Is your man making you ugly? Boyfriend air & “relationship face”
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Is your man making you ugly? Boyfriend air & “relationship face”
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Facts! 💯💯💯
Toxic men be sucking the life outta you. Its better to just be single and always remain the main character in your story if you decide to date or marry
YES
My man is not toxic but my glowup left 🥹😥
@@anavictoria7688 you can get back there you got this girlie
When you hate men so much you constantly make videos about relationships yet you aren’t even in one 😂
Stay single ladies we don’t want your bitter hateful energy
“Remain the main character” omg y’all are like children, the ego on you is embarrassing
💯 real talk girl 😅❤️
Literally it’s means that your body is rejecting the person you are in a relationship with . You shouldn’t be glowing down as a result of being with someone you should be upgrading and some of you are not ready for that conversation 😒
Wow, you know, I never considered that but I believe it! Jobs, home environments and living spaces can be hard on the body and immune system. Not just the physical location, but, and sometimes even moreso, the people in those environments. Great point!
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Yes it's this
mhmm. codependency can be deceptive when your body is telling you to get tf outtt
It's called energy vampirism.
This !!
I truly believe in this!
I had an ex when I was young... I felt and looked dead after spending a day with him and he wasn't abusive or anything like that.
I also knew an elderly lady that would have the same effect after having her over for dinner - everyone would end up with a migrane.
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I agree 😂
Bingo! Someone that gets it. There is a reason why men are the one's typically depicted as vampires
I’ve always been high maintenance and into fashion since I was a little girl no relationship will ever change that. If I’m looking meh and dusty it’s a sign that I’m not doing ok and need to run
Same! Only my mom and my sister know the signs
Girl me too
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EXACTLY
It’s the small jabs, the back handed compliments, the bad treatment, the treating everyone else better than how he treats you in private and the added stress of course.
I can relate entirely are you still with him?
Maybe you should pick your partner better
Man this is spot on!! Unfortunately 😫
Very true that affects your spirit even if you aren’t around too
Sounds like a relationship with a Narcissist
Is it that the women let themselves go since they have a man? I actually believe if a man is loving a woman right she will become more beautiful.
It definitely plays a role. We get very comfortable in relationships and start to let ourselves go. But for men, we tend to encourage them to groom themselves a little more and prioritize their health so they thrive in relationships. All the attention we give them can sometimes take away from the attention we need to give ourselves. Balance is key.
Yeees women glow differently when they’re adored
@@saltandpepperandmint reminds me of that line in that NSYNC song "Does he ease your mind? Or does he break your stride? Did you know that love could be a shield?"
And like so many of us (or maybe I should just speak for myself lol) don't have any idea or experience with love not actually sucking us dry
Yes, I can tell that many women think "whew, I finally got a man, I can just let myself go, make no effort in my appearance or health". This is the dumbest thing you could do because those same men will leave or cheat on you or teat you badly once they no longer find you attractive, and go looking for a single woman still taking care of herself. That's the irony!!
@@BlaecOleander I know there are so many cases like that. I have bad experience with female friendships like I don’t believe in friendship among women anymore because it is so rare
My friend started wearing pretty dresses on random occasions when she got into her current relationship. That’s low-key the only reason I knew this one was different and it’s so cute to see her tapping into her femininity after being a jean girl for so long.
This! I've seen women, myself included glow more than they do at their baseline when loved properly and by the right man. The wrong man really is *poison* for us
Cant relate im the opposite. GUys are always telling me dont wewr lipstick, make up, or dress sexier for them and i hate it. I dress nice already.
@@BlaecOleanderyess I can relate . When you are loved properly & there’s no toxicity sometimes you look better in love
Makes us ugly low self esteem this true I’m single healthy and fine and std free!!
Right! STD free lol a healthy monogamous relationship though will boost your self esteem and keep you cleared of STDs.
We’re not meant to be alone
@@saltandpepperandmintunless you are a man. If you are a woman, there's no such thing. Even God can't back your statement. Sometimes you're forcing things sis... that's what He'll say.
@@saltandpepperandmint people can be single if they want to stop pushing your views on people and worry about your self.
@@SR77736I think they mean in a general sense, how humans crave connection and interaction. But if they’re just talking about romantic relationships, then yeah of course it’s okay to alone, people need to learn that. Alone doesn’t mean lonely.
