I think the judge let her go knowing that eventually she would talk right around to the truth. Drama fanatics like her usually do. She dropped that she has weekends planned all up, one right after the other. If Judge Manning hadnt left her go, she wouldnt have shown that she was keeping them away from him.
Her drama drag the man and the kids all over. So whatever he can do he tries to squeeze it in. That how these narcs do they create the drama twisted then you get caught up into and look like you are the bad person.
This chic is nuts. She’s not afraid of him, she’s using these children as pawns…and dad is sick of it, and gave up. I bet a million dollars this woman talks crap about this man in front of his children. The whole hearing she’s so animated, like sit down and shut up.
@@jonmobrien Lol, you are correct. I got married once, for life. I'm thankful that we both committed to staying together, even though we have been through some seriously difficult and painful times. It's not always easier or better to split up. I think there is way too much divorce nowadays. Some of the problems people get divorced over could be resolved while staying together, with the marriage ending up stronger and happier from working through some bad stuff. But I know some people do need to split up for good reasons. I just hate to see someone so angry all the time, even when talking to a judge. It's not good to let someone else control you, or to try to control someone else. Some people just have anger and hatred oozing out of them all the time. That's not healthy. And it repels the kindhearted, well-balanced people you might otherwise have in your life because nobody wants to be around that. My previous comment was just an observation that it must be exhausting and miserable to carry that much anger.
@@jonmobrien Depends why the relationship ended. I have multiple exes. I'm on good terms with all of them. There is no hatred or animosity. I wish them well and I appreciate the lessons I learnt from the relationship we shared. That being said, my relationships never ended due to betrayal or lying, etc. We just grew apart and moved on.
I agree with you. She also proves his point further by the fact that she’s still going to get the next two weekends because “she already has plans”. I totally believe this man has tried and tried and maybe he eventually gave up, which should ever happen. Hopefully this will be a blessing in disguise for his relationship with the girls.
She most definitely tells him when he can see his kids. Why do you make dentist appointments on his weekend? Why do you make ANY plans on his weekend? Then she remembers that she worries that he won't bring them back, etc....
She stated there is a court agreement that he is to keep the kids on the weekends but that has never happened. Considering his history, it’s plausible he wouldn’t be with them on the weekends anyway, so why not schedule the dental appointment?
Probably because he has been a deadbeat dad and she didn't think he would dhow up. My ex was the same way. He would call and tell me he would be over to pick them up in 5 minutes. Even though it wasn't his visitation time, I told him that would be great because we had no plans. So, they were all excited got all their stuff packed up, waiting by the door and he never showed up. They were so heartbroken and it was me who had to pick up the pieces. I kept just tell8ng them, " your daddy loves you and he was probably called into work" and I had to apologize for him. I had to go through this constantly until a coworker convinced me to stop making their father outside such a great guy and just say nothing. He said just let them ask him. I was never negative about their father except one time I did call him a jerk because of the way he was talking about his own son. Well, they grew up and started asking him about why he was never there, but was there for his step children. None of them unfortunately had a relationship with him, but he did not seem to care because he did better by his stepchildren than his bio kids, but it's his loss because they are awesome kids and now parents.
OMG Judge Manning was a police officer for 15 years before law school! She has walked the walk! Every new thing we find out about Judge Manning makes me love her even more!
The fact that she’s so dramatic and keeps changing her story, it tells me that she has been withholding the kids from him and she’s lying or at the very least exaggerating things! Why throw away her gifts then send back things he’s given the girls!
Definitely over exaggerating. Judge even brings up the fact when she claims she’s afraid he’ll take the kids and won’t bring them back. How can you say he wants nothing to do with them and yet worry about him taking them. Just her facial expressions and body language when on mute is proof that she has a tendency to be over dramatic.
Yep, and parents that do this know full well that they can do it, and the only solution is get a court hearing, more lawyer fees and time off from work for the hearing. Then it just repeats again when the parent decides to control access to the kids again
She has most likely made it very difficult to see his kids. She has plans that she already paid for.. She took it for granted that the judge would just say "OK, Dad will have to wait"....
He needs to follow the parenting plan and not allow her to get away with cancelling his time because she has apptmnts for them. He also needs to stay away from her as much as possible. If he has to see her record it or have a witness. This woman is trouble.
Yeah because apparently she's for the women and against men. Absolutely disgusting from beginning to end. It's almost like she sided with the woman from the get-go. Didn't hear a single word he said.
I see right through the mom's little BS tactic. She makes plans and pays for trips with the children on dad's weekend so that if he insists on his visitation, he's the bad guy with the kids. However, if he let's then go, then mom gets to say how he's a bad father who doesn't take the kids on his weekend. She knows what she's doing.
THIS. This frustrated me so much because she tried to intimidate HIM by saying "I called the cops" and twisted it around to say he was using it to intimidate her. He likely said "But I AM a cop, you calling them doesn't scare me " and Manning believed her . Grr.
I just learned Judge Manning was a police officer for 15 years before starting law school. She is living her calling of justice. I couldn’t like her more!❤
She is also a decorated army vet if I remember correctly, she has had quite the career and it all has led to her being one most bestest and awesomest (yeah yeah english I know 😂) Judges ever!!
When I heard that & I was wondering if on Law & Order: SVU they modeled that cop turned lawyer/prosecutor after Judge Manning. The blond female cop is from GA so it is a possibility & there’s plenty of Judge Manning to pass around.
I was stalked by a sheriff's deputy once. Scariest thing ever, he pulled over guys he thought I liked, parked his cruiser in front of my home for hours at a time (not even his jurisdiction), told the local cops I was under investigation, and worse. I had to resort to insanity to get him to stop. We had gone on ONE date.
I'm lucky my oldest sons mom is worthless and never wanted to be even a part time mom. It sucks for my son but he's 16 now and he was 15 when he finally asked for the truth and to stop covering for his mom when she wouldn't show up. He only sees her a couple days a year. The few times he sees her a bunch of times in a month is when she gets a new boyfriend that she moves in with is when she is trying to look like mom of the year then after that month she tells the new guy I won't let her see her son. Many tried to fight me over her shit. I usually laugh
16:19 I wanted to be on the lady’s side because I know how messy things like this can be, but with her over acting it’s hard to believe she’s not always this dramatic
@@nightstarstar1 it’s overreacting because she’s doing all this extra stuff while on zoom in court. Of course she’s allowed emotions. P.S. you don’t know anything about me so just stop with all that “perfect victim in your eyes” you sound ridiculous.
@@nightstarstar1 I have the right to an opinion whether you agree with it or not. You know nothing about me or absolutely anything I’ve been through. Sorry it ruffled your feathers so much
@@stoneovison I fully agree with you. She's being way too extra and it comes off as totally false. If anything she's mad at him and overplaying that in a condescending and self-righteous sort of way; I don't get any feeling of genuine fear from her.
His laziness and ignorance is one thing; her bullsh*t is another. She's the primary problem. And that's coming from a single mother and ex-wife of a cop.
@@joycemarie9702 I don't disagree with you. His exhaustion is warranted if that's what has happened. However, being tired is not am excuse. It's a sad and slow way to abandon his responsibilities at the expense of his child's well-being.
@@neergbenna He should've taken her to court but as is she's routinely flaunted the court ordered parenting plan anyways, rocking the boat is just a bad idea. Especially given that courts are biased against the father anyways, let's say he does take her to court; not only is he paying out the ass for it he's also 80% likely to get a judge that will side with the mother anyways. Now his rocky relationship with the ex-wife is rockier than ever and she has the advantage over him going forward and he might not even have enough money to keep fighting her. Meanwhile she has access to dozens upon dozens of groups that will help her pay to fight him in court because she's a woman. It's hard to keep fighting and even harder when you have to fight tooth and nail against a legal system that considers you a secondary parent at best.
@@neergbennait's not abandoning his children when she's doing everything she can to limit his ability to see the children while arguing how she wants him to see the children yet she says she's scared for the girls to see their dad. She wants it her way, when and how she wants it and he's supposed to just accept it and keep coming back for more.
It crazy how the judge is accepting her answers for not allowing him to see his kids. But won't even try and comprehend his answers that she will tell him that the kids always have something going on when he should have the kids!
Thats because its always the man's word against the systems word. It was ok for her to plan his weekend, but when he didn't show up it was the end of the world.
