I feel exhausted and drained after just 5 minutes of him. Can you imagine how she feels? This is the most dangerous type of man, one who will smooth talk his way into your heart then systematically break you down. It’s terrifying.
It’s only terrifying to a woman who doesn’t fully love herself. You can peep his bullshit a mile away. Words are words, learn to peep actions along with it.
@@samiam1474 She is not mandated to answer his call on her phone, especially if he is draining, accusatory, belligerent and hostile towards her. If he actually cares and is inclined to reach out to his kids, he can buy an I-pad, tablet or phone for his kids and call them on their line. Plenty of men do it.
@@samiam1474 Nah it was a valid question. She was busy taking care of her children trying to help clean up the emotional mess he left. and where was he? He has no right to be suprise Pikachu about that.
@@samiam1474 he left everyone devastated. She had to work to make sure she and the kids were okay. At that point, she didn’t have the time or energy to answer the phone. Especially when you see he is only interested in arguing with her about “what’s she’s doing” rather than the kids. He read his son’s letter and completely dismissed it and went in on her. That’s probably why she stopped picking up the phone.
He delayed opening those results because he knew that once she proved those kids were his that he could no longer use doubt of their paternity as an excuse for being a bad father. He knew those kids were his all along.
I disagree because he literally said the kids look like him. The doubt wasn't real. He was just focusing too much on her , how she was acting and her being on those apps instead of focusing on his kids.
I disagree because he said he been took the kids to get tested and she didn’t show he didn’t delay anything he kissed the envelopes hoping they were his kids, he never used oh those kids might not be mine as an excuse for missing 2 years of their life. The excuse he used was she wasn’t showing love and emotions and she was cheating is what he said. That’s why u gotta pay attention to what u watchin instead of comin up wit what u think.
Kissing the envelopes was purely performative, he was grandstanding and laying it on thick, he knew them kids were his he's just a narcissist@@moneyman1218
@@reenabean9597 Yes of course but we are talking about the kind of breaks where mfs wanna go disappear to restructure their lives and come back afterwards. You don’t stop being a parent though. Everyone could use a vacation, it just needs to be an organized and mutual respect between both parents to plan accordingly.
She moved on hard asf. He went as far as to ask about her current love life and she wasn’t about to entertain it because she doesn’t care to throw it in his face. That’s how you really know she’s done. She doesn’t care to make him hurt.
I think you all are missing the point. Her lack of emotion is because she was tired of dealing with BS. This man needed constant reassuring. She was raising kids. He’s immature. He’s focused on her not the kids. It was evident. No one wants to keep being accused. She’s numb. He’s stuck at what ever age his trauma occurred.
I agree all the way. She wasn't defending or denying in this video because there was nothing to defend, and no point in arguing. She didn't want a relationship.
He read the letter with no heart, just read it with his eyes. He didn’t respond to it. He didn’t acknowledge what his son said, nothing. I can relate to mom. Shes just done with him. When a woman’s fed up, there’s nothing you can do about it. She just wants him there for the kids and leave her alone.
I went to middle school with Cody I’m surprised anyone procreated with him he is very very delayed and always been chaotic and bad and no offense but that head shape. I’m just really surprised that he was able to convince a woman to get this far
When MOST normal people miss their kids they miss their smlie, their laughter, the way they talk or hug and cuddle them. I've never heard someone say "the respect they give me", that's textbook narcissist if I've ever seen one. It's all about YOU.
I remember I was a kid ..my mom and her boyfriend broke up right after he promised he’d take us all to Disneyworld that summer we were so excited but when he left we were devastated like there goes our trip I remember my mama said she hadn’t heard from him in months and he lied to us until one day that summer out the blue he showed up and shockingly tells us to get packed ..he still went through with it that whole week treated us like we were his own kids again and made due to his promise. He still wanted nothing to do with my mom and we actually never saw him again after that but I’ll always respect him for that
This guy is emotionally draining. I don't know how she put up with him as long as she did. I haven't been exposed to him 15 minutes and I was ready to shut it down. If it were me I would have become mute long before any children could be conceived.
@@MisssKKKay and you don’t think she was affected by his toxic traits? How he constantly belittled her? He created a space that gave her no choice but to stay in a masculine mindset? But did she leave? Nah she’d be a dead beat if she did.
I love how he says he didn’t have access to any of her social media, but within the same breath turns around and says that he found all this evidence in all of her social media
Right he was ( as you can see ) VERY CONTROLLING no matter what was going on he had to be the one in control and if he wasn’t he got mad and had to start an argument or fight with her
This man is a narcissist, he doesn't care about her or those kids. He's immature and blamed her for everything. She has the right to upset, hurt and betrayed. He's full of excuses and hopefully she's moving on to a man that will accept her ex's kids unconditionally. I will not be surprised if he takes a long sabbatical again, because life will always be about him. His poor new girlfriend or wise will catch on pretty fast.
Totally agree 💯 and I know from my own experience with an ex narcissist. Chile that was GOOD RIDDANCE and let him be someone else's pain in the a$$ headache. Nolalower9Ward ⚜️⚜️
He's a serious narcissist, and she is a victim of narcissisistic abuse for a long time. What she's doing is called grey-rocking. She's been through so much with this guy, at some point you go numb and shut down just to get through a conversation or 5min with the abuser. I feel horribly for her that she has children with someone who cares more about himself than anyone - and that's most likely because unfortunately, the poor gentleman never had anyone there growing up. It's very sad. I wish the best for everyone very much.
This guy is a trigger for the women who have had to deal with his kind of personality. All he cares about is how other people preserve him. He’s narcissistic. He has to protect his character at all cost. Even when he talks about what he misses about the kids he literally says “the respect they give ME. The love they give ME”He lives a self serving life, period. He accused her because he was the one DOING it. He accused her because he needed an excuse to leave.
Stop this nonsense of calling everybody a narcissist. It is like you all learn a new word and beating it for all it’s worth. The whole world is narcissistic. She is also to blame for the mess not the man alone.
