WoW. You go girl. Congrats on the new career. Lovely to see another female helping the female masses get BCLH, we can do it together with out so much fear and doubt. And doing it in a healthier fashion. With real time help. Woohoo. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽✌🏽
Do you play with your hair a lot? That could explain why your ends were damaged. I'm newly natural. Your hair looks full in its textured state. I'd just wear it textured rather than blowed out straight.
This is something that I swear by. BLOWDRY YALL HAIR. It’s not going to damage it if done properly. I blowdry my hair once a month sometimes even twice. And my hair is fine. I can see all those knots properly and snip them bfr it gets worse. I don’t who made us believe that heat was the devil. I’ve seen so many girls with waist length hair who haven’t blown their hair out for years and when they finally get a silk press, half of it is damage.
Amen! I second that. I was a blow dry natural that just transitioned into being a straight natural, and I can attest to heat being essential - at least it is for me. Heat is not the devil like a lot of naturals think it is.
I've been a blowdryed-natural for almost a year now and ever since then, I've retained so much length! It cuts down on knots and tangles that would've been guaranteed had I kept my hair in its natural state. It also helped me to see my ends, to which I can dust when need be. My hair stops just about 2 inches above my tailbone 🤎
Thank you for this comment! I've been considering being a primarily blow dried natural but was curious about other people's experiences with it and potential heat damage.
@@XoxoNikkiEsquire No problem beautiful! Believe me, I was afraid of heat myself. But I realized that heat isn't the issue. Its how you utilize it. If you use it responsibly, there's a 100% guarantee that your hair will always revert. What really gave me the green light to become a blowdryed-natural is another black sista on here by the name of GreenBeauty. She's a chemist and goes in detail about the benefits of keeping type 4 hair stretched; as well as a step-by-step process on how she uses heat to stretch her hair. I would definitely check her out!! You will NOT regret it boo! 🥰😇
@Trinity M It actually doesn't. My hair still obtains its natural textures. I've worn my hair completely natural for well over 12 years. However, the longer it's gotten, I realized that wearing it in its complete shrunken state can cause it to become tangled which leads to single strand knots and breakage. Safely stretching it with a cool shot airflow or just low heat, non-excessively, will not damage your natural curl pattern, and promotes length retention. After doing this for about almost a year, my hair has grown 4 inches and is just above my tailbone. And every wash day, my hair reverts to its natural state, and I make sure to add strengthening agents to ensure it's health. Many indigenous African tribes naturally use banding methods to keep their hair stretched as well. 🤎❤💗
@@laniiyahscott143 how often do you get your hair wet and blow dry it? Do you always blow dry it after getting it wet. I like to wet my hair almost everyday in the shower (not wash, I only shampoo once a week) maybe I shouldn’t be wetting it as often but my main question is how often do you blow dry?
Heat styling you hair is also important to see your roots as well (not just your ends). I used to get a blowout only once or twice a year and it took me a while to notice that my hair had thinned so much that you could see my scalp. It was only noticeable when my hair was straightened, which was practically never. I went to the dermatologist and was diagnosed with lupus, which was what was thinning my hair. Straighten your hair a few times a year and it will help give you a glimpse into your health!
yep in cos school we are thought to look for the signs of poor health or changes. im currently in school finishing this year and stylist are really not just stylist. and any nail tech, enthusiastic and so on. the amount of medical information we learn is astounding. i was very shocked. but it helps to better assist clients with what is truly going on with your hair. cause it could be medical. and the first thing we are to suggest is seek medical attention. i have learned it's not just about slap this product on to thicken your hair or for length retention. or so on and so on. that consultation portion is sooo important. it made me appreciate the stylist before me to include my mom that took hair care super serious. and value stylist that wouldn't just style my hair without shampooing. becuase they looked at the whole health of the hair. i pray that all is well with you.
After the lupus medication started working, my hair did start to grow back, but not to its full glory…I think primarily because I’m in my late 30s which is around the age your hair and body stops rejuvenating itself like it used to anyway. I use hair growth pills by a brand called Advanced Trichology, but I have no idea if they’re really working or not.
Tbh I don’t like the concept. Straight hair is not naturally Afro textured hair. I understand what you mean but you should not be forced into applying heat on your hair your hair to see the health. If you are aware of your hair in it’s natural state you shouldn’t have to straighten it to know if it’s damaged. My hair is high porosity. My hair doesn’t really do well with heat. Any amount of heat I use always leaves minor heat damage unless it’s on the lowest temperature that doesn’t get it straight enough. How about doing monthly scalp checks and parting the scalp in sections .. heat is not for everyone especially if you have naturally high porosity 🤷🏽♀️. We are taught that seeing hair health is based on straightened hair . Not true , natural hair has different characteristics to know if damaged . many people miss it because Afro textured hair wasn’t researched as much as straight hair
I almost had a heart attack when I had to blow dry my hair for my wedding. First time in almost 10 years I've had heat in my hair. I've never had a trim so because of this video, I'm going to go get my hair sorted. Pray for me guys 😫.
This makes a lot more sense as to why ppl with straight hair cut their hair so much bc they can more easily see the damage. Us kinky gurls unless we straighten it can so easily be tricked while our hair is in its natural state 😭 always something being natural
When I saw your salon visit and the blow out I knew exactly what went wrong. Trimming your hair on blown out or straight hair is the BEST way to go. Sorry for your loss but it’ll grow back fast and healthy. I always say bad ends are like fake friends…who needs them! 💜
I really appreciate the honesty in this video. So often influencers aren’t honest about setbacks and struggles, and it’s really good to see someone like you, with a platform/following, really show that it’s ok to have a setback. And that’s all it is. A setback. This cut on you is gorgeous, but your inches will be back in no time. This hair of ours is always a learning process. Lol. I’ve finally learned that I can care for my hair best when it’s short, because I have MS and it wears me out. With it short, I can be cute with a shorter wash day and a wash and go. Then I’ll live vicariously through all my ladies with beautiful growing and long hair. BCLH is right around the corner for you still. ❤️❤️
It’s best to remove all the split ends and breakage now and get trims regularly every 8-12 weeks. Long term it will benefit you and you will have healthy long thick hair. No point to keep bad ends. Also focus on your nutrition, supplements, hydration, exercise. Our hair is a reflection of our health. I would also recommend avoiding diys since it is not possible to determine the ph of those products. Purchase products that work for your hair porosity and have the proper ph. In 2-3 years you can reach your long hair goals. Be patient and consistent. It’s a journey but the results are worth the wait. Your hair looks nice now but it can be better.
it could also be some things aren't necessary so much. To deep condition EVERY time you wash. Protein treat EVERY time and other things too. Just maybe do those things once a month or so. and rest of the time just shamp, condi (no deep) and then rinse out and put in your moisturizer, do a simple style with your hair unless you are going somewhere special. Lay down the synth hair. Don't use that so much. There's chemicals in there too. Vinegar washed may not be enough to get it out. And you are right about other factors going on internal. Also external environment. Make sure that is good too. There's a lot of Tubers now having to cut off their hair, some bald, and that tells me its due to since they are Tubers and have to stay with trends and keep things 'fresh' with their content AND using themselves as a guinea pig with these products they have to use this brand new stuff and manipulate their hair a lot to keep their channels going. That in itself will cause these issues too.
@Trinity M Well some things are important to know. Like women used to deep condition kind of sparingly not EVERY single week or however many times they wash their hair. It was something like a "spa" day thing in a sense. Many women had long and healthy hair without all of this extra. I come from that time and it is possible. For those that want to do more steps it is ok just that it isn't as necessary as some make it out to be. Some people ACTUALLY think a lot of steps and all of that time are absolutely necessary which is what causes them to LITERALLY have a whole wash DAY for just their hair. Same some/many say about skincare and the 12 and more steps some believe they have to do. Doesn't mean it won't work but its the matter of necessity. Not a thing to do with laziness either.
When my detangling becomes so bad that's an indicator for me that I need a serious trim instead of dusting. I usually do a blowout once a year, I need to start doing it more often.
Thank you for being transparent! Really enjoyed the video. I follow several natural hair youtubers and most of them had several inches cut off (recently) after finally going to a professional stylist. Getting a professional trim, at least quarterly, is a requirement for length retention. It is not optional.
It’s the ownershiip, growth, and adjustment for me. When we know better; we do better. Much respect and appreciation Hun. Keep doing your thing!!By the way, the shape is mad cute!
This cut is fire on you!!! Those ends will always hold you back! I learned that early on and once I became a stylist, I completely understood why trims are so necessary. I preach about them til I’m blue in the face 😆 Even if I have to progressively trim to help a client through the process, I do it so their hair stays healthy!
Heat isn't the enemy, and the natural hair community has been in fear of it for so long because I think there is a lack of understanding. Heat has its uses, and one of them is allowing you to see how your hair truly is doing. Be afraid of heat if you are not properly protecting your hair before applying Heat, or just not caring for your hair properly at all.
So agree with you. I also rarely hear about heat damage from blow drying. I know that it can happen, but it's rare since the blow dryer can't get extremely hot.
@@SELFCAREMODEL Cantu has one; Design essential has one; Chi has one; etc. I normally wash my own hair, add the Mane Choice Leave in Conditioner, and allow a natural hair stylist to blow dry and trim at least every 3 months.
I don’t understand why people need to see their ends before getting it trimmed… if it’s been 3 months, it’s time for a trim. Period. If your ends are healthy, it’ll just be a light dusting. But you’ll never have see through ends if you just follow a consistent schedule.
