A Doula and the Doctors Who Failed Her
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
- Te-Ana Souffrant chose to become a full-spectrum doula after the births of her first and seconds sons, neither of which went according to plan and both of which left her scarred. She wanted to help fix flaws she saw in the medical system and help women like her, especially women of color, navigate childbirth safely. Then came the birth of her third son, which was the most traumatic of all.
Te-Ana believes the medical system had betrayed her. “How do I find my place again in birth work when it’s something that I’m very passionate about,” Te-Ana said. “And I don’t know if I’m ever going to find it. Because the system broke me. It broke my heart.”
According to a landmark 2019 study published in the journal Reproductive Health, one in six women experiences mistreatment by health-care providers during birth. For birthing people of color, the rates of mistreatment are even higher.
A Doula and the Doctors Who Failed Her is a short documentary that follows one birth worker as she struggles to find her footing in a system she no longer believes in. - Розваги
Let's be clear, race has 100% to do with how patients are treated.
Absolutely. 👏
yes it does
Sadly this is so true.
I am an RN and I agree! Lord help us all!
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Yep, sadly u will still have non blacks who will choose to be blind.
It's disgraceful how dismissive that Doctor was... trauma affects mental health, as well as bonding with the baby! Not even mentioning that mental health is part of health, so saying 'she's healthy, it's fine' is not actually accurate.
Saying Te-Ana should 'get over it' is completely unrealistic and extremely invalidating and disrespectful.
My mom had a 20+ hrs labor with me, I was her first. She coded, hemorrhaged and I was born in meconium and all that because they let an intern do the job and he froze... her actual ob had done too many hours back to back and couldn't deliver me, but after hearing how long it was taking he came out of his break and came. All the idiot had to do was turn me 90°...
My mother and I have a toxic relationship, she was scared of me for the first few months, she couldn't be alone with me and she still brings up the fact that "I nearly killed her" at birth... don't get me wrong, she is a narcissist and has other issues, but this didn't help. I've now been suffering from fibromyalgia and shit load of health issues since 5 y.o. or so and can very well be related to my birth trauma (swimming in my own shit for 20 hours and being pulled out with the forceps)
So ya... the way we come into this world definently plays a role on certain future relationships and parental attachment.
@@lamammina2023 Wow I am so sorry to hear that. I've too had a traumatic birth experience with my first child, with the doctors rushing me to have an "emergency c-section" and my daughter being injured in the process. This medical system sucks.
Exactly. The way he was so sure that she nor the baby wasn’t harmed was disgusting.
My friend suffered a placenta abruption on her due date. The hospital staff were extremely unprofessional during her care in the emergency room. One nurse came in eating in her face while my friend was bleeding out, in intense pain, scared for her baby, and in shock at the treatment she was receiving from the doctor. Unfortunately she lost her baby that day. Her baby girl could still be here today if the doctors and nurses acted with more urgency and listened to her. Its nothing like getting a call and jumping up and down thinking the baby is born and is here. Instead my friend tells me that the baby is dead. The hospital failed her. Thankfully she was able to get pregnant again and has a baby boy. She is thankful. But she is also scarred from that horrible birthing experience. Its bc of her that im going to be a doula.
Update: she just text me yesterday that is she pregnant again! Please pray that this baby is healthy and delivered with the utmost professionalism and care.
My condolences to your friends baby loss. I'm so scared to give birth in america for these reasons... my heart and prayers to you all.
I’m so sorry that she had a bad experience and lost her little girl. I’m glad she has a baby boy now.
@@dokushinkachan2530 I thought europe is bad but at least when there is a emergency they are jumping to save someone. What happens in America sounds like a horror movie.
I am SOOOOOO sorry!!!!
To God be the glory that she is with child again. God is so good because even though man failed her, The Lord never will!!!
“There was no harm to the baby/mother & she adjusted & got over it. That’s how obstetrics works!” Clearly she has not “gotten over it” or she wouldn’t be in your office talking to you about it! What in the heck?? Wow!!
There was a cord prolapse so... did she want the baby to die??
"There was no harm to the mother..."
Complete trash
This was disgusting. They manipulated her into getting her labor “over with”. I will be delivering my child via birth center or home birth with a midwife. Even her husband was traumatized.
@@MiVidaBellisima if this type of cord prolapse happens it's going to end your home birth experience. Hopefully the people around you can advocate for you during this crisis.
"She got over it."
Trauma = HARM!!!
Childbirth is dramatic without complications but to be a Black woman, it is WILD. My first pregnancy I fought like hell to be treated fairly. It took me changing doctors towards my third trimester to finally get some decency. Not with this new pregnancy. Sticking with a Black female doctor who listens and is understanding and knowledgable. I will not. No ma'am.