I get what you're saying, but everyone who has narcissistic traits doesn't inherently make them a narcissist. He's definitely selfish af, but idk about an outright narcissist
This man is a street corner philosopher. Its all about him and shes numb. Definition of deadbeat with all the "reasons" in the world. This is tragic because since hes not over her, he'll never be a good father.
Here is a living example of how some males, because he is far from a man, will only deal with the children to the extent that they are involved with the mother. He is manipulative, selfish and narcissistic. He abandoned the children for an entire year to punish her for whatever reason. He couldn’t even take a second to acknowledge the letter his son wrote for him asking why did he leave. Not even a single second. He went right back to blaming every single thing on her and insinuating it is what she did or didn’t do that caused him not to show up for the children he helped create. He is pathetic. All I heard was one excuse after another. God bless those children.
Thank you! 👏🏽 She is long over him, and he resents her for it! You can see he makes it about them as a family, she said it's about him as a father-aint no them! You can see her heart is closed off.
Obviously there is so much unsaid truth here, but the one thing that should never happen is to have the kids pay the price for it all. I hope he steps up for the kids.
Cody is grossly immature and FOS. Some men absolutely astound me. He needed to take a Sabbatical. Brittany probably needed to take one too, but she couldn't because she understood she was a parent. However, no sympathy for stupid women who lay up with sorry men and share gene pools without the benefit of marriage. Meanwhile, there are no breaks when children need food, clothing, and shelter. it's clear Cody's trifling a$$ ain't gonna step up his game, so Brittany better go to court and obtain a child support order, at a minimum.
That's why it is good to get therapy and heal yourself before bringing kids into the world so they don't have to deal with the generational trauma. That's what I hate about people procreating without thinking about how their consequences and scars affect their offspring.
@@carltoncoleman454 I couldn't have said it better. However, in my opinion, Cody is coo-coo for Cocoa Puffs, bat-$*it crazy. The dude's mental effect is...well, Iet's just pray for those children. They're going to need the entire village to watch over them because they have Brittany and the ebony-hued Hannibal Lechter as their parents. Fix it, Jesus!!!
You can tell he has put her through a bunch of bs. Shes just over it shes mentally checked out and in returned held resentment towards him for leaving so she probably didnt answer the phone on purpose when he called to see the kids. And he clearly is hurt that shes checked out completely shes over him I hope she heals from the trauma hes put her through. ❤
He doesn’t actually call for the kids. It’s to create arguments for her and as a mother, she’s protecting those kids from a toxic, inconsistent parent.
Leave this man alone...he us crazy...manipulative...dominating...he is a cheater..that's why he thinks that she is a cheater...Cody grow up..insecure ass man...
7:17 Karamo asked this man what he miss about his kids and he listed off all the things the kids do for him 😂 “the life they give me the respect the love 😂 what do u love about them was the question.
Wtf is he on??? Karamo let him get away with his grandstanding and gaslighting a bit too much and its irritating. Bro needs to go therapy and get it together. She's doing it on her own and he doesnt get to demand anything of her. He says "where were you"... bro she's with her kids, tf? He needs to get clean.
Why is it always okay for a man to leave his kids ? He asked “what do you miss about his own kids “ and he just mentioned himself 😂 he didn’t name anything about HIS ACTUAL KIDS . Like “ I miss my kids smile or hugs or the way they laugh “ Girl RUN . Move on . Stay beautiful and Learn what real love is because this man wouldn’t even let you get a edge word in ..I could only imagine what it was like at home .. I’m guessing a nightmare . My heart goes out to you Mama ❤ . The children have a real father and it’s Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ !
I am for the kids & I’m on the kids side ALL THEE WAY ! I pray for their mother for strength to keep staying strong & push through all of the stress & hardship that she’s having to face & to steer clear from her children’s path #SisMamaBear #UGotThis 💯💯💯 & I also pray for their father to overcome any of the blinding obstacles in his way of being able to be in his kids life, consistently
I started my sabbatical is a really fancy way of saying that you abandoned your family 🙄 Every time somebody says something about the kids. He makes it about him. He’s selfish and she’s nonchalant because she’s over it. He’s a perpetual victim. She will never be able to do anything right. He even whines when he talks. His pain doesn’t have anything to do with her. Anybody he’s with, he’s going to put through it.
This man is extremely traumatized. He wasn’t mentally or emotionally prepared to be a partner or father. He latched on to this woman as a resource and when she didn’t “save him” from drowning he left. Everything is all about him. If she isn’t serving his needs F her and those kids is how he feels. Claiming that he doubted the children allowed him to walk away and pretend not to be the bad guy. He could abandon his children and blame her when questioned. He’s a mess and needs extensive therapy. However, I can’t believe the red flags weren’t showing when she met him. She literally chose this man to father her child.
@monobear.6444 This isn’t completely true. There are many people who wear a mask. However, if you take your time getting to know people you will catch glimpses of the mask falling. It’s very difficult to be consistent over a significant period of time when you’re wearing a mask. The truth leaks. People usually admit to having seen red flags and ignoring them, once the relationship ends. In this case she didn’t break this man. He came to her broken. He latched on to her as a lifeline. You want me to believe she meant a man with tattoos all over his face, disorganized speech, and a lack of self control and she couldn’t see any red flags? I’m not saying he’s a bad person. I don’t know that. I’m saying his trauma seems to have his nervous system disorganized. He’s overwhelmed, dysregulated, and in no condition to be a healthy partner or parent.
When getting to know someone, get to know their mental capacity before you start having unprotected sex 🙄. Actually, don’t have sex at all until you’re sure they’re not crazy
Karamo is so skill full, I really think that he got to the bare bones of what the underlying issues were immediately. Good on the guests for coming onto the show to get their issues resolved.
He’s a professional gas lighter. He started out talking about rumors and it just felt like he will use that to beat her down, emotionally, every time he wants to change the subject to make her the villain. He has self esteem issues that need addressing. On positive note; brother is wearing that suit and has the perfect look for editorial modeling. Maybe that will change his outlook. SHE needs to realize that leaving HER is not leaving his kids so, even if he’s not there physically, she needs to let them SPEAK to their father when he calls. That, “what reason do I have to answer?” is a huge indicator of someone who will train the kids to believe that their father abandoned them while not telling them that he stopped trying because she made it virtually impossible for him to communicate, or see, them.