Truth! First off, I can feel the ends in my natural state. I know the difference. Know your hair.. I remove my dead ends in it's natural state.. When I go to the hair dresser to get my hair straightened, my hair dresser is always amazed at the state of my hair and my ends.
We love an accountable queen ❤️ it is what it is, journeys have ups AND downs unfortunately but now that you know, we ALL can learn from it! I’ve also come to learn that heat and trims really aren’t the enemy with the right preparation and or in the right hands People are so miserable.. imagine anonymously gossiping about someone else’s hair 🥴
This is why I only trim my hair when I get a silk press because I'm afraid of cutting too much or too little without seeing the actual length. Therefore, you are right about kinky curly hair. Fine strands, low to medium density and or porous hair are more prone to breakage. Anyway, I know you hate cutting those inches but your hair will grow back. Health over length.
I feel like damaged hair is based on someone else’s hair needs. If we follow our own regimens and understand our hair based on what it feels like and what it wants , we would prevent further damage. I started my own hair journey last year for good. after listening to what UA-camrs hair loved, I realized their hair wasn’t mine so I stopped listening .My hair just didn’t grow until I got my own regimen. my hair wouldn’t be able to withstand too much styling throughout the week . I feel like the over styling can possibly damage the hair and the use of different products. I know this is your job, but not all hair can withstand that amount of styling . My hair is sooo long now and the longest it’s ever been in a year. I grew to bra strap length in 2 months after struggling with armpit length just by clipping / dusting my ends every 2 months.. online says trim when needed but some people can go 3-4 months, my hair can only go 2 months.. but my hair has grown Chile !!!! My ends were the problem also that it wasn’t growing ..Your strands look medium to fine density so the strand isn’t as strong as a coarse stand, the more you style, the more you have to trim more frequently.. I’m high porosity so trimming is needed . I wear a wash and go every week styled and leave it like that until wash day, and repeat
One thing I've learned is less is more with my hair. I shampoo deep condition condition and apply my leave in. Thats all and my hair has been actually growing. And I do my regular trims
When I tell you I literally went through the same thing recently! I avoided hair salons due to bad experiences over the years. There’s also not that many to choose from where I’m at, but I kept trying to give them a chance and it was always horrible. I finally gave up and did my own hair for years. Then I finally found the best natural hair stylist last year. I let her style my hair a few times before I let her give me a trim and when I did, she cut off SO MUCH because they were SO bad! I went from mid back to like shoulder length. I went home and cried lmaooo but girl when I tell you 4-5 months later my hair was basically right back to where it was pre trim! I was shook. Caring for your ends is the way to retain length! I am a firm believer in professional trims on blown out hair now! Love this video!
Wow but how do you retain length then? If you cut of say half an inch every month, and that’s how much it grows in that month, you won’t see any difference
@@jessicapeyton5444 you don't trim every month sis , most stylist say come every 8-12 weeks. I get a trim every 3 months and last year i still retained 4,5 inches. This year I want to retain more so I'll change my detangling technique to limit breakage
I understand how hard it is to cutting your hair🥲 my stylist use to tell me all the time i needed to cut my hair every 2 months. I didnt listen. Fast forward to 2020 and my ends were horrible and i big chopped. I cut about 7 inchs off and did the bi monthly trims.... now my hair is longer then it was in 2020 and now i am a stretched natural doing the tension method and my routine is extremely simple. I hope everything continue to go well in your journey 😍
July 2019 I got my first big chop. 4 months later, I cut it even shorter, my sides and back shaved to the scalp. I found a wonderful natural hairstylist that taught me so much about my hair and natural hair health. Prior to going back natural I would trim my hair once, maybe twice a year. Now…I get my natural hair trimmed every 3 to 4 months. Some people may think, how do you retain length trimming your hair so often? Believe me, you do. I was also a non believer to this until I saw the results. My hair grew sis and retained length. After keeping it short because I like the style of it, I decided to grow my hair out. In less than a year my hair grew from being close cut to my scalp to neck length all while getting trims every 3 months. Learning our hair is an ongoing process because it also changes with the environment, age, health and so on. Mine changed a lot when I hit my 30’s and having kids. So I’m forever learning but having a good routine and regular trims are essential. Your hair journey will continue to be the bomb because you’re continuing to learn your hair and what works for you. You will be at bcl hair in no time sis.
Girl listen, I just took my locs out (had them for almost a year) and my hair was wrecked 😭. Just had a trim/mini cut on Tuesday and will cut the rest in 6 months. Girl them split ends TRAVELED 💀. #BCLH is still in effect even though I lost/will be losing a lot of length. We got this ❤️
I feel you. I haven't cut my hair in forever (years) other that single strand knots and tangles. Sigh, now this reinforces that I need to get my hair blow dried and trimmed/cut. Face palm - I hate cutting my hair. But your hair looks so awesome! Truly! This video will help a lot of people.
Find a stylist and get it professionally cut it’s long overdue girl. Then stick to a regular trim schedule. That’s what’s best for your hair health and length retention.
Same thing happened to me. I just did a silk press and I felt like so much had to be cut off and I’ve been so sad. My hair was growing, I had gone back to DIYs and my curl length was giving what it was supposed to give! I even thought my ends were good since I did little trims while my hair was in twists. Well I guess I wasn’t trimming enough cause when my stylist took a pic of my hair and showed me what needed to be cut off I wanted to cry! Felt like I did everything wrong! All that length I grew thinking I had the green thumb is just gone smh.
OMG same thing happened with me 3 months ago. I wanted to cry. When hair straight a nice length. Used no heat 😂this has happened tome several times. Almost ready to give up
as a licensed cosmetologist (23 years) in the video when u trimmed it yourself I could see that u needed more trimmed don't worry about the length just make sure it's healthy because healthy hair will flourish your hair looks so good now. U should use protein I would say every six weeks
So as a stylist by you saying that you feel that your job is important aka essential worker?! Are you saying I have no choice to go to a stylist to do my hair?! Bad enough there’s health care insurance now hair?!
@@titlepending1302 as a cosmetologist yes I do..... if u are unable to do your own hair the correct way because being natural does not mean u don't have to/need to seek a professional... I have seen more and more UA-camers have to just about do the big chop because they are or have been promoting length over health and when they do trim their own the NEVER cut off what's needed
@@milolimes7817 I agree. I'm natural but I go and get my hair done almost every two weeks. I get my hair blown out 3-4x a year to trim. Length is nice but I truly prefer healthy hair. I just did a huge chop really, really short and I love it. I think we need to stress going to a professional for color, haircut and maintenance.
You’re one of the realest natural hair UA-camrs to be able to make this video! Natural hair is really a journey and I appreciate your transparency in your journey. Your hair will be back at your pre-cut length (+longer) in no time with your techniques and great product choices.
Love love love love the fact that you said that you’re woman enough to admit that you were wrong! BIG props to you girl 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 very admirable. And now that I’ve seen this video, I can admit that I’m having the same issue. I did a big chop in September 2019 and it grew really well the first year but I’m going into my 3rd year and my hair has plateaued sooooooooo maybe I really need that cut 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL
I couldn't tell either that there was an issue with your ends but now with the new cut I can tell the difference, hair looks more full and no see through. Wishing you the best getting a lot of the length back. I'll be watching 👀 ❤
Your cut/hair is gorgeous but for me personally, as long as my hair in the natural state looks good and healthy, I'm not trimming more than once a year🌻Also, not interested in too much heat in my hair in regards to blowouts or flatiron 🌹
Have you been feeling ok lately? I noticed some other natural hair YTrs had hair setbacks recently and I think the stress from the current craziness could also be a culprit. Sometimes it's hard to crank out content, stay in your bag and take care of everything else all with a smile for the camera. That hair will certainly grow back but be gentle on yourself, the pressure to be perfect all the time is real. Love your realness and vids, blessings 💕
I’m so glad you made this video ! I was going to try to do it myself but this is a sign to stop being cheap & find a stylist. Just because I had a bad experience before doesn’t mean every stylist is bad, Thanks for your transparency.
Hey SheRea! Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us. I know you are upset about how much length you had to cut off, but now you know what is necessary for length retention and in turn, you've helped us as well. Your hair is going to thrive as you start implementing your new plan going forward. I, too, need a good trim/cut because it has been a while for me so I guess I need to schedule that appointment. Thanks for the transparency and congrats on another sponsorship!
The thing I noticed about. Using oils and butters is that they camouflage split ends. My hair always looks good when I do it as well I never notice how many split ends I have until I blow it out without oils and butters, then I can see them really well and subsequently I cut them off. This cut looks 🔥 on you 🌸. I have fine hair as well, and I can get to midback length pretty easily, but once he gets past that length it tends to start being raggedy and I have to cut it regardless of what I do to it. I’m rooting for your booty crack wilengthair though, I am so here for it!
This is relatable because I had to big chop my nearly waist legnth hair in Oct 2021.. Though my issues were a bit different.. I thought I had a handle on my hair health.. I'd grown my hair out over the years using "protective styles" that I learned the very hard way weren't truly protective.. I went to a "cut it kinky" alum stylist and got an earful of information on the true state of my hair.. And she was right.. I did go in for my follow up trim at the 12wk mark and after implementing the techniques I'd learned in my initial visit my hair has done a 180.. My stylist approved that I appear to now be on the right track.. I previously avoided heat of any kind, I got a curly cut/trim and so still am not blowing out my hair.. I am using my hooded dryer weekly to set my wash and go styles.. I can't wait to see what this head of hair of mine can do, now that I have partnered with a natrual hair stylist..
