Celeb Apology checklist. Sad face, been to therapy, Mention God, been to or going to Rehab, Say sorry, Say I'll do better, Say not asking forgiveness, Say I got help, Mention professional help, Say you are ashamed, Say you taking responsibility, making large charity donation, I hit rock bottom. Diddy read the whole script.
Notice how he says, “I take full responsibility for my actions IN THAT VIDEO.” If this had only ever occurred once it’d be more reasonable to leave it at “my actions.”
I think the fact that Diddy not only denied all the allegations against him but also accused the women of being financially motivated is a very clear indication that this is a false apology. He claims to have been disgusted enough with himself to seek professional help through therapy, rehab, and spiritual counseling, yet he still tried to DARVO his way out of the situation when his behaviors were made public. A changed person would not have done that. Classic abuser. Textbook.
@cassierussell6281 It's an acronym for Deny Accuse/Attack Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a very common, almost universal response that abusers resort to when confronted with their own behavior.
@@cassierussell6281 From Wikipedia DARVO (an acronym for "deny, attack, and reverse victim & offender") is a reaction that perpetrators of wrongdoing, such as sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior.[1] Some researchers indicate that it is a common manipulation strategy of psychological abusers.[2]
There was some frontal lobe damage done to my uncle. He was electrocuted and on the outside of the 2nd floor of a building. His partner grabbed his belt to stop the circuit of electricity, and he fell from the 2nd floor, leaving him with frontal lobe damage, which changed his behavior significantly. I wonder, with all of this violence that surrounded him for a long time, if he may have some frontal lobe damage, also. Do we know if he has adhd or anything else? Learning about those behaviors I was told a person could do a behavior and then regret it almost immediately.
Exactly. He thinks that Joe Public are stupid. The master manipulator. Karma always catches up with you. No amount of money and status can help you where karma is concerned.
@@gogogetem8203There’s a search engine called Google, where you can do your own research.🙄 There’s numerous accounts where Diddy denied any wrongdoing from Cassie and his accusers saying that they are “liars, and gold-diggers”.
He looks like he would be at home wielding a machete in Rwanda. Their faces were as dark and devoid of expression as they hacked away at their victims.
You know he's probably trying his damnedest to have her killed cause she's the one that going to make him get charged and go to prison. If anyone. She needs to be highly protected
Exactly!! He was trying his hardest to contain his anger with her. I would even say he was, in that moment, actually thinking…..playing in his mind exactly what he wants to do to her to make her pay, which is causing those facial twitches. He is evil, he is devious, and he is calculating. I hope & pray everyone that is in her corner is on high alert and has her (& her family) safety at the forefront of their minds.
The worst part is that this apology will help him. So many powerful individuals are invested in him, and stand to lose a lot to see him fully blacklisted or jailed, so as long as they have this apology on record now, powerful players will let him off Scott free. He will face no repercussions. What the average person thinks of him doesn’t matter.
Exactly. His arrogance is astounding. He's been getting away with murder so long he doesn't care that he looks phony. He really thinks his big money is gonna get him out of this. He's sadly mistaken.
@@sopiabobia3699 I disagree. Maybe I’m not understanding your pov. Companies and supporters have been pulling away from him, refusing to make comments after the video came out when they were in full support before there was physical evidence. The video makes him sound ridiculous, it’s embarrassing really. This video, plus anything else he makes public, can be used against him for anything that goes to court and it will hurt him considerably. This was a bad move on his part, and his attorney’s if they ok’d this. They can now do a record request in discovery to see if he really went to rehab or therapy if he does go to court for his current legal issues, if nothing turns up it will be a BAD day 😅
Oh Spidey, I'm glad you mention the towel held in one hand all the time. I didn't know why, but that made my hair stand on end. As if he were at home, freshly showered and turning on the TV, totally relaxed and natural with what he was doing. It's terrible and disturbing.
It struck me as bizarre; that he covered himself in that corridor because of the risk of another person coming out of a room and seeing him naked but didn't have the same mental check on his behavior when it came to how he treated Cassie.
So he's basically apologizing for doing something he and his legal team vehemently and categorically denied doing a few months ago in two separate statements? What a dirt bag.
Exactly. First, she was lying and "looking for a payday" and now that the proof is out, you take full accountability and you're so sorry? Are you sorry for blatantly lying and saying your victim is a liar, too? He's scum of the earth. Can't believe a word he says.
She went limp, making very little movement. She didn’t even try to curl up in a ball to shield herself from further damaging blows. That doesn’t happen when the behavior is new. Our instincts tell us to protect ourselves. But to an abuser, that is throwing gas on the fire. She didn’t want to do ANYTHING that would give him more of a reason to continue hitting her. Even when he is sitting down just looking at her, while she was out of the camera range, he sat there like he was a King and he was enjoying the suffering, so much that he wanted to continue to make her cower, so he threw things at her.
I was wondering why she didn't instinctively protect herself. Your explanation makes so much sense. Not covering herself was a way to protect herself or pacifying his rage. That wasn't the first time he did it.
Yes, I agree, she knows the routine. When he caught her it’s like she knew it was over and she messed up by trying to escape smh She fell and laid still, I waited for her legs to come up into the fetal position but they never did smh she was defeated and basically checked out and played dead, that’s like the last animal survival instinct tears
My first impression is that he's referring to a list of key apology phrases without actually addressing anything specific. He seems to be referring to notes with bulltet points.
@@TheBehavioralArts Though it's not necessarily dishonest to do that. You might write a checklist for yourself because you really want to communicate honest information about yourself, and you don't want to forget it. However, with the rest of the analysis on top of that, it's pretty clear that this checklist of him isn't made to convey honest thoughts. Thank you for your analysis videos, they're packed with valuable information and nuances. It's both a great piece of information and entertainment.
He was disgusted that the video got leaked to CNN Cassie isn't the only female he has did this too. Gene Deal Diddys ex bodyguard said on Aet of Dialogue, that he slapped and curse his own mother out Like Gene said a man who hits his mother, will do it to other women. And Diddy has to Cassie, Gina, Misa, and people said Kim had it worse than Cassie
He was angry then as she tried to escape quietly without shoes, 100 percent anger that she has the courage to try .... he is disgusting especially hiding this evil behind that cross on his chest ... and he still using God in this apology video
Notice how he said “I had to go to therapy” not “I realized I needed therapy” or “I started to going to therapy” or even simply “I have been in therapy”. HAD to go implies he didn’t really want to
I don’t necessarily agree with this. I’m not sure if it’s perhaps bc I’m from NY, but this is how we just say certain things. To me “I understood it as I knew I needed help, I had to go.” Like colloquial errors.
@@feelthejoyI'm not from the US but I'm a native English speaker and I also disagree. His usage word "had" doesn't necessarily imply a lack of interest. I've also had several situations where I was in such an awful situation that I *had* to seek counselling. I also wanted to seek counseling but the word "had" does not rule out my interest in counseling simply because you as the audience or reader do not have enough information to reach such a conclusion.
@@feelthejoy I feel like you’re basing too much emphasis on the usage of the word “had”. It could be a recognition of his issues and he knew he HAD no choice but to go. In any case, had he said it differently: “I realized at that point I NEEDED help and decided it was best to go to therapy” would that have changed anything that transpired? No, bc it’s a juxtaposition of word play.
Great point overall. I am surprised that therapists have not discussed his word choice, “It's so difficult to reflect on the darkest times in YOUR life, but sometimes YOU gotta do that.” This stood out to me as soon as I heard this. He was deflecting and turning it around on the viewers. He was seeking empathy as though everyone else has done this type of stuff too. We have not. He wasn’t owning it.
Most people would have said ‘one’ “I” is usually too close for people and ‘you’ is usually asking others to see things your way. ‘You’ might be still a lot of people’s first go to not just not to take blame but also to distance themselves from it and I feel Combs had time and lawyers to help him figure out what to say and that this is the apology he gave was ehh
This is the 3rd analysis I've seen of his "apology" & this is the best. No-one else noticed that he kept one hand on the towel or that her behaviour was consistent with someone who often got abused. Great job as always
TW: Domestic abuse Thank you for covering what was in some of the surveillance footage. I've just gotten out of a 15 yr abusive marriage and been trying to process through it. I feel a lot of shame and guilt for what I let myself become and this was an important reminder that my body was doing its best to protect me. There was no shock in either my ex or I aside from the first time he punched a hole through our wall. My body knew the best ways to hold still and position myself to try and de-escalate the situation. The towel thing also reminded me of my ex. I spent so much time defending him and telling myself it was just the trauma talking and he would never intentionally hurt me. But once he found out I started to record our conversations, he would come in and wake me up by yelling at me first thing in the morning when he knew I couldn't be recording. It was the first time it really hit home that he knew exactly what he was doing. If he could worry about his image in the moment, then he knew what he was doing.
A psych nurse 50 yrs ago, working with pedophiles and those who violently assaulted women, the most common things expressed: "she needs to get over it", "stop living in the past", "she needs to move on", etc. Basically, she was the problem. Sadly, not much has changed in five decades.
