, dreams) instead of obsessing about my social life. I'm still choosing to be proud of myself, to love myself unconditionally. I can't go back in time and change things, but I can move forward with these lessons. All of this stuff shaped me into who I am today. For that I will be greatful for eternally.
What I wish I new is that learning about yourself requires a lot of unlearning and it uncomfortable and scary but so so so rewarding as well. It is okay to start over and retry as much as you need to. 🌻
Thank you....i really appreciate this as i need it the most at this time ❤❤❤❤ i relate to lot of things you say jade.. yah we should stop sterotyping univ
Thank you so much!! I just started University in February (I’m in Australia btw) and thought I was the only one who felt like this. Thank you for this video
jade you are so much down to earth person. I mean you truly explained how it's like to live abroad without your parents and do your home chores by yourself and you are so grateful for everything related to your family and friends. I really appreciate your all efforts. more power to you.
it feels so good to hear you talk so realistically about all the expectation for uni life that people have (and I definitely had as well) an that you will never experience all those things at once or at all. Its so important to just find yourself and your own way to live during university
I’m an American student graduating this semester, and most of my time at uni has been during the pandemic. I feel like I’ve missed out on so many in-person opportunities and connections, and my college experience feels almost “incomplete.” But I’ve realized that I’m not alone in these feelings, and it’s okay to have a non-traditional experience. I survived a literal pandemic, and that itself deserves to be celebrated! Uni and my early 20s are only a few years of my life - I have so so much life to live AFTER graduation that I’m excited for. I would tell my younger self to release constricting expectations, stop comparing my journey to others’, and focus on cultivating my own growth.
I'm a first-year college student. I wish I focused more on finding my people and having deep and powerful conversations with those individuals. I spent a hefty part of my first semester feeling incredibly lonely. Likely because I was just having a bunch of surface-level conversations instead of getting to know people.
The advice I would give my younger self before going to university is: Be more patient and easy on yourself and don’t rush anything and trust the process and follow your heart’s desire no matter what anyone else tell you!👍🏻
Great video, thank you Jade! The best part imo is from 14:45 :) my advice for my before-uni self would be… 1. Don’t worry because you’ll make great friends. 2. Speak up in class because you’ll learn and experience so much more if you do!!
I only started uni last September but have changed so much since then. I find myself regretting having my walls up and not connecting more with my current friends, family and new people. Now I am more confident and have a better sense of who I am. But now I have no one to call when things get hard and no-one to enjoy experiences with. I'm just trusting that I will find these connections without forcing superficial ones. However embarrassed or burdensome you feel of who you, connect speak up, if you are rejected it is better to have tried.
A very important video Jade! I found the lack of routine and support very difficult at uni! Don’t get me wrong, I am so glad I went and it changed me for the better, however the people I chose to live with didn’t turn out to be very nice so I never really felt at home there! Couldn’t wait to get home to my real friends!
don't worry too much about coming out a whole/complete/flawless new version of yourself. three-four years is short, u'll learn so much & grow in so many ways, but there's still so much to do/learn/see/be afterwards.
I so needed this video :) I am having my very last exam for my online masters in September. Have been navigating the master while having a full time job and it has been really a lot. Now since I am almost done, I feel exhausted. I also feel like the imposter feeling does not just go away, even if you have a bachelors degree done years ago and been working for years. Since about a year or so I have been feeling like I am missing out on so many other things in life while simultanously feeling guilty for feeling this way. So thank you for this video. It "normalizes" that, yes, it is a hard time navigating studying and everything that comes with it. But once we acknowledge and simply accept this fact, it feels a bit easier to handle.
100% agree with all those expectations you mentioned, Jade. I dropped out of first-year maths a month ago and do not regret it in the slightest. Sure, it might’ve set me back compared to all my friends who are at uni, gaining a degree they want, but I hated my course and struggled far too much with the content that all my effort just didn’t seem worth it. I was working crazy hours to keep up with all the work being set and to spend 6 months and end up not enjoying or understanding anything was really tough. There was very little support for the 10/250 of us who didn’t take further maths A-level despite the uni saying they would provide it. It was clear it makes such a difference to people’s learning, when all the teachers I’ve encountered said it doesn’t. I come from a working-class background and was astonished at the amount of middle/upper-class students at my uni. I was used to most people at home being from a similar background to me but at uni, it was vastly different. I felt extremely judged, and some of my flatmates thought I was odd as I worked so much and struggled severely with speaking in groups. I’m an introvert, and didn’t go clubbing once as I don’t drink, nor did I want to. I missed my friends from home who I had things in common with and everyone formed their friendship groups and sorted out houses so quickly that I just felt so alone. I’m very glad I took the step to drop out because I never cried as frequently as I did at uni. Since being home, I’ve applied for jobs and feel much more optimistic about my future. To anyone reading or relating to anything Jade has said in this video, please ignore the stigma surrounding dropping out of uni. If it’s what’s best for you mentally, do it. My mental health has improved dramatically since getting out of that environment. Here’s a truly wonderful quote that encapsulates how I feel about my situation: “Your future hasn't been written yet, no one's has. Your future is whatever you make it, so make it a good one.”
I am currently in my second semester, but it is actually my 4th if I count the two corona semesters in my former degree. I quitted because of a number of reasons. Not only that, but I've been hesitating for a long time to quit because of that I had/ I wanted to find something new really fast. And I would tell my younger self (3 years ago. Because back than the whole misery started) to listen more to what you want and fu..k the opinion of others or what others expect you to do. And for f..k sake inform yourself what you are applying for. Try as much as possible. New Sports, traveling, internships in business that you are interested in. And finally. Believe in yourself. Have trust in you and your skills. And don't doubt your whole existence if something gets in your way. And that's what I would tell everybody who will be going to uni soon. Believe in yourself and try as much as possible. You won't have such easy access to a variety of things after you graduated.
Absolutely agree with the title :D My best years started after I graduated formal education and found the job I love) I tried 5 jobs while I was studying, and found the loved one on my 6th try)
The part about the homesickness and not fitting in right away is so real. I hated university my first semester and i really didn't find my friends or develop real relationships with the people I already knew until 1.5 years in. And that was with trying, really really hard. I went to so many new club meetings and would try to talk to new people everywhere, but I always felt like i wasn't in the right place or with the right people. I never understood how some people made friends so quickly in the first few weeks and i spent so many nights just by myself in my dorm room watching youtube and wishing i was at home with my parents. At my uni, people would also go home a lot on the weekends so the campus would be desolate and soo lonely on saturdays and sundays even though i was in a major city. And yes, i didn't know how to take the metro right away either haha. But my last year of uni was truly one of the best of my life until covid hit. I had friends and would go out and do things all the time with people i loved spending time with. It just took a really long time and a lot of personal growth to get there. So if you're in that situation now, don't give up! I wanted to transfer uni so bad in the beginning, but im really glad i stayed, changed my major, and learned a lot about the world!
It's okay to be yourself! Honestly, cliche and simple, but I spent my undergrad not connecting to my cohort. But things changed once I started graduate school. Our classes were much smaller and we realized we had to rely on each other for support and to just get through the tough times. Those are the people I stayed up working and laughing and also learning the most from. Nothing beats having such a cohort that we can bond together over shared experiences.