They also mess up your ph balance
Use condoms and have a conversation with him about how women bodies are more fragile and ginechologists are expensive. Never let a man pass the limits during sex, some women are so pushover that they let men go "from ass to vagina", this can cause serious contaminations and even infertility.
Use condoms, have a conversation with him about how women's body work and that go to gynecologists are expensive.
Yeah, not worth it
It's this. The hormones
Hmm yeah he needs to take a shower cuz ew
Toxic is toxic so when toxicity leaves your life you will glow up, there's nothing revenge about it. I literally had more energy the day after I broke up with my ex. It's not about letting yourself go (that's patriarchy vocabulary). Instead if you choose a provider man who makes your life easier instead of harder you glow. Unless you've been in toxic situations it's hard to understand. For this reason at 52 years old I am not looking for a relationship. My health and piece of mind is more important
This!! Only people who have been in toxic relationships or personally know people who have been in toxic relationships will understand how draining those dynamics are and can easily see why people glow up once they get out of those relationships.
Definitely. I believe relationships can take a toll on your looks. Verbal abuse, cheating, gaslighting, arguing, incompatibility, accepting anyone just because yes takes a toll on your looks.
If you are happy you will have a certain glow in my opinion just don’t get too comfortable.
I think for me I feel like I lost my beauty from my dad passing away in 2021 and then having to teach my mom how to be independent the next three years after. Life circumstances can make you change too. I struggled with depression and stopped caring for myself around that time. Then going back to caring was difficult.
Find yourself. You got this! Sorry for your loss and your new responsibility. You deserve the world. Take care of yourself.
This is so true. I went through the same thing. Now I have good days and bad days. But we all do. Be patient with yourself. 💜
I feel this. I lost my mom in 2019 and my dad in 2021. I had a phase of deep depression. It really took me pulling myself out of it to get better.
same here, my sister passed away at the end of 2021 and I've been going through it. I'm just now giving myself permission to heal. God bless you.
it's a net zero situation. men have more to gain in relationships. the happiest demographic is single women without a partner and children 🤷🏽♀️
Stop to spread this, marriages are not made to up lift only men, it's to make women better too. But we are living in such obscure age that evil men are using internet to teach young ones to mistreat women and see they as object. If marriage was only good for one gender God would never made up it.
How? Find a healthy patner that pours into you the way you pour into her.
@@followGreatnessf00l 😅 If it was that easy everybody would be in happy healthy relationships duh
Lol fake news
@@followGreatnessNo?
I’ve definitely had that “relationship face” after a toxic relationship, and when I got out of it I was looking at myself sideways in the camera 😂
Now I’m back 💅🏿🌸✨
you're gorgeous!
I swear it is so TRUE. In my job I met a woman. She was 24 ans I am 28. Every body said they thought she was 30 … (and me 22)… she showed me her wedding photos… I was so SHOKED of the before AND it was only 1 year she was married (only 1 so think the future years coming). I was so sad when I saw this before and real Life after … she was so beautiful. Don’t get me wrong she still is but she just glow down (weight gain, puffy face, acne hajr thinning…) May God save women
I would advice her to go on gd strikes!!! He needs to help out too. Imagine if kids come into play what will happen to her then?! Can't pour from an empty cup 😞
I got into a relationship consciously after waiting for some two years after my last bf left me heartbroken for another woman. In that time I worked on myself, my looks, my business ,my work and didn't talk to no man in any way shape or form not even a chat. Two years later when I finally thought I m ready to maybe start dating, I came across this wonderful gorgeous man who was my wish fulfillment. I was so happy because we organically got to know each other slowly. But two months into getting to know each other, I did the stupid mistake of sleeping with him. Which I still regret I should have waited long enough before he earned that physical validation. He changed 360 degree after that. All the heartbreak I came out of, he put me back right there. He wanted to know evey detail of my past life with my ex- by every I mean every single detail. Where we went, what songs we listened to, what movies we watched together, when and where we had sex and how many times we had sex and in what positions we had sex. He weighed our relationship entirely on the amount of sex we got to have . Funny thing is I and my ex never were much physically together it was a long distance relationship and sex was very little in it and I'm really not that into physical intimacy as long as my emotional needs are met. My current man traumatised me to a level that I aged within 5 months of our relationship. I got my first wrinkle line on my forehead. I walked on eggshells. I did everything in my power to keep the relationship going. Because I really thought I was giving my last shot at a relationship and a chance of happily ever after. He broke me. He completely broke me. And finally when I decided I have had enough, I went silent. We are also long distant. He never visited me quoting work issues while I took leave from my work every month or so to go meet him and be with him and do everything a dutiful wife would do. But of course I was never his wife. He made new associations there with different females all bureaucractic officers like him. And they hang out, party almost every day there in my absence. As well as a few times during my absence. It's been two months I have stayed silence since. I blocked him everywhere. And it's been a tough two months tryin to heal. I loved my ex bf before him but he left me for another woman he met at work and I had to deal with it for two years before I pursued another relationship. For what's it's worth, my now latest man completely broke me traumatising me forever. I know I will never be in a relationship again. Nor be with any man. Thanks to him, I have become even more hyper independent and now finally I have begun to start taking care of my health and looks. Some of us aren't meant meant for this generation. I'm extremely loyal and committed and honest and I never got that same level of loyalty and trust back in any of my relationship. So rest in peace to that one. I have accepted the fact that there is no one for me in this generation.