Well this is classic for anyone refusing or potentially in denial about their own actions, behaviors n even words so it's not at all limited to domestic violence. In my experience the more egregious the acts the less likelihood of a true apology, remorse n change. So they have to turn it around. Some will say you made them do it by getting them so angry or pushing their buttons but some are smart enough to know this is absurd so the next best thing is to minimize n try to paint you as unforgiving, holding onto the past, being oversensitive n not moving on. Of course when it comes to domestic abuse you should not just be moving on. And if you are still with someone out of fear etc you can sorta see that it could be confusing to them as you're still with them so they take that as forgiving them but yet you're still holding onto it. People need to get out of these relationships or work through together with what happened. I don't mean in this case or domestic violence in general but like affairs etc. they have to win back trust little by little but you also can't hold it against them forever. Better to just leave.
Diddy's default, baseline behavior is lying (or, at very best, withholding the full truth). Seems he's a bit of a sociopath, and only said something now because he had to say something in an attempt to salvage some kind of reputation (which is tied to $$$).
i always get a devious little grin when your face pops up after the first clip because I KNOWW you're going to pick every little aspect apart and im so excited lolol
Narcissists never give specific reasons as to why they're sorry. You know it must be bad because they rarely even use the words "sorry" or "I apologize." It's usually something to the tune of _"I should've done things differently"_ which could also mean _"I should have done a better job of manipulating you"_ 💀💀
You don't have to be a narcissist to avoid accountability or lie or feel superior to others. You simplz can be an a-hole. Let's not throw around clinical diagnoses as if we have studied the valuation of personality disorders.
@@stephanijeopdevelt5600 there’s lots of discussion on the term narcissist becoming common place to describe a specific set of behaviors. With a diagnosis from a licensed professional those can be diagnosed as a variety of different disorders. This person has not diagnosed anyone and is only speaking on the behaviors. To diagnose would be to use the actual clinical term of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
@@brettneyp to me it seems absurd to state, you can call someone a narcissist because it is clear you don‘t mean, that he has narcissistic personality order. Call him TOXIC if you want to point out problematic behavior, which can also occur in multiple (!) different personality disorders. Why just pick NPD. It became common, because so many use this term so loosely. Common doesn’t mean correct. NPD is a serious disorder and by misusing the term it‘s seriousness gets washed out. People who can not look into your head what you REALLY meant take what you SAID and run with it. Let’s be a little bit clear and use terms which are correct and don’t misuse incorrect ones to avoid the above.
Hey everyone! Hope you’re enjoying the video despite the very heavy and unpleasant topic. I just wanted to add 2 other points for discussion and consideration. 1) The appeal to religion. I filmed a whole segment about this then cut it out because I wasn’t happy with the way I expressed it. Ultimately I think he’s bringing it up to get sympathy from people who share his faith. In hopes that they will back off when they hear that he asked for grace. To me it feels like a cop out. 2) if I can ask Diddy one question I would ask “how many other times did events similar to the one in the video take place? Be it with Cassie or anyone else?” The question is a catch 22, either he would have to confess to other cases where he did this or he would claim this is the only time it happened and the moment evidence surfaced that it isn’t, it would very conclusively show how fake this apology was, as well as any other apology moving forward. We already have him claiming he’s sorry for something he strongly denied, so it would just be more of that but there would be no way for him to regain any credibility in a situation like that (not that he can now) ❤️ 🤗
@@PurplePanda1105 no facce no case he won't ever say he did something or comment on shitty behaviour unless something gets leaked, he's a very powerful man imagine the dirt he will have on the people around him who know what he's done in the past.
Hahahaha. Yeah that was goofy of him. The reason I didn’t rip him to shreds for that is I think he meant “I’m not using those to excuse my behavior” and said it in the worst way possible. Maybe. Coz what he said makes 0 sense
As soon as Cassie curled up and didn’t move at all, I knew she believed it was the only way to not make it worse for herself. She didn’t try to get away or fight back. She braced herself for what was coming. If that’s not a sign she knows what he’s capable of, I don’t know what is!
@@CryptoWolf1No that’s not what is being said. It’s saying that she’s used to this and she’s just trying to get through it with the least damage possible.
Omg I knowww! My 18 year old daughter was in the room when I watched this and I couldn't help but notice the same thing and think about how helpless and hopeless she was lying there. Literally like just..."play dead."
Im glad you put out this video! I was wondering if you were going to touch on this situation! I completely agree with you! There was no full accountability in his speech, not an apology! Great video!!
Here probably yeah, but it's not always. Things like autism and depression and trauma can leave u with a very un emotive face. It happened to me from all those things.
The fact that he’s not okay with showing himself naked, holding on to the towel, but completely comfortable with people seeing him abuse his girlfriend. Just showes what kind of person he is
She’s saying “the fact that” he did not want to walk around naked in a public hallway (and seen naked) but was okay beating her in a public hallway (for others to see even via camera, the security team, management, guests, etc) says a lot about him. He cared more about himself being seen naked than beating her, specifically in public.
Actually he tried to get the security footage deleted and when that didn't work and it got leaked, he made this "apology" video. He's only sorry he got caught.
Lol this even happen 7 year ago and the media will know for sure he go into therapy or anger management in those time. But for some known reason we do not hear anything
@ikemkrueger Meaning he never sought any type of professional help in the way he is alluding to here. The only professionals helping him are attorneys and PR executives.
The eye squeezing, in my opinion was him trying really hard to make some tears come out, but they wouldn't, because a) he's a terrible actor, and b) he isn't sorry for what he did (crocodile tears). He literally made this whole "non-apology" about HIMSELF, and not ONE time did he address Cassie, or ANY of his other victims. Hell, it's not clear at all WHO he's even "apologizing" to. Just a bunch of word salad tossed together in a poor attempt to garner sympathy from the public because he's only concerned with the way it made him LOOK. Even used the typical abuser sayings/tactics "working to become a better man everyday" and "hit rock bottom" yeah ok; how many times did you "hit rock bottom" when you were with Cassie? When you were with Kim Porter? When you were with Misa? When you were dealing with Gina? There's always been a pattern. Smh. Idk, when I "hit rock bottom" I typically might stay in the house/in bed for a few days and eat ice cream; not hit people or drag them, or stomp on their stomachs while pregnant (go listen to Gina V's story). This dude is a diabolical monster. Probably was laughing both before and after the video was made. In actuality, he would have been better off just not saying anything at all and just staying silent.
right about remaining silent because the apology was more an admission of guilt and not remorse. Is he really that stupid or think we are dum enough to believe him. He must think he has some special powers
Omg I've clearly learned so much from you. It was so cool to have noticed the hand on the towel and thought the same thing the first time I saw this video. And after watching your analysis it felt awesome that you pointed it out. 😄
Thats not true at all. As someone who has studied ASPD, psychopaths and sociopaths can feel emotions- just not all of them, and not as deeply as we do. Theres a psychopathic girl on tiktok that claims that she CAN feel emotions, but is on a “much lower level than a normal person.” Obviously, I’m not trying to defend Diddy here. Yeah, he probably is a psychopath. But you really should not spread false and stigmatizing information about ASPD. If you don’t know about ASPD… then don’t try to describe what you think it is in a factual way.
Exactly. He did this on prodding of his lawyers. At the very end when he gets ready to turn off the phone at 14:57, the way he twisted his mouth he looks annoyed and relieved to get it over with.
@@lyndelljones5483 no this is simply the diddler wanting the public to side with him cause all he cares about is his reputation. hence why his hand was clutching his towel the entire damn time. as per the lawyer comment, this is the worst thing you could do, which was to admit you did it.
Love your content!! Could do a deep dive on Clayton Echard vs LO (aka Jane Doe) case?? 🙏🏽 and analysis on her behavior in different cases would be so insightful!! Case is somewhat similar to baby Reindeer & Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard, but more exes involved
The worst thing about that leaked video, is knowing what happened after the footage stopped was guaranteed to be so much worse than what was visible on the tape. Rot in filth, Sean Combs.
Exactly. After watching the blurred version of that video, I felt sick to my stomach and my mind kept thinking about all the abuse that wasn’t caught on video. I had to take a nap. Poor Cassie. Diddy is a monster.
He didn't say that he was "disgusted with HIMSELF when he did it then"... he said he was "disgusted when he did it then". Therefore, he didn't rule out if he was disgusted with her...
Abusers are usually "disgusted" with what their victims "made" them do. He's disgusted but never said why specifically. Like "I'm disgusted with myself/behaviour during that time!"
I totally agree with you about the towel. The fact that he was holding on to it, and balsy (ha!) enough to run down the hall and partake in such a physical in just a towel tells me he's done this before and had complete control over his actions.
