Also the Bible: not only are women and children property, they're fungible, it was considered a restoration of justice when I gave Job a different wife, when I could've revived his dead one! Neat little detail.
@@naomistarlight6178 Seriously, even back when I was a Christian, the story of Job sounded horrible. "His riches and family was even bigger"...but he still lost his wife and children...how is this a happy ending?
I argue that this ancient tome isn’t sexist - not because it treats the genders equally, but because the people who wrote it had no concept of “sexism” as this is an idea that only came about very recently in human history.
My stepmom cheated on my dad with a “born again Christian” pastor. She got pregnant. The pastor never took responsibility. He blamed it on his wife, my stepmom and “the devil”. Mandatory forgiveness is BS.
@@tdsollog so the devil forced him to be with her, it wasn't just his desires. I'm sorry that happened to your family. He definitely holds some responsibility here.
Mandatory forgiveness is fine. But just because you forgive people that doesn't mean you aren't going to break their kneecaps, too. Forgiveness is about your feelings, about letting go of hate. But just because you don't hate someone, doesn't mean you can't punish them. And it doesn't mean that you'll continue to let them hurt you.
Idk if anyone remembers this but me or if it was a fever dream, but when I was a Christian kid in the 90s we had this toucan and he never talked about adultery... Just talking about faith in the mildest of platitudes. Cartoon plot happens, say something vague about God to pad the run time at the end, bam. Why did they think this topic belonged in a kid's show???
I JUST started watching the video while reading this comment and I DON’T want to know how Douglas is gonna talk about adultery in the most monotone, boring way to kids…but I’m watching the video all the way through anyway (Trevor had to find and edit these clips together, so the least I can do is watch his hard work!)
31:13 Fun Fact: I saved my first kiss for the person I married. But I don’t remember it. I went numb and blacked out from anxiety. Apparently I just stood there and didn’t respond to the kiss. Thanks purity culture.
I'll never understand why so many people still think that straight men and women can't be friends. Every one of their relationship has to be about seduction. Weird
@@missowlessbro have you been on the Internet at all? these ppl are constantly thinking about sex especially men but if you think it's still possible go for it
@csmdatboi We weren't talking about the internet boyo. We were talking about real life. The internet is famous for the amount of sex and horny people on there, meanwhile people are meant to be able to think of more then that IRL. And they often do, especially the older you get. In college for instance you have to be able to make friends with both men and women. If you can't do that (at least on my hogeschool) you wouldn't be able to even to make it through the first week, let alone first year. Sure the real tight groups do often end up with mainly boys or mainly girls, but it is not uncommon to have groups of multiple sexes. Without anybody in that group dating to be clear. This is even more common in certain types of neurodivergent groups and queer groups. They typically just care less about what people look or were born like, and more how they are.
The way my ick factor went into overdrive when John Hughes said "sweetheart" 🤢🤢 I have the best husband. He is a present partner, the best father, and fully takes part in household chores, cooking, and yardwork. When I was most recently pregnant I could barely muster the energy for anything other than work. That man took over 98% of household work so I could spend what little energy I had growing a human. He basically got to experience virginity for almost a year and not even once considered cheating. Only mind it crossed was mine in my hormonal state. He's amazing. And not an ounce of Christianity in him. Do with that information what you will.
I don’t have a partner but I’m such an introvert and control freak about what goes in my body that she’d probably be *banned* from the kitchen while I’m doing my thing lol
The whole "God/Jesus are always watching" message traumatized me so much as a child that I'm now managing severe OCD about being watched/stalked/divinely judged at my worst and most vulnerable moments. I REALLY hate that message in Christianity. - A former Southern Baptist 🫠
Absolutely. Until this video, I never thought that my obsession with having "nice" and "good" thoughts comes from my religious trauma. I never connected it, but it's obvious now! After finding out I was an atheist, I still had the fear of ever finding a "mind-reader" like in the movies who was judging me for my thoughts. This fear lasted for years and I just realized it's from this! I'm taking this to my therapist.
I was born in to a cult, and diagnosed with OCD and a mood disorder, among other things. In my late teens. Firmly believe the religiosity with its constant shame, judging ect was the perfect catalyst for my mental illnesses. And it effing sucks. Cause even tho i got away from the religion (minus my family, friends and life basically) im still left with crippling trauma. I understand. I hope you're doing OK, my friend.