Thanks for being so vulnerable with us. I'm sure it wasn't easy especially with all the time that you have invested in your hair. Trims are so important like you mentioned and I feel like at times as naturals, we may not trim because our hair looks good or we don't use that much heat. A lot of naturals say that you shouldn't trim on a consistent schedule and you should only trim when your having difficulty with your hair. I disagree with that because like you said, that didn't happen for you. You felt like your hair was healthy. I feel like trimming every 3-4 months shouldn't be an issue.
I can completely relate to this. I, too, was terrified of heat that I refused to blow it out for trims. I always trimmed my hair in twists. But when I went to a professional for the first time in my natural hair journey, I ended up having to cut too much of my hair off because it was so uneven. Now, I just use my revair on low heat settings but high suctions and thats how I trim
This video is refreshing and I appreciate the honesty. I think BCLH doesn’t need to be the goal. I feel like when you just try to maintain a routine and don’t worry about length you actually get the length. There are so many curly UA-camrs out there pulling their hair down showing ‘length’ that looks like an upside down triangle and new naturals might think that’s what healthy hair should be. I feel the struggle and understand not wanting to lose the length but in the long run it’s better to be healthy and short than long and straggly at the end. I absolutely love your current haircut tbh. Welcome to team health over length 😁
Honestly I do enjoy your DIY's but am not even gonna lie I had to cut back from doing your DIY's because they were causing my hair to dry out. It made my hair grow for sure But the protein overload was REAL. I think thats what really happen to your hair too. I think its best to keep a balance in your hair regimen. Or there burst...one minute do DIY for a month, next Month do regular hair products, etc.
My issue wasn’t dryness. I personally alternate weekly between moisture and strength and so, I don’t think that was the issue. Not properly trimming for 3 years was.
Thank you for your honesty! I love that about you! I, too, have had many, many bad experiences with stylists for decades. My hair is doing so much better since going natural and caring for my own hair. However, I will now go back to a stylist for regular trimming… maybe 2-3 times a year.
Ugh humility is such a bittersweet thing. Had my own humble-me moment today. But you’re all the more beautiful for it sis ❤️✨ keep growing inside and out because we absolutely love you and your content 🤗 dust off the exceptional haters. This is your journey and it is a blessed one that keeps on giving (like this twistout-chef’s kiss 😚👌🏾)
Do you think you'd be able to try stretching your washes to every 2 weeks for a trial period? For me, low manipulation is key, and I found that I was losing almost the same amount of hair doing weekly washes as I did doing bi-weekly washes. That meant that some of that hair loss I had during the weekly wash wasn't just shed hair. I just go really heavy handed on wash day with the leave-in, cream, and light butter and gel to keep the hair moisturized and hold the style for the 2 weeks. I also go in after week 1 with an oilier but water-based moisturizer and press/squeeze it into my existing set style.
I started doing this as well .. I wash my hair every two week now . My hair couldn’t handle weekly washing … after 1 week I just refresh/moisturize my hair and that’s only if it feels dry … I’ve seen a big difference so far .
Your hair looks sooo much healthier and thicker since your recent 4 inch chop.( that’s what it appeared to me…4inches it so). I paused your old photos and I definitely saw the ends not looking like they do now. You did the right thing by your hair! It’s beautiful!
Sherea I think the henna is what is causing the problem with your hair. It happened with me. Henna ruined my hair and I had to cut booty crack length to shoulder length. I have now just been using amla, matcha green tea and cocoa powder instead of henna and my hair is thriving. Try it mama ❤️
I used henna too until I read that it slowly destroys hair. If the goal is bclh, I’d let the henna go. The rest of your regimen, similar to mine, is stellar. I didn’t miss the henna when I cut it. Your curls are beautiful! Good luck!
Come on sponsorships!!! Love that for you!! We already been discussing over on the Insider so I’m just here to watch and support! We chat over there. 😘
SO MANY Hair Channel UA-camrs who 'give advice' on hair end up having to cut their hair all off. Makes u wonder why they're giving advice when they obviously don't know what they're doing...
Yup I do the same, I go to a stylist every 3 months for a silk press and trim and I do the search and destroy method in between and my hair has never been better since I blow dry my hair more often too and I don’t use all those heavy butters and oils anymore that stuff weighed my fine hair down so much and dehydrated it , now I just wash condition and a gel or foam to style my hair is thriving now! 😍
Timely video!!! Just did my first silk press on Friday and ladiessss I was shocked. Yes, I had length but the health is not there. So I trimmed a little and will be trimming periodically throughout the year with the same stylist. I was so disappointed but so happy that I was able to get the real on my hair and not just go by how it looks when it’s in its natural state. I also use satin pillowcase and silk scrunchies. Silk/Satin everything!!! For hair
Getting a professional trim always gives me an aha moment. I’ve been going once a year but I decided this last time that I would do every 4-6 months and see how my hair responds and more often if needed. Great video- we are all learning our hair and it’s ok! Thank you!!!
Yes, for the sponsorship, and it's something that I can use!🤣 🤣 This video is something that will benefit many naturals, and I'm so glad that you have come to the realization that hair needs to be trimmed. It doesn't stop us from achieving length it actually helps us reach the lengths we want. I saw your reaction when peeps told you that you should trim off more than you did, and as much as it hurt to see you keep the damaged ends I just kept it to myself and hoped that you would figure it out. With all the great things you do for your hair, you will regain those lost inches before you know it, and this time with proper trimming you'll sail right past your previous longest length! I truly look forward to seeing you reach BCLH!!!💜 💜
Love the transparency and your current cut is hella cute! I big chopped a year and a half ago and have also been afraid to got to a stylist, but I've recently noticed my detangling and wash day getting harder and i'm almost certain it's cuz I need a trim, so I've booked a stylist for next week! Wish me luck!
Thanks for the transparency! I was humbled in the same way but nothing beats a professional looking at the back of your hair and the interior to see where needs to be cut. I'm now finishing my hairdressing course in the UK and one thing I've regularly done is protein treatments and trims whilst being a hair model .My hair has never been so healthy and its low porosity!I feel a shift with stylists stepping up to meet the needs of the natural hair community. I'm intrigued to know how curly specialists keep on top of split ends though!?
I blow my hair out every wash day with my Revair. I actually believe this is one of the reasons Im able to retain length. Air drying my hair always made my hair stiff and difficult to style. Your hair is gonna bounce back to its length pre cut. It's easier to grow hair out when you have the proper tools and techniques. I can't wait to watch your journey. The cut is also giving everything 🙌🏾
Learning and growing together sis, that's what a community is all about. We will have so much knowledge to share with each other and the generation that comes after us so that others won't have to suffer through the same things. Bless you and them cute Grecian Goddess curls
So crazy seeing this tonight. I just finished blow drying & flat ironing my hair and was tempted to trim a bit. I went to a stylist back in November and trimmed it for me but I was tight because I had just saw her in April and she trimmed it then too 😂 Now I guess this is a sign for me to make an appointment and let her do her professional thang. Your hair will be thriving and shining soon enough for sure!
I appreciate your transparency. It takes a mature and responsible adult to admit their flaws. I’m glad that you’re publicly saying this. My daughter has fought me for a year and a half on not wanting to EVER blow dry her hair. So I explained this same theory to her. As a natural we usually don’t need trims as frequently but, once you learn your hair you’ll know your frequency of needing a trim/cut. My hair requires at least once a year. Good luck on your journey. There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes only not learning from them. Let the BCLH journey continue….
The same thing happened to my 11 year old. I feel so guilty! I also thought keeping the heat out of her hair and clipping her ends in twists was best. I know better now that she has lost 5 inches to split ends.
I wish you had gone to a Deva stylist for your cut. I'm trying to understand why this stylist felt the need to blow your hair out and cut it even when you wear your hair curly.
I might have to try this. I do my trims at home but always trimmed in mini 2-strand twists. Think I’ll at least invest in a good blow dryer and heat protectant and blow it out. The young lady I went to in December (first time in a salon for natural hair in years) did a phenomenal job; however, not only did she suggest coming back every 6-8 weeks, she said I would need my hair flat ironed each time. NO. Lol. I’ll also aim for every 3 months, 4 months max.
PRAISE HIM SHEREA!!!! I LEFT OUT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF TELLING YOU ABOUT MY RICE WATER DEBACLE. MY HAIR GOT BACK ON TRACK TO A HEALTHY AND GROWING STATE THROUGH YOUR PRE-POO AND CLAY MASK VIDEOS. YOUR MIXTURE OF AYURVEDIC INGREDIENTS REALLY WORKED FOR MY HAIR. WHENEVER YOU MENTIONED RICE WATER, I HAD TO DISMISS IT BECAUSE I HAD ALREADY SUFFERED GREAT HAIR LOSS BECAUSE OF IT. THANKS FOR BEING TRANSPARENT AND ALL THE BEST ON YOUR HAIR GROWTH JOURNEY.