It's so strestressful. I regret procrastinating so much. But overall the pressure is there. I hope we can better have a work/life balance in education because even starting in middle school/high school. Attend classes all day then have a lot of homework, extracurriculars then do homework on the weekend but want to have a social life too. It can become too overwhelming. Love you Jade! I hope you can have a good rest of your school life and after
Advice: be kind to yourself during the experience, and university should not become your identity even though it is your way to prove to yourself you are capable of becoming anything you want
university is the best time of your life in the same way 'school is the best time of your life ' - only for sociable, outgoing people who make friends easily and everyone likes. if your an introverted anti social, anxious shy weirdo like me, its the worst time of your life and the time where you will feel worse about yourself and unlikeable and insecure. The only part I like is the learning, the people are awful.
university was not the best time of my life. i was pretty lonely, stressed, depressed and came out of uni with -7€ in my bank account. i'm also an introvert so partying was not me either. i mostly did uni work and that was it. it was nice to learn something new and make a few new friends and meet interesting people. but still.... i've been out of uni for 3 years now and life has gotten better and better. so if you're in university and don't feel like you're living your best life, that's normal and life can definitely get better 😌
I am so happy you posted this. I am in my first year of uni in france coming from california and it has been so much harder than expected and in ways i never would have thought of. definitely felt the cultural differences making it harder to find deep connections. but i am growing and learning a lot!! THANK YOU JADE
I fully relate to this. Uni was not an environment that I thrived in. I made pretty much no actual friends and had so many moments of almost dropping out. I got through it and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve now just accepted a position at a fantastic company which allows me to relocate to my dream city. Life is crazy and it’s all falling into place so well even though I had no idea what I wanted to do when I finished my degree. Even though uni was some of the most challenging years of my life I don’t regret it and now the benefits of getting through it are paying off.
To my first year self: Find your people as you said in the video, because as freshments in uni, we do not realize what a great impact it has in our whole university experience and learn to give yourself a break from the heavy workload of essas and presentations.
Anyone thinking of getting into uni plz do your research. Get in touch with people with the uni u are interested in...to get to know the space and the course u are getting into. The university you choose should be a place where its the extension of your 'heart'. Does the education system they teach fulfill you...help you learn as an individual? The students and people there do they inspire you to be a better person? I feel we take university for granted...that its just a paper we end up receiving that will help as get a job and begin our career. But uni should be a space that gives you the freedom to discover yourself through your studies. You can do incredible things and create such an impact from the beginning of uni! I'd say choose to study sth you are truly passionate about...however difficult it is because if you are determined you'll be successful in your own personal way. Don't make the mistake of choosing sth just to find a job. Uni should be chosen in the sense of exploration and extension of self. Or else if you are a healthy human you can do any job...seriously. Whoever reaches this end I hope the best for you and I know you are doing great. I believe in you! Look at this...I managed to ramble a snowball of thoughts! Take care!
I needed this right now, the choices i have had to make as a future university student have gotten me to question my whole existence... Take care of yourself too!!
@@amelia4570 I think this is a valid question. Based on my own experiences and thoughts, of course it is easier if you know someone who is in the uni studying or has graduated, where you can get in touch with and give you an idea what it is like studing at the uni you are interested in. Other than that, since we are living in the age of social media, there are many universities that upload stories on Instagram and you can also get a feeling of the people there, the work they do (also by checking the uni's website). Also, attending Open Days, is a great opportunity to talk to teachers and students and ask them as many questions as possible for you to get an understanding of where you will be studying, the courses, facilities etc. Also, if you can find the emails of teachers or current uni students, you can email them and also ask them about what is the experience of studying at the X uni, the excitement, uniqueness (of uni) and the challenges. The thing you need to understand though is that however much information you gather about the uni you are interested in (and the reseatch is important!), by the end of the day a choice will be made and a risk will need to be taken. But I find that joy and challenge are hidden within that risk. The only way forward then is to have faith in yourself and to a higher power. - "everything is going to be alright"! - Bob Marley. (this human keeps me grounded and hopeful!) I hope all the best for your future and I wish you follow the path that makes you the most happy, peaceful and the one that is according to your own personal values and beliefs. Take care!
The biggest piece of advice I wish I had been told and reminded of in my final years at high school is that you DO NOT have to go to university straight after high school and that though it can be difficult to feel like you fit in to the university culture later in life, you will likely get far more out of your studies by putting university on hold for even a couple of years, try new things, get a job, understand what subjects truly move you and then begin your university journey. I left high school at 16 with zero expectations of going to university, I thought it was purely for academic types. Im now 24 in 3rd year and studying Animation, VFX, digital design all this fun stuff. Long story short, university can wait and it also isnt everything. learning is lifelong, it doesnt stop at 18.
Thank you for your brutal honesty and complete vulnerability with us. I’m trying university again for the second time soon and this was exactly what I needed to hear.
I admire your courage to share your less good experiences as well! It really helps put things in perspective I'm a bit of an idealist and I tend to romanticise the idea of going to uni, and it's really important for me to hear this less polished version of (uni)life before going there Really appreciate it! I hope you're doing well yourself :)
This is a really important video and I felt every word you said... I'm struggling with these things right now and I know how much it can be hard. I don't know what advice I would give to my younger self because I started university just the last year and I'm still trying to find my way to be happy facing it, but probably now I would have told her this: "You will fight with a lot of hard stuff making this choice having high expectations, so try your best to find your peace and sense in this word before starting this chapter: university will not give you this, you must feel good about yourself not just with your ideal future cause there isn't a real finish line. Don't search it in uni, life hasn't real one final goal, there is not a sence. Don't try always to find it, just... Live it". The hard part is learning to love living without a really existing sence... I'm still trying, hoping one day it will get better. For now, wish everyone who's struggling with similar situations the best. PS: sorry for my bad english, I'm italian
My advice to my younger self would be life uni is what you make of it. Don't be afraid to initiate things & enjoy the journey. Oh and find time to have fun, you will figure out the academics eventually :)
I actually really enjoyed going to college even though it turned out to be so hard for me academically and personally. So glad you made this video Jade. Initially I stumbled through trying my hardest to make friends, and eventually letting go of the fact that all of my previous friendships were just slipping away because, all we had in common was the fact that we saw each other 5 days a week. Honestly that period was so hard for me. I was depressed, lonely, and just too exhausted to go to the effort to make friends again. But I have to say, the best thing I did for myself back then was acknowledging the fact that the friendships I had been so emotionally invested in for most of my life just weren't worth it anymore. I am currently doing my postgraduation and there is just so much stress what with the added urgency of finding a job and whatnot. I truly love studying but hate the pressure. I have stopped trying now but I wish knew how to find a community that matters to me. It isn't that easy to find people who are willing to talk.
I wish I'd really appreciated how you have to put so much effort into making friendships. I've learnt that loneliness is something you have to work really hard to change and make better. Academics can be really isolating but having people around you makes everything so much better. Xx
I'm graduating highschool in literally 2 months or so and I always though that uni/college is full of fun,partying,happiness etc but I was so wrong..tysm Jade for this vid💜💖
this is probably my favorite video of yours, you're saying exactly whats on my heart. i'm struggling so much with uni, finding my people and feeling like i've "arrived" because i have this idea of what uni should be and i know that other people are living up to it, not me tho
This video came in perfect time. I've just started university and I'm struggling a lot. It's only been a month since I've started, and I've already rethought every aspect of my life like a million times. I honestly have no idea what I'm doing and I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one that feels this way. If I could talk to my younger self I would tell her "Take it easy, don't take it so seriously, it is going to be hard, but it's not the end of the world, you can change your mind, you can cry, and that's ok. You're not going to love it all, actually, you're going to hate most of it, especially at the beginning." Thank you Jade for this video❤️ Ps: I'm from Argentina and I can assure you're going to love it here! Whish you all the best.
