I'm Getting Burned Out From Being So Intense!
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I appreciate how this guy gives very concise and direct answers without going into a whole chapter of his life story after each question.
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Yep, no bs
A lot of people need to hear this. It is great to get your world in order and get out of debt but you need the why involved and also a purpose for getting up every morning outside of paying bills. Those kids will be gone soon enough. Spend those additional 40 hours a week making memories with them
The problem is he had a why. A misdirected why
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THIS!!
FT.... don't have kids and live free! 😂🎉❤
I understand where he is coming from. Switching from gazelle intense to intentional is HARD. I keep wanting to go back to gazelle intensity. Something oddly comforting about the intensity.
It's the feeling of accomplishment from working so much. So when you switch to intentional and relax some more you feel like you're doing something wrong because you could be working at something.
^^This!
@@realtonysolo imo when youre done being gazelle intense you could use that free time to start a little business or something where you still make money but youre not killing yourself working. its like you worked hard to get to this point because you had to be gazelle intense there wasnt another option but now since you made it you can do something that wasnt an option before. do i make sense? hopefully lol
@@realtonysolo na i think it’s the feeling of not having the deal with anybody while ur bank account just gets fatter an fatter
Same tbh though that intensity made me really depressed
I seriously felt this call, I’m at the exact same step as him with similar income. When I’m working overtime I feel like I’m missing out on so much outside of work. But when I’m not working, I feel like I should be out there making more money, it’s a hard balance at this stage and drives me crazy sometimes.
Try to step out of yourself whenever you feel that way and look at the big picture you're painting
You’re not missing out on anything. Most people just waste their time playing video games and getting high
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You aren't missing out. 10 years from now you will not care about that time you didn't go out with friends, or you missed out on going to a movie, but you will be kicking yourself for putting things off for so long when it could have been taken care of years ago. When you put things off you just are condemning yourself to a lifetime of disappointment and frustration, but if you take charge of things now and just take a year to get it all done then you will have a lifetime of happiness. And this goes beyond finances. You need to lose weight or get into shape, do it now. You are unhappy with your job and want to start a new career, do it now. Want to ask out a girl, do it now. There is no point in waiting around for things to magically work out. Get working on things now and in a couple years you will wonder why you ever considered dragging your feet.
@@dash4800 Very wise and I agree 100 percent.
Joseph, cut the hours and focus on your mental health. You’ve accomplished a lot and doing a great job!
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I worked hard until I turned 51, then I got cancer. 40 hours a week now and that's it. I'm too tired to do anymore.
Hope you're doing well now.
Prayers and Well wishes to you for good health…
Hope you’re doing well
I’m 51 and newly chronically ill. Nothing material, financial… matters more than good health. Love your loved ones, take care of your health…put finances in order….life will be rich.
@@ragdollpreppers2648 amen bro, sucks cause my girlfriend dumped me and Im even a millionaire
I've been in the caller's shoes and my life was absolutely miserable. I ended up quitting the 2nd job because I was so burnt out and exhausted. When I wasn't working, I was thinking about more work and getting out of debt. I don't miss those days at all. I restructured my finances to accommodate not having the 2nd job and while it wasn't easy, I loved having free weekends to just breathe.
I hope he finds peace and healing! He deserves it.
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I’m in the same situation! I’ve gone Gizal for up to 3 years! Got 75k left but my mental health has been TERRIBLE!! Basically have no social life due to saving all the money ! No hobbies! Where I have loads! It’s been so hard ! I feel I’ve got myself in a strange position! As it’s become addictive & slightly an obsession! Looking back I’m so glad I’ve gone this hard as I’m self employed and a model so I don’t know the future of my work. But being burn out has back fired as it’s made me so stressed 😩! I just need someone to slap me out of it!
All this guy is doing is literally taking years off his life, I do everything in my power to NOT put myself in a position where I have to work myself to death.
Death is death and life is Life
Several years ago I was working 50 to 60 hours a week. There was a woman in her 40s or 50s who practically lived there, besides vacation I could never recall not seeing her didn’t matter if it were day or night shift.