I'm sorry that was your experience, as a nursing student this makes me really upset about how healthcare workers can treat anyone differently. We are there to care for all humans no matter where they come from or what their background is.
I'm so sorry to hear that things like this happen. I didn't have a bad experience with the birth of my triplets. All of us we're treated with care and compassion. I had a C-section, but overall It was a wonderful experience. I think all women should have only good memories about the birth of our babies.
"This is how obstetrics works"........ just because that's the precedent doesn't mean it's right... women's pain and trauma should not be considered normal and par for the course, yet it continues to be. The problems with this approach are literally shown through maternal mortality statistics. Doctors like Dr. Granoff are perpetuating these problems.
When I heard Dr. Martin Granoff's (OB/GYN) final statement - " As much as that's a traumatic experience there was no harm to the baby, there was no harm to the mother and she adjusted and got over it"- it completely floored me. If Dr. Granoff was being truly present (i.e. recognizing facial expression, tone, understood generational trauma and various other nuances) with and for Te-Ana Souffrant, he would not have said nor believed that statement. "As much as [a court prolapse and their responses were] a traumatic experience...she adjusted and got over it" is a sign of undermining Te-Ana's lived experience. Dr. Granoff's statement further displays the morally disengaged, lose of focus/energy, and/or underdeveloped emotional intelligence (not an all encompassing list of reasons) our health care system can be as it pertains to people's reality ( i.e. those within the African diaspora, Latinx diaspora, Indigenous diaspora, Middle eastern diaspora, Asian diaspora, LGBTQ+, low socioeconomic status, incarcerated, disabled...etc).
Distinguishable physical trauma is not the only invasive trauma. It is not the only trauma our collective society experiences. I really really really hope Dr. Granoff presented and spoke to the beautiful Te-Ana about an appropriate plan or action and/or services.
Shea Butter she got the best outcome. She and her baby are alive. Birth is traumatic for every single woman. Think about it, a baby is coming out of your vagina tearing you from vagina to anus and an organ is released from your body. As much as it is a natural process of life, we as a society need to stop imagining it’s this fairytale like experience because it’s not. I think a large part of the problem is the fantasizing about the experience rather than setting women up for success in what they can expect. And also any women who doesn’t expect a c section could happen at any moment given an emergency situation is just insane. It’s just the unpredictable nature of labor. Managing expectations is so incredibly important
@@quinnthecairn You're clueless. I know this by each comment of yours I read🤐
People need to educate themselves! I work in the medical field and have had 3 babies myself and from the very first baby I was pushed by the doctor several times to have a C-section because it was taking too long. There was absolutely nothing wrong with me or baby but because it went longer than protocol of 4 hours, I was almost forced to have my baby cut out of me. Thank God I was strong enough to stand up for myself and said no and that I would push all night if I had to!
I'm just so shocked that people allow other humans to make decisions and tell them what to do just because they carry the title or wear the coat. Ive been so disappointed and honestly now scared of the medical field because people are so easily confused and frightened. Educate yourself and take back your control.
It's because ppl are taught from a young age that doctor's and nurses go to school to take care of ppl because it's there desire. Also that they are to trust in there decisions
What feels like is so missed by medical professionals is how their behavior is causing trauma. Physically pushing a mother down and asking her if she wants her baby to die... that was not necessary. That is provider induced trauma that has nothing to do with the emergent delivery. If women are going to be expected to give birth in hospitals with OBs, than OBs need to do better.
The healthcare system failed me too. A fucked up epidural left me with nerve damage and chronic back pain. Ruined my life.
So sorry to hear that. Stay strong 💪
They really didn't get that they did anything wrong. And it's seen across the board in the US that once you're in birth they usually treat you as if you don't know what you want for your body and your baby
Thank you for this video. That doctor and anesthesiologist were totally unprofessional and her OB was incredibly sensitive about her experience. Even during an emergency doctors should try to lessen the stress the birthing mother might experience. Stress increases cortisol levels, negatively effecting the birthing process.
I have cholestasis of pregnancy and have been complaining about unbearable itching since week 26, it is now week 35 and the doctors finally listened to me. They don’t hear brown pregnant women when we speak up.