When I’m genuinely happy and feeling properly loved in a relationship, I glow so much. I’ve seen it in other women too.
Always look marketable because you will resent your man if you have a glow down and that’s when you start looking back and say to him look! I gave you all my youth! That youth wasn’t just youth it was your beauty so never let a man take that away from you. Your beauty as a woman is your value.
Women are worth so much more than just their beauty..
Yeah not in this age u get treated how u look and how much money u have it’s a proven facts documentary shows u get pushed away by looking bad while the pretty one gets valued in this day it’s the truth insta showed it to men and when they see natural beauty u get treated good I’m going through the money thing they treat u like what in ur pocket o get dragged by workers about my pockets beauty is the power I lived long enough to see both sides being laughed at and looked down on by gaining weight to going back to me and getting treatment doors open a u have a beautiful day while the none good looking one get ignored it’s the truth value is money and value is beauty because I lived like no I’ll pick the broke guy I see his worth I’m humble I picked the poor girls they got jealous and try to hurt me I was humble to accept people but instead they all bashed me I didn’t want to be the kind of person that judged but they all did it to me from experience it was true all along your worth is how people treat u I been through it being humble to people ruined years of my life sharing to make then included while they dragged my name so now they were right judge them all it’s about money and looks no one is humble about that no more u get tossed I’m jumping in that wagon I do t want to be tossed no more let them be insecure don’t be scared to wear that cute dress or red lips
I think ppl miss the point she’s trying to make
I had a glow down after getting with him. Bad skin, hyper pigmentation, less symmetrical face shape. Gave birth to our baby and had a glow up. The more common sense that started to come back into my system I just got better and better looking. Until I finally left and my whole face and body changed. But for the better. I think my baby helped bring fresh energy back to me and the breakup helped me to regain my beauty
same.
Im not sure how many people can relate to this, but personally speaking I believe I look better in a (healthy) relationship. When I’m single, I tend to have my guard up, I wear more relaxed clothing, I don’t want men to really look at me. But when I’m a relationship, I dress up, I’m more conscious on how I look, I wear prettier clothing. And it’s not necessarily because I only want to look good for my partner. But because I feel SAFE enough to be very feminine around them. But then again I have personal experiences that led me to dressing up masculine when I feel like I have to protect myself and my guard it very much up.
To be clear, I take care of my self (skincare, hair care, getting enough rest, etc) regardless of being in a relationship or not. But my aura changes and how I want to be perceived changes when depending how safe and secure I feel because the world is a dangerous place for us women
That means you do not do things for YOU.. you feel like you need to have a reason to take care of yourself or look nice. Most other women who agree with this concept generally enjoy doing things for themselves they don’t wait to get into a relationship to do it. I know you said you still do skincare etc but yeah…that whole dressing down thing because you are not in a relationship says a lot. Most women agreeing with this concept like to look at themselves in the mirror and feel pretty doing so regardless of if they have a man or not.