One day she didn’t show up to work without calling. Turned out she had passed away. In my opinion she worked herself to death.
Cut back the hours, spend time with your kids, enjoy life, live longer because of it.
Unless you want to work like all the time and have no family/kids/life or whatever, I guess sure. I'd do it for a period of time tbh
@@Jumperman12mac i have no family/kids and yeah i do enjoy my work and my parents rely on me. Yeah its doable but its not really sustainable. I end up getting depressed that I just want to sleep all day and do nothing at home. I felt empty
He sounds like he’s about pass out from exhaustion.
I can empathize with him. I'm a high school teacher and then work at the depot 20-25 hours a week. Getting out of school feeing emotionally empty and then having to go to work 5-10pm and feel physically exhausted week after week is no fun.
Agreed. Are you going to make some changes too or?
U lost at life bro 🤦🏽♂️
That is just too much. If you're out of debt, just chill out and pay down the mortgage slowly. You don't need to pay it off that quickly. One job is enough.
He has the custody of his children 50 % of the time, how much do you work when you have the children. You need to have fun and enjoy your kids as much as you can
They grow up so fast and you will realize how much time you lost working too much. Within a few years, your children will start hanging out with their friends more and not wanting to do fun things with the parents. Do all those things now while they still think
Dad is a great guy. No one says on their deathbed or when the kids leave home and barely visit you, I should have put more overtime in so I can fill my schedule for time by myself.
While being a hard worker is great. Everyone needs to enjoy the rewards of that hard work and enjoy life. Otherwise what is the point of working so hard?
Those of us who have no family, for us... we have nothing else to do.
@@A-t-r-u-s I am someone that is like that, but the reason that it seems there is nothing to do is because we work too much and do not give ourselves something to do. Unless the work is something you absolutely love doing. Doing only that will burn you out and make you want to do absolutely nothing. We need to have a break before we break. Been there, done that. Do not want to do it again.
That guy sounded tired and if he slows down a little bit, as some others have said, he can really enjoy the time with his kids
my now ex-coworker worked two full time jobs…. and became an alcoholic because his body hurt all the time and his mental health was baaaad. you could see the emptiness when he talked to you. eventually he stopped showing up to our job… so either he finally decided to slow down or something happened. hope he’s doing ok…
I would even downgrade in house or just rent until you can pay cash for something else. Some house you are working all the time to pay off is definitely not worth the burn out.
I love the getting friends together advice. Great for yourself and most of the time your buddies need it too.
I know this guys job, I do the same. Agree, he needs to cut the second job and get a higher paying main option. I was in the same boat. He can do it, good luck to him.
I told my wife to take a 20k paycut to take the job that is 40 hours a week vs 70 hours a week. There's a reason they call it work/life balance.
she could take the divorce cut and never have to work in her life, just live off the alimony you will hand her. lol
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Well, she makes twice what I do, so that will never happen. lol
@@boredoreos Oh no she will take half. The courts are merciless.
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 I'm saying since she makes more than I do, I'll be the one getting alimony. So it's a bad deal for her to divorce.
@@boredoreos You would think right? ;)
Money will never care how tired you are.
The goal is to make your money work for you not work for your money I focus on active investing and paying off debt more than increasing income but I do work extra when I get the chance
@@austintomkewitz3981 please proofread. Oh, and you don’t know what you’re talking about.
@@mikenelson8377 says you money doesn't have the ability to care please proofread
If you're not in debt you shouldn't be working two jobs anymore. I did it while paying my student loans off but I had no life at all. Just slept and worked. As soon as my debt was gone I only had one job so I can actually live my life. You're not here to just work and make money you need some life.
Unless one of the jobs is fun that brings in some money and energises you.
So good to hear WISDOM on the interweb and not just education and BS
I can't help but remember that one Canadian man who had like 2-3 jobs, worked all the time and biked to and from work to pay off his home in three years and Dave had him on the show and DEFENDED his actions.
