We always go to mass at 7:30 am every Sunday and there are no girls. I am 16 and can't go to other times, but there was a really traditional family that just moved to my church 3 months ago and I have been praying for a person like this to come along. I truly was not expecting this God to answer my prayers right away. I thought it would take years, and here she is. All I need to do is ask her out at youth group...
There was a guy kneeling with his head down beside me in line for confession, and since I wasn't looking really, I just thought it was neat. But THEN he started singing along with the benediction and I almost melted! (Guys at my church rarely sing and if they do, it is very, very quiet) I finally glanced over and realized it was one of the choir ladies husband's. 😩 But I like a guy who sings or follows along with the prayers in a confident way. Like he wants to be at the Mass.😄
The noise that the text made sliding in at 3:06 was quite loud. I'd imagine it would be particularly startling to anyone with headphones in. If you don't mind some friendly editing advice, then I'd recommend avoiding these sorts of volume spikes in the future.
Guys, as a lady (older 30s), if you are on dating apps. Please use a genuine smile photo for your profiles. Also, maybe not photos with shades on in every picture. And lastly, photos of you laying in bed are odd. I'm sure we ladies have off-putting photos, but since I'm only looking at guys profiles, i figured i could offer a bit of advice. Those are the ones that I've noticed with guys that make tend to pass them by. Also, if there are things that ladies need to quit doing in photos, let me know?
Besides randomly meeting someone somewhere I think for Catholics finding a possible husband or wife, the big 3 things that I’ve seen are going to young adult Catholic events assuming that your parish or one close by hosts them, going to a devout Catholic college like Franciscan university or meeting via a good Catholic dating site like Catholic match. I’ve seen all of these work especially going to a devout Catholic College. I guess essentially in a lot of cases it comes down to putting yourself in a situation over and over again where you have a higher chance of meeting someone.
Men don't show up( young adult events) because of high % of rejection, ( I'm sure it gets tiring), and the one's that do show-up its seems the women are not impressed with the choices. Also what I don't understand, if woman is seeking marriage why is she going into debt going to college if ( as in the orthodox tradition) they/she just to have children, and be Sahm/wife with domestic duties?
In my Diocese 1) Women rarely attend Young Adult's events and Single's events. 2) Online dating is satanic. It turns dating into a shopping experience instead of actually something natural and good.
You’re right about possibly having to move. The thing that I dislike the most about living in the south (east Texas) is the lack of parishes here. Living in the Bible Belt is difficult, mostly everyone is Protestant. Also, the closest Latin Mass is 1.5 hours away from me so it’s difficult to try out other parishes. If you had to pick up and move to a new area that would be good for a single Catholic desiring marriage, where would you pick? I’d love to see a video with recommendations on dominantly Catholic areas in the US!
@@worthwhilediscussion I couldn’t envision myself living in any of those places. Or really in any big city for that matter. I may just remain single forever because of that 😂 I prefer conservative, rural places.
Same - well, maybe not exactly the same. I didn’t have a hard time meeting women there. Just never ended getting to go out with them! Made lots of good friends with them though
Hi Cameron. thank you for your work but the biggest thing that always bugs me about the topic of meeting women is: how to approach a complete stranger without looking like a creep? Maybe it's me, but if I put myself in the shoes of a woman, if a stranger comes up to me to introduce himself and ask for a date, I'd find that a bit of an annoyance even if its game is smooth.
Catholic Match has very few people but they show you people who haven’t logged on in months or even a year. They delete things out of your profile if it doesn’t flatter them. It’s a wreck.
As a single Catholic woman, please don’t go up to women when they’re literally kneeling in prayer in the Sanctuary after Mass. that’s not your time, bro, that’s The Lord’s time. Do not interrupt the most important moment in her day. Also, yes, I realize that dismissing guys left and right because of the way they ask might leave me single forever- but I insist that I have a point. 😅
@ Actually, it’s happened to me at least three times since my conversion, which is why I’m complaining about it 🤣 I just find it irreverent. I’m not trying to be a cranky person haha
I can’t even think of how to approach a woman at mass that doesn’t seem off putting. It reminds me of that scene in the Quiet Man when John Wayne offers the holy water to Maureen O’Hara.
