The DEVASTATING Aftermath of a Toxic Job
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
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You left your toxic job, but it's living in your head rent-free. So many of my clients thought the stress of a toxic workplace ended with the job - but it doesn't. The aftermath of a toxic work environment can have a profound impact on you and your career without you realizing it. In this video we're going to explore four major impacts of a toxic work experience so you know what to watch out for and what to do about it.
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Post-Toxic Job Syndrome is not an actual, professionally recognized medical or psychological diagnosis. It is strictly intended for entertainment and educational purposes. Recommendations included in this video is to aid in your toxic job recovery are not offered by a doctor, are generalized, and are not individual for your unique circumstance, so they may not apply to everyone and should not be taken as medical advice. All responsibilities lie with the individual and not Capdeca Solutions, LLC. The aftereffects of a toxic job can be serious. Please contact your medical provider if you have concerns about your mental and/or physical health as a result of a toxic work experience.
I worked at an absolute horrible job for over 9 years until I was mercifully fired. I actually thanked my pycho boss for firing me. So glad to see that company tanking all these years later. Glad I do what I do now, and make great money too! If you cry when you drive to work, leave the job!
I'm so glad you the universe have you a shove to get out of that place - and into a better opportunity!
I had 2 jobs, one after the other, where, after coming home and going to bed, just the thought that tomorrow I'll have to go to the same place, made me cry in my pillow. First job, after 2 weeks I was fired. The second job, after 2 months I was fired (this one, my boss accused me of stealing. No I did not!!!).
Hope you doing better now it their loss not yours! ❤
Don’t trust anyone at work👎🏽…..the people who smile the biggest and talk the most are diabolical and are waiting for you to do or say something to use against you👹
this
Boy do they make plans
Oh, come on! I have the biggest smile in the office, the loudest and funniest. WAHAHAHAHA. But yes, I understand what you mean. As someone who is autistic most jobs are toxic and I've seen a lot of them.
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Some people yes but not everyone
Seeing a lot of parallels between having a toxic job and having had a toxic parent - they both have had a lot of the same effects, at least for me.
@@kimkaragiannis848 I think you're on to something ❤
Yes, absolutely. I have seen the correlation as well.
Yes, same here.
My father was very mentally abusive towards me, which could be one of the reasons why I thought I deserved to be bullied and gaslighted on the job instead of deserving so much better. He had me convinced I was a loser who would never amount to anything, and didn't deserve good things in my life.
It's simply PTSD.
Agree. Mine hung around for a year.
yep its PTSD!!!!
If you’re in a toxic job I recommend saving as much money as you can. I ALWAYS have 3 months expenses saved so I can leave a job as soon as I realise it’s toxic. (I live in Australia so it doesn’t take over 6 months to get a job like America and my healthcare isn’t connected to my job and here you aren’t judged if you have a gap in your resume)
Health insurance is a big deal here in the US. I'll never get used to it (I'm originally Canadian)
Terrifying to have your health directly linked to your employer. Not too late to move back?😅
What kind of job do you do? Or at least can you tell me the domain?
Even though my current job isn't toxic, I've had plenty of toxic jobs in my life to give me major trauma for several life times. That's why I have so much money saved up. You just never know.
@@bunniewood since I exited corporate to found my own company, my health insurance is dependent on my husband's job (no pressure on him lol)
I was let go from a toxic job ten years ago. I finally am getting past it, but it's definitely not easy. I was in a position that was way over my head, and despite my best efforts, I could never get up to the level they demanded.
This!!
Last month I got fired from my trainee dental nurse position, simply because I wasn’t good enough. It was a blessing in disguise! I was barely at the place a month and was told to basically learn quicker, the practice manager even told me to; ‘just pretend to be someone else if you have to, don’t be Sophie’…
This is when I knew I had to get out. They saved me the bother and did it for me, but I have been left with awful anxiety, the feeling of not being good enough and the feeling of failure at any future job I may have.🙃
Remember the advice from the 70's R&B hit 🎶 Smiling Faces , Smiling Faces , They Lie , They Don't Tell The Truth ! 🎶 Beware ⚠️
Undisputed truth band! I remember...
