I hear you, I think the only time I've come close is for the character Christine Chubbuck in the 2016 movie Christine played brilliantly by Rebecca Hall. These two characters have stayed with me long after the end credits.
his friends here so understanding. treated him like their own family, eventho he felt ashamed after it, for showing his feelings, but they did not ashamed of him. such a great friends/extended family he has.
Best description of major depression and/or losing so much ever. It's why severe depression isn't sadness, it's numbness. With a broken heart, you feel sad. With a destroyed heart you feel nothing. It's really not a life at all.
It is something that will never go away, imagine every time you wake up, in the morning, in the middle of the night and your first thought is always about what happened
He needed this comfort when the accident happened. He lost 3 children, his wife blamed him for everything, divorced him, the entire city started hating him for his careless actions, all those stuff sealed his emotion completely. He needed this comfort then, and now it's just too late. Nothing can heal him anymore.
This is what was so striking about this film. Everything he did made sense. From an outside perspective I wanted him to find peace - but I knew he never would. How could he? It's not to say he was at fault - a million things had to align for a tragedy like that to happen. But how could you ever "beat" it? So horrifically sad to truly understand why he couldn't.
Greif, true greif, always seems to come out at the most unexpected times. It doesn't come when you get the phone call that they're gone, at the funeral, or when you're scattering the ashes at that special place. No, it simmers, builds, and slowly bubbles over like the forgotten pot on the stove.
When I got the news of my brother's attempted suicide, I didn't really react for a few days, went to work just fine, and after about 3 hours into one of my shifts after I got my break, I just broke down crying on my break table. Manager sent me home early that day.
Luis García I truly believe this movie is also the best I've seen so far in my life......and I'm 56 years old.....so that's REALLY saying something! I watched this movie the night before the Oscars, and it's now mid March, and it's STILL with me. I can't shake it. It's still haunting me. I think this one will stay with me forever. What a frickin' brilliant, genius movie.....from the writing of it to the acting. Just a phenomenal movie. One that grabs onto your heart and doesn't let go. Wow. I love this one soooooo much. And this scene when he breaks down and cries just breaks my heart into a million little pieces.
It’s definitely in my top 10 films of all time (at No. 4); I thought Casey’s Performance was one of the greatest in recent years- his confession at the police station sent chills down my spine, it was that good.
Have you seen Christine (2016) with Rebecca Hall? I've seen a lot of movies, some gruesome, some incredibly sad like Manchester...I just saw Christine recently and I honestly am having trouble shaking it off. Hauntingly sad to me.
I saw this movie over a month ago and I still can't stop thinking about it. It's a brutal, heartbreaking, and also very funny, movie. The best kind of cinema.
I completely agree. Unfortunately, lots of them want absolutely nothing to do with you (and in fact seem to resent you) when you show the tiniest slice of emotional vulnerability. I really don't think the younger generation of women understand how much guys appreciate their "traditional" nurturing and comfort skills.
This scene is so short yet so important and powerful. It’s the only time we see Lee actually breaking down instead of being his detached and numb self. The acting is on point.
George and his wife truly care about him. The scene where they ask him if he's had lunch and ensure that he eats is another example . They know that no one else including he himself won't care about it.
That's a really good point , his rough exterior and empty and emotionless shell is the only thing he has left to hold on to its practically become his identity at this point in his life and this harrowing vulnerable state where everything just shattered and crumbled for that split second will be the thing that keeps him from sleeping at night as he looks back and plays it in his head over and over again in agony hating his moment of weakness
I agree, hearing "ARE YOU MENTALLY DEFICIENT?" in a Boston accent will never not make me grin. Also the "Nice parenting!" scene with that one idiot walking by them arguing
We often speak of depression, and for good reason. However, I rarely hear talk about shame. The belief that you deserve nothing good over things that have long been forgiven. This film speaks more to that maybe than any film I’ve ever seen.
So true.. shame cripples you to do anything or believe in something good because of fear of rejection and judgement you get from others. Very good point of view
@@MasterBetty69 id say it was a look of “I guess we’ll adopt Patrick, because this broken person is certainly incapable of caring for him at this point in his life”.