@@misterb1897 I have a good one. Walk up to her, smile, hand her a single rose and just walk away. Say nothing to her. That will be the nicest thing anyone’s done for her in a while …and it will leave her intrigued for the rest of the week. Next week, same thing. Two flowers this time. Third week, three flowers. There’s no way she doesn’t fall for the commitment and chivalry that would take. At least to go on a date! Sometimes my own genius frightens me 🤣
@@raymondvasquez6967 Yes and western women shouldn't be like that. Period. That needs to change immediately. People can call me "too idealistic" but that's what I believe and my opinion won't change.
I think point 6 is to be aware of the season of where you are at in life. If you aren’t seeking God at all and praying and going to Mass then why would you expect God to just hand you over a spouse like a possession or achievement? I am in the season of transitioning from fear worry anxiety depression and despair, to working on things with God first since he’s leading me to be an evangelist. Yeah I struggle with lust and depression and disappointment from seeking marriage and not being where I want in life including married. But Jesus is leading me to see that I am no different than the apostles and their misplaced hope and expectations about Him being a political Messiah at the time until He came back from the dead and gave them the Holy Spirit to teach them the Truth and evangelize. It’s assuring to know that I can ask the apostles for help as well since I find myself in their position as they once were in as well as Jesus Mary and all the saints.
Don't be so hard on yourself. St Paul says to marry if you don't think you can handle religious celibacy. There's no explanation for the present romantic difficulties
How to avoid idolatry and vanity when wanting marriage and trying to attract the opposite sex? I'm concerned over spoiling purity of heart for God by being overly preoccupied with marriage and being vain for trying to get the attention of women
Just trust in God. Right now you might become to preoccupied when thinking about it but it doesn’t mean you cut it off completely. I struggled with lust big time and over time little by little God changed my heart from only looking at woman as objects to being attracted to them while also looking at their hearts and seeking God first. Just like everything in the spiritual life, it’s a process. God will change your heart of you keep surrendering to him and surrender this fear to him!
Bro, I have a question about going to different masses just to find a perfect woman. I mean. It wouldn't be bad going to church just looking for a woman, I think we should go to find Jesús and his wisdom and forgiveness, but that's my thought: Am I wrong with this Cameron? Greetings 🙏
Good question! There is nothing wrong with going to mass in hopes of meeting your future spouse, so long as Jesus is still the ultimate end and motivation of everything in your life. Marriage is a sacrament and if Jesus wants to introduce you to your wife at mass, what’s wrong with that? God bless 😁
The key word you said is “just.” If you’re just going to find a wife only, that sounds wrong to me. But if you’re going to worship and you choose to worship in a different church than usual because you might find someone, I don’t think that’s a problem.
I’m 52, so nobody cares whether I find a Catholic wife other than me. Tried other masses, other parishes, Catholic Bible study, Catholic book club, ballroom dancing, Catholic Match, eharmony… Just not going to happen. Need singles over 40 group.
unfortunately at every TLM I've been to, the single men greatly outnumber the single women. the only women I ever see at TLM are married women. same thing goes for the Ordinariate. I'm gonna have to go to Novus Ordo twice a month if I want to meet my future wife unfortunately
there are literally no Catholic women remotely near my age where I live. I go to a small parish, and I'm one of the very few 30 year olds. The other 30 year olds are also men.
Odds are against you, not for you, on account of the fact that even traditional women want the top 1% of Catholic men, not just someone deeply faithful. I’ve been to plenty of TLM’s and every woman is either married or completely uninterested in you. Men need to accept isolation and loneliness, because God wills it.
@@CameronRiecker literally impossible. I can’t change how unattractive I am physically and not can I fix my confidence as long as I remain unattractive. God has ordained me, and most men, to be alone without hope.
Men are desperate. There was this Catholic youth group meet up, and this girl was telling about how some single young men that were there actually went up to her when she was sitting at table talking to some friends and they grab her hand to see if she had ring on her finger, and that wasn't the first time this had happened. Sad!
After mass? I guess I've never seen anyone hang around after mass long enough to meet them - and it seems a little creepy with also hitting on a girl after mass when she's probably with her family? Average looking dude.( about 85% of men) hard no, hot guy, maybe?
Id marry anyone if i loved them. Their religion would be irrelevant to me. Jew, Hindu, Catholic, Protestant etc. luckily i don’t have that problem anymore.
@Multijoe84 But you are choosing your desires over God. Marrying someone from a different faith usually eventually causes chaos in the union, especially if they are not willing to convert to Catholism. Be yoked with your spouse. The Bible teaches this.