No, you are heard just not understood and ignored. 😡 I am not black but knowing the United States is one of the worst developed countries to give birth in especially for black women and their children. Black women and children have a higher death rate 💔 it’s not right 😭
Thank you to everyone who has shared encouraging words! Even those who didn’t have such nice things to say. I haven’t been able to watch this video since it was first released, yet as I am visiting YT today, it pops up. ❤️🙏🏾
I am shocked again! Here in the Netherlands for 2 days in a row there are protest marches for black lives matter, being shocked by the death of George Floyd! People of all colors, from black to white and every colour in between, walking shoulder to shoulder for black people treated with human dignity! And then I see your story about black woman being mistreated when they are the most vonourable while giving birth. Here in the Netherlands there also is discrimination, sometimes bad, most of the times more subtitle, but always humiliating. I hope that it will never come this far in the Netherlands and I want you and Mr Trump to know that we are monitoring the USA very sharply: the crimes do not remain unseen! We wish the voters in the USA very much wisdom when it is time to vote!
Anti blackness is a worldwide phenomenon. Open your eyes, it is everywhere.
"She adjusted and got over it" yeah, this is how a traumatic experience is described
It's a known fact in the medical field that just now doctors and Physicians are understanding that brown and black people feel pain
Miseducation.
My Mama is finishing school to be a Doula ... Im so proud of herrrr i tell everyone who will listen MY Mama is a Birth Worker !! So dope what these people do
I begged for help and pain relief I told them the baby is coming and they looked away...my own mother had to grab me a bag to vomit in because I kept telling them I felt sick...it's not the first time I've been treated horribly by nurses... because I'm mexican and have tattoos they judged me and treated me like I was there for drugs...how can someone screaming help me please while giving birth not bother someone...the nurses had no empathy whatsoever and I understand completely what neglect feels like...I found out I am strong even though a natural birth wasn't my intention
Shada Cornelius Not to dismiss your story, but not always can a mother receive pain medication, although she is in pain. Pain medication depends on your doctors recommendations, your baby’s heart rate, and how far along you are in your birth.
@@wesleycorlynda8371 absolutely right madam...I didn't see it that way before because I took my emotional brokenness in that delivery room with me...so I couldn't see through the eyes of God...I'm learning to heal from awful childhood traumas and I have recently discovered that we all need to give eachother the benefit of the doubt when it comes to reacting...from a medical standpoint you are correct...but my heart was fragmented by repeated abuse that in my moment of excruciating desperation I felt let down...I forgive myself for fooling myself for years of finger pointing...and I forgive those that hurt me in the past...hurting people hurt other people mam... I'm glad you brought that to my attention..God bless you
This was done well and speaks to the Gross injustice birthing woman face it's great to hear her story and the courage and strength it took to be on film.🔥
Not during birth, but it’s crazy how some medical professionals in hospitals don’t take you seriously. I had a hospital room where I wasn’t allowed to to control the temperature or open the window (in winter) it had 26 degrees Celsius in there, I had a very high fever. I was told that that’s a normal temperature and it’s my fever, also if I’d like I could undress(I was only wearing a hospital gown & couldn’t rly move) When I asked for the second time I was laughed at & told to not be difficult. When my partner asked them to change it he was told he must be from a hot country & should be used to it. I was denied medication for a burn on my hand, had to listen to privat conversation in the or, was ignored on purpose, was given food that I am allergic to & denied medical documents cos I couldn’t pick them up in person since I was already in a different country getting treatment. I could not imagine being treated like that or worse in such a vulnerable, intimate & hopefully joy full time. I rly hope the work they do will help a lot of women! Very admirable! Everyone has the right to be heard & taken seriously. Birth should be a very happy moment & nobody has the right to take that away from anyone!
The saddest part about this... “This is how obstetrics works.”
This isn’t how obstetrics works. I had a bad experience with the nurses because of how unprofessional they acted, especially towards my husband. Not only that, but they were supposed to keep in the hospital for 3 days because I had severe preeclampsia. But the day after I gave birth they started the discharge process and told us that we’d be leaving that day. Well we waited and waited and waited, after being woken up at 6am and told that we were leaving at lunchtime. Around 12 AM that night they finally came to tell us that we couldn’t leave because of my preeclampsia. We had already packed up, our son had already done the car seat test and I even had my IV removed. I got so irritated after being told so many different things and dealing with the nurse who belittled my husband (who was also experiencing having his first child) that I left against the doctors orders. I knew the risk of leaving, but I was so tired of dealing with them. The birth process was fantastic, amazing actually, but the after care was terrible! Not too mention the lactation consultant who bruised my breast all over after expressing my breast for 20 minutes straight! My son was getting enough milk and I could feel my let down too so I know that her expressing “because he wasn’t getting enough” was false.
I also felt so lost afterwards too because I felt like there was no help at all for the mom. I ended up having really bad postpartum depression and became suicidal. I was losing my mind, I thought I was going so crazy that I’d end up killing my baby. I wouldn’t even sleep some nights because I was afraid if hurt myself or him. I did therapy, but it really didn’t help much.