Oh yes girl! I had a similar experience with henna. My 4c low porosity hair does not like Henna at all!! Rice Water and Henna can be used by us low porosity girlies, but it has to used sparingly (maybe once a quarter) with lots of additional moisturizing ingredients. One youtuber, adds a few tablespoons of honey to her rice water and only uses once every 8 weeks. I never tried rice water because my hair is low porosity/protein sensitive, but want to try SheRea's recipe with honey added. Further, Green Beauty recommends that the rice be boiled first (to remove the starch) prior to allowing it to ferment in water. She also said the longer you allow the rice to sit, the more protein content. So only allow it to sit for a few hours.
Thank you for talking about this! I went through something similar a few years ago. As you talked about it’s important to take off as much damage as you can. I feel like too many people talk about stretching out trims and cutting as little as possible. That actually causes more damage. One of the signs I’ve recognized as my needing a trim is when my hair isn’t retaining length. ✂️
Your hair cut is beautiful! Your hair will grow back. We all have been through issues with our natural hair, we all are learning all of the time! Love your videos!💗💗💗🙏🏽
@14:39-15:20 - Yes, yes and yes!!! My younger sister gave me the trim/mini cut and walked me through everything. I love that she gave me the option to take all off now or cut a proper amount and come back in a few months so my hair wasn’t super short. I do feel like the light "dusting" we do at home is beneficial (if you can clearly see that it needs to be done). It’s unfortunate that you had to give up a lot of length because you genuinely didn’t notice how bad the ends were. I feel like my hair does the same thing to me which is why I’m much more adamant about going to a professional to have a proper trim every so often so that I’m not the reason I have to give up my length. I thoroughly enjoyed this video and I’m SO glad you shared this because I literally experienced the same thing. Thanks for your transparency as always, you gone get it back sis ❤️
It is absolutely not a setback. You learned something that you needed to learn. I trim every 4 months because I realize I can’t fully see what’s going on in the back of my head, lol. My progress is slower but definitely steady. Your length will be back but with those thick ends before you know it ♥️♥️♥️😘
I feel you 100% it’s so hard to let go of length. It takes a few weeks to get over it and that’s okay! I look forward to watch you grow you hair back!❤️
Appreciate the transparency in this video! I’m experiencing a setback with my hair too so I definitely understand the frustration! Thank you for sharing 💗
This happened to me too. I got two professional trims in the last 6 months and my hair is better than ever! My hair is shorter but it’s fuller. I have growing hair but I am not above split ends
Lately I have been seeing a lot of Natural Hair You Tubers with damaged hair. They also have to cut quite a bit off, I also had similar experience. Two weeks ago my Hairdresser cut three inches off. My heart sank when I saw all that hair on the floor, I was about to take pictures but told myself to let it go. Honestly I have been picking up extra shifts for the Holidays and did not keep up with my routine. I avoid heat especially blow dryer, only do this once per year in the Summer for a fancy updo just one.. Having said this I usually have a lot more shedding during fall and winter Months but this year I have the most. My hair grew a lot during early pandemic when the shops were closed three was no blow dryer being used so I continued this trend.
So glad to hear you say trim my/your hair! Now that you found a stylist that makes you feel comfortable, follow their advice, “trim your hair every 6 to 8 weeks”! Trust the professional. I will continue to follow your journey to BCLH!
I do appreciate the honesty in this video! The second half of 2021 was a bad year for me, I knew my ends were damaged, I just didn’t do anything about it. January 2022, I went to a professional and had a lot of length removed because the ends were so bad. I’ve been using your tips to build a stricter hair care regimen. I also vowed to make an investment this year and get my hair trimmed professionally every 3 months. The stylist advised that given how fine my hair is and more prone to breakage. In just two months, using your pre poo and oil mixes, my fine hair looks so much fuller. I feel confident that I’ll be able to gain length and retain it this year.
You are so brave to come on here and show where you went wrong in your routine and your full transparency only shows that you’re one of the natural hair influencers that we can actually trust. Also, I’m sorry that this happened to you and you don’t deserve it because you work incredibly hard on your hair. Natural hair can be so unforgiving. It’s not fair.
You don’t have to see split and you can feel them. Trim your hair every 10 to 12 weeks. Leave the guesswork out. Don’t keep doing the same thing you’ve always done and expect different results? Okay then.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾yesss you can feeeeL those dead split ends!! Mine feel very frizzy and they dry out very easy cause they are "Dead Ends" cannot go forward except up the hair shaft.
Agreed. I can feel and see the split ends and I don't use heat. I keep my hair stretched by wearing them in twists and Bantu knots. Leaving my hair out in puffs guarantees knots, dry ends and breakage. DIY and washing not shampooing my hair weekly has allowed me to retain length. I use, honey, glycerin and hyaluronic acid on my ends to keep them hydrated and prevent splitting and breakage. My plan is to get a silk press in 4 years from Dyson in Texas. He uses a process he developed called Porcelain Press.
When they said natural hair journey they meant that ish with their chest! Sheesh!! But accountability is king, and so is your relationship with a trusted stylist. You got this girl 💛 summer twist out about to be on another level. Can’t wait to see it
I feel you 100%. I had to do a trim/cut myself 2 months ago after 2 years + . Felt like it was alot also but was needed. Plus side my twist outs and wash and goes have been popping more.
Me knowing damn well my hair hasn't been retaining as much length this last year and half 😭😭 let me go ahead and trim these ends. I keep doing bits and bits but it might be time to let them go
Your cut is fabulous! I think finding a stylist is key - I’ve noticed a big difference in my own hair once I found a stylist. She put me on a quarterly trim schedule and my hair is loving it.
I'm so glad you said this about cuz a lot of women you know don't like to cut their hair they want to stay with the length but it's important to do that 💜😘
That’s why I like my trims on blow dried hair. The best trim is on straightened hair but I don’t silk press. Nothing wrong with them, it’s just nothing that I personally do. And I do it quarterly.
I hate blowdrying my hair becuz it takes 4hrs no matter what dryer I use. That's not including my prepoo(detangling)1-2hrs. Shampoo 20mins. Deep Conditioning 2-3hrs(detangling). So not something I'm a fan of 🥴😩
Firstly thank you for uploading this video, your honesty is rare in today's world. You thought you thought you were doing the best for your hair and you just made a mistake it happens to all of us. Thank you for sharing your honesty and girl that twist out is everything in my life the I'm actually looks good on you because it frames your face.
Your hair is 🔥. The curls are popping 😍The cut looks so good on you 🔥 Health over unhealthy length is what I believe in. You will grow your hair back in a healthier way going forward😘❤️. Give it a year and you’ll be back to the length, and even more healthier than pre cut😘
I'm so in love with this cut on you. Because you do the right things to/for your hair, it'll be back to BCLH in no time. Healthy hair is the best hair.
I swear by a good stylist. I’ve had the same one for my entire five years of being natural. My routine is like yours and I only get trims every 3-4 months which my stylist always tells me is because of my routine so thanks sis!! It looks great but I know it’s still hard. BCLH here we come 🎉🎉🎉🎉
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WoW. You go girl. Congrats on the new career. Lovely to see another female helping the female masses get BCLH, we can do it together with out so much fear and doubt. And doing it in a healthier fashion. With real time help. Woohoo. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽✌🏽
Do you play with your hair a lot? That could explain why your ends were damaged. I'm newly natural. Your hair looks full in its textured state. I'd just wear it textured rather than blowed out straight.
This is something that I swear by. BLOWDRY YALL HAIR. It’s not going to damage it if done properly. I blowdry my hair once a month sometimes even twice. And my hair is fine. I can see all those knots properly and snip them bfr it gets worse. I don’t who made us believe that heat was the devil. I’ve seen so many girls with waist length hair who haven’t blown their hair out for years and when they finally get a silk press, half of it is damage.
Amen! I second that. I was a blow dry natural that just transitioned into being a straight natural, and I can attest to heat being essential - at least it is for me. Heat is not the devil like a lot of naturals think it is.
Truth
Amen!!! I found out the hard way too. I lost 4 inches and still need to cut more😖🤦🏾♀️
Well damn waist length and still damage 🥺
THANK YOU. Thats crazy.
I've been a blowdryed-natural for almost a year now and ever since then, I've retained so much length! It cuts down on knots and tangles that would've been guaranteed had I kept my hair in its natural state. It also helped me to see my ends, to which I can dust when need be. My hair stops just about 2 inches above my tailbone 🤎
I truly believe it
Thank you for this comment! I've been considering being a primarily blow dried natural but was curious about other people's experiences with it and potential heat damage.
@@XoxoNikkiEsquire No problem beautiful! Believe me, I was afraid of heat myself. But I realized that heat isn't the issue. Its how you utilize it. If you use it responsibly, there's a 100% guarantee that your hair will always revert. What really gave me the green light to become a blowdryed-natural is another black sista on here by the name of GreenBeauty. She's a chemist and goes in detail about the benefits of keeping type 4 hair stretched; as well as a step-by-step process on how she uses heat to stretch her hair. I would definitely check her out!! You will NOT regret it boo! 🥰😇
@Trinity M It actually doesn't. My hair still obtains its natural textures. I've worn my hair completely natural for well over 12 years. However, the longer it's gotten, I realized that wearing it in its complete shrunken state can cause it to become tangled which leads to single strand knots and breakage. Safely stretching it with a cool shot airflow or just low heat, non-excessively, will not damage your natural curl pattern, and promotes length retention. After doing this for about almost a year, my hair has grown 4 inches and is just above my tailbone. And every wash day, my hair reverts to its natural state, and I make sure to add strengthening agents to ensure it's health. Many indigenous African tribes naturally use banding methods to keep their hair stretched as well. 🤎❤💗
@@laniiyahscott143 how often do you get your hair wet and blow dry it? Do you always blow dry it after getting it wet. I like to wet my hair almost everyday in the shower (not wash, I only shampoo once a week) maybe I shouldn’t be wetting it as often but my main question is how often do you blow dry?