St Paul says to marry as the solution to sexual dysregulation of any kind. If that's not possible because women now rule over us, I am not sure why marrying a non-Catholic should be forbidden. Interracial marriages rob the offspring of their heritage, but interfaith marriages can change over time with God's grace and guidance
What are some other ways you have found effective to meet Catholic women? Let me know in the comments!
We always go to mass at 7:30 am every Sunday and there are no girls. I am 16 and can't go to other times, but there was a really traditional family that just moved to my church 3 months ago and I have been praying for a person like this to come along. I truly was not expecting this God to answer my prayers right away. I thought it would take years, and here she is. All I need to do is ask her out at youth group...
Get involved at your parish. The more active you are the more likely you will find a faith-filled Catholic to marry
One of the best Catholic couples I know met in line for confession!
No way! Haha so cool!
There was a guy kneeling with his head down beside me in line for confession, and since I wasn't looking really, I just thought it was neat. But THEN he started singing along with the benediction and I almost melted! (Guys at my church rarely sing and if they do, it is very, very quiet) I finally glanced over and realized it was one of the choir ladies husband's. 😩
But I like a guy who sings or follows along with the prayers in a confident way. Like he wants to be at the Mass.😄
Pray the Rosary everyday brothers!
Been doing that for the past year 😁
Doesn’t work
I started to travel an hour for attending the latin mass a year and a half ago. And I met my boyfriend/future husband there :)
Online Catholic dating apps are the reason I’m here today. Parents happily married for 20 years with 3 kids
20years ago? Respect to OGs of online dating
@ on a free trial also
No relevance whatsoever to today's situation. Dating apps were a novelty then.
The noise that the text made sliding in at 3:06 was quite loud. I'd imagine it would be particularly startling to anyone with headphones in. If you don't mind some friendly editing advice, then I'd recommend avoiding these sorts of volume spikes in the future.
Agree! Don’t discount CatholicMatch or similar, I know three holy marriages from there!
@@chasejohnson1775 Catholic match is trash. Very few options and responses.
Great advice, will test them out, so to speak in the next years. Kind regards from Germany
My guitar!!! 😢. Keep up the good work, CR
Guys, as a lady (older 30s), if you are on dating apps. Please use a genuine smile photo for your profiles. Also, maybe not photos with shades on in every picture. And lastly, photos of you laying in bed are odd.
I'm sure we ladies have off-putting photos, but since I'm only looking at guys profiles, i figured i could offer a bit of advice. Those are the ones that I've noticed with guys that make tend to pass them by.
Also, if there are things that ladies need to quit doing in photos, let me know?
So many women (usually younger) dont smile. Its very off putting and unattractive
Great thumbnail!
Love this video ❤
Besides randomly meeting someone somewhere I think for Catholics finding a possible husband or wife, the big 3 things that I’ve seen are going to young adult Catholic events assuming that your parish or one close by hosts them, going to a devout Catholic college like Franciscan university or meeting via a good Catholic dating site like Catholic match. I’ve seen all of these work especially going to a devout Catholic College. I guess essentially in a lot of cases it comes down to putting yourself in a situation over and over again where you have a higher chance of meeting someone.
Men don't show up( young adult events) because of high % of rejection, ( I'm sure it gets tiring), and the one's that do show-up its seems the women are not impressed with the choices. Also what I don't understand, if woman is seeking marriage why is she going into debt going to college if ( as in the orthodox tradition) they/she just to have children, and be Sahm/wife with domestic duties?
In my Diocese
1) Women rarely attend Young Adult's events and Single's events.
2) Online dating is satanic. It turns dating into a shopping experience instead of actually something natural and good.
Are you by any chance over 45? Because this isn't the experience of the youngest adults anymore
You’re right about possibly having to move. The thing that I dislike the most about living in the south (east Texas) is the lack of parishes here. Living in the Bible Belt is difficult, mostly everyone is Protestant. Also, the closest Latin Mass is 1.5 hours away from me so it’s difficult to try out other parishes.
If you had to pick up and move to a new area that would be good for a single Catholic desiring marriage, where would you pick? I’d love to see a video with recommendations on dominantly Catholic areas in the US!
Phoenix and Denver are good :) There are lots of good places though!
This might be a no no for you but the most catholic cities are: NYC, New Orleans, Newark, New Jersey, Boston, Philadelphia, and Rhode Island (state).
