As an older INFJ, I did overcome the general anxiety that many of us have. Once that no longer bothered me, I found that I feel fine in any social situation or place. However, I still choose to spend most of my time in non-social situations. That’s ok.
I’m ok with supermarkets because I tend to be frugal with my money. However, if it’s too busy I will avoid it and go at a quieter hour. I very much enjoy the beach and ocean, but like you said, not when there are too many people around.
I don't have a problem with supermarkets, though. I like them for other reasons... I'm fond of food items, cooking, and stationary. So, I'm kind of excited to visit and see if there's anything new or at a good discount. However, I agree with the way it's a draining experience.
ENFP here trying to understand my INFJ friends better. Very interesting! Personally I really like supermarkets😅 Might sound weird, but they have something magical to me with millions of options to choose from, strange foods and various people coming together at one place. Maybe I should do their groceries for my INFJ friends🤭
All of these are so true! With one expansion to the supermarket, I hate them, as well as all large shopping experiences. Every woman I know, thinks I’m odd because I hate to shop. I only go if I absolutely need something. I get my groceries delivered, it’s lovely. I buy most of my clothes online too. I’ll never understand the allure of a cruise ship. You hit the nail on the head! Just the mention of it makes me feel claustrophobic. Eating every meal with people everywhere, being boxed in with no where to go for days on end, with people everywhere. No! Not to mention it’s a floating Petri dish, even before Covid. The other thing is they’re horrible for the environment. So, no thank you on many levels.
I started watching this video with deep skepticism, but these are all spot-on. I _hate supermarkets_ 😑🤣 *_hate_* them 🤣🤣🤣 and, yes, my monthly food bill reflects this aversion - so annoying 🙄; make a distinct point to only visit the beach well after the peak summer season; am a serial monogamist; have gone to exactly one networking event that is forever burned into my memory as being one of the most awkward experiences of my life… I have been curious about cruises, though 🤔🤣 maybe I’ll have to reconsider 🤷🏻♀️🤣
@@tiwiogunye while I am married. Just the idea of speed dating sounds exhausting to me. It also rather sounds like IRL Tinder to me. I don’t see how that’s a viable option.
Planning on becoming a serial monogamous since my until death partner died. The worse ever 5 years f-cancer. Found I am INFJ and rebuilding my life. So important to know yourself.
Dear God in Heaven 😂🤣 You are so freaking accurate with this list😂 I spend sooooo much extra money on groceries by going to the little shop two suburbs away aka steering well clear of the hell that is the ‘mall’. Big ticks on all and when you mentioned networking events I broke out in a cold sweat 😂. I live in a secluded spot and my beach is very quiet. When I’m on it at 5am most mornings I can run 10 kms and not see a soul ❤❤❤. I also do my exercises in the middle of deserted beach which means I don’t step foot in that other dreaded place, the GYM 😳😩😂. I’m a trauma psychologist and I live 100kms from my place of work. I’m happy to have that buffer zone as it means there’s no way I will run into any of my clients anywhere down my neck of the woods (beach lol). Also the drive allows me to space to process and transmute the energy of others. I’m in Australia so that is an acceptable commute 😂😂😂 Thank you for helping to empower and inform the superbeings that are the INFJ collective 💜
Great list ✨ Supermarkets are bad, but don't get me started on the hell that is Walmart. (Not only the overwhelming over-abundance of cheap stuff, but where I live there's always someone yelling there... once a client was threatening another and nearly took his shirt off ! I did NOT like the chaotic energy haha)
I avoid most crowded spaces but I know with grocery stores I try to time it when it's not a peak time, if Saturday it's extremely early morning or after 7pm, or Mondays, Tuesdays and rarely Wednesdays because those are the quiet days. I avoid crowded aisles as much as possible but always thought it was an agoraphobic thing for me. I can be out in small events when it's outside and not many people but open enough with space to roam, would never see me at a concert inside or out. Usually things that not many might be interested in if I did go out like a Ren Faire. I prefer going to greenhouses and nurseries for plants but big box stores where there's a chance for crowds is a no go area. For me it's just too enclosed if there's an emergency or someone giving off angry vibes that I want to escape from that atmosphere. Noises that are loud also bother me, especially if unexpected.
Supermarkets as you described them, Ren, made me laugh! I make a list over several days, so I get in, get my things, and get out. We also have online shopping where you can park and they bring it all to your car, or bring it to your house. I still go in personally because I am not completely freaked about being there because I go late in the day when there are less people around. Our beaches in my region are our best kept secret and are uninhabited all year round except for those of us who walk, other than the Christmas holiday rush (hot🇦🇺) which lasts only a month at most. I hate crowds. If there are a lot of people at an outdoor market or in our village when holidaymakers arrive, I stay away from them. Dodging people to get where I want to go is not a pastime I enjoy at all especially due to the fact that I can only see from my left eye so am paranoid about other people being too close to me.
I was very surprised by your list and you are so right! The thing about speed dating and networking events is that to me, it's about sales. You have to be in the mindset of a sales person and what you're selling is often yourself. An INFJ does not want to be in a position to convince someone that they're interested and engaged in a pressurized situation. Supermarkets are tricky. If you happen to be a parent then, you have absolutely no choice. I came up with a way of memorizing the whole store and knowing exactly what brand I wanted and where it was on the shelf. That way, I could go up and down the aisles and do a whole week's worth of shopping in 17 minutes. 😉 The cruise ship idea cracks me up. It's kind of like a giant floating elevator filled with people who are dressed in so many different styles from casual to super dressy. There's no way to read a whole room worth of people waiting to eat their lobster and baked potatoes. And, worst of all, they are all making small talk at each of the tables of 10 strangers. I am very happy that other people enjoy cruises. I find myself laying in bed fantasizing about a cabin in the woods. I think I have about half of it architecturally planned out, right down to the elevator. 😁 Thanks for a very entertaining video. I take it your cat may be of an orange color? Take care. Sincerely, Carly 💕
I was asked once where INFJs supposedly gather, and I had a hard time trying to come up with specific examples, but of course it's easier to think of places where you *won't* find us, so thanks for that idea. Regarding crowded beaches, yes absolutely even though I live in Dubai I avoid the popular / tacky ones... but luckily there are many less known and "organic" ones outside the city and I love going to those, when the weather permits. (that feeling when your Ni lets loose and feeds off the expansive water and open skies... amazing) Anyway, I would say most crowded and noisy places in general we tend to avoid, unless we have some relationship or interest in the event (indie comedy club, boutique expo, jazz parlor, etc). Edit: Is that a stuffed camel? I don't find many soft camel toys, even where I live... it's always rabbits, sheep, bears
Absolutely all of these. Just thinking on them tighten my gut. The cruise is terrifying. It is so affirming to hear about the hard wiring of personality types. I've known for a long time I tested as an INFJ --over and over.--but I didn't give it much attention. Now to hear these descriptions --I understand myself better. You mention modesty. People have always teased me to make me blush. And it doesn't take much. I just thought I was old fashioned, or plain odd. Like someone from out of time, but not fitting anywhere in any time. Now I understand. As usual, late to know. :) Around the block three times and maybe a few years late. Thank you for all your efforts.Very helpful.
Pretty spot on video! Also, it's not like i hate going to beaches, i hate the (in my case ) looooong travel to get to them, i hate it so much, it gives me so much anxiety, if i could knock myself unconscious inside the car so i wouldn't notice when i arrive there, i totally would. The supermarket bit is also accurate, if i had to go, i go to do what i have to do and get back home as soon as possible. So yeah, the less we are in contact with crowded places the better.