I know the aim is BCLH but this cut is so fire on you and the curls are popping
Thank you so much!
Yes! Her curls are everything!
Totally agree!
What is BCLH?
@@panda22518 booty crack length hair lol
Heat styling you hair is also important to see your roots as well (not just your ends). I used to get a blowout only once or twice a year and it took me a while to notice that my hair had thinned so much that you could see my scalp. It was only noticeable when my hair was straightened, which was practically never. I went to the dermatologist and was diagnosed with lupus, which was what was thinning my hair. Straighten your hair a few times a year and it will help give you a glimpse into your health!
Wow that’s crazyyyy. Glad you’re well ❤️
yep in cos school we are thought to look for the signs of poor health or changes.
im currently in school finishing this year and stylist are really not just stylist. and any nail tech, enthusiastic and so on. the amount of medical information we learn is astounding. i was very shocked. but it helps to better assist clients with what is truly going on with your hair. cause it could be medical. and the first thing we are to suggest is seek medical attention.
i have learned it's not just about slap this product on to thicken your hair or for length retention. or so on and so on.
that consultation portion is sooo important.
it made me appreciate the stylist before me to include my mom that took hair care super serious. and value stylist that wouldn't just style my hair without shampooing. becuase they looked at the whole health of the hair.
i pray that all is well with you.
Were you able to regrow your thinning hair? If so, what did you use?
After the lupus medication started working, my hair did start to grow back, but not to its full glory…I think primarily because I’m in my late 30s which is around the age your hair and body stops rejuvenating itself like it used to anyway. I use hair growth pills by a brand called Advanced Trichology, but I have no idea if they’re really working or not.
Tbh I don’t like the concept. Straight hair is not naturally Afro textured hair. I understand what you mean but you should not be forced into applying heat on your hair your hair to see the health. If you are aware of your hair in it’s natural state you shouldn’t have to straighten it to know if it’s damaged.
My hair is high porosity. My hair doesn’t really do well with heat. Any amount of heat I use always leaves minor heat damage unless it’s on the lowest temperature that doesn’t get it straight enough. How about doing monthly scalp checks and parting the scalp in sections .. heat is not for everyone especially if you have naturally high porosity 🤷🏽♀️. We are taught that seeing hair health is based on straightened hair . Not true , natural hair has different characteristics to know if damaged . many people miss it because Afro textured hair wasn’t researched as much as straight hair
I almost had a heart attack when I had to blow dry my hair for my wedding. First time in almost 10 years I've had heat in my hair. I've never had a trim so because of this video, I'm going to go get my hair sorted. Pray for me guys 😫.
Sending love and light
The pray for me guys part, lol
How did it go sis 👀👀
Literally here for an update on how it went 😆
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This makes a lot more sense as to why ppl with straight hair cut their hair so much bc they can more easily see the damage. Us kinky gurls unless we straighten it can so easily be tricked while our hair is in its natural state 😭 always something being natural
dawg!! Always something
When I saw your salon visit and the blow out I knew exactly what went wrong. Trimming your hair on blown out or straight hair is the BEST way to go. Sorry for your loss but it’ll grow back fast and healthy. I always say bad ends are like fake friends…who needs them! 💜
Period!
I really appreciate the honesty in this video. So often influencers aren’t honest about setbacks and struggles, and it’s really good to see someone like you, with a platform/following, really show that it’s ok to have a setback. And that’s all it is. A setback. This cut on you is gorgeous, but your inches will be back in no time. This hair of ours is always a learning process. Lol. I’ve finally learned that I can care for my hair best when it’s short, because I have MS and it wears me out. With it short, I can be cute with a shorter wash day and a wash and go. Then I’ll live vicariously through all my ladies with beautiful growing and long hair. BCLH is right around the corner for you still. ❤️❤️
I just went thru this same thing so don’t be discouraged! We gon grow these strands on out girl 🥰💖
We is girl, we is!
Me too I have never seen so many people losing hair at the same time.
It’s best to remove all the split ends and breakage now and get trims regularly every 8-12 weeks. Long term it will benefit you and you will have healthy long thick hair. No point to keep bad ends. Also focus on your nutrition, supplements, hydration, exercise. Our hair is a reflection of our health. I would also recommend avoiding diys since it is not possible to determine the ph of those products. Purchase products that work for your hair porosity and have the proper ph. In 2-3 years you can reach your long hair goals. Be patient and consistent. It’s a journey but the results are worth the wait. Your hair looks nice now but it can be better.
it could also be some things aren't necessary so much. To deep condition EVERY time you wash. Protein treat EVERY time and other things too. Just maybe do those things once a month or so. and rest of the time just shamp, condi (no deep) and then rinse out and put in your moisturizer, do a simple style with your hair unless you are going somewhere special. Lay down the synth hair. Don't use that so much. There's chemicals in there too. Vinegar washed may not be enough to get it out. And you are right about other factors going on internal. Also external environment. Make sure that is good too.
There's a lot of Tubers now having to cut off their hair, some bald, and that tells me its due to since they are Tubers and have to stay with trends and keep things 'fresh' with their content AND using themselves as a guinea pig with these products they have to use this brand new stuff and manipulate their hair a lot to keep their channels going. That in itself will cause these issues too.
@Trinity M
Well some things are important to know. Like women used to deep condition kind of sparingly not EVERY single week or however many times they wash their hair. It was something like a "spa" day thing in a sense. Many women had long and healthy hair without all of this extra. I come from that time and it is possible. For those that want to do more steps it is ok just that it isn't as necessary as some make it out to be. Some people ACTUALLY think a lot of steps and all of that time are absolutely necessary which is what causes them to LITERALLY have a whole wash DAY for just their hair. Same some/many say about skincare and the 12 and more steps some believe they have to do. Doesn't mean it won't work but its the matter of necessity. Not a thing to do with laziness either.
When my detangling becomes so bad that's an indicator for me that I need a serious trim instead of dusting. I usually do a blowout once a year, I need to start doing it more often.
My detangling has never been bad. I was hoodwinked
Thank you for being transparent! Really enjoyed the video. I follow several natural hair youtubers and most of them had several inches cut off (recently) after finally going to a professional stylist. Getting a professional trim, at least quarterly, is a requirement for length retention. It is not optional.
Now I know and I’m never going back
It’s the ownershiip, growth, and adjustment for me. When we know better; we do better. Much respect and appreciation Hun. Keep doing your thing!!By the way, the shape is mad cute!
This cut is fire on you!!! Those ends will always hold you back! I learned that early on and once I became a stylist, I completely understood why trims are so necessary. I preach about them til I’m blue in the face 😆 Even if I have to progressively trim to help a client through the process, I do it so their hair stays healthy!
I believe it
You seem interesting but you probably located somewhere in Texas or up a north somewhere so I can’t go to you 😅
@@titlepending1302 You’re right, Wisconsin 🤦🏽♀️🤣
I 💕 the word "progressively"🙂
Health over length. Lessons learned. You look FABULOUS! I hope there is a video of you styling your hair like that. I'm learning twist outs now.
Heat isn't the enemy, and the natural hair community has been in fear of it for so long because I think there is a lack of understanding. Heat has its uses, and one of them is allowing you to see how your hair truly is doing. Be afraid of heat if you are not properly protecting your hair before applying Heat, or just not caring for your hair properly at all.
Most definitely!
So agree with you. I also rarely hear about heat damage from blow drying. I know that it can happen, but it's rare since the blow dryer can't get extremely hot.
What is a good brand of heat protector?
Agreed…
@@SELFCAREMODEL Cantu has one; Design essential has one; Chi has one; etc. I normally wash my own hair, add the Mane Choice Leave in Conditioner, and allow a natural hair stylist to blow dry and trim at least every 3 months.
I don’t understand why people need to see their ends before getting it trimmed… if it’s been 3 months, it’s time for a trim. Period. If your ends are healthy, it’ll just be a light dusting. But you’ll never have see through ends if you just follow a consistent schedule.
Facts 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Once a season.
Truth! First off, I can feel the ends in my natural state. I know the difference. Know your hair.. I remove my dead ends in it's natural state.. When I go to the hair dresser to get my hair straightened, my hair dresser is always amazed at the state of my hair and my ends.
We love an accountable queen ❤️ it is what it is, journeys have ups AND downs unfortunately but now that you know, we ALL can learn from it! I’ve also come to learn that heat and trims really aren’t the enemy with the right preparation and or in the right hands
People are so miserable.. imagine anonymously gossiping about someone else’s hair 🥴
Folks busy lol. It personally tickles me
@@SheReaDelSol all you can do is laugh at the foolishness these days!
This is why I only trim my hair when I get a silk press because I'm afraid of cutting too much or too little without seeing the actual length. Therefore, you are right about kinky curly hair. Fine strands, low to medium density and or porous hair are more prone to breakage. Anyway, I know you hate cutting those inches but your hair will grow back. Health over length.