If he was getting therapy all this time that he wouldn't have been calling her a liar a week ago. He would have already been taking responsibility for his actions way before the video came out busting him
When you were talking about the one-sided face scrunch being associated with contempt, I was getting ready to make a comment about him as a rapper, and how rappers seem almost conditioned to talk and rap like that, maybe to give them a kind-of “gangsta” edge, or something, idk, but it definitely is something I’ve observed a lot in rap culture! I was excited to hear you mention that too. You’re the best, Spidey!
This is likely accurate. I watch a lot of battle rap, and it's very common to see. Top that off with the culture around rap/hip hop is to set yourself up as the superior rapper, condescension and superiority complexes become incredibly common.
Watching this channel is helping me to think about and understand how my own facial expressions and body language come across. I've always had this issue where I think people don't like me for some weird reason. I realized from these videos that I denote contempt a lot, and it probably makes people afraid to approach me, or they don't get a warm or welcoming feeling. In my mind I thought people would relate to my expressions, asymmetrical lip curls, eyebrow raises, and eye rolls, like "isn't this thing annoying or stupid," but it probably doesn't land that way! This was a pretty big realization. I have gotten the same feedback at least 3 times in my life (and repetition is usually a sign of something) that people initially thought that I must be mean, or a b-word, but then they found out I'm really not. This channel is fascinating!
100% loved your analysis! Thank you from my soul, for clarifying that this individual acted with a clear mind in the video. Meaning, mental illness is not a factor. You backed up your statement with the fact he consciously held up his towel for modesty purposes. “Normal” people are capable of evil thinking and actions. My peers who suffer from medical mental disorders, are often accused of horrible crimes against humanity. When in reality, we will more likely hurt ourselves than consider harming others! Thank you dear Spidey! ❤
The only thing that he's sorry about is that he got caught, the tides are turning against him, and no one is coming and willing to help. He's a whole creep. Thank you for breakdown.
New to the channel, so glad you came up on my feed. Having gone through many abusive relationships and decades of therapy, this all seems familiar. Thank you for your expertise
He clearly wasn't so disgusted by his actions that it kept him from paying the hotel where that video (aka the horrific assault on Cassie) happened $50,000 to delete the footage!! Thankfully somebody somewhere kept a copy of it, so the world can see what he is truly like when he thinks no one is looking. Thank you for covering this, Spidey. Must be tough to stay as unbiased as possible with topics such as these. You did a great job! Definitely not a career I could have ... I am FAR too biased after seeing that video... He's a cold-blooded monster imo.
No one kept a copy of it. It was recovered from his home during a recent raid by the feds. Hence why it never surfaced until now. Cassie didn't leak it, hotel didn't leak it, pretty much Diddy created the environment for his own evidence to leak because he fled a couple days before the raid and wasn't smart enough to cover his own ass. Prob had it stashed deep in a vault somewhere and figured they'd never find it. But joke's on him. Also, this was not the ONLY tape they found; NUMEROUS tapes were found, evidence of the alleged "freak-offs" and other more incriminating evidence, such as concrete proof that he orchestrated the murder of 2Pac Shakur. He's going DOWN. Feds are currently sifting through everything to see what he can be charged with. Unfortunately while the abuse video at least proves that Cassie wasn't lying (because he, along with soooo many others, kept accusing her of lying and being "money hungry"), he cannot be charged with anything from that incident, due to statute of limitations. But there might be other crimes he can face charges for, and they're gathering all that up now. But yes, to clarify, that tape came from HIS house. He'd been hoarding it all this time. And that's just the footage that was on enough to show on tv; imagine what else they have in their possession now that they CAN'T let us see.
He purchased it from the hotel & kept it himself. When the cops raided his home recently, they found it. He probably kept it to give himself a thrill every now & then, but ultimately, by keeping it, he's shot himself in the foot.
Wow that was so well made, down to the little face scrunches, you are a master of your craft and informative! I like how you keep it purely professional and focus on the body language and not your inner bias. Thank you Spidey!
It means a lot that you said that. I felt that in this one my opinion burst through more than usual so I’m really glad you felt it wasn’t too bad. Thanks for the kind words and encouragement 😊
It's hard not to be bias when evidence that vile comes out. You were as fair as anyone can be. I appreciated the "this is what we do see. This could mean this or it could mean that. This is what we don't see." Recognizing that plastic surgery and rap culture as reasons he has a much different baseline. Focusing on the facts with the science to back it up! 👏🏼 Bravo sir and you're welcome!
@@TheBehavioralArts didn’t get the “face scrunch” analysis? Are you saying most people make “face scrunch” expressions on both the left and right sides of their face?
@@Michelle-pg5sz not necessarily. Everyone does both symetrical and asymmetrical face scrunches. When it’s synthetical it can mean ALOT of things. From disgust to confusion to trying to see something, etc etc etc. The one sided scrunch is most commonly associated with some type of judgment or contempt, it can also in deep thought or confusion but the mouth typically moves more with that. But for diddy (and ice cube) it’s baseline, when it’s baseline, it doesn’t mean anything.
@@TheBehavioralArts I've found several of ur videos interesting. Stating a reaction to this 1 would be unfair. In Atlanta we knew this back in 2012 when Fulton's DA tried to file but the mayor stopped it to protect our music industry. So the DA ran him out. He never lived here but he partied here. Same crimes. If you like Hip Hop then hold ur hat.....there's more coming.
Thank you Spidey. I appreciate that you name elements exactly, "no actions or what are the measures you are taking?" meaning to repair the situation. I rely on my gut, my over all sense of a person, but you make my senses into words, as well as pointing out integrity issues. That is valuable. When I watched him speak, I saw him emotionally flat, being someone who can project emotions buy chose not to, he was disingenuous and not sincerely contrite, no shame. Shame is appropriate in this situation.
I never caught the towel thing but thinking it over I think you are spot on. I think it speaks to his evil that he was concerned about public embarrassment but NOT public censure for beating his girlfriend. How messed up do you have to be for that NOT to be a concern for you? Also, shame on the bodyguards who witnessed several instances of this disgusting behavior and said nothing until Cassie showed bravery by coming forward with no help from them. Cowards the lot of them.
Re: Him holding his and @ssaulting her at the same time. He wasnt afraid of other guests seeing this . He buys out the entire floor when he stays at hotels...and sometimes the ones above and below him too. Its fairly common with celebrities, so they wont have fans show up at the door, or prevents them from losing sleep from the party going on down the hall. Or, unfortunately, things like this.
I have an unsettling feeling that when he said "Sometimes you have to do that", he was justifying beating her rather than him having to reflect on his darkest time? Given the analysis of eyeblocking, that memory of what he did came up ("reflection") he tried to block it because he didn’t want to face it, and then justified it to himself so that he could live with what he did to her.
I agree with your analysis 💯 1. In seeing the original leaked video, as a dv survivor myself, I could clearly see her reaction as learned helplessness. She is someone that had experienced this many times before and is trying to not do anything that she knows will make it worse. 2. One of the things he said in his apology really stood out to me. When he said “I HAD TO go to therapy.” And hung his head, is the way the victim would have e said it. It seems like he was trying to get sympathy. Instead of saying “I WENT” or “I CHOSE” to go to therapy to try to be a better person. Edited to add; SO CALLED apology, because it is clearly not genuine.
i heard that she tried to go back and apologize. Apparently the hotel security who had witnessed what happened tried to prevent her from going back upstairs. She was blaming herself.
I was waiting for this one...thanks Spidey!! He sounded just like the narcissist who did this to me. He doesn't know how to feel sorry. It's an act. It's insidious.
When i was a kid, my classmates would say they never felt pain and they were the ones who would beat other kids. I was jealous cause any angry touch from my parents would hurt bad to me and i was like "i wish i had no emotions, no feelings, no pain" and as a grew up i realized what those kids meant and it's scary to know that my classmates were psychopaths and i had healthy psychology being jealous of psychopaths.
I just discovered your page. I have spent some time learning microexpressions and behaviors and currently, I am in grad school for counseling. I really enjoyed listening to your take on the expressions, the movements, the non-movements, etc... I was able to follow along and look at this from an unbiased opinion with you and just learn and understand more. Thank you. Subscriber now and look forward to watching and learning more.
If they can’t prosecute him for assault because of statute of limitations, can they prosecute him for kidnapping? There’s no limitation on that, and dragging her back to his hotel room looks like kidnapping to me!
After all these celebrity apology videos, I've learned that "I take full responsibility for my actions" means "I'm not sorry but I don't want to admit it"
I believe him when he talks about finding it hard to face the darkest times of your life. His lie is the implication that his darkest time was the period around the assault. In actuality, I think his feeling is the darkest time is NOW, facing the music
I agree with your last point about him not being under “blind rage”. Another interesting thing is that he walked her bag ALLL the way back to the room. Anyone who’s not calculating or thinking would not have done something so maticulus like that…. he wanted to trap her 🙁
I mean does god forgive everyone if they ask for forgiveness? I think it has to be genuinely asked, and I am almost certain his is disingenuous. He swallowed hard after saying that about asking the Good Lord for forgiveness. Which leads me to believe he knows that was a big lie. Anyway, I wonder if God forgives phony requests for forgiveness..