Ugh, gods, as a former catholic, I feel your pain. That message, comboed with "We're all inherently sinful, it's in our very nature because of 'original sin', all we can do is beg for forgiveness we don't deserve" message was part of the dark depressive spiral I had as a teen, that I was lucky to come out the other side of. :(
Christians: abstain, no sex untill marriage Ace: I don't want sex, like ever Christians: sex is a human experience, it's how god made us MAKE. IT. MAKE. SENSE.
Asexuality would also be really good for following the teachings of Paul because he believed you could be closer to god if you abstained from sex. So it extra doesn't make sense to hate on asexuals
It still doesn’t make it at all right, but the logic they have is that it was meant for a specific context and purpose. They want all people to be in married couples to have as much procreative sex as they can. The “be fruitful and multiply” line is considered the marriage mandate. The only exception is celibacy but that doesn’t necessarily make room for asexuals because it has to be out of zeal for God, not a lack of attraction. They don’t care about autonomy. They want people to follow their religious teachings regardless of whether that requires a submission to a r @ p i s t. As an aroace, this is specifically terrifying. But it’s also bad for literally anyone who doesn’t innately want to live the life of mutual sex slavery + child rearing.
I'm a 50-year-old Christian man that does not desire sex or romance. However I do love platonic snuggles and cuddles. So I guess I will be in trouble with the purity culture Christians.
Exactly! I have had far too many people saying that "it must have been so easy for you being in the church and being ace." and I argue it was not because the things they would say "you cant simply not want that!" i would argue "why should I want it?" and they would get so offended and some would start trying to cast some demon out of me, convinced that Satan was 'doing things' to me in order to make it so I didn't want it.
The wedding night advice is so creepy and gross. As if women don't have sexual desires or wants - just bubbleheaded teenagers dreaming of their wedding dress. It's infantalising and gross.
excellent point. Every single evangelical environment I've been in, including my church, would only ever talk about men having sexual desires and never talk about those of women. It just isn't talked about whatsoever. Every single sexual topic was always men-centered and women were just seen as flowery, sex-blind people who liked organizing events where they got together and ate dinner or whatever. It's certainly odd.
Fortunately, the men of Islam have solved that "women & sexual desires" problem. It's called "female genital mutilation." I mean "circumcision". And the men love it! I'm surprised Christianity hasn't picked up this handy way of controlling their woman.
@@CasperdaGreatyea I have heard some male psychologists say that they are certain women don't have any fantasies, because they had asked their clients and they all said they don't... Meanwhile we smut in the literature section is its own genre lol
I chuckled, because what's to say that these guys, who try to avoid temptation from women by hanging out only with men, aren't doing gay stuff with said men? 🤔🤫😅
@RainbowFlowerCrow when i went to couple's counciling i think the therapist said it best: it only becomes inappropriate if someone is trusting in their friend of the same gender as their partner more than their partner.
I'm a reformed baptist, and I had begun to question everything I'd been taught in church for years by the time I had my daughter in 2012. Family members and in-laws, however, guilted me into attending church after she had been to a week of VBS with friends. In the rural area we lived in, within a "bible belt" state, so many of the community activities organized for kids are by the churches in the area. In 2016, after suffering through a sermon about "biblical marriage," my line was crossed. I didn't want my child to be taught that it was okay to shit on anyone's civil liberties based on some misguided moral self righteousness. She started school that fall, so there were secular activities through them. My daughter is almost 13 now, and she thanked me for making that decision. She didn't understand then, but since she's gay, she was glad that was my limit. Your content helped me make sense of the guilt, and anger that I struggled with in the deconstruction of my childhood brainwashing. ❤ thank you
Thank u, and we moved to Birmingham this past year. It's the city that I'm from, and it has a more open-minded board of education, as well as a larger multi cultural community.
19:22 dude can't find the clitoris but they think they can tell a partner sexual history by eyeballing it.😂😂😂😂 I laughed out loud so hard. Dude keep this s*** up I love this series I've learned so much from watching your videos
Dude . I'm pansexual and this is what I think EVERY time I hear either religious nutjobs or dudebros sitting in their cars filming rants on their phones say stuff about this. Like who am I supposed to be friends with if I'm not supposed to be friends with anyone I could POTENTIALLY find attractive?? But I've long since come to the realization that to those two groups of people who approve of this stupid rule, bi or pan people don't really exist. We're just confused.