@@worthwhilediscussion I couldn’t envision myself living in any of those places. Or really in any big city for that matter. I may just remain single forever because of that 😂 I prefer conservative, rural places.
@alexiarifaey I hear you. I think New Orleans suburbs and countryside is still highly Catholic because of its history with the French conquest.
@@CameronRiecker Too expressive!
I go to a Catholic college and I still have a hard time 😅
Same - well, maybe not exactly the same. I didn’t have a hard time meeting women there. Just never ended getting to go out with them! Made lots of good friends with them though
@@holyfamilycrusader3512 You're being emotionally abused by being "friends" with women who are telling you you are physically repulsive
You mean, besides taking a trip to Manila?
Missed an opportunity at 5:06 to que the "sweet home Alabama" intro LOL
Hi Cameron. thank you for your work but the biggest thing that always bugs me about the topic of meeting women is: how to approach a complete stranger without looking like a creep? Maybe it's me, but if I put myself in the shoes of a woman, if a stranger comes up to me to introduce himself and ask for a date, I'd find that a bit of an annoyance even if its game is smooth.
finding more and more that some women don't really like men. A lot of women in their 20's are really not interested in marriage or dating.
Good video Idea!
Unfortunately, there aren't many women at my Old rite mass, just a bunch of young men lol
Catholic Match has very few people but they show you people who haven’t logged on in months or even a year. They delete things out of your profile if it doesn’t flatter them. It’s a wreck.
I wonder if this works in my country.
Simple. Start going to Holy Mass regularly and be a part of the congregation.
I live in Central Europe and only people over 60 go to church here, the only religious people are older people and muslims.
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As a single Catholic woman, please don’t go up to women when they’re literally kneeling in prayer in the Sanctuary after Mass. that’s not your time, bro, that’s The Lord’s time. Do not interrupt the most important moment in her day.
Also, yes, I realize that dismissing guys left and right because of the way they ask might leave me single forever- but I insist that I have a point. 😅
I hope this hasn’t actually happened to you…. 😅
@ Actually, it’s happened to me at least three times since my conversion, which is why I’m complaining about it 🤣 I just find it irreverent. I’m not trying to be a cranky person haha
I can’t even think of how to approach a woman at mass that doesn’t seem off putting. It reminds me of that scene in the Quiet Man when John Wayne offers the holy water to Maureen O’Hara.
@@misterb1897 I have a good one. Walk up to her, smile, hand her a single rose and just walk away. Say nothing to her. That will be the nicest thing anyone’s done for her in a while …and it will leave her intrigued for the rest of the week. Next week, same thing. Two flowers this time. Third week, three flowers. There’s no way she doesn’t fall for the commitment and chivalry that would take. At least to go on a date!
Sometimes my own genius frightens me 🤣
You're Godsent! Thanks for the idea! ☦️@@paulitisimisma
Go to the Philippines.
Plus, there, the ladies seem more reverent and traditional.
People shouldn't have to go to the Phillipines. Everything needed to find a spouse should exist in your local community. Period.
@@garrettstephens91 Shouldn't. it's a losing proposition here to marry a Western woman.
@@raymondvasquez6967 Yes and western women shouldn't be like that. Period. That needs to change immediately. People can call me "too idealistic" but that's what I believe and my opinion won't change.
I want to marry someone of my own race, ethnicity and culture
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I think point 6 is to be aware of the season of where you are at in life. If you aren’t seeking God at all and praying and going to Mass then why would you expect God to just hand you over a spouse like a possession or achievement?
I am in the season of transitioning from fear worry anxiety depression and despair, to working on things with God first since he’s leading me to be an evangelist. Yeah I struggle with lust and depression and disappointment from seeking marriage and not being where I want in life including married. But Jesus is leading me to see that I am no different than the apostles and their misplaced hope and expectations about Him being a political Messiah at the time until He came back from the dead and gave them the Holy Spirit to teach them the Truth and evangelize. It’s assuring to know that I can ask the apostles for help as well since I find myself in their position as they once were in as well as Jesus Mary and all the saints.
You sound very genuine. Thank you for your honesty. Wish I knew you in person.
Don't be so hard on yourself. St Paul says to marry if you don't think you can handle religious celibacy. There's no explanation for the present romantic difficulties
What about for women? Where can we find catholic men?
I'll make a video on this with my wife soon :) God bless you!