Okay... I'm an INFJ and I have to say I like grocery shopping, especially if I'm not alone. I just like looking at all the products and choosing things out? And I have a slightly obsessive routine which helps me deal with supermarket-anxiety. I usually use a basket rather than a trolley, I always go to one of two supermarkets near me so I'm familiar with them and I avoid aisles that are too busy (I'll just come back when there's less people 😅). For context though, I live in a regional town so I'm surrounded by a pretty small population of people, which is great! But also not so great because you tend to run into people you know a LOT 😬. Secondly, I LOVE the beach but again, the main beach near me is never busy except during peak season, and then I'll just go to a more secluded beach that less people know about. I find crowded places in general anxiety provoking and I do avoid them like the plague 😅. One thing I hate is crowded cafes or restaurants. I rarely eat out and if I do I will pick a place where there are few people (often means the food isn't so great lol). The times I have eaten out (on my own especially) I have felt very self conscious and awkward. I'd rather take my food and go eat it in a park. I would also agree that cruises aren't my cup of tea. I couldn't stand being stuck on a ship for days on end surrounded by strangers. I'd rather holiday on land where there's far more accommodation and food options! Also, with networking events... I'm not quite sure what those are... If you mean a party of sorts then I would absolutely stay away from one of those. I would rather spend time one on one with people or in a small group. Parties or social events in general are overwhelming and stressful and I feel very much out of place in them. That's just my take on this 😉
I completely resonated with the beach one. I love the beach possibly more than any other place on this planet, but when it starts getting crowded... Like strangers laying their chairs, towels, umbrellas or whatever at talking distance from me kind of crowded? Yeah, I'm out. It does not help that it drives my dogs crazy either. lol.
Not only are you completely correct about the places, but also the reasons why those places are so anxiety producing for us. Supermarkets are indeed a source of infinite anxiety!
Cruises, bingo! Stuck on a crowded boat with too much everything: too much food, too much noise, too many people, too much cheesey entertainment, and gambling. None of it, no thanks. Ugh. Oh, and don't forget the tiny cabins and pressure to join activities you don't remotely want to participate in. I also don't like anywhere there is a crowd, such as many stores, sporting events, etc. I would love a deserted beach but run from a crowded one. Thanks for these fun videos, they are entertaining before or after a rather stressful day at work...where I work at a front desk checking in patients...not a dream job for this INFJ. :)
You literally just described why I loath industrialized shopping! I hate the separation between the objects being sold and where they come from.. exploitation, sweat shops, pesticides, environmental destruction.. I prefer thifting online or grabbing my produce when the stores are quieter (ideally I will grow my own food in the future when I am able). I do hate beaches. Lol A secluded place would be nice, but I do hate the feeling of sand on my feet and in my clothes. I'm so picky with my partners that I would never speed date. Lol I hand pick people who are special and worth my time. Similar with networking events. I just need to meet people in a more natural setting and to get to know someone's SOUL before going further with them in any way. Ironically I have been afraid of cruises since I was a child. My fears now are of the other cruise-goers.. the idea of being trapped in close quarters with so many strangers is not appealing. Give me a quiet slice of nature with loved ones or by myself, please!!
It's so funny that you picked up on the ship cruise. I was just talking with a friend about never having a desire to go on a cruise. The whole idea provokes anxiety in me.
That was quite a nice list! You'd probably won't see iNFJs on any sporting event either. I don't know, that may just be me. The thing about the supermarkets was also spot on. Too many details you have to focus on(Si), and meaningless interactions. I'd rather just pick something out quickly, and leave asap. Nice to you see you're alive and well Ren, take care :)
Lol, yep sporting events, I can never do those. I have in the past and they were so mind-numbingly boring. I found it more interesting to observe the event goers rather than the event itself!
Ren, I agree with you totally. This INFJ will never go to most of these places or events. Minimal supermarket visits for me. With Covid, I use food deliveries mainly.
Not sure about the supermarkets. I guess I like what I like, and I'll put up with whatever to get it. I find supermarkets to be comforting in that no one particularly likes being there, and we're all just scurrying about getting what we came for so we can leave! I'm surprised that no mention was made of a) loud music concerts, and b) sporting events. Aside from the overwhelming noise present in both such venues, there's the crush of humanity and invasion of personal space. Commonly there is great physical discomfort in terms of extremes of temperature, and even wind or rain. There's the inability to communicate with others. There's this seeming fascination with personality, and particularly in the case of sporting events the fascination with statistics and this "winners and losers" dynamic. . . . There's nothing there for me. Am I the odd one on this?
Very enjoyable topic. I am not a beach person. They're usually too crowded, and I have very high sensory touch issues so the sand between the toes is a nightmare. But, I can top that. On vacation in the Caribbean our tour guide decided to take us to a nude beach. I have never seen so many people who were insistent on you seeing them naked, coming as close to you as possible and flexing. As people often say, it was surreal. Check please! Couldn't wait to get back into the car and leave. You're right we tend to be a little more modest!
Oh my goodness! How accurate is this? Hate hate, hate supermarkets. So much so that my husband and 2 children go shopping on Friday evenings whilst I'm at work. Just stepping inside them gives me serious anxiety. We went shopping last Christmas, (last time I went into a supermarket) and I had to go too because my husband is incapable of getting everything on a list. My children (11 and 12 at the time) decided to see how long it took. From leaving the car, to getting back in the car toom 22 minutes! They still haven't beaten that record. Both complain to their dad that I should go with them because it's so much quicker! Hate the thought of cruises. Why would you get on a ship and spend time with vast numbers of people you don't know and will never see again and with absolutely no way of escaping from it all? Just the thought makes me uneasy. I need to be away from people. Speed dating: Just no. Never going to happen. Networking: I'd rather boil my own head! Oh and the beach...... we live in a seaside town. I hate going to the beach. Even walking on the prom can be hard. We tend to walk on the prom late in the evenings when it's much quieter. We NEVER go on the beach in the summer because there are just too many people. I can't handle it. It's so uncomfortable. When we do go, we go to the quieter part where less people go. It's further away from the toilets and shops etc so less people go to that part. Which is exactly why we go to that part. Out of the way from everyone else and where I can at least try to hear my own thoughts. Thank you so much for your insights. Good to know there are many others who feel exactly them same.
FYI - Don't confuse anxiety, or Se overwhelm in response to being overstimulated by crowds of people and the absorption of said emotional baggage with avoidance of places and interior dislike of them. I think you could find an INFJ go to any of those locales but have an interior aversion to them, among other things.
I am INFJ I used to be terrified of super markets but the more I learn about how awesome INFJ s are the more confident I am. Always go very early or very late to avoid crowds. - love walking in about 30 cm of water on an EMPTY beach.
I called it when you said cruises. LOL! Or should I say, I called it when you said why. The moment you mentioned it, I thought, "Because you're trapped and can't leave until the cruise is over!" And that's why I don't think I could go on one. I'm an INFJ, but I'm also someone who puts a lot of effort into going outside their comfort zone because I firmly believe that's where growth happens. So I've tried speed dating. It was not fun, but I learned some things about myself and dating in general. And yeah, I'm an INFJ who doesn't like dating at all. I loathe networking because I'm not very good at it, but I don't hide when I'm there. It's actually a great opportunity to just people watch, which I love doing. As for beaches, I think I go about once a year. I usually just read a book and people watch. I typically pick an area with few people (like at the far ends of the beach), but it's not too terrible of an experience. Just not something I'd want to do often. I love the water, but I much prefer rivers and waterfalls (hence my love of hiking and whitewater rafting). As for supermarkets, that's the one I probably disagree with most. No offense. Not that I love supermarkets, and yes, I do try to go when they're less crowded. But my anxiety over farmers markets and small stores is way more debilitating than what I feel in a supermarket. Farmers markets require far too much face-to-face, up-close-and-personal interaction than a supermarket. They're also far less organized and a lot of people (read: other customers) have serious problems respecting personal space in them. My Fe and Se go into hypersensitivity mode in smaller spaces. I feel like everyone is watching and judging me. But at a supermarket, no one cares because everyone is minding their own business. Sure, sometimes people are rude and don't respect personal space, but it's usually so much easier for me to simply leave the aisle and come back later when the person has moved on. So I'm an odd one out, and you would likely find me there over the alternative small stores and farmers markets & stands. Sorry for the novel. Thanks for giving us such great food for thought.