@@gailainsley6939 Well I do, just in the comfort of my home or with people I trust. And as a person who’s an SA victim, I just don’t like causing any attention to myself and I have my guard up most the time. That’s why when I feel SAFE (with my partner, with my close friends OR ALONE at home where I know I’m safe)…I’m not going to be hyper feminine all the time and I’m also aware of of other’s view women when wearing certain items of clothing (not dissing anyone who wears revealing and traditional feminine clothing, at the end of the day it’s a preference. But I do what I do based on my own experiences. Not because I think it’s only worth being “pretty” for a single man because that narrative is complete BS). I do things for ME, and I do the best to protect MYSELF, however I feel comfortable with…but go off I guess
@@gailainsley6939 And fyi, I always loved baggy more masculine clothing. I’m comfortable, I feel like I’m not being ogled at, I feel like I am more active in those kind of clothing. It’s a cherry on top that it also keeps creepy men away from me. And as for “dressing up” when I’m in a new relationship, that’s because I feel incredibly vulnerable and I trust that person that I can be completely myself without being endangered or harassed. You’re the only one making it sound like I only do certain things for a man’s approval when that’s BS. The man need MY approval for me to be vulnerable with them. End of story
@@yourintrusivethoughts Nah. You do it for the men. And don’t ’end of story’ me. Who do you think you are? 😂😴🚮
A man loving you well will make you prettier. A man who is poor at being a boyfriend/husband will take the life out of you. Be with someone who actively loves, adores, and values you.
My ex bf literally told me “I will not let you sleep tonight (we lived together) he wanted to continue arguing with me all night, so I picked up the phone and called the police and put in on speaker, his face turned white and said ok ok I’ll leave you alone.
That's narcissist behavior.
I agree with you, the boyfriend air affects you negatively if you start to prioritize the relationship over yourself. When you become obsessed with having a relationship period and burden your own heart by not standing up for yourself, taking care of yourself mentally and emotionally and physically, that’s when you become “ugly.” You literally have to stop caring 😂 that’s the key. and walk away when necessary
THE ECHO EFFECT IS SENDING ME ESPECIALLY ON THE DISNEY PRINCESS GIRL 😂😂😂😂😂
Stress, idolatry, insecurity and chasing after people will age you and make you loose your purpose in life ❤
Slowly climbing out of the deep end. In the process of making the hardest comeback every. Amen
I was JUST looking through my IG after a breakup, and my skin was wrinkled and dehydrated and i was bloated and heavier when I was with my ex. Three months later, I dont crave sugar, and Im glowing💕👑
Verrrry interesting. I was married to the wrong person and I literally started to refer to him as a leech because I was letting him drain me physically emotionally and financially. The marriage was a come up for him and a severe downgrade for me. I got all my life and power back once I divorced him and learned to focus on myself and what I want versus making someone else happy all the time and putting myself on the back burner. Women who do this just don't have the love for themselves that they should have.
Why financial
You are who your surround yourself with. This doesn't just go with relationships, but also friendships.
Toxic people = toxic habits
Healthy people= healthy habits
The right partner would keep you in check, be healthy for you & your wellbeing !
No partner should change you to the point where you question yourself... not healthy at all. Shouldn't lose sleep for them, shouldn't be giving you headaches. You shouldn't be losing your value for anyone- you're supposed to keep growing together!
🆗, *_THIS_** is the vid that needs to be widespread/"viral".*
I don't have a boyfriend air...i always look good and fashionable with or without my boyfriend and it shocks him, that i can actually look put together on my own
You are gorgeous 😍 💖!!!
Because you actually have self love 👏🏻
@@Alexander-xk2nb yea..I do
This is what happens when you date a toxic man. Make sure you always look your best FOR YOURSELF, this way no one can take it away from you.
Its bc they shame you when you try to take the time to do your makeup and hair. Wake you up at night and force you to take on a ton of extra household labor
I've only gained weight being in a relationship because my husband and I were eating out so often but we've been eating better and exercising.
my friend, who is a girl, dated another woman and turned all the way ugly. it was sooo sad :((((
Some women hurt women just like men and gaslight them in the same manner or even more than men. Lesbo rshps are very dysfunctional.
Women can be dusties, too 🤷♀️
Hm. Had a classmate who started school then her gf would have mental breakdown be admitted and she would quit. She had 2 kids as well. Woman put your kids and yourself first. Her p ain't that big of a deal. Let it go. But ofc nobody could tell her this. We just watch her go through the motions.
It happens to my best friend every time she let that tick back into her life, she's absolutely gorgeous when he isn't around.
Also long phone calls into the night will throw tor sleep schedule off. Mfffph
men do that crap on purpose to drain the life out of you....Had a guy like this who always wanted to stay on the phone.
My God yes. I just broke it off with someone who wanted to stay up until 3 or 4 am telling me everything that was wrong with me and everything I needed to do better, OR alternatively he couldn't let the night end ever and wanted to be up having fun at all hours. Absolutely exhausting energy vampire.