@@charlottedaniels5229 Yes, God forgives everyone who asks. His asking God's forgiveness can't be disingenuous because he knows God can see through it. Him telling us about it, now that's a different story. We won't know if it's true or false. I haven't heard him enough to judge. I can count on one hand the times I've heard him talk. Does he always sound like this? Sort of like that Woodbine guy, John Wayne and Elvis Presley. No matter what they spit, it sound fake. 😆
@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF are we sure about that, because if you're asking for forgiveness knowing God will forgive just to continue the cycle, would that in fact be true forgiveness? Remember, God is omnipotent he already knows our fate.
His apology, like himself- is a joke. Why would he assume releasing an apology video was a great idea?! First of all, if he was truly sorry- the day he accused Cassie of "looking for a quick pay day" (which he literally quickly paid) - was the time to apologize. If this clown was truly remorseful, he would take full accountability, walk into a jailhouse & serve time in jail. And he said (he was disgusted back then)- yet he paid that hotel to obtain the footage. So, he couldn’t have been as disgusted as he says. As a man he could’ve simply walked away or break up with her. What's worse is attacking a woman- when (she's walking away). He carries a legacy as a psychotic woman-beater. It can never be erased.
While it wouldn't be valid in this case we need a new law. When the accused has tampered with evidence (paying for the video), harassed the victim(s), when they've slandered and committed libel against the victim, etc. then the statues of limitans should be invalidated. No one should be able to actively hide their crimes and only come clean when they can no longer be criminally charged.
Anyone regular to this channel knows how significant this video is. Spidey is huge on not making definitive statements and in keeping objective. His adamance on this video is unbelievable and the parts he covers on the actual video and her body language was heart wrenching.
If you thought this one was balanced wait till you see the rest of his content. This is the most opinionated I’ve seen him. It’s mind blowing how he can stay neutral and level headed in the most polarizing of times. It’s a super power.
He is so used to psychological distancing,its now become second nature to him...thats why he changes his name everytime he has done something dark...he is the master of not taking responsibility and distancing himself from his actions....It has become a mechanism he uses to be able to sleep at night after doing something horrible.
Dude sleeps fine. Dark triad personalities don’t have feelings. He does do that shape shifting to distance himself though, to “trick” other people however, classic Machiavellian style. Tupac had an album titled Machiavelli, but Diddy is the one who truly is.
YES Spidey!! You nailed it. Every single detail I agree with you on. I couldn’t find the words for it before this video but I’ve experienced DV before and my ptsd flared up like a fire alarm when I saw that horrible clip. Thank you for the time and effort and research you put in to make this content. You are a lifesaver❤
Celeb Apology checklist. Sad face, been to therapy, Mention God, been to or going to Rehab, Say sorry, Say I'll do better, Say not asking forgiveness, Say I got help, Mention professional help, Say you are ashamed, Say you taking responsibility, making large charity donation, I hit rock bottom. Diddy read the whole script.
You should make a Bingo card out of this.
Yeah and we should ask for the recipe of those therapy in the last 7 years
I wrote the same thing practically word for word on a few videos when the apology first came out.
Every point ✅️
@@carag2567you beat me to it, was gonna say the same thing
His "God" is not the real God. Diddly's house of cards is falling down.
This apology felt equivalent of a dude saying “my bad”
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Not even. Lol
Or Ooopsie 😂
right. sorry for stepping on your shoe.
And not even THAT equivalent!!!
Notice how he says, “I take full responsibility for my actions IN THAT VIDEO.” If this had only ever occurred once it’d be more reasonable to leave it at “my actions.”
I think the fact that Diddy not only denied all the allegations against him but also accused the women of being financially motivated is a very clear indication that this is a false apology. He claims to have been disgusted enough with himself to seek professional help through therapy, rehab, and spiritual counseling, yet he still tried to DARVO his way out of the situation when his behaviors were made public. A changed person would not have done that. Classic abuser. Textbook.
What does darvo mean?
@cassierussell6281 It's an acronym for Deny Accuse/Attack Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a very common, almost universal response that abusers resort to when confronted with their own behavior.
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From Wikipedia
DARVO (an acronym for "deny, attack, and reverse victim & offender") is a reaction that perpetrators of wrongdoing, such as sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior.[1] Some researchers indicate that it is a common manipulation strategy of psychological abusers.[2]
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There was some frontal lobe damage done to my uncle. He was electrocuted and on the outside of the 2nd floor of a building. His partner grabbed his belt to stop the circuit of electricity, and he fell from the 2nd floor, leaving him with frontal lobe damage, which changed his behavior significantly.
I wonder, with all of this violence that surrounded him for a long time, if he may have some frontal lobe damage, also. Do we know if he has adhd or anything else? Learning about those behaviors I was told a person could do a behavior and then regret it almost immediately.
A WEEK ago he was still saying she was a lying gold digger so... yeah, he's SORRY... that he got caught.
Exactly. He thinks that Joe Public are stupid. The master manipulator. Karma always catches up with you. No amount of money and status can help you where karma is concerned.
SMDH Wow really?? Where did he say that please?
@@gogogetem8203There’s a search engine called Google, where you can do your own research.🙄
There’s numerous accounts where Diddy denied any wrongdoing from Cassie and his accusers saying that they are “liars, and gold-diggers”.
Any links to him saying that?
he thought his money got rid of that video that's why
He looks so dead behind the eyes. Its frightening.
He really looks different, like the whole devil took him over
He’s always been this way. And often holds his mouth half open. He’s always creeped me out but I couldn’t put a finger on why.
@@Lfig Me too
He looks like he would be at home wielding a machete in Rwanda. Their faces were as dark and devoid of expression as they hacked away at their victims.
@@Lfig the keeping the mouth open is something weird men do
He's not sorry for his actions, he's sorry he was caught. If he was sorry he would have said something when Cassidy was sueing him.
And he wouldn't have settled the law suit within 24 hrs!
Spidy’s OBSERVATIONAL statements are just THAT!
You who comment…..STOP judging!
It's CASSIE or CASSANDRA, not "cassidy". Cassidy is the name of a male rapper.
And he wouldn't have continued to deny it this entire time.
@@neferazure yeah cause typos aren't a thing.
His “apology” sounds like the typical narcissistic fake apology. He’s only sorry he’s been exposed.
Yep
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Right
And real mad(disgusted) too that he got caught
And losing shit
One thing that's clear to me which hasn't been mentioned? He is very very angry with Cassie exposing him! He would punish her again if he could!!
I'm sure he would. He ouzes that anger. Gives me serious red flag signals.
You know he's probably trying his damnedest to have her killed cause she's the one that going to make him get charged and go to prison. If anyone. She needs to be highly protected
That’s what he did to Kim!
Exactly!! He was trying his hardest to contain his anger with her. I would even say he was, in that moment, actually thinking…..playing in his mind exactly what he wants to do to her to make her pay, which is causing those facial twitches. He is evil, he is devious, and he is calculating. I hope & pray everyone that is in her corner is on high alert and has her (& her family) safety at the forefront of their minds.
Yes! I said the same thing
He truly believes this “apology” will help him. This just proves how sick and dangerous he really is.
The worst part is that this apology will help him. So many powerful individuals are invested in him, and stand to lose a lot to see him fully blacklisted or jailed, so as long as they have this apology on record now, powerful players will let him off Scott free. He will face no repercussions. What the average person thinks of him doesn’t matter.
Sadly a lot of regular people are going to forgive him😢
"That video"
Another video leaks
"OK those 2 videos"
Exactly. His arrogance is astounding. He's been getting away with murder so long he doesn't care that he looks phony. He really thinks his big money is gonna get him out of this. He's sadly mistaken.
@@sopiabobia3699 I disagree. Maybe I’m not understanding your pov. Companies and supporters have been pulling away from him, refusing to make comments after the video came out when they were in full support before there was physical evidence. The video makes him sound ridiculous, it’s embarrassing really. This video, plus anything else he makes public, can be used against him for anything that goes to court and it will hurt him considerably. This was a bad move on his part, and his attorney’s if they ok’d this. They can now do a record request in discovery to see if he really went to rehab or therapy if he does go to court for his current legal issues, if nothing turns up it will be a BAD day 😅
I'm SO GLAD you are covering this, Spidey! Everyone needs to know how dangerous this man is! As a dv survivor, THANK YOU!
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So sorry you had to experience something as awful as DV. My heart goes out to you and I wish you well on your healing journey ❤
@@PrincezzAdri thank you very much ❤️ I'm one of the lucky ones, thank God 😊
😥 A predator takes away *your will, your voice, your choice*
And, will leave you with just a _whisper_ *in your soul* 💯
Oh Spidey, I'm glad you mention the towel held in one hand all the time. I didn't know why, but that made my hair stand on end. As if he were at home, freshly showered and turning on the TV, totally relaxed and natural with what he was doing. It's terrible and disturbing.
It struck me as bizarre; that he covered himself in that corridor because of the risk of another person coming out of a room and seeing him naked but didn't have the same mental check on his behavior when it came to how he treated Cassie.