@beatricesiaw8776 Can You Dig It ! 👍
this came out just in time. i just finally got a great low stress office job but it's hard to shake off my old coping machanisms
Yeahhhh😢
Its adaptations. Not adaptions.
I mess it up Everytime I type it 🤦🏼♀️ My brain knows, my ADHD refuses.
If you find yourself going from one "toxic job" to the next, the job isn't the problem. Be open minded.
Yes it is so fook off
can you please explain?
@OanaTheMeerkat If EVERY WHERE you go is "toxic," there is only 1 common denominator. What is the definition of toxic? One must be willing to examine themselves instead of finding fault with & wanting others to change. Just a thought. 😃 😊
Been through this many times. Live your life/Succeed and be better than them both professionally and financially. That is the best revenge.
About 3 years ago I got out of a horrific job situation. The environment was fear based leadership. Bullying, favoritism and retaliation were rampant. During all of this we were expected to attend after hour "team building" functions and if we did not we were questioned as to why we were not there. Any time we requested PTO we were to give a detailed reason why we needed it then our manager would decide if they would approve or not. Needless to say it was a living nightmare for over a year. I finally reached my breaking point and quit. I took some time to travel and be with my family. I was very lucky to have the support system I did during this time. Now I work for the family business and I am in graduate school! I couldn't be happier. Even if things seem dark and hopeless I promise there is hope and light at the end of the tunnel.
That’s nice you can work for a family business 😊
@@rturney6376that's a whole story for another day but it all works out in the end!
This! I also want to point out that, the biggest reason that I've seen why companies and businesses are not only hurting for good help and good employees these days, aside from our job market and economy struggling, is because of a toxic work environment, no matter who within the environment is toxic. All it takes is just one person to make it miserable for everyone else, just one person.
One bag apple spoils the bunch 💯
@@JenniferBrick yes it does and it can take months to years, to heal from and recover from a toxic workplace. That trauma no matter how much counseling and therapy one might have after leaving that awful environment, it stays with you for the rest of your life, especially when it's been going on for months to years at the time.
@@JenniferBrickI was in the U.S. Army 2011-2014. After the Army and after finishing my Associates of Science degree in May of 2019 and I'm not yet done with my schooling and education. Anyways, I worked a seasonal job at Petco, November of 2021 thru late January of 2022. Then six months later on July of 2022 thru August of 2023, I worked as a secretarial receptionist at a beauty, in which my boss at the time, retired from her 30+ years career in permanent cosmetics shortly after I completed my time when I worked for her. Since August 13, 2024, I've been a Substitute Teacher at the High School not too far from my house. I've worked retail and certain jobs similar to retail, and retail is not at all fun and it's better than not having a job sometimes when you are limited on options. Oh and I totally agree with you that, coworkers aren't your friends, and I've tried to be friends with former coworkers and it worked for several months or several years depending on how long the post work friendship at the time lasted, but we've gone our own separate ways and have moved on without keeping in touch. As much as I miss those people sometimes, life goes on and that just proves that coworkers and former coworkers are not our friends.
@@chelseasmith9242 not all therapists and counsellors are trauma-informed. While their training and education provide the basics, processing workplace trauma (and trauma in general) requires trauma-informed professionals.
Look for therapists who have advanced training; it's important to note here there is not necessarily a 'trauma-informed certification' while there are approaches that certify qualifying practitioners (these usually require specific course work, supervised practice, and general practice hours).
I suggest this beyond therapists and counselors to get over workplace trauma; if you choose to work with career coaches, healers, etc, they *need* to have advanced training and experience. I say this because the risk of unintentional harm is so great when unresolved trauma is present.
Your last point on energy is so on point. It doesn’t matter how much I rest during the day or sleep at night, the overall feeling I experience most of the time is anxiety mixed with exhaustion. I’m envisioning a battery starting a day at say 50% and then needing to go and DO all day when truly a 100% charge is required to properly function.
The fatigue is so real and so intense; it's emotionally, cognitively, and even physically draining.