How accurate you are! The idea of cruises sends me cold. I wouldn't even step onto a ship. I'm terrified of water and what lies beneath as well so I won't even put my head under water in a pool. Supermarkets, hate them...I usually take one of the grandkids for support. Beaches...no thanks. Networking (and phone calls) avoided almost always. Dating...procrastinate for weeks. It's tough being an INFJ xx
Haha you nailed it... I'll never go on a cruise...the idea of feeling trapped. Also traffic..I hate it...again the idea of being trapped on a highway and can't turn back. I put off grocery shopping forever until I absolutely have to go...n when I do go I have learnt how to block off n shut off people. Ty again you nailed it!!
Apparently I am masochistic because I will go to these places, and end up feeling extremly alienated as a result, but I still keep going out there simply because it is different from my norm.. Not very often however...I also shop at walmart because I have very little discretionary income
Ahh, maybe this explains why I don't want to go to the supermarket that much. Once the supermarket in my town offered grocery pick-up I've been mostly ordering it online and picking it up. That way I can peruse the site at my leisure and I sometimes I find something interesting to try that I totally would've missed at the store. I also hate shopping in malls, especially around the holidays. My mother used to go shopping on Black Friday with her sisters and I was invited, but usually turned it down. One time I met up with them later in the day after most of the insanity died down and it was tolerable. When I was younger I used to go to Cape Cod with my family. I enjoyed the vacations, but I didn't usually like the beach days (I preferred it when we played mini golf or walked the town shopping at small boutiques). I just found them boring. When I was younger, I'd swim and make sandcastles, but when I got older I'd read and just sit under an umbrella trying to avoid the sun. I hated if the beach was crowded. Oftentimes I'd end up walking the beach, talking with my dad and it'd be ok because we'd usually walk pretty far away from where all the crowds were. When I got older I enjoyed sitting on the beach at dusk when almost nobody was there. As for the others, Nope, Nope, Nope.
Agreed but I have to shop at a big store so I’m not overcharged at a local place. There isn’t much competition. So, I’ve got the place mapped out. My list is written o that it shows where everything is. I’m fast and get out of there and don’t go back for a month. I’ve imagined a cruise-i would be in my room. So in a sense I’ve already been there. 🤢
I don't know if I would say that I enjoyed the video because it gave me anxiety early in the morning, but I found it very accurate. I had my first, and hopefully last, panick attack in a market. Beaches make me uncomfortable at so many levels. Speed dating I could do for fun to ''speed type'' poeple but never for the intended purpose. But the fun would wear off easily and the meaninglessness of the situation would hit me very quickly.
I agree with all of these, except supermarkets (somewhat). I love cooking and getting my own groceries (it feels more detached getting groceries online), but I do avoid busy hours. I used to only get groceries after 10pm-12am for a while to avoid as many people as possible but at a somewhat reasonable(ish) hour. Also, self check-out whenever possible/reasonable. 😅 But yes, I don’t like and thus avoid beaches (esp when crowded), networking events, speed dating, and cruises.
I hate supermarkets! My house never has enough food. I hate negotiating with people how we will go through the aisles with strangers. I pick up food once or twice a day from the small supermarket near my house.
Cruises - my idea of hell. Nobody understands. Speed dating - never occurred to me to try. Crowded beaches - no way! But supermarkets I like, because I can rush through, not speak to anybody, and get it over with asap. But avoid the ones with piped music like the plague.
@@RensRoom I agree with your list too except for including supermarkets. I enjoy them well enough because 1) I go with a list that's arranged according to the aisles. 2) I have tunnel vision: I know people are there but I never focus on them and often am startled when a local friend greets me. 3) Rather than fight the urge to vacate, I engage in a meaningful dialogue (often for an hour when I am totally unaware of my surrounding until I realize my ice cream is melting as we speak). Before COVID, these chance encounters often ended with a hug and while the errand was for necessities, 4) my major takeaway was the connection to another human being who made a necessity a moment of grace.
@@RensRoom My local ones are not that huge, and I try to stay local. But it means I can do one trip and not have to visit several shops with all the hassle that involves - parking, waiting in queues, paying for individual items - and, of course, chatting!
Enjoy seeing you more relaxed and unbuttoned, as it were. 😉 Sending pets to Miss Hazelnut. 🤗❤🐈 Thinking not been on a cruise per say, but there was a riverboat ride that was more relaxed and less crowded. It was nice, as you could hang out on the deck with the breeze gently wafting through your hair in semi-solitude.
I used to dread attending corporate related networking functions...😳 so much small talk....lack of authentic conmection....I would lose interest so quickly and just position myself near all the delicious food...🤣 So glad ive left that world...🥰
So funny...i went to a crowded beach & freaked out on everyone's body....& how close they were to my space....& supermarkets, despise...I thought it was the lighting. 🙃
The only place I can stand with a crowd is a concert. I think because I am already expecting a sea of people, and can justify our mutual taste in music in order to enjoy the experience. Plus, they aren't there for me, likely won't bother me as they are there for the music itself, and I can slink into the background quite easily as they tend to be in dark environments. ;p
Thank you,for me the absolute worst was a loud live concert by the ocean at night with a lot of people,with queues to bars and toilets and then it started raining,I knew it was hell but alternative to fire hell.Also it Really excited me when you said we intuitively need space to work that function,Yes! That’s why I always end up in half empty rooms and streets,I unconsciously seek them out! I do go to a networking event once a month and it’s very hard for me,so I arrive early and walk around the area and get something to eat,to feel like I know the place and other people are random in it,not me!💁♀️
@@RensRoom ☺️Yes! Imagine,that was Maui,Hawaii famous band reggae concert with a lot of stoned people living their ultimate idea of fun,the rain probably even made it dreamy for them…I was socially forced into it and felt like a fussy alien,Nothing was fun about it,I was ‘overdosed’ on other people being on drugs,and all was so plain and boring,what a tragic night,and I’m still young,I couldn’t figure out what’s wrong with with me! 🤷♀️
@@RensRoom Yep,I found it impossible to enjoy what others enjoy in Hawaii,the ocean,the sand,the live music,an alcoholic cocktail,cannabis 😞 I only liked things other people don’t know exist.I liked the lucid dreams I had and how they changed in every island in archipelago,the synchronicities with other people,the hikes that solve your brain puzzles,the sensory appeal of lava in active volcano,the mini earthquakes,yes I suppose I’m weird lol haha☺️
At first I was like, supermarket's?? Then I realized yeah I only go when it's 11 at night. Trader Joe's is a nightmare for me. When I go to the beach, I am not near anyone. I walk at least a mile away from the crowds. I don't understand how people go to the beach and sit on top of each other. Ugh. No.