No, he IS an absentee. You CANNOT parent overseas or across the state or country. It take more than an occasional phone call to raise children. He’s not in prison so that is not acceptable. It’s no excuse for not showing up regularly including special events to spend with your children. He chose to walk away because he can’t have her. I understand her not wanting to answer in the beginning because he just up and disappeared. No call no show. That’s literal abandonment.
@@marisa_98Even if he did, it’s still no excuse for him to abandon those children. Phone calls don’t raise children. I pray your sister heals from all this. ❤
@@auntkera he never wanted to be a parent in the first place. When he was around he never acted like a parent. My oldest niece had to take care of them (feeding, bathing, homework, etc.) My sister is doing so much better without him. I hate that they won't have a dad in their life but Cody isn't fit to be a father
This man is insane!!!! I’ll get my test results and RUNNN as fast as I can! Disgusting so you take a “ break “ from your kids because of the mom actions. I hope she leaves him in the past I do hope he can be a dad to his kids although I highly doubt he will because of the simple fact he wants to be in control of everything he’s a narcissist and he only cares about hisself.
The thing that people get confused about love is that it's not an emotion it's an action word. The more you show love the more you receive it. Actions will always speak. People continue to mix emotions with the action words. Saying I love you is not enough. You have to show it with your actions not your emotions.
I feel so sorry for her as a fellow single mum with a very similar ex husband who also obsessed over controlling me instead of prioritising his children but I can also sense as wrong as this man is, he is acting out of fear, he doesn't feel safe in romantic relationships, believing he will inevitably be deceived hence mistrusts, maybe not feeling worthy of love, something is going on deep down inside and he desperately needs psychological therapy to understand his unhealthy, self sabotaging mindset. I pray the show facilitates, assists with therapy for them moving forward. 🙏
It’s not easy to co-parent, especially when your states apart. I know people can do it successfully, but someone has to pick a state and co-parent the kids together. It’s about the kids and we as parents need to be involved in our children lives.
Sis one thing about modern women of today WE ARE NOT TAKING THIS BS dudes want King authority with toddler behavior, I’m not raising a second son get on sir and grow up
Honestly he seems like a narcissist karamo let him off the hook in this episode ! Like how is it okay for him to leave for his “mental health” but damn what about her ?
Here we go again with this damn word, narcissist. Everybody is a narcissist, I believe you are one as well. The entire world is narcissistic. The way you all throw this word around is sickening at this point. When he tried to contact his children, she refused to answer the phone and sat there and said, she had no reason to answer. Weren’t the children a reason to answer??? Call her out as well, she is not innocent in all of this.
her lack of emotion it’s because she’s was tired of dealing with bs.. that’s this man he’s really needed a constant reassuring.. that’s she’s was raising kid .. he’s is just immature he’s is just really focused on her not the kid’s it’s was a evident., mm noo noo no no No one wants to it’s just keeps being accused.. she’s is numb.. he’s stuck at what’s ?? ever age his trauma occurred… that’s this man is a trigger for the women who have had to deal with his kind of personality.. all he’s cares about it’s is how’s other people preserve him…. he’s narcissistic…. he’s has to protect his character at all of any cost .. it’s just even when he’s talks about what’s he’s misses about the kid’s he’s just literally said “ the respect ✊🏽they give me.. the luv They give me “ he’s lives a self serving life, periodt period he’s accused her because he’s was the one doing it… he’s just accused her because he’s needed an excuse it’s just to leave….. he’s is manipulative, seriously selfish and narcissistic
She has a definition, she just doesn’t owe him the explanation anymore because she’s moved on. She knew a response would incite a whole different conversation for him.
THIS!! Exactly ofc your sis knows wtf LOVE is and I am so glad she is OVER that lil slimeball so she can LOVE a man proper in the ways she knows how.. seems he wanted all of her time and was messin around on social media and needs alot more of a "SUPPLY" then your sister could give him.. narcs need to be havin their egos stroked like 24/7 its exhausting.. @@cheyannewirth7373
Is he high? He talks in circles and makes everything about him. No parent “in their right mind” gets to take a “sabbatical” from their kids. He had baggage before this relationship as well as mom. The kids are in the cross fire of their dysfunction. Mom’s angry and disconnected because that’s her way of copping. It’s one thing to break up, but it’s another to be left to deal with the kids on your own cause the other person decided they needed to “find themselves”
He can’t have her so he is punishing her by being absent from their lives. He only cares about where they stand romantically. No empathy. Just gain. I am so sorry she had children for HIM. Children are a gift but he is unstable.
YESSS....Reminds of TI. Men who go to jail and thinks they are smarter than everybody else. They think they have all the answers. The entitlement is astonishing.
Man can always break from their children and responsibilities but a true, loving and caring mother cannot. I don't understand why he would abandon his children when he didn't have that support.
no one feels bad for dads that say the moms aren’t answering the phone & shit you know where your kids is at with her if you really care go to her front door and see them face to face there’s only so much interaction that comes from phone calls anyway
ive literally watched my mom threaten my dad with a knife to prevent him from coming in the home and all he wanted to do was see me. and No, this is not just me. youre NEVER the only one with anything. are you the only one who wears socks when they sleep??? maybe you're not black but unfortunately this is COMMON in our community. the mom hates the dad, so he cant see the kids.if he comes to the door, he gets threatened, and cops get called and he will be arrested regardless. this woman isnt black but the point stands in context to your comment specifically and not the video.
@@KaentukiTheFuki Your dad shoulda took your mom to court idk what you want me to say 😂 you obviously have X’ed out the option that your dad might’ve not been a good person for you to be around during that time of his life 🤷🏾♀️ Idk you lol a lot of the time that’s the case as well not everyone is dickdumb & uses their children with an ex as a way to hurt their feelings LOL … that wasn’t normal
That’s common in YOUR black community, not every black person experiences the same things. My mom opened doors for my dad & he had freedom to see me if he wanted. My mom even let him stay with us when he had no where else to go. I overheard her on the phone saying she wouldn’t want me to grow up resenting her for leaving my dad homeless. Not every black woman is bitter, some are angry rightfully so but a lot of moms still do the right thing. I more see mothers begging for help. But we choose to see more of what our reality is. & you can’t project yours on to others.@@KaentukiTheFuki
I e seen this a 1000 times. When he doesn’t have control or access to the mother anymore he cares nothing for the kids. So let me get this straight…because of your emotional state you take off and leave the kids. Ok what if the mother did the same? I’m sure she has been emotionally challenged from time to time. Does she get to leave the children when that happens?