He admitted to saying “I’m a cop” in response to her calling the cops. He denies any negative implications but that’s BS. The only plausible implication is that they won’t do anything because he’s a LEO. And he admitted to being an inconsistent/absent parent. The burden of proof for a PTO is just more likely than not. 50.00001% is enough. Manning is an excellent judge. She follows the law That said, this woman seems absolutely awful to deal with. The drama and histrionics are so off putting. But these 2 dummies chose to have children together. They both need to get it together and do what’s right for the kids
If I was fearful of him, I would have 3rd party do the exchanges. Why agree to a parenting plan in the 1st place...? "1. Didn't have the time or the $, Your Honor. 2. These trips were already paid for, Your Honor." She did NOT think this through, and she had time to do it. I smell Parental Alienation!
27:00 She was doing reasonably well, and then she's said she doesn't trust him to bring the kids back, which sounds a lot like admitting she won't let him take the kids when he's supposed to have them
Mum is really angry that this judge has put dads weekends with the kids back in place. I hope he sticks to it because I really believe this mother is purposely making things hard for him.
If she’s reacting like this after 8 years she needs counseling. She’s already remarried her response to him should be all business at this point. Girl co parent civilly for your daughters sake and let it go. Ughh.
I disagree. The ex husband is clearly out of line. The Mother is clearly upset, and agitated by the ridiculous actions of the guy. There is ZERO reason for that guy to be showing up at the Mother's home unannounced the way he does unless he has unhealthy control issues. He's clearly using monetary gifts and money as a way to try to coerce his children instead of being a proper parent by-way of upholding his responsibilities. A proper parent follows parenting plans, stays consistent, and would NEVER show up where they are not welcome outside of a court-ordered parenting plan where they've been REPEATEDLY told to not be. The guy's actions are on the brink of trespassing. Then the guy's trying to throw his weight-around because he's a police officer. (Shouldn't have been allowed the job in the first place of this is his mentally and conduct. That's disgusting, and the Judge called him out for it for a reason. The only unhealthy person I see here is the ex husband. If the guy can't be a proper Father and uphold his responsibilities to his own Children, I sure-as-heck wouldn't trust the guys judgement with a gun and a badge in law enforcement 👎
@@MMConsultinggroup She's asking for a TPO because the man stops by near her house, he's not even going into her home or stepping onto the porch. He drops gifts off in the mailbox for his kids (who she also keeps away from him illegally) and also he says 'I'm a police officer' when she threatens to call the cops on him. Sorry not buying it, this woman is a loon. Also, this is probably one of the first cases where I really disagree with Judge Manning, she's asking him why he threatened her with 'I'm a cop." and he very clearly explains that he didn't say it in a threatening way or that he's above the law. He was saying 'I know the law, I haven't done any crimes' when she's threatening to call the cops on him, he never said "I'm above the law" but Manning is laying into him for it anyways. Then she goes off on him for 'not showing up for his kids' when she's the one withholding the children, she even said she cancelled dad's weekend because the kids had the dentist and the father even elaborated that that's what she does. If she doesn't want the kids to go with him she makes up whatever excuse she wants to deny him his rights as a parent, if anything the only thing he's guilty of is dropping presents for his children in the mail box. Big fucking whoop, the guy is providing for his daughters and the mother is throwing their gifts in the garbage (including cash money) and keep his children from him. Dude never stole or kidnapped his own kids and she's making wild allegations in court that she's afraid he'll just one day for no reason take the kids and never bring them back, what the fuck is that? She's throwing everything at the wall to try and keep him from his kids.
@@boanoah6362 Nope. Proper parents abide by the guidelines of parenting plans, respect and keep that consistency for their children. Unhealthy, neglectful parents just do whatever, whenever, because they think they're above the laws when they're not. Trying to say he's a cop only proves his blatant arrogance, showing he's trying the intentionally control and intimidate. His actions blatantly show he's putting himself first, and the children last. He's a 'weekend dad' 👎. Conversation END //
@@MMConsultinggroup Parenting plan said he was supposed to drop by the house to pick up his kids for the WEEKEND. She filed a TPO because she doesn't want him coming to her house, he specifically mentions that she constantly denied him his weekends. She doesn't even remember what weekends are supposed to be his, but he knows, wonder why it is that he knows which weekends are supposed to be his and why she doesn't. When questioned about violence he mentions he accidentally shoved her over a decade ago and doesn't even remember her other allegations. What is the next thing out of her mouth? "I'm afraid he's going to steal the kids and I'll never see them again!" Dude never once failed to bring the kids back, not once, he gives his kids gifts and makes sure they're taken care of, what does she do? She throws the gifts in the trash, denying him even the simple act of giving his children something for Valentines day, who does that? A vindictive spiteful woman does. The guy ain't no saint but he's clearly not a deadbeat and he's clearly trying to follow the parenting guidelines that she refuses to follow. You have eyes, you have ears, you have a brain, use them.
150 dollars for a field trip with no proof bish I'm going to nah show proof she wants attention from him.bad she misses him you can hear it in her voice
She’s angry, aggressive and bitter 😢 Not saying he’s innocent but I know for sure he loves his career enough to not jeopardize it with her drama!! She needs help. 🙏🏿🙌🏿
She’s not doing herself any favors with this emotion. I get these family issues are triggering but she’s too much. As always, I feel for the kids more than anyone else.
@@jackielove2737THIS point right here! Every other woman is allowed to be expressive, scared, intimidated all of that except the Black woman. I’m getting mighty tired of the micro aggressions from this chat in relation to Black women and I really think it needs to be addressed
Lawtalk with mike is why I sat my 17 year old son down and explained why it’s very important for him to be very careful when he picks women because a short amount of time can tie him to crazy for 18 years.
Way over 18 years. Thats just the lowest amount. People often are still in court for their adult kids based on agreements to pay portions of college It’s a good move though.
She admitted she violated the order. She should of brought fear up 8 years ago. This reminds me of my ex. She did everything possible to keep me away just to hurt me. No violence ever happened we never even argued. I watched my parents argue so I would rather sit there and say nothing if she got mad. I think that drove her nuts lol
A lot of women act like this. They try to dominate and control everything. It very unnatural and it makes them, the man, and the kids unhappy. And the courts encourage it.
I have seen some judges telling people not to react visually, as she is doing, and got contempt if they did.. she is basically talking through body language when it is not her turn to talk!
I think she has a fear that he'll do something out of spite- like not bringing them back. However it doesn't sound like he really cares to "have" them - he's got a new wife- unsure if he has kids with the new wife, might just be living fairly care-free without kids 24/7 at his house so he might just bring them back early if anything.
The dude just showing up at her house with "gifts" randomly without any notice, is passive aggressive AF. The fact that he is a cop and acting that way would be really scary though, cuz that is his attitude, I can get by with this, because I am a cop. The dude didn't really deny that he did that, and I aint buying his BS explanation that he isn't meaning to intimidate. in this regard I think she SHOULD be scared of this guy, the way he is acting. She did file this TPO AND also went through to get the parenting plan changed to be more specific, which was never specific to begin with. While I do think she isn't totally without her share of spitefulness, and she has probably been interfering and controlling the shots with visitation, by initiating the follow up mediation, she will end up having to give up a lot of control and she isn't going to like it.
This TPO is all about mom's upcoming family court case modifying the parenting plan. It's so transparent. As she told the judge, "this is all new" with dad wanting to be involved with his girls. She's been in charge all this time, and she's going to march into court with her TPO and make sure she stays in charge. I see supervised visitation in dad's future. I hope the judge on his family court case has more discernment than Manning. He definitely needs a lawyer.
He’s manipulating the court, he pops up whenever he wants. Ignores his children and responsibilities, then demands 100 % compliance on her part. He’s typical, holiday man, this was Valentine’s Day, the next time he will come around will be Fathers Day.
@@kikatx08 Wow, you're superpower is freaking amazing. Your ability to know what he thinks, feels, & does w/o even knowing him, damn. Do you teach this?
I think she’s the problem. I think he gave up. She’s doing all this to get the money with him out of the picture completely. This order she’s asking for is the beginning of the end for him if she gets it. She could and probably trying to mess his career up too.
I agree completely and I think the judge has a problem with men. She didn’t want to hear anything he said. She was shaming him. He’s prob wasn’t perfect in all of this, but I believed him when said she prevented him from seeing the kids.