I agree, but for different reasons. I dislike supermarkets because shopping for food is a chore that is kinda boring to me and draws upon my Si inferior too much. I don't even like artisan markets. I like soulless electronics super stores. I feel like a kid in a candy store. As for beaches, yeah, all of those loud human near me with their endless rolls of fat, blah. The other thing I dislike about beaches is the sense of finality, that I can't go any further. Cruise ships, dislike them for the same reason as beaches...too many obnoxious humans that you are stuck with for days on end. Yeah, speed dating..death to my soul. I never really liked dating of any type..went years between relationships. If I found a compatible person, would just dive head long into the relationship. However....one super tacky, super Se place I thought I would hate was Las Vegas. I went there in 2016 and fell in love with the place....maybe it's because of the Fe vibe...everybody is happy to be there.
Hi Davorin, it does seem like you're not the only one here who doesn't mind supermarkets that much. That in itself is a useful insight! Maybe I'll make a video update at some point in the future.
_Supermarket : I like and don't like in same time. I go only when it"s necessary, for living, just for food. It's a source of anxiety for me, cause I compare/analyse the price/Liter, price/Kg. I looose energy and time. That's why now I do list, or I buy often the same things. Last month I spend 30 min on front of the batteries store, to choose (I only needed 2 AAA), cause really too much choice, too much useless differents sorts of batteries, to analyse and compare, what is the best ratio quality/price for the thing I need. Same to buy and hoover on the web, I spend many hours and days to choose/buy one. But I like how big it is, how all things are organized : cheap products at bottom and top, expensive products in front of our eyes and hands, middle. See what people buy and laught inside (so much useless thing, and unhealthy food) _ Beach : I like the landscape. But I don't like cause I don't tan, and it's useless and sun is dangerous, I have to use some sun protection. _ Ship cruises : Never done, and I will never I think. It's just like a big hotel no ? lost on a vaste area of deep water. _ Speed dating : Never done, Why ? I have so much and nothing to share on same time, I need to take time. If someone really want to know me, he have to be patient, or really deserve it. _ Networking : done but I waste my energy, time and learn nothing more. You will never see me on a music festival or on a manifestation. Where to find me ? at home or at work XD Where to find INFJ ? On UA-cam comment section I think. If I could eat/drink all I need in a shaker it will be perfect (powder + water)
Well with supermarkets i don't find myself anxious this is because I'm just alone with my thoughts that I don't even pay attention to external stimuli, nevertheless, I find it annoying and I'm even lazy when going to a supermarket like I just want to finish as fast as I can, this is quite funny because my mom is an extraverted sensor so we have quite interesting interactions when going into a public place.
I don't mind supermarkets, but I like going early in the morning, when there aren't too many people there. I enjoy shopping for food and planning new things to cook. I do hate the money aspect of grocery shopping, I just dislike the need for money. *I have always wanted to go on a cruise 🤔*
1) I don't like them. But I've adapted. Self-discipline and concentration on the task up ahead. Now I like them. No one cares what happens.. 2) Hell no, but I can 3) I enjoy meeting every person - just to analyze them 4) I'm forced to - I cant stand them 5) Nope.... 6) Im trying all my life not to lie as much as possible - I don't lie MAybe Im not INFJ...
very true, dont like supermarkets or networking. just awful 🤦♀️ but I really like beaches, I like when they are crowded if Im in the right mood. is the point where I turn in my INFJ card? lol.. btw can we see your cat in one of the future videos????
I'm an infj eneagram 7w8 and I don't necessarily like supermarkets but I go there to get food now and then. Walmart and homeland. That being said I don't talk to much people there.
Omgoodness, Walmart is the worst...... Unless it's at 2am lol it's not so bad then, still takes me almost 5 minutes just to pick a damn cereal which is so frustrating! It's even worse that Walmart is no longer open until 2 am. Miss having this for pretty much all to myself. Im never in anyone's way as I try to run through the pros and cons of each cereal..... Omgoodness, so many choices can be fucking overwhelming! My INFJ is a little busted, maybe, it's possible my therapist is just full of shit and is mistaking my actual personality for some sort of disorder. I wonder how many INFJs end up getting diagnosed as borderline personality disorder, what they are considering symptoms and behaviors and signs of it, having to be strikingly similar to just the fundamental core attributes and character of an INFJ. I bet their therapist you go their entire careers and never meet an infj, besides psychiatrist and stuff don't put much stock in personality tests. And therapy I've often wondered, if I'm the one with be disorder, what exactly is normal supposed to look like?
I'm here for Hazelnut... jk =)~ All of this is true. Cruises for me is the possibility of a rogue wave and no where to escape from it. 🌊 I wonder if most infjs, because of 4th slot Se, freeze when in their fight or flight mode.
In supermarket we familiariize the shelf then target only what i want.i love beach but i dont like busy beach., speed dating we hate it , dating evrywhere i hate it. I prefer formal dating not on expensive resto but a formal place good ambiance. networking i dont like, crüise ship.
Speed dating yeah never. Its not the fact that I do not know how to date its just I would rather avoid all the chaotic stupidness and people just ghost me like I don't exist anyways. I have never had anyone pay enough attention to me to be able to date.
ahh nah you would find me at a cruise. Well not now. But I wil eventually start going on cruises. I have been on cruises before and you can escape to certain places on a trip. Though I do not like oceans.
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As an older INFJ, I did overcome the general anxiety that many of us have. Once that no longer bothered me, I found that I feel fine in any social situation or place. However, I still choose to spend most of my time in non-social situations. That’s ok.
I’m ok with supermarkets because I tend to be frugal with my money. However, if it’s too busy I will avoid it and go at a quieter hour. I very much enjoy the beach and ocean, but like you said, not when there are too many people around.
I'm exactly the same.
So true.
I don't have a problem with supermarkets, though. I like them for other reasons... I'm fond of food items, cooking, and stationary. So, I'm kind of excited to visit and see if there's anything new or at a good discount. However, I agree with the way it's a draining experience.
ENFP here trying to understand my INFJ friends better. Very interesting! Personally I really like supermarkets😅 Might sound weird, but they have something magical to me with millions of options to choose from, strange foods and various people coming together at one place. Maybe I should do their groceries for my INFJ friends🤭
All of these are so true! With one expansion to the supermarket, I hate them, as well as all large shopping experiences. Every woman I know, thinks I’m odd because I hate to shop. I only go if I absolutely need something. I get my groceries delivered, it’s lovely. I buy most of my clothes online too.
I’ll never understand the allure of a cruise ship. You hit the nail on the head! Just the mention of it makes me feel claustrophobic. Eating every meal with people everywhere, being boxed in with no where to go for days on end, with people everywhere. No! Not to mention it’s a floating Petri dish, even before Covid. The other thing is they’re horrible for the environment. So, no thank you on many levels.
You sound like you're on the introverted side even among INFJs, Nikki ;)
Ha, supermarkets. Where I try to carefully make way to other people shopping, while bumping into a shelf myself.
Very relatable!
Lol, worse for me because I can only see out of my left eye! The main reason I hate crowds.
I started watching this video with deep skepticism, but these are all spot-on. I _hate supermarkets_ 😑🤣 *_hate_* them 🤣🤣🤣 and, yes, my monthly food bill reflects this aversion - so annoying 🙄; make a distinct point to only visit the beach well after the peak summer season; am a serial monogamist; have gone to exactly one networking event that is forever burned into my memory as being one of the most awkward experiences of my life… I have been curious about cruises, though 🤔🤣 maybe I’ll have to reconsider 🤷🏻♀️🤣
Serial monogamist, eh! That’s good ;)
@@RensRoom Serial until I met my final monogamousness… with my husband 🖤But speed dating sounds perfectly useless to me 🤷🏻♀️😂
@@maymayrays speed dating sounds like a waste of brain cells
@@tiwiogunye while I am married. Just the idea of speed dating sounds exhausting to me. It also rather sounds like IRL Tinder to me. I don’t see how that’s a viable option.