Michelle can be praised as much as people want for the confrontation scene. This, police station, “I can’t beat it” scenes (where there were only Affleck) are the top ones in the movie. Without even one of them, it wouldn’t have made the same effect on people.
Well I'm glad you gave the people permission to praise who they want. I agree with you though, all the praise should be going to Affleck. His performance was sublime
@Slackernalia I don't know why but the scene where he wakes up to see his daughters beside him asking "can't you see we are burning" makes me choke up very much. I will include it among the strongest moments
Selim WTF? You compare incomparable things. Michelle was a SUPPORTING actress while he was the lead. They are both great in their own rights. No need to diminish her contribution to the film. Her scene was great, and that's it, that doesn't negate the fact that Casey was brilliant as the lead.
@@Onigirli I'm glad you're such a smartass, he was not giving permission lmao, it was just a set phrase. Also, no need to compare incomparable. Michelle was a SUPPORTING actress while he was the lead. They are both great in their own rights. No need to diminish her contribution to the film. Her scene was great, and that's it, that doesn't negate the fact that Casey was brilliant as the lead. Okay?)
@@tommoriarty7085 What do you mean ''you don't know why'' man? The scene you were talking about is SUPPOSED to be sad cause it's embodiment of his grief and guilt and a reminder of what happened to his kids because of his one stupid mistake... Of course it is extremely sad and heartbreaking... You don't even have to ''know why''.
I’ve seen so many movies and people always ask “What’s my favorite one?” because they know I have a love for cinema but, out of any of the films I’ve seen in my lifetime, this one stuck with me the most.
this movie kicked my ass… so much laughter and sadness. rollercoaster of emotions but this topped it off. this scene made me feel a loss that i haven’t actually ever felt… such greta story and acting
People often talk about the subtle nuances that made this movie a masterpiece. The way the wife looks at her husband reminds me of how my wife and I sometimes look at each other - basically, we know what the other person is thinking/saying with out them having to say a word. It happens when couples have been together for a long time, and this couple played it perfectly.
someone should make a video clip of all the "breakdown" snippets: when he has to lean over or is falling to the ground as his brother tries to stablize him (in front of the burning house), the gun-suicide attempt, the punches he throws at the bar, the punch through the window, this scene..... They need to make a sequel where Lee receives nothing, but love and comfort just to mend the hearts of the audience.
People empathize with the character but never for someone whos going through the same irl. Im broken. Illness, death and and loss over the years have made me like this, yet nobody cares. My friends don't care. Moms dead, dads too sick. Im still a child. I haven't even been in a relationship yet... My friends blame me for depression and grief.
Compassion like this is lacking in today's society. Covid, masks, social distancing has only added insult to injury but much of it is because people that have been hurt by others choose to hold on to the pain and let it consume their hearts rather than to let it go. We must never let pain make us hate, building walls around our hearts may keep us from getting hurt but it'll also keep our love and compassion inside rather than sharing it with others, ultimately hurting us more and robbing us of our blessings. This lady is a true example of love and kindness which will always win.
I dont think I've ever felt worse for a character in my entire life.
Me too, I'm crying like a baby....
Mildred Hayes from Three Billboards outside Ebbing, Missouri.
Probably the first gesture of affection he received in many years
Logan's lived a pretty messed up life as well
I hear you, I think the only time I've come close is for the character Christine Chubbuck in the 2016 movie Christine played brilliantly by Rebecca Hall. These two characters have stayed with me long after the end credits.
his friends here so understanding. treated him like their own family, eventho he felt ashamed after it, for showing his feelings, but they did not ashamed of him. such a great friends/extended family he has.
Absolutely
yeah George and his family are great in this movie.
The Irish!
He entrusted his nephew to them. He loves them deeply.
His heart is not broken, it is destroyed.
Best description of major depression and/or losing so much ever. It's why severe depression isn't sadness, it's numbness. With a broken heart, you feel sad. With a destroyed heart you feel nothing. It's really not a life at all.
It is something that will never go away, imagine every time you wake up, in the morning, in the middle of the night and your first thought is always about what happened
He needed this comfort when the accident happened. He lost 3 children, his wife blamed him for everything, divorced him, the entire city started hating him for his careless actions, all those stuff sealed his emotion completely. He needed this comfort then, and now it's just too late. Nothing can heal him anymore.