As an adult with her first nursing degree in her 20s and now doing my second degree in astrophysics while working as a nurse at 40 years old, uni is hard but it is the best time of our life :)
thank you ❤️ i see that so many people can relate to this as well! for me, being at uni has become very overwhelming. It was hard before covid, but since then my anxiety has been through the roof. i have been hanging by a thread for two years now and learning the hard way that no one at uni gives a s* about you has been quite an experience, let’s put it that way. guys, take care about yourself and hang in there!!
Thank you so much. I am still figuring out who my people are, who am I, trying to get used to cultural differences, and specially having good grades, all while trying to maintain good mental health. It is hard, and we deserve to acknowledge it more often.
Thank you so much for discussing all of these aspects with us - it's the most insightful and objective video on university life I've seen - I can relate to all of these aspects as well! I wish I could discuss all of these aspects with my friends more often., and perhaps I will! It's honest, grounding, and reassuring.
Thank you for this honest video. Studying on university can be really exhausting and full of stress sometimes. And we usually don't talk much about what impact it can have on us. This video sums it up. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone :)
Hey Jade, here's a message for u: ✨ I recently read ur book and let me tell u- Thank you so much! For having written this book, and publishing it. For giving me the advice, motivation and guidance I needed. I'm not a fan of self-help books, but I've always loved ur videos so I decided to give this book a go. Right from the first page, I knew my decision had been right. 😄 The way u have written the book, it's like u are talking to a friend, and I could imagine u speaking those words to me! The book felt like a warm hug and a reassurance that I can succeed at my studies. And those chapters on fear of failure, dealing with results, mental health...I read these chapters at a time when I really needed it. "You will succeed, you will be loved and you will have a future, a good one." I can't emphasize how much those words meant to me, Jade. Thank you SO MUCH for this! ❤ Lots of love, ~♡ PS: I started using blurting while revising for my upcoming exams, and active recall makes ALL the difference! 🙌
This resonated with me on such a level I can't even describe! Thank you! And to whoever is reading this, my advice before you may start Uni: Don't feel rushed by anyone or society that you have to start Uni at a certain point. I wish I hadn't started Uni when I did and now I am just pushing myself towards the end and I wish I had taken time before Uni to get more experience and learn about myself. You don't need to know what you want to be for the rest of your life at the age of 18-25.
God this video is so timely to my situation it's actually scary hahahaha Literally just failed a major subject of mine and now I have to graduate a year late and watching this video is seriously so comforting omgg thanks Jade for the realness 😩✊
This video was so relatable, as a third year student I couldn't agree more! 🥰 So brilliant that more people are keeping it real rather than sugercoating what I means to be a young adult.
I could honestly publish a novel on everything I wish I knew before uni but I think the main thing is not to get too swept along with/influenced by how your peers are choosing to live life or even comparing yourselves to them. It's so important to do meditation etc or really practise standing your ground and keeping in touch with yourself. What works for someone else or brings them happiness might not for you. Life is to be lived YOUR way, in your own style. 💕
I loved the video! Hit close to home. Advice to my younger self: Accept that whatever expectations you have, they are likely to be wrong. “Reality can never match our expectations, because it’s easy to imagine perfection, and very difficult to achieve it.” I had so many false expectations about university. I was so excited at the prospect at being able to pick what I was going to learn in an academic setting for the first time in my life. I was so curious about the subject matter and I expected everyone else to feel the same. I imagined me and my future peers sitting together and having discussions about psychology. I was so wrong. A lot of my peers were just in the degree because they didn't get it to another degree. There is almost an unspoken rule that you don't talk about anything related to psychology outside of university. So I am in a degree I am curious about but surrounded by people who in my opinion treat it like secondary school (there's nothing wrong with that it's just not what I expected).
This video has uncanny timing. Thank you. A few months ago, I started uni and knew I wasn’t passionate about what I’d be studying but thought I’d give it a go with the hope it might help me know what I am truly interested in. Six weeks in, I was in the uni library and broke down, wondering whether all the decisions I’d made were the right ones. It’s tempting to drop out and have a gap semester/year but I have a real fear of the unknown. Quitting is not a regular act of mine but I have a gut feeling that it’s what I need to do.
To my first year self: don’t let go of doing the things you love just for academic success. Don’t give up your good habits because you have to study. Take the time to go for a run, play the violin, read a book just for fun. Giving up on those things will not make you a better student.
oof, this. 👏👏
Im starting university in September at the age of 22 and I really needed to hear this. I have a lot of hobbies that I want to maintain and one of my biggest fears is having to give that up, especially as someone with mental health problems😅
Amen
Does anyone know any universities that do food safety and hygiene courses?
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Thank you you your video, can I please ask you a few questions:
how long do your written essays have to be?
How many can you get given,per week/term/semester?
Do you have to wake up extremely early,such as 6am?
My life at uni just means studying. I don't have friends. I have no reason to have nights out. I have no one to go to parties with. All I do is study and spend time with family. High school was way better. I've never heard anyone say that their experience is like this so in case anyone else is experiencing the same thing, here is your sign that you're not the only one. But keep going, it's only a few years out of your hopefully long life. Everything that comes after will definitely be better.
it´s the same for me, but it feels horrible to wait for six years (thats how many years med school in germany is) until life hopefully feels better and easier. idk, i know i`m investing in my future but it feels like i´m wasting my time being unhappy
That's precisely the feeling I'm getting. I'm currently in my final year studying music, a CANNOT WAIT to graduate and get this flipping thing over with! High school was way better for me as well, a seemingly perfect balance between work, friends and family.
The piece of advice I would give to my younger self, would be to not try so hard to be like everyone else and to focus on you :) you feel more empowered and successful just doing what you feel is right and makes you happy rather than seeking it from other people
this.
The timing of this video is just perfect. I started uni in fall 2019 and had pretty specific expectations due to how it's depicted in mass media and society. I'm a rather introverted person, which added to the pressure of acting a certain way and be different from the "true me" in order to fit in. I was honestly quite relieved when everything shut down due to covid a few months later. Last week, after over two years of only online classes, my uni went back to in person teaching, which meant I finally had to leave my comfort zone again. At first I was excited, but to be honest, it's not going too well so far. All friends I made in first year except for one have now changed subjects or unis or completely dropped out. Yesterday, after an exhausting week of trying to fight my fears, meet new people and adapt to "normal" uni life again, I just...broke down on the train home. I couldn't stop crying, I couldn't even really breathe because of how insecure and lonely and overall lost I felt and because I knew I still would have to go back on Monday. I was so frustrated and angry with myself for being so different to "everybody else", who all seem to have their lives together, have huge groups of friends and somehow don't struggle at all. Thank you so much for acknowledging that it's okay if uni is not one of the best, but actually one of the hardest parts of your life. Too few people talk about this! Just keep going, and I guess there's a pretty high chance that things will get better eventually - or at least you'll come out of it all stronger. To anyone feeling overwhelmed: you're not alone. ❤
I feel you. Especialy the friend thing was hard. I also started uni în 2019 and went the pandemic came we al had to go home. I already had spent a year home because I strugled alot with my mental health and what I wanted to do. For most of that Time I became pretty lonely as All the people I knew left Town. I almost lost all my friends during that Time. So I was really excited to go to uni, a breath of fresh air, în the begining. Im also introverted and makeing friends dont come natural or eazy, it was harder then I thought it would be honestly. But I tried to push myself spenak to as many people as posibile. When I had to go home it was hard în my mental health, being again alone în my old room. I trind so much to change myself And situation and somehow I eded up where I started. All the friendships I was beinging to make were lost for the most part. Since then we came back to uni I feel Im surounded by acquaintances and stragers But no friends. Everyone esle seemd to adapt reayl well and have big groups of friends. I feel so lony and out of place în this city. I honestly dont know what to do
Sorry for the rant but it did made me feel a little bit better wrting about it. I dont have anyone în real life that Im condortabpe talking about it
I resonate with your experience so much. I started university in 2020 and had one semester in person - I initially had a great time, I got into a relationship and was having so much fun - university seemed to be everything I had dreamed of. Then lockdown happened and semester two was completely online - I also went through a break up during that time. I struggled so much with loneliness and fear of covid. When the lockdown ended, I wasn't relieved - instead, I found that my social anxiety was worse and I was so scared of covid that I didn't really leave the house, even when there were no restrictions. University is in-person again this year and it was really hard to push myself to go out again, especially since after my breakup I actually had no friends at university. I had all these expectations/dreams that I would make new friends and have this "perfect" uni life - but I'm halfway through the semester and I am still struggling with intense anxiety and loneliness - I haven't found "my people" and I'm constantly stressed with the workload. University can be a very anonymous and unforgiving place and it really hasn't fulfilled the narrative that the media puts out. Thank you for sharing your experience and it's nice to know that we aren't alone in this.