They either think we're confused (I mean I am, but I'm still questioning, and it's less confusion and more so doubt) and don't exist. Or they're a bit more "progressive" and just think we are greedy and will always end up cheating, how lovely :`). At least not everyone, actually more then you might think, aren't this way :D!
A realistic look at the David story is that DAVID killed the baby. He wanted to keep Bathsheba as a wife so he took her and killed Uriah, but she was pregnant right away and David didn’t know if the baby was his and didn’t want Uriah’s baby being his heir so David killed the baby and made up this story about god. Bathsheba either believed him or pretended to cause she knew David would kill her too. He made a big show of mourning and then got straight back to banging her.
Matt was my favourite to read. He depicted jesus in such a different light, made him feel more complex, funny and with a « cut the crap » attitude, and this verse really reflects that!
23:42 I fucking hate that. I'm tired of people thinking I'm dating my male friends, of thinking that we surely have a crush on each other. I'm aroace but still, it's freaking annoying
Reminds me of when I was a kid and other kids would say that I was dating this boy just because we hung up. Didn't know I was ace at the time, but it was frustrating, to say the least. Also turns out the guy is transphobic, so double no for me.
I hate this too . I'm pansexual--i can find literally anyone attractive regardless of what's in their pants, so it would be REALLY hard for my spouse to police my friends based on gender! But I'm guessing to this nitwit, our sexualities aren't real anyway. We're just "confused". 🙄
Same. I went and saw Black Panther with a friend who was a girl and when I told my mom she gave me a suspicious glance and asked “does [insert my gf’s name] know?” Yes. My gf did know because I told her outright I was going to see a movie with a gal I’m friends with and she didn’t care. I hate how so many people don’t understand that two people of the opposite sex can spend time with each other and enjoy being around them without wanting to get in each others pants. My mom still gives me shit about it
I don't know if this was your experience, but I've been in this church for a while. I don't like the gender dynamics in that church. I was cool with the unwritten rule of the opposite gender not sitting next to each other and not touching each other. But man is it annoying that as a woman, you're not allowed to speak to any of the male members unless spoken to. One time I came in late and everyone was singing. I didn't know what the hymn number was. I asked a guy behind me what the hymn number was and he straight up ignored me. There was also a time where I accidentally bumped into a guy and he freaked out. Experiences like that make me not want to go back to that church.
@elmoworld850 Wow. That sounds pretty medieval/puritanist/insert crazy centuries old fashioned religion thingy here. I typically avoid churches, because I'm an Atheist and all my friends either believe different things, go to different churches, or like most also don't really typically go to churches, but this doesn't seem normal to me. That's some previous millennium conservative type bs.
16:31 Thank you for talking on ableism built into the Bible. Even in non-fundamentalist churches i have found this mindset to be quite prevalent. Progressively becoming more symptomatic and intermittently disabled due to chronic health conditions was a HUGE part in my deconstruction this year.
The irony is that "God" had all these "checks and balances" with adultery to "preserve the lineage of the messiah" but in the end Jesus most likely was a product of adultery and that's why the Bible attributes this pregnancy to "the holy spirit" and not to an out of marriage affair
This is what I don't understand, he is God, he is supossed to be all powerful, can't he do something else, like make the uterus poisonous to non-David's DNA.
@@bluester7177 Also why should lineage even matter? It's not like he needs the uterus of a specific bloodline to enter the world. Why would the creator of the universe care so damn much about a tiny group of people occupying a tiny strip of land in the middle east? It's taken for granted but it's bonkers when you think about it.
@@flyinggyrados4591I always learned that the bible is jist a book with metaphors for how we are supposed to live... I have no idea what the virfin birth is a metaphor for.
Seriously wtf IS Douglas??? I love puppets but it's giving creepy old man pretending to be a child on a playgroynd. That... thing is not meant for kids. Unless you want to spend a f^ck ton on therapy anyway.
When I was a teenager and trying to be a good little Christian girl, I put up with a boyfriend that cheated and I thought it was best for me to be unconditionally forgiving as a model for a good little wife someday. (Also he was manipulative enough to encourage this too.) And I'm so glad my parents set me straight by telling me forgiveness is not an obligation; not in marriage and definitely not in a high school relationship. I'm glad I unlearned the brainwashing before marriage.
Ace eraser is frustrating. Also I found it funny that men are always characterised as horny sex obsessed people but I’ve met many Alosexual men straight men who have lower sex drives than their partner.