I feel like damaged hair is based on someone else’s hair needs. If we follow our own regimens and understand our hair based on what it feels like and what it wants , we would prevent further damage. I started my own hair journey last year for good. after listening to what UA-camrs hair loved, I realized their hair wasn’t mine so I stopped listening .My hair just didn’t grow until I got my own regimen. my hair wouldn’t be able to withstand too much styling throughout the week . I feel like the over styling can possibly damage the hair and the use of different products. I know this is your job, but not all hair can withstand that amount of styling . My hair is sooo long now and the longest it’s ever been in a year. I grew to bra strap length in 2 months after struggling with armpit length just by clipping / dusting my ends every 2 months.. online says trim when needed but some people can go 3-4 months, my hair can only go 2 months.. but my hair has grown Chile !!!! My ends were the problem also that it wasn’t growing ..Your strands look medium to fine density so the strand isn’t as strong as a coarse stand, the more you style, the more you have to trim more frequently.. I’m high porosity so trimming is needed . I wear a wash and go every week styled and leave it like that until wash day, and repeat
One thing I've learned is less is more with my hair. I shampoo deep condition condition and apply my leave in. Thats all and my hair has been actually growing. And I do my regular trims
When I tell you I literally went through the same thing recently! I avoided hair salons due to bad experiences over the years. There’s also not that many to choose from where I’m at, but I kept trying to give them a chance and it was always horrible. I finally gave up and did my own hair for years.
Then I finally found the best natural hair stylist last year. I let her style my hair a few times before I let her give me a trim and when I did, she cut off SO MUCH because they were SO bad! I went from mid back to like shoulder length. I went home and cried lmaooo but girl when I tell you 4-5 months later my hair was basically right back to where it was pre trim! I was shook. Caring for your ends is the way to retain length! I am a firm believer in professional trims on blown out hair now! Love this video!
I avoided them for the same reasons. Thanks, I needed to hair this.
Wow but how do you retain length then? If you cut of say half an inch every month, and that’s how much it grows in that month, you won’t see any difference
Your hair grows very fast then. It would take me years to go from shoulder to mid back length.
@@jessicapeyton5444 you don't trim every month sis , most stylist say come every 8-12 weeks. I get a trim every 3 months and last year i still retained 4,5 inches. This year I want to retain more so I'll change my detangling technique to limit breakage
@@brothersco8723 how are you going to change your technique?
I understand how hard it is to cutting your hair🥲 my stylist use to tell me all the time i needed to cut my hair every 2 months. I didnt listen. Fast forward to 2020 and my ends were horrible and i big chopped. I cut about 7 inchs off and did the bi monthly trims.... now my hair is longer then it was in 2020 and now i am a stretched natural doing the tension method and my routine is extremely simple. I hope everything continue to go well in your journey 😍
thanks for the encouragement!
July 2019 I got my first big chop. 4 months later, I cut it even shorter, my sides and back shaved to the scalp. I found a wonderful natural hairstylist that taught me so much about my hair and natural hair health. Prior to going back natural I would trim my hair once, maybe twice a year. Now…I get my natural hair trimmed every 3 to 4 months. Some people may think, how do you retain length trimming your hair so often? Believe me, you do. I was also a non believer to this until I saw the results. My hair grew sis and retained length. After keeping it short because I like the style of it, I decided to grow my hair out. In less than a year my hair grew from being close cut to my scalp to neck length all while getting trims every 3 months. Learning our hair is an ongoing process because it also changes with the environment, age, health and so on. Mine changed a lot when I hit my 30’s and having kids. So I’m forever learning but having a good routine and regular trims are essential. Your hair journey will continue to be the bomb because you’re continuing to learn your hair and what works for you. You will be at bcl hair in no time sis.
Girl listen, I just took my locs out (had them for almost a year) and my hair was wrecked 😭. Just had a trim/mini cut on Tuesday and will cut the rest in 6 months. Girl them split ends TRAVELED 💀. #BCLH is still in effect even though I lost/will be losing a lot of length. We got this ❤️
We do ❤️❤️❤️
This is why I love you and your channel because of your honesty and truth on the natural hair journey.
Somebody has to keep it real ❤️
I feel you. I haven't cut my hair in forever (years) other that single strand knots and tangles. Sigh, now this reinforces that I need to get my hair blow dried and trimmed/cut. Face palm - I hate cutting my hair. But your hair looks so awesome! Truly! This video will help a lot of people.
Find a stylist and get it professionally cut it’s long overdue girl. Then stick to a regular trim schedule. That’s what’s best for your hair health and length retention.
@@Aphrodite01 I always get a professional trim no matter what. Dusting is ok but in my opinion it doesn't take the place of a professional cut or trim
Same thing happened to me. I just did a silk press and I felt like so much had to be cut off and I’ve been so sad. My hair was growing, I had gone back to DIYs and my curl length was giving what it was supposed to give! I even thought my ends were good since I did little trims while my hair was in twists. Well I guess I wasn’t trimming enough cause when my stylist took a pic of my hair and showed me what needed to be cut off I wanted to cry! Felt like I did everything wrong! All that length I grew thinking I had the green thumb is just gone smh.
OMG same thing happened with me 3 months ago. I wanted to cry. When hair straight a nice length. Used no heat 😂this has happened tome several times. Almost ready to give up
@@amiemurphy1824 I’m just going to wear braids for a while. I can never go back to the creamy crack lol
Hey Raquel!! My sista!
@@tiffanygary610 😂😂😂😂😂
as a licensed cosmetologist (23 years) in the video when u trimmed it yourself I could see that u needed more trimmed don't worry about the length just make sure it's healthy because healthy hair will flourish your hair looks so good now. U should use protein I would say every six weeks
Yup, exactly what I said. Hindsight is 2020
So as a stylist by you saying that you feel that your job is important aka essential worker?! Are you saying I have no choice to go to a stylist to do my hair?! Bad enough there’s health care insurance now hair?!
@@titlepending1302 as a cosmetologist yes I do..... if u are unable to do your own hair the correct way because being natural does not mean u don't have to/need to seek a professional... I have seen more and more UA-camers have to just about do the big chop because they are or have been promoting length over health and when they do trim their own the NEVER cut off what's needed
@@milolimes7817 I agree. I'm natural but I go and get my hair done almost every two weeks. I get my hair blown out 3-4x a year to trim. Length is nice but I truly prefer healthy hair. I just did a huge chop really, really short and I love it. I think we need to stress going to a professional for color, haircut and maintenance.
@@cocokdful I think the prices is what scares more people. I'm not paying a stylist hundreds to dye my hair black.
You’re one of the realest natural hair UA-camrs to be able to make this video! Natural hair is really a journey and I appreciate your transparency in your journey. Your hair will be back at your pre-cut length (+longer) in no time with your techniques and great product choices.
Love love love love the fact that you said that you’re woman enough to admit that you were wrong! BIG props to you girl 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 very admirable. And now that I’ve seen this video, I can admit that I’m having the same issue. I did a big chop in September 2019 and it grew really well the first year but I’m going into my 3rd year and my hair has plateaued sooooooooo maybe I really need that cut 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL
Girl, just lift the bandage off, we will grow it back!
I couldn't tell either that there was an issue with your ends but now with the new cut I can tell the difference, hair looks more full and no see through. Wishing you the best getting a lot of the length back. I'll be watching 👀 ❤
Thank youuuuu
Your cut/hair is gorgeous but for me personally, as long as my hair in the natural state looks good and healthy, I'm not trimming more than once a year🌻Also, not interested in too much heat in my hair in regards to blowouts or flatiron 🌹
Have you been feeling ok lately? I noticed some other natural hair YTrs had hair setbacks recently and I think the stress from the current craziness could also be a culprit. Sometimes it's hard to crank out content, stay in your bag and take care of everything else all with a smile for the camera. That hair will certainly grow back but be gentle on yourself, the pressure to be perfect all the time is real. Love your realness and vids, blessings 💕
No literally just split ends but I appreciate are for checking ❤️❤️
I’m so glad you made this video ! I was going to try to do it myself but this is a sign to stop being cheap & find a stylist. Just because I had a bad experience before doesn’t mean every stylist is bad, Thanks for your transparency.
I’m very proud of you! It takes a lot of guts to admit when you’re wrong!
Thank you so much for taking us a long in your hair journey!!! 🥰
Hey SheRea! Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us. I know you are upset about how much length you had to cut off, but now you know what is necessary for length retention and in turn, you've helped us as well. Your hair is going to thrive as you start implementing your new plan going forward. I, too, need a good trim/cut because it has been a while for me so I guess I need to schedule that appointment. Thanks for the transparency and congrats on another sponsorship!
Thanks Rae. Hope you get that trim!
As usual looking amazing at any length! Thank you for always being honest during the journey.
Thank you lovely ❤️
The thing I noticed about. Using oils and butters is that they camouflage split ends. My hair always looks good when I do it as well I never notice how many split ends I have until I blow it out without oils and butters, then I can see them really well and subsequently I cut them off. This cut looks 🔥 on you 🌸.
I have fine hair as well, and I can get to midback length pretty easily, but once he gets past that length it tends to start being raggedy and I have to cut it regardless of what I do to it. I’m rooting for your booty crack wilengthair though, I am so here for it!
Fine hair a STRUGGLEEEEE sis
This is relatable because I had to big chop my nearly waist legnth hair in Oct 2021.. Though my issues were a bit different.. I thought I had a handle on my hair health.. I'd grown my hair out over the years using "protective styles" that I learned the very hard way weren't truly protective.. I went to a "cut it kinky" alum stylist and got an earful of information on the true state of my hair.. And she was right.. I did go in for my follow up trim at the 12wk mark and after implementing the techniques I'd learned in my initial visit my hair has done a 180.. My stylist approved that I appear to now be on the right track.. I previously avoided heat of any kind, I got a curly cut/trim and so still am not blowing out my hair.. I am using my hooded dryer weekly to set my wash and go styles.. I can't wait to see what this head of hair of mine can do, now that I have partnered with a natrual hair stylist..