This scene really touches me... It's so emotional 🥺🥺🥺, I can't imagine how to live something like this.
This is what was so striking about this film. Everything he did made sense. From an outside perspective I wanted him to find peace - but I knew he never would. How could he? It's not to say he was at fault - a million things had to align for a tragedy like that to happen. But how could you ever "beat" it? So horrifically sad to truly understand why he couldn't.
Damn this was deep
It is like The Godfather quote: "Women and children can be careless. But not men". If a grown men fucks it up, don't expect any sympathy towards him.
Did the entire city hate him? I don’t think that was really portrayed, the movie was much more about his self loathing
Greif, true greif, always seems to come out at the most unexpected times. It doesn't come when you get the phone call that they're gone, at the funeral, or when you're scattering the ashes at that special place. No, it simmers, builds, and slowly bubbles over like the forgotten pot on the stove.
You have put this so beautifully.
*Grief
Will Richmond gotem
When I got the news of my brother's attempted suicide, I didn't really react for a few days, went to work just fine, and after about 3 hours into one of my shifts after I got my break, I just broke down crying on my break table. Manager sent me home early that day.
I will save it. It is worth saving.
This is honestly the best movie i've ever seen.
It's without a doubt in my top 30 of all time. I love it so much.
Luis García I truly believe this movie is also the best I've seen so far in my life......and I'm 56 years old.....so that's REALLY saying something! I watched this movie the night before the Oscars, and it's now mid March, and it's STILL with me. I can't shake it. It's still haunting me. I think this one will stay with me forever. What a frickin' brilliant, genius movie.....from the writing of it to the acting. Just a phenomenal movie. One that grabs onto your heart and doesn't let go. Wow. I love this one soooooo much. And this scene when he breaks down and cries just breaks my heart into a million little pieces.
Hard to say if it’s the “best”,it touched me emotionally more than anything I’ve ever seen for sure though.
It’s definitely in my top 10 films of all time (at No. 4); I thought Casey’s Performance was one of the greatest in recent years- his confession at the police station sent chills down my spine, it was that good.
Jack Smith what’s your top 3
Love this heartbreaking film...Casey's sensitive acting throughout is stunning to behold..
Mandy Patience i
Love how this comes at such an unexpected time
It always does
Just like real life.
I mean, how the HELL you can heal someone with the heart as broken as he has? Jesus, so hearbreaking film is this.
tataRangora you can’t, that’s why this movie was so sad
@@Daydreamer-fj7ru He got drunk and became negligent which led to a housefire that killed his three kids.
@@emperorbeebopp2318 and his brother died also
His crying I actually interpreted as him starting to get better. He's finally letting himself feel again
@@stephengrigg5988 it's actually just a reminder of why he left Manchester & why he's going to leave again.
"I can't beat it."
Some films hit you so hard that they stick with you for the rest of your life.
It was the Gia Carangi film with Angelina Jolie and this one for me
Have you seen Christine (2016) with Rebecca Hall? I've seen a lot of movies, some gruesome, some incredibly sad like Manchester...I just saw Christine recently and I honestly am having trouble shaking it off. Hauntingly sad to me.
I saw this movie over a month ago and I still can't stop thinking about it. It's a brutal, heartbreaking, and also very funny, movie. The best kind of cinema.
Nothing funny about it.
@@HomerMr500 A very funny movie? Give me a few times when it was ever very funny...
Untold Story When Casey was hanging out with his friends and the wife kicked them out
@@alanandconnielast the scenes of the band practicing. Thats it basically
@@alanandconnielast the scene when they forgot where they Parking their car
A women’s comfort when ur sad is A1
So cute
I completely agree. Unfortunately, lots of them want absolutely nothing to do with you (and in fact seem to resent you) when you show the tiniest slice of emotional vulnerability.
I really don't think the younger generation of women understand how much guys appreciate their "traditional" nurturing and comfort skills.
You can’t show any vulnerability or emotions to this new generation of women.
@@kyleisbart197 Exactly
@@SabatSch95 I think they just don't appreciate you specifically.