30:16 So basically, don't help out at all in planning or executing your own wedding, famously one of the most difficult and stressful events to plan, but spin it so it's somehow you doing a big favour for your wife? And then expecting sex as a reward for your weaponised incompetence?
I had no little to know input into our wedding except the guest list. My mother, mother in-law, sister-in-law, an assortment of aunt's, cousins and close friends planned the whole shabang.
@@sreyarthakrishna6195 to be fair, I think the point he was making is that the man doesn’t care about the wedding at all, so they shouldn’t fight the fiancée over it, and just do what she says. I don’t think that’s necessarily true, or healthy if it is, but still.
@@Colddirector Fair. I know that's the intended meaning, but I've seen enough men who say stuff like "You care SO much more about this so I'm going to leave it all to you" or "You are so much better at this", and use that as an excuse to pass off all the work to the women in their lives, and then expect them to be told where to stand and what to do on top of it all. And spin that as doing a favour to the women. Hell, it's a tendency I've noticed even in myself, and know I need to do more to correct.
"No, it's the 21st century. I get it faxed to me." Beautiful delivery. Also, I'm going to need you to apologize for not only *replaying* Robert Jefress' weird noises, but then zooming on his lip licking.
These people are gross. They say we all have sexual desire, which was already so confusing for me growing up asexual, but then also make it clear that it’s something men want and women have to do.
@@youllfindmeattthemoon you’d think they’d make this commandment applicable to children by saying ‘don’t cheat in games’ or ‘don’t cheat on god’ or some shit for kids, but at my youth group (kinda makes sense they’d teach us there) and in my Sunday school classes they’d just talk about how it applies to marriage
As a bisexual (ex)Christian, the heavy emphasis on more sex in the marriage (didn't happen for a myriad of reasons) and the heavy emphasis on not being around women created this loophole in my mind where I could bang men and it didn't count lol
To be fair, it seems like it wasn't, apparently, men only commit adultery when they have relations with married people, if the dudes were not married, it seems like you were fine. So I get how that loophole could form in your head.
@@bluester7177i mean, if we take it to the absolute extreme, even two married men together wouldn't be committing adultery if it's only adultery when it includes a married woman, right? i'm not suggesting anyone does that because cheating is still wrong but the loophole is even bigger than we thought 🤔
The message I got from my church was that I was not to be a sexual being until I was married. (Not in those exact words, but the subtext was there.) It's a big part of why I never realized what it was to be attracted to someone, or have a crush, or anything about my sexuality until I was nearly 19. And then realizing I was a gay man bought a whole other level of abuse and trauma.
I'M SO EARLY!! You're one of my favorite UA-camrs by far! You've helped me so much with my deconstruction journey, and dealing with the thoughts that my evangelist family will never accept me.
Imagine you're getting to know someone, having friendly conversation, wanna spend some more time chatting about a shared interest, but you're getting hungry and like, "hey, wanna get some dinner together?" ...and suddenly they freeze up. Then out of nowhere shout at the top of their lungs, "I LOVE MY SPOUSE!!" and heel-turn and book it out of there as fast as they can... Just imagine...
Just makes me think of Mike Pence (I think he said he refuses to be alone with a woman who is not his wife in any context as well), so I consider that a bullet dodged.
But in their heads that makes sense. Because (to them)there is NO reason to be getting to know someone of the opposite sex, except to sleep with them. That's the whole Idea behind this thinking.
@@Hi_times_2 It's weird. It signals that you have a lack of control around women. Though, I'm glad he's doing everything he can to curb his sex addiction. 😂
Silly idea: If the patrilineal system requires deaths, make a matrilineal system. Fixed it. In ancient times the identity of the mother wasn’t in question.
To be fair, they did change, jewish lineage is matrilineal nowadays and it has been that way since 200 or 300 CE, so it took a long time but they got to the logical solution.
God the whole "I'm not gonna kiss another person who isn't my wife" is such a weird fucking outlook, heard it first when I was around 12 and even then I thought it was weird. Maybe the reason divorce is so common among evangelicals is because they aren't allowed to find out what they like at all through simple dating antics.
I like the ice cream analogy. Baskin Robbins has 31 original flavors. If you had to pick one flavor to be the only flavor you could ever eat for the rest of your life, and you didn't get to taste any of them first, then you're probably going to be unhappy with your choice. You'll always be wondering if the other flavors are better.