Planning on becoming a serial monogamous since my until death partner died. The worse ever 5 years f-cancer. Found I am INFJ and rebuilding my life. So important to know yourself.
Dear God in Heaven 😂🤣 You are so freaking accurate with this list😂 I spend sooooo much extra money on groceries by going to the little shop two suburbs away aka steering well clear of the hell that is the ‘mall’. Big ticks on all and when you mentioned networking events I broke out in a cold sweat 😂. I live in a secluded spot and my beach is very quiet. When I’m on it at 5am most mornings I can run 10 kms and not see a soul ❤❤❤. I also do my exercises in the middle of deserted beach which means I don’t step foot in that other dreaded place, the GYM 😳😩😂. I’m a trauma psychologist and I live 100kms from my place of work. I’m happy to have that buffer zone as it means there’s no way I will run into any of my clients anywhere down my neck of the woods (beach lol). Also the drive allows me to space to process and transmute the energy of others. I’m in Australia so that is an acceptable commute 😂😂😂
Thank you for helping to empower and inform the superbeings that are the INFJ collective 💜
Great list ✨
Supermarkets are bad, but don't get me started on the hell that is Walmart. (Not only the overwhelming over-abundance of cheap stuff, but where I live there's always someone yelling there... once a client was threatening another and nearly took his shirt off ! I did NOT like the chaotic energy haha)
Thanks Marie-I feel your pain!
Oh gosh, I will drive an hour just to avoid a Wal-mart. Lol.
I avoid most crowded spaces but I know with grocery stores I try to time it when it's not a peak time, if Saturday it's extremely early morning or after 7pm, or Mondays, Tuesdays and rarely Wednesdays because those are the quiet days. I avoid crowded aisles as much as possible but always thought it was an agoraphobic thing for me. I can be out in small events when it's outside and not many people but open enough with space to roam, would never see me at a concert inside or out. Usually things that not many might be interested in if I did go out like a Ren Faire. I prefer going to greenhouses and nurseries for plants but big box stores where there's a chance for crowds is a no go area. For me it's just too enclosed if there's an emergency or someone giving off angry vibes that I want to escape from that atmosphere. Noises that are loud also bother me, especially if unexpected.
Supermarkets as you described them, Ren, made me laugh! I make a list over several days, so I get in, get my things, and get out. We also have online shopping where you can park and they bring it all to your car, or bring it to your house. I still go in personally because I am not completely freaked about being there because I go late in the day when there are less people around.
Our beaches in my region are our best kept secret and are uninhabited all year round except for those of us who walk, other than the Christmas holiday rush (hot🇦🇺) which lasts only a month at most.
I hate crowds. If there are a lot of people at an outdoor market or in our village when holidaymakers arrive, I stay away from them. Dodging people to get where I want to go is not a pastime I enjoy at all especially due to the fact that I can only see from my left eye so am paranoid about other people being too close to me.
I was very surprised by your list and you are so right! The thing about speed dating and networking events is that to me, it's about sales. You have to be in the mindset of a sales person and what you're selling is often yourself. An INFJ does not want to be in a position to convince someone that they're interested and engaged in a pressurized situation. Supermarkets are tricky. If you happen to be a parent then, you have absolutely no choice. I came up with a way of memorizing the whole store and knowing exactly what brand I wanted and where it was on the shelf. That way, I could go up and down the aisles and do a whole week's worth of shopping in 17 minutes. 😉 The cruise ship idea cracks me up. It's kind of like a giant floating elevator filled with people who are dressed in so many different styles from casual to super dressy. There's no way to read a whole room worth of people waiting to eat their lobster and baked potatoes. And, worst of all, they are all making small talk at each of the tables of 10 strangers. I am very happy that other people enjoy cruises. I find myself laying in bed fantasizing about a cabin in the woods. I think I have about half of it architecturally planned out, right down to the elevator. 😁 Thanks for a very entertaining video. I take it your cat may be of an orange color? Take care. Sincerely, Carly 💕
I was asked once where INFJs supposedly gather, and I had a hard time trying to come up with specific examples, but of course it's easier to think of places where you *won't* find us, so thanks for that idea.
Regarding crowded beaches, yes absolutely even though I live in Dubai I avoid the popular / tacky ones... but luckily there are many less known and "organic" ones outside the city and I love going to those, when the weather permits. (that feeling when your Ni lets loose and feeds off the expansive water and open skies... amazing)
Anyway, I would say most crowded and noisy places in general we tend to avoid, unless we have some relationship or interest in the event (indie comedy club, boutique expo, jazz parlor, etc).
Edit: Is that a stuffed camel? I don't find many soft camel toys, even where I live... it's always rabbits, sheep, bears
Perhaps it's a stereotype, but maybe coffee shops and book stores.
@@stevedavenport1202 the library yes !
yes its a stuff animal
Absolutely all of these. Just thinking on them tighten my gut. The cruise is terrifying. It is so affirming to hear about the hard wiring of personality types. I've known for a long time I tested as an INFJ --over and over.--but I didn't give it much attention. Now to hear these descriptions --I understand myself better. You mention modesty. People have always teased me to make me blush. And it doesn't take much. I just thought I was old fashioned, or plain odd. Like someone from out of time, but not fitting anywhere in any time. Now I understand. As usual, late to know. :) Around the block three times and maybe a few years late. Thank you for all your efforts.Very helpful.
Pretty spot on video!
Also, it's not like i hate going to beaches, i hate the (in my case ) looooong travel to get to them, i hate it so much, it gives me so much anxiety, if i could knock myself unconscious inside the car so i wouldn't notice when i arrive there, i totally would. The supermarket bit is also accurate, if i had to go, i go to do what i have to do and get back home as soon as possible.
So yeah, the less we are in contact with crowded places the better.
Okay... I'm an INFJ and I have to say I like grocery shopping, especially if I'm not alone. I just like looking at all the products and choosing things out? And I have a slightly obsessive routine which helps me deal with supermarket-anxiety. I usually use a basket rather than a trolley, I always go to one of two supermarkets near me so I'm familiar with them and I avoid aisles that are too busy (I'll just come back when there's less people 😅). For context though, I live in a regional town so I'm surrounded by a pretty small population of people, which is great! But also not so great because you tend to run into people you know a LOT 😬. Secondly, I LOVE the beach but again, the main beach near me is never busy except during peak season, and then I'll just go to a more secluded beach that less people know about. I find crowded places in general anxiety provoking and I do avoid them like the plague 😅. One thing I hate is crowded cafes or restaurants. I rarely eat out and if I do I will pick a place where there are few people (often means the food isn't so great lol). The times I have eaten out (on my own especially) I have felt very self conscious and awkward. I'd rather take my food and go eat it in a park. I would also agree that cruises aren't my cup of tea. I couldn't stand being stuck on a ship for days on end surrounded by strangers. I'd rather holiday on land where there's far more accommodation and food options! Also, with networking events... I'm not quite sure what those are... If you mean a party of sorts then I would absolutely stay away from one of those. I would rather spend time one on one with people or in a small group. Parties or social events in general are overwhelming and stressful and I feel very much out of place in them. That's just my take on this 😉
Thanks for this Harry, in context this all perfectly makes sense.
I completely resonated with the beach one. I love the beach possibly more than any other place on this planet, but when it starts getting crowded... Like strangers laying their chairs, towels, umbrellas or whatever at talking distance from me kind of crowded? Yeah, I'm out. It does not help that it drives my dogs crazy either. lol.