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Wow, it means so much that so many of you can relate. It's very reassuring to know that my feelings are not so uncommon after all. Thank you all for sharing, I'm sure we can do it!
@@andreeab2948 I relate so much to this : for the first time I forced myself to speak to a lot of people but it didn't really work cause I wasn't myself, it wasn't a genuine spontaneous desire to connect, I was just doing this to be able to say I have friends cause that's what "normal" and what psychologists say matters a lot in happiness. I just wasn't myself and I hated it. I'm pretty sure people noticed it and that's why I made almost no friends and the ones I made were kinda incompatible with me so I dodged them. I was constantly introspecting myself, judging myself before, during and after interactions. For a few weeks/months now I have cared and tried to care less and less to control how I behave, to be myself, not force myself to talk to some people or say some things, like I stopped asking everybody what hobbies they had etc. I was afraid I would have nothing to say, like blank. But it's not true. When I let myself be free, say what comes to my mind, have no expectations and don't judge myself, I do have things to say, I spend a good time and I think the people I interact with spend a good time too. I think those are some of the keys : not forcing yourself to do anything and not judging yourself for being a certain way or saying certain things, and being confident that if you don't try to control how you act things will turn out great. Maybe also realize that things aren't as serious as we think they are. Since I'm in this mindset I made what I consider to be a true friend, I spontaneously talk to more people and I'm happier. Anyway that's it for me :)
I think its important not to define or expect a single time in your life to be the “happiest.” Your life will have ups and downs and thats okay. I particularly think we as younger people need to remember that age doesnt subtract from happiness- there is no timeline on being happy or finding “the best time”
I love this, in some ways exactly what I needed to hear today, I'm grateful that 9 months ago you took the time to write this, thank you
my advice is don't rush anything. when i was in high school i was constantly thinking about how my life is gonna be great when i start uni (and in a lot of ways it is), but as soon as i started uni, literally 2 weeks in, i was like what's next? stop rushing to the next thing and enjoy where you are now. and even if it's hard, it's the greatest period of growth trust me and it will get better :))
i feel like this comment is all over the place sorry lmao
I’ve never related to something more in my life!!! We went to college thinking it was going to be the best years of our lives but having a realistic expectation of the experience and truly understanding the fact that you’re going to evolve and grow as a person helps you navigate life during this time. Ugh I wish I had this video 4 years ago so helpful Jade 💜
yes yes yes, this!! sending so much love Khalilah
I would tell myself to prioritise having a social life. I used to put so much effort into academics but would get burnt out and end up with bad mental health so quickly (which then caused bad grades) because I didn't have the social life to balance things out. it's good to have fun with friends and connect with people, it really turns the experience around.
my issue is I would go to an extreme to the other, like only studying one semester and only drinking in bars the other one because "what's the point of trying if I don't have good grades?"
so yeah, balance is key (hopefully it works out better for any new student in the comments)
I'd say to myself that even though many people around me are doing things last minute and pulling all nighters, drinking caffeine or not eating well - that should not be the norm of what a "student" is. You should keep exploring yourself and how you work best, and honour that. Manage your time well and take care of yourself, study smarter, not longer.
I always felt like others knew how to study through time while I was doing all nighters (didn't work out well for me in the long term), need help with management
My advice to my younger self before going to college would be to care less about how you will be perceived by others and put more thought into what will make you happiest. There are so many sources of external pressure, like pleasing parents and impressing peers, that have shaped so many of the decisions I've made in college. But I wish they hadn't. As hard as it can be to tune out that noise, it is so necessary for learning what will make you truly happy. Lean into being uncomfortable and take the time to learn who you are without the opinions of others swaying your perception of yourself.
Advice to my younger self would be that joining societies is great, but to properly make friends you also need to build on those relationships outside of the pre-organised activities. That does make it an extra time commitment thing and balancing all that can be hard (I am a serial over-committer) but I've learnt that for me friends are more important than academic or extra-curricular commitments.
to my younger self:
uni is not a competition that you need to rush until you win it. it’s always about the process. and please don’t get stuck into this nerdy stereotype! xoxo
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Im so stressed, i took a few months off since my mental health was drowning...my friends are gonna graduate this may but I will be graduating in November. I'm a private candidate and have lost my friends since I don't go to school anymore. I often feel like I'm far behind in my life although it's just a gap of few months. Idk what to do
I'm sorry for the rant, felt the need to get this out my head
@@thewaffle2570 don’t worry, bro! it’s really nice that you took these gap months to invest in yourself, it’s something I’ve often thought about doing as well though.
College has taught me that each experience is unique. For example, during college years, our classmates majors often diverge in so many ways. And after college each of us will pick a different path. And still, we have time for new choices. Good luck in your journey!
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Jade, this content is outstanding, empowering and impactful. It's the honesty and truth society needs to hear more about. If I was to give myself advice to a younger version of myself, it would be to not bend to peer pressure. The depiction of what is a typical university student needs to change as so many people are made to feel uncomfortable just for not fitting into that bracket. Thank you for being so open 💙
This video touched me so deeply and showed up just as I needed it. I'm in my second year studying as a Bulgarian student in the Netherlands during Covid. Spent my first year at home online, came to the Netherlands for the second year and couldn't find accommodation and I feel like I am just now - a year and a half in - trying to get used to the new country. It's just a lot sometimes but I'm grateful for everything that has happened to me because it taught me and keeps teaching me so much.
My piece of advice to myself 2 years ago would be: "Take it one day at a time and try to not think about the future too much. Yes, we have to make plans and make sure that we are on the right track but this can backfire as it brings way too much stress sometimes. Enjoy every day because all of them are different and you will never get to be right here right now again and try to live for the moment a little more."
The piece of advice I would give to my younger self would be “no rush, you don’t need to prove anything to the people around you. Prioritize your mental health ❤️”
I would tell my younger self to never seek friendships or romantic relationships out of loneliness. Seems obvious but uni is such a lonely place when you start and know anyone that it took me two years to realise i had surrounded myself with people that didn't appreciate me, just because i felt terribly alone. Don't be scared of solitude and embrace it, there you'll find your way to truthful people. I am an introvert so that's specially hard but, sometimes it just takes a kind word and a little bit of determination to make new friends (: also Don't EVER compare your grades with anyone else's (even your high school self). And good luck
What I wish I knew before university: pick a school in a place/city you want to live in and that has programs that you are interested in studying. It sounds obvious but I just followed the crowd of where most people were going instead of looking into schools in different parts of the country that may have been smaller/less well known. Also, it's okay if you don't know exactly what you want to do, choose something to study that interests you and go for it, even if you don't know exactly where it will take you. Just keep following the things that light you up!