I’m AFAB, and i wasn’t allowed to have a job because of “well what if you like your job and your husband doesn’t want you to have one?” Meanwhile I’m 15, never even dated or had a crush (aro/ace lol), and then when I’m 21 and still not dating, all the sudden my dad is literally screaming at me to get a job(I had been selling hand made goods, volunteering, and doing odd jobs for ppl @ the church).
Like all that week I had been helping a mom with insurance brokering and taking/picking up her kids from school, and the last couple of weeks had been watering property(there was a heat wave and they had new sod) and house cleaning for someone else, while volunteering to help with teaching and food service at the church. My mom couldn’t drive either, so I was helping her go places and do the shopping. When not doing any of this, I was normally cleaning and taking care of our pets while my siblings had other activities(opera/sea cadets/jobs). But god forbid I sit on the couch and have FMA:B running while I filled out applications, cause ya know I was just being lazy.
Religious parents have very creative ways of hurting their children, I'm sorry you went through that. My parents pretended it was in the name of "our family" when they forced me to give them every penny of my first salaries. I begged them to let me have money for the first time ever, and they still took it. After leaving home, I barely talk to them, I never ask them for money and I never give them anything. You have no idea how free I feel. I hope you also find your peace.
@@Techno-WolfYou seem like a very cool productive person and I'm sorry you had to go through this, parents are often complicated relationships to have, I'm 32, I'm helping my father because he had an stroke and he got religious because of this and I have never believed, so imagine how good it goes, religion does weird things to people. Regardless, I imagine thst many people appreciate all the things you do for them but take care of yourself too, please, you deserve to take a break when you want to, no matter what your parents think.
According to Adam ruins everything, You could say women have also been sexually assaulted by the concept of the intact hymen, There is no medical reason to look for a woman's hymen (unless it is an imperforate one that needs to be removed), that alone is assault in of itself (putting someone in a questionable situation where they could easily be harmed).
26:50 Dude, I'm asexual. I literally don't feel sexual attraction to ANYONE. Yes, I have a boyfriend and I love him with all my heart(romantically) but I am not sexually attracted to him. I have no urge to touch him that way or make out with him, and I didn't feel that urge when I had a crush on my best friend either. Like with my bf, all attraction I felt to her was romantic, not sexual
@Exauce-t7s It hasn't come up in conversation considering the fact that we are early into the relationship and that would be a very big step forward... Also we are just barely turning 16 in about 2 months for me and 4 for him and so even if he himself is sexually attracted to me, knowing who he is as a person, he probably wouldn't want us to have a sexual relationship as teenagers
@zemmym.9437 definitely. And the English translations don't do the story justice. If I remember correctly it wasn't just a typical bath she took but a micva (a Jewish ritual cleansing) and you cant just choose where you do it. Dr J Bird did a video on David and Bathsheba, it was insightful.
That story near the end is one of the most despicable things I've ever heard. God killed an innocent child because some guy happened to lust after her and commit adultery before murdering her husband, and then watched a man suffer and cry out desperately to him, begging him to spare the child. Sure the guy did some bad stuff and probably deserved pain, but God is supposed to be forgiving, not sadistic. That's like if God killed you because your Dad cheated on your Mom. We didn't cause that to happen, and we had nothing to do with it, but we're killed for it anyway. The most insane thing about all of this is that the pastor has the audacity to say "It shows you the extreme mercy and grace of God". If this is the mercy and grace of God, then I am proud to be an Atheist! Just not in front of my Christian family... Also to this dingus talking about the victim of the adultery at 46:41, you were SO CLOSE!
It's also an example of collective punishment in the bible, David is the person who made the mistake and he was also king, so Bathsheba, not only was graped, because how do you say no to a king? she got pregnant, her husband was killed, then her child was tortured for a week with a sickness and then died, why is she being punished for David's BS? And why is the baby suffering horribly for a week?
I feel like the word "dingus" is extremely underutilized, so thanks for that. Also, it seems like a certain evangelical portion of Americans like to make excuses for a certain indefensible individual they elevate to cult status by evoking King David. Basically excusing a class-A m0fo by equating him with another class-A m0fo.
10:13 the way he nonchalantly says, if your partner cheated, u wouldn't need a divorce, you'd just bury them and "get on with your life", with ZERO emotion...i man, wtf is WRONG with you, guy?
18:35 That sentence has caused so much abuse. I don't think we should be taking health advice from a book that doesn't understand how illnesses or handwashing works.