Thanks for sharing, Duglife :)
Dance floors, queues and large crowds fill me with horror.
So accurate! I was laughing at every point because of how sadly they are related to inferior Se. I love beaches but only if they aren't crowded.
Omg‼️ I am blown away by how accurate this is... I can relate to all of these - never understood why - but I do now! 👍💙
Not only are you completely correct about the places, but also the reasons why those places are so anxiety producing for us.
Supermarkets are indeed a source of infinite anxiety!
Thanks Aaron!
Cruises, bingo! Stuck on a crowded boat with too much everything: too much food, too much noise, too many people, too much cheesey entertainment, and gambling. None of it, no thanks. Ugh. Oh, and don't forget the tiny cabins and pressure to join activities you don't remotely want to participate in. I also don't like anywhere there is a crowd, such as many stores, sporting events, etc. I would love a deserted beach but run from a crowded one. Thanks for these fun videos, they are entertaining before or after a rather stressful day at work...where I work at a front desk checking in patients...not a dream job for this INFJ. :)
Oh my those are all accurate. I absolutely loathe large department stores. I get headaches every time I shop there 😅
Same x_x
You literally just described why I loath industrialized shopping! I hate the separation between the objects being sold and where they come from.. exploitation, sweat shops, pesticides, environmental destruction.. I prefer thifting online or grabbing my produce when the stores are quieter (ideally I will grow my own food in the future when I am able).
I do hate beaches. Lol A secluded place would be nice, but I do hate the feeling of sand on my feet and in my clothes.
I'm so picky with my partners that I would never speed date. Lol I hand pick people who are special and worth my time. Similar with networking events. I just need to meet people in a more natural setting and to get to know someone's SOUL before going further with them in any way.
Ironically I have been afraid of cruises since I was a child. My fears now are of the other cruise-goers.. the idea of being trapped in close quarters with so many strangers is not appealing. Give me a quiet slice of nature with loved ones or by myself, please!!
I relate to all that you described, Eden. Thanks for sharing. :)
Yes to all of this. :)
It's so funny that you picked up on the ship cruise. I was just talking with a friend about never having a desire to go on a cruise. The whole idea provokes anxiety in me.
That was quite a nice list! You'd probably won't see iNFJs on any sporting event either. I don't know, that may just be me. The thing about the supermarkets was also spot on. Too many details you have to focus on(Si), and meaningless interactions. I'd rather just pick something out quickly, and leave asap.
Nice to you see you're alive and well Ren, take care :)
Lol, yep sporting events, I can never do those. I have in the past and they were so mind-numbingly boring. I found it more interesting to observe the event goers rather than the event itself!
Thanks Hylius! I don't mind the occasional sporting event but I really have to be in the mood.
Ren, I agree with you totally. This INFJ will never go to most of these places or events. Minimal supermarket visits for me. With Covid, I use food deliveries mainly.
Thanks ElusvOptimst, good to see you around also. :)
Not sure about the supermarkets. I guess I like what I like, and I'll put up with whatever to get it. I find supermarkets to be comforting in that no one particularly likes being there, and we're all just scurrying about getting what we came for so we can leave!
I'm surprised that no mention was made of a) loud music concerts, and b) sporting events. Aside from the overwhelming noise present in both such venues, there's the crush of humanity and invasion of personal space. Commonly there is great physical discomfort in terms of extremes of temperature, and even wind or rain. There's the inability to communicate with others. There's this seeming fascination with personality, and particularly in the case of sporting events the fascination with statistics and this "winners and losers" dynamic. . . . There's nothing there for me.
Am I the odd one on this?
I'm amazed, you even mentioned the conspiracy of meaningless objects and my primary phobia....sharks!🤣 Uncanny!
I feel a lot of that anxiety so I’m quite observant about it, haha.
Very enjoyable topic. I am not a beach person. They're usually too crowded, and I have very high sensory touch issues so the sand between the toes is a nightmare. But, I can top that. On vacation in the Caribbean our tour guide decided to take us to a nude beach. I have never seen so many people who were insistent on you seeing them naked, coming as close to you as possible and flexing. As people often say, it was surreal. Check please! Couldn't wait to get back into the car and leave. You're right we tend to be a little more modest!
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Haha. Thanks for the kind words!
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Sounds interesting. I like seeing people naked, but not in the literal sense. Lol.
Oh my goodness! How accurate is this?
Hate hate, hate supermarkets. So much so that my husband and 2 children go shopping on Friday evenings whilst I'm at work. Just stepping inside them gives me serious anxiety. We went shopping last Christmas, (last time I went into a supermarket) and I had to go too because my husband is incapable of getting everything on a list. My children (11 and 12 at the time) decided to see how long it took. From leaving the car, to getting back in the car toom 22 minutes! They still haven't beaten that record. Both complain to their dad that I should go with them because it's so much quicker!
Hate the thought of cruises. Why would you get on a ship and spend time with vast numbers of people you don't know and will never see again and with absolutely no way of escaping from it all? Just the thought makes me uneasy. I need to be away from people.
Speed dating: Just no. Never going to happen.
Networking: I'd rather boil my own head!
Oh and the beach...... we live in a seaside town. I hate going to the beach. Even walking on the prom can be hard. We tend to walk on the prom late in the evenings when it's much quieter. We NEVER go on the beach in the summer because there are just too many people. I can't handle it. It's so uncomfortable.
When we do go, we go to the quieter part where less people go. It's further away from the toilets and shops etc so less people go to that part. Which is exactly why we go to that part. Out of the way from everyone else and where I can at least try to hear my own thoughts.
Thank you so much for your insights. Good to know there are many others who feel exactly them same.
Thank you for your comment, Carolyn!
FYI - Don't confuse anxiety, or Se overwhelm in response to being overstimulated by crowds of people and the absorption of said emotional baggage with avoidance of places and interior dislike of them. I think you could find an INFJ go to any of those locales but have an interior aversion to them, among other things.
I am INFJ I used to be terrified of super markets but the more I learn about how awesome INFJ s are the more confident I am. Always go very early or very late to avoid crowds. - love walking in about 30 cm of water on an EMPTY beach.
I called it when you said cruises. LOL! Or should I say, I called it when you said why. The moment you mentioned it, I thought, "Because you're trapped and can't leave until the cruise is over!" And that's why I don't think I could go on one.
I'm an INFJ, but I'm also someone who puts a lot of effort into going outside their comfort zone because I firmly believe that's where growth happens. So I've tried speed dating. It was not fun, but I learned some things about myself and dating in general. And yeah, I'm an INFJ who doesn't like dating at all.
I loathe networking because I'm not very good at it, but I don't hide when I'm there. It's actually a great opportunity to just people watch, which I love doing.
As for beaches, I think I go about once a year. I usually just read a book and people watch. I typically pick an area with few people (like at the far ends of the beach), but it's not too terrible of an experience. Just not something I'd want to do often. I love the water, but I much prefer rivers and waterfalls (hence my love of hiking and whitewater rafting).
As for supermarkets, that's the one I probably disagree with most. No offense. Not that I love supermarkets, and yes, I do try to go when they're less crowded. But my anxiety over farmers markets and small stores is way more debilitating than what I feel in a supermarket.
Farmers markets require far too much face-to-face, up-close-and-personal interaction than a supermarket. They're also far less organized and a lot of people (read: other customers) have serious problems respecting personal space in them. My Fe and Se go into hypersensitivity mode in smaller spaces. I feel like everyone is watching and judging me.
But at a supermarket, no one cares because everyone is minding their own business. Sure, sometimes people are rude and don't respect personal space, but it's usually so much easier for me to simply leave the aisle and come back later when the person has moved on. So I'm an odd one out, and you would likely find me there over the alternative small stores and farmers markets & stands.
