Postpartum Depression Sucks
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- Welcome! I'm so glad you're here. In this video I am showing what a hard day looked like for me and what I was able to accomplish despite the obstacles. It is a little big vlog style and a little bit of speed cleaning. Thank you for watching, I'm so happy you're here!
Not every day is a good day and that's okay!
I love you! First, good job on still accomplishing things even though you were having a rough day! It can be so incredibly hard to be productive when things don’t go right and you still worked through it! I am so incredibly proud of you! I love your honesty and openness. Also your laughter towards the end of the video was so brightening! Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re amazing!
Thank you! I wouldn’t be able to keep going without you. I love you!! ❤️
I admire you for speaking your truth. I’m an independent parent of 3 working full time from home & I definitely relate to a lot of your emotions. You didn’t just sit there & let your emotions rule your day, you got up & did what you could do. I’ve learned to give myself grace because all that we do is not easy. I’m sorta a neat freak & get told all the time that my home is always so clean. Sometimes I wish I could tell them all the exhaustion that goes into that. From prying the covers off me when my alarm goes off in the mornings to forcing myself to do the dishes before bed. You keep doing what you can, when you can & I’ll keep supporting you mama ! 🫶🏻🤍
You don’t even know how much that means to me. I can sort of relate to the neat freak side of things because when I’m pregnant, I go into nesting mode times 1000. When I would wake up, I would start cleaning and I wouldn’t stop until I went to bed. If something was even just a little bit out of place I couldn’t rest until it was taken care of. I was on my hands and knees, scrubbing the floor the dirt from the little grooves in the linoleum. I was so exhausted at the end of every day. My whole house was spotless, but when I gave birth that all went away. I can imagine that’s how you are, but it doesn’t go away. You are superwoman! I am trying to be kind to myself well also giving myself tough love when I need it. Thank you so much for your support. 🥰❤️
Ok first Incredibly proud of the progress you’re making, not only with the house but with your self image. You’re not perfect, and that’s ok😁 no one is! Bravo!
Bad days can really interrupt any momentum you gain and you’re handling like a champ. 😊
Clean as you go is Soooo much easier said that done😅 Everything in the house needs to have a home and you need room to expand if/when needed. For a family in a home your size 🤯 cray lol
In my, slightly less than 40 years on this planet, I have received advice from soo many people. I didn’t grow up in a messy house but I, myself have always been a mess. Piles being moved into other piles😂. They all work🤷 just not for me. One thing that almost always did work for me, asking for help.
You have a decent support system but if more is needed ask. Don’t know how to ask? Ask someone how to do that. Lord knows we’re all busy and can’t be there for each other physically all the time, but if we can’t there’s other ways. Don’t just expect more from yourself, request it from us too. ❤ We are your village😁 love you!
I love you so much 😭😩
Great job !! Kids are the little Gremlins who follow behind and undo what you have done - this will never end. And in the real world no work is ever really DONE - EVER. So life as a mom is constant pick up clean up and exhausting on even the best days. Keep it up you are doing awesome !!!
"A man's work is sun to sun, a woman's work is never done."
Dear Rosie. Thank you for sharing your struggles. I'm sorry for what you are going through. I could feel it in this video.
You had asked for some tips. I saw a video posted by a mom of 4. Her advice: She had read children do better with less toys, that they focus for longer periods of time on one instead of jumping from toy to toy. She chose 4 to 5 of each child's favorite toys to keep available for them to access. All others were gathered, put in a box/ container/ bag and put away, where children couldn't access. She set a time limit, 3 or 4 months. At the end of the time she set, she would take box out, and rotate toys, always keeping with only 4 or 5 for each child (or whatever, but small amount).
If an older child specifically asked for a toy put away before the time set expired, she would get it for them, but they had to give one back.
Anyway, her experience was her kids didn't miss all the extra toys she put away. She didn't have to make any decisions to get rid of anything, and picking up wasn't as overwhelming.
Someone else mentioned asking for help. I never did, and I went through life feeling like a failure wondering how could I be so flippin' lazy that I couldn't, for the life of me, keep a tidy home. I was so ashamed. No one was allowed in my home. I didn't know it then, but depression can be extremely debilitating and exhausting. Wish I had asked for medical help sooner. I didn't know it was depression.
Sorry post is so long. I just want to reach out and give you a hug and tell you you are doing a great job. It will get better.
Thank you for being here for me, I am lucky. I am blown away by your message and thoughtfulness. I will implement that with my kids and I’m sure my life will be a lot more seamless. I have heard of toy rotation but it felt like the toys would get forgotten about if they’re put away but hey maybe that’s a good thing… then when the get to see them again they’ll feel brand new! Thank you for the hugs, today was hard and they’re appreciated. ❤️❤️
All you can do each day is the best you can do. How wonderful that you are so brave to share yourself with others. There are so many people who share your struggles. Blessings and success in all you do. 😊
Thank you so much! 🥰❤️
Being truthful isn't being negative. Everyone displays toxic positivity and that doesn't help anyone. I can see the overwhelm you are feeling and am so happy to hear you have a great husband who supports you. You are doing great regardless of what the depression tells you. You feel like you are cleaning all the time because you are ruminating on it. Your mind is so consumed with the thoughts about what you need to do that it makes you exhausted. I have several suggestions that have helped me and you can try or not. I suggest that immediately when you wake up you start a load of laundry. Get it ready the night before if needed so you can throw in the soap and start it. Doing 1 or 2 loads a day will give you a feeling of accomplishment. Load and start the dishwasher, take a bag and walk around and gather any garbage/recycling laying around and while picking up garbage have another bag and find 5 or 10 things to declutter. After you make that a habit then start working with your daughter on picking up her own toys. She is getting to the age where she can do this with help and support from you. Doing those things each day will add to your sense of accomplishment and pretty soon those habits are formed and I think you will be able to add on another daily task. Plan a weekly ride alone or with the family where you drop off your donations once per week and stop at the park or get an ice cream as a reward and to get you out of the house for an hour or more. I hope you try it, it has helped me get some control. On days when your depression is really bad, give yourself a break, do your few daily tasks and then just be with your kids. Love your little dog and your son is adorable. He has such a sweet face.