@@wesner326 I don't think it's a problem with men I think it's a bias because she was a cop and his defense against the abuse allegations was a little weak. She's very much so trying to emphasize that he needs to be there for his kids while at the same time not quite grasping that the mother is keeping his kids from him. What is he supposed to do when she's withholding his children? He should've taken her to court for it but men are routinely biased against in court, why bother? Further Manning acts like he should just show up and get his kids but the problem is that the original parenting plan indicated he was supposed to go to her house to get the kids, who coincidentally is filing a TPO against him so he can't go anywhere NEAR her house. The poor guy was doomed from the start really.
I have a fear doesn’t matter, where is the proof of any of her claims? Where’s the photos of the holes, broken remote? Where is the police report where he threw her down the steps? This lady is just crazy
He just needs to plan ahead and celebrate holidays on "his time" with the kids. If he states he was just there to drop gifts off, then why refuse to leave when asked and was waiting for their return outside their home?
@@JasonMW45 Not necessarily. You can't just show up whenever you want to without calling first or without permission if it is not his time for her to give access to the children. His behavior is passive aggressive AF and just the kind of games an abusive man will play.
@@itsjustlaurel1531 I actually am defending him on this one. You're right that he said he didn't want to leave cash in the mailbox. He also said he was texting mom about a safer place to leave it while, unbeknownst to him, she's parked somewhere nearby calling the police on him. Mom saw her opportunity here and took it. All this and her shiny new TPO will help a lot with her upcoming case modifying parenting time. If dad doesn't get a lawyer, he's a fool.
@@-HeyLyd- If money was the only reason to stay, why didn't he leave when asked? And if he really wants to see his kids, why did he have so many no-shows on his weekends of scheduled times? He just thinks he can show up and force a visit. No!
Dad doesn’t pick them up or keep them when he is supposed too but then she says he isn’t going to bring them back? Mom is definitely crazy. I’m afraid for my life over basic relationship arguments that occurred almost 10 years ago.
as a black woman if my ex was to says "I am a police man" multiple times after I know they are an officer and/or while I am calling the police I would take that as a threat, especially if they have their gun on them.
@@serenaperry23exactly. I feel so bad for this woman I don’t get why people are calling her crazy and hating on her. It would be terrifying to deal with an ex like him. I feel for her and her children
Where is the present history of offending? Tone and how you word things make a big difference. It’s all about context. If she is accusing him of being a dirt bag and doesn’t want to give him the kids on his weekend. And he responds, “That’s the past, I’ve changed my life for the better and I’m even a police officer now.” That’s not threatening in anyway. He would just be rebutting her statement. But obviously if it’s coming from a menacing place where they argue and he is saying “call the cops. I’m a cop, they ain’t going to do nothing.” Than that’s a problem. But if they man hasn’t physically touched anyone in several years than aren’t we beating a dead horse? From what I remember, mom liked to schedule things on dad’s weekends as an excuse for him not to take the children. Imo mom wants the child support and than wants him to disappear so she can live her life with the new family unit.
@@fluffy_mcflooferson4635 But his visits are erratic because she constantly plans shit on his weekends and makes up excuses for why he can't pick up his kids. One of the first ones mentioned is he was going to pick the kids up and she cancelled his weekend because the kids had a dental appointment. What happens at the end when the judge tells her that the dad is mandated to get his kids for his upcoming weekend? "I already made plans for that weekend, they cost me a lot of money, he can't come get them that weekend." She's the one blocking his weekends and then using his missed weekends against him.
I was once stalked by a county deputy it was awful and I felt helpless until I had the courage to call the sheriff and complain. He lost the post he had
She better hope she can prove the things she’s claiming against that officer. Number one, if it’s true he needs to lose his job. If it’s not true, she’s jeopardizing his job and the means by which he makes money to pay child support.
I’m disappointed in judge Manning in this case. I can’t believe she didn’t see through this ladies BS. First she complained that he doesn’t see the kids enough. Then, when she realizes the judge is pushing the dad to see his kids every other weekend (and fight for that right), all of a sudden she is soooo worried he won’t bring them back if he gets them. Also, granting a TPO based on things he may (her word against his) have done over 8 years ago, BEFORE they were divorced and were still living in the same house, is a bit far fetched in my opinion. She is not afraid of him, it looks to me that she is trying her very best to get the bio dad out of the picture, so she and her now husband can play house. But hey, she sure wants those child support checks coming in on a monthly basis. Dad needs to get a back bone (and a lawyer) and fight for his right to see the kids and the rights of the kids to see their dad. Seems to me he has given up on that because he is tired of dealing with the drama the mom seems to be good at creating. I feel sorry for the kids because they are left holding the bag.
I totally agree. Judge Manning should have 100% reprimanded mom for her stupid and inappropriate overacting and facial expressions during court. Also Judge yelling at Dad “oh you need to be there for your kids” when mom cancels his entire weekend over a dentist appointment? Excuse me.
Mine sent my first daughter to live with me when she turned 18, my son still has a couple years till 18, and end of CS, so at least I can time when he'll be sent to live with me
I agree he needs an attorney cause if a restraining order is granted because he didn't catch her flip flopping to get her way depending on what judge manning is saying can cause him to lose his career. A restraining order prevents you from owning or carrying a firearm even as a police officer which the police department would put him on unpaid leave or tell him he can retire or be fired... His ex is so full of shit her blue eyes turned brown!
Her OWN testimony was that she canceled his timesharing at the last minute, because she forgot about their “dental appointments”. That makes zero sense. Dentists offices are not open past 5pm on Friday, until 9am on Monday. She’s not creditable.
Wait - all dentists offices are not open after 5pm? Is that a law or something? I wish people could stop saying things like that as if they’re factual. Talk about generalising…
@@Aurora-Nyx This is my wheelhouse. Parents come up with all kinds of excuses to violate court orders and “decide” whether or not the children are available for the court ordered timesharing. She had NO right to schedule anything on his day. She had no right to keep the children all weekend. She’s Clearly in the wrong here. He needed an attorney. I would have filed motions for contempt every single time she prevented a timesharing- and forced her to pay all of my fees. . Dental offices are generally not open after 5, and are NEVER open all weekend. Also, the appointment could not take more then a few hours. It was an excuse. A very bad excuse, and she is showing contempt of the court. All he had to do is file the motion. It will be granted. She will stop if she has to pay $1,500 in attorney’s fees every time she makes his lawyer draft and litigate one of her violations.
When I was divorced and had visitation scheduled, I would write it on a large wall calendar. If something came up for me or my ex stopping that days/weekends visitation, that would be noted on the calendar. I kept those calendars until both of my kids were adults. If there had been any court proceeding, I figured that years of notations would be of some value in court.
Good thing you didn't end up needing that documentation but that was a damn good idea to maintain it just in case! A lot of these conflicts seem like they would be much simpler to sort out if the parties had good records that were accurate.
That woman is obnoxious with all the stupid facial expressions, rolling the eyes in the back of her head and throwing of the hands. She’s going to regret keeping those girls from their father.
Dad is no hero, but he couldn't get a word in edge-wise and Manning had pretty much made up her mind when mom spoke. He doesn't deserve a TPO but gave up when he saw he wouldn't get anywhere, just like he has done with mom all these years. Mom wants to run the show, but the girls will probably eventually come to see that their dad is a decent guy, and mom won't look so good herself as they figure these things out.
@@TRugmr78 so, an on duty cop, who's given permission to attend the hearing should go home and change? Ridiculous.. One more thing was right about your meds.. take a breath.
This is when a parent should be on her best behavior. Her actions in this arena display her inability to control herself. I can see her loosing her shit and hitting him. She has a fear of him not bringing them back but she keeps asking him if he's coming to get the girls. I bet he would want to see the kids if he didnt have to deal with her
They give themselves away everytime they pretend it was an authority figurr that made them get a tpo when they just so happen to be actively withholdong the children under threat of termination of parental rights through blackmail.
This judge is off base here. I had the same parenting agreement with my ex. Every time it became my weekend to get the kid their mom would be out of town with the kid, she would make other plans involving the child and would never produce the child during my weekends. After the 3rd court filing for contempt they finally got involved and forced her to drop the kid off at the police station for me to pick him up. This mom is abusing the system to try to get what she wants.
I think she the mom is too, but judges aren’t a,ways right 100% of the time. I still ,I’ve Judge Manning, she does the best she can with what she is given.
You are spot on in your comment. Once again I see a lying ex wife and another almost defeated dad. I am not impressed with Judge Manning in any way during this hearing. I hope things are now better for you and your child.