Sorry for the novel. Thanks for giving us such great food for thought.
How accurate you are! The idea of cruises sends me cold. I wouldn't even step onto a ship. I'm terrified of water and what lies beneath as well so I won't even put my head under water in a pool. Supermarkets, hate them...I usually take one of the grandkids for support. Beaches...no thanks. Networking (and phone calls) avoided almost always. Dating...procrastinate for weeks. It's tough being an INFJ xx
Haha you nailed it... I'll never go on a cruise...the idea of feeling trapped. Also traffic..I hate it...again the idea of being trapped on a highway and can't turn back. I put off grocery shopping forever until I absolutely have to go...n when I do go I have learnt how to block off n shut off people. Ty again you nailed it!!
Apparently I am masochistic because I will go to these places, and end up feeling extremly alienated as a result, but I still keep going out there simply because it is different from my norm.. Not very often however...I also shop at walmart because I have very little discretionary income
Ahh, maybe this explains why I don't want to go to the supermarket that much. Once the supermarket in my town offered grocery pick-up I've been mostly ordering it online and picking it up. That way I can peruse the site at my leisure and I sometimes I find something interesting to try that I totally would've missed at the store. I also hate shopping in malls, especially around the holidays. My mother used to go shopping on Black Friday with her sisters and I was invited, but usually turned it down. One time I met up with them later in the day after most of the insanity died down and it was tolerable.
When I was younger I used to go to Cape Cod with my family. I enjoyed the vacations, but I didn't usually like the beach days (I preferred it when we played mini golf or walked the town shopping at small boutiques). I just found them boring. When I was younger, I'd swim and make sandcastles, but when I got older I'd read and just sit under an umbrella trying to avoid the sun. I hated if the beach was crowded. Oftentimes I'd end up walking the beach, talking with my dad and it'd be ok because we'd usually walk pretty far away from where all the crowds were. When I got older I enjoyed sitting on the beach at dusk when almost nobody was there.
As for the others, Nope, Nope, Nope.
I can totally relate to all all the above mentioned topics.
I agree 👍 with you about supporting independent retailers. 👏
Agreed but I have to shop at a big store so I’m not overcharged at a local place. There isn’t much competition. So, I’ve got the place mapped out. My list is written o that it shows where everything is. I’m fast and get out of there and don’t go back for a month. I’ve imagined a cruise-i would be in my room. So in a sense I’ve already been there. 🤢
I don't know if I would say that I enjoyed the video because it gave me anxiety early in the morning, but I found it very accurate. I had my first, and hopefully last, panick attack in a market. Beaches make me uncomfortable at so many levels. Speed dating I could do for fun to ''speed type'' poeple but never for the intended purpose. But the fun would wear off easily and the meaninglessness of the situation would hit me very quickly.
yes so true😀, the cruises on the ship.. infjs have strong Ni, and Fe reinforces the Ni function. That is a danger😂😱 thank you for your great work 👍
I agree with all of these, except supermarkets (somewhat). I love cooking and getting my own groceries (it feels more detached getting groceries online), but I do avoid busy hours. I used to only get groceries after 10pm-12am for a while to avoid as many people as possible but at a somewhat reasonable(ish) hour. Also, self check-out whenever possible/reasonable. 😅
But yes, I don’t like and thus avoid beaches (esp when crowded), networking events, speed dating, and cruises.
I hate supermarkets! My house never has enough food. I hate negotiating with people how we will go through the aisles with strangers. I pick up food once or twice a day from the small supermarket near my house.
Cruises - my idea of hell. Nobody understands. Speed dating - never occurred to me to try. Crowded beaches - no way! But supermarkets I like, because I can rush through, not speak to anybody, and get it over with asap. But avoid the ones with piped music like the plague.
Even huge supermarkets? Ewwww
@@RensRoom I agree with your list too except for including supermarkets. I enjoy them well enough because 1) I go with a list that's arranged according to the aisles. 2) I have tunnel vision: I know people are there but I never focus on them and often am startled when a local friend greets me. 3) Rather than fight the urge to vacate, I engage in a meaningful dialogue (often for an hour when I am totally unaware of my surrounding until I realize my ice cream is melting as we speak). Before COVID, these chance encounters often ended with a hug and while the errand was for necessities, 4) my major takeaway was the connection to another human being who made a necessity a moment of grace.
@@RensRoom My local ones are not that huge, and I try to stay local. But it means I can do one trip and not have to visit several shops with all the hassle that involves - parking, waiting in queues, paying for individual items - and, of course, chatting!
Enjoy seeing you more relaxed and unbuttoned, as it were. 😉 Sending pets to Miss Hazelnut. 🤗❤🐈 Thinking not been on a cruise per say, but there was a riverboat ride that was more relaxed and less crowded. It was nice, as you could hang out on the deck with the breeze gently wafting through your hair in semi-solitude.
Cindy, you'll be happy to hear that I have conveyed your pets to Hazelnut. She purred loudly. ♥
@@RensRoom 🤗❤😻thanks for conveying 😉🤗
was waiting to hear carnivals - they make me feel claustrophobic, sweaty and just way too many unpredictable dangerous things
I used to dread attending corporate related networking functions...😳 so much small talk....lack of authentic conmection....I would lose interest so quickly and just position myself near all the delicious food...🤣
So glad ive left that world...🥰
So funny...i went to a crowded beach & freaked out on everyone's body....& how close they were to my space....& supermarkets, despise...I thought it was the lighting. 🙃
Relatable!
The only place I can stand with a crowd is a concert. I think because I am already expecting a sea of people, and can justify our mutual taste in music in order to enjoy the experience. Plus, they aren't there for me, likely won't bother me as they are there for the music itself, and I can slink into the background quite easily as they tend to be in dark environments. ;p
Thank you,for me the absolute worst was a loud live concert by the ocean at night with a lot of people,with queues to bars and toilets and then it started raining,I knew it was hell but alternative to fire hell.Also it Really excited me when you said we intuitively need space to work that function,Yes! That’s why I always end up in half empty rooms and streets,I unconsciously seek them out! I do go to a networking event once a month and it’s very hard for me,so I arrive early and walk around the area and get something to eat,to feel like I know the place and other people are random in it,not me!💁♀️
You're welcome, Lily. That concert experience does sound... trying!
@@RensRoom ☺️Yes! Imagine,that was Maui,Hawaii famous band reggae concert with a lot of stoned people living their ultimate idea of fun,the rain probably even made it dreamy for them…I was socially forced into it and felt like a fussy alien,Nothing was fun about it,I was ‘overdosed’ on other people being on drugs,and all was so plain and boring,what a tragic night,and I’m still young,I couldn’t figure out what’s wrong with with me! 🤷♀️
@@lilydarling4215 An old soul in a young body... :D
@@RensRoom Yep,I found it impossible to enjoy what others enjoy in Hawaii,the ocean,the sand,the live music,an alcoholic cocktail,cannabis 😞 I only liked things other people don’t know exist.I liked the lucid dreams I had and how they changed in every island in archipelago,the synchronicities with other people,the hikes that solve your brain puzzles,the sensory appeal of lava in active volcano,the mini earthquakes,yes I suppose I’m weird lol haha☺️
As for networking events I’d meticulously find the exact person I’m interested in (already doing my research) and find em
I love near the sea, and can walk to the beach in less that 20 minutes, it is very annoying when other people are on my beach.
At first I was like, supermarket's?? Then I realized yeah I only go when it's 11 at night. Trader Joe's is a nightmare for me.