3 years is just about ok, I’ve done the same thing for 3 years beans & rice / got a bike etc! But over 3 years it’s SO HARD & too much!! It’s effected my mental health like crazy
That Canadian was badass. Everything has its season. If my dad had done that for 2-3 years and then plugged in it would have been great. My dad did that for 30 years and was a shithead the whole time.
Get while the getting's good. Working intensively is different that working from addiction and control. 2-3 years is intense. Then get plugged back in.
Like spending all night cleaning up a septic spill that backed up into your house--intense night for a specific purpose, and then back to regular maintenance cleaning.
My take away from this segment is ; when the Ramsey's were broke and ended up filing bankruptrsy. Sharon Ramsey didn't work outside the home. So when Dave tells ppl their spouse needs to get off their butts and pitch in to pay down debt, that isn't what the mighty Ramsey's did. Dave worked himself very hard after the bankruptsy. But Sharon wasn't delivering pizza's ,driving a cab, working at a restaraunt. Etc
Do as I say, not as we do. The Ramsey way.
When you make it on your own, there is no greater feeling!
been doing it for 16 years this two job life... felt like since my parents did it to raise us, i didn't have the right to complain. definitely missed out on a lot of traveling when i was younger but I learned a lot and can retire at age 35. now, saved 50% of income to invest in nasdaq
@@neuralismgamingtv4511 I’m not saying it was a problem just said I worked a lot and didn’t travel lol
how does he have 50% custody and two full time jobs? when does he have time for the kids?
He works from home so he can be multitasking
Might be OK to have a small "celebration" for each bill paid off forever.
Bake a cake... A bit better than a "beans and rice" meal.
Once everything is paid off other than the mortgage, the sprint ends.
Budget in a bit of entertainment. (but still work to pay the mortgage off early)
“You needa get gazelle intense brotha!!”
This is why I feel everyone has to make a money making machine through investments. But as long as he is not with the kids he can do a second job... nothing is wrong with this. He can use that extra money and make that money making machine... if it is investing in the S&P 500 or a dividend mutual fund or real estate...
He just needs free time for when he has the kids.
Joseph you're doing great you should be proud of what you accomplished. As Dave said you can allow yourself to breath.
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When others tell me to slow down, I go even harder. Surround yourself with people who will support you, not limit you. If your reading this, keep going and don’t stop until you accomplish everything you want.
There is no balance when you want to be great.
I felt this call more than any in the past for sure
Yep 👍
I think he is working both jobs simultaneously. That’s why his first gripe was that anxiety was killing him. Maybe that type of lifestyle isn’t for him
Two things. One, he’s probably holding the second job to distract him from the pain of divorce. Two, it probably wouldn’t be that much of a problem if he had face to face with his clients in the second job
That would make sense but sadly it's the worst way to move forward after something like divorce. People need to socialize and build relationships not isolate. As soon as he quits this second job and gets socializing and doing some hobbies he's going to feel so much better.
@@littleripper312 I agree. If he was able to interface with people more in his side gig he’d be a lot happier. Win win
Dave says you don’t need that extra 60K 😆 He owes 240K, so yes he does
Yes
Yes but that's only the house.. you only get ONE life. Live a little. That means making time for his family and his own fun too.
@@motoryzen No time for fun and games when you have serious bills to pay. Pay now, play later.
Dave never asked about the guy's bills. And he's now paying for the kid's private school tuition. Looks like some lifestyle creep with that second job.
Do not blame ya. Knowing that money is always owed and minimum wage jobs do not give enough to live on is mind boggling in itself.
It’s minimum wage why should it be livable? Bare minimum skills require bare minimum effort which equals bare minimum pay. Simple
@@ryanthepianoman27 *sigh* F D R
The caller should stop complaining and get a third job delivering pizzas. Rice and beans. Beans and rice. I don't want him seeing the inside of a restaurant unless he's working at it. I mean scorched earth. His friends will think he's gone crazy. Then maybe, maybe in 24-36 months he could probably afford to buy himself a new pair of sneakers for his new fourth job as a dog walker in his local community.
Poor guy sounds exhausted! 😞
after pay off my house i go slower mode for my side work, i turn down for far aways repair work, and the work little bit too much for one person. i should slow down more.
anyway i still work over time for my main job, because guarantee money just show up 🤣
I think he gamified the baby steps without realizing it. Now he has to win win win!