This scene is so short yet so important and powerful. It’s the only time we see Lee actually breaking down instead of being his detached and numb self. The acting is on point.
With a script like that, is amazing that even small supporting roles shine
George and his wife truly care about him.
The scene where they ask him if he's had lunch and ensure that he eats is another example . They know that no one else including he himself won't care about it.
It's sad to think about how ashamed he'll feel later for being this vulnerable
That's a really good point , his rough exterior and empty and emotionless shell is the only thing he has left to hold on to its practically become his identity at this point in his life and this harrowing vulnerable state where everything just shattered and crumbled for that split second will be the thing that keeps him from sleeping at night as he looks back and plays it in his head over and over again in agony hating his moment of weakness
@@jesseepalmer5405 Somehow I get the notion you two are still young and haven't yet experienced some life's lessons.
@@flybeep1661 somehow I think you didn't interpret their comments correctly, nor do you have any idea what their life experiences are.
Why IS IT sad
@@flybeep1661 what a sad view you have on the human experience.
"I don't think so nothings broken" small line but means so much.
Probably the greatest piece of acting I've seen.
Agreed.
Manchester By the Sea is my favorite movie of the decade, it will be with me for a long time.
The scenes with Casey and the kid is actually hilarious
How do you mean?
Hilarious??
They’re funny without being a guy burster.
I agree, hearing "ARE YOU MENTALLY DEFICIENT?" in a Boston accent will never not make me grin. Also the "Nice parenting!" scene with that one idiot walking by them arguing
Edriss Scofield that was actually Kenneth Lonergan, the director in a cameo
this scene hasa soul of its own. so saddening, so much grief. what a masterpiece. i was totally undone after watching that .
We often speak of depression, and for good reason. However, I rarely hear talk about shame. The belief that you deserve nothing good over things that have long been forgiven. This film speaks more to that maybe than any film I’ve ever seen.
So true.. shame cripples you to do anything or believe in something good because of fear of rejection and judgement you get from others. Very good point of view
God... The pain he must have been in. What a movie.
I watched this movie a year ago but I just can’t dare to watch it again, it was so raw and brutal in every aspect
I read the whole script for this. Really love it, what a movie. Honest and raw.
He was starting to thaw and feel...
The way the wife looks up at her husband while another man is weeping in her arms
Ehhh that happens sometimes
What an odd take. She looks up at him to say "What else can we do to help him?".
@@MasterBetty69 id say it was a look of “I guess we’ll adopt Patrick, because this broken person is certainly incapable of caring for him at this point in his life”.
Oscar!!!!
I feel so depressed I watch this clip and that's how I feel just beaten down. Wow
Please don't. It's just a movie
@@srishtisumiran2607 Art imitates life
Casey is a great actor and he is so mellow... 😊
Every time I watch this scene I feel like I am peering into someone’s life I have no business seeing.
Michelle can be praised as much as people want for the confrontation scene. This, police station, “I can’t beat it” scenes (where there were only Affleck) are the top ones in the movie. Without even one of them, it wouldn’t have made the same effect on people.
Well I'm glad you gave the people permission to praise who they want. I agree with you though, all the praise should be going to Affleck. His performance was sublime
@Slackernalia I don't know why but the scene where he wakes up to see his daughters beside him asking "can't you see we are burning" makes me choke up very much. I will include it among the strongest moments
Selim WTF? You compare incomparable things. Michelle was a SUPPORTING actress while he was the lead. They are both great in their own rights. No need to diminish her contribution to the film. Her scene was great, and that's it, that doesn't negate the fact that Casey was brilliant as the lead.
@@Onigirli I'm glad you're such a smartass, he was not giving permission lmao, it was just a set phrase. Also, no need to compare incomparable. Michelle was a SUPPORTING actress while he was the lead. They are both great in their own rights. No need to diminish her contribution to the film. Her scene was great, and that's it, that doesn't negate the fact that Casey was brilliant as the lead. Okay?)
@@tommoriarty7085 What do you mean ''you don't know why'' man? The scene you were talking about is SUPPOSED to be sad cause it's embodiment of his grief and guilt and a reminder of what happened to his kids because of his one stupid mistake... Of course it is extremely sad and heartbreaking... You don't even have to ''know why''.