The kid? The child? 🤔maybe the fact that you are referring to your son/daughter as some sort of inanimate object was part of the problem? The kid. The child. The wife. The car. The dog. The couch.... etc
@@lakeluv195 well how else should I refer to them in this sense? If I use their name not one person on here would know who the fu ck I was referring to as you don’t know my kids. So please elaborate as to how I should refer to my child in an area no one knows him. And the point behind my post was his mother is a control freak and used violet, my son, against me until he got old enough to see it and since he was 13 years old lives with me and refuses to even stay the night at his moms because of the drama and games she tries to stir up.
@walterbryant2141 I apologize. I actually meant no disrespect. I have an ex who used to call our kids "That one" or "Her" or "the F!@#$%^ kids" when it came to our divorce. I asked for nothing from him than for him to spend time with them. He paid minimal child support for one year then stopped. I didn't pursue him or fight him. It was not worth it for the sake of my childrens' mental health. He just stopped seeing them one day..... a week in the summer when they were ready to go and he didn't show up and never showed up again. My kids are 32 and 27. He had two grandchildren. I tried to reach out to tell him he was a grandfather and he ignored me. I reached out to his sister and she told him not to bother. So..... I am sorry. There are bitter people in the world. I'm not bitter but hearing someone refer to their children as the kid or the child instead of my son or my daughter or my children simply triggers a sad response. Hope you were able to sort things out! EDIT: and to be clear it was never about me.... it was the hurt my children felt
I can’t believe Manning didn’t see my their behavior on the zoom hearing of how combative that woman is. He’s not perfect but she is far from it as well
Mrs. Hill is about to get a lot of special help even though Mr. Hill also said she pushed him. Now the state is going to spend money to take the little custody he has away. Wonderful equality...
33:17 and she proved my thinking. The judge gave her the benefit about this weekend but she willfully made plans for 2 consecutive weekends. That backs up what he said about how SHE was planning things on his weekends (just like the dental appointment)
She definitely isn’t making it easy for him- but he is a LEO, he knows how to enforce court orders.. he wasn’t interested in enforcing it & seeing his kids regularly. They’re both wrong.
I've got a sour opinion of the judge in this hearing. My apprehension is she had a bias against the guy. She gave no credence to his testimony and believed every word from the woman. I don't think it's that simple, and the judge should have paid more attention to what he had to say.
Yeah, she put her angry cop glasses on the moment she heard her say ""I'm a cop" in a threatening way". He was done, she didn't listen to a word he said..
Your a licensed attorney in Chicago, can you please tell me how and why crime has gotten so much worse in the past few years? Was it the cities new policies or is there some other reason?
This makes me so thankful my husband, myself and the mother of his son got along so good. We did birthday parties and other celebrations together. The kids are the only ones that suffer in situations like this. Both parents should do better focusing on the children and stop worrying about themselves only.
My wife has raised our oldest since he was 12, he turns 16 in 2 weeks. My sons birth mother lives in the same town and actually lived with us and she still has never remained to be in his life on a regular basis, she sees him about 8hours every 4-6 months.
My ex and I did the same. We divorced when our children were very young but we remained friends for the children. We do every holiday together, birthdays, etc., I consider him my friend. Our children are now adults and they have thanked us numerous times for remaining friendly to each other.
That probably would've happened if the mother in this situation wasn't spiteful and vindictive, he's the one clearly trying to do right by his kids and she's the one throwing his gifts to his children in the trash to punish him.
This is exhausting, the kids are always the losers in these cases. Sure my son didn’t want to go with his dad, I made him anyways because he needed both of us.
Money money money makes the world go wrong. Mom should not have paid - just let DAD take the disappointment of his daughter and the consequences with it. Sometimes the HARD choices have to be made even if kids are disappointed. Parent dropping something in the mailbox -- do not sweat the small stuff when you do it ends with you having the fuzzy end of the lollipop. Sigh. Too much long held anger and bitterness especially with kids in middle - is not good for anyone. Moms drama takes a huge chunk out of her credibility. She did herself no favors.
Both stated she stops his parenting time at the last minute because she “forgot they had dental appointments “. He says the same thing- that she’s doing this she’s the crazy one. I believe him. She’s unbalanced
She's so mad at him for not being able to control him she can't see straight. I don't understand the verbal bashing of dad when mom clearly cancels or plans something for every weekend.
Thank God these comments reflect my thoughts about this crazy woman. She's totally using them as weapons and paychecks. I can't believe the judge actually believes a word she says.
In eight years, he hasn't taken her to court for visitation? Sounds like he really values his children. Out of 300+ weekends, he's only had the kids 6 or 8 times?
Judge Judy always tells divorced parents “You need to love your kids more than you hate each other”.
So true.
She’s the problem
That woman is such a drama queen !!! Why doesn’t the judge tell her to stop her silly antics 😡
I think the judge let her go knowing that eventually she would talk right around to the truth. Drama fanatics like her usually do.
She dropped that she has weekends planned all up, one right after the other. If Judge Manning hadnt left her go, she wouldnt have shown that she was keeping them away from him.
Her drama drag the man and the kids all over. So whatever he can do he tries to squeeze it in. That how these narcs do they create the drama twisted then you get caught up into and look like you are the bad person.
This is frustrating as it sounds like mom is stopping his weekends, not so much he is not showing up.
This chic is nuts. She’s not afraid of him, she’s using these children as pawns…and dad is sick of it, and gave up. I bet a million dollars this woman talks crap about this man in front of his children. The whole hearing she’s so animated, like sit down and shut up.
did u get kicked in the head by a horse growing up perchance
People like you only exist because we took bullying out of schools
And she wanted a TPO 😂. She is snapping out on mute. She don’t seem scared at all. She looks like she would challenge him in a heartbeat 😆
The amount of energy put into hating an ex is mind-boggling to me.
@Jonathan O'Brien Sounds like you don't know when to let it go.
Couldn't agree more. It's one thing to take time to process a breakup, but the only person who suffers is the person who refuses to get over it.
@@jonmobrien Lol, you are correct. I got married once, for life. I'm thankful that we both committed to staying together, even though we have been through some seriously difficult and painful times. It's not always easier or better to split up.
I think there is way too much divorce nowadays. Some of the problems people get divorced over could be resolved while staying together, with the marriage ending up stronger and happier from working through some bad stuff. But I know some people do need to split up for good reasons. I just hate to see someone so angry all the time, even when talking to a judge. It's not good to let someone else control you, or to try to control someone else. Some people just have anger and hatred oozing out of them all the time. That's not healthy. And it repels the kindhearted, well-balanced people you might otherwise have in your life because nobody wants to be around that.
My previous comment was just an observation that it must be exhausting and miserable to carry that much anger.
Then you haven't had the right kind of exs. EDIT: I hate it when someone beats me to the punchline.
@@jonmobrien Depends why the relationship ended. I have multiple exes. I'm on good terms with all of them. There is no hatred or animosity. I wish them well and I appreciate the lessons I learnt from the relationship we shared. That being said, my relationships never ended due to betrayal or lying, etc. We just grew apart and moved on.
She canceled an entire weekend visit for one day of fillings? Is it just me or is she the problem?
She sure is the problem.
She's rude, combative, and controlling
I agree with you. She also proves his point further by the fact that she’s still going to get the next two weekends because “she already has plans”. I totally believe this man has tried and tried and maybe he eventually gave up, which should ever happen. Hopefully this will be a blessing in disguise for his relationship with the girls.
She us the problem
She is the problem. That’s probably why they aren’t together.
I think she is the problem 👌🏼
She most definitely tells him when he can see his kids. Why do you make dentist appointments on his weekend? Why do you make ANY plans on his weekend? Then she remembers that she worries that he won't bring them back, etc....
EXACTLY!
Spot on!
She stated there is a court agreement that he is to keep the kids on the weekends but that has never happened. Considering his history, it’s plausible he wouldn’t be with them on the weekends anyway, so why not schedule the dental appointment?
Thank you !!!!!!! My thoughts this entire time ! She knows exactly what she is doing making plans every weekend …. It’s pathetic.
Probably because he has been a deadbeat dad and she didn't think he would dhow up. My ex was the same way. He would call and tell me he would be over to pick them up in 5 minutes. Even though it wasn't his visitation time, I told him that would be great because we had no plans. So, they were all excited got all their stuff packed up, waiting by the door and he never showed up. They were so heartbroken and it was me who had to pick up the pieces. I kept just tell8ng them, " your daddy loves you and he was probably called into work" and I had to apologize for him. I had to go through this constantly until a coworker convinced me to stop making their father outside such a great guy and just say nothing. He said just let them ask him. I was never negative about their father except one time I did call him a jerk because of the way he was talking about his own son. Well, they grew up and started asking him about why he was never there, but was there for his step children. None of them unfortunately had a relationship with him, but he did not seem to care because he did better by his stepchildren than his bio kids, but it's his loss because they are awesome kids and now parents.