My advice to my younger self is to pick a path based on what is true to you and will make you happy instead of picking a path/university that looks impressive to other people.
What would you advise if I like many fields of study? I really am afraid of being stuck in one job and I can’t switch to another one. I’m in my 3rd year of uni
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@@juliettelaviet3689 what subject are you studying if you don't mind me asking?
@@padopaw Poli-sci and Psyc
I would love love love to hear you talk about how to draw healthy boundaries with your classmates. Unfortunately, my studying environment isn't very friendly and my classmates are competitive. However, whenever I help someone I find them demanding too much from me, and I often struggle to know when should I help and when should I not.
Being in that environment makes me feel like I can't be myself comfortably and it's suffocating.
From a young muslim gurl, moving from a country in Africa to Europe for study at the age of 17, id tell myself im so proud of you and I don’t know how you did it and why you did it, and the the fact that’s you’re still going in this journey it’s shows how strong you’re, and i know you can handle whatever will come your way, it’s been a whole different journey that’s you weren’t aware of its challenges but if i had the opportunity I’ll do it over again cuz it’s shaped a whole different personality of mine, and im so grateful for all the people I’ve meet who’ve impacted my life tremendously
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Learning to be kind to yourself, and recognising that everyone’s uni experience will inevitably be different to yours. There is no right or wrong way to be a student, follow what makes you happy and most at home in your environment. It’s for such a short time, and to punish yourself for not having a conventional or stereotypical uni experience is such a waste of precious time.
I’d tell first year me…
Focus on yourself first and don’t waste your time chasing after people because at the end of the day everyone has their best interest in mind and so should you. That doesn’t mean you can’t be there for others but rather don’t over extend yourself and make sure you’re meeting your needs first. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
I am graduating this june and my younger self could have really used this video. My advice would be that, since this is a very complex moment in our lives with identity crises, investing into our careers, creating -hopefully- life long friendships, it is very much so okay that sometimes one of these may take a backseat. Sometimes you may focus more on academics, sometimes into your own development journey or whatever. It will all fall into place. When we micro analyse our life in tiny fragments, it may seem more unbalanced than it actually is. Love this channel and the community you created Jade💛
I'm extremely grateful that you made this video!I've moved to another city to start uni effectively in September 2021 because covid messed up my plans for my first year.Besides everything, I've always had to fight a huge peer pressure and the fear that if I didn't fullfil the classic uni student stereotype, then there was something I was missing out.Getting used to live in a city, doing everything alone, learning how to live with strangers and meeting new people has been exhausting, but nobody ever talked about this.I made a couple of "friends" , but for various reasons I don't see them as much as I expected, I just feel that we are not on the same wavelength anymore and it feels lonely sometimes.Thank you for sharing your experience and harsh times at uni!Many students went/are going through the same situations and it's a huge relief to know that you're not the only one struggling.
Jade🥺
I’ve grown up watching your videos and have always been on a similar timeline to you (gap year, starting uni, etc…) and this video couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I’m struggling SO hard with uni right now.
- changing my major to something “easier” and feeling like I’ve failed
- feeling like I wasted time taking two gap years, and like I’m behind all my 18 year old peers
- going from a small school in a tiny town to a massive university, and coming to terms with no longer being top of my class
- not having found “my people” at all
Literally just everything you talked about in this video. I always romanticise other people’s uni experience (even seeing yours on social media), so hearing this from you is such a comfort❤️
Thank you so much I'm in my first year at uni and this was exactly what I needed! I was feeling lonely, not feeling like I belonged, struggling with academics and this was just reassuring to watch knowing that I'm not alone :)
Thank you so much for this video. Hearing you talk about it and reading the comments gave me some peace. I’m struggling with the same things (doing my full bachelor abroad) and it’s been lonely and very hard. Only in my first year so praying things will get better soon, although it’s gotten considerably better already
Im in my first year now and I relate to everything u said. Its different when someone can put your struggles into words. You should definitely start a podcast. This was genuinely such a helpful video. I always think of how I have so many "friends" or acquaintances but no real close friends that see me for me. Hopefully next year will get better.
This is an incredibly honest video and I think that many uni students will relate.
Thank you for letting us know that we aren’t alone in these complex emotions and times in our lives
Lots of love from Canada💚
Jade, words can’t express how how grateful I am for this video and how much I can relate to everything you said, so thank you, from the bottom of my heart. 💙💙
I’ve almost finished first year at university and I can say that it definitely hasn’t been the best year of my life, in fact it’s been one of the unhappiest years I’ve had.
I’m extremely introverted at university and don’t fit into any of the expectations at all like going clubbing, drinking, being confident and meeting soo many people. I’ve also felt the loneliest I’ve ever felt and found it really difficult to make friends and moving away from home for the first time.
I’ve been really unlucky with my flat mates this year so that hasn’t been great but I’m holding onto a bit of hope that next year will be better!!
Although I am starting to enjoy it more, it’s only enough for me to keep persevering and I by no means love it. X
Hi Rosie, I can very much relate to some of your struggles.. you're not in this alone!
What I realised during this year - that there has been always a loving family behind with which you can do check-ins as much as you need (I hope it is the same for you), just as good old friends. Also, what I can recommend is 1) sticking to daily casual magic just like Jade 2) enjoy your personal space as much as possible with the activities you love 3) try to grow as a person by watching similar "shared terapy" videos or videos of life philosophies or of other people who live a solo life - that might help empower you and feel again you're not there alone!
@@matyashansel438 hey, thank you very much for the lovely reply. I’m so glad there are a lot of other people who have felt the same way as me. I will try some of those things especially looking for daily casual magic x
Thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear that. I started university during the pandemic, moved away, no friends, classes just online, no really possibility to connect with new people. I have been so hard on myself why I don't enjoy it, why nothing is how I imagined it. What you said kind of kicked home. I just started crying bc I was the only person dealing with this in my old friend group and that made it even worse. Hearing that words from someone else is somehow very relieving. We're all going thorough it. Stay strong!
This makes me feel so much better about struggling at uni sometimes, and I feel so proud of myself for doing this! Thank you so much Jade!
I’ve been struggling with these feelings. Thank you, jade for validating all kinds university experiences and reinforcing that they are not manifold
Ur videos are so aesthetic I swear!!I hope u r keeping good
🥺🥺 thank you so so much!!
So yeah uni hasn't quite gone the way I expected it go, it has been more demanding and more stressful than expected but I have also learned things. Some things I've learned are: Getting things done and learning is more important than grades, you don't need to party all the time and that stressing about things is not going to change the outcome.
Uni is something that I have very much enjoyed but if I was able to do it again I would probably do a lot of things differently but then I can't do that because some of those things were learnt by doing a degree and everything thing that comes with it.