I'm right there with you. The fear of further heat damage makes me go longer without trims.
I just booked another trim for April. I mean business
Thanks for being so vulnerable with us. I'm sure it wasn't easy especially with all the time that you have invested in your hair. Trims are so important like you mentioned and I feel like at times as naturals, we may not trim because our hair looks good or we don't use that much heat. A lot of naturals say that you shouldn't trim on a consistent schedule and you should only trim when your having difficulty with your hair. I disagree with that because like you said, that didn't happen for you. You felt like your hair was healthy. I feel like trimming every 3-4 months shouldn't be an issue.
Yea I had the game messed up lol
I can completely relate to this. I, too, was terrified of heat that I refused to blow it out for trims. I always trimmed my hair in twists. But when I went to a professional for the first time in my natural hair journey, I ended up having to cut too much of my hair off because it was so uneven. Now, I just use my revair on low heat settings but high suctions and thats how I trim
This video is refreshing and I appreciate the honesty. I think BCLH doesn’t need to be the goal. I feel like when you just try to maintain a routine and don’t worry about length you actually get the length. There are so many curly UA-camrs out there pulling their hair down showing ‘length’ that looks like an upside down triangle and new naturals might think that’s what healthy hair should be. I feel the struggle and understand not wanting to lose the length but in the long run it’s better to be healthy and short than long and straggly at the end. I absolutely love your current haircut tbh. Welcome to team health over length 😁
Still team HEALTHY length lol
@@SheReaDelSol Same girl same 😎
Love your comment..."an upside down 🔻 🔽 "
Don't be to hard on yourself hun! Your hair looks amazing and it helped my hair too!!! I need a trim myself!!!
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Honestly I do enjoy your DIY's but am not even gonna lie I had to cut back from doing your DIY's because they were causing my hair to dry out. It made my hair grow for sure But the protein overload was REAL. I think thats what really happen to your hair too. I think its best to keep a balance in your hair regimen. Or there burst...one minute do DIY for a month, next Month do regular hair products, etc.
My issue wasn’t dryness. I personally alternate weekly between moisture and strength and so, I don’t think that was the issue. Not properly trimming for 3 years was.
Thank you for your honesty! I love that about you!
I, too, have had many, many bad experiences with stylists for decades. My hair is doing so much better since going natural and caring for my own hair. However, I will now go back to a stylist for regular trimming… maybe 2-3 times a year.
Wish you the best Cheryl!
Ugh humility is such a bittersweet thing. Had my own humble-me moment today. But you’re all the more beautiful for it sis ❤️✨ keep growing inside and out because we absolutely love you and your content 🤗 dust off the exceptional haters. This is your journey and it is a blessed one that keeps on giving (like this twistout-chef’s kiss 😚👌🏾)
Do you think you'd be able to try stretching your washes to every 2 weeks for a trial period? For me, low manipulation is key, and I found that I was losing almost the same amount of hair doing weekly washes as I did doing bi-weekly washes. That meant that some of that hair loss I had during the weekly wash wasn't just shed hair. I just go really heavy handed on wash day with the leave-in, cream, and light butter and gel to keep the hair moisturized and hold the style for the 2 weeks. I also go in after week 1 with an oilier but water-based moisturizer and press/squeeze it into my existing set style.
I started doing this as well .. I wash my hair every two week now . My hair couldn’t handle weekly washing … after 1 week I just refresh/moisturize my hair and that’s only if it feels dry … I’ve seen a big difference so far .
Your hair looks sooo much healthier and thicker since your recent 4 inch chop.( that’s what it appeared to me…4inches it so). I paused your old photos and I definitely saw the ends not looking like they do now. You did the right thing by your hair! It’s beautiful!
Hey SheRea ♥️ YOU BETTA WORK!! You look amazing! The cut did your hair justice.
It did! Can’t wait to see how it grows out
Hey girl! Your doing a great job on your hair! Twist out is popping! This is a year for Reset. Im going throw hair problems right now, we got this!
Yes I’ve been watching your videos! Hope we both get it together!
Sherea I think the henna is what is causing the problem with your hair. It happened with me. Henna ruined my hair and I had to cut booty crack length to shoulder length. I have now just been using amla, matcha green tea and cocoa powder instead of henna and my hair is thriving. Try it mama ❤️
I don’t think so. But we will see won’t we lol
I used henna too until I read that it slowly destroys hair. If the goal is bclh, I’d let the henna go. The rest of your regimen, similar to mine, is stellar. I didn’t miss the henna when I cut it. Your curls are beautiful! Good luck!
@@BL-pn8yd yup that’s exactly what happened to me I had waist length hair and it slowly went breaking off
@@BL-pn8yd I will give it a year and go from there. Thanks for sharing your experience.
@@BL-pn8yd Definitely same happened to my mom. The henna wreaked havoc on her strands.
Come on sponsorships!!! Love that for you!! We already been discussing over on the Insider so I’m just here to watch and support! We chat over there. 😘
Let the girls know Chantel!
SO MANY Hair Channel UA-camrs who 'give advice' on hair end up having to cut their hair all off. Makes u wonder why they're giving advice when they obviously don't know what they're doing...
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I aim to trim like every 3 months but sometimes every 2. Just depends on what my hair needs. Looking forward to following this new journey!
Yup I do the same, I go to a stylist every 3 months for a silk press and trim and I do the search and destroy method in between and my hair has never been better since I blow dry my hair more often too and I don’t use all those heavy butters and oils anymore that stuff weighed my fine hair down so much and dehydrated it , now I just wash condition and a gel or foam to style my hair is thriving now! 😍
Timely video!!! Just did my first silk press on Friday and ladiessss I was shocked. Yes, I had length but the health is not there. So I trimmed a little and will be trimming periodically throughout the year with the same stylist. I was so disappointed but so happy that I was able to get the real on my hair and not just go by how it looks when it’s in its natural state.
I also use satin pillowcase and silk scrunchies. Silk/Satin everything!!! For hair
Getting a professional trim always gives me an aha moment. I’ve been going once a year but I decided this last time that I would do every 4-6 months and see how my hair responds and more often if needed. Great video- we are all learning our hair and it’s ok! Thank you!!!
Thanks for watching!
Yes, for the sponsorship, and it's something that I can use!🤣 🤣 This video is something that will benefit many naturals, and I'm so glad that you have come to the realization that hair needs to be trimmed. It doesn't stop us from achieving length it actually helps us reach the lengths we want. I saw your reaction when peeps told you that you should trim off more than you did, and as much as it hurt to see you keep the damaged ends I just kept it to myself and hoped that you would figure it out. With all the great things you do for your hair, you will regain those lost inches before you know it, and this time with proper trimming you'll sail right past your previous longest length! I truly look forward to seeing you reach BCLH!!!💜 💜
Thank you so much!!!!
We do better when we know better friend! You got this ✊🏽✊🏽
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Love the transparency and your current cut is hella cute! I big chopped a year and a half ago and have also been afraid to got to a stylist, but I've recently noticed my detangling and wash day getting harder and i'm almost certain it's cuz I need a trim, so I've booked a stylist for next week! Wish me luck!
Let me know how it goes!
NOTHING I LOVE TO SEE MORE THAN A SPONSORED QUEEN 😍😍😍😍😍
May they multiply friend!!
Thanks for the transparency! I was humbled in the same way but nothing beats a professional looking at the back of your hair and the interior to see where needs to be cut. I'm now finishing my hairdressing course in the UK and one thing I've regularly done is protein treatments and trims whilst being a hair model .My hair has never been so healthy and its low porosity!I feel a shift with stylists stepping up to meet the needs of the natural hair community. I'm intrigued to know how curly specialists keep on top of split ends though!?
I blow my hair out every wash day with my Revair. I actually believe this is one of the reasons Im able to retain length. Air drying my hair always made my hair stiff and difficult to style. Your hair is gonna bounce back to its length pre cut. It's easier to grow hair out when you have the proper tools and techniques. I can't wait to watch your journey. The cut is also giving everything 🙌🏾
Thank you for the honesty! I cut almost 3 inches off recently. My hair looks so much better.
Learning and growing together sis, that's what a community is all about. We will have so much knowledge to share with each other and the generation that comes after us so that others won't have to suffer through the same things. Bless you and them cute Grecian Goddess curls
Thank you. You are a very sweet and humble person!! God Bless!!
Your cut is extremely flattering. You're beautiful with this length.
So crazy seeing this tonight. I just finished blow drying & flat ironing my hair and was tempted to trim a bit. I went to a stylist back in November and trimmed it for me but I was tight because I had just saw her in April and she trimmed it then too 😂 Now I guess this is a sign for me to make an appointment and let her do her professional thang. Your hair will be thriving and shining soon enough for sure!
I appreciate your transparency. It takes a mature and responsible adult to admit their flaws. I’m glad that you’re publicly saying this. My daughter has fought me for a year and a half on not wanting to EVER blow dry her hair. So I explained this same theory to her. As a natural we usually don’t need trims as frequently but, once you learn your hair you’ll know your frequency of needing a trim/cut. My hair requires at least once a year. Good luck on your journey. There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes only not learning from them. Let the BCLH journey continue….