In relationships..i get sick...i mean physically sick even my menstrual cycle would be longer than it should. I think your body tells you the person is good for you.
I think the last guy i was dating...i think there was a spirit working behind. That man gave me so many nightmares. 🤢🤮😰 at night and we never lived together. Once i broke off the relationship the demonic nightmares stopped.
Thank you Jesus 😊
00:00 "it's scientificaly proven in my opinion" ok great start 😂😂
Nope !! I tend to only date Pretty Boys or ugly old men. Therefore I’m encouraged to ALWAYS look
FLY 💃🏽💅🏽 Because with pretty boys it’s a competition and old men it’s about the “Chase” I love attracting other men while I’m in a relationship. Keeps the guy on his toes knowing he’s replaceable 😂😂
Ok sis 👀 lol I’m not mad at the game
Smart asf! 😁
@@grazielaalmeida8438 Can't it be both? 🤭😈
Ew
You sound toxic though girly
This is true. I just never put it together. Whenever I would go to stay with guys, I’d drink more and I wouldn’t have any of my own hygiene products. My skin wouldn’t even be the same. I didn’t feel upbeat or free.
I got so emotional about this. I am on good terms with my ex, but he would get so mad about me wanting to dye my hair, wearing make up, etc. He thought it was a waste of time and not even cute and I shouldn't try to change myself ,etc, etc. But I should do whatever the fuck makes me feel good NOT what makes him feel good, it's MY body... He would actually get mad... I felt so frumpy..
I think as well this can happen in a work environment when it come to envious people when they come across a good looking coworker it almost like they put on their ugly negative energy onto the other individual I can be wrong but it’s an observation
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That’s why I’m keeping my black wife effect protected until the right man deserves my magic. ❤😂❤
the Barbie's on the video are hilarious...it's not funny but it is.....
That’s because they be demons 😂😂 very few men maybe 2, I kept my beauty. The rest I was overweight and skin bad 😂😂 everytime
I gained weight in my relationships. We ate and drank together a lot! I know I have to check my diet next time.
Omg 😳😳😳
I need to hear some science on this. I swear i feel ugly around my man😂😂.
100% true when I was dating a very toxic person that was not emotionally available. And he was actually a energy vampire.💔 My skin started breaking out. I started looking exhausted. I just was not even catering to myself anymore. I just forgot who I was.😟 And here I am on my healing journey 😌after breaking up with this person. I'm trying to rebuild who I used to be an someone better who I was years ago❤
This is when you get yourself with the wrong men ,you’re so drawn to them that you forget to take care of yourself, because this isn’t about you anymore but about someone else that is killing your energy, and it will get worst if you’ll have kids with that person, find someone when you’ll care about them but also care about YOU.
Just got out of a relationship that last 1.5 yrs. I aged dramatically and gained 20lbs
With the wrong man (or woman) stressing you out yes you can let yourself go. In the other hand if they’re truly good to you I’ve heard it up levels you though, I’ve met women in good relationships (rarely, but it happens) who do look so pampered and adored so if your person makes you uglier maybe it’s a sign they’re bad for you you know? Even with the wrong woman friendships I’ve had I wouldn’t get uglier but I would get headaches and emotionally empty and sad
i've gained 20 kg since moving out with my bf and he will not take responsibility for it, tell me why i've picked up all his bad habits like eating out, being messy, not taking care of myself T_T stay strong out there ladies xx
Such an important video. Being head over heels over a man (chasing) will suck the beautiful life out of you and invariably leads to nowhere, except a hellish environment. Get out while you can and preserve your beauty. They need to be chasing you. It's the best way to keep a peaceful life.
Yesss, so on point! Unforyunately society still has this tendency of believing that it’s up to the woman ALONE to ‘keep’ the relationship/marriage and if it seems to be a happy relationship/marriage, everyone will congratulate the woman but if it’s a bad relationship/marriage, eveeybody will blame the woman. And it’s the same with housekeepimg. If you have guests entering your home and everything is clean and put together and nicely decorated and the home atmosphere is warm and welcoming, again, everyone will say ‘the lady of the house is doing a great job’. But if the house is a mess etc, eveeyone will say ‘oh, his wife/girlfriend does a terrible job at running this house’🙃 And it’s the same with the way SHE, as a woman, looks. If she looks great, yeah, she’s keeping herself in good shape etc. If she looks bad, again: ‘she’s so unconsiderate, she dosen’t do a little effort in lookjng decent’ etc. It’s almost like the woman is ALONE in that marriage/relationship, like she married the air or a spirit since the man seems to be non-existent in this equation for a lot of people😅
Men don't get blamed for anything, they rarely get called out for any bad behaviour because society pushes women to forgive everything and parents treat sons with less criticism and pressure to be perfect. So they then benefit from that in a relationship too.