Thank you for making this video, I do like reflection stuff and I need to do some of that myself. :-)
As weird as it sounds, my piece of advice would be that you can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. Seek those people who you find the deepest connections with, realise they are few and have fun with them
I relate so much to the different parts of the video. It's a relief to know I'm not the only one to feel and live what you depicted (+ the comments too)! I think everyone knows and experiences what you described (loneliness, expectations about partying, finding your people, academics, etc.) but just never speaks out loud about it: it's almost like it's a taboo in some ways. Thank you Jade for making us (uni students) heard and seen :) Wishing you the best for the end of your semester
Dear Jade, Thank you for always being so honest and transparent about how you feel, and the things going on in the background of your life. As 17 year old, I always watch videos like these to get a sneak peek into what the next chapter of my life could entail and I always have many hypothesises as to what it is like being a University student. Though I am not a university student, many of the ideas throughout you videos resonated with me, particularly the idea of having friends and selecting those who really are the people that you choose to FaceTime etc
This is the most relatable video I’ve seen regarding college. Thank you 💕
such a great video 😩 so relatable in so many aspects! uni definitely isn't the ideal picture-perfect haven most people say it is and so trying to manage those expectations together with the workload is so difficult. but i think knowing that almost all uni students go through this at some point of their university journey somewhat makes this whole process feel less lonelier :)
but a piece of advice i would definitely give to my younger self/those who have yet to step foot into uni is to just not have any expectations and be open to trying out things and finding out who you are. i think getting into uni just right out of high school can be daunting, but i think that's where uni sort of comes as a blessing in disguise. i also think, especially when choosing a degree/course, to always do research, and if possible, seek advice from seniors so that navigating through uni will be less confusing and frustrating.
yup! this video spoke to me on so many levels omg, thank you for sharing your pov!
I'm so grateful for your raw thoughts on the changes of uni - not many people explain it or even acknowledge it - very useful thank you
I would tell my younger self that it's okay if you don't have the stereotypical college experience. That there is nothing wrong with you and it may look like the people around you are living their best lives (sometimes), but there is so much pressure to look or be perceived a certain way in college. Of course nobody wants to look like the "lonely person with no friends" and to be honest, that was kind of me my whole time at Uni. I graduate this year and can say those "friends" I had are no longer in my life. It's hard because I guess I wanted to find my people and make those lifelong, lasting genuine friendships, and I didn't. But it's okay. I'll be okay. There is much more to life honestly (not saying that a sense of belongingness isn't important and that you shouldn't want that - it's only natural we do). But the best thing we can do is cultivate that relationship with ourselves because that seriously impacts our connections with others. Also, I wish I had spent way more time focusing on building the life I desired (my goals, aspirations, dreams) instead of obsessing about my social life.
I'm still choosing to be proud of myself, to love myself unconditionally. I can't go back in time and change things, but I can move forward with these lessons. All of this stuff shaped me into who I am today. For that I will be greatful for eternally.
I feel the same about my experience, and thanks for the inspiring words!
What I wish I new is that learning about yourself requires a lot of unlearning and it uncomfortable and scary but so so so rewarding as well. It is okay to start over and retry as much as you need to. 🌻
7:15 thank you so much for opening up about the difficulty of finding real friendships
Hey Jade. I just wanna let you know that your videos are really helpful, you're like a mentor to me. Thank you very much.
Thank you....i really appreciate this as i need it the most at this time ❤❤❤❤ i relate to lot of things you say jade.. yah we should stop sterotyping univ
Thank you so much!! I just started University in February (I’m in Australia btw) and thought I was the only one who felt like this. Thank you for this video
jade you are so much down to earth person. I mean you truly explained how it's like to live abroad without your parents and do your home chores by yourself and you are so grateful for everything related to your family and friends. I really appreciate your all efforts. more power to you.
Can you please do a video on discovering who you are and staying true to yourself?
it feels so good to hear you talk so realistically about all the expectation for uni life that people have (and I definitely had as well) an that you will never experience all those things at once or at all. Its so important to just find yourself and your own way to live during university
I’m an American student graduating this semester, and most of my time at uni has been during the pandemic. I feel like I’ve missed out on so many in-person opportunities and connections, and my college experience feels almost “incomplete.” But I’ve realized that I’m not alone in these feelings, and it’s okay to have a non-traditional experience. I survived a literal pandemic, and that itself deserves to be celebrated! Uni and my early 20s are only a few years of my life - I have so so much life to live AFTER graduation that I’m excited for. I would tell my younger self to release constricting expectations, stop comparing my journey to others’, and focus on cultivating my own growth.
I'm a first-year college student. I wish I focused more on finding my people and having deep and powerful conversations with those individuals. I spent a hefty part of my first semester feeling incredibly lonely. Likely because I was just having a bunch of surface-level conversations instead of getting to know people.
The quality of friendships that you built shows the quality of your college experience.
The advice I would give my younger self before going to university is: Be more patient and easy on yourself and don’t rush anything and trust the process and follow your heart’s desire no matter what anyone else tell you!👍🏻
I love this video, I use your canal for learning English and "charlas" like this are so cool:)
Great video, thank you Jade! The best part imo is from 14:45 :) my advice for my before-uni self would be… 1. Don’t worry because you’ll make great friends. 2. Speak up in class because you’ll learn and experience so much more if you do!!
I only started uni last September but have changed so much since then. I find myself regretting having my walls up and not connecting more with my current friends, family and new people. Now I am more confident and have a better sense of who I am. But now I have no one to call when things get hard and no-one to enjoy experiences with. I'm just trusting that I will find these connections without forcing superficial ones. However embarrassed or burdensome you feel of who you, connect speak up, if you are rejected it is better to have tried.
A very important video Jade! I found the lack of routine and support very difficult at uni! Don’t get me wrong, I am so glad I went and it changed me for the better, however the people I chose to live with didn’t turn out to be very nice so I never really felt at home there! Couldn’t wait to get home to my real friends!
don't worry too much about coming out a whole/complete/flawless new version of yourself. three-four years is short, u'll learn so much & grow in so many ways, but there's still so much to do/learn/see/be afterwards.
I so needed this video :) I am having my very last exam for my online masters in September. Have been navigating the master while having a full time job and it has been really a lot. Now since I am almost done, I feel exhausted. I also feel like the imposter feeling does not just go away, even if you have a bachelors degree done years ago and been working for years. Since about a year or so I have been feeling like I am missing out on so many other things in life while simultanously feeling guilty for feeling this way. So thank you for this video. It "normalizes" that, yes, it is a hard time navigating studying and everything that comes with it. But once we acknowledge and simply accept this fact, it feels a bit easier to handle.
Thank you sooo much for making such videos! Your thoughts really resonate with me! It’s cool to know I’m not alone thinking this way
100% agree with all those expectations you mentioned, Jade.
I dropped out of first-year maths a month ago and do not regret it in the slightest. Sure, it might’ve set me back compared to all my friends who are at uni, gaining a degree they want, but I hated my course and struggled far too much with the content that all my effort just didn’t seem worth it. I was working crazy hours to keep up with all the work being set and to spend 6 months and end up not enjoying or understanding anything was really tough. There was very little support for the 10/250 of us who didn’t take further maths A-level despite the uni saying they would provide it. It was clear it makes such a difference to people’s learning, when all the teachers I’ve encountered said it doesn’t.
I come from a working-class background and was astonished at the amount of middle/upper-class students at my uni. I was used to most people at home being from a similar background to me but at uni, it was vastly different. I felt extremely judged, and some of my flatmates thought I was odd as I worked so much and struggled severely with speaking in groups. I’m an introvert, and didn’t go clubbing once as I don’t drink, nor did I want to. I missed my friends from home who I had things in common with and everyone formed their friendship groups and sorted out houses so quickly that I just felt so alone.
I’m very glad I took the step to drop out because I never cried as frequently as I did at uni. Since being home, I’ve applied for jobs and feel much more optimistic about my future. To anyone reading or relating to anything Jade has said in this video, please ignore the stigma surrounding dropping out of uni. If it’s what’s best for you mentally, do it. My mental health has improved dramatically since getting out of that environment.
Here’s a truly wonderful quote that encapsulates how I feel about my situation: “Your future hasn't been written yet, no one's has. Your future is whatever you make it, so make it a good one.”
