Healing Your Father Wounds
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- Опубліковано 27 кві 2020
- As you move yourself towards the root system of heart healing, there are some important questions you’ll need to address. They may be challenging to consider, yet they reveal the core issues that need tending to.
The first question is, “What was your relationship with your earthly father like?”
The more you can answer this honestly, the better you can address what your heart needs.
Here are some further questions:
Was he a spiritual leader in your home?
Did he express his love for you in his words and actions?
Was he easily accessible when you needed him?
Was he a safe place of love?
Most of all, did your father equip you to enter the world as an overcoming adult? All effective parenting is meant to transition you into adulthood with tools to face life effectively. The father is meant to be the leading source of equipping in this area.
All healing of the heart begins with healing the father wound. He is the one who was meant to establish love, identity and self-esteem in your life. His job is to set the grid of love in your heart so that you can relate to Father God in a healthy way and enter the world as an overcomer.
The majority of problems in society stem back to the lack of a father’s love and investment in a child’s life. Most grow up without a healthy compass for love and identity, with little tools to overcome, stemming back to what they did not receive from their father.
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The truth is, most dad’s struggle to be a powerful presence in the home because they were never given it themselves to begin with. They only gave out what they received. When it comes to loving and equipping his children, most dads don’t know what to do. Therefore, he often immerses himself in his work. Many fathers bail on the family completely. Most live very emotionally and spiritually passive, leaving the mother to carry a heavy load in the home.
A large percentage of moms are left with most of the leadership burden in the household. Because of this, she is often exhausted, angry and even depressed. In the midst of this leadership absence, she takes on more than she was ever meant to. The mom will either become so distracted by her unhealed brokenness or she will stuff it all down and soldier on. Therefore, the children are not able to receive the full amount of nurture from her they were meant to.
My parents divorced when I was 11. I adored my father. He was my hero. They divorced because my dad was being unfaithful to my mom. When we left our apartment, the very next day we went back to pick up some clothes and extra things. The door lock had been changed and when I knocked, the woman he was being unfaithful with opened the door & looked at me and said “I live here now” my world shattered. He continued to chose her over my sister and me. So many more stories that just bring back so much insecurity to me. I’ve been crippled by fear for most of my life. I’ve managed to make a pretty good life for myself but something is always “missing” He’s 93 now and still oblivious of how he has scarred me. I always give him a pass because, I don’t know why I give him a pass?! I need to heal this father wound. Thank you for your work ❤️🙏
Thank you. For most of my life when I’d pray “Father God “ those words would flash a picture of my earthly father. I’d flinch and change my call to “Dear God” . I couldn’t get passed it. Until God addressed it while I was praying.
Thank you for using scripture to point to our Father's heart as a standard/example of fathers. This really does facilitate healing. All praise to God!
loved the analogy of Jesus v. God's fatherly love for us. I feel abandoned by God and my dad. My mom died at age 9 from Breast cancer she was 32 with 4 children. My dad remarried and they had a child, our new step mom neglected us 4. Yes, all he really knew was work and golf.
This message is POWERFUL, intense, revealing and so VITAL to our emotional well-being. EVERYBODY needs to look at, and reflect on it. Thank you for posting.
Yes amen these teachings are such a blessing!
Thanks so very much for sharing these.♥️
I can't tell you how thankful I am for this video, thank you so much Mark
🙏 thank you for this truth.
Wow, I guess this is the second wound that The LORD wants to heal me from. The first one being sexually abused as a child but I thank Jesus and Journey to heal ministries and also author Crystal Sutherland and her book 7 essential steps to heal. They helped me for FREE. Highly recommend it. At first I was afraid to surrender that wound I was afraid and like Jonah I ran away in the opposite direction for a year until I could not take it anymore. Learn from my mistakes, When Jesus Christ wants to heal your heart ❤️ just Trust Him and do not be afraid.
😢 thank you
My biological father left when I was a baby and never looked back. My stepfather turned out to be a violent alcoholic who also abandoned us. Though God helped me do better in raising my daughter, I wish I had known all this before she was born.
Thank you, so much. Please pray for me. Thanks and God bless.
God bless you!!! 😭
@@katiesanders96 You, too! Thank you!
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I know that I need to turn to God for healing, and that He loves me and that I am His child, but even though I have a relationship with God, I still long for the love of a human father so much. What can I do? To be honest, you seem so kind and fatherly, and I kinda wish that you were my dad. Sorry, I don't mean to come off as weird. But even though I have God, I still feel an emptiness. I still want to feel loved by a human father. Will these feelings ever go away? What can I do to address them? I give them to God, but I still long for the love of a good human father. I'm not saying that God is failing, He's absolutely not, but I have such a deep ache and longing in my heart for the love of a good human father, despite my relationship with God. I'm male, btw. Thank you. May God bless you.
I understand
@@britneygrey6089i understand. But remember that a human father is there to show you what God is like. He is there to lead you to God! A father can't give what he hasn't received from God. God is love and all love that we give to each other is from Him. God can and will be a Father to you❤
@@star.283 so true, if the father don't look to God for love, he can give it hence why children feel so unlove.
very helpful!
Do you recommend any of your reading material or extended series/vids on this rather hefty topic?
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Curious when the definition of father is merely a concept & leaves no place to connect /identify w/ God as father..
I have two books I would recommend. Experiencing God's Love as Your Father and Exposing the Rejection Mindset. Both emphasize this issue deeper: markdejesus.com/books-by-mark-dejesus/
Will the practical tools to overcome be found in the books then?
I do my best to put prayers, questions and action steps in everything I write, to help support the process.
This what I have found in my years in the visible church: The leadership does not understand and teach the doctrine of The Trinity. They do not teach that the Trinity is the model for how the family relates, that our gender roles and our sexuality comes from the Father and the Holy Spirit. We, as men and women, were made in the image of the Father and the Spirit. Growing up in the church, the leadership said that, “ We believe that God exists in three persons but we don’t understand how God can be one but exits in three persons. IMO, this is so basic to understanding life and family that if you don’t understand the model of the building block of society, I.e. the family, it is no wonder that the church has struggled to be the light in this world.