I swear to God you are the apex of the healing “wise old woman” archetype, the intuitive and intelligent witch. And I mean witch in the most positive way possible. Synchronistically you always seem to pop up addressing a topic that I am currently working on. I was recently with a small group of males, and one of them was a 57 year old “mean girl”. And he was rather insulting to me repeatedly. Being a people pleaser and a deeply moral person I struggled with how to deal with it. Should I stay with the group in order to not cause trouble. In the past I would have tried to bear with it for the sake of the group or try to fix the person, but no more. I left the group, and decided to simply be friends with those in the group who have positive energy and an eye on growth. Your words hit me like an arrow, “you do not owe that energy anything”! Wow! And the authoritarian figure reminds me of one of my sayings, “where love(empathy) is absent, power(control) takes over”. Lastly Carl Jung said”, Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge”. Thank you, thank you for reinforcing the idea that I have a choice to not allow a negative person to feed on my energy, “to release my power”.
In high school I had my own little group I hung out with. We weren't the 'cool' kids by any means. And there were a couple in our group that were scary smart & went on to do truly marvelous things. I was a poor kid in a rich kid's school so I always felt out of sync. And as loving and caring as our community is, there are some who are very cliquish with a 'mean girls' mentality. I have handled them the way I have always handled people like that - treat them with kindness while quietly & gently closing the door between us. Instead I focused on what Spirit wanted me to do. Every day I learn a little more of what I'm supposed to be. As I tackle one hurdle, Spirit gives me the next one to jump. Is it painful? Oh absolutely, but I decide if I want to wallow in that pain or move on from it. I have chosen to move on. I'm polite, I'm friendly, and I keep it at a minimum whenever I'm in a situation where I have to deal with them. No one knows who these handful of people are and no one will ever know, from me. It's not for me to out them. They will do that to themselves in their own time. I have more important tasks that Spirit has given me to work on. So that's what I do. I choose to live in the light. I choose to live in the laughter of good friends and a wonderful community. I don't expect everyone to know who I am. I don't expect (and still, quite frankly, am surprised) anyone to sing my praises. I only ask for the truth and that's what I ask Spirit for daily. Show me the truth. Show me the path to live in my truth. And allow others to see it when it is their time to see it. We don't all resonate with one another, and that's ok. When you find your people that you allow into your inner circle you will know & find peace. Peace of mind, peace of heart, & peace of soul. Thank you for tackling this tough topic and to do it so proficiently. You truly have a talent for shining the spotlight on that which does not ring true. Love you my friend. Shari
thank you Shari. that's so very kind of you to say. i agree with you about how to handle a situation and allowing them to identify themselves. much love.
I was the fat kid who didn't fit in anywhere. Fortunately I fit in best with the scholars, but a really low achieving one. But they saw me working at it and helped me be a bit better.
I never really get the concept of the cool kids. I always followed my own path through school and got on with whomever I vibed with at the time. You can't fit in everywhere. It appears to me you were probably socially awkward and both as a kid and adult you still seem to see life through the same lense. Even in heaven you'll find there's clicks. It's just nature.
@@purpleelephantdebh Thank you for response. I did think after I left that comment the way boys and girls interact with each other socially in school can be very different. Maybe I just don't understand it from a female perspective 🙏
@@Martin-oz6lr you are correct that boys and girls interact differently. the vast majority of my friends have always been boys, then men. even after i became an adult i found it tiresome to deal with the pettiness of female interaction because even as girls we are encouraged to be mean to one another and tear each other down. we should be learning to love and support one another. that's the key. we really are stronger together. love is the answer, not petty bickering and back biting. compassion, not competition. thank you for thinking on it a little longer. that is my aim here, to start a conversation and try to engage our thinking ability. there is no wrong answer or outcome as long as we learn from our experience. even if we do not learn a lesson, it's still a valid experience.