My mother had an affair with her pastor many years ago. It was a betrayal of not just my father, but my sisters and I as well. It was a pretty terrible time in my life already and finding that out made it so much worse. 😢
Keep god first: *set in stone* No carved images: *set in stone* His name in vain: *set in stone* Sabbath is Holy: umm… but maybe? Honor father and mother: *set in stone* Don’t murder: umm… but maybe? Don’t cheat: umm… but maybe?
In a strictly biblical view, marriage is a covenantal relationship established before God, who binds a man and woman as “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). This spiritual covenant goes beyond human laws, forming a lifelong union witnessed and upheld by God Himself. Biblical marriage involves solemn vows made in the presence of God, committing the couple to a lifelong covenant that reflects God’s unbreakable commitment to His people (Ephesians 5:31-32). However, government-licensed marriage operates as a legal contract rather than a covenant established in God’s sight. When a couple signs a government marriage license, they enter into a state-regulated contract governed by secular laws rather than biblical standards. In this arrangement, a government representative (often a pastor or officiant) serves as a legal agent for the state, signing alongside the couple and placing the marriage under civil jurisdiction. This license, governed by state law, often includes legal terms that can permit divorce on grounds other than those specified by the Bible, therefore undermining the permanence that God ordains for marriage. Signing a Government Marriage License By signing a government-issued marriage license, couples are legally binding their marriage according to the state’s regulations rather than a biblical covenant. This secular contract includes conditions that supersede any vows made solely to each other or before God, subjecting the marriage to legal standards that allow for dissolution on grounds that do not align with biblical teachings. In this way, signing a government marriage license can be seen as effectively abrogating the biblical marriage vows, as the couple’s commitment now exists under the authority of the state rather than exclusively as a covenant before God. Impact on Biblical Vows and the Covenant 1. Biblical Vows Superseded by Secular Law: When a couple signs a government license, their vows are interpreted within a legal framework rather than as a binding spiritual covenant. This act places the marriage within a system that often conflicts with biblical values on divorce, fidelity, and the covenantal commitment. Thus, the legal terms of the government license can nullify the intent of biblical vows, as the marriage now operates under secular authority. 2. Role of the Pastor as a Government Agent: When pastors sign government licenses, they act as representatives of the state, not exclusively as ministers of God. This dual role complicates the spiritual sanctity of marriage, as the officiating pastor is not solely witnessing a covenant before God but is also binding the marriage under civil law. Consequently, the biblical vows of lifelong commitment can be compromised by legal conditions that allow for dissolution outside of biblical grounds, thereby nullifying the covenant’s exclusivity to God’s standards. 3. Biblical Marriage vs. Government Marriage: Government marriage lacks the divine foundation essential to biblical marriage, as it is a secular agreement that includes provisions for dissolution that do not align with scripture. Thus, government marriage does not constitute a biblical covenant and cannot serve as the foundation for biblical adultery. For an act to qualify as biblical adultery, it must involve the violation of a marriage covenant witnessed by God, not merely a legal contract governed by the state. 4. Implications for Biblical Adultery: Since biblical adultery is a violation of a divine covenant, it requires a covenantal marriage to exist. In a government marriage, which does not establish a God-witnessed covenant, the requirements for biblical adultery are not met. Adultery, in a biblical sense, involves the betrayal of a covenant made exclusively before God, typically implicating a married woman (Exodus 20:14, Deuteronomy 5:18), and is not applicable within the confines of a secular government contract. Under a biblical perspective, signing a government marriage license places the marriage under the authority of the state rather than under the covenantal witness of God alone. This act effectively replaces biblical vows with a secular agreement that can be dissolved on non-biblical grounds, thereby abrogating the sanctity of the biblical marriage covenant. Consequently, without a biblical covenant, the conditions for committing biblical adultery do not apply. True biblical marriage remains a sacred, God-witnessed covenant that transcends legal definitions, and believers committed to biblical marriage should recognize that a government license lacks the covenantal obligations that define marriage as God intended.
The “Adultery in the bed begins with adultery in the head” bit should have been followed up with that clip of Vitruvius from the LEGO movie saying “All of this is true… because it rhymes” 😭😭😭
Oh, the "fine" was 50 sheckles, which translates to $12.50. The bibble doesn't recognize inflation, so it's still $12.50. That's even cheaper than a mail order bride.