OMG Judge Manning was a police officer for 15 years before law school! She has walked the walk! Every new thing we find out about Judge Manning makes me love her even more!
Me, too! Where is she a judge? City/County/State??
Fulton County Atlanta.
@@pixi78 That's what I was thinking that she was in Greater Atlanta area, and it covers several counties. Thanks!
Same ❤❤❤❤
@@impalamama7302 Fulton County, Atlanta, GA
The fact that she’s so dramatic and keeps changing her story, it tells me that she has been withholding the kids from him and she’s lying or at the very least exaggerating things! Why throw away her gifts then send back things he’s given the girls!
Agreed
Definitely over exaggerating. Judge even brings up the fact when she claims she’s afraid he’ll take the kids and won’t bring them back. How can you say he wants nothing to do with them and yet worry about him taking them. Just her facial expressions and body language when on mute is proof that she has a tendency to be over dramatic.
@@yourlifeisagreatstory , agreed!
Yep, and parents that do this know full well that they can do it, and the only solution is get a court hearing, more lawyer fees and time off from work for the hearing. Then it just repeats again when the parent decides to control access to the kids again
Also, notice how often one parent or the other calls the kids "My Kids", instead of "Our Kids"
She has most likely made it very difficult to see his kids. She has plans that she already paid for.. She took it for granted that the judge would just say "OK, Dad will have to wait"....
Judge let that lady rant AND let her do the exact thing he said she's done for 8 years
He needs to follow the parenting plan and not allow her to get away with cancelling his time because she has apptmnts for them. He also needs to stay away from her as much as possible. If he has to see her record it or have a witness. This woman is trouble.
Yeah, he could have taken his kids to those appointments.
Yep. She deliberately arranges the children's dental appointments during his custody.
He really needed a lawyer
Yeah because apparently she's for the women and against men. Absolutely disgusting from beginning to end. It's almost like she sided with the woman from the get-go. Didn't hear a single word he said.
I agree, he needs to take her to court with a lawyer!!!
@janetconey3143right I think he is using his being a cop to abuse her.
I’m going to have to google him to see if he still has a job.
I see right through the mom's little BS tactic. She makes plans and pays for trips with the children on dad's weekend so that if he insists on his visitation, he's the bad guy with the kids. However, if he let's then go, then mom gets to say how he's a bad father who doesn't take the kids on his weekend. She knows what she's doing.
THIS. This frustrated me so much because she tried to intimidate HIM by saying "I called the cops" and twisted it around to say he was using it to intimidate her. He likely said "But I AM a cop, you calling them doesn't scare me " and Manning believed her . Grr.
I just learned Judge Manning was a police officer for 15 years before starting law school. She is living her calling of justice.
I couldn’t like her more!❤
This reminds me of a guy who started as an entry level electrician but then got more education and ended up an engineer and exec.
She is also a decorated army vet if I remember correctly, she has had quite the career and it all has led to her being one most bestest and awesomest (yeah yeah english I know 😂) Judges ever!!
Is snacking in court a new thing in Georgia
When I heard that & I was wondering if on Law & Order: SVU they modeled that cop turned lawyer/prosecutor after Judge Manning. The blond female cop is from GA so it is a possibility & there’s plenty of Judge Manning to pass around.
Yup, she just gets cooler and cooler in my books!
“Are you gonna bring them back? Are they gonna be ok?” She’s nuts!
Alexia must have been to drama school. 😂
So extra.... She got on my last nerve.
Yeah, and while he’s not picking them up and spending the time, the mom is poisoning their minds against him.
She doesn’t appear to be afraid of anyone. I agree he gave up trying to deal with Momma.
I was stalked by a sheriff's deputy once. Scariest thing ever, he pulled over guys he thought I liked, parked his cruiser in front of my home for hours at a time (not even his jurisdiction), told the local cops I was under investigation, and worse.
I had to resort to insanity to get him to stop. We had gone on ONE date.
Yikes!!!
OMG! Scary!
holy shit that is terrifying 🤯
Never go horizontal on the first date.
Y'all might have been stalked by the same officer, curious 🤨🧐 the comment above..
This mother seems like a nightmare to have to deal with
Most definitely
I'm lucky my oldest sons mom is worthless and never wanted to be even a part time mom. It sucks for my son but he's 16 now and he was 15 when he finally asked for the truth and to stop covering for his mom when she wouldn't show up. He only sees her a couple days a year. The few times he sees her a bunch of times in a month is when she gets a new boyfriend that she moves in with is when she is trying to look like mom of the year then after that month she tells the new guy I won't let her see her son. Many tried to fight me over her shit. I usually laugh
16:19 I wanted to be on the lady’s side because I know how messy things like this can be, but with her over acting it’s hard to believe she’s not always this dramatic
"overreacting", when discussing my childrens with my abusive ex, will never be in my lexicon when talking about his poor and intimidating behavior.
This doesn't diminish his actions at all...
@@nightstarstar1 it’s overreacting because she’s doing all this extra stuff while on zoom in court. Of course she’s allowed emotions. P.S. you don’t know anything about me so just stop with all that “perfect victim in your eyes” you sound ridiculous.
@@nightstarstar1 I have the right to an opinion whether you agree with it or not. You know nothing about me or absolutely anything I’ve been through. Sorry it ruffled your feathers so much
@@stoneovison I fully agree with you. She's being way too extra and it comes off as totally false. If anything she's mad at him and overplaying that in a condescending and self-righteous sort of way; I don't get any feeling of genuine fear from her.
His laziness and ignorance is one thing; her bullsh*t is another. She's the primary problem. And that's coming from a single mother and ex-wife of a cop.
I feel as though she has controlled everything and he probably got tired and beat down.
@@joycemarie9702 I don't disagree with you. His exhaustion is warranted if that's what has happened. However, being tired is not am excuse. It's a sad and slow way to abandon his responsibilities at the expense of his child's well-being.
The exwife is trying to destroy this man in anyway possible 😊
@@neergbenna He should've taken her to court but as is she's routinely flaunted the court ordered parenting plan anyways, rocking the boat is just a bad idea. Especially given that courts are biased against the father anyways, let's say he does take her to court; not only is he paying out the ass for it he's also 80% likely to get a judge that will side with the mother anyways. Now his rocky relationship with the ex-wife is rockier than ever and she has the advantage over him going forward and he might not even have enough money to keep fighting her.
Meanwhile she has access to dozens upon dozens of groups that will help her pay to fight him in court because she's a woman.
It's hard to keep fighting and even harder when you have to fight tooth and nail against a legal system that considers you a secondary parent at best.
@@neergbennait's not abandoning his children when she's doing everything she can to limit his ability to see the children while arguing how she wants him to see the children yet she says she's scared for the girls to see their dad. She wants it her way, when and how she wants it and he's supposed to just accept it and keep coming back for more.
It crazy how the judge is accepting her answers for not allowing him to see his kids. But won't even try and comprehend his answers that she will tell him that the kids always have something going on when he should have the kids!
Thats because its always the man's word against the systems word. It was ok for her to plan his weekend, but when he didn't show up it was the end of the world.
Yeah that was kind of disappointing. The lady had proven him right with her own testimony about that.
He admitted to saying “I’m a cop” in response to her calling the cops. He denies any negative implications but that’s BS. The only plausible implication is that they won’t do anything because he’s a LEO. And he admitted to being an inconsistent/absent parent. The burden of proof for a PTO is just more likely than not. 50.00001% is enough. Manning is an excellent judge. She follows the law
That said, this woman seems absolutely awful to deal with. The drama and histrionics are so off putting. But these 2 dummies chose to have children together. They both need to get it together and do what’s right for the kids
If I was fearful of him, I would have 3rd party do the exchanges. Why agree to a parenting plan in the 1st place...?
"1. Didn't have the time or the $, Your Honor.
2. These trips were already paid for, Your Honor."
She did NOT think this through, and she had time to do it. I smell Parental Alienation!
27:00 She was doing reasonably well, and then she's said she doesn't trust him to bring the kids back, which sounds a lot like admitting she won't let him take the kids when he's supposed to have them
Both parents need to grow up & do everything in their power to do right by those girls ....
Mum is really angry that this judge has put dads weekends with the kids back in place. I hope he sticks to it because I really believe this mother is purposely making things hard for him.