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The same thing happened to my 11 year old. I feel so guilty! I also thought keeping the heat out of her hair and clipping her ends in twists was best. I know better now that she has lost 5 inches to split ends.
I wish you had gone to a Deva stylist for your cut. I'm trying to understand why this stylist felt the need to blow your hair out and cut it even when you wear your hair curly.
I might have to try this. I do my trims at home but always trimmed in mini 2-strand twists. Think I’ll at least invest in a good blow dryer and heat protectant and blow it out. The young lady I went to in December (first time in a salon for natural hair in years) did a phenomenal job; however, not only did she suggest coming back every 6-8 weeks, she said I would need my hair flat ironed each time. NO. Lol. I’ll also aim for every 3 months, 4 months max.
Yea we not doing no silk presses every 2 months for no trim lol
@@SheReaDelSol emphasis!!😂
PRAISE HIM SHEREA!!!! I LEFT OUT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF TELLING YOU ABOUT MY RICE WATER DEBACLE. MY HAIR GOT BACK ON TRACK TO A HEALTHY AND GROWING STATE THROUGH YOUR PRE-POO AND CLAY MASK VIDEOS. YOUR MIXTURE OF AYURVEDIC INGREDIENTS REALLY WORKED FOR MY HAIR. WHENEVER YOU MENTIONED RICE WATER, I HAD TO DISMISS IT BECAUSE I HAD ALREADY SUFFERED GREAT HAIR LOSS BECAUSE OF IT. THANKS FOR BEING TRANSPARENT AND ALL THE BEST ON YOUR HAIR GROWTH JOURNEY.
Oh yes girl! I had a similar experience with henna. My 4c low porosity hair does not like Henna at all!! Rice Water and Henna can be used by us low porosity girlies, but it has to used sparingly (maybe once a quarter) with lots of additional moisturizing ingredients.
One youtuber, adds a few tablespoons of honey to her rice water and only uses once every 8 weeks. I never tried rice water because my hair is low porosity/protein sensitive, but want to try SheRea's recipe with honey added. Further, Green Beauty recommends that the rice be boiled first (to remove the starch) prior to allowing it to ferment in water. She also said the longer you allow the rice to sit, the more protein content. So only allow it to sit for a few hours.
Thank you for talking about this! I went through something similar a few years ago. As you talked about it’s important to take off as much damage as you can. I feel like too many people talk about stretching out trims and cutting as little as possible. That actually causes more damage. One of the signs I’ve recognized as my needing a trim is when my hair isn’t retaining length. ✂️
Your hair cut is beautiful! Your hair will grow back. We all have been through issues with our natural hair, we all are learning all of the time! Love your videos!💗💗💗🙏🏽
@14:39-15:20 - Yes, yes and yes!!! My younger sister gave me the trim/mini cut and walked me through everything. I love that she gave me the option to take all off now or cut a proper amount and come back in a few months so my hair wasn’t super short.
I do feel like the light "dusting" we do at home is beneficial (if you can clearly see that it needs to be done). It’s unfortunate that you had to give up a lot of length because you genuinely didn’t notice how bad the ends were. I feel like my hair does the same thing to me which is why I’m much more adamant about going to a professional to have a proper trim every so often so that I’m not the reason I have to give up my length.
I thoroughly enjoyed this video and I’m SO glad you shared this because I literally experienced the same thing. Thanks for your transparency as always, you gone get it back sis ❤️
Thanks so much for this thorough comment. Thanks so much for watching ❤️❤️❤️
@@SheReaDelSol you’re welcome my love 💕
Yay sponsorships! We all have setbacks! It happens to the best of them. You will grow your hair back in no time. I believe in you!
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It is absolutely not a setback. You learned something that you needed to learn. I trim every 4 months because I realize I can’t fully see what’s going on in the back of my head, lol. My progress is slower but definitely steady. Your length will be back but with those thick ends before you know it ♥️♥️♥️😘
We pray!
I feel you 100% it’s so hard to let go of length. It takes a few weeks to get over it and that’s okay! I look forward to watch you grow you hair back!❤️
Appreciate the transparency in this video! I’m experiencing a setback with my hair too so I definitely understand the frustration! Thank you for sharing 💗
This happened to me too. I got two professional trims in the last 6 months and my hair is better than ever! My hair is shorter but it’s fuller. I have growing hair but I am not above split ends
The twist out is just giving!!
Lately I have been seeing a lot of Natural Hair You Tubers with damaged hair. They also have to cut quite a bit off, I also had similar experience. Two weeks ago my Hairdresser cut three inches off. My heart sank when I saw all that hair on the floor, I was about to take pictures but told myself to let it go. Honestly I have been picking up extra shifts for the Holidays and did not keep up with my routine. I avoid heat especially blow dryer, only do this once per year in the Summer for a fancy updo just one.. Having said this I usually have a lot more shedding during fall and winter Months but this year I have the most. My hair grew a lot during early pandemic when the shops were closed three was no blow dryer being used so I continued this trend.
So glad to hear you say trim my/your hair! Now that you found a stylist that makes you feel comfortable, follow their advice, “trim your hair every 6 to 8 weeks”! Trust the professional. I will continue to follow your journey to BCLH!
I do appreciate the honesty in this video! The second half of 2021 was a bad year for me, I knew my ends were damaged, I just didn’t do anything about it. January 2022, I went to a professional and had a lot of length removed because the ends were so bad. I’ve been using your tips to build a stricter hair care regimen. I also vowed to make an investment this year and get my hair trimmed professionally every 3 months. The stylist advised that given how fine my hair is and more prone to breakage. In just two months, using your pre poo and oil mixes, my fine hair looks so much fuller. I feel confident that I’ll be able to gain length and retain it this year.
Love that for you darling! Come on fine hair turned thick gang
You are so brave to come on here and show where you went wrong in your routine and your full transparency only shows that you’re one of the natural hair influencers that we can actually trust. Also, I’m sorry that this happened to you and you don’t deserve it because you work incredibly hard on your hair. Natural hair can be so unforgiving. It’s not fair.
You don’t have to see split and you can feel them. Trim your hair every 10 to 12 weeks. Leave the guesswork out. Don’t keep doing the same thing you’ve always done and expect different results? Okay then.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾yesss you can feeeeL those dead split ends!! Mine feel very frizzy and they dry out very easy cause they are "Dead Ends" cannot go forward except up the hair shaft.
Agreed. I can feel and see the split ends and I don't use heat. I keep my hair stretched by wearing them in twists and Bantu knots. Leaving my hair out in puffs guarantees knots, dry ends and breakage. DIY and washing not shampooing my hair weekly has allowed me to retain length. I use, honey, glycerin and hyaluronic acid on my ends to keep them hydrated and prevent splitting and breakage. My plan is to get a silk press in 4 years from Dyson in Texas. He uses a process he developed called Porcelain Press.
When they said natural hair journey they meant that ish with their chest! Sheesh!! But accountability is king, and so is your relationship with a trusted stylist. You got this girl 💛 summer twist out about to be on another level. Can’t wait to see it
I feel you 100%. I had to do a trim/cut myself 2 months ago after 2 years + . Felt like it was alot also but was needed. Plus side my twist outs and wash and goes have been popping more.
Me knowing damn well my hair hasn't been retaining as much length this last year and half 😭😭 let me go ahead and trim these ends. I keep doing bits and bits but it might be time to let them go
Your cut is fabulous! I think finding a stylist is key - I’ve noticed a big difference in my own hair once I found a stylist. She put me on a quarterly trim schedule and my hair is loving it.
My hair is in recovery phase too! And yes I need a trim. Good to hear your plan of action.
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I can’t get over this shape 😍😍😍 it’s legit sooooo pretty!!!
It really is!!
I'm so glad you said this about cuz a lot of women you know don't like to cut their hair they want to stay with the length but it's important to do that
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That’s why I like my trims on blow dried hair. The best trim is on straightened hair but I don’t silk press. Nothing wrong with them, it’s just nothing that I personally do. And I do it quarterly.
Issa no for me with a silk press. I’m way too afraid lol
I hate blowdrying my hair becuz it takes 4hrs no matter what dryer I use. That's not including my prepoo(detangling)1-2hrs. Shampoo 20mins. Deep Conditioning 2-3hrs(detangling). So not something I'm a fan of 🥴😩
@@SheReaDelSol 😁
@@kapparhotau181 as she said, find you a stylist! I’m a stylist and can NOT blow dry my own hair like someone else can 🤣
Firstly thank you for uploading this video, your honesty is rare in today's world. You thought you thought you were doing the best for your hair and you just made a mistake it happens to all of us. Thank you for sharing your honesty and girl that twist out is everything in my life the I'm actually looks good on you because it frames your face.
Your hair is 🔥. The curls are popping 😍The cut looks so good on you 🔥 Health over unhealthy length is what I believe in. You will grow your hair back in a healthier way going forward😘❤️. Give it a year and you’ll be back to the length, and even more healthier than pre cut😘
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I'm so in love with this cut on you. Because you do the right things to/for your hair, it'll be back to BCLH in no time. Healthy hair is the best hair.
I swear by a good stylist. I’ve had the same one for my entire five years of being natural. My routine is like yours and I only get trims every 3-4 months which my stylist always tells me is because of my routine so thanks sis!! It looks great but I know it’s still hard. BCLH here we come 🎉🎉🎉🎉