26:36 Oh how charming. Making sex into a chore won't make someone prone to adultery at all. It's not like sex is an intimate act that's supposed to be enjoyable for all parties. It's a weekly objective you have to complete so you get your God Points for the Heavenly Gacha.
When Robert started mentioning big brother, I knew it was gonna be good. Also thanks for correcting all of us on the fornication confusion. Language barriers are weird.
Someone who (was) dear to me, who is a devout Christian, once taught me as a young Boy not to experience pre-Marital Bed-Dancing because every (yes, he said every) relationship that has pre-marital wedding-buffet ends in adultery... Take a guess who takes my number 1 slot for "worst stories I've been told about someone's sexual history"
Trevor you put so much thought into accessibility for these videos, but just FWIW maybe don't make the warning at the beginning a flashing/strobe graphic :) :)
In Italy we actually had a law that made murder legal if the husband or the wife (but mostly the wife) was caught cheating It was called "Delitto d'onore" (roughly translated to "murder by honour") and it was only made illegal in 1983
Normal men don't struggle this much with "temptation". If you can't have a casual lunch or a drink with a female friend or coworker without obsessing over having sex with her, that's all you, brother. Normal men are perfectly capable of having women as friends while still being faithful to their wife.
@@BeliefItOrNot I didn't realize how early I was on this video. I usually find your videos hours or days after it was uploaded. Sorry for the comment that had nothing to do with your topic. I appreciate your content, and enjoy everything you make.
As an ace person and an ex evangelical, sitting through these sermons was always so damn confusing. Like really you guys are tempted by this stuff? When I expressed my absolute non-interest in saxaphoning as a teen, church elders just assumed I was lying. Maybe some people thought I was gay. Somehow those are both worse than adultery I guess lol
3:20 I just voted yesterday in florida, unlikely for my presidential or senate vote to matter, but abortion protections were on the ballot and if there's one thing I believed could pass in this state it's that.
Yeah. Ive been a cheater, poor reasons. I still struggle with hating myself for it, but my wife forgave me. She has helped me in weeding out where that dark, selfishness came from, and how to overcome it. I realized part of it was abuse by my father, feelings of inadequacy, and the fact that i was closeted about part of my sexuality. We now have a much more "gomez and morticia" kinda thing going, and it's great. Being close, open and vulnerable with my wife did more than any scripture and pastor could.
I don't know why you insist on calling it 'dark'. Humans are pretty much programmed for selfish pleasure, like any other creature alive. You saw somebody who clicked all the right buttons and you wanted to get off. That doesn't make cheating on your partner ok, but neither does giving in to a natural impulse make you a horrible person.
One of the first things I noticed reading the bible was the obvious lack of a role for the devil, for jews believed in no such things, nor do so to this day. The seconds is how many sex "sins" supposedly holy men commited for which my mother would berate me for, thumping her bible and and guilt trip me with God, as if she knew what was in it to begin with. Seeing this.... yyyeah... suppressing my sexual development was not even biblical. It's just not worth it. Not for a God who does not value women at all. And I've come off worse for it. Part of why I am so socially isolated. And the thing that made me quit christianity for good.
Ace isn't considered healthy from a abrahamic perspective. Abrahamic Religious marriage ,which includes Christianity, is designed for childrearing and community growth. Couples where the woman isn't getting pregnant every few years at the start of the marriage is suspect. And back in the day would be grounds for the man to divorce the wife. Being happy for other peoples content relationships takes a backseat to doctrine Everytime.
I live in rural MO, and my neighbor came by to tell me the amendment referendum on the ballot concerning abortion rights (currently banned in MO) would enable schools to perform "sex changes" on minors without parental consent. I was happy that they felt comfortable talking to me about this and tried to point them to accurate sources for what the amendment says. It's a real struggle and a genuine threat.
Oh my god.... My jaw is on the floor.... I can't even believe women have been going through this for centuries upon centuries. This is absolutely sickening. Feminist movement, unite. No more marriage. No more seggs slavery. No more bad, stupid men. Thank --- I'm queer.
It is incredible that these people condemn teenagers and children from learning about sexual education, but at the same time they talk about sex in the most flowery and ridiculous way in their own sermons. Like here in 18:25
Because of your videos I'm now OBSESSED with Douglas. Like that is the most absurd form of comedy I've ever seen and the fact that he's sincere makes it so much funnier
Thanks for the PSA about voting for us Americans, Trevor. Your concern for what is about to happen here is genuine and appreciated. For the record, I did my part last Thursday. 🗳
"Do not. Commit. Adultery." You know, for kids! That joke right out of the gate absolutely got me. All your jabs at Douglas are great, but for some reason that one had me chortling for a solid five minutes.