I am a black woman and I’ve had this same experience. I was told I wasn’t progressing and he was allegedly “in distress” and was forced to have an emergency csection. I went from having a normal perfect pregnancy. No pre-clampsia, no complications of any sort to an unnecessary emergency csection that has scarred me for life. I am now extremely fearful of having another child.
I am glad this is being brought to light....my birth experience was incredibly traumatic....thank you for telling this story
I never realized how dangerous it could be for us women to give birth. I'm so thankful for this woman's story and other's and their dedication in serving women. Education is key and I'm grateful for learning what I did not know before. I pray for women and babies and their safe deliveries. My birthing experience was traumatic and like this woman I could not recognize myself after and I thought it was my fault. But it wasn't it was the experience that left a scare and fear in my mind. I pray that my next birth would be beautiful, safe, and empowering. I pray for a great doula, midwife, doctors etc. I will be powerful. I will be grounded. I will recover safely.
She did Not get over it!! Would she be talking about it Now if she had?!
What an informative story and this woman truly has a gift with her gentle and serene approach with her clients. I'm so sorry that her birthing experience was so traumatic. became a doula for this very reason. I got tired of seeing the maltreatment of black and brown mothers and felt the need to step in and help make a change.
It’s very scary and disheartening that even a doula who has tons of experience as a doula and a mother gets treated this way it makes it clear that whatever the the doctors agendas are is most important not the birthing woman’s mental and physical health! As a Mom of three I was pushed to have a cesarean with my first child because I was told he was too big and asked if I wanted him to possibly get stuck or die, with my last child I was not informed of a removal of my one of Fallopian tubes due to a complication of a tubal ligation, my OB said not one word to me it I had to read it in my records , when I asked why at my 6 week postpartum he said well what’s the harm you were getting tubal ligation anyway I was so floored and stopped going to him .
Nai amall why haven’t you started a lawsuit for malpractice? You have paperwork to prove what he did to you.
U need to sue
There is something seriously wrong when we have one the highest maternal mortality rates in the world smh
I'm a college graduate. Birth is unpredictable. I dilated to 8 1/2 cm without meds and pain. When I got to 9cm, the pain was unbearable. Turns out the baby was sunnyside up. I had to have an emergency c-section. My OB was great! And she fought hard for me, and my baby. I could see the disappointment in her eyes because she knew that a med free birth is what I desired.
It’s very traumatic once we go thru something like this. I too had to have an emergency c-section due to preclamsia and HELLP syndrome. My baby is 15 months and is delayed in some milestones. To be honest it’s very different when there are problems with your child. I too went to my OB and he was a prick! Like nothing had happened and said for me to request my records from the hospital if I had questions. Please remember to pray for pregnant women along with they’re babies because we truly aren’t being listened to by these unkind physicians
I worked for a hospital that automatically would list you as a “failure to progress” if you didn’t progress when they wanted you to. I would say 50 percent of the expecting mothers were forced to get a c section. The worst part was some of them got infections at the incision site and had to be readmitted and given strong antibiotics via an IV line. That took away from their birthing experience. I would always say I’d never have a baby there.
I can absolutely relate to this precious lady. I've had 6 children, all vaginal deliveries, and when I tell you I was abused by staff it's true. "Don't you want your baby to die" or "You don't care about your baby" in order to manipulate your decisions is just pathetic when a woman is at her most vulnerable position. ESPECIALLY if you don't happen to have your spouse's/partner's eyes on the staff for you.
Thank you for sharing your expertise in this area.
This is why we should be separate governments. I am not paying money resources time and taxes to be treated like this. If my well-being is not valued then neither is my work ethic time and $$. So why share with something or someone who shows daily they don't value you??
I’m sorry you had to go through this. I myself have experienced this. I chose a black ob through blue cross blue shield and she’s amazing. I can’t stand going to constant appointments but she’ checks me throughly and consistently so if anything is wrong she can catch it early. She sent me for a 3D ultrasound and it was with new doctors. They were white and honestly none of them made me comfortable. The lady asked me personal questions about my life and my boyfriend who was sitting outside waiting on me since covid new rules. The white man didn’t really care. It was as if they were talking around me and not to me. I told my doctor to never send me there again. They didn’t even try to get the gender. Literally I was in and out.
I am a white woman and my current doctor who was at my last pregnancy is Colombian and she has been more caring and compassionate than any of the white doctors I saw.
Im latina and same shit happened to me. Like why does my relationship status and how long ive been in a relation fucking matter ? Thats basically all i was asked. Yes, it was a white woman. I didnt hear anything about the baby.