“at home with my kids, and you?” ATE, the silence was LOUD.
Ate his ass up with that line 🤭😂
ATEEEEEE LOL
lol
Real, his knows his ass sound stupid
10-2!
I feel exhausted and drained after just 5 minutes of him. Can you imagine how she feels? This is the most dangerous type of man, one who will smooth talk his way into your heart then systematically break you down. It’s terrifying.
Really tho. He wants to argue for the sake of talking
@@VeryMuchaLadyoh be quiet
It’s only terrifying to a woman who doesn’t fully love herself. You can peep his bullshit a mile away. Words are words, learn to peep actions along with it.
He constantly asks her questions then interrupts her and insults her and wonders why she doesn't have feelings for him!
Typical narcissistic gaslighting
it’s a manipulation tactic, too, subtly making her feel like what she’s saying isn’t important/doesn’t matter
He’s not worried about the kids, it’s all about him 😢! She’s just tired of him and his BS!
yes
Nope try again silverback
him:" where were you??"
her: at home with my kids and you?
Him: 👁 👁
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Bc that was a shot; she didn’t have a good reason why she wouldn’t answer the phone when he was away; it is a form of parental alienation
@@samiam1474 She is not mandated to answer his call on her phone, especially if he is draining, accusatory, belligerent and hostile towards her. If he actually cares and is inclined to reach out to his kids, he can buy an I-pad, tablet or phone for his kids and call them on their line. Plenty of men do it.
@@samiam1474you sound crazy😂 she doesn’t have to answer the phone for anyone. He doesn’t own her.
@@samiam1474 Nah it was a valid question. She was busy taking care of her children trying to help clean up the emotional mess he left. and where was he? He has no right to be suprise Pikachu about that.
@@samiam1474 he left everyone devastated. She had to work to make sure she and the kids were okay. At that point, she didn’t have the time or energy to answer the phone. Especially when you see he is only interested in arguing with her about “what’s she’s doing” rather than the kids. He read his son’s letter and completely dismissed it and went in on her. That’s probably why she stopped picking up the phone.
He delayed opening those results because he knew that once she proved those kids were his that he could no longer use doubt of their paternity as an excuse for being a bad father. He knew those kids were his all along.
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I disagree because he literally said the kids look like him. The doubt wasn't real. He was just focusing too much on her , how she was acting and her being on those apps instead of focusing on his kids.
I disagree because he said he been took the kids to get tested and she didn’t show he didn’t delay anything he kissed the envelopes hoping they were his kids, he never used oh those kids might not be mine as an excuse for missing 2 years of their life. The excuse he used was she wasn’t showing love and emotions and she was cheating is what he said. That’s why u gotta pay attention to what u watchin instead of comin up wit what u think.
Agreed! He just wanted to prolong his behavior and he knows now that he can’t use the same excuses anymore
Kissing the envelopes was purely performative, he was grandstanding and laying it on thick, he knew them kids were his he's just a narcissist@@moneyman1218
Some people love feeling like they can just “take a break” from parenting as if it’s not literally a job that never stops. 🥴
Lol for real and those are the ones who always play victim
full time parents are allowed breaks.
@@reenabean9597 Yes of course but we are talking about the kind of breaks where mfs wanna go disappear to restructure their lives and come back afterwards. You don’t stop being a parent though. Everyone could use a vacation, it just needs to be an organized and mutual respect between both parents to plan accordingly.
@@auntkera true !!!
THANK YOU! ITS A LIFE TIME JOB, THERE IS NO RETIREMENT!
She’s over his BS & narcissism. That’s why she’s acting nonchalant. He definitely wants her back and is mad that she’s moved on.
She moved on hard asf. He went as far as to ask about her current love life and she wasn’t about to entertain it because she doesn’t care to throw it in his face. That’s how you really know she’s done. She doesn’t care to make him hurt.
Exactly she built a wall and I'm here for it .. this kind of man will make you lose yourself
@@giftedchild9490 agreed. I’m happy she’s moved on.
Yes,
Right!!!
I think you all are missing the point. Her lack of emotion is because she was tired of dealing with BS. This man needed constant reassuring. She was raising kids. He’s immature. He’s focused on her not the kids. It was evident. No one wants to keep being accused. She’s numb. He’s stuck at what ever age his trauma occurred.
This 100%.
I agree all the way. She wasn't defending or denying in this video because there was nothing to defend, and no point in arguing. She didn't want a relationship.
@@myapatterson3505 Yes ma’am. She was done. She knew there was no winning with him. He saw whatever he wanted to see because of his personal pain.
Well said!
Her lack of emotion is because she wants her way, is not getting her way, so everyone else pays the price
He read the letter with no heart, just read it with his eyes. He didn’t respond to it. He didn’t acknowledge what his son said, nothing.
I can relate to mom. Shes just done with him. When a woman’s fed up, there’s nothing you can do about it. She just wants him there for the kids and leave her alone.
I love when we get to that point!!!
Does that letter have the tone of a child's mindset
This man never answers a question. He just dances around the issues.
Definition of a waste man. Trash
I heard him answer
Which question didn't he answer? I missed that part
women are just always full of themselves,,unless you become a man is when you will understand
I went to middle school with Cody I’m surprised anyone procreated with him he is very very delayed and always been chaotic and bad and no offense but that head shape. I’m just really surprised that he was able to convince a woman to get this far
When MOST normal people miss their kids they miss their smlie, their laughter, the way they talk or hug and cuddle them. I've never heard someone say "the respect they give me", that's textbook narcissist if I've ever seen one. It's all about YOU.
This is another prime example in how careful you have to be with who you have children with!