I swear to God you are the apex of the healing “wise old woman” archetype, the intuitive and intelligent witch. And I mean witch in the most positive way possible. Synchronistically you always seem to pop up addressing a topic that I am currently working on. I was recently with a small group of males, and one of them was a 57 year old “mean girl”. And he was rather insulting to me repeatedly. Being a people pleaser and a deeply moral person I struggled with how to deal with it. Should I stay with the group in order to not cause trouble. In the past I would have tried to bear with it for the sake of the group or try to fix the person, but no more. I left the group, and decided to simply be friends with those in the group who have positive energy and an eye on growth. Your words hit me like an arrow, “you do not owe that energy anything”! Wow! And the authoritarian figure reminds me of one of my sayings, “where love(empathy) is absent, power(control) takes over”. Lastly Carl Jung said”, Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge”. Thank you, thank you for reinforcing the idea that I have a choice to not allow a negative person to feed on my energy, “to release my power”.
i'm so happy this was a validation for you, Charles. thank you so very kindly for your support and your kind words. 💜🐘
Enjoyed the message Deb. Love and blessings to you.
thank you very kindly, Lauren.💜🐘
This was beautiful, thank you Deb. - Blessings, Janet C. 💙✨🌺🌷
thank you Janet. blessings to you too.
In high school I had my own little group I hung out with. We weren't the 'cool' kids by any means. And there were a couple in our group that were scary smart & went on to do truly marvelous things. I was a poor kid in a rich kid's school so I always felt out of sync. And as loving and caring as our community is, there are some who are very cliquish with a 'mean girls' mentality. I have handled them the way I have always handled people like that - treat them with kindness while quietly & gently closing the door between us. Instead I focused on what Spirit wanted me to do. Every day I learn a little more of what I'm supposed to be. As I tackle one hurdle, Spirit gives me the next one to jump. Is it painful? Oh absolutely, but I decide if I want to wallow in that pain or move on from it. I have chosen to move on. I'm polite, I'm friendly, and I keep it at a minimum whenever I'm in a situation where I have to deal with them. No one knows who these handful of people are and no one will ever know, from me. It's not for me to out them. They will do that to themselves in their own time. I have more important tasks that Spirit has given me to work on. So that's what I do. I choose to live in the light. I choose to live in the laughter of good friends and a wonderful community. I don't expect everyone to know who I am. I don't expect (and still, quite frankly, am surprised) anyone to sing my praises. I only ask for the truth and that's what I ask Spirit for daily. Show me the truth. Show me the path to live in my truth. And allow others to see it when it is their time to see it. We don't all resonate with one another, and that's ok. When you find your people that you allow into your inner circle you will know & find peace. Peace of mind, peace of heart, & peace of soul.
Thank you for tackling this tough topic and to do it so proficiently. You truly have a talent for shining the spotlight on that which does not ring true. Love you my friend.
Shari
thank you Shari. that's so very kind of you to say. i agree with you about how to handle a situation and allowing them to identify themselves. much love.
wonderful video Deb. Thanks for it needed it.
thank you very kindly for your support, Lisa. i'm happy it helped.💜🐘
I was the fat kid who didn't fit in anywhere. Fortunately I fit in best with the scholars, but a really low achieving one. But they saw me working at it and helped me be a bit better.
and look at you now! a UA-cam creator with a following! 💜🐘
Timing😜
indeed, yes. i've been thinking about this for a time, but something happened that caused me to go ahead and make the video. 🙂💜🐘
Even better third time around.
thanks Angela. you are truly a dedicated friend to watch a thing 3 times. 🙃😊
Lots of love and blessings sent your way Deb
thank you Fatima. may this love and these blessing be returned to you ten fold. 💜🐘
I never really get the concept of the cool kids. I always followed my own path through school and got on with whomever I vibed with at the time. You can't fit in everywhere. It appears to me you were probably socially awkward and both as a kid and adult you still seem to see life through the same lense. Even in heaven you'll find there's clicks. It's just nature.
thank you for your critique, Martin.
@@purpleelephantdebh
Thank you for response. I did think after I left that comment the way boys and girls interact with each other socially in school can be very different. Maybe I just don't understand it from a female perspective 🙏
@@Martin-oz6lr you are correct that boys and girls interact differently. the vast majority of my friends have always been boys, then men. even after i became an adult i found it tiresome to deal with the pettiness of female interaction because even as girls we are encouraged to be mean to one another and tear each other down. we should be learning to love and support one another. that's the key. we really are stronger together. love is the answer, not petty bickering and back biting. compassion, not competition. thank you for thinking on it a little longer. that is my aim here, to start a conversation and try to engage our thinking ability. there is no wrong answer or outcome as long as we learn from our experience. even if we do not learn a lesson, it's still a valid experience.
@@purpleelephantdebh Amen to that!!!
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That’s why there’s a reason for everyone who crosses my path.✌️❣️🌟🫶🏻