@@StephanieMT oh wow.
Exactly why I had an unassisted home birth 💕
My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum. Meaning that there was a sac in there but no baby. I tried to wait it out because I was devastated. I was vomiting if I got up too fast in the mornings, my waist was thicker and my belly was growing. But I was also cramping and bleeding for over a month. My body refused to let go. So I had a termination and D&C. After I woke up my OB said that she had a hard time performing the procedure and wanted me to have a pelvic MRI once I was physically healed. The MRI showed that my cervix was tilted but the bigger issue she saw was that my pelvis was very small. I got pregnant again not long after and I consistently measured 6 weeks ahead for my entire pregnancy. She told me that I would probably not be able to deliver vaginally and I was okay with that. My sister had a baby while I was pregnant and she had a very hard time with delivery. Apparently her pelvis is very small too. She was halfway through delivering the baby when the cord prolapsed. Two nurses jumped on the bed and pushed down on her stomach to get the baby out. She came out purple and not breathing and ended up in the NICU for two weeks. My sister ended up with a broken pelvis. So knowing that I had a large baby and a small pelvis I was all for a cesarean section. It made me mad though that my doctor made me labor for two days. On the highest dose of pitocin because I didn't dilate at all. The baby's head has to pass through the pelvis before the cervix will dilate. My baby would not fit and it turned into a huge fight. Why? Because it was my OB's day off. She didn't want to do it. I had a 9lb baby at 37 weeks gestation. And 15 years later his head is still in the 98th percentile lol. I couldn't imagine if he had gone to term how large he would have been. She told me at the beginning of my pregnancy that I would probably need a cesarean section so why was it necessary to fight about it? My cesarean section was absolutely necessary. But people who have high profile and money to throw away can just request them. Makes no sense.
I was also delivered by cesarean section because my head was too big for my mom to deliver.
The doctor was extremely insensitive he said that’s just how obstetrics works ..I would have said to him HOW DARE YOU F’n marginalize how and what I was feeling and going through..
If she does that she's labeled the aggressive "angry Black woman". There is no solution to this problem except getting the hire ups to hold doctors accountable, showing them how treatment affects patients overall. Or pregnant women seeking out doctors who have proven themselves an ally in the Ob/Gyn community. You can't trust every doctor with your life just because they're a doctor.
He definitely down played her experience. He even used the phrase she got over it. Smfh🙄
See I’m older (no kids) and I’m still interested in having at least one child and I was hoping to use a doula but I’m afraid because I will be high risk due to my age (over 35). I’m afraid that if complications arise I will not be able to get help in time of that I won’t be treated right. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ God help us women. The dangers we gave just never end.
Ten Ways To Wear It get black OBGYN’s
Girl your not that high ricks im 32 about to be 33 having my first baby. Simple do your best in taking care of yourself
Who said you are at high risk cause your 35? Cause that is a load of bull!
@@quackers87 people assume and then listen to other people like. My baby girl is just fine I'm 33 weeks
I'm having a water birth I have mid wives that have my back and I have obs that have my back select your people wisely
God bless this woman
Amen
That’s so sad and horrible, with my second I got to the hospital and I was 5 centimeters and they told me to do an epidural because I probably was at a five for a while but I asked for a couple of hours before I chose medicine and after some hours I progressed and had my baby natural without medication ultimately you have to advocate for your self at the end of the day. But I understand it can be harder for a person of color to speak up and be taken seriously.
Trauma. Is. Harm.
I love you all MAMAS.❤️❤️Spreading love and healing to those who still have those traumatic experiences and memories.
8:45 “because of how emergently it came in the end” she’s traumatized by the mistreatment and abuse she was given… Emergencies will always happen. The abuse needs to stop.
I’m becoming a doula because I’ve had a similar experience of mistreatment, This is my first baby and me and my BabyDaddy have both been traumatized by the lack of care and how they tell me what to do instead of asking for consent I’m a rape survivor and I was crying in the car saying I feel like all my years of therapy are worthless and all my progress is failed because I was re traumatized by the doctors multiple time. I want to help other women because I never knew how fucked up docotrs are. A nurse told me if I didn’t get a cervical surgery that I would “kill my baby” and I didn’t end up getting the surgery or killing my baby. Docotrs have treated me like shit every step of the way
Thank you very much for your testimony! ❤️
I work in the healthcare field and it has failed many in many different sectors. I witnessed a Nurse try to administer morphine to a Spanish speaking patient who was 24 weeks pregnant without knowing the past medical history, allergies and without explaining the effects to the the mother nor the father who was present in the room the possible effects on mother and baby. When I asked the doctor about his choice of medicine (curiously not critiquing him) the nurse said “ she either wants a baby or not”
Stories like this is the reason why i want to go into health care mainly a obgyn now since im seeing how women of color are treated
Your story is facilitating and thank you for sharing. I live in Australia (born from Italian parents) and I can tell you that I had an almost identical experience. I was in a hospital room alone for hours. They sent my mother home who was supposed to be my primary support person. I wasn't dilating and the exact same thing happened with me. Unable to have an epidural, so went straight into emergency with a general anaesthetic. I feared the worst. Would I die or my baby, or both of us? Thank God we both survived. The medical staff definitely made a big error in sending my mother home, but grateful that we do a pretty good public health care system in Australia.