I remember I was a kid ..my mom and her boyfriend broke up right after he promised he’d take us all to Disneyworld that summer we were so excited but when he left we were devastated like there goes our trip I remember my mama said she hadn’t heard from him in months and he lied to us until one day that summer out the blue he showed up and shockingly tells us to get packed ..he still went through with it that whole week treated us like we were his own kids again and made due to his promise. He still wanted nothing to do with my mom and we actually never saw him again after that but I’ll always respect him for that
So mom was the problem
Good gesture 🙌🏽
awe this made me smile ty for sharing!! hugs
@@cjohns1005why would the kids be the problem anyway? Or are you on some mysognist rant?
@@cjohns1005or they just agreed they were not for one another. Doesn’t off rip make mom an issue
Narcissism is real. It’s always about him. “Woe is me.”
Exactly 💯
Narcissism is a clinical diagnosis not just a fun term to throw out
This guy is emotionally draining. I don't know how she put up with him as long as she did. I haven't been exposed to him 15 minutes and I was ready to shut it down. If it were me I would have become mute long before any children could be conceived.
ikr lol smh wtf
Ikr he is so petty
She's moved on, and he wants her back but she's past his nonesence
This man has developmental delays
No parent should take a sabbatical from parenting their children.
he clearly said he took it to get away from her and her never being able to show emotion
@@MisssKKKay it doesn’t matter. You can leave a relationship without leaving your children. Keep defending toxic parenting though.
toxic environments create toxic parenting .. toxic pasts create toxic parenting. you can tell he needs actual mental help.
@@MisssKKKay then he should go get mental help instead of letting his issues bleed onto his children. He’s a grown ass man. Time to act like one.
@@MisssKKKay and you don’t think she was affected by his toxic traits? How he constantly belittled her? He created a space that gave her no choice but to stay in a masculine mindset? But did she leave? Nah she’d be a dead beat if she did.
I love how he says he didn’t have access to any of her social media, but within the same breath turns around and says that he found all this evidence in all of her social media
Right he was ( as you can see ) VERY CONTROLLING no matter what was going on he had to be the one in control and if he wasn’t he got mad and had to start an argument or fight with her
@@deannahernandez5822oh shut up
This man is a narcissist, he doesn't care about her or those kids. He's immature and blamed her for everything. She has the right to upset, hurt and betrayed. He's full of excuses and hopefully she's moving on to a man that will accept her ex's kids unconditionally. I will not be surprised if he takes a long sabbatical again, because life will always be about him. His poor new girlfriend or wise will catch on pretty fast.
Totally agree 💯 and I know from my own experience with an ex narcissist. Chile that was GOOD RIDDANCE and let him be someone else's pain in the a$$ headache. Nolalower9Ward ⚜️⚜️
Exactly he's not the center of her universe anymore and he hates that. His looks and charm have worn off and she knows what kind of man he really is
You think so?well you must be a woman! women don't look at the cause, they only look at outcome!
If it was the other way around, you wouldn’t be talking that💩
@@Merebaby72we talking about the video !!! It’s a shitty man!! The fuck
“Open the results man” heavy on that !!!
She better than me, I wouldn’t want him anywhere around tbh
10:25 “open the results man”😂😂😂😂 she was fed up! i love her energy😂❤❤.
He's a serious narcissist, and she is a victim of narcissisistic abuse for a long time. What she's doing is called grey-rocking. She's been through so much with this guy, at some point you go numb and shut down just to get through a conversation or 5min with the abuser. I feel horribly for her that she has children with someone who cares more about himself than anyone - and that's most likely because unfortunately, the poor gentleman never had anyone there growing up. It's very sad. I wish the best for everyone very much.
He is desperate for love n he needs to love himself first
Everything is a n word
This guy is a trigger for the women who have had to deal with his kind of personality. All he cares about is how other people preserve him. He’s narcissistic. He has to protect his character at all cost. Even when he talks about what he misses about the kids he literally says “the respect they give ME. The love they give ME”He lives a self serving life, period. He accused her because he was the one DOING it. He accused her because he needed an excuse to leave.
Stop this nonsense of calling everybody a narcissist. It is like you all learn a new word and beating it for all it’s worth. The whole world is narcissistic. She is also to blame for the mess not the man alone.
Ooommmgggggg, thank you. I'm soooooo tired of hearing the words narcissist and gaslighting. They're totally over used now.
I get what you're saying, but everyone who has narcissistic traits doesn't inherently make them a narcissist. He's definitely selfish af, but idk about an outright narcissist
It just be's that way sometimes....Have mercy!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
He speaks so slowly that he sounds crazy...@@hazelboyce7230
This man is a street corner philosopher. Its all about him and shes numb. Definition of deadbeat with all the "reasons" in the world. This is tragic because since hes not over her, he'll never be a good father.
Facts
Oh shut up
Here is a living example of how some males, because he is far from a man, will only deal with the children to the extent that they are involved with the mother. He is manipulative, selfish and narcissistic. He abandoned the children for an entire year to punish her for whatever reason. He couldn’t even take a second to acknowledge the letter his son wrote for him asking why did he leave. Not even a single second. He went right back to blaming every single thing on her and insinuating it is what she did or didn’t do that caused him not to show up for the children he helped create. He is pathetic. All I heard was one excuse after another. God bless those children.
A lot of men are demonic. But that’s not a conversation we are ready for
you dont wear his shoes, so dont judge him
@@jonathanogbone9925right
@@jonathanogbone9925His a disgrace!!! You don’t walk in the mother’s shoes either!! That dudes on substances & very selfish!!
Thank you! 👏🏽 She is long over him, and he resents her for it! You can see he makes it about them as a family, she said it's about him as a father-aint no them! You can see her heart is closed off.
This guy is the worst kind of narcissist. I get an uncomfortable feeling just by looking at him and hearing him speak. Those poor children.
He really gave me a visceral reaction
@@blackice112oh be quiet you jerks
WHEN A WOMAN IS TIRED SHE IS TIRED AND YOU GONE SEE AND FEEL HER
Speak sis ❤Lordt I can speak to this
Obviously there is so much unsaid truth here, but the one thing that should never happen is to have the kids pay the price for it all. I hope he steps up for the kids.