Jade you handled this topic superbly! 3rd year at Uni was the worst year of my life & after I somehow finished it I took a gap year!
I am currently in my second semester, but it is actually my 4th if I count the two corona semesters in my former degree. I quitted because of a number of reasons. Not only that, but I've been hesitating for a long time to quit because of that I had/ I wanted to find something new really fast.
And I would tell my younger self (3 years ago. Because back than the whole misery started) to listen more to what you want and fu..k the opinion of others or what others expect you to do. And for f..k sake inform yourself what you are applying for.
Try as much as possible. New Sports, traveling, internships in business that you are interested in.
And finally. Believe in yourself. Have trust in you and your skills. And don't doubt your whole existence if something gets in your way.
And that's what I would tell everybody who will be going to uni soon. Believe in yourself and try as much as possible. You won't have such easy access to a variety of things after you graduated.
Absolutely agree with the title :D My best years started after I graduated formal education and found the job I love) I tried 5 jobs while I was studying, and found the loved one on my 6th try)
Congratulations I'm happy for you....will also be joining uni soon it's makes me stick to my idea of part-time job 😁... thanks for commenting 😘
The part about the homesickness and not fitting in right away is so real. I hated university my first semester and i really didn't find my friends or develop real relationships with the people I already knew until 1.5 years in. And that was with trying, really really hard. I went to so many new club meetings and would try to talk to new people everywhere, but I always felt like i wasn't in the right place or with the right people. I never understood how some people made friends so quickly in the first few weeks and i spent so many nights just by myself in my dorm room watching youtube and wishing i was at home with my parents. At my uni, people would also go home a lot on the weekends so the campus would be desolate and soo lonely on saturdays and sundays even though i was in a major city. And yes, i didn't know how to take the metro right away either haha.
But my last year of uni was truly one of the best of my life until covid hit. I had friends and would go out and do things all the time with people i loved spending time with. It just took a really long time and a lot of personal growth to get there. So if you're in that situation now, don't give up! I wanted to transfer uni so bad in the beginning, but im really glad i stayed, changed my major, and learned a lot about the world!
thank you so much for sharing you experience, I wished someone told me that my health comes before my dreams, that I have to believe in me to succeed.
JADE YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS!!! THANK YOUUUUU!!! i love you dearly
It's okay to be yourself! Honestly, cliche and simple, but I spent my undergrad not connecting to my cohort. But things changed once I started graduate school. Our classes were much smaller and we realized we had to rely on each other for support and to just get through the tough times. Those are the people I stayed up working and laughing and also learning the most from. Nothing beats having such a cohort that we can bond together over shared experiences.
It's so strestressful. I regret procrastinating so much. But overall the pressure is there. I hope we can better have a work/life balance in education because even starting in middle school/high school. Attend classes all day then have a lot of homework, extracurriculars then do homework on the weekend but want to have a social life too. It can become too overwhelming. Love you Jade! I hope you can have a good rest of your school life and after
Advice: be kind to yourself during the experience, and university should not become your identity even though it is your way to prove to yourself you are capable of becoming anything you want
university is the best time of your life in the same way 'school is the best time of your life ' - only for sociable, outgoing people who make friends easily and everyone likes. if your an introverted anti social, anxious shy weirdo like me, its the worst time of your life and the time where you will feel worse about yourself and unlikeable and insecure. The only part I like is the learning, the people are awful.
university was not the best time of my life. i was pretty lonely, stressed, depressed and came out of uni with -7€ in my bank account. i'm also an introvert so partying was not me either. i mostly did uni work and that was it. it was nice to learn something new and make a few new friends and meet interesting people. but still.... i've been out of uni for 3 years now and life has gotten better and better. so if you're in university and don't feel like you're living your best life, that's normal and life can definitely get better 😌
I am so happy you posted this. I am in my first year of uni in france coming from california and it has been so much harder than expected and in ways i never would have thought of. definitely felt the cultural differences making it harder to find deep connections. but i am growing and learning a lot!! THANK YOU JADE
I fully relate to this. Uni was not an environment that I thrived in. I made pretty much no actual friends and had so many moments of almost dropping out. I got through it and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve now just accepted a position at a fantastic company which allows me to relocate to my dream city. Life is crazy and it’s all falling into place so well even though I had no idea what I wanted to do when I finished my degree. Even though uni was some of the most challenging years of my life I don’t regret it and now the benefits of getting through it are paying off.
To my first year self: Find your people as you said in the video, because as freshments in uni, we do not realize what a great impact it has in our whole university experience and learn to give yourself a break from the heavy workload of essas and presentations.
Anyone thinking of getting into uni plz do your research. Get in touch with people with the uni u are interested in...to get to know the space and the course u are getting into. The university you choose should be a place where its the extension of your 'heart'. Does the education system they teach fulfill you...help you learn as an individual? The students and people there do they inspire you to be a better person? I feel we take university for granted...that its just a paper we end up receiving that will help as get a job and begin our career. But uni should be a space that gives you the freedom to discover yourself through your studies. You can do incredible things and create such an impact from the beginning of uni! I'd say choose to study sth you are truly passionate about...however difficult it is because if you are determined you'll be successful in your own personal way. Don't make the mistake of choosing sth just to find a job. Uni should be chosen in the sense of exploration and extension of self. Or else if you are a healthy human you can do any job...seriously. Whoever reaches this end I hope the best for you and I know you are doing great. I believe in you! Look at this...I managed to ramble a snowball of thoughts! Take care!
I needed this right now, the choices i have had to make as a future university student have gotten me to question my whole existence...
Take care of yourself too!!
How do you find people who do the courses you want to do or are in the uni you want to go to?
@@amelia4570 I think this is a valid question. Based on my own experiences and thoughts, of course it is easier if you know someone who is in the uni studying or has graduated, where you can get in touch with and give you an idea what it is like studing at the uni you are interested in.
Other than that, since we are living in the age of social media, there are many universities that upload stories on Instagram and you can also get a feeling of the people there, the work they do (also by checking the uni's website). Also, attending Open Days, is a great opportunity to talk to teachers and students and ask them as many questions as possible for you to get an understanding of where you will be studying, the courses, facilities etc. Also, if you can find the emails of teachers or current uni students, you can email them and also ask them about what is the experience of studying at the X uni, the excitement, uniqueness (of uni) and the challenges.
The thing you need to understand though is that however much information you gather about the uni you are interested in (and the reseatch is important!), by the end of the day a choice will be made and a risk will need to be taken. But I find that joy and challenge are hidden within that risk. The only way forward then is to have faith in yourself and to a higher power. - "everything is going to be alright"! - Bob Marley. (this human keeps me grounded and hopeful!)
I hope all the best for your future and I wish you follow the path that makes you the most happy, peaceful and the one that is according to your own personal values and beliefs. Take care!
The biggest piece of advice I wish I had been told and reminded of in my final years at high school is that you DO NOT have to go to university straight after high school and that though it can be difficult to feel like you fit in to the university culture later in life, you will likely get far more out of your studies by putting university on hold for even a couple of years, try new things, get a job, understand what subjects truly move you and then begin your university journey. I left high school at 16 with zero expectations of going to university, I thought it was purely for academic types. Im now 24 in 3rd year and studying Animation, VFX, digital design all this fun stuff. Long story short, university can wait and it also isnt everything. learning is lifelong, it doesnt stop at 18.
GOSH I needed this right now. Sooo much. ✨ Literally just journaled about all these feels like 10 minutes ago. 💖
Thank you for your brutal honesty and complete vulnerability with us. I’m trying university again for the second time soon and this was exactly what I needed to hear.