I can relate to your story; I had a similar experience when I delivered my baby last March 2023. I still have nightmares, I'm traumatized now. I to think twice about having more children. My mental health is truly affected. I was completely alone besides my doula being there. My c-section was unplanned, and my recovery was miserable. I was in excruciating pain, I wasn't able to walk, I lost over 50ml of blood. My pain my cries for help, were ignored. My first two deliveries were not so traumatizing. I now have issues with my gallbladder and more after c-section. Yet I also experienced gallstones during my pregnancy I wasn't diagnosed until 10 months postpartum.
My anesthesiologists said that I was over reacting when I said I wouldn't get the shot without a surface to hold that had no wheels. He said I can't move but gave me a wobbly wheeled table to lean on. The nurse kept me in the birthing room for over 30 minutes instead of taking me to recovery- my OB came in shocked I was still there-shivering and asking for help. I told the recovery nurse I needed to pee and she said I'm over reacting. I started crying and screaming, so she did a in-and-out catheter, and said "wow, your bladder could have bursted, you filled the bag!" I was also Induced During labor, and then told they were stopping my meds to stop my labor-which I had already started prior to meds, and told me don't push. They had an emergency with premie twins. So my son came out with a huge bruise on his face the size of his face.
I had a doula both times and still ended up having a c-section both times. But I must say without having the doula and that voice (advocate) there I probably would have had postpartum depression. I do think doulas should be covered under medical insurance. It would lead to lower csection rate/ depression. As a new first time parent people can recount their experiences but when you’re in the midst of birth to have that sound voice to give you your choices and guidance.
My second experience I hired a very experienced doula who helped me through so much, even though we weren’t successful I ended up walking out know I did everything I could to my best ability. Looking back my second recovery was quicker and I think my mental health played a factor. I had a lot of regrets and also even with taking birth classes and such felt very uneducated with the whole birthing experience.
My heart goes out to her. I cried hearing her talk about her traumatic experience and the sad part is all this is so believable to me. I know how health care workers act and I've been there. As a woman of color, the threat is much greater. I truly believe God is using her gift to help those who are in a similar situation. Many prayers and power to her.
After my c-section, it took me a while to wake up. Definitely caused a traumatic experience. I agree the Doctors dismissive attitude was disgraceful.
There are a few comments here minimizing Te-Ana's experience, following the same logic of her ob-gyn: that because mom and baby came through physically healthy in the end, there's no big deal here. And beyond that, the idea that her treatment was normal or "just how ob works." As a medical student, I can recognize that, in a strict sense, from what was depicted here it does seem like she received the appropriate medical care for a cord prolapse.
BUT if this is what we consider to be normal care, there is something seriously wrong with "normal." Her providers clearly caused her emotional trauma at a time when she and her baby were most vulnerable. We know that a person's mental and emotional state contribute to their health outcomes. If you take two identical patients and perform the same procedure on both of them, but you only take care of one of them emotionally, then the other is going to have a worse outcome. So in a strict sense, yes Te-Ana and her baby were treated appropriately, but in a fuller sense, her providers CAUSED her unnecessary harm. When we had a workshop on cord prolapse in school, our instructor repeatedly emphasized that (along with positioning baby and/or mom to improve blood flow) we MUST always take care of mom, keep her as calm as possible, let her know that she's not alone, explain as much as possible what is going on. It's not just decent behavior, it's good medicine.
I'm in tears thinking of how alone and scared Te-Ana must have felt. Just imagine how it would feel to be in her position and be spoken to and treated as she was by the people who should have been there to help her. And even more heartbreaking, that there are hundreds of thousands of women who are also mistreated while giving birth, women who are hugely disproportionately black, hispanic and indigenous. Te-Ana's pain multiplied hundreds of thousands of times over. If this is normal, surely we must learn to do better.