@ awesome! I just subscribed, god bless ✝️
In the friend zone
1st, 2st, 3nd, FORD, 5th LOL
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How to avoid idolatry and vanity when wanting marriage and trying to attract the opposite sex? I'm concerned over spoiling purity of heart for God by being overly preoccupied with marriage and being vain for trying to get the attention of women
Just trust in God. Right now you might become to preoccupied when thinking about it but it doesn’t mean you cut it off completely. I struggled with lust big time and over time little by little God changed my heart from only looking at woman as objects to being attracted to them while also looking at their hearts and seeking God first. Just like everything in the spiritual life, it’s a process. God will change your heart of you keep surrendering to him and surrender this fear to him!
Bro, I have a question about going to different masses just to find a perfect woman. I mean. It wouldn't be bad going to church just looking for a woman, I think we should go to find Jesús and his wisdom and forgiveness, but that's my thought: Am I wrong with this Cameron? Greetings 🙏
Good question! There is nothing wrong with going to mass in hopes of meeting your future spouse, so long as Jesus is still the ultimate end and motivation of everything in your life.
Marriage is a sacrament and if Jesus wants to introduce you to your wife at mass, what’s wrong with that?
God bless 😁
The key word you said is “just.” If you’re just going to find a wife only, that sounds wrong to me. But if you’re going to worship and you choose to worship in a different church than usual because you might find someone, I don’t think that’s a problem.
@@maxrice6990 You certainly can do both.
@@CameronRiecker thank you Cameron God bless you ❤
I’m 52, so nobody cares whether I find a Catholic wife other than me. Tried other masses, other parishes, Catholic Bible study, Catholic book club, ballroom dancing, Catholic Match, eharmony…
Just not going to happen. Need singles over 40 group.
unfortunately at every TLM I've been to, the single men greatly outnumber the single women. the only women I ever see at TLM are married women. same thing goes for the Ordinariate. I'm gonna have to go to Novus Ordo twice a month if I want to meet my future wife unfortunately
Well, looks like I might need to move
I had to lol
You shouldn't have to move. Period.
there are literally no Catholic women remotely near my age where I live. I go to a small parish, and I'm one of the very few 30 year olds. The other 30 year olds are also men.
I had the same problem. So I moved 😁
@@CameronRiecker probably what I need to consider.
@@CameronRieckerpeople shouldn't have to move.
Women's liberation is the problem, reinstallation of patriarchal norma via electoral means is the solution
Odds are against you, not for you, on account of the fact that even traditional women want the top 1% of Catholic men, not just someone deeply faithful. I’ve been to plenty of TLM’s and every woman is either married or completely uninterested in you. Men need to accept isolation and loneliness, because God wills it.
Be a top 1%er bro. You can do it.
@@CameronRiecker literally impossible. I can’t change how unattractive I am physically and not can I fix my confidence as long as I remain unattractive. God has ordained me, and most men, to be alone without hope.
Men are desperate. There was this Catholic youth group meet up, and this girl was telling about how some single young men that were there actually went up to her when she was sitting at table talking to some friends and they grab her hand to see if she had ring on her finger, and that wasn't the first time this had happened. Sad!
Make sure she is unvaccinated.
lol
Difficult most Catholic women are woke and feminists they follow the government
After mass? I guess I've never seen anyone hang around after mass long enough to meet them - and it seems a little creepy with also hitting on a girl after mass when she's probably with her family? Average looking dude.( about 85% of men) hard no, hot guy, maybe?
If you're gonna try cold approach anywhere just make sure to be tall
What if nothing seems to work? Give up?
Never
It doesn’t need to be a Catholic woman does it ? Im a Catholic but i would marry someone who wasn’t if i loved them, that comes first for me.
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Id marry anyone if i loved them. Their religion would be irrelevant to me. Jew, Hindu, Catholic, Protestant etc. luckily i don’t have that problem anymore.
@Multijoe84 But you are choosing your desires over God. Marrying someone from a different faith usually eventually causes chaos in the union, especially if they are not willing to convert to Catholism. Be yoked with your spouse. The Bible teaches this.
That would be the first thing say up front in a date, and see where it goes from there, and if she might willing to go to mass.
St Paul says to marry as the solution to sexual dysregulation of any kind. If that's not possible because women now rule over us, I am not sure why marrying a non-Catholic should be forbidden. Interracial marriages rob the offspring of their heritage, but interfaith marriages can change over time with God's grace and guidance