Yup I forgot how to take care of myself.
Especially being a busy mom But… I’m snapping out of it.
Funny enough ny dad actually told me about this. He said to my mom that i look tired and don't seem to care to dress like i used to. Well, i changed that pretty quickly and my boyfriend noticed. He said why i would care so much to dress pretty just going to the grocery store and stuff and i told him, with a swish of my hair, "Because I'm doing it for me. I'm worth it." Never asked since. And he's actually a little proud when I'm a little dressed up now. I guess he didn't even realise i had changed.
I swear this is true... I broke up 5 months ago and started to get prettier again...
Effects of birth control can contribute to this effect, too. Artificial hormones can definitely negatively impact women's beauty.
So true! Your mindset in the relationship will literally make or break you! Speaking from experience!
This is so true my first relationship had me down bad ! Now I come first.
It’s true! I refuse to accept my man saying I look beautiful when I look like a bum. It’s a an insult.
Lol! It’s really true. Ive been married for 27 years and feel like after having 3 kids I look like 💩. Every summer I start to get it back because once the kids are out of school I can go to the gym,do more meal prepping and just take care of myself. Ironically, my husbands life stays the same year round because I do everything for the kids. 3 more years until my youngest leaves for college and then the glow up and social life wil be year round for me! 😊
I'm hanging out with a guy and, damn, I've never felt more confident and beautiful
Also a lot of men say they like women natural so we often get our services done way less
I know I'm about 2 years overdue on my facials. I usually take care of my skin and do a mini Micro Peel once a week. I'm working on drinking more water, and working out more. I stay in a youthful mindset. Youth in my opinion has nothing to age, marital status, or being a parent. Youth is a mindset. Do not get into relationships , they tend to suck the life out of people because they are constantly depending on each other. Relationships when it comes to significant others don't work because both people are in constant need of each other. Partnerships is what people should be seeking.
In a lot of relationships you can loose yourself trying to do for everyone else so much that you forget about you.
Yeah so true. Especially the toxic stress bringing the body down. Seems a woman doesn’t give a hoot as much about her appearance as when she is single
I definitely felt my fall off after having each child and took a while to get back on my routines. Losing the baby weight and whatever extra you gained also helps you get back to feeling normal.
Omg I feel like this is me😣😫😫😫 I was single for so long and then got into a relationship and I feel fat tired and ugly😣 I just don’t have time since considering my bf and his dogs
I was mostly on the receiving end of boyfriend air until my last relationship. I took care of myself and thought I glowed up with him. But also let myself go after he split and went through some rough patches. The glow doesn't always happen after he leaves. Sometimes, the aftermath is the lowest point.
Now, I'm trying to find confidence after being through the wringer with life. I just don't take selfies as much as I used to. I'm still trying to get my life together, but reminding myself I was never ugly. I just lost sleep after losing him and going through the wringer with other life events
Was dating my ex hairloss, alopecia, acne and what not
Depends on the man
This is something I've noticed and have been observing for some time but didn't quite have a "name" for it. Want to gauge how healthy your relationship is? Easy. Just look in the mirror. I agree with the video. I believe the glow-up should get better when you're in the right relationship. Life in every way should improve. The sneaky part of the "Boyfriend air" is that air consumes a lot of the things from women that fly under the radar. i.e Men benefit A LOT from simply standing next to a woman to being seen with a beautiful woman. Ladies understand that your EXISTENCE in itself is power.