Thank you for this breakdown. While I have yet to give birth, I am a MST survivor diagnosed with PTSD. I had to go see a white male obgyn at the time because that's all the local VA had for breast pain. I already did want a male touching me to begin and he had a similar disposition as the one in the video. When he was done examining me I felt violated again. He was very dismissive and only agreed to send me for a mammogram because I began to cry. I had to plead with patient advocate to NEVER allow me to see him again. Even though that was over 8 years ago I still remember it like it was yesterday and how he made me feel. There's no way I would let him do an annual exam or pelvic exam after how roughly he handled my breast 🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
He retired maybe 3 years ago but word spread and lots of women vets won't even go there for care even though he's gone. He's not the only doctor mishandling, mistreating, misdiagnosing, underdiagnosing, undertreating, withholding treatment and or causing women vets to have unnecessary surgeries. The WHOLE health care system needs an overhaul.
@@lovebug6388 Thank you for sharing your story. I am so, so sorry that you went through that.
@@aphelion42 thank you for understanding. What is worse is that I've experienced women physicians like the one in this video. Those were the ones that really hurt because they go the same things I do and to completely dismiss my concerns was a slap in the face.
Much success in your doctoral journey. Please remember to be patient centered first. Your patient's will follow you wherever once they know you TRULY care for them and not about insurance quotas. They will find ways and you will find ways because they become family and not just a number. Love and light and lots of healing 💫❤🧡💛💚💙🖤🥼🥽⛑🤲🏻🤲🤲🏿🤲🏾🤲🏽🤲🏼🏥🕯💡🔦🏮📚
Her OB was not supportive!
They are trained to be like that
Damn this video made me emotional from the jump. And throughout 😪
I’m so so sorry and sad this trauma happened to you. They need to have someone explain to what they were doing even if you understand what is happening, they take time with women doctors so even more so with you. But I also understand their panic. They needed more bedside manners and be sure you’re not panicking also you know a lot about this field But it’s a cord prolapse that’s happening to youSo they should throw out the window what you know and treat you as if you don’t know and explain everything to you. But I’m glad they did what they had to give you a healthy baby and that you’re not having to deal with any of the brain damage that could come with a prolapsed cord.
OMG. I'm so glad you and the baby are doing better .
8:48-9:11 this is terrible--there was harm to the mother. "adjusting and getting over."
I feel her! I was treated worse than an animal during my first birth a month ago in a first level hospital here in Europe. I'm currently trying to overcome depression and deep trauma, all because I'm Hispanic, I'm so sad 💔
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And that's on becoming a doula to prevent obstetric violence.
Wow. This is so painful to watch. What should have been a beautiful experience, became "a scar on" her "psyche". Another example of not being seen, heard or respected. I hope that will not be her last birthing experience, but it would be understandable if it was. How absolutely horrible. I can't even imagine how traumatic that memory must be.
Male doctors should not be allowed to touch that birth giving woman. Its a holy and female process.
I had a unplanned but necessary and self chosen c-section.
I was pushed to get pitocin with my first and refused the epidural until the doctors and my family talked me into it by saying that it would help progress the labor. Then I was taken to the OR for C-section. Determined not to repeat, I took birthing classes for my second. Everything was fine until I didn't go to one of my prenatal checkups around my due date. I received a call from my insurance saying that if I didn't go to the hospital right then to get a checkup then they will not pay for the birth or postnatal appointments and my insurance will be cancelled. I explained my situation and fear that I would be pushed again they told me I don't have to do anything, just to get a checkup. I went and they put me on IVs and came into the room saying that I had HELLP syndrome and I need to be rushed to cesarean immediately. I asked if I could see my levels and they said no, you and your baby could die if you don't go now. Finally, I just said okay and ended up in the same situation... With a MIDWIFE both times. I'm now pregnant with my third and very scared of the medical system. Really hoping for a VBA2C and to at least not be taken advantage of.
They made me stay in hospital 6days because my blood pressure was above normal. I was over medicated causing mass swallowing.
Please what hospital for us in NY? Please!
“800 liters of blood.” How?!?
Yeah it was probably 800ccs. I don’t think even an elephant has 800 L of blood. 🤣
That "obgyn" was a piece of shit! Im sry but every women deserves to be treated with respect even during high risk moments smh Te-ana is such a strong beautiful women and im so proud of her. I wish one day to be as strong as she is!!! Bless your family and thank you so much for all the help u give to others..
There is no exception for this mistreatment
Even in South Africa, we experience such treatment as black woman in public hospitals and clinics. So race plays a huge role, the same black nurses are treating black woman in labour as if they are just objects 😥
I so appreciate what you are saying. Women are still being discounted. We are treated as hysterics, as not deserving of respect. I was made to hold off pushing so they could wheel me to the OR instead of delivering in the labor room so tge hospital could make an additional $600 for an uncomplicated delivery.