So he's basically apologizing for doing something he and his legal team vehemently and categorically denied doing a few months ago in two separate statements?
What a dirt bag.
Exactly. First, she was lying and "looking for a payday" and now that the proof is out, you take full accountability and you're so sorry? Are you sorry for blatantly lying and saying your victim is a liar, too? He's scum of the earth. Can't believe a word he says.
Uhmm😮
Hes apologizing for getting caught
Yeah and but what is he sorry FOR? He couldn’t even do that right. Pathetic apology video doesn’t count.
She went limp, making very little movement. She didn’t even try to curl up in a ball to shield herself from further damaging blows. That doesn’t happen when the behavior is new. Our instincts tell us to protect ourselves. But to an abuser, that is throwing gas on the fire. She didn’t want to do ANYTHING that would give him more of a reason to continue hitting her. Even when he is sitting down just looking at her, while she was out of the camera range, he sat there like he was a King and he was enjoying the suffering, so much that he wanted to continue to make her cower, so he threw things at her.
Such astute observations and so well explained. I’m sad thinking about why you know this. I hope it’s due to professional or academic reasons.
I was wondering why she didn't instinctively protect herself. Your explanation makes so much sense. Not covering herself was a way to protect herself or pacifying his rage. That wasn't the first time he did it.
Exactly. Those who know, know.
Facts
Yes, I agree, she knows the routine. When he caught her it’s like she knew it was over and she messed up by trying to escape smh She fell and laid still, I waited for her legs to come up into the fetal position but they never did smh she was defeated and basically checked out and played dead, that’s like the last animal survival instinct tears
My first impression is that he's referring to a list of key apology phrases without actually addressing anything specific. He seems to be referring to notes with bulltet points.
Agreed 100% he’s not reading a word for word script but he’s looking over to some type of skeleton or bullet points
@@TheBehavioralArts Though it's not necessarily dishonest to do that. You might write a checklist for yourself because you really want to communicate honest information about yourself, and you don't want to forget it. However, with the rest of the analysis on top of that, it's pretty clear that this checklist of him isn't made to convey honest thoughts.
Thank you for your analysis videos, they're packed with valuable information and nuances. It's both a great piece of information and entertainment.
He was disgusted then that she dared to leave and disgusted now that the undeniable truth can no longer be contested.
He was disgusted that the video got leaked to CNN
Cassie isn't the only female he has did this too.
Gene Deal Diddys ex bodyguard said on Aet of Dialogue, that he slapped and curse his own mother out
Like Gene said a man who hits his mother, will do it to other women.
And Diddy has to Cassie, Gina, Misa, and people said Kim had it worse than Cassie
He was angry then as she tried to escape quietly without shoes, 100 percent anger that she has the courage to try .... he is disgusting especially hiding this evil behind that cross on his chest ... and he still using God in this apology video
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There's a ton of fake religious people out there that hide behind their religion, makes me sick , one of the reasons religion has pushed me away
He wanted to abuse her so badly that she would regret having tried to get away from him and would be too fearful to ever try it again.
You hit the nail on the head. When I saw her just lay there still, and not moving after being struck twice… I knew this definitely happened before. 😭
Notice how he said “I had to go to therapy” not “I realized I needed therapy” or “I started to going to therapy” or even simply “I have been in therapy”.
HAD to go implies he didn’t really want to
I don’t necessarily agree with this. I’m not sure if it’s perhaps bc I’m from NY, but this is how we just say certain things. To me “I understood it as I knew I needed help, I had to go.” Like colloquial errors.
@@ulovemex33 I’m from NJ so I don’t think you and I would differ much in our colloquialisms. I still think his word choice is telling.
@@feelthejoyI'm not from the US but I'm a native English speaker and I also disagree. His usage word "had" doesn't necessarily imply a lack of interest.
I've also had several situations where I was in such an awful situation that I *had* to seek counselling.
I also wanted to seek counseling but the word "had" does not rule out my interest in counseling simply because you as the audience or reader do not have enough information to reach such a conclusion.
@@rr.studios agreed.
@@feelthejoy I feel like you’re basing too much emphasis on the usage of the word “had”. It could be a recognition of his issues and he knew he HAD no choice but to go.
In any case, had he said it differently: “I realized at that point I NEEDED help and decided it was best to go to therapy” would that have changed anything that transpired? No, bc it’s a juxtaposition of word play.
Great point overall. I am surprised that therapists have not discussed his word choice, “It's so difficult to reflect on the darkest times in YOUR life, but sometimes YOU gotta do that.” This stood out to me as soon as I heard this. He was deflecting and turning it around on the viewers. He was seeking empathy as though everyone else has done this type of stuff too. We have not. He wasn’t owning it.
An English person would say 'one' in the same sentence.
Most people would have said ‘one’ “I” is usually too close for people and ‘you’ is usually asking others to see things your way. ‘You’ might be still a lot of people’s first go to not just not to take blame but
also to distance themselves from it and I feel Combs had time and lawyers to help him figure out what to say and that this is the apology he gave was ehh
This is the 3rd analysis I've seen of his "apology" & this is the best. No-one else noticed that he kept one hand on the towel or that her behaviour was consistent with someone who often got abused. Great job as always
TW: Domestic abuse
Thank you for covering what was in some of the surveillance footage. I've just gotten out of a 15 yr abusive marriage and been trying to process through it. I feel a lot of shame and guilt for what I let myself become and this was an important reminder that my body was doing its best to protect me. There was no shock in either my ex or I aside from the first time he punched a hole through our wall. My body knew the best ways to hold still and position myself to try and de-escalate the situation. The towel thing also reminded me of my ex. I spent so much time defending him and telling myself it was just the trauma talking and he would never intentionally hurt me. But once he found out I started to record our conversations, he would come in and wake me up by yelling at me first thing in the morning when he knew I couldn't be recording. It was the first time it really hit home that he knew exactly what he was doing. If he could worry about his image in the moment, then he knew what he was doing.
So sorry you went through that. You should be so proud of yourself for getting out 💛
So sorry glad your better
I'm a little late to this party, but I wanted to say, I'm glad you're here. Hoping each day bright and beautiful for you!
He’s a psychopath, he has no emotions. No empathy. Just my thoughts.
No empathy at all,thats true,he looks like he is devoid of a soul,even his gaze ..its a soulless gaze,😲 scary stuff!
Yeah, the blank face on this context is a huge sign for being emotionless and lacking empathy.
My thoughts too. Sociopath at least.
Yep.
Agree
This video evidence is NOT his darkest time of his life, that's one of the sickest parts of his "apology".
Right more like darkest time in Cassie’s life
Bet there's stuff that's even worse. He's gotten away with so much
More like a regular Wednesday
Him now being exposed is the darkest time of his life, he enjoyed having that power over Cassidy and Kim
@@PriyaPansIt seems like "he's gotten away with so much"......
The chickens have started coming home to roost...............................
Diddy sounded like he was reading. His "apology" was so insincere..
A psych nurse 50 yrs ago, working with pedophiles and those who violently assaulted women, the most common things expressed: "she needs to get over it", "stop living in the past", "she needs to move on", etc. Basically, she was the problem. Sadly, not much has changed in five decades.
Even the stats haven't changed according to RAINN and CDC.
Yep! These people are not at all sorry! They are just sorry they got caught!
Yep. Not one thing has changed. Says I should just forgive him and marry him.
I guess you do take full responsibility since it’s already out there. 🙄
Well this is classic for anyone refusing or potentially in denial about their own actions, behaviors n even words so it's not at all limited to domestic violence. In my experience the more egregious the acts the less likelihood of a true apology, remorse n change. So they have to turn it around. Some will say you made them do it by getting them so angry or pushing their buttons but some are smart enough to know this is absurd so the next best thing is to minimize n try to paint you as unforgiving, holding onto the past, being oversensitive n not moving on. Of course when it comes to domestic abuse you should not just be moving on. And if you are still with someone out of fear etc you can sorta see that it could be confusing to them as you're still with them so they take that as forgiving them but yet you're still holding onto it. People need to get out of these relationships or work through together with what happened. I don't mean in this case or domestic violence in general but like affairs etc. they have to win back trust little by little but you also can't hold it against them forever. Better to just leave.
Thank you for not playing the video! This has always been a safe place for victims ❤ thank you!
I love this comment
I just commented the same thing. I saw the video when my husband had the news on the TV and I almost came unglued 😢😢😢😢😢
Thank you for NOT playing it.
We all know Diddy is a huge liar but that doesn't mean I will enjoy your breakdown any less THANKS SPIDEY!!!
Exactly
Diddy's default, baseline behavior is lying (or, at very best, withholding the full truth). Seems he's a bit of a sociopath, and only said something now because he had to say something in an attempt to salvage some kind of reputation (which is tied to $$$).
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When he mentioned God he couldn’t even look at the camera. That brotha is soulless.
I noticed that too, disturbing.
Yer I picked that up! So cold as ice!! He almost looked like he wanted to burst out laughing!!