He won’t he has NEVER stepped up for them kids in 9 years
Heart break is no excuse for abandonment
In other words the woman can cheat, do anything she wants and the man has to take it?
True
People have no things in different ways
Cody is grossly immature and FOS. Some men absolutely astound me. He needed to take a Sabbatical. Brittany probably needed to take one too, but she couldn't because she understood she was a parent. However, no sympathy for stupid women who lay up with sorry men and share gene pools without the benefit of marriage. Meanwhile, there are no breaks when children need food, clothing, and shelter. it's clear Cody's trifling a$$ ain't gonna step up his game, so Brittany better go to court and obtain a child support order, at a minimum.
Cody can't keep a job so he won't be able to afford child support
That's why it is good to get therapy and heal yourself before bringing kids into the world so they don't have to deal with the generational trauma. That's what I hate about people procreating without thinking about how their consequences and scars affect their offspring.
@@carltoncoleman454 I couldn't have said it better. However, in my opinion, Cody is coo-coo for Cocoa Puffs, bat-$*it crazy. The dude's mental effect is...well, Iet's just pray for those children. They're going to need the entire village to watch over them because they have Brittany and the ebony-hued Hannibal Lechter as their parents. Fix it, Jesus!!!
@@RN-DNPoh be quiet
You can tell he has put her through a bunch of bs. Shes just over it shes mentally checked out and in returned held resentment towards him for leaving so she probably didnt answer the phone on purpose when he called to see the kids. And he clearly is hurt that shes checked out completely shes over him I hope she heals from the trauma hes put her through. ❤
He doesn’t actually call for the kids. It’s to create arguments for her and as a mother, she’s protecting those kids from a toxic, inconsistent parent.
Leave this man alone...he us crazy...manipulative...dominating...he is a cheater..that's why he thinks that she is a cheater...Cody grow up..insecure ass man...
7:17 Karamo asked this man what he miss about his kids and he listed off all the things the kids do for him 😂 “the life they give me the respect the love 😂 what do u love about them was the question.
Exactly
Wtf is he on??? Karamo let him get away with his grandstanding and gaslighting a bit too much and its irritating. Bro needs to go therapy and get it together. She's doing it on her own and he doesnt get to demand anything of her. He says "where were you"... bro she's with her kids, tf? He needs to get clean.
Dad looks like he’s under some influence, drugs/alcohol. Hope he gets better
You mean exhausted..Yea..High on reality..
@@Animalistic..NatureHe don’t sound tired he sounds high and/or drunk
He said he’s exhausted 😂 from fucking what? Not from working two jobs and raising children on his own, that’s for sure.
lol ikr of course he is in the comments it's infuriating him to see the general youtube publics consensus on him.. lmao total narc @@cheyannewirth7373
the gold foil teeth on his Twitter/X are crackin me up what a slimeball wannabe..
Bruh the lack of accountability from that guy is insane. She seems so drained.
She better than me cause he will be talking to his self on that couch 😂
Why is it always okay for a man to leave his kids ? He asked “what do you miss about his own kids “ and he just mentioned himself 😂 he didn’t name anything about HIS ACTUAL KIDS . Like “ I miss my kids smile or hugs or the way they laugh “ Girl RUN . Move on . Stay beautiful and Learn what real love is because this man wouldn’t even let you get a edge word in ..I could only imagine what it was like at home .. I’m guessing a nightmare . My heart goes out to you Mama ❤ . The children have a real father and it’s Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ !
I am for the kids & I’m on the kids side ALL THEE WAY !
I pray for their mother for strength to keep staying strong & push through all of the stress & hardship that she’s having to face & to steer clear from her children’s path
#SisMamaBear #UGotThis 💯💯💯
& I also pray for their father to overcome any of the blinding obstacles in his way of being able to be in his kids life, consistently
Yes, being in and out of a child's life can be devastating. The young man needs him the young girl needs him.
He couldnt take that "i was at home with my kids.. you?" Lmao 😂😂😂
She is tired of his foolishness. I’m tired of him after two mins. He acts like she actually wants him. 😂😂😂
Definitely I skipped to the results because tf🥴
I started my sabbatical is a really fancy way of saying that you abandoned your family 🙄 Every time somebody says something about the kids. He makes it about him. He’s selfish and she’s nonchalant because she’s over it. He’s a perpetual victim. She will never be able to do anything right. He even whines when he talks. His pain doesn’t have anything to do with her. Anybody he’s with, he’s going to put through it.
100%
True, you also saw through his winning, playing the victim to justify his wrongs.
This man is extremely traumatized. He wasn’t mentally or emotionally prepared to be a partner or father. He latched on to this woman as a resource and when she didn’t “save him” from drowning he left. Everything is all about him. If she isn’t serving his needs F her and those kids is how he feels. Claiming that he doubted the children allowed him to walk away and pretend not to be the bad guy. He could abandon his children and blame her when questioned. He’s a mess and needs extensive therapy. However, I can’t believe the red flags weren’t showing when she met him. She literally chose this man to father her child.
@monobear.6444 This isn’t completely true. There are many people who wear a mask. However, if you take your time getting to know people you will catch glimpses of the mask falling. It’s very difficult to be consistent over a significant period of time when you’re wearing a mask. The truth leaks.
People usually admit to having seen red flags and ignoring them, once the relationship ends.
In this case she didn’t break this man. He came to her broken. He latched on to her as a lifeline. You want me to believe she meant a man with tattoos all over his face, disorganized speech, and a lack of self control and she couldn’t see any red flags? I’m not saying he’s a bad person. I don’t know that. I’m saying his trauma seems to have his nervous system disorganized. He’s overwhelmed, dysregulated, and in no condition to be a healthy partner or parent.
When getting to know someone, get to know their mental capacity before you start having unprotected sex 🙄. Actually, don’t have sex at all until you’re sure they’re not crazy
😮
This needs more likes
For reals😑
I'm not sure you ever actually know mental capacity...ijs. I get what you're saying at least vet them
True, and I have a feeling any stranger could have seen from a mile away that this man wasn't father material...but she still chose him.