So nervous to birth this second child in a hospital. I was alone the first time. Didn’t “progress”. Probably got to 3 cm after almost 24 hours. Mind you my membrane was broken by the doctor the day before. I felt they were pushing me along. But they said the child’s heart variability was low. So I just went along with it.
But this time I’m planning to get a doula. I don’t even know if I will have prenatal care at the moment because I’m “too far along”; many have said (4 months). But I know everything will be just fine. Hopefully I can get some prenatal care and maybe do a home birth. I don’t want to be pushed to a c section again. I want my body to progress as it wants.
This is horrifying! Yeah I had a similar experience
Here in UK my daughter was told after having her baby whilst asking for pain relief(she had a caesarean) the nurses said yes then seemed to forget.When she got home and had a visit from the nurse who weighed her baby then said the baby was not big enough and that she would have to go to Casualty.When we went there the doctor said that the baby was fine! So basically she has very negative views on the whole experience.I too have personal experiences of even being given bad treatment.I myself was a trained staff nurse and if I have to go to or speak to a Doctor I find if I let them know they treat me with more respect !
who else got anxiety from the story
This is scary. Wow !
Maybe I shouldn't be watching this. It's making me anxious. 😣 I'm 38 weeks and hearing this is really stressing me out. 😨😨 But yeah, someone told me before, when you're choosing a provider, a midwife is better than an OB unless it's a high risk pregnancy.
I just gave birth two weeks ago and this makes me mad, tired of suffering
This is insane smh
All the love for you ❤
No harm that they are willing to address because it is trauma to a black body. It so sad how are feelings aren’t taken into consideration. That doctor was making excuses as to not have a justified lawsuit on his hands.
If you are a black woman, for god sakes please find a black doula for you to do a HOMEBIRTH!!!!!! And a birth worker does NOT need to be “certified” by a messed up medical system to be a good midwife. They can be independent too (even if in the state they work in, that’s considered illegal)😒 or even using a trusted elder as your guide in giving birth... I would trust my grandma or mom in helping me give birth more than I would many people inside a hospital at this point tbh. Let’s reclaim how birth is supposed to be for us womxn!
Interesting angle.
These people are crazy I hope that the world heals one day
Wow....that doctor is HORRIBLE!!! There is no excuse for his dismissive attitude. That is NOT just obstetrics!!
I had a rubbish birth with my third baby the midwives were very lazy not giving me pain relief when I asked and told me things like what's wrong with you your only having a baby.
I agree patient treatment has everything to do with ethnicity ( race). Dr.’s take so long to provide attention and or give consideration in health care services. So, whomever will get questioned no matter what? If the response is insufficient the process will be longer before proceeding. I share her feelings about how she felt. I pray for her healing.
It is NOT JUST BLACK WOMEN. I AM HISPANIC, MY SON AND I ALMOST DIED FROM HOSPITAL NEGLIGENCE AND GROSS UNPROFESSIONALISM. I WENT INTO SHOCK DURING LABOR, AND THE DOCTOR REPEATEDLY, FORCEFULLY, SLAPPED MY FACE OVER AND OVER AGAIN VERY HARD UNTIL I BECAME RESPONSIVE. WHEN MY EX- HUSBAND TRIED TO STOP HIM, THEY CALLED SECURITY AND THREATENED TO HAVE HIM REMOVED. AFTER I HAD MY SON, THE SAME DOCTOR TOLD ME TO NEVER COME BACK TO "HIS" L&D DEPT. AGAIN. MY SON IS NOW 15YRS OLD AND DOING WELL, BUT THAT TRAUMA WILL STAY WITH ME FOR LIFE.
The sound mixing in this is awful.
Hello awesome people, I am interested in becoming a Doula but I have no idea where to start. If anybody has there own stories and know what to do start the process, PLEASE let me know. I am located in the U.S.
Hey have u started I am interested
this is scary
It was a cord prolapse. It was a emergency. What did she except them to be nice to her, when her baby was dying. Wtf?
As much as I agree with everything in this video can we stop using the term birthing person as that is also very dehumanizing. We are called women.
the doctor said that's how obstetrics works? totally disregarding her experience. What she described was unprofessional and it did hurt her !
This is what you would call maternal morbidity.
"That's how obstetrics works."
Yeah, but it doesn't have to be that way...
Do what you must you will do well.
I seen a live video of a lady giving birth at home with her doula present hours after her placenta ruptured. Baby was born healthy and everything. At home