How dare he bring gods name in vain in the same sentence and trying to gaslight us . he’s a monster 👺
Exactly!!! He does this at key points.
@yvetteshadrick8894
I noticed he looked up and to the left when he mentioned God which reflects someone that's lying!!
i always get a devious little grin when your face pops up after the first clip because I KNOWW you're going to pick every little aspect apart and im so excited lolol
Narcissists never give specific reasons as to why they're sorry. You know it must be bad because they rarely even use the words "sorry" or "I apologize."
It's usually something to the tune of _"I should've done things differently"_ which could also mean _"I should have done a better job of manipulating you"_ 💀💀
You don't have to be a narcissist to avoid accountability or lie or feel superior to others. You simplz can be an a-hole. Let's not throw around clinical diagnoses as if we have studied the valuation of personality disorders.
@@stephanijeopdevelt5600 there’s lots of discussion on the term narcissist becoming common place to describe a specific set of behaviors. With a diagnosis from a licensed professional those can be diagnosed as a variety of different disorders. This person has not diagnosed anyone and is only speaking on the behaviors. To diagnose would be to use the actual clinical term of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
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See also "no one is perfect", "I've made mistakes", "I'm only human".
And as you have said, no specifics.
@@brettneyp to me it seems absurd to state, you can call someone a narcissist because it is clear you don‘t mean, that he has narcissistic personality order. Call him TOXIC if you want to point out problematic behavior, which can also occur in multiple (!) different personality disorders. Why just pick NPD. It became common, because so many use this term so loosely. Common doesn’t mean correct. NPD is a serious disorder and by misusing the term it‘s seriousness gets washed out. People who can not look into your head what you REALLY meant take what you SAID and run with it. Let’s be a little bit clear and use terms which are correct and don’t misuse incorrect ones to avoid the above.
Hey everyone! Hope you’re enjoying the video despite the very heavy and unpleasant topic. I just wanted to add 2 other points for discussion and consideration.
1) The appeal to religion. I filmed a whole segment about this then cut it out because I wasn’t happy with the way I expressed it. Ultimately I think he’s bringing it up to get sympathy from people who share his faith. In hopes that they will back off when they hear that he asked for grace. To me it feels like a cop out.
2) if I can ask Diddy one question I would ask “how many other times did events similar to the one in the video take place? Be it with Cassie or anyone else?” The question is a catch 22, either he would have to confess to other cases where he did this or he would claim this is the only time it happened and the moment evidence surfaced that it isn’t, it would very conclusively show how fake this apology was, as well as any other apology moving forward. We already have him claiming he’s sorry for something he strongly denied, so it would just be more of that but there would be no way for him to regain any credibility in a situation like that (not that he can now)
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He won't admit to any others until another video surfaces!! 😡
You're the best. Thank you for your analysis.
Heck, I will ask that question right on his Twitter/X account on yours and everyone with a conscious behalf.
Love the 2nd point. Very clever
@@PurplePanda1105 no facce no case he won't ever say he did something or comment on shitty behaviour unless something gets leaked, he's a very powerful man imagine the dirt he will have on the people around him who know what he's done in the past.
He makes a list of excuses and then said he makes no excuses, he knows we can hear him right!
Hahahaha. Yeah that was goofy of him. The reason I didn’t rip him to shreds for that is I think he meant “I’m not using those to excuse my behavior” and said it in the worst way possible. Maybe. Coz what he said makes 0 sense
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 clearly not!
Diddy has the coldest wicked look in his eyes😭
yes. I call it Cod Eyes.
Like a monster.
HE'S always given me the creeps 😬
His eyes are dead
Yes, I've never liked the look of him.
As soon as Cassie curled up and didn’t move at all, I knew she believed it was the only way to not make it worse for herself. She didn’t try to get away or fight back. She braced herself for what was coming. If that’s not a sign she knows what he’s capable of, I don’t know what is!
So diddy should be free is what you saying?
@@CryptoWolf1No that’s not what is being said. It’s saying that she’s used to this and she’s just trying to get through it with the least damage possible.
@@CryptoWolf1how the hell did you gather that from this comment?
Omg I knowww! My 18 year old daughter was in the room when I watched this and I couldn't help but notice the same thing and think about how helpless and hopeless she was lying there. Literally like just..."play dead."
@@CryptoWolf1are you slow or s+up!d? Cause there is no way you could gather that from what was said…
Im glad you put out this video! I was wondering if you were going to touch on this situation! I completely agree with you! There was no full accountability in his speech, not an apology! Great video!!
Showing no emotions is a clear sign of a psychopath..
I know his eyes look so completely dead and any emotion whatsoever
Oh he is showing enough emotions, all the time, so much so that it shows all this power took him off his trolley, or maybe he was born as a pos.
I'm sure he thinks he nailed it. It doesn't seem genuine remorse or regret at all.
Here probably yeah, but it's not always.
Things like autism and depression and trauma can leave u with a very un emotive face. It happened to me from all those things.
Serial killer
The fact that he’s not okay with showing himself naked, holding on to the towel, but completely comfortable with people seeing him abuse his girlfriend. Just showes what kind of person he is
What? That makes no sense. He shows who he is beating someone, towel or no towel.
She’s saying “the fact that” he did not want to walk around naked in a public hallway (and seen naked) but was okay beating her in a public hallway (for others to see even via camera, the security team, management, guests, etc) says a lot about him.
He cared more about himself being seen naked than beating her, specifically in public.
wholly weirdo
I said the same thing.
Actually he tried to get the security footage deleted and when that didn't work and it got leaked, he made this "apology" video. He's only sorry he got caught.
The towel point you made is so brilliant.
I don't think "professional help" or "therapy" means what Diddy thinks it means. I'm afraid he's confusing that with "fixer".
Yep!! 🤝
Lol this even happen 7 year ago and the media will know for sure he go into therapy or anger management in those time. But for some known reason we do not hear anything
What do you mean with "fixer"?
@ikemkrueger Meaning he never sought any type of professional help in the way he is alluding to here. The only professionals helping him are attorneys and PR executives.
The way I read this comment made my brain shout "INCONCEIVABLE!" 🤣
The eye squeezing, in my opinion was him trying really hard to make some tears come out, but they wouldn't, because a) he's a terrible actor, and b) he isn't sorry for what he did (crocodile tears). He literally made this whole "non-apology" about HIMSELF, and not ONE time did he address Cassie, or ANY of his other victims. Hell, it's not clear at all WHO he's even "apologizing" to. Just a bunch of word salad tossed together in a poor attempt to garner sympathy from the public because he's only concerned with the way it made him LOOK.
Even used the typical abuser sayings/tactics "working to become a better man everyday" and "hit rock bottom" yeah ok; how many times did you "hit rock bottom" when you were with Cassie? When you were with Kim Porter? When you were with Misa? When you were dealing with Gina? There's always been a pattern. Smh. Idk, when I "hit rock bottom" I typically might stay in the house/in bed for a few days and eat ice cream; not hit people or drag them, or stomp on their stomachs while pregnant (go listen to Gina V's story). This dude is a diabolical monster.
Probably was laughing both before and after the video was made. In actuality, he would have been better off just not saying anything at all and just staying silent.
EXCELLENT POINTS!!!! This comment should be pinned! 👏👏👏
right about remaining silent because the apology was more an admission of guilt and not remorse. Is he really that stupid or think we are dum enough to believe him. He must think he has some special powers
Exactly - It was about him. It wasn't about her at all. Oh, poor him having his dark moment, poor him having to go to rehab, poor him...
Omg I've clearly learned so much from you. It was so cool to have noticed the hand on the towel and thought the same thing the first time I saw this video. And after watching your analysis it felt awesome that you pointed it out. 😄
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Time stamp pls??
@@XeninaCalifornia 23:41 😘
@@alisonadventuresyothank you
He’s clearly a psychopath; the only emotion they feel is rage.
Thats not true at all. As someone who has studied ASPD, psychopaths and sociopaths can feel emotions- just not all of them, and not as deeply as we do. Theres a psychopathic girl on tiktok that claims that she CAN feel emotions, but is on a “much lower level than a normal person.”
Obviously, I’m not trying to defend Diddy here. Yeah, he probably is a psychopath. But you really should not spread false and stigmatizing information about ASPD. If you don’t know about ASPD… then don’t try to describe what you think it is in a factual way.
@@3nfferr What’s the distinction between ASPD and psychopathy?
This definitely isn't an isolated incident. He's done this before; he's sorry he was caught.
She knew not to fight back wanting it to end asap
Only way for him to take responsibility is to get himself locked up in jail for the rest of his life
He could not give less of a shit about this .He’s pissed because he “has to” apologize..To keep from getting cancelled..
he took care of being cancelled all on his own
Which he probably will be anyway.
Exactly. He did this on prodding of his lawyers. At the very end when he gets ready to turn off the phone at 14:57, the way he twisted his mouth he looks annoyed and relieved to get it over with.
Too late!