40:40 When I was a kid, I was also taught that the Sermon on the Mount was about the secret laws that you're also breaking. Jesus said that you were told not to commit adultery, but you have also committed adultery if you look on another woman with lust. You were told not to murder, but you have also committed murder if you look on another man with hatred. You were told not to steal, but you are guilty of theft if you envy another man's home. When I read the bible again during college, I read Matthew 5:33-37 for the first time. Jesus says you were told that if you break an oath to God, then you must be put to death. But it's better that you don't make any oaths at all, because you can't guarantee that you can hold to any oaths you make. Just say yes or no and let that be enough. This verse struck me, first, because it was good advice, and second, because it starts like the other "you were told" verses in the sermon, but it doesn't end on "here is the secret sin that you also commit." It made me reconsider what the sermon was doing. Sometime later, I argued with a conservative online about rich people who don't pay taxes. I said that wealthy people were basically committing tax fraud by finding ways around the tax code. The conservative replied, "But they didn't do anything illegal. The tax code lets them take these tax breaks." And I'm like, "So what? It's still awful?" At some point, I thought about the other times that Jesus talks about the law. The Pharisees accuse Jesus of doing work on Sundays, and Jesus replies, "Then what about the people who work in the temple for Sunday service? Are they sinners?" The Pharisees accuse Jesus of healing people on the Sabbath, and he replies, "If a sheep feel down a well on a Sunday, would you leave it until Monday?" The Pharisees ask Jesus whether it's good to pay taxes to Caesar, trying to trap him into conspiracy for tax avoidance or hurting his authority by showing deference to Caesar. Jesus doesn't reply that it's okay to pay taxes-he says "Give to Caesar what is Caesar's," as if to say that paying taxes has nothing to do with his mission one way or another. I started to see the Sermon on the Mount as Jesus saying, not that there are secret laws that you should follow, but that the laws don't really matter. The law says that you shouldn't commit adultery, but does that mean it's okay to go to the strip club? The law says that you shouldn't commit murder, but does that mean it's okay to vote for politicians that would put immigrants into concentration camps? Is it okay to hurt people as long as you're technically following the law? Now we're listening to pastors tell you that UM, ACTUALLY, adultery is only when a woman cheats on her husband. It's not really adultery when the husband cheats! But these days, I read the Sermon on the Mount to say, "If you're trying to find a way to UM, ACTUALLY, your way around the law, then maybe you should chop your own hand off before it leads you to hell."
23:42 This kind of assumption is really annoying & tiring because it A) Push the belief that people can't just be friends with those who are a different sex or gender B) Makes the assumption that anyone who isn't cis & straight are just lying and C) That being friends with people especially those of the opposite sex or gender is a bad thing. I get this nonsense every time I talk about my best friend who just happens to be a man & people assume that because we've known each other for 10+ years we must be wanting to date & get married to each other despite us both seeing each other more as like siblings than anything along with the fact that despite us both being bi-romantic & ace we are both more attracted to woman over men
One thing I love about living in Colorado is that I got notified when my ballot was on its way to me, I was notified when it was received, and I was notified when it was counted!
Apologists: The bible isn't sexist.
Bible: I only care if the woman cheats.
Also the Bible: not only are women and children property, they're fungible, it was considered a restoration of justice when I gave Job a different wife, when I could've revived his dead one! Neat little detail.
@@naomistarlight6178that's crazy, and now I realise it's the same for children, God killed David's son with Bathsheba and then gave him another one.
@@naomistarlight6178 Wasn't it just his kids who died and his wife was the one who said God's got beef with you curse him and kick the bucket?
@@naomistarlight6178 Seriously, even back when I was a Christian, the story of Job sounded horrible. "His riches and family was even bigger"...but he still lost his wife and children...how is this a happy ending?
I argue that this ancient tome isn’t sexist - not because it treats the genders equally, but because the people who wrote it had no concept of “sexism” as this is an idea that only came about very recently in human history.
My stepmom cheated on my dad with a “born again Christian” pastor. She got pregnant. The pastor never took responsibility. He blamed it on his wife, my stepