I am a Westerner, so I’m not sure if I’m too under qualified to let my opinions be known, but I definitely value loyalty above all else. I don’t want someone who will cheat on me when I will not do the same.
Maturity, consideration, morality. Being able to handle your emotions, considering others, or taking responsibility for your actions. I've had a few girlfriends in the past but it didn't work because they only thought about themselves. I don't like selfish people :/ This was a great video, lots of interviews too. I've heard similar things from girls before, it's helpful to consider these things. Another thing I found amongst the interviewees was how their dislikes/likes were all different. It shows how each person is looking for different people for compatibility.
Someone that's willing to work on their flaws, doesn't have to like the same things I do, or even hold the same views. Just love, respect and understanding.
I'd phrase it a bit differently, because I wouldn't want to think that anyone "deserves" anybody. I'd say that if you have standards for your ideal partner, that's good, but the question is "what do they get in return?"
"More importantly, rejection hurts a lot. I guess men also feel hurt by rejection, but men are used to it more than women". So, if there's one to suffer, let it be him. No wonder why so many men (not only in Japan) prefer to stay single forever.
Pretty much, they always have some cop out to excuse they're behaviour. They don't even want you to know they like you lmao. What chance does a man have there.
We are in 2023, if you are a woman, and you demand that your future boyfriend or whatever to be honest with his feelings, it means that YOU ARE ALSO PREPARED to be honest with him, just as if you demand that he look good, it means that you will also look good. It is no longer 40/60, relationships have to be even. Honestly, I saw a lot of women saying things they didn't like about men and I just thought, I hope you live up to expectations too girl 👌 P. S: pls forgive my terrible English 😂 I use Google translate 🙈
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Most men don't wear makeup on a daily basis that is known to ruin skin. So no need for yet another daily batch of chemicals to undo the damage of the first batch of daily chemicals lmao.
"I guess men also feel hurt by rejection but men are used to it more than women..." So it is ok to hurt them over and over again only because women don't want get hurt? That seems a bit unfair.
men's feelings never mattered. The money and status we can earn does. Ask the lady that thinks guys have to stay pretty for her and be rich; but she makes excuses for herself. She'll feel differently in 10 years when she looks in the mirror in her single apartment.
One woman: I don't want him preventing me from hanging out with my male friends. *one second later* Next woman: I don't want him to have too many female friends. LOL The irony of the timing. Or perhaps intentional editing? XD
Ideal woman: 1) Have sense of humor 2) Can cook for me sometimes 3) Have patience.....people are flawed creatures, it takes time to understand each other 4) Loves me with my flaws and strenghts Is it really THAT MUCH to ask?...
@@carlosurquiza1021 can't we men cook too? Cooking should be done by both parents when they are available. When they are at work, children should be at school/daycare.
@@plankalkulcompiler9468do you think women even cook nowadays, i have a friend that ask her mom to take care of her own son while her husband work 6 to 5 thats how lazy women are nowadays
I've never heard the statement that "a relationship works best when the man chases." I've actually heard the opposite. Not to suggest a girl needs to chase, but when it's the girl who wants a guy and she can get out of her own ego enough to make that known, that's the type of relationship that has the most longevity. The woman cares and fights her instincts to not show it, and the man feels appreciation for genuinely feeling liked for like the 4th time in his life, so he continues to give effort and appreciation. The other way around the woman is just getting the attention she always has while the guy is giving extra effort like he always has and does. Nothing new or worthwhile comes from living the same exact way in every facet of your life
I think the women prefer it that way because they feel it empowers them and helps to quell their often crippling insecurity. They really get a kick out of all that attention as well as the power to reject.
This. I commited quite quick to the girl that was the first one to show honest intrest in me. Of course attraction is needed on both sides but lets face it: a woman needs to have the motivation to deinstall the datingapp with 200 hungry simps wanting her attention, an avarage men will remember a single mediocre compliment for years.
@@general_alexus2533 I feel the weakest part of my original comment is what you delved into here. Perfect modern day example used so I appreciate you brother
Have you ever tried talking to a human woman? Cause none of the opinions expressed here are particularly Japanese. You’ll find women with these opinions everywhere
Why is that a big turn off? If a woman has many male friends that's a good sign for me. It means that she likes manly thinking and/or behaviour. Many women don't like that. And because of this chemistry it's easier for me to bond or even like them (on a friend level). IMHO they are easier to work with.
@@PunkHerr It's because guys are never "just friends" unless they are gay or a relative. Guys only hang around girls they are attracted to. If the girl were to enthusiastically offer to sleep with her guy friends, they would all likely say yes with few exceptions.
@@gamelover2222 I assume that my male friends (bubble) are these exceptions. Another thing is, why would you sleep with someone? I think most men do this (and are unconsious about it) to feel connected or accepted. I understand your point (I don't want to argue that most men are like how you described them) but I think if you listen and know them better you'll get "a nose" to smell if someone is a hunter or just a friend. (e.g. they avoid you if you are in a realtionship and come back after that)
Thank you very much for interviewing me and my friends, Nobita san..!!! The video was very interesting even for a woman.😊I enjoyed knowing other ladies's opinions. I agreed to many of them (not all) and that was interesting☺✨
Your comment is true that you mentioned how men treat a waitress or waiter girls would always ask me I'm a guy how to tell when a guy is nice and I would tell them the same if he treats them bad he will treat you bad. I worked with a lot of women and they would bring a guy in for me to meet if I did not like him they would not date them. I dated a lot of women never cheated and never had to lie about anything. And I expected the same from the women. I've traveled all over the world race is not an issue it's a match of two souls' interest in each other and different cultures makes life interesting and is a non-issue.
This made me learn something very important. instead of asking a woman, "what does she likes in a man" i Rather ask her, "What turns you off in a man" i felt like they're more sincere in that aspect
@@karinkishiryu7459 People tends to be more sincere towards negative topics instead of the positive ones, also women lies a lot, so yeah, better if I ask what turns her off
5:25 : Japanese Women : I want a guy who is upfront about his feelings ! 6 : 20 : Also Japanese Women : I dont want to reveal that I have feelings for him !
@@georgesaliba8876 More like every woman doesn't same thing. Only an idiot would expect that people of the same sex universally want the same thing. Sometimes I got a bad prejudice for stupid Western men thinking Asian women think alike like Western women all the time
The rickshaw girl seems down to earth. A bit shy and unsure of herself, but not entitled or arrogant. I think tons of guys would have a good catch with her. Considering the average guy here on the Internet or in Japan is such a looser, that or other girls are even out of their league. A decent down to earth girl is probably leagues too good for easily 70% of guys.
why do people always bring up Japans fertility rate when this is a systematic problem in every developed country? Even the immigrants they bring into the West have bellow replacement level births
@@WRXXXual Not even that , there's less rights for women in Japan like rapist get away with low punishment and molesters in train happens without reports and if a woman does the police wouldn't even bother . The real problem is the social structure and work culture. They've been trained to think of the old ways like the man making a first move. Also financial problems
And THAT is why these women are still single. They hold men to standards that are impossible to attain for themselves. No ladies, you have to bring more to the table than a pulse nowadays. Men have realized they do not need women in their lives. Marriage and even a relationship has no benefit to a man.
I Also think they are reasonable, and every woman is different, so of course, they have different answers. But why are there so many negative comments talking about that the girls is high demanding....
Could you do the same video for Japanese men's expectations from a Woman ? (that would be interesting) There are some things said that are totally understandable like a man letting himself go and becoming fat BUT should do sport. Or NOT having female friends out of fear of affairs/marriage betrayals because men are visual creatures and attractiveness + opportunities are gonna lead "friendships" to affairs/love matters... Men understand these kinds of criteria. But when a man care about the past of his woman , when he lives the impacts from the past of his wife /girlfriend because he is being compared to her previous partner (situation, money, sex) and when a man cares about the appearance of his wife so that she won't attract other men and she needs to stop wearing lewd/stupid stuff ] => that man will get rejected by the woman, will be seen as a negative person....many names... to shame that man. What matters the most is her appearance to me : I want her to be attractive and beautiful for me but I don't want her to participate in creating that atmosphere of attractiveness to other men and for that she has to dress and behave accordingly . Her behavior matters to me : is she going to provide me with calm, care, nurturing and love when I get back from work ? or is she going to harass me with futility? , is she listening to what I told her to do ? thanks for reading me. Have a good day
@fortheloveofnoise9298 they should matter, it increase the chances of cheating for both genders. The only exception is if they are ugly and not attractive
Thank you so much for the interview Nobita san! It was quite interesting to hear other girls’ opinions. Especially I liked stories about why some girls became a gal and why others learned makeup and tried to look more beautiful. Your way of interviewing people brings out people’s charms😊✨
I always had women ask me out and was always flattered by it I never embarrassed or showed disrespect to the women and never thought anything wrong with it and never felt insecure about it where some guys would feel that. I have had women send roses and chocolates asking for a date. Send me plane tickets to visit them and telegrams asking for a date. I find it so ironic people are so fearful guys and girls to just go and ask or talk to that person not everyone is met for each other and the only way to find out is to talk and introduce yourself. Life is too short for what if.
6:23 I wanted to point something out here. There are many men, including me, who, even if they are not interested in someone, won't necessarily reject them automatically. Relationships aren't built on the spot. Even if they already have a crush, lots of men will evaluate whether they think a relationship with that person would work and give it a shot. After going out a few times, both partners will find out if they are truly compatible and if they feel something for each other. I know rejection hurts but the idea that we're used to it because we've had it more often simply isn't true. From my experience, the last rejection hurts as much as the first one. The whole idea that men need to reach out first only hurts your chances of being with them. Women who are straight forward aren't that numerous. Being the one to make the first step will automatically make you seem more attractive to a man
it's rare to see someone obese in Japan. I follow a Japanese woman she had like 4 or 5 kids. She is slender. I'm like wth is that kind of magic. Here in the west the woman would be like a giant whale unless she works out.
Agreed. That was a double standard. There are overweight women who have never had a kid. It's not "reasonable" to be overweight as a woman, in every single scenario, if I'm using the same standard she uses for men. Plus, men could also have potential major health changes that drastically fluctuate one's weight; depression, thyroid changes, hormone changes when getting older, even being forced to drink with superiors or just making bad/fast food decisions when living the stressful life of an overworked Japanese business man. Personally, weight doesn't matter to me, in a partner, but I'm just making a hypothetical based upon the same unfair standard the interviewee used. She should have just said, "I don't like overweight guys," and left it at that. Instead, she made a cheap excuse for women.
@@juku_juku Given her own admitted issues, it makes perfect sense why image & appearance matter so much to her. That said, if she ever found somebody, she'd better hope that he (and let's not forget, her) age well.
There's no double standard there when she's not fat herself beside different culture being fat there most of the time being fat there are being frowned upon most of the time. Their diet isn't like the West either look at the charts of obesity rate in Japan it's very low
I will marry asap who believes everything is about give&take. Every person I met start with what they want; not what they wish to offer. Girl who thinks "I'm a woman so many have to give what I love to" mindset is my red flag. A superior way of thinking... Everybody born to fulfil their needs ; not to fulfil another.
I learned to respect the woman I adore now. In past relationships, I learned i have done something wrong. Right now I feel at ease and NOT to be possessive at things. I just focus who I am and my own happiness and personal goals. Everybody has their own pace and agenda, I let faith do its course. If happy to each other, then go along with it. No pressure :)
Nobita, I don't know if you realize this, but those are some seriously controlling women you spoke to. Many of them are middle of the road in the looks department, but are asking for men who are more wealthy, more attractive, more successful and better equipped emotionally to deal with life, than they are. I would be very interested in a follow up video on what these women think they can provide in a relationship, but every one of them just seems to want everything given to them in this video. Nobody is perfect. Everyone will age and get too skinny and too fat by turns, jobs will come and go, as well as wealth. If the rampant materialism is all that these women care about, with the nebulous "be nice" exception, it's no wonder that so many are going without a long term committed relationship. I'm worried about their futures.
Those women, and women in general nowadays, consider themselves to be a prize that needs to be won, thanks to feminism. These self-entitled women do not realize that the pool of men that will give these women a second glance will dry up significantly once they are past 30 years old. Once again, YOU ARE NOT A PRIZE THAT NEEDS TO BE WON. Ladies, supply never dictates its value, the demand does. In this case your value primarily lies in the fact that you can give birth to healthy children and this is the sole reason for many men to try and have a relationship with you and marry you. This is not misogyny, this is basic biology. As awesome as your career, economical and financial accomplishments might be, those are secondary reasons for any men wanting to pursue you. You can keep rejecting any and all men like it is some stupid game to you, however, you will end up lonely. Just something to look forward to.
Woman: I want a man who expresses his feelings and is sensitive. Same Woman years later: He was not masculine enough, was not a manly man, and was always expressing his feelings like a little bitch. I found that very unattractive, so I cheated on him with a guy who didn’t say anything and knew what he wanted. I found his natural testosterone driven, aggressive take control attitude super sexy and a major turn on. 😂 Yes this is satire, but there’s just enough truth in it to strike a nerve.
I have to admit that I clicked because I saw Misa-chan’s photo on the thumbnail :-) She’s so sweet, I love the way her smile just radiates from the screen :-) - But the rest of the video was great too, I really enjoy all of your videos, ne! Keep up the great work!
Nobita様 Thank you for sharing this video. I remember seeing this content before. I think you should do a round table with these women and some guys who are smart enough to question some "ideals" that women search for in a man. What they want vs. the reality of men. I think men and women today more confused than ever about how they fit together.
Kinda don't understand a lot of the comments here. It's like people expect women to all want the same thing or be turned on or turned off by the same thing. If anything, seeing them all honestly expressing what they like and don't like is great for me. I can meet someone on my own terms, if we have same ideas, great, if not, no harm done. At least I don't have to start a relationship in false pretences and discover years later that she really didn't like me that much and she's only doing it because society told her to.
I love how the people who idealize Japan (and Japanese women) get upset when the women express their opinion or when the reality doesn't match their fantasy
@@Greenforrest7342 most of them still think from a western society point of view. They tend to forget that people in the east works a bit differently. I try to keep an open mind, but sometimes the western part of me can slip in. xD I don't mind if they express their opinion. I want to see it from another perspective as well.
the type of men who get mad at this are the same types that are unsuccessful with women in their own countries and generally blame women for their own shortcomings. There is also a common fetishization that Asian women are meek and will put up with a man of lower standing especially if he is white
@@hnlpharmd yeah you'd need to be first educated on the fact how IRL Japan is to then be able to sense how true Anime and Manga is with the feelings and such.
@@Enforcedcraft It's not that hard if you're from the Eastern side. I immediately understand their views especially a man making the first move..I'm an introverted guy and was a bit shy but it didn't stop me from making a move on a woman. I honestly despice Western views on dating although I understand the situation with west in the feminists. it's different in the east like Japan where women don't have as much rights as men so them being very passive and wants the men to make a move is very much traditional
Fat - ✅ Bossy- ✅ Possessive ✅ Rude ✅ Negative ✅ Low confidence ✅ Many girl-friends ✅ No attention to detail ✅ Dishonest ✅ Not upfront ✅ Scaredy cat ✅ I'm decided to take up the challenge. I'm going to Japan so I can write a book on " How to be a Professional Failure"
Guys the most important message is NEVER LISTEN TO THESE WANTS! Maybe some of these behaviors like being nice to people around you is correct but in general these women don’t know what they want or these wants are entirely based on each woman’s personal experience. Don’t be a simp and follow all this advice. Just work hard, stay in shape, and focus on yoursef and women will come!
you are right ! All women that have wants , just don't ever know what they want really. It' a lost of time to give interest to these ( and a pain if you do , beware ! )
Very, very true. ( you can’t listen to these wants, they are cultivated in unrealistic fantasy.) the best thing you can do is be the primal you, and work on yourself, your skills and your health. If you build it, they will come to you. The ones who don’t were not the right ones. Just keep being you. Don’t worry about meeting the expectations of fantasies. Be their reality.
My God the bar is apparently on the fucking ground in Japan. These women would just like a decent man it's insane that these basic traits are just not present in a lot of their men there.
These basic traits are present in many men. These women are simply unable/unwilling to open up themselves. Playing hard to get makes you hard to want, and especially nowadays where women have to bring more to the table than just a pulse.
Who on EARTH would want to date that first woman? She seemed cold and emotionless, no man would want that. At the same time, she was very masculine and dominant, also, not likeable traits - She also seemed like she was not the sharpest knife in the drawer, with her insane generalizations.
I think love is like gold or diamonds, a rare entity to be discovered. It exists and it requires a lot of effort to find it. So much of it has been found but so much of it remains hidden. If you find it, don't trade it away. Don't lose it carelessly. Because you will likely never find anymore of it. And I believe everyone wants to find it even if they will not admit to that.
Thank you for working harf and for your videos Nobita! Such interesting topics!^_^❤ I know it's uncommon but a gentleman and a provider are good qualities to look for ❤
I find it funny that the women want men to show more of their feelings up-front in Japan when at the same time they don't want you to show your feelings up-front out in public, so is it that you can only love them in secret? Yes I'm American and when I'm in love with someone it's always even while I sleep, and I show my feelings and affection all the time without even thinking about it, hugs/kisses/words of affection arm around waste, holding hands etc. like when I see them after work or meeting up. I don't think Japanese women acceptance of that in Japan so I would find it hard to date a part-time lover. Or would think is she embarrassed of our feelings for each other, so is it really love
Uh, there aren't only 2 ways for women to be "acceptably" overweight. And if you think no overweight men are successful, you must be one of the many many people in Japan who think all American actors look like Leo or something. If we're supposed to care about diversity and acceptance and everything else people bleat about nowadays, then accept sometimes your partner is going to be in a negative mood, they may not even know why, and your inability to help them is no indictment against you. I also find it funny how many of these ladies want a man to be completely open with his feelings when I've heard (on this channel no less) that many Japanese ladies are nigh-incapable of being upfront with their feelings. I do though like the gyaru girl who said she wouldn't pursue someone unless she was sure he liked her first.
All looking for the same kind of person. Are they really single or just lying and not saying the most important thing: He needs to be Sexually Attractive to me. Most important thing. All the rest is secondary. People can change. but you cant just Look better tomorrow if someone gave you Advice today. There's a girl/guy out there for you but you are not going to find her/him if you give up. We live in a world with so much access to information, Why not take a step back and figure out what you like and which kinds of places you will find this Person and go hunt.
They all do not the same thing if you think the nuances behind. But alot of them are passive by nature. It's expected from a society where women have fewer rights than men. It's not the same in the West which is opposite
:07 The thing Japanese and Korean women can be mercilessly cruel about is body size. What other countries would consider fit and trim and muscular is often considered "fat" in Japan. Japanese women all feel that women should weight less than 100 lbs, and really anything over 90 lbs is "overweight" to them. Despite all that you might hear about Japanese politeness, Japanese women are not shy about telling other people "you are fat" It does not matter male or female, Japanese or foreigner, young or old, athletic or otherwise: "You are fat" and "You gained a lot of weight didn't you?" These fat shamers can have crooked teeth that look like broken glass and skin with spots all over it, hair that has been burned thin by chemicals to make it look brown instead of natural black, but they will lay the heavy hand of fat shaming like they are some kind of beauty princess judge themselves.
Men aren't allowed to be fat, be negative or complain about literally anything oh and we can't feel entitled to the woman who's with us or be surrounded by female friends lmao- hmm, I wonder if these girls hold themselves to similar high standards of perfection 😂
@@ZWR567 ; my point exactly, fact is they already have been judging men by both aesthetic & success (money) standards but most guys are oblivious to true female nature- the catch is they don't hold themselves to these same standards. Women can be total losers as long as they're hot enough for the guy (or ex. getting laid).
As a foreign resident in Japan with experience dating Japanese women, this is typical with many but not the norm. Whether their responses were honest or not, don't bother trying to crack the code. Simply put, stay healthy, have a good career, stay hygienic, have Japanese speaking ability, be positive, smile, and committed to staying in Japan for long term. That's all there is to it. Don't overcomplicate it. I've met great people here and these women don't represent all of Japan so don't get hung over it. They aren't even a 5 but I see so many comments bashing them. It's much different when you meet Japanese women in Japan than what you're watching here. It's their choice with the standards they have. Plenty more think differently. Hope this helps anyone trying to date in Japan as a foreign resident.
Yep yep, in deciding one’s standards for a romantic partner I think it’s necessary to be building oneself up to match the standard they are wanting in their partner or it’s never going to happen without the work. In addition, there absolutely needs to be mutual respect, willingness to communicate and listen to each other. For example, men being respectful, courteous, chivalrous, it can all go away from that guy if he feels heavily taken for granted, there’s no respect for how much he will do for his woman or if he feels unappreciated for his successful efforts, be willing to talk anything out fairly and reasonably, focused on making peace and resolution, that goes for the two. Same importance in recognizing and openly appreciating what a woman will do for her partner, which also naturally quite a lot, and naturally more nurturing affection comes from women and I think men honestly need that to feel supported by their wife in what they do for the family. Men and women need different things, both should try to understand each other and communicate as human beings on an equal but complimentary manner. Team work makes the dream work! Lol
OK lots of requirements, what are you willing to contribute as a woman within the couple relationship? What are you willing to give in return for all the things you demand?
ok, I support that they want an independent, caring, attentive men that will listen and love them for who they are… but then wtf are some of them unwilling to take any risk, put all the responsibility on him, and expect them to follow a script on how to chase and behave??? Super support the woman that just said: I like them like this! If I like them, I ask them out! Direct and to the point. Gets what she gives. Guess the rest are just internalized misogyny coated as traditions.
There's no misogyny over there. It was really a freaking tradition conditioned into them. They're stuck at old times. Japanese women don't have as much rights as the men. People who rape them doesn't got punish big time. Stop trying to coat Western thinking it's different for them. Most Japanese men are too busy with worked that it got in the way with their life. The work culture is killing the society , so less men tend to be assertive in these situations
if women actually want to be equal they should chase man and learn how to take rejection it will help both sides since men and women can be very shy or be oblivious to womens hints
7yrs living in Japan and I can appreciate your efforts on this video but interviewing women will not give you what they really look for. The only way to get that info is to observe them in the wild. I will get straight to the point, even in Japan if a guy is not イケメン then they will not get a chance. I have been out here long enough and have had a very successful love life here. My advice to dudes is don’t take advice from fish on how to fish.
Very good, but the first girl's comment about relationships shocked me a little, as she said that she would not date a fat man and that fat men are not successful, which means that Sumo wrestlers do not date, and are not successful in Japan!?. ,
its best to work on yourself than looking to others to be the so called perfect love partner cause there isn't you need to be honest but have self control with yourself instead of controlling others being kind, knowing when you're keep space, and being open with one another. Trying to be good enough will never work take time and true commit.
Personally I would say religious beliefs/values are a main part. Overall I would say kind, caring, compassionate, and patience personalities are very attractive to me even though physical attraction gets your foot in the door.
When you have so many preferences and you can't say a word that you have a feeling for him. Who would know your feeling? You are not a baby, but a grown adult.
2:26: this is a no go : if you prefer hanging out with your males friends , then why should you have been in a couple ? No way ! There is a limit of what to do and not to.
When both parties(boys&girls)not willing to change/adjust a little bit themselves for better relationship foundation but only self centered mindset&expecting to be fully accepted by the others, then 'Love is NOT Possible'.
Interesting how a lot of these women don't want to be valued for what their appearance is but I would wager a lot of money that most of these women discount men by how they look.
I never had any luck with Japanese women. I remember the time I was in Tokyo dating one which was good, but our sex life wasn't. So I took her to a love hotel, took a shower, shaved, and put on some fantastic cologne. Then I hopped into bed and said "OK honey, you can make the first move". Then she packed up and left for Hiroshima. 😂
If you want others accept yourself, then start accepting others first. Learn bothways and think bothways is the key i think, not always women first or men first , just how bothways communicate and understand each other, if not maybe not your love of life?
Most of them put the focus on themselves. Now, it seems to be the man has to give everything and be perfect and the woman deserves everything just for the fact of being so. Love is bi-directional, it is a matter of two... I give but I also want to receive, otherwise I am just a provider and the woman I am with a customer that can ask for everything just because it pays for it... I am not a product you can buy.
One needs to understand a woman’s nature. No matter where she is from. All women have expectations and want them met. All women use their feelings and emotions to make decisions in a relationship which means as a man you can count on her to change her mind on a consistent basis. To explain to a woman that you can not create relationships on feelings and emotions is like telling an alligator you can’t eat meat 🥩 😊
unlike you ive been told to respect women growing up and be nice to them, now im feeling dumb i waste all that for nothing should have put myself first
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You know what, Nobita? Im also a very big fan of gyaru now. At first i didnt quite gave much attention to that video, but your points shine brighter and brighter as you make more videos with these girls.
What I want from my partner is the will to sacrifice. I don't want to be the only person who does the sacrifice. Men can't possibly be happy all the time, there are times men can be feeling down, men are not perfect, women need to understand their partners better as well, and not acting selfish and childish.
This was a bit frustrating to watch for me. Not because it was badly done or anything. Just, everything all these ladies want out of a man, I AM! I never impose my opinions, world view on anyone. I do not judge a book by its cover (figure of speech), I am never rude to someone who makes a mistake or slips up, I always help and give supportive comments and always thank them for their service. I always listen, and only give advice if asked. I keep myself fit and healthy, eating healthily and daily exercise as well as staying clean and respectable. I always do the chores, cleaning, washing, dishes, sorting and throwing out trash...correctly! I agree that someone who does not look healthy is not very attractive. Shit, I am out of breath, sorry... lost track now. I would be "perfect" for any one of these ladies, yet, no luck. All of the ladies in this video are so very attractive to me, just wish I was younger and more social so as to meet them. (am 41 by the way and have been living here in Japan for almost 19 years now) Anyhooooo, happy new year guys and girls! 明けましておめでとうございます！ 一年が喜びと健康に満ちたものになりますように！ Wishing you all the best! PS: Take care Nobita-san!
@@GodhandPlusOne To the contrary dear Watson. Most people don't know what they want until it is unobtainable.☝️😉 I was younger once. I know very well.😌
@@pauloazuela8488 Yup, preach brother! Also, in the end of the day, they approach relationships as purely a business proposition. Culturally speaking that is.
At least half of the women interviewed had their eyes widened, colored contacts, hair dyed to some unnatural color to look like they are white girls. One of these women even had fangs put on her teeth!.... women who are not comfortable with themselves will never be comfortable or satisfied with any man.
What do women in general want from a man? -Honorable -Dependable/Reliable -Responsible These 3 should reflect on your look and what attracts women to a man.
hey hey to the insecure people complaining about double standards, don't act as if u got no preferences. all their points can be, and is being applied for women as well. negative people might bring you down, those who don't take care of themselves are more at risk of health issues and etc. keep up with the preferenses but do make yourself deserving of them. that's just my view on this.
Pfft, deserving of them my ass. What do they do to deserve the top 0.00000000000000000001% of men they all say they want? Nothing, as far as I'm concerned. Yet all the low-T, neckbearded simps keep chasing them relentlessly en masse, so they continue to live in their state of delusion.
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What do you want from your romantic partner? What matters to you the most?
Being a decent person is pretty high up the list, personally a desire to have a large family is also a must.
to not jealous or scream at my figurines & gacha collection
I am a Westerner, so I’m not sure if I’m too under qualified to let my opinions be known, but I definitely value loyalty above all else. I don’t want someone who will cheat on me when I will not do the same.
Maturity, consideration, morality. Being able to handle your emotions, considering others, or taking responsibility for your actions. I've had a few girlfriends in the past but it didn't work because they only thought about themselves. I don't like selfish people :/
This was a great video, lots of interviews too. I've heard similar things from girls before, it's helpful to consider these things. Another thing I found amongst the interviewees was how their dislikes/likes were all different. It shows how each person is looking for different people for compatibility.
Someone that's willing to work on their flaws, doesn't have to like the same things I do, or even hold the same views. Just love, respect and understanding.
It’s easy to say what you want in another person, but another thing is to be one who deserves that person. This goes for both male/female.
Some women think too highly of themselves but forgets to consider own self whether if they are worthy.
We're getting there, ✌🏽👀
Example : 2:26 ^^
Truth, thank you
I'd phrase it a bit differently, because I wouldn't want to think that anyone "deserves" anybody. I'd say that if you have standards for your ideal partner, that's good, but the question is "what do they get in return?"
"More importantly, rejection hurts a lot. I guess men also feel hurt by rejection, but men are used to it more than women". So, if there's one to suffer, let it be him. No wonder why so many men (not only in Japan) prefer to stay single forever.
Absolutely agree👍🏻
Men are rejected across all cultures, it’s called having a backbone
Come on man, she is right in a good way. We are really used to it so we overcome it more easily, therefore let's keep trying!
Pretty much, they always have some cop out to excuse they're behaviour. They don't even want you to know they like you lmao. What chance does a man have there.
@@plankalkulcompiler9468 Beta
We are in 2023, if you are a woman, and you demand that your future boyfriend or whatever to be honest with his feelings, it means that YOU ARE ALSO PREPARED to be honest with him, just as if you demand that he look good, it means that you will also look good. It is no longer 40/60, relationships have to be even. Honestly, I saw a lot of women saying things they didn't like about men and I just thought, I hope you live up to expectations too girl 👌
P. S: pls forgive my terrible English 😂 I use Google translate 🙈
100%
Most men dont even do skincare lmao
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 That's right, and it's okay, we shouldn't force anyone to do something they're not interested in, man or woman.
@@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438 Most men don't wear makeup on a daily basis that is known to ruin skin. So no need for yet another daily batch of chemicals to undo the damage of the first batch of daily chemicals lmao.
@Minni Study basic reading comprehension, then try again. I am talking about makeup that is known to ruin skin.
I like the gyaru one, she only want to be accepted for who she truly are, and don't want people to try change her
The only one who is honest.
3:27 That style often looks awful
Selfish womens a.k.a. FEMINISMS WAnts supremacy not equality!😒👎
Gyaru always seem like the most honest and self aware people in japan.
She reminded me of kei
"There're no fat men who are successful in career"
Meanwhile Gaben:" Am I a joke to you?"
Kim Jong Un has entered the chat.
sumo wrestlers are great men
"I guess men also feel hurt by rejection but men are used to it more than women..." So it is ok to hurt them over and over again only because women don't want get hurt? That seems a bit unfair.
men's feelings never mattered. The money and status we can earn does. Ask the lady that thinks guys have to stay pretty for her and be rich; but she makes excuses for herself.
She'll feel differently in 10 years when she looks in the mirror in her single apartment.
Life's a bit unfair. :-)
If someone thinks like her that's a red flag to me.
@@herpdederp6186 Life is never fair in the first place, even from thousand years ago.
Because most women aren't as empathetic as they think they are.
Instead of asking women what they want , I think it’s better to look at their past relationships to see what they choose.
Facts !
One woman: I don't want him preventing me from hanging out with my male friends.
*one second later*
Next woman: I don't want him to have too many female friends.
LOL The irony of the timing. Or perhaps intentional editing? XD
Ideal woman:
1) Have sense of humor
2) Can cook for me sometimes
3) Have patience.....people are flawed creatures, it takes time to understand each other
4) Loves me with my flaws and strenghts
Is it really THAT MUCH to ask?...
Yeah. Because you want to be treated like a person and not as an ATM. Women cannot handle men who want to be treated as a person.
2 is too much, yes. She isn't required to cook for you.
@@plankalkulcompiler9468 whos gonna feed the kids then? McDonald's?
@@carlosurquiza1021 can't we men cook too? Cooking should be done by both parents when they are available. When they are at work, children should be at school/daycare.
@@plankalkulcompiler9468do you think women even cook nowadays, i have a friend that ask her mom to take care of her own son while her husband work 6 to 5 thats how lazy women are nowadays
Nobita should've done all these interviews in a tuxedo.
Watched too much lex fridman
I've never heard the statement that "a relationship works best when the man chases." I've actually heard the opposite. Not to suggest a girl needs to chase, but when it's the girl who wants a guy and she can get out of her own ego enough to make that known, that's the type of relationship that has the most longevity. The woman cares and fights her instincts to not show it, and the man feels appreciation for genuinely feeling liked for like the 4th time in his life, so he continues to give effort and appreciation. The other way around the woman is just getting the attention she always has while the guy is giving extra effort like he always has and does.
Nothing new or worthwhile comes from living the same exact way in every facet of your life
tbh there shouldn't be a chase if both are interested they should just go out and have fun. Those games are pretty much useless these days.
I think the women prefer it that way because they feel it empowers them and helps to quell their often crippling insecurity. They really get a kick out of all that attention as well as the power to reject.
This.
I commited quite quick to the girl that was the first one to show honest intrest in me.
Of course attraction is needed on both sides but lets face it: a woman needs to have the motivation to deinstall the datingapp with 200 hungry simps wanting her attention, an avarage men will remember a single mediocre compliment for years.
@@agamersinsanity I 100% agree with you overall. Just in regards to that statement in the video, I believe it's the opposite
@@general_alexus2533 I feel the weakest part of my original comment is what you delved into here. Perfect modern day example used so I appreciate you brother
After watching this, all I can think is "no wonder Japanese have dating/marriage troubles!"
Have you looked at the rate of marriage and birth in Western countries? It's not just a Japanese problem
Have you ever tried talking to a human woman? Cause none of the opinions expressed here are particularly Japanese. You’ll find women with these opinions everywhere
"I have many guy friends and want to keep hanging out with them" yea that's a no go. That's a big turn off
Knowing how a lot of young Asian men dress you wouldn't even be able to know if they are just gay friends.
Right
Why is that a big turn off?
If a woman has many male friends that's a good sign for me.
It means that she likes manly thinking and/or behaviour. Many women don't like that.
And because of this chemistry it's easier for me to bond or even like them (on a friend level).
IMHO they are easier to work with.
@@PunkHerr It's because guys are never "just friends" unless they are gay or a relative. Guys only hang around girls they are attracted to. If the girl were to enthusiastically offer to sleep with her guy friends, they would all likely say yes with few exceptions.
@@gamelover2222 I assume that my male friends (bubble) are these exceptions.
Another thing is, why would you sleep with someone? I think most men do this (and are unconsious about it) to feel connected or accepted.
I understand your point (I don't want to argue that most men are like how you described them) but I think if you listen and know them better you'll get "a nose" to smell if someone is a hunter or just a friend. (e.g. they avoid you if you are in a realtionship and come back after that)
Thank you very much for interviewing me and my friends, Nobita san..!!! The video was very interesting even for a woman.😊I enjoyed knowing other ladies's opinions. I agreed to many of them (not all) and that was interesting☺✨
Then tell everyone what do men want in a woman, if you enjoyed ladies opinions sssoooo much, please tell us what men what. STOP BEING a SELFISH person
Your comment is true that you mentioned how men treat a waitress or waiter girls would always ask me I'm a guy how to tell when a guy is nice and I would tell them the same if he treats them bad he will treat you bad. I worked with a lot of women and they would bring a guy in for me to meet if I did not like him they would not date them. I dated a lot of women never cheated and never had to lie about anything. And I expected the same from the women. I've traveled all over the world race is not an issue it's a match of two souls' interest in each other and different cultures makes life interesting and is a non-issue.
@@fludog1 Each other have different opinions. Cant pointout a common single one. need to match the opinions for find the partner
SHe enjoyed d unrealistic/ironic/selfish ideas of feminist womens when it comes to a relationship🤣🤣🤣🤣
This made me learn something very important. instead of asking a woman, "what does she likes in a man" i Rather ask her, "What turns you off in a man" i felt like they're more sincere in that aspect
Why didn't he ask what to men hate about woman. Stop being so selfish
that make sense actually
Nope! There not sincere!😒these sets of womens r all selfish & immature!😒
@@karinkishiryu7459 People tends to be more sincere towards negative topics instead of the positive ones, also women lies a lot, so yeah, better if I ask what turns her off
@@fludog1 huuuhhh?
5:25 : Japanese Women : I want a guy who is upfront about his feelings !
6 : 20 : Also Japanese Women : I dont want to reveal that I have feelings for him !
😂🤣
Women lol
Every hour they have a different personality broooo
You're basically comparing two different women though
@@georgesaliba8876 More like every woman doesn't same thing. Only an idiot would expect that people of the same sex universally want the same thing. Sometimes I got a bad prejudice for stupid Western men thinking Asian women think alike like Western women all the time
Asking a woman "what she wants" is like asking a politician to explain the unified field theory.
It's like asking a politician about their campaign promises.
First few seconds and this video destroys all american weeaboos dreams
Remember folks, don't ask if whether or not you're good enough for them, ask if they're good enough for you.
Women: I don't like Fat Men.
Fat Man loaded with Money. Women: That's OK
I sincerely have doubts whether Japan can improve its fertility rate or not.
The female entitlement is such a turn-off that I don't blame the guys for not wanting the girls.
The rickshaw girl seems down to earth. A bit shy and unsure of herself, but not entitled or arrogant. I think tons of guys would have a good catch with her.
Considering the average guy here on the Internet or in Japan is such a looser, that or other girls are even out of their league.
A decent down to earth girl is probably leagues too good for easily 70% of guys.
@@WRXXXual modern feminism really expanding
why do people always bring up Japans fertility rate when this is a systematic problem in every developed country? Even the immigrants they bring into the West have bellow replacement level births
@@WRXXXual Not even that , there's less rights for women in Japan like rapist get away with low punishment and molesters in train happens without reports and if a woman does the police wouldn't even bother . The real problem is the social structure and work culture. They've been trained to think of the old ways like the man making a first move. Also financial problems
Honestly these don’t seem too high of standards. Pretty reasonable as long as they don’t expect something that they aren’t willing to do in return.
Yea I was thinking the same thing some of them are a bit dumb but most were actually pretty reasonable
And THAT is why these women are still single. They hold men to standards that are impossible to attain for themselves. No ladies, you have to bring more to the table than a pulse nowadays. Men have realized they do not need women in their lives. Marriage and even a relationship has no benefit to a man.
I Also think they are reasonable, and every woman is different, so of course, they have different answers. But why are there so many negative comments talking about that the girls is high demanding....
Could you do the same video for Japanese men's expectations from a Woman ? (that would be interesting)
There are some things said that are totally understandable like a man letting himself go and becoming fat BUT should do sport. Or NOT having female friends out of fear of affairs/marriage betrayals because men are visual creatures and attractiveness + opportunities are gonna lead "friendships" to affairs/love matters... Men understand these kinds of criteria.
But when a man care about the past of his woman , when he lives the impacts from the past of his wife /girlfriend because he is being compared to her previous partner (situation, money, sex) and when a man cares about the appearance of his wife so that she won't attract other men and she needs to stop wearing lewd/stupid stuff ] => that man will get rejected by the woman, will be seen as a negative person....many names... to shame that man.
What matters the most is her appearance to me : I want her to be attractive and beautiful for me but I don't want her to participate in creating that atmosphere of attractiveness to other men and for that she has to dress and behave accordingly .
Her behavior matters to me : is she going to provide me with calm, care, nurturing and love when I get back from work ? or is she going to harass me with futility? , is she listening to what I told her to do ?
thanks for reading me.
Have a good day
So are u well groomed? 💩💩
Not having friends of the opposite sex and size are things that should not matter.
@fortheloveofnoise9298 they should matter, it increase the chances of cheating for both genders. The only exception is if they are ugly and not attractive
@@fortheloveofnoise I believe the opposite
@Minni are you replying to me? Or the author?
Thank you so much for the interview Nobita san! It was quite interesting to hear other girls’ opinions. Especially I liked stories about why some girls became a gal and why others learned makeup and tried to look more beautiful. Your way of interviewing people brings out people’s charms😊✨
Why don't you try doing something for other people and not be such a selfish person.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings!
I always had women ask me out and was always flattered by it I never embarrassed or showed disrespect to the women and never thought anything wrong with it and never felt insecure about it where some guys would feel that. I have had women send roses and chocolates asking for a date. Send me plane tickets to visit them and telegrams asking for a date. I find it so ironic people are so fearful guys and girls to just go and ask or talk to that person not everyone is met for each other and the only way to find out is to talk and introduce yourself. Life is too short for what if.
Stop supporting this stupid/selfish, unrealistic idea of womens when it comes to the relationship?!😒⚠️
6:23 I wanted to point something out here. There are many men, including me, who, even if they are not interested in someone, won't necessarily reject them automatically. Relationships aren't built on the spot. Even if they already have a crush, lots of men will evaluate whether they think a relationship with that person would work and give it a shot. After going out a few times, both partners will find out if they are truly compatible and if they feel something for each other. I know rejection hurts but the idea that we're used to it because we've had it more often simply isn't true. From my experience, the last rejection hurts as much as the first one. The whole idea that men need to reach out first only hurts your chances of being with them. Women who are straight forward aren't that numerous. Being the one to make the first step will automatically make you seem more attractive to a man
Her: “A fat man is unacceptable”
55% of male population: “☹️”
Well, if I were japanese I wouldn't want another fat man
not in Asia, most people are slender, different metabolism and diet. In the US 69% of people are clinically obese, it's disgusting
@@cottoncandykawaii2673 Yeah, also 6,4 kg of plutonium isn't something that common in japan
@@cottoncandykawaii2673 wait, wasn't US obesity rate around 40%? (That's equally disgusting anyway)
Hint hint to the first woman, we don’t like fat women even if they’re fat after a pregnancy either, can’t have double standards mami
it's rare to see someone obese in Japan. I follow a Japanese woman she had like 4 or 5 kids. She is slender. I'm like wth is that kind of magic.
Here in the west the woman would be like a giant whale unless she works out.
@@agamersinsanity It's because they literally walk everywhere and have small food portions with lots of vegetables.
Agreed. That was a double standard. There are overweight women who have never had a kid. It's not "reasonable" to be overweight as a woman, in every single scenario, if I'm using the same standard she uses for men. Plus, men could also have potential major health changes that drastically fluctuate one's weight; depression, thyroid changes, hormone changes when getting older, even being forced to drink with superiors or just making bad/fast food decisions when living the stressful life of an overworked Japanese business man. Personally, weight doesn't matter to me, in a partner, but I'm just making a hypothetical based upon the same unfair standard the interviewee used. She should have just said, "I don't like overweight guys," and left it at that. Instead, she made a cheap excuse for women.
@@juku_juku Given her own admitted issues, it makes perfect sense why image & appearance matter so much to her. That said, if she ever found somebody, she'd better hope that he (and let's not forget, her) age well.
There's no double standard there when she's not fat herself beside different culture being fat there most of the time being fat there are being frowned upon most of the time. Their diet isn't like the West either look at the charts of obesity rate in Japan it's very low
I will marry asap who believes everything is about give&take. Every person I met start with what they want; not what they wish to offer.
Girl who thinks "I'm a woman so many have to give what I love to" mindset is my red flag. A superior way of thinking...
Everybody born to fulfil their needs ; not to fulfil another.
Thank you for interviewing us😊nobitasan.😊💕
Holy shit! This is why I don’t date anymore and decided to stay single. So much happier!😂🤣
Die alone🤭🤭
Thats right go to a soapland all the fun without the headache
@@Mark-be8yk hell yea!
now you can finish your burger alone ;)
@@LittleBoobsLover I have no problem with that👍🏻
Gyaru girl with the fangs seems pretty chill. I like her style.
I learned to respect the woman I adore now. In past relationships, I learned i have done something wrong. Right now I feel at ease and NOT to be possessive at things. I just focus who I am and my own happiness and personal goals. Everybody has their own pace and agenda, I let faith do its course. If happy to each other, then go along with it. No pressure :)
Nobita, I don't know if you realize this, but those are some seriously controlling women you spoke to. Many of them are middle of the road in the looks department, but are asking for men who are more wealthy, more attractive, more successful and better equipped emotionally to deal with life, than they are. I would be very interested in a follow up video on what these women think they can provide in a relationship, but every one of them just seems to want everything given to them in this video. Nobody is perfect. Everyone will age and get too skinny and too fat by turns, jobs will come and go, as well as wealth. If the rampant materialism is all that these women care about, with the nebulous "be nice" exception, it's no wonder that so many are going without a long term committed relationship. I'm worried about their futures.
Those women, and women in general nowadays, consider themselves to be a prize that needs to be won, thanks to feminism. These self-entitled women do not realize that the pool of men that will give these women a second glance will dry up significantly once they are past 30 years old. Once again, YOU ARE NOT A PRIZE THAT NEEDS TO BE WON.
Ladies, supply never dictates its value, the demand does. In this case your value primarily lies in the fact that you can give birth to healthy children and this is the sole reason for many men to try and have a relationship with you and marry you.
This is not misogyny, this is basic biology. As awesome as your career, economical and financial accomplishments might be, those are secondary reasons for any men wanting to pursue you. You can keep rejecting any and all men like it is some stupid game to you, however, you will end up lonely.
Just something to look forward to.
The rickshaw girl seems like the easiest to get along with.
Woman: I want a man who expresses his feelings and is sensitive.
Same Woman years later: He was not masculine enough, was not a manly man, and was always expressing his feelings like a little bitch. I found that very unattractive, so I cheated on him with a guy who didn’t say anything and knew what he wanted. I found his natural testosterone driven, aggressive take control attitude super sexy and a major turn on. 😂
Yes this is satire, but there’s just enough truth in it to strike a nerve.
Oh no this is true. Women like mystery and being treated like shit.
this is fun to watch because of the varying perspectives
I have to admit that I clicked because I saw Misa-chan’s photo on the thumbnail :-) She’s so sweet, I love the way her smile just radiates from the screen :-) - But the rest of the video was great too, I really enjoy all of your videos, ne! Keep up the great work!
Nobita様 Thank you for sharing this video. I remember seeing this content before. I think you should do a round table with these women and some guys who are smart enough to question some "ideals" that women search for in a man. What they want vs. the reality of men. I think men and women today more confused than ever about how they fit together.
if you go bald because cancer or something i would never leave you, but if you as a women decide for fashion 2 go bald , u will be single.
Kinda don't understand a lot of the comments here. It's like people expect women to all want the same thing or be turned on or turned off by the same thing. If anything, seeing them all honestly expressing what they like and don't like is great for me. I can meet someone on my own terms, if we have same ideas, great, if not, no harm done. At least I don't have to start a relationship in false pretences and discover years later that she really didn't like me that much and she's only doing it because society told her to.
I agree
have you even be a man before, if i can freely express what i want from a woman and gets it i wouldnt even be mad
I love how the people who idealize Japan (and Japanese women) get upset when the women express their opinion or when the reality doesn't match their fantasy
@@Greenforrest7342 most of them still think from a western society point of view. They tend to forget that people in the east works a bit differently.
I try to keep an open mind, but sometimes the western part of me can slip in. xD
I don't mind if they express their opinion. I want to see it from another perspective as well.
Yeah, the people who think anime and manga are 100% accurate representations of real life in Japan.
the type of men who get mad at this are the same types that are unsuccessful with women in their own countries and generally blame women for their own shortcomings. There is also a common fetishization that Asian women are meek and will put up with a man of lower standing especially if he is white
@@hnlpharmd yeah you'd need to be first educated on the fact how IRL Japan is to then be able to sense how true Anime and Manga is with the feelings and such.
@@Enforcedcraft It's not that hard if you're from the Eastern side. I immediately understand their views especially a man making the first move..I'm an introverted guy and was a bit shy but it didn't stop me from making a move on a woman. I honestly despice Western views on dating although I understand the situation with west in the feminists. it's different in the east like Japan where women don't have as much rights as men so them being very passive and wants the men to make a move is very much traditional
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish!Ask the fisherman!
Fat - ✅
Bossy- ✅
Possessive ✅
Rude ✅
Negative ✅
Low confidence ✅
Many girl-friends ✅
No attention to detail ✅
Dishonest ✅
Not upfront ✅
Scaredy cat ✅
I'm decided to take up the challenge. I'm going to Japan so I can write a book on " How to be a Professional Failure"
Worth noting that passivity and hesitation simply looks disinterest.
Guys the most important message is NEVER LISTEN TO THESE WANTS! Maybe some of these behaviors like being nice to people around you is correct but in general these women don’t know what they want or these wants are entirely based on each woman’s personal experience. Don’t be a simp and follow all this advice. Just work hard, stay in shape, and focus on yoursef and women will come!
you are right !
All women that have wants , just don't ever know what they want really.
It' a lost of time to give interest to these ( and a pain if you do , beware ! )
tbh the east and the west is a huge culture difference. You should keep that in mind.
Very, very true. ( you can’t listen to these wants, they are cultivated in unrealistic fantasy.) the best thing you can do is be the primal you, and work on yourself, your skills and your health. If you build it, they will come to you. The ones who don’t were not the right ones. Just keep being you. Don’t worry about meeting the expectations of fantasies. Be their reality.
My God the bar is apparently on the fucking ground in Japan. These women would just like a decent man it's insane that these basic traits are just not present in a lot of their men there.
These basic traits are present in many men. These women are simply unable/unwilling to open up themselves. Playing hard to get makes you hard to want, and especially nowadays where women have to bring more to the table than just a pulse.
Who on EARTH would want to date that first woman? She seemed cold and emotionless, no man would want that. At the same time, she was very masculine and dominant, also, not likeable traits - She also seemed like she was not the sharpest knife in the drawer, with her insane generalizations.
I think love is like gold or diamonds, a rare entity to be discovered. It exists and it requires a lot of effort to find it. So much of it has been found but so much of it remains hidden. If you find it, don't trade it away. Don't lose it carelessly. Because you will likely never find anymore of it. And I believe everyone wants to find it even if they will not admit to that.
@ 1:25 My favorite Japanese girl Misa. She has a special personality all her own.
The short haired lady has a strong will, I like it
Thank you for working harf and for your videos Nobita! Such interesting topics!^_^❤
I know it's uncommon but a gentleman and a provider are good qualities to look for ❤
I find it funny that the women want men to show more of their feelings up-front in Japan when at the same time they don't want you to show your feelings up-front out in public, so is it that you can only love them in secret? Yes I'm American and when I'm in love with someone it's always even while I sleep, and I show my feelings and affection all the time without even thinking about it, hugs/kisses/words of affection arm around waste, holding hands etc. like when I see them after work or meeting up. I don't think Japanese women acceptance of that in Japan so I would find it hard to date a part-time lover. Or would think is she embarrassed of our feelings for each other, so is it really love
It's time for them to stay Single forever 😂
Uh, there aren't only 2 ways for women to be "acceptably" overweight. And if you think no overweight men are successful, you must be one of the many many people in Japan who think all American actors look like Leo or something. If we're supposed to care about diversity and acceptance and everything else people bleat about nowadays, then accept sometimes your partner is going to be in a negative mood, they may not even know why, and your inability to help them is no indictment against you. I also find it funny how many of these ladies want a man to be completely open with his feelings when I've heard (on this channel no less) that many Japanese ladies are nigh-incapable of being upfront with their feelings. I do though like the gyaru girl who said she wouldn't pursue someone unless she was sure he liked her first.
What Japanese women want is a nice Asian boy Japanese Korean Chinese
THE FIRST ONE IS JUST TOO SELFISH WOMEN ,I HOPE SHE WILL LEARN THE ESSENCE OF BEING RESPECTFUL
All looking for the same kind of person.
Are they really single or just lying and not saying the most important thing: He needs to be Sexually Attractive to me.
Most important thing.
All the rest is secondary.
People can change. but you cant just Look better tomorrow if someone gave you Advice today.
There's a girl/guy out there for you but you are not going to find her/him if you give up. We live in a world with so much access to information, Why not take a step back and figure out what you like and which kinds of places you will find this Person and go hunt.
They all do not the same thing if you think the nuances behind. But alot of them are passive by nature. It's expected from a society where women have fewer rights than men. It's not the same in the West which is opposite
nothing is lonelier than being with the wrong person.
In conclusion wht they trying to say is " I'm good staying single".
:07 The thing Japanese and Korean women can be mercilessly cruel about is body size. What other countries would consider fit and trim and muscular is often considered "fat" in Japan. Japanese women all feel that women should weight less than 100 lbs, and really anything over 90 lbs is "overweight" to them. Despite all that you might hear about Japanese politeness, Japanese women are not shy about telling other people "you are fat" It does not matter male or female, Japanese or foreigner, young or old, athletic or otherwise: "You are fat" and "You gained a lot of weight didn't you?" These fat shamers can have crooked teeth that look like broken glass and skin with spots all over it, hair that has been burned thin by chemicals to make it look brown instead of natural black, but they will lay the heavy hand of fat shaming like they are some kind of beauty princess judge themselves.
Men aren't allowed to be fat, be negative or complain about literally anything oh and we can't feel entitled to the woman who's with us or be surrounded by female friends lmao- hmm, I wonder if these girls hold themselves to similar high standards of perfection 😂
@@ZWR567 ; my point exactly, fact is they already have been judging men by both aesthetic & success (money) standards but most guys are oblivious to true female nature- the catch is they don't hold themselves to these same standards. Women can be total losers as long as they're hot enough for the guy (or ex. getting laid).
This is a beautiful video, Nobita san! And you interviewed my favorite Japanese women ever 😍!
As a foreign resident in Japan with experience dating Japanese women, this is typical with many but not the norm. Whether their responses were honest or not, don't bother trying to crack the code. Simply put, stay healthy, have a good career, stay hygienic, have Japanese speaking ability, be positive, smile, and committed to staying in Japan for long term. That's all there is to it. Don't overcomplicate it.
I've met great people here and these women don't represent all of Japan so don't get hung over it. They aren't even a 5 but I see so many comments bashing them. It's much different when you meet Japanese women in Japan than what you're watching here. It's their choice with the standards they have. Plenty more think differently. Hope this helps anyone trying to date in Japan as a foreign resident.
2:06 Misa Chan!!
A lot of YT personalities as well
Yep yep, in deciding one’s standards for a romantic partner I think it’s necessary to be building oneself up to match the standard they are wanting in their partner or it’s never going to happen without the work. In addition, there absolutely needs to be mutual respect, willingness to communicate and listen to each other. For example, men being respectful, courteous, chivalrous, it can all go away from that guy if he feels heavily taken for granted, there’s no respect for how much he will do for his woman or if he feels unappreciated for his successful efforts, be willing to talk anything out fairly and reasonably, focused on making peace and resolution, that goes for the two. Same importance in recognizing and openly appreciating what a woman will do for her partner, which also naturally quite a lot, and naturally more nurturing affection comes from women and I think men honestly need that to feel supported by their wife in what they do for the family. Men and women need different things, both should try to understand each other and communicate as human beings on an equal but complimentary manner. Team work makes the dream work! Lol
OK lots of requirements, what are you willing to contribute as a woman within the couple relationship? What are you willing to give in return for all the things you demand?
ok, I support that they want an independent, caring, attentive men that will listen and love them for who they are… but then wtf are some of them unwilling to take any risk, put all the responsibility on him, and expect them to follow a script on how to chase and behave???
Super support the woman that just said: I like them like this! If I like them, I ask them out! Direct and to the point. Gets what she gives.
Guess the rest are just internalized misogyny coated as traditions.
There's no misogyny over there. It was really a freaking tradition conditioned into them. They're stuck at old times. Japanese women don't have as much rights as the men. People who rape them doesn't got punish big time. Stop trying to coat Western thinking it's different for them. Most Japanese men are too busy with worked that it got in the way with their life. The work culture is killing the society , so less men tend to be assertive in these situations
Wishers will be wishers. A similar interview with ladies who ACTUALLY found a marriage partner would be way more relevant.
if women actually want to be equal they should chase man and learn how to take rejection it will help both sides since men and women can be very shy or be oblivious to womens hints
@@ZWR567 wtf are you talking about
7yrs living in Japan and I can appreciate your efforts on this video but interviewing women will not give you what they really look for. The only way to get that info is to observe them in the wild. I will get straight to the point, even in Japan if a guy is not イケメン then they will not get a chance. I have been out here long enough and have had a very successful love life here. My advice to dudes is don’t take advice from fish on how to fish.
Can you translate that one bit for us non-speakers.
The problem is most men would rather whack it in front of a computer and deal with these women😢
I wonder why that could be
Very good, but the first girl's comment about relationships shocked me a little, as she said that she would not date a fat man and that fat men are not successful, which means that Sumo wrestlers do not date, and are not successful in Japan!?.
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its best to work on yourself than looking to others to be the so called perfect love partner cause there isn't you need to be honest but have self control with yourself instead of controlling others being kind, knowing when you're keep space, and being open with one another. Trying to be good enough will never work take time and true commit.
Typically the relationship will last when the women likes the man more. Once the women gets bored she will end the relationship it’s proven facts.
Personally I would say religious beliefs/values are a main part. Overall I would say kind, caring, compassionate, and patience personalities are very attractive to me even though physical attraction gets your foot in the door.
When you have so many preferences and you can't say a word that you have a feeling for him. Who would know your feeling? You are not a baby, but a grown adult.
2:26: this is a no go : if you prefer hanging out with your males friends , then why should you have been in a couple ?
No way !
There is a limit of what to do and not to.
I am a simple man. When i see misa chan, i'll watch the video and give like. More videos with misa chan please nobita san
"Get to know my inside" is unequivocally a double-entendre.
Felt a bit of whiplash from Nobita doing such a light topic after the previous heavy and depressing ones
1. Money
2. More money
Ha! just like a woman 💀
@@Greenforrest7342 Vast majority of women only want you for your status/money or what you can provide.
Prove me wrong 👀
@@Greenforrest7342
Or, he already has had many and quit because this is what he kept encountering.
@@Greenforrest7342many of us men have had too many bad experiences with women.
Facts
@@Greenforrest7342 Looks like you haven't date several modern women my friend.
When both parties(boys&girls)not willing to change/adjust a little bit themselves for better relationship foundation but only self centered mindset&expecting to be fully accepted by the others, then 'Love is NOT Possible'.
Interesting how a lot of these women don't want to be valued for what their appearance is but I would wager a lot of money that most of these women discount men by how they look.
I never had any luck with Japanese women. I remember the time I was in Tokyo dating one which was good, but our sex life wasn't. So I took her to a love hotel, took a shower, shaved, and put on some fantastic cologne. Then I hopped into bed and said "OK honey, you can make the first move". Then she packed up and left for Hiroshima. 😂
Dodged a bullet there the moment she had to realize she had to work to keep her ATM.
If you want others accept yourself, then start accepting others first.
Learn bothways and think bothways is the key i think, not always women first or men first , just how bothways communicate and understand each other, if not maybe not your love of life?
Most of them put the focus on themselves. Now, it seems to be the man has to give everything and be perfect and the woman deserves everything just for the fact of being so. Love is bi-directional, it is a matter of two... I give but I also want to receive, otherwise I am just a provider and the woman I am with a customer that can ask for everything just because it pays for it... I am not a product you can buy.
Ask them what they have to give to their potential partner.
Zippy.
"The're no fat men who are successful in career'
Dj Khaled: "Let me introduce myself"
Disgusting people agreed with her
One needs to understand a woman’s nature. No matter where she is from. All women have expectations and want them met. All women use their feelings and emotions to make decisions in a relationship which means as a man you can count on her to change her mind on a consistent basis. To explain to a woman that you can not create relationships on feelings and emotions is like telling an alligator you can’t eat meat 🥩 😊
unlike you ive been told to respect women growing up and be nice to them, now im feeling dumb i waste all that for nothing should have put myself first
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You know what, Nobita? Im also a very big fan of gyaru now. At first i didnt quite gave much attention to that video, but your points shine brighter and brighter as you make more videos with these girls.
I know this is absolutely good episode man.
What I want from my partner is the will to sacrifice. I don't want to be the only person who does the sacrifice. Men can't possibly be happy all the time, there are times men can be feeling down, men are not perfect, women need to understand their partners better as well, and not acting selfish and childish.
"Come on Toshi, C'mon!!"🤣
The young girl in red with the great smile. What a pleasant young lady she is.
This was a bit frustrating to watch for me. Not because it was badly done or anything.
Just, everything all these ladies want out of a man, I AM! I never impose my opinions, world view on anyone.
I do not judge a book by its cover (figure of speech), I am never rude to someone who makes a mistake or slips up, I always help and give supportive comments and always thank them for their service.
I always listen, and only give advice if asked.
I keep myself fit and healthy, eating healthily and daily exercise as well as staying clean and respectable. I always do the chores, cleaning, washing, dishes, sorting and throwing out trash...correctly!
I agree that someone who does not look healthy is not very attractive.
Shit, I am out of breath, sorry... lost track now.
I would be "perfect" for any one of these ladies, yet, no luck.
All of the ladies in this video are so very attractive to me, just wish I was younger and more social so as to meet them. (am 41 by the way and have been living here in Japan for almost 19 years now)
Anyhooooo, happy new year guys and girls!
明けましておめでとうございます！
一年が喜びと健康に満ちたものになりますように！
Wishing you all the best!
PS: Take care Nobita-san!
You dont ask a fish how to fish
@@SynxSP Hee, hee...good one!
@@GodhandPlusOne To the contrary dear Watson.
Most people don't know what they want until it is unobtainable.☝️😉
I was younger once.
I know very well.😌
Attraction is always not reliable. Your age might also hinder you for someone younger
@@pauloazuela8488 Yup, preach brother! Also, in the end of the day, they approach relationships as purely a
business proposition.
Culturally speaking that is.
At least half of the women interviewed had their eyes widened, colored contacts, hair dyed to some unnatural color to look like they are white girls. One of these women even had fangs put on her teeth!.... women who are not comfortable with themselves will never be comfortable or satisfied with any man.
What do women in general want from a man?
-Honorable
-Dependable/Reliable
-Responsible
These 3 should reflect on your look and what attracts women to a man.
hey hey to the insecure people complaining about double standards, don't act as if u got no preferences. all their points can be, and is being applied for women as well. negative people might bring you down, those who don't take care of themselves are more at risk of health issues and etc.
keep up with the preferenses but do make yourself deserving of them. that's just my view on this.
Pfft, deserving of them my ass. What do they do to deserve the top 0.00000000000000000001% of men they all say they want? Nothing, as far as I'm concerned. Yet all the low-T, neckbearded simps keep chasing them relentlessly en masse, so they continue to live in their state of delusion.