Got a new boss mansplaining right off the bat that he was told to run the place however he wants to and for us not to contact his boss. Don't be a tyrant and I won't
Sometimes its the overall culture. If you came to your current job with a lot of confidence, you were very good at what you did, you initially had lots of success at this new job, but over time, the culture sort of sucked that away. Normally this is happening because you are surrounded by people and systems that do not reward actual excellence, but more reward nails that don't stick up above the surface. Over time your ability to maintain not only your confidence, but your actual skill sets will decrease. After some years in this environment, you are now stuck because the rest of the world has moved on without you. If you were now to try to find the same position, you would probably no longer feel qualified for it. This environment will typically be filled with people just like you who have been there for years and even decades. It might not feel all that toxic, but it is perhaps the most toxic environment for your career.
Lowers your confidence, your passion, and being used to functional teams. NOT GOOD!
Years ago, I was gaslighted by both my immediate boss and the head of HR at what I thought was my dream job. I was working as a copywriter for a children's website. My work was constantly belittled. I was told that nobody in the office liked me. Any mistake I made was totally magnified. I was pretty much forced out of this job. And though both the website and the company no longer exists, I still have deep rooted trauma do to what I went through.
Sending Hugs.❤ years back I landed under a toxic boss after a reorg with similar behaviors. When I reported his horrid behavior up to his boss, he made up stories about me having mental health problems and would in public meetings say things like ‘go take your meds’. HR backed the toxic boss. I managed to transfer under a sane boss, that lasted a year; then the toxic boss convinced higher ups to put me back under him with another reorg. At that point I just stopped doing any work as I knew separation packages were coming in 9 months and wanted to be paid to leave; thankfully I was. Of course now I know the toxic boss was projecting his issues onto me and shame shedding, but I can still get triggered years on.
I hate to paint this with a broad brush but where are the non-toxic work environments?? I left one nightmare to find myself in nearly the same situation. I’m conscious of my behavior and avoid those survival reactions and instincts but some of us (minorities in particular) face this time and time again. I think we need to fully remove our talents from these vampiric corporations that foster these environments that just drain everyone’s life force!
Exactly. I had 4 toxic employers in a span of 6 years that destroyed me completely.
They do exist. But sadly they are definitely in the minority.
Become your own boss!!
@@999timepass very relatable! I’m sorry you’re going through that. I know the immense suffering you must be dealing with and the subsequent fall out from it. Especially on in your physical body. I hope you find peace and healing soon ♥️!
@@fennyellis3366 I’m not sure everyone is built for that. I’m not even able to pursue that route fully because my nervous system is completely obliterated after over 20 years of prolonged corporate trauma. It’s so easy to just dish out meaningless advice without fully understanding someone’s circumstances ain’t it?
The problem with this video is 90% of jobs are now toxic. So I actually would not recommend lowering your guard.
This problem isn't really solvable at the individual level. Our society is falling apart.
Career PTSD is real omigawd!!!
Takes some time to let it go - it's literally mental trauma in many and perhaps most cases. Modern society seems to underestimate trauma in my opinion, the ancient ones were well aware, ritualistically healing traumas as a way of life. There are certainly opportunities for us to accept that traumas are part of life and that we can heal them in many healthier ways - maybe clinical psychedelics too in extreme cases. 😎
Oh my gosh. 6 years later, this is me. Even after having two great jobs after I can’t stop thinking about it.
I realized a coworker who appeared super nice and down to earth would have temper issues and blow up on people. or maybe she developed them idk all i know is im thankful shes not in a position of power and i am not her first victim. at first i was uncomfortable going to work after i realized she was targeting me but then i also soon realized everyone lowkey already knows about her so its like she can do or say what she wants but i can carry on as normal. obviously i dont casual try to chat w her anymore but yeah i already regret she knows anything about me. she wanted to know so much about me when we first met. lile my aunt says when you start a new job BE QUIET and don't share personal info.... you don't yet know who is crazy or toxic.
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Find me any job that is not toxic. Modern corporate world can't function otherwise. So, effectively, any job is toxic by its nature of enforced labor. Saving money is a good idea, but will not help. With all those lay offs it is already 10 months I can't find any work. Like ANY work. There is always some useful idiot who is ready to work for food and bare any toxic behavior from the employer.