I insist on separate beds so I can get my sleep and initially I felt bad but now I’m so glad I put my foot down
This such good sensible advice! I hate how people put their half baked thoughts all over Tik Tok and social medial and preach it like they’ve discovered something other than their allergy to accountability and self awareness, self respect and the list goes on. Ladies, let’s start taking proper care of ourselves fr and stop blaming men for every little inconvenience we go through
Why is everything she saying so true!!! 😭😭😭
Happened to me! I could see it in my pictures through out the years.. people nor myself could barely recognize me! Absolutely scary! After we divorced, I gained all my beauty back and looking flyer than ever after 3 boys! 😊
Funny I was looking at my past driver's license I'd when I was single I had a beautiful glow. Looked 10 years younger. When I got into this toxic relationship I look 10 years older. Relationships aren't for me at all. I am a free spirit.(Sagittarius woman) men of other signs drain our energy. So yes men do make you ugly on the inside first than it's spills to the outside
"it's scientifically proven IN MY OPINION" ❤
I definitely have "husband air." Right before meeting my man I was FOINE - but I wanted the traditional life, marriage and family. And I got it. Our culture too (more so hubby's) is also super traditional and I will get major flack from my in laws if I don't do EVERYTHING in the home. I went down in work hours to part time in order to take care of the kids and now these people are whining about me not working full time, too. Are you frickin' kidding me??? God forbid you start neglecting your looks a bit, my MIL will be the first one to let me know I'm letting myself go. All of that plus the stress of a very demanding husband who loves to start a good fight at least once a week - I'm lucky if I even get a shower in more than twice a week. I'm exhausted bruh - I would LOVE to be this fine ass-super homemaker-workaholic breadwinner they want me to be, but in trying so hard I feel like I end up burnt out and just sucking even worse at everything instead.
I just want to say:
I've gotten a nice boyfriends who loves me and I him back.
However, I have felt this 'glow-down' the more serious we got (we just moved in together).
I began to stop shaving my legs, wash my hair, do my makeup, paint my nails and dress nicely - and I actually put on a lot of weight.
I really think it's about me being comfortable and not trying to impress anyone anymore (and also I made him my everything).
I love him, but I feel the effect on me. And I really try to separate myself from him and put myself first.
He loves me and wants me to do good - but I just put myself aside for him even though he encourages me.
What do you think I did wrong?
Anyone feeling comfortable blaming their laziness and complacency on men and relationships… 😂 what else can perpetual victims blame on everyone but themselves?
Unless it’s toxic, or a manipulative trauma bond relationship; then this definitely applies.
Otherwise; healthy relationships never stop trying to look good for their man, sex each other up, and enrich one another’s lives.
AGREE x1000. Been saying this for a very long time
Chile please, I know if im dating the wrong person because I start looking haggard after about two months.
Doesn't that mean their chemistry isn'tcompatible, biologically???
I think so.
I dated a narcissist for 12 years and never glowed down despite raising 2 kids without his help. Now I’m in a loving, happy, healthy relationship and I still did not glow down. I am 50 years old and still look in my 20s.
I married at 20. I was underweight with thin hair and we were so poor I had no money for clothes or much self care. I dropped him at 28 and I started to glow. I looked so much better from 28 to 34 than I had in my early mid 20s. The lady that cut my hair all my life even noticed my hair got thicker and I gained some weight. I had been only 125lbs at 6ft tall. 125 is little for anyone but someone my height sure shouldn't weigh that little.
I always took pride in my appearance but the toxic relationship will have you stressed and not happy and how you feel on the inside shows outward. facts
I definitely have the relationship face. My man and i been dating for 5 years. Since we were both 16.
The best thumbnali ever !
Ya, i aged like 5 years in the first two years of a bad relationship.
The opposite happened to me 😂 I feel more beautiful now that I’m with him
Don't you say anything about fiona and shrek
I strive for that type of love.
The Disney princess theories fall completely flat though there’s truth to the theory.
I have to disagree. Men also age fast in toxic relationships. They end up working and working trying to pay for all the needs of the female and loose sleep. Sometimes they think providing is all they need to do and loose there selves working so much.
Ya'll need to find some better boyfriends. You can't blame the guy for you letting yourself go. It's one thing if he is controlling, it's another if you lack the emotional maturity and self-discipline to walk away or keep yourself looking good. My boyfriend just gives me his card to go shop and do whatever I want for my appearance, because he's a good dude. Any good man knows his girl is a reflection of his care and love so if you're suddenly "ugly" with a guy...its still in your power to NOT be ugly with that guy or find a guy you don't ever feel an air of ugly with lol.
Noooo we become to comfortable, we stop taking care or selves once we have our relationship. You should always look apart for ur husband.
I’m sorry, but “when the devil can’t reach you, he will send you a French-speaking man” had me dead 😂
5:00 Zero accountability just blame everything on the man