@@lyndelljones5483 no this is simply the diddler wanting the public to side with him cause all he cares about is his reputation. hence why his hand was clutching his towel the entire damn time.
as per the lawyer comment, this is the worst thing you could do, which was to admit you did it.
This is poorly rehearsed. At times, he looks like he is reading right off a document.
My thoughts exactly
Agreed
Yeah, it was obvious.
Yep. Every time he looked to his right
*P Shitty Might As Well Used A Teleprompter For His Script!*
Love your content!! Could do a deep dive on Clayton Echard vs LO (aka Jane Doe) case?? 🙏🏽 and analysis on her behavior in different cases would be so insightful!! Case is somewhat similar to baby Reindeer & Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard, but more exes involved
The worst thing about that leaked video, is knowing what happened after the footage stopped was guaranteed to be so much worse than what was visible on the tape.
Rot in filth, Sean Combs.
Exactly
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Exactly. After watching the blurred version of that video, I felt sick to my stomach and my mind kept thinking about all the abuse that wasn’t caught on video. I had to take a nap. Poor Cassie. Diddy is a monster.
He didn't say that he was "disgusted with HIMSELF when he did it then"... he said he was "disgusted when he did it then". Therefore, he didn't rule out if he was disgusted with her...
Good catch
Abusers are usually "disgusted" with what their victims "made" them do.
He's disgusted but never said why specifically. Like "I'm disgusted with myself/behaviour during that time!"
Yipes. Right.
When you started talking about eye brows, I started to check yours out
I totally agree with you about the towel. The fact that he was holding on to it, and balsy (ha!) enough to run down the hall and partake in such a physical in just a towel tells me he's done this before and had complete control over his actions.
If he was getting therapy all this time that he wouldn't have been calling her a liar a week ago.
He would have already been taking responsibility for his actions way before the video came out busting him
That part!
Yeah, he's all better and cured in a week. BS
There’s not enough therapy in the world for this guy
This incident was detailed in her lawsuit. She was trying to escape one of Diddy’s sadistic “freak offs.” 😢
When you were talking about the one-sided face scrunch being associated with contempt, I was getting ready to make a comment about him as a rapper, and how rappers seem almost conditioned to talk and rap like that, maybe to give them a kind-of “gangsta” edge, or something, idk, but it definitely is something I’ve observed a lot in rap culture! I was excited to hear you mention that too. You’re the best, Spidey!
Yep, if I had to guess I would think it’s due to something along those lines as well. Well said 😊
This is likely accurate. I watch a lot of battle rap, and it's very common to see. Top that off with the culture around rap/hip hop is to set yourself up as the superior rapper, condescension and superiority complexes become incredibly common.
You’re correct. It’s a street thing they pick up.
If he was disgusted with himself, why did he call Casee a money hungry liar when she accused him.
Watching this channel is helping me to think about and understand how my own facial expressions and body language come across. I've always had this issue where I think people don't like me for some weird reason. I realized from these videos that I denote contempt a lot, and it probably makes people afraid to approach me, or they don't get a warm or welcoming feeling. In my mind I thought people would relate to my expressions, asymmetrical lip curls, eyebrow raises, and eye rolls, like "isn't this thing annoying or stupid," but it probably doesn't land that way! This was a pretty big realization. I have gotten the same feedback at least 3 times in my life (and repetition is usually a sign of something) that people initially thought that I must be mean, or a b-word, but then they found out I'm really not. This channel is fascinating!
100% loved your analysis! Thank you from my soul, for clarifying that this individual acted with a clear mind in the video. Meaning, mental illness is not a factor. You backed up your statement with the fact he consciously held up his towel for modesty purposes. “Normal” people are capable of evil thinking and actions. My peers who suffer from medical mental disorders, are often accused of horrible crimes against humanity. When in reality, we will more likely hurt ourselves than consider harming others! Thank you dear Spidey! ❤
It was 18 seconds ago..?
@@bbdn5123 OP is a channel member so may have been able to access the video earlier.
The only thing that he's sorry about is that he got caught, the tides are turning against him, and no one is coming and willing to help. He's a whole creep. Thank you for breakdown.
The question is WHO is turning the tides. CIA knew all the time and supported him and used him for YEARS in a row!
New to the channel, so glad you came up on my feed. Having gone through many abusive relationships and decades of therapy, this all seems familiar. Thank you for your expertise
He clearly wasn't so disgusted by his actions that it kept him from paying the hotel where that video (aka the horrific assault on Cassie) happened $50,000 to delete the footage!! Thankfully somebody somewhere kept a copy of it, so the world can see what he is truly like when he thinks no one is looking.
Thank you for covering this, Spidey. Must be tough to stay as unbiased as possible with topics such as these. You did a great job! Definitely not a career I could have ... I am FAR too biased after seeing that video... He's a cold-blooded monster imo.
How gross is it that the hotel agreed to take money to stay quiet. How many people at the hotel watched that video and did nothing?
No one kept a copy of it. It was recovered from his home during a recent raid by the feds. Hence why it never surfaced until now. Cassie didn't leak it, hotel didn't leak it, pretty much Diddy created the environment for his own evidence to leak because he fled a couple days before the raid and wasn't smart enough to cover his own ass. Prob had it stashed deep in a vault somewhere and figured they'd never find it. But joke's on him.
Also, this was not the ONLY tape they found; NUMEROUS tapes were found, evidence of the alleged "freak-offs" and other more incriminating evidence, such as concrete proof that he orchestrated the murder of 2Pac Shakur. He's going DOWN. Feds are currently sifting through everything to see what he can be charged with. Unfortunately while the abuse video at least proves that Cassie wasn't lying (because he, along with soooo many others, kept accusing her of lying and being "money hungry"), he cannot be charged with anything from that incident, due to statute of limitations. But there might be other crimes he can face charges for, and they're gathering all that up now.
But yes, to clarify, that tape came from HIS house. He'd been hoarding it all this time. And that's just the footage that was on enough to show on tv; imagine what else they have in their possession now that they CAN'T let us see.
He purchased it from the hotel & kept it himself. When the cops raided his home recently, they found it. He probably kept it to give himself a thrill every now & then, but ultimately, by keeping it, he's shot himself in the foot.
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@@dawnanderson1545I read that what he didn’t know was that they also gave cassie a copy too.
He was so disgusted by his actions back then that he paid the hotel $50,000 dollars for the tape! Lol
Wait, if so, then how did the tape leak?
Digital?
His actions are absolutely detestable, but "the truth" will always come to the light!!!
it was probably a copy lol
@@cherryandrews2748 the FBI obtained it in the raid on his house and released it
Diddy before video: They lying
Diddy afterwards: I’m sorry but I’m getting help.😞
Wow that was so well made, down to the little face scrunches, you are a master of your craft and informative! I like how you keep it purely professional and focus on the body language and not your inner bias. Thank you Spidey!
It means a lot that you said that. I felt that in this one my opinion burst through more than usual so I’m really glad you felt it wasn’t too bad. Thanks for the kind words and encouragement 😊
It's hard not to be bias when evidence that vile comes out. You were as fair as anyone can be. I appreciated the "this is what we do see. This could mean this or it could mean that. This is what we don't see." Recognizing that plastic surgery and rap culture as reasons he has a much different baseline. Focusing on the facts with the science to back it up! 👏🏼 Bravo sir and you're welcome!
@@TheBehavioralArts didn’t get the “face scrunch” analysis? Are you saying most people make “face scrunch” expressions on both the left and right sides of their face?
@@Michelle-pg5sz not necessarily. Everyone does both symetrical and asymmetrical face scrunches. When it’s synthetical it can mean ALOT of things. From disgust to confusion to trying to see something, etc etc etc. The one sided scrunch is most commonly associated with some type of judgment or contempt, it can also in deep thought or confusion but the mouth typically moves more with that. But for diddy (and ice cube) it’s baseline, when it’s baseline, it doesn’t mean anything.
@@TheBehavioralArts I've found several of ur videos interesting. Stating a reaction to this 1 would be unfair. In Atlanta we knew this back in 2012 when Fulton's DA tried to file but the mayor stopped it to protect our music industry. So the DA ran him out. He never lived here but he partied here. Same crimes. If you like Hip Hop then hold ur hat.....there's more coming.
He says "in the video" twice. He's not sorry about anything he did. He's sorry that it got captured in a video.
Thank you Spidey. I appreciate that you name elements exactly, "no actions or what are the measures you are taking?" meaning to repair the situation. I rely on my gut, my over all sense of a person, but you make my senses into words, as well as pointing out integrity issues. That is valuable. When I watched him speak, I saw him emotionally flat, being someone who can project emotions buy chose not to, he was disingenuous and not sincerely contrite, no shame. Shame is appropriate in this situation.
I never caught the towel thing but thinking it over I think you are spot on. I think it speaks to his evil that he was concerned about public embarrassment but NOT public censure for beating his girlfriend. How messed up do you have to be for that NOT to be a concern for you? Also, shame on the bodyguards who witnessed several instances of this disgusting behavior and said nothing until Cassie showed bravery by coming forward with no help from them. Cowards the lot of them.