If she’s reacting like this after 8 years she needs counseling. She’s already remarried her response to him should be all business at this point. Girl co parent civilly for your daughters sake and let it go. Ughh.
Well said 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
I disagree. The ex husband is clearly out of line. The Mother is clearly upset, and agitated by the ridiculous actions of the guy. There is ZERO reason for that guy to be showing up at the Mother's home unannounced the way he does unless he has unhealthy control issues. He's clearly using monetary gifts and money as a way to try to coerce his children instead of being a proper parent by-way of upholding his responsibilities. A proper parent follows parenting plans, stays consistent, and would NEVER show up where they are not welcome outside of a court-ordered parenting plan where they've been REPEATEDLY told to not be. The guy's actions are on the brink of trespassing. Then the guy's trying to throw his weight-around because he's a police officer. (Shouldn't have been allowed the job in the first place of this is his mentally and conduct. That's disgusting, and the Judge called him out for it for a reason. The only unhealthy person I see here is the ex husband. If the guy can't be a proper Father and uphold his responsibilities to his own Children, I sure-as-heck wouldn't trust the guys judgement with a gun and a badge in law enforcement 👎
@@MMConsultinggroup She's asking for a TPO because the man stops by near her house, he's not even going into her home or stepping onto the porch. He drops gifts off in the mailbox for his kids (who she also keeps away from him illegally) and also he says 'I'm a police officer' when she threatens to call the cops on him.
Sorry not buying it, this woman is a loon.
Also, this is probably one of the first cases where I really disagree with Judge Manning, she's asking him why he threatened her with 'I'm a cop." and he very clearly explains that he didn't say it in a threatening way or that he's above the law. He was saying 'I know the law, I haven't done any crimes' when she's threatening to call the cops on him, he never said "I'm above the law" but Manning is laying into him for it anyways. Then she goes off on him for 'not showing up for his kids' when she's the one withholding the children, she even said she cancelled dad's weekend because the kids had the dentist and the father even elaborated that that's what she does. If she doesn't want the kids to go with him she makes up whatever excuse she wants to deny him his rights as a parent, if anything the only thing he's guilty of is dropping presents for his children in the mail box.
Big fucking whoop, the guy is providing for his daughters and the mother is throwing their gifts in the garbage (including cash money) and keep his children from him.
Dude never stole or kidnapped his own kids and she's making wild allegations in court that she's afraid he'll just one day for no reason take the kids and never bring them back, what the fuck is that?
She's throwing everything at the wall to try and keep him from his kids.
@@boanoah6362 Nope. Proper parents abide by the guidelines of parenting plans, respect and keep that consistency for their children. Unhealthy, neglectful parents just do whatever, whenever, because they think they're above the laws when they're not. Trying to say he's a cop only proves his blatant arrogance, showing he's trying the intentionally control and intimidate. His actions blatantly show he's putting himself first, and the children last. He's a 'weekend dad' 👎. Conversation END //
@@MMConsultinggroup Parenting plan said he was supposed to drop by the house to pick up his kids for the WEEKEND. She filed a TPO because she doesn't want him coming to her house, he specifically mentions that she constantly denied him his weekends. She doesn't even remember what weekends are supposed to be his, but he knows, wonder why it is that he knows which weekends are supposed to be his and why she doesn't.
When questioned about violence he mentions he accidentally shoved her over a decade ago and doesn't even remember her other allegations. What is the next thing out of her mouth? "I'm afraid he's going to steal the kids and I'll never see them again!"
Dude never once failed to bring the kids back, not once, he gives his kids gifts and makes sure they're taken care of, what does she do? She throws the gifts in the trash, denying him even the simple act of giving his children something for Valentines day, who does that? A vindictive spiteful woman does.
The guy ain't no saint but he's clearly not a deadbeat and he's clearly trying to follow the parenting guidelines that she refuses to follow.
You have eyes, you have ears, you have a brain, use them.
The mother is intent on making this guy's life a living hell.
Strong and overpowering narcissistic woman personality.
I feel she's not afraid at all. Sometimes we have to love our kids more than we hate our exes.
150 dollars for a field trip with no proof bish I'm going to nah show proof she wants attention from him.bad she misses him you can hear it in her voice
She’s angry, aggressive and bitter 😢 Not saying he’s innocent but I know for sure he loves his career enough to not jeopardize it with her drama!! She needs help. 🙏🏿🙌🏿
Right
👏🏻👏🏻 thank you!!!
All the time!!!
I hate it when one parent says, “MY children.” It’s “our.”
Every time my former spouse said "my children," I would pause before responding and state "our children."
Alex Manning is SUCH a quality human being. One can't but help and love her. ❤
You're kidding right
Her advice on raising girls is genius!! I am so happy this is something I practice with my girls but never saw it from that perspective
@@nadiaborden4366POs o
He's not going to keep his kids for good from you... He doesn't want to deal with you or your mouth!!
Alexia is too much. She doesn’t seem afraid of him as much as she doesn’t like how he is doing as a dad.
She’s not doing herself any favors with this emotion. I get these family issues are triggering but she’s too much. As always, I feel for the kids more than anyone else.
It’s the catch 22. If she didn’t show emotion it’d be “she’s not afraid! She doesn’t seem intimidated!”
I am betting if she were a white female some of the comments critizing the woman would be different.
I couldn’t handle it but he picked her!
@@jackielove2737THIS point right here! Every other woman is allowed to be expressive, scared, intimidated all of that except the Black woman. I’m getting mighty tired of the micro aggressions from this chat in relation to Black women and I really think it needs to be addressed
Maybe if you don't like honest opinions and open discussions, here isn't for you?
Lawtalk with mike is why I sat my 17 year old son down and explained why it’s very important for him to be very careful when he picks women because a short amount of time can tie him to crazy for 18 years.
Way over 18 years.
Thats just the lowest amount.
People often are still in court for their adult kids based on agreements to pay portions of college
It’s a good move though.
Her antics while he is talking is crazy!
So she is just taking it upon herself to alter the custody agreement !?! She is something else.
Oooooooh my goodness…. First off… when a woman throws that hand on that hip it’s about to go down!!! Second…. Why are we getting so loud??!?!! Oh boy!
She admitted she violated the order. She should of brought fear up 8 years ago. This reminds me of my ex. She did everything possible to keep me away just to hurt me. No violence ever happened we never even argued. I watched my parents argue so I would rather sit there and say nothing if she got mad. I think that drove her nuts lol
A lot of women act like this. They try to dominate and control everything. It very unnatural and it makes them, the man, and the kids unhappy. And the courts encourage it.
I have seen some judges telling people not to react visually, as she is doing, and got contempt if they did.. she is basically talking through body language when it is not her turn to talk!
They both seem like winners, but I think she is filing this TPO as a punishment not out of actual fear. She doesn't have fear of this guy.
I think she has a fear that he'll do something out of spite- like not bringing them back. However it doesn't sound like he really cares to "have" them - he's got a new wife- unsure if he has kids with the new wife, might just be living fairly care-free without kids 24/7 at his house so he might just bring them back early if anything.
@@TRugmr78 It's classic bs by the narcissistic alienating parent.
Agreed, it is completely punishment. SHE THREW AWAY ALL THE GIFTS! She's spiteful and vindictive.
The dude just showing up at her house with "gifts" randomly without any notice, is passive aggressive AF. The fact that he is a cop and acting that way would be really scary though, cuz that is his attitude, I can get by with this, because I am a cop. The dude didn't really deny that he did that, and I aint buying his BS explanation that he isn't meaning to intimidate. in this regard I think she SHOULD be scared of this guy, the way he is acting.
She did file this TPO AND also went through to get the parenting plan changed to be more specific, which was never specific to begin with. While I do think she isn't totally without her share of spitefulness, and she has probably been interfering and controlling the shots with visitation, by initiating the follow up mediation, she will end up having to give up a lot of control and she isn't going to like it.
This TPO is all about mom's upcoming family court case modifying the parenting plan. It's so transparent. As she told the judge, "this is all new" with dad wanting to be involved with his girls. She's been in charge all this time, and she's going to march into court with her TPO and make sure she stays in charge. I see supervised visitation in dad's future. I hope the judge on his family court case has more discernment than Manning. He definitely needs a lawyer.
Why did she call the police when she found gifts for the kids?!?! 😠 😡 😤 she's all about the drama
Sounds to me like she just doesn't want him to have them but she wants the child support.