My boy's wicked sad
How do YOU like them regret and self hatred
@@John-sr2hr 😭😭😭
I feel like it was at this scene they realized they needed to help Lee with dealing with his nephew, clearly Lee is still hurting.
It’s been years but this film is making me depressed again and again
I’ve seen so many movies and people always ask “What’s my favorite one?” because they know I have a love for cinema but, out of any of the films I’ve seen in my lifetime, this one stuck with me the most.
this movie kicked my ass… so much laughter and sadness. rollercoaster of emotions but this topped it off. this scene made me feel a loss that i haven’t actually ever felt… such greta story and acting
i wish there were more reactions to this amazing movie
The power of Great film is perhaps its simplicity at such emotion
I just love that woman..............
One of my favorite movies
This scene breaks my heart
People often talk about the subtle nuances that made this movie a masterpiece. The way the wife looks at her husband reminds me of how my wife and I sometimes look at each other - basically, we know what the other person is thinking/saying with out them having to say a word. It happens when couples have been together for a long time, and this couple played it perfectly.
police station scene still running in my everytime.
someone should make a video clip of all the "breakdown" snippets: when he has to lean over or is falling to the ground as his brother tries to stablize him (in front of the burning house), the gun-suicide attempt, the punches he throws at the bar, the punch through the window, this scene.....
They need to make a sequel where Lee receives nothing, but love and comfort just to mend the hearts of the audience.
This is hands down the most real and raw movie I've ever seen
very sad
When I see a man cry it just hits me differently.
This dude reminds me of the main character for Clannad. Lost everything.
Big difference is that in Clannad it’s about loss and not at all about shame
Great actor
This is when they knew they had to take Patrick. Lee was just obviously not in a position to raise him.
Best movie of all time
I will never recover from this film
The accusatory looks they all give each other is what makes this scene so great. So thoughtful, one each of their part.
I lost it in this scene lol
People empathize with the character but never for someone whos going through the same irl. Im broken. Illness, death and and loss over the years have made me like this, yet nobody cares. My friends don't care. Moms dead, dads too sick. Im still a child. I haven't even been in a relationship yet... My friends blame me for depression and grief.
Compassion like this is lacking in today's society. Covid, masks, social distancing has only added insult to injury but much of it is because people that have been hurt by others choose to hold on to the pain and let it consume their hearts rather than to let it go. We must never let pain make us hate, building walls around our hearts may keep us from getting hurt but it'll also keep our love and compassion inside rather than sharing it with others, ultimately hurting us more and robbing us of our blessings. This lady is a true example of love and kindness which will always win.
Wow. Damn well written. Pain and I think fear, too. And I love that lady in the scene.
Beautiful
I’m not the same after this movie I can’t snap out of it
I need someone to hold me tight
I watched this for my Grief and Loss class. Let me tell you I was crying while writing that paper. 😂
He reminds me of myself
You kill some of your own kids?
Something tells me his backstory is a tad more tragic.
Human's ♡♡♡
He cannot move on because he refuses to forgive himself
i cried T_T
Manchester by the sea Or Art by Casey
Trying to pay money bc the ppl that cared for you don’t deserve your weak emotional reciprocation.
😭
That KILLS Me
Such a tough movie to watch
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
>Crying Scene
Which one?
Does anyone suggest me a movie showing realistic griefs like this movie
Never let me go
Pianist
My father and my son(turkish)
A ghost story(disclaimer: You may love or hate it)
Out of furnace
Your name
Grave of the Fireflies
A silent voice
All anime movies but worth it
@@mohdali2847 Lol these are like Disney movies compared to Manchester by the sea
@@siu281 grave of the fireflies is actually pretty heavy but i do prefer manchester by the sea
@@siu281not grave of the fireflies
This movie is very real...although i suddenly realize that real things get me bored
It’s so sad that having that talk with Randi really set him off and he finally just breaks down, it’s so human
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If depth of pain Affleck showed up in this movie is..
" Well i dnt have a proper word for it."
It's hard to bury your feelings when your fucking dying inside