Agreed, I think the bodyguards should be made responsible for not denouncing his behaviour.
Re: Him holding his and @ssaulting her at the same time.
He wasnt afraid of other guests seeing this . He buys out the entire floor when he stays at hotels...and sometimes the ones above and below him too.
Its fairly common with celebrities, so they wont have fans show up at the door, or prevents them from losing sleep from the party going on down the hall.
Or, unfortunately, things like this.
@@wolfe6220 that could be true. Why do you think Diddy was holding his towel? Certainly Cassie had seen him nude before so it wasn't for her sake
I have an unsettling feeling that when he said "Sometimes you have to do that", he was justifying beating her rather than him having to reflect on his darkest time? Given the analysis of eyeblocking, that memory of what he did came up ("reflection") he tried to block it because he didn’t want to face it, and then justified it to himself so that he could live with what he did to her.
Fantastic analysis! I sure was doubting his sincerity, so you really helped with all the fascinating details. Thank you!!
I agree with your analysis 💯 1. In seeing the original leaked video, as a dv survivor myself, I could clearly see her reaction as learned helplessness. She is someone that had experienced this many times before and is trying to not do anything that she knows will make it worse. 2. One of the things he said in his apology really stood out to me. When he said “I HAD TO go to therapy.” And hung his head, is the way the victim would have e said it. It seems like he was trying to get sympathy. Instead of saying “I WENT” or “I CHOSE” to go to therapy to try to be a better person. Edited to add; SO CALLED apology, because it is clearly not genuine.
i heard that she tried to go back and apologize. Apparently the hotel security who had witnessed what happened tried to prevent her from going back upstairs. She was blaming herself.
I was waiting for this one...thanks Spidey!! He sounded just like the narcissist who did this to me. He doesn't know how to feel sorry. It's an act. It's insidious.
When i was a kid, my classmates would say they never felt pain and they were the ones who would beat other kids. I was jealous cause any angry touch from my parents would hurt bad to me and i was like "i wish i had no emotions, no feelings, no pain" and as a grew up i realized what those kids meant and it's scary to know that my classmates were psychopaths and i had healthy psychology being jealous of psychopaths.
Thanks Spidey - by far the the best analysis on this supposed apology.
I agree with you - he thinks we are all stupid and he is wrong.
The biggest tell: Apology videos. He should've used a ukulele or an interpretative dance.
LOL!
He forgot to sit on a golden couch.
That really is clever and lol
Stttooppp!! I can't be laughing like this at your comment, and pay attention to Spidey!! 😂🤣😅😆
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I just discovered your page. I have spent some time learning microexpressions and behaviors and currently, I am in grad school for counseling. I really enjoyed listening to your take on the expressions, the movements, the non-movements, etc... I was able to follow along and look at this from an unbiased opinion with you and just learn and understand more. Thank you. Subscriber now and look forward to watching and learning more.
Yeah cool. Anyway....
If they can’t prosecute him for assault because of statute of limitations, can they prosecute him for kidnapping? There’s no limitation on that, and dragging her back to his hotel room looks like kidnapping to me!
She settled
@@420canada6 That was a civil lawsuit. A criminal case would be brought by the state of California.
Great point! It's a felony!
@@carag2567 Ty. I stand corrected.
@@420canada6 Easy error to make!
After all these celebrity apology videos, I've learned that "I take full responsibility for my actions" means "I'm not sorry but I don't want to admit it"
The whole script screams of text written by a lawyer to minimize financial damage and threading the fame creates wealth lifestyle.
As a survivor of DV I could also see that it was not an isolated incident.
I believe him when he talks about finding it hard to face the darkest times of your life. His lie is the implication that his darkest time was the period around the assault. In actuality, I think his feeling is the darkest time is NOW, facing the music
I agree with your last point about him not being under “blind rage”. Another interesting thing is that he walked her bag ALLL the way back to the room. Anyone who’s not calculating or thinking would not have done something so maticulus like that…. he wanted to trap her 🙁
Thanks for your professional and objective analysis.
"I asked God for grace and forgiveness" and then letting a pause happen felt like "...and he gave it to me, so you should too."
YES! I felt the same
Did he ask Cassie? 🤔
I mean does god forgive everyone if they ask for forgiveness? I think it has to be genuinely asked, and I am almost certain his is disingenuous. He swallowed hard after saying that about asking the Good Lord for forgiveness. Which leads me to believe he knows that was a big lie. Anyway, I wonder if God forgives phony requests for forgiveness..
@@charlottedaniels5229 Yes, God forgives everyone who asks. His asking God's forgiveness can't be disingenuous because he knows God can see through it. Him telling us about it, now that's a different story. We won't know if it's true or false.
I haven't heard him enough to judge. I can count on one hand the times I've heard him talk. Does he always sound like this?
Sort of like that Woodbine guy, John Wayne and Elvis Presley. No matter what they spit, it sound fake. 😆
@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF are we sure about that, because if you're asking for forgiveness knowing God will forgive just to continue the cycle, would that in fact be true forgiveness? Remember, God is omnipotent he already knows our fate.
His apology, like himself- is a joke. Why would he assume releasing an apology video was a great idea?!
First of all, if he was truly sorry- the day he accused Cassie of "looking for a quick pay day" (which he literally quickly paid) - was the time to apologize.
If this clown was truly remorseful, he would take full accountability, walk into a jailhouse & serve time in jail. And he said (he was disgusted back then)- yet he paid that hotel to obtain the footage. So, he couldn’t have been as disgusted as he says.
As a man he could’ve simply walked away or break up with her. What's worse is attacking a woman- when (she's walking away).
He carries a legacy as a psychotic woman-beater. It can never be erased.
Aaaaand take a bow🙇♀️
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It’s saddening and maddening 😭
I best say no more 🤐
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While it wouldn't be valid in this case we need a new law. When the accused has tampered with evidence (paying for the video), harassed the victim(s), when they've slandered and committed libel against the victim, etc. then the statues of limitans should be invalidated. No one should be able to actively hide their crimes and only come clean when they can no longer be criminally charged.
@@thedarkestkinghtstar Absolutely agree. Thank you.
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The towel theory is genius. Spidey, you're so smart! Thanks for the teachings xx
It doesn't take an expert to know that Diddy is dishonest.
Anyone regular to this channel knows how significant this video is. Spidey is huge on not making definitive statements and in keeping objective. His adamance on this video is unbelievable and the parts he covers on the actual video and her body language was heart wrenching.
He wouldn’t have put out an apology if the media hadn’t gotten a hold of the security footage. It’s disgusting!
THANK YOU for not playing the video. Fantastic evaluation of this apology. I appreciate your balanced and informed presentation. NEW SUBSCRIBER
If you thought this one was balanced wait till you see the rest of his content. This is the most opinionated I’ve seen him. It’s mind blowing how he can stay neutral and level headed in the most polarizing of times. It’s a super power.
So classy of him to not show the video💯
He is so used to psychological distancing,its now become second nature to him...thats why he changes his name everytime he has done something dark...he is the master of not taking responsibility and distancing himself from his actions....It has become a mechanism he uses to be able to sleep at night after doing something horrible.
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Yessss! Each decade he has changed his name or re-branded himself….like a fake rebirth of some type. He’s truly disconnected from reality!
Dude sleeps fine. Dark triad personalities don’t have feelings. He does do that shape shifting to distance himself though, to “trick” other people however, classic Machiavellian style. Tupac had an album titled Machiavelli, but Diddy is the one who truly is.
i've really enjoyed all the effort and all the long analyses that you've been doing around this case . thanks
All the people he has abused need to come together and bring a lawsuit against him!
There should be criminal charges against him. He's a violent abuser and needs to be locked up!
It’s the fear and embarrassment of exposure. It’s how he kept them quiet all these years. He is a demon!
Oh they will. lol
I guess the therapy didn't TAKE .. because he JUST called her a gold digging LIAR right before the video came out!
I believe Cassie wasn't the only one that had a lawsuit against him before. Many people in the industry actively knew/knows what he does.
This is so much more detailed than the other analyzers!
Thank you
I've unsubbed most of the others because i like spidey the best.
The scary part 4 me is knowing that this abuser has DAUGHTERS and he doing this 2 someone's DAUGHTER!!!
YES Spidey!! You nailed it. Every single detail I agree with you on. I couldn’t find the words for it before this video but I’ve experienced DV before and my ptsd flared up like a fire alarm when I saw that horrible clip. Thank you for the time and effort and research you put in to make this content. You are a lifesaver❤
It’s terrifying that he was allowed to behave like he has for all these years….
You’ve heard about the Catholic Church,no? It’s not unusual,but sick,definitely.
Thanks!
Thank YOU 😊
I felt those grabs and kicks , it was horrible and so violent. That disgusting man needs prison for the rest of his life.
Agreed
Omg I've been waiting patiently Spidey!!! Thank you 💯😊
So glad you covered this. Great video!