Oh, Sweetie. You are doing a good job. I know it feels impossible some days, just know that this is a temporary season in your life. It is so hard and everything you are feeling is valid. Give yourself a hug.
Thank you 🥹 I know I’m going to miss this someday
Just tuning into your channel. Very relatable. You are doing great, and you are not alone. I had PPD with my second child, it was awful. I was put on Zoloft, I am not one to use medication- not sure if you have mentioned if you are on a medication- it honestly changed my life. It changed my relationship with my husband and kids. It doesnt have to be forever, just this season of life. Something else that helped me was getting rid of systems/toys that didnt allow me to control the mess. I personally found the Ikea bin storage (you have it too) was a constant annoyance for me. The kids would dump and throw/kick the toys out of it constantly. I cut their toys down, donated a ton, sold a bit, sold the Ikea storage unit- went back to ikea and bought a bookcase. At the top of the bookcase i put bins of stuff that i didnt want to get rid of... but wanted to be able to control access to (small pieces, etc). On the bottom shelves i put approx 10 toys, just set out one by one. It'll make that portion of your life a lot better... toys really bothered me. Then, just take it corner by corner, day by day. Instead of saying "i got nothing done today" at the end of the day, i challenge you to name three things you DID do. "today i took care of my kids, today I showered, today i cleaned a corner of the kitchen" Keep going youre doing great! Oh! and headphones help a lot, i kept one in my ear and one out so i could hear them. But just listening to a podcast or a youtube video can help drown the chaos!
I love those suggestions! I am going to put some energy into toy rotation soon and only keep out a few for them to play with. :) I am on medication and have been for almost 6 years, so unfortunately my doctors haven't been able to offer me any options medication wise which has left me to try to heal just using self care and my support system. I am going to be kinder to myself and remind myself of the thing I was able to accomplish. Thank you so much! 💜
Dear Rosie, post partum depression is absolutely the worst! I hope you will go to your doctor often and get the help you need. Many doctor's don't really understand how dibilitating it is. Get a psychiatrist if you need to because they actually understand this problem better than most other doctors. God bless you I will pray that you get better and stronger everyday. You are doing a wonderful job with two little ones. Keeping them happy is so much work. You are doing great!
I am getting help from my doctors but most often the answers I have been given is to practice self care. My UA-cam channel has been my self care. Having support from you all and reading your words of encouragement have been so healing. ❤️🩹
You will have good day and bad day, do what you can and if you acomplished some thing reward your self, you are taking the steps for your recovery and that is very good.❤
@@marisolbenitez1339 thank you! I am in such a better place now but a few months ago it was so much worse. It’s important to share the real side of life with little babies. Thank you for supporting me. ❤️
Using a timer for even 5 minutes help get started on my bad days, many 5 minutes add up.. Mom of 4
I will definitely try that! Thank you so much! I love hearing advice from more veteran moms than me. I’m always wondering how you all do it! I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off with just my two. 😅
PS Not sure if you've already seen Remi Clog, you have so much in common with her, if you haven't seen her videos yet I think you would really love watching her and connecting, I'm sure you'll get to a better place, it takes time thats all
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a genuine comment. ☺️ I have seen Remi and I love her videos. I’ve been subscribed for a long time. She actually is one of the ones who inspired me to finally take the step and make a UA-cam channel.
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young lady it hard woirk been a mom to two little kids,and harder when not well yourself but itgood you talking away to the camera to get it out what you feeling and doing what you can in the day , can hear in your voice the effort you trying to get yourself going before your husband comes homes , so putting on a load wash and pottering around doing something instead jumping on a chair to go on phone was great , tha another wash load done ,:) ,you are very pretty young lady and your kids look very happy and fed and clean so thats the most important thing in the day anything else is a bouns , just dont look at a room has a mess just look at one box a day throw out what you dont use so less to clean :) .and having a support network around you is awesome ,i didnt have that with my twins and was no youtube back then :) you doing all the right things talk it out /kids first / one box a day / ont beat yourself up you doing great , get some vitamin's and one step at a time ,:)
Thank you so much for your sweet heartfelt comment. I can feel the love, I appreciate you. 💕💕
Yes, you have always been an old woman! Fan of the golden girls since age 5!
Your doing great hun
Thank you so much!🥰
Great job I just subscribed 😊❤
Yay! Thank you! 💕☺️
Love you honey. ❤
I wish you could get the feeling of deep satisfaction when you accomplish a task and really feel good about you for completing it. Makes me realize how something’s are so hard for some and not others. My heart goes out to you. Don’t stress over any of it just one day at a time. I follow a you tuber fearfully created. She use to be like you but 5 years later she is a powerhouse. I have learned so much about having patience with yourself from her. Just be you. It will get better I promise.
I appreciate that, I will check her out. Thank you for taking the time to leave me a thoughtful comment. ❤️
Ask doctor to check your thiamine (vitamin b1) level and B12 or ask doctor about a high quality B complex supplement
I haven’t heard anything about this! I will ask for sure. Thank you! 💕
@@RosieFlaten No problem! They have helped me with many symptoms so I tell everyone I can lol. I hope you can find some relief. Thank you for sharing, you are very brave to speak out and help yourself. That is one of my most difficult things to do so I commend you for your courage. Good luck on your new channel!