I admire your courage to share your less good experiences as well! It really helps put things in perspective
I'm a bit of an idealist and I tend to romanticise the idea of going to uni, and it's really important for me to hear this less polished version of (uni)life before going there
Really appreciate it! I hope you're doing well yourself :)
This is a really important video and I felt every word you said... I'm struggling with these things right now and I know how much it can be hard. I don't know what advice I would give to my younger self because I started university just the last year and I'm still trying to find my way to be happy facing it, but probably now I would have told her this: "You will fight with a lot of hard stuff making this choice having high expectations, so try your best to find your peace and sense in this word before starting this chapter: university will not give you this, you must feel good about yourself not just with your ideal future cause there isn't a real finish line. Don't search it in uni, life hasn't real one final goal, there is not a sence. Don't try always to find it, just... Live it". The hard part is learning to love living without a really existing sence... I'm still trying, hoping one day it will get better. For now, wish everyone who's struggling with similar situations the best. PS: sorry for my bad english, I'm italian
"You must feel good about yourself not just with your ideal future cause there isn't a real finish line"...OKAY, THAT HIT ME😪❤️
My advice to my younger self would be life uni is what you make of it. Don't be afraid to initiate things & enjoy the journey. Oh and find time to have fun, you will figure out the academics eventually :)
I actually really enjoyed going to college even though it turned out to be so hard for me academically and personally. So glad you made this video Jade. Initially I stumbled through trying my hardest to make friends, and eventually letting go of the fact that all of my previous friendships were just slipping away because, all we had in common was the fact that we saw each other 5 days a week. Honestly that period was so hard for me. I was depressed, lonely, and just too exhausted to go to the effort to make friends again. But I have to say, the best thing I did for myself back then was acknowledging the fact that the friendships I had been so emotionally invested in for most of my life just weren't worth it anymore.
I am currently doing my postgraduation and there is just so much stress what with the added urgency of finding a job and whatnot. I truly love studying but hate the pressure. I have stopped trying now but I wish knew how to find a community that matters to me. It isn't that easy to find people who are willing to talk.
I wish I'd really appreciated how you have to put so much effort into making friendships. I've learnt that loneliness is something you have to work really hard to change and make better. Academics can be really isolating but having people around you makes everything so much better. Xx
To ask people before uni what their uni is like, don't be afraid to ask million questions.
Jade you' re so sincere it greatly helps
I'm graduating highschool in literally 2 months or so and I always though that uni/college is full of fun,partying,happiness etc but I was so wrong..tysm Jade for this vid💜💖
this is probably my favorite video of yours, you're saying exactly whats on my heart. i'm struggling so much with uni, finding my people and feeling like i've "arrived" because i have this idea of what uni should be and i know that other people are living up to it, not me tho
This video came in perfect time. I've just started university and I'm struggling a lot. It's only been a month since I've started, and I've already rethought every aspect of my life like a million times. I honestly have no idea what I'm doing and I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one that feels this way.
If I could talk to my younger self I would tell her "Take it easy, don't take it so seriously, it is going to be hard, but it's not the end of the world, you can change your mind, you can cry, and that's ok. You're not going to love it all, actually, you're going to hate most of it, especially at the beginning."
Thank you Jade for this video❤️
Ps: I'm from Argentina and I can assure you're going to love it here! Whish you all the best.
As an adult with her first nursing degree in her 20s and now doing my second degree in astrophysics while working as a nurse at 40 years old, uni is hard but it is the best time of our life :)
thank you ❤️ i see that so many people can relate to this as well! for me, being at uni has become very overwhelming. It was hard before covid, but since then my anxiety has been through the roof. i have been hanging by a thread for two years now and learning the hard way that no one at uni gives a s* about you has been quite an experience, let’s put it that way. guys, take care about yourself and hang in there!!
Thank you so much. I am still figuring out who my people are, who am I, trying to get used to cultural differences, and specially having good grades, all while trying to maintain good mental health. It is hard, and we deserve to acknowledge it more often.
Thank you so much for discussing all of these aspects with us - it's the most insightful and objective video on university life I've seen - I can relate to all of these aspects as well! I wish I could discuss all of these aspects with my friends more often., and perhaps I will! It's honest, grounding, and reassuring.
Thank you for this honest video. Studying on university can be really exhausting and full of stress sometimes. And we usually don't talk much about what impact it can have on us. This video sums it up. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone :)
Hey Jade, here's a message for u: ✨
I recently read ur book and let me tell u- Thank you so much! For having written this book, and publishing it. For giving me the advice, motivation and guidance I needed. I'm not a fan of self-help books, but I've always loved ur videos so I decided to give this book a go. Right from the first page, I knew my decision had been right. 😄
The way u have written the book, it's like u are talking to a friend, and I could imagine u speaking those words to me! The book felt like a warm hug and a reassurance that I can succeed at my studies. And those chapters on fear of failure, dealing with results, mental health...I read these chapters at a time when I really needed it. "You will succeed, you will be loved and you will have a future, a good one." I can't emphasize how much those words meant to me, Jade. Thank you SO MUCH for this! ❤
Lots of love,
~♡
PS: I started using blurting while revising for my upcoming exams, and active recall makes ALL the difference! 🙌
This resonated with me on such a level I can't even describe! Thank you! And to whoever is reading this, my advice before you may start Uni: Don't feel rushed by anyone or society that you have to start Uni at a certain point. I wish I hadn't started Uni when I did and now I am just pushing myself towards the end and I wish I had taken time before Uni to get more experience and learn about myself. You don't need to know what you want to be for the rest of your life at the age of 18-25.
God this video is so timely to my situation it's actually scary hahahaha
Literally just failed a major subject of mine and now I have to graduate a year late and watching this video is seriously so comforting omgg thanks Jade for the realness 😩✊
This video was so relatable, as a third year student I couldn't agree more! 🥰 So brilliant that more people are keeping it real rather than sugercoating what I means to be a young adult.
I could honestly publish a novel on everything I wish I knew before uni but I think the main thing is not to get too swept along with/influenced by how your peers are choosing to live life or even comparing yourselves to them. It's so important to do meditation etc or really practise standing your ground and keeping in touch with yourself. What works for someone else or brings them happiness might not for you. Life is to be lived YOUR way, in your own style. 💕
As a fellow college student this was really refreshing and reassuring, thank you for sharing!
I loved the video! Hit close to home.
Advice to my younger self: Accept that whatever expectations you have, they are likely to be wrong. “Reality can never match our expectations, because it’s easy to imagine perfection, and very difficult to achieve it.” I had so many false expectations about university. I was so excited at the prospect at being able to pick what I was going to learn in an academic setting for the first time in my life. I was so curious about the subject matter and I expected everyone else to feel the same. I imagined me and my future peers sitting together and having discussions about psychology. I was so wrong. A lot of my peers were just in the degree because they didn't get it to another degree. There is almost an unspoken rule that you don't talk about anything related to psychology outside of university. So I am in a degree I am curious about but surrounded by people who in my opinion treat it like secondary school (there's nothing wrong with that it's just not what I expected).
This video has uncanny timing. Thank you. A few months ago, I started uni and knew I wasn’t passionate about what I’d be studying but thought I’d give it a go with the hope it might help me know what I am truly interested in. Six weeks in, I was in the uni library and broke down, wondering whether all the decisions I’d made were the right ones. It’s tempting to drop out and have a gap semester/year but I have a real fear of the unknown. Quitting is not a regular act of mine but I have a gut feeling that it’s what I need to do.