High standards will protect you from low quality situations!
If the kids weren’t his SHE WOULD DEFINITELY LEAVEEEEEEEE BECAUSE I WOULD TF THIS MAN IS INSANEEEE
She done gone. She doesn't want anything to do with him
You’re only crazy.. when they don’t like the reaction their actions caused
He's crazy and i can see him telling his children ill things about their mother.
Yup that’s next…that man is sick
Women need to choose better😢
ME, ME, ME... that's all he talked about. He left his kids for two years and is only concerned about himself.
Karamo is so skill full, I really think that he got to the bare bones of what the underlying issues were immediately.
Good on the guests for coming onto the show to get their issues resolved.
He is full of excuses for his actions. He wants to be an absentee father.
He’s a professional gas lighter. He started out talking about rumors and it just felt like he will use that to beat her down, emotionally, every time he wants to change the subject to make her the villain. He has self esteem issues that need addressing. On positive note; brother is wearing that suit and has the perfect look for editorial modeling. Maybe that will change his outlook.
SHE needs to realize that leaving HER is not leaving his kids so, even if he’s not there physically, she needs to let them SPEAK to their father when he calls. That, “what reason do I have to answer?” is a huge indicator of someone who will train the kids to believe that their father abandoned them while not telling them that he stopped trying because she made it virtually impossible for him to communicate, or see, them.
That's my sister btw, so ik everything. He NEVER called to talk to the kids. He called to argue with her.
No, he IS an absentee. You CANNOT parent overseas or across the state or country. It take more than an occasional phone call to raise children. He’s not in prison so that is not acceptable. It’s no excuse for not showing up regularly including special events to spend with your children. He chose to walk away because he can’t have her. I understand her not wanting to answer in the beginning because he just up and disappeared. No call no show. That’s literal abandonment.
@@marisa_98Even if he did, it’s still no excuse for him to abandon those children. Phone calls don’t raise children. I pray your sister heals from all this. ❤
@@auntkera he never wanted to be a parent in the first place. When he was around he never acted like a parent. My oldest niece had to take care of them (feeding, bathing, homework, etc.) My sister is doing so much better without him. I hate that they won't have a dad in their life but Cody isn't fit to be a father
@@auntkera My niece doesn't even remember him. He left when she was a baby. Actually he left multiple times before she was even born.
The moment I saw him I thought something ain't right. Then he started talking and then I knew for sure he was the biggest problem.
I would need a court order.. he doesn’t understand boundaries and he seems very verbally abusive. She needs to let the court order handle everything
This man is insane!!!! I’ll get my test results and RUNNN as fast as I can! Disgusting so you take a “ break “ from your kids because of the mom actions. I hope she leaves him in the past I do hope he can be a dad to his kids although I highly doubt he will because of the simple fact he wants to be in control of everything he’s a narcissist and he only cares about hisself.
He has all the violent traits down
This man is a "ME" man. This wonderful woman has endured a lot.
He definitely needs some inner healing to help him process his issues in a healthy way. I get her, as his girl he would be draining to deal with.
Unfortunate situation but positive note she's so pretty 💕
Ain’t she 😍♥️
My sister is absolutely beautiful❤️
This man is like a robot. Lacks emotions and feeling. I felt the hurt from his son in the letter but the dad dismissed his sons emotions real bad.
The thing that people get confused about love is that it's not an emotion it's an action word. The more you show love the more you receive it. Actions will always speak. People continue to mix emotions with the action words. Saying I love you is not enough. You have to show it with your actions not your emotions.
People are out here looking for Hollywood kinda love lol it never existed,it’s not a feeling.It’s action .Positive action each day
They remind me of Britney and Marcelino from love after lockup 😂 I think their kid on the show was named CJ too!
Maan whenever he took her plate away and wouldn't let her eat? I was thinking girl run now. He's got control issues FRFR
That letter made my heart crack😢.....poor kids
I feel so sorry for her as a fellow single mum with a very similar ex husband who also obsessed over controlling me instead of prioritising his children but I can also sense as wrong as this man is, he is acting out of fear, he doesn't feel safe in romantic relationships, believing he will inevitably be deceived hence mistrusts, maybe not feeling worthy of love, something is going on deep down inside and he desperately needs psychological therapy to understand his unhealthy, self sabotaging mindset. I pray the show facilitates, assists with therapy for them moving forward. 🙏
It’s not easy to co-parent, especially when your states apart. I know people can do it successfully, but
someone has to pick a state and co-parent the kids together. It’s about the kids and we as parents need to be involved in our children lives.
I believe someone has to pick the kids and the rest will fall in-line. Just that both parents must pick the kids.
This woman is tired and I understand her because I am 6 min in and I am tired 🙄😮💨
Fr he talks in circles and says nothing. Voice done given me a headache
@@onyxgothicche wants her to also be mom to her🙄
Sis one thing about modern women of today WE ARE NOT TAKING THIS BS dudes want King authority with toddler behavior, I’m not raising a second son get on sir and grow up
Honestly he seems like a narcissist karamo let him off the hook in this episode ! Like how is it okay for him to leave for his “mental health” but damn what about her ?
Did you not hear them say she cut off communication?
Here we go again with this damn word, narcissist. Everybody is a narcissist, I believe you are one as well. The entire world is narcissistic. The way you all throw this word around is sickening at this point. When he tried to contact his children, she refused to answer the phone and sat there and said, she had no reason to answer. Weren’t the children a reason to answer??? Call her out as well, she is not innocent in all of this.
I feel bad for her. He literally did not let her speak.
He need to stop playing the victim ! Its not about him! Focus on healing and being a good Father.
Keep telling black man to go to therapy!!! They need it badly!