Jennifer; I went through a civilian job that gave me PTSD ( mental rape) (apologies to those that have been assaulted) This individual looked for ways to isolate and brutalize me. I didn’t know until later . I thought some of the experiences I had in the military were bad. You are helping me so much
Oh you’re right! And I think much of work culture in general is toxic, but it’s a whole other thing if you’re constantly disrespected and micromanaged. We get treated with so much more trust and respect at my current job. Initially I found myself a bit shellshocksd and defensively my previous job, though. I realized after a while it’s not like that anymore. It was all down to a jerk boss and a very controlling management structure
Keep in mind they will stay in your cv and they will give you a red alert references everywhere possible.
I find all workplaces are dis functional to some level.
Ughh we should be able to sue for mental health issues I definitely have PTSD
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I notice these symptoms still a month after parting with the toxic workplace. I am working through your guidebook now, wow I realize after 1 month of parting ways there are still so much bubbling anger and PTSJ. When I finally journal it I realize how toxic it has been and no wonder it takes time. I also realize the person i was working with's value completely misaligned with mine . I am very eager to break out of the toxic job cycle (even if its often in our industry)
I left a toxic job after a year, but I should have left after day 1 due to how I was treated the first day... eventually I left after having my tires slashed, a severe allergic stress reaction, and finally another manager died at their desk under the age of 50...that is what convinced me I couldn't stay... though I ended up with PSTD, severe debilitating depression, and panic attacks. If a job is toxic again I leave I'm not getting bullied by some prick ever again! I've had two other toxic bosses and immediately planned my exit. I know toxic now when I see it; but its always a gamble who your boss will be.
I don't trust anyone in the workplace anymore. One of my coworkers looks like a decent person, however, I discovered that she is very skilled at speaking with different people according to what they want to hear. And recently I discovered that she spoke very differently in front of other people than she spoke with me privately. That threw me out of trust. I then concluded that she is dancing between different parties in the office politics. She is subtle.
My workplace is toxic. The management has favoritism with those people who grew up in their chaotic dysfunctional families who only like to create chaos at work. They seek chaos, they enjoy chaos, without chaos or hostility, life is too boring to them. Peace is abnormal to their brains. They get so excited and delighted among the chaos they created.
So, what happens if the PJS is from working for family? My dad hired a salesman and for 19 years this person stole from us. Probably 1 million + over the years. The inventory was always off. My dad would yell at me and call me dumber than a rock. He would scream at me and embarrass me in front of everyone. It got to a point where I would defend myself verbally and yell back. I was construed as disrespectful. Everyone thought I was stupid. Other co-workers, my mom, siblings, nieces and nephews, and friends of the family. Finally, it was discovered that this salesman was stealing from us when he left to start a competing company. I was shell shocked at this point. We moved away and I had to quit. I was so beaten down. 17 years later I tried to talk to my dad about it and he tried to gaslight me and I snapped back and we feel into old patterns. Not once did he apologize. I am a Realtor now and I hide. I am quiet. How do I get over this?
16 yrs at t job. After 4 yrs, still have nightmares. Crazy life. Goodluck to everyone and take care.
Ya. I think people enjoy or at least can tolerate the actual work they do. What makes most hate going to work is unrealistic and unnecessary deadlines, the cut throat nature of your coworkers trying to get ahead or stay employed, virtual signaling of coworkers in regards to constantly working long hours ( putting self and family last) , purposefully withholding info to get job done. Of course these days, there's always the threat of this paycheck being your last.
You know isn’t toxic? My dog 🐶 😊❤
If you want a friend in Management, get a dog 🐶
You nailed it!!! This was spot on!
What advice would you give to someone who has moved on from a toxic work environment, is now in a better job, but still feels
anxious when dealing with a strong (but not toxic) boss? How can they manage these feelings without letting past experiences affect their current situation, understanding that the boss’s personality may simply be intense?
I have videos that give steps to leave the toxic job baggage behind, and the Get Over Your Toxic Job Guidebook for people who are ready to leave it behind ASAP.
Jennifer Brick: "you are human, and like all humans, you have needs"
Me, a burntout workaholic: *shocked pikachu face*
Thanks for making this video!
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I use love working in the automotive field , it was my love and passion. Its been over 10 years and i got burnt out. I hate the automotive filed and will never go nack again.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏
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Adaptations
Thank you ❤ I knew I wasn’t crazy 🥹 and I’m doing so much better now 🤲🏼