When I go to the beach, I am not near anyone. I walk at least a mile away from the crowds. I don't understand how people go to the beach and sit on top of each other. Ugh. No.
I agree, but for different reasons.
I dislike supermarkets because shopping for food is a chore that is kinda boring to me and draws upon my Si inferior too much. I don't even like artisan markets.
I like soulless electronics super stores. I feel like a kid in a candy store.
As for beaches, yeah, all of those loud human near me with their endless rolls of fat, blah. The other thing I dislike about beaches is the sense of finality, that I can't go any further.
Cruise ships, dislike them for the same reason as beaches...too many obnoxious humans that you are stuck with for days on end.
Yeah, speed dating..death to my soul. I never really liked dating of any type..went years between relationships. If I found a compatible person, would just dive head long into the relationship.
However....one super tacky, super Se place I thought I would hate was Las Vegas. I went there in 2016 and fell in love with the place....maybe it's because of the Fe vibe...everybody is happy to be there.
Not sure about supermarket, I actually enjoy going alone, wondering and learning about the stuff i can find there. All other places tick the box.
Hi Davorin, it does seem like you're not the only one here who doesn't mind supermarkets that much. That in itself is a useful insight! Maybe I'll make a video update at some point in the future.
_Supermarket : I like and don't like in same time. I go only when it"s necessary, for living, just for food. It's a source of anxiety for me, cause I compare/analyse the price/Liter, price/Kg. I looose energy and time. That's why now I do list, or I buy often the same things.
Last month I spend 30 min on front of the batteries store, to choose (I only needed 2 AAA), cause really too much choice, too much useless differents sorts of batteries, to analyse and compare, what is the best ratio quality/price for the thing I need.
Same to buy and hoover on the web, I spend many hours and days to choose/buy one.
But I like how big it is, how all things are organized : cheap products at bottom and top, expensive products in front of our eyes and hands, middle.
See what people buy and laught inside (so much useless thing, and unhealthy food)
_ Beach : I like the landscape. But I don't like cause I don't tan, and it's useless and sun is dangerous, I have to use some sun protection.
_ Ship cruises : Never done, and I will never I think. It's just like a big hotel no ? lost on a vaste area of deep water.
_ Speed dating : Never done, Why ? I have so much and nothing to share on same time, I need to take time. If someone really want to know me, he have to be patient, or really deserve it.
_ Networking : done but I waste my energy, time and learn nothing more.
You will never see me on a music festival or on a manifestation.
Where to find me ? at home or at work XD
Where to find INFJ ? On UA-cam comment section I think.
If I could eat/drink all I need in a shaker it will be perfect (powder + water)
Well with supermarkets i don't find myself anxious this is because I'm just alone with my thoughts that I don't even pay attention to external stimuli, nevertheless, I find it annoying and I'm even lazy when going to a supermarket like I just want to finish as fast as I can, this is quite funny because my mom is an extraverted sensor so we have quite interesting interactions when going into a public place.
I also want to finish as fast as I can, haha.
I don't mind supermarkets, but I like going early in the morning, when there aren't too many people there. I enjoy shopping for food and planning new things to cook. I do hate the money aspect of grocery shopping, I just dislike the need for money.
*I have always wanted to go on a cruise 🤔*
I’m trying to understand INFJS as an INFP, your videos are so interesting and enlightening, thanks 🙏
May I ask why? Are you dating an INFJ or do you have a friend who is?
@@OfTheMindscape Indeed, a new INFJ friend- they are so contradictory and I am constantly just a bit in awe of them (:
Thanks Lindsey! In what way do you find your friend to be contradictory?
Agree 100% with everything you said 👍
Thanks Jackie!
I love our local beach but only when it is really quiet!
I love supermarkets!!
I envy you for not feeling any pain when you go there!
1) I don't like them. But I've adapted. Self-discipline and concentration on the task up ahead. Now I like them. No one cares what happens..
2) Hell no, but I can
3) I enjoy meeting every person - just to analyze them
4) I'm forced to - I cant stand them
5) Nope....
6) Im trying all my life not to lie as much as possible - I don't lie
MAybe Im not INFJ...
😅 as soon as I get in a supermarket I get a stomache ache and get dizzy.
very true, dont like supermarkets or networking. just awful 🤦♀️ but I really like beaches, I like when they are crowded if Im in the right mood. is the point where I turn in my INFJ card? lol.. btw can we see your cat in one of the future videos????
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this guy on this video clip likes cats too! I thought you might appreciate it lol
You forgot malls, those places are headache-inducing lol
Also wtf, supermarkets dude? Those are the most neutral places in existence lmfao
1. Nightclubs
2. Big concerts
I'm an infj eneagram 7w8 and I don't necessarily like supermarkets but I go there to get food now and then. Walmart and homeland. That being said I don't talk to much people there.
Omgoodness, Walmart is the worst...... Unless it's at 2am lol it's not so bad then, still takes me almost 5 minutes just to pick a damn cereal which is so frustrating!
It's even worse that Walmart is no longer open until 2 am. Miss having this for pretty much all to myself. Im never in anyone's way as I try to run through the pros and cons of each cereal..... Omgoodness, so many choices can be fucking overwhelming!
My INFJ is a little busted, maybe, it's possible my therapist is just full of shit and is mistaking my actual personality for some sort of disorder.
I wonder how many INFJs end up getting diagnosed as borderline personality disorder, what they are considering symptoms and behaviors and signs of it, having to be strikingly similar to just the fundamental core attributes and character of an INFJ. I bet their therapist you go their entire careers and never meet an infj, besides psychiatrist and stuff don't put much stock in personality tests. And therapy I've often wondered, if I'm the one with be disorder, what exactly is normal supposed to look like?
I'm here for Hazelnut... jk =)~
All of this is true.
Cruises for me is the possibility of a rogue wave and no where to escape from it. 🌊
I wonder if most infjs, because of 4th slot Se, freeze when in their fight or flight mode.
I wouldn’t blame you if you were here for Hazelnut only ;)
Cruises are my worst nightmare. I would never see it as a fun thing. Think I would rather jump overboard than be stuck on a cruise ship.
Intj here and you will never find me in cruises, speed dating or networking events ever.
A rare INTJ female. Hi Suzette!
In supermarket we familiariize the shelf then target only what i want.i love beach but i dont like busy beach., speed dating we hate it , dating evrywhere i hate it. I prefer formal dating not on expensive resto but a formal place good ambiance. networking i dont like, crüise ship.
Looks like you're on the peak of Fe-ing, haha. Great content. It's rare to find videos that are fun yet insightful like yours.
I am confused after some of your comments I'm not sure what I am period
Yeah I wont ever do a networking event.
Speed dating yeah never. Its not the fact that I do not know how to date its just I would rather avoid all the chaotic stupidness and people just ghost me like I don't exist anyways. I have never had anyone pay enough attention to me to be able to date.
Yeah you will never find me at the beach. Unless i'm bored and decide I want to go kayaking and such alone.
Nope .supermarkets are fine
Love our local beach
ahh nah you would find me at a cruise. Well not now. But I wil eventually start going on cruises. I have been on cruises before and you can escape to certain places on a trip. Though I do not like oceans.
Hate the circus, there's clowns
I hate malls
It's called anxiety 😬 I'm a INTJ I get it
Where do I find them 🤔🥸
Haha. I’ll make a video about that soon ;-) PS. There is another message of yours I want to answer, re the book.
I can’t stand places with crowds near me. I even hyperventilate 🤣
I'm a little bit like that, too.
@@RensRoom oh my! I thought it was odd i was feeling such.
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Speed dating? ... why is that even on the list? It doesn't exist.