The lady has found a way to handle and answer him...he seems so draining...
her lack of emotion it’s because she’s was tired of dealing with bs.. that’s this man he’s really needed a constant reassuring.. that’s she’s was raising kid .. he’s is just immature he’s is just really focused on her not the kid’s it’s was a evident., mm noo noo no no No one wants to it’s just keeps being accused.. she’s is numb.. he’s stuck at what’s ?? ever age his trauma occurred… that’s this man is a trigger for the women who have had to deal with his kind of personality.. all he’s cares about it’s is how’s other people preserve him…. he’s narcissistic…. he’s has to protect his character at all of any cost .. it’s just even when he’s talks about what’s he’s misses about the kid’s he’s just literally said “ the respect ✊🏽they give me.. the luv They give me “ he’s lives a self serving life, periodt period he’s accused her because he’s was the one doing it… he’s just accused her because he’s needed an excuse it’s just to leave….. he’s is manipulative, seriously selfish and narcissistic
He's full of himself, and she's use to it and she's just tired
Whoooo "what's the definition of love, you don't have one" 👀..
I know you don’t *
messy
I had to ask myself that…. Shit is is sad in every way
She has a definition, she just doesn’t owe him the explanation anymore because she’s moved on. She knew a response would incite a whole different conversation for him.
THIS!! Exactly ofc your sis knows wtf LOVE is and I am so glad she is OVER that lil slimeball so she can LOVE a man proper in the ways she knows how.. seems he wanted all of her time and was messin around on social media and needs alot more of a "SUPPLY" then your sister could give him.. narcs need to be havin their egos stroked like 24/7 its exhausting.. @@cheyannewirth7373
You can tell she’s completely fed up. She’s done with him. When a woman is like that, there’s no changing it. Don’t make that mistake.
He's a ultimate gaslighter
People can be physically present and mentally-emotionally (psychologically) absent; and that can do more damage.
He sound like he listens to only T.I.
😂😂😂
She said just open the results please 😅. She tired of hearing this man talk. He so long winded 🤣
Is he high? He talks in circles and makes everything about him. No parent “in their right mind” gets to take a “sabbatical” from their kids. He had baggage before this relationship as well as mom. The kids are in the cross fire of their dysfunction. Mom’s angry and disconnected because that’s her way of copping. It’s one thing to break up, but it’s another to be left to deal with the kids on your own cause the other person decided they needed to “find themselves”
Brother's suit is on point.
FACTS. Suit is 🔥
The man never shuts his mouth. She can't get a word out. I can imagine how it at home.
He doesn't care about this woman or children... He only came here to waste everyone's time
He can’t have her so he is punishing her by being absent from their lives. He only cares about where they stand romantically. No empathy. Just gain. I am so sorry she had children for HIM. Children are a gift but he is unstable.
He recently cut the kids out of his life because my sister doesn’t want a relationship with him
He seems rather selfish and very manipulative, almost like a p.i.m.p. I hope she moves on and stays a.w.a.y.
YESSS....Reminds of TI. Men who go to jail and thinks they are smarter than everybody else. They think they have all the answers. The entitlement is astonishing.
Maybe I should..😂
NOOO LMAO! Jail does nothing but messes up your psyche even more
Thankfully she has moved on
your such a fool showin up over here in the comments lmao smh 🤦♂@@Animalistic..Nature
The way he made his sons letter about him told me everything I needed to know about him.
Man can always break from their children and responsibilities but a true, loving and caring mother cannot. I don't understand why he would abandon his children when he didn't have that support.
no one feels bad for dads that say the moms aren’t answering the phone & shit you know where your kids is at with her if you really care go to her front door and see them face to face there’s only so much interaction that comes from phone calls anyway
Exactly. And it’s a mother’s job to protect her children from inconsistency.
ive literally watched my mom threaten my dad with a knife to prevent him from coming in the home and all he wanted to do was see me. and No, this is not just me. youre NEVER the only one with anything. are you the only one who wears socks when they sleep???
maybe you're not black but unfortunately this is COMMON in our community. the mom hates the dad, so he cant see the kids.if he comes to the door, he gets threatened, and cops get called and he will be arrested regardless. this woman isnt black but the point stands in context to your comment specifically and not the video.
Bro went to a whole other state
@@KaentukiTheFuki Your dad shoulda took your mom to court idk what you want me to say 😂 you obviously have X’ed out the option that your dad might’ve not been a good person for you to be around during that time of his life 🤷🏾♀️ Idk you lol a lot of the time that’s the case as well not everyone is dickdumb & uses their children with an ex as a way to hurt their feelings LOL … that wasn’t normal
That’s common in YOUR black community, not every black person experiences the same things. My mom opened doors for my dad & he had freedom to see me if he wanted. My mom even let him stay with us when he had no where else to go. I overheard her on the phone saying she wouldn’t want me to grow up resenting her for leaving my dad homeless. Not every black woman is bitter, some are angry rightfully so but a lot of moms still do the right thing. I more see mothers begging for help. But we choose to see more of what our reality is. & you can’t project yours on to others.@@KaentukiTheFuki
He is def NOT worried about the kids, it's all about HER! Smh
Omg 😳 he’s a textbook narcissist 🤔I’ve met so many like him it’s so crazy to think how most won’t notice it … I hope he gets the help he needs
Textbook for sure. people throw around the word narcissist but that guy is the real deal.
Hes the type where it's better to cut your losses altogether instead of tryna chase him down and force him to be a parent.
Lmaooooo he is such as an actress I can see thru his bs from a mile away ..
😂 He's a real diva!
He wants to appear philosophical so bad but he sounds silly and arrogant 🤦🏾♀️
Oh my god didn’t even let her talk or clear anything just think how it goes when they are alone
“I was taking a sabbatical. I was finding myself “ -luxurious words of a deadbeat
People need to get their s#$t together before having kids. This so called sabbatical is him being a joke.
This man just didn’t wona be there. Simple! He wona be with her not those kids
I guess it’s ok to be an absentee father.
I need to go on a sabbatical after watching this😂 I'm tired. Karamo has so much patience😢❤
A man who fights you through and through is hard to be with.The woman seems unhappy and uncomfortable around the man
This cat here dressed in a 3 piece suit mirroring Karamo. 😂 Narcissistic to the nines.
I e seen this a 1000 times. When he doesn’t have control or access to the mother anymore he cares nothing for the kids. So let me get this straight…because of your emotional state you take off and leave the kids. Ok what if the mother did the same? I’m sure she has been emotionally challenged from time to time. Does she get to leave the children when that happens?
The way he talk is exhausting lmao