He’s manipulating the court, he pops up whenever he wants. Ignores his children and responsibilities, then demands 100 % compliance on her part. He’s typical, holiday man, this was Valentine’s Day, the next time he will come around will be Fathers Day.
@@kikatx08 Wow, you're superpower is freaking amazing. Your ability to know what he thinks, feels, & does w/o even knowing him, damn. Do you teach this?
@@kikatx08 ...I disagree.....she is way overbearing ...
@@jacksally1 and op’s comment wasn’t reading her mind??
Judge Manning for President 🇺🇸! I adore her and enjoy all her clips. She is genuine and always unbiased and fair.
I think she’s the problem. I think he gave up. She’s doing all this to get the money with him out of the picture completely. This order she’s asking for is the beginning of the end for him if she gets it. She could and probably trying to mess his career up too.
I agree with you!! The mother is mean and vindictive.
I agree completely and I think the judge has a problem with men. She didn’t want to hear anything he said. She was shaming him. He’s prob wasn’t perfect in all of this, but I believed him when said she prevented him from seeing the kids.
@@wesner326 I don't think it's a problem with men I think it's a bias because she was a cop and his defense against the abuse allegations was a little weak. She's very much so trying to emphasize that he needs to be there for his kids while at the same time not quite grasping that the mother is keeping his kids from him.
What is he supposed to do when she's withholding his children? He should've taken her to court for it but men are routinely biased against in court, why bother? Further Manning acts like he should just show up and get his kids but the problem is that the original parenting plan indicated he was supposed to go to her house to get the kids, who coincidentally is filing a TPO against him so he can't go anywhere NEAR her house.
The poor guy was doomed from the start really.
I think he was probably awful 10 years ago, but is alot better now. She is dramatic but he was probably lacklustre.
If I were Mr. Allen, I'd have thrown myself down the stairs.
I have a fear doesn’t matter, where is the proof of any of her claims? Where’s the photos of the holes, broken remote? Where is the police report where he threw her down the steps? This lady is just crazy
He just needs to plan ahead and celebrate holidays on "his time" with the kids. If he states he was just there to drop gifts off, then why refuse to leave when asked and was waiting for their return outside their home?
Not defending him but I think it was because he didn't want to leave money in the mailbox.
He should be able to say hello to and say hello go his children
@@JasonMW45 Not necessarily. You can't just show up whenever you want to without calling first or without permission if it is not his time for her to give access to the children. His behavior is passive aggressive AF and just the kind of games an abusive man will play.
@@itsjustlaurel1531 I actually am defending him on this one. You're right that he said he didn't want to leave cash in the mailbox. He also said he was texting mom about a safer place to leave it while, unbeknownst to him, she's parked somewhere nearby calling the police on him. Mom saw her opportunity here and took it. All this and her shiny new TPO will help a lot with her upcoming case modifying parenting time. If dad doesn't get a lawyer, he's a fool.
@@-HeyLyd- If money was the only reason to stay, why didn't he leave when asked? And if he really wants to see his kids, why did he have so many no-shows on his weekends of scheduled times? He just thinks he can show up and force a visit. No!
Dad doesn’t pick them up or keep them when he is supposed too but then she says he isn’t going to bring them back? Mom is definitely crazy. I’m afraid for my life over basic relationship arguments that occurred almost 10 years ago.
She is a terrible communicator, but what she meant is because his visits are so erratic, she finds him untrustworthy.
as a black woman if my ex was to says "I am a police man" multiple times after I know they are an officer and/or while I am calling the police I would take that as a threat, especially if they have their gun on them.
@@serenaperry23exactly. I feel so bad for this woman I don’t get why people are calling her crazy and hating on her. It would be terrifying to deal with an ex like him. I feel for her and her children
Where is the present history of offending? Tone and how you word things make a big difference. It’s all about context. If she is accusing him of being a dirt bag and doesn’t want to give him the kids on his weekend. And he responds, “That’s the past, I’ve changed my life for the better and I’m even a police officer now.” That’s not threatening in anyway. He would just be rebutting her statement. But obviously if it’s coming from a menacing place where they argue and he is saying “call the cops. I’m a cop, they ain’t going to do nothing.” Than that’s a problem. But if they man hasn’t physically touched anyone in several years than aren’t we beating a dead horse? From what I remember, mom liked to schedule things on dad’s weekends as an excuse for him not to take the children. Imo mom wants the child support and than wants him to disappear so she can live her life with the new family unit.
@@fluffy_mcflooferson4635 But his visits are erratic because she constantly plans shit on his weekends and makes up excuses for why he can't pick up his kids. One of the first ones mentioned is he was going to pick the kids up and she cancelled his weekend because the kids had a dental appointment. What happens at the end when the judge tells her that the dad is mandated to get his kids for his upcoming weekend? "I already made plans for that weekend, they cost me a lot of money, he can't come get them that weekend."
She's the one blocking his weekends and then using his missed weekends against him.
But has he ever thought about maybe informing her that he is a police officer?
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Christen eating that apple and paying full attention is HILARIOUS!!!!
I was once stalked by a county deputy it was awful and I felt helpless until I had the courage to call the sheriff and complain. He lost the post he had
How Pavlovian, I hear “Judge Manning” and I instantly hit “play.”
how come the woman eating the apple didnt get yelled at for eating in court lol
As he is in a Zoom court driving. Speaks volumes about his law enforcement skills
She better hope she can prove the things she’s claiming against that officer. Number one, if it’s true he needs to lose his job. If it’s not true, she’s jeopardizing his job and the means by which he makes money to pay child support.
I understand her frustration with his inconsistency and the situation that triggered her. But I do believe him too.
Her behavior in court is immature and disgusting. If she behaves that way there, I can only imagine what she's like with him.
I’m disappointed in judge Manning in this case. I can’t believe she didn’t see through this ladies BS. First she complained that he doesn’t see the kids enough. Then, when she realizes the judge is pushing the dad to see his kids every other weekend (and fight for that right), all of a sudden she is soooo worried he won’t bring them back if he gets them. Also, granting a TPO based on things he may (her word against his) have done over 8 years ago, BEFORE they were divorced and were still living in the same house, is a bit far fetched in my opinion. She is not afraid of him, it looks to me that she is trying her very best to get the bio dad out of the picture, so she and her now husband can play house. But hey, she sure wants those child support checks coming in on a monthly basis.
Dad needs to get a back bone (and a lawyer) and fight for his right to see the kids and the rights of the kids to see their dad. Seems to me he has given up on that because he is tired of dealing with the drama the mom seems to be good at creating. I feel sorry for the kids because they are left holding the bag.
I agree with this whole comment right, you can see at the end she wanted to cry because she didn't get her way, shame
I totally agree. Judge Manning should have 100% reprimanded mom for her stupid and inappropriate overacting and facial expressions during court.
Also Judge yelling at Dad “oh you need to be there for your kids” when mom cancels his entire weekend over a dentist appointment? Excuse me.
Mine sent my first daughter to live with me when she turned 18, my son still has a couple years till 18, and end of CS, so at least I can time when he'll be sent to live with me
Dad could have and should have disputed her allegation, because I doubt she brought any evidence to present to the court.
I agree he needs an attorney cause if a restraining order is granted because he didn't catch her flip flopping to get her way depending on what judge manning is saying can cause him to lose his career. A restraining order prevents you from owning or carrying a firearm even as a police officer which the police department would put him on unpaid leave or tell him he can retire or be fired...
His ex is so full of shit her blue eyes turned brown!
What the hell is that woman doing munching on an apple in court? Disrespectful to Judge Manning.
How are all these theatrics not being held in contempt?!
She look like she went to over acting classes. Money well spent.😁
Her OWN testimony was that she canceled his timesharing at the last minute, because she forgot about their “dental appointments”. That makes zero sense. Dentists offices are not open past 5pm on Friday, until 9am on Monday. She’s not creditable.
Wait - all dentists offices are not open after 5pm? Is that a law or something?
I wish people could stop saying things like that as if they’re factual. Talk about generalising…
@@Aurora-Nyx This is my wheelhouse. Parents come up with all kinds of excuses to violate court orders and “decide” whether or not the children are available for the court ordered timesharing. She had NO right to schedule anything on his day. She had no right to keep the children all weekend. She’s Clearly in the wrong here. He needed an attorney. I would have filed motions for contempt every single time she prevented a timesharing- and forced her to pay all of my fees. . Dental offices are generally not open after 5, and are NEVER open all weekend. Also, the appointment could not take more then a few hours. It was an excuse. A very bad excuse, and she is showing contempt of the court. All he had to do is file the motion. It will be granted. She will stop if she has to pay $1,500 in attorney’s fees every time she makes his lawyer draft and litigate one of her violations.