My husband and I are divorcing for this very reason. He wouldn’t dial back..
breath.
And spend time with our daughter and I.
How funny, women all want a man who works and makes lots of money, yet then complain their man works too much! Fact, women are never happy.
Depends how hard of a job the 2nd one is. Maybe he only has to work 10 hours and gets paid for all 40
Did they ask how much child support is and how much of his pay check has to go to the ex?
The more he makes, the more he has to pay.
No. If he drops his income he has to go back to court if his CS was based on $140K.
This was my question, too. $80k is good but it depends how on how much the spouse makes as well. Also, there could be alimony involved, depending on the state.
Burnout is no joke..
I've been out of debt the same day goerge became debt free, but I too have been gazelle intense. I will be realaxing more.
Why are these people always talking through fifteen layers of fabric?
Great call. I wouldn't even make $60K at my second job so I guessthis answer my question.
You don't have a life. Life is short! Take a break and enjoy your time with your kids. They grow up fast.
Yea man take a break. You need to recharge and then get back at it.
Keep hustling bro! Don’t slack keep & your foot on the gas. Take a vacation if you need too but keep going
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@@mirabella2154 I got it.
@@Allergic2broke Obviously not.
@@mirabella2154 they’re not the end all be all. Get off your high horse and be humble
I've heard of moonlighting but is he seriously covering TWO FULL TIME jobs which usually means 40-50+++ hours PER job. 🤥🙄🤔
This guy to into his jobs
Don’t watch golf ⛳️ on TV🤣🤣🤣!
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I'm surprised Dave didn't tell him to get a 3rd and 4th and 5th full time jobs
Know your why. Otherwise you’re drifting towards nothing.
I’m a BA making the same amount roughly and I feel all the same things.
This was an intense episode.
hes debt free why work so hard? you dont have to payoff your house. when you die you cannot bring it to the grave with you. have fun with your kids and make memories.
Yeah, the mortgage interest never raises right? Why pay off the house?
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 it doesnt when it’s fixed rate. are you being sarcastic?
I used to do 60 hours a week and I felt dead Inside.
He works 80 hours a week? Jesus Christ!
What do you do when you don’t have a group of guys?
Find a group or buy a Harley or Vette.
SRBift just , I can't reach people so they can ...seeds why was going on
somethings itt also a point of personality / I gett burned outta telling people the same thing over and over and over and oveerr again/ my driver is bar none /
All those hours how can he have time for his kids.. impossible 🤔
Quit the second job and go to therapy
I really dislike John
Disagree
It’s because you watch golf on tv isn’t it?
First? Second?
Everything Dave Ramsey says is not Gospel. Who cares about paying off your mortgage. Don't kill yourself over that. Help your kids out with school, but don't pay all it. Just pay an extra grand or two each year on the mortgage. That's good enough.
Well you enjoy those mortgage payments while I enjoy my freedom. That's good enough.
@@joelfenner9179 are 2.75% I am ok paying a mortgage. My investments pay my mortgage
Banks can call in mortgages to be paid in full at anytime! Paying it off early is a smart move!
@@wesjimez2941 I am okay not paying a mortgage and investing those would be payments.
He’s Slacking at those jobs. Doing both at same time. Working from home is a joke. Notice he didn’t say how many hours he working.
Working from home works better for some people. Most offices are full of distractions too.
Office is a distraction. I go to the office twice a month and get hardly any work done
I suspected that he was doing a lot of concurrent work at these two jobs, imagine the stress of trying to keep that charade going!
Bruh chill on the uploads to many you lose interest like how women are
Uhm, what?
If you devote to much time on women she will clearly lose interest
If Dave keeps uploading and devoting to much time on yt videos we as viewers just lose interest.
I agree the old Dave Ramsey uploads were way better/longer
@@KilosFlo Bruh, go outside for once and put UA-cam down.
@@KilosFlo Three a day is all it has ever been. Three clips from the daily two hour show per day. That sounds about right to me.
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