Kids need your Prescence more than your Presents.
Sometimes the kids are better off without certain parents.
31:02 she withholds them because now she says no I can’t do this weekend because already made plans, she doesn’t want him to have them. Disgusting!
When I was divorced and had visitation scheduled, I would write it on a large wall calendar. If something came up for me or my ex stopping that days/weekends visitation, that would be noted on the calendar. I kept those calendars until both of my kids were adults. If there had been any court proceeding, I figured that years of notations would be of some value in court.
Good thing you didn't end up needing that documentation but that was a damn good idea to maintain it just in case! A lot of these conflicts seem like they would be much simpler to sort out if the parties had good records that were accurate.
That woman is obnoxious with all the stupid facial expressions, rolling the eyes in the back of her head and throwing of the hands. She’s going to regret keeping those girls from their father.
After the 97478 time she said "Because I'm a police officer" I almost had a stroke .....
I didn’t like the way Judge Alex treated the dad. Both are pieces of work.
Agree.
@@TRugmr78 They need to increase your Adderall.
@@onemorething100 wow thats nice.
Dad is no hero, but he couldn't get a word in edge-wise and Manning had pretty much made up her mind when mom spoke. He doesn't deserve a TPO but gave up when he saw he wouldn't get anywhere, just like he has done with mom all these years. Mom wants to run the show, but the girls will probably eventually come to see that their dad is a decent guy, and mom won't look so good herself as they figure these things out.
@@TRugmr78 so, an on duty cop, who's given permission to attend the hearing should go home and change? Ridiculous..
One more thing was right about your meds.. take a breath.
I’m glad he expressed that about how police can get called on too
This is when a parent should be on her best behavior. Her actions in this arena display her inability to control herself. I can see her loosing her shit and hitting him. She has a fear of him not bringing them back but she keeps asking him if he's coming to get the girls. I bet he would want to see the kids if he didnt have to deal with her
They give themselves away everytime they pretend it was an authority figurr that made them get a tpo when they just so happen to be actively withholdong the children under threat of termination of parental rights through blackmail.
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I am amazed Judge Manning has not commented on the person eating on zoom...smh
So disrespectful to the Court.
"My ex turned up at the time when he was supposed to pick up the kids and so I called the police and want a TPO." -Summary.
This judge is off base here. I had the same parenting agreement with my ex. Every time it became my weekend to get the kid their mom would be out of town with the kid, she would make other plans involving the child and would never produce the child during my weekends. After the 3rd court filing for contempt they finally got involved and forced her to drop the kid off at the police station for me to pick him up. This mom is abusing the system to try to get what she wants.
I think she the mom is too, but judges aren’t a,ways right 100% of the time. I still ,I’ve Judge Manning, she does the best she can with what she is given.
You are spot on in your comment. Once again I see a lying ex wife and another almost defeated dad. I am not impressed with Judge Manning in any way during this hearing. I hope things are now better for you and your child.
The kid? The child? 🤔maybe the fact that you are referring to your son/daughter as some sort of inanimate object was part of the problem? The kid. The child. The wife. The car. The dog. The couch.... etc
@@lakeluv195 well how else should I refer to them in this sense? If I use their name not one person on here would know who the fu ck I was referring to as you don’t know my kids. So please elaborate as to how I should refer to my child in an area no one knows him. And the point behind my post was his mother is a control freak and used violet, my son, against me until he got old enough to see it and since he was 13 years old lives with me and refuses to even stay the night at his moms because of the drama and games she tries to stir up.
@walterbryant2141 I apologize. I actually meant no disrespect. I have an ex who used to call our kids "That one" or "Her" or "the F!@#$%^ kids" when it came to our divorce. I asked for nothing from him than for him to spend time with them. He paid minimal child support for one year then stopped. I didn't pursue him or fight him. It was not worth it for the sake of my childrens' mental health. He just stopped seeing them one day..... a week in the summer when they were ready to go and he didn't show up and never showed up again. My kids are 32 and 27. He had two grandchildren. I tried to reach out to tell him he was a grandfather and he ignored me. I reached out to his sister and she told him not to bother. So..... I am sorry. There are bitter people in the world. I'm not bitter but hearing someone refer to their children as the kid or the child instead of my son or my daughter or my children simply triggers a sad response. Hope you were able to sort things out!
EDIT: and to be clear it was never about me.... it was the hurt my children felt
24:49 the only thing I will have to say on that takes one to know one and if the boot fits
I can’t believe Manning didn’t see my their behavior on the zoom hearing of how combative that woman is. He’s not perfect but she is far from it as well
So both parties have admitted to breaking federal law by putting items in the mail box, under oath.
Really?? Out of this entire hearing, that is what you heard?? I bet you are loads of fun at a party😂😂
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Mrs. Hill is about to get a lot of special help even though Mr. Hill also said she pushed him. Now the state is going to spend money to take the little custody he has away. Wonderful equality...
it sure seems like she is the one that is blocking him.
33:17 and she proved my thinking. The judge gave her the benefit about this weekend but she willfully made plans for 2 consecutive weekends. That backs up what he said about how SHE was planning things on his weekends (just like the dental appointment)
She definitely isn’t making it easy for him- but he is a LEO, he knows how to enforce court orders.. he wasn’t interested in enforcing it & seeing his kids regularly. They’re both wrong.
Why is that lady having a seizure while he speaking, let him make a fool of himself. Least u can do is maintain yourself
I've got a sour opinion of the judge in this hearing. My apprehension is she had a bias against the guy. She gave no credence to his testimony and believed every word from the woman. I don't think it's that simple, and the judge should have paid more attention to what he had to say.
Yeah, she put her angry cop glasses on the moment she heard her say ""I'm a cop" in a threatening way". He was done, she didn't listen to a word he said..
I agree
Your a licensed attorney in Chicago, can you please tell me how and why crime has gotten so much worse in the past few years? Was it the cities new policies or is there some other reason?
These children will never be right when you have a disgruntled baby momma and a hardworking dad.
This makes me so thankful my husband, myself and the mother of his son got along so good. We did birthday parties and other celebrations together. The kids are the only ones that suffer in situations like this. Both parents should do better focusing on the children and stop worrying about themselves only.
My wife has raised our oldest since he was 12, he turns 16 in 2 weeks. My sons birth mother lives in the same town and actually lived with us and she still has never remained to be in his life on a regular basis, she sees him about 8hours every 4-6 months.
My ex and I did the same. We divorced when our children were very young but we remained friends for the children. We do every holiday together, birthdays, etc., I consider him my friend. Our children are now adults and they have thanked us numerous times for remaining friendly to each other.
That probably would've happened if the mother in this situation wasn't spiteful and vindictive, he's the one clearly trying to do right by his kids and she's the one throwing his gifts to his children in the trash to punish him.
Your kids are lucky to have you all! ❤
She doesn't act like she is afraid of anything or anybody
This is exhausting, the kids are always the losers in these cases. Sure my son didn’t want to go with his dad, I made him anyways because he needed both of us.
The colder-sac. Must be differentiated from the warmer-sac. To be be clear.
Money money money makes the world go wrong. Mom should not have paid - just let DAD take the disappointment of his daughter and the consequences with it. Sometimes the HARD choices have to be made even if kids are disappointed. Parent dropping something in the mailbox -- do not sweat the small stuff when you do it ends with you having the fuzzy end of the lollipop. Sigh. Too much long held anger and bitterness especially with kids in middle - is not good for anyone. Moms drama takes a huge chunk out of her credibility. She did herself no favors.
Christine munching on an apple listening to the drama 😂
Both stated she stops his parenting time at the last minute because she “forgot they had dental appointments “. He says the same thing- that she’s doing this she’s the crazy one. I believe him. She’s unbalanced
She's so mad at him for not being able to control him she can't see straight. I don't understand the verbal bashing of dad when mom clearly cancels or plans something for every weekend.
Oh man I forgot it was TPO Thursday lol thank you for the clip I missed
Thank God these comments reflect my thoughts about this crazy woman. She's totally using them as weapons and paychecks.
I can't believe the judge actually believes a word she says.
In eight years, he hasn't taken her to court for visitation? Sounds like he really values his children. Out of 300+ weekends, he's only had the kids 6 or 8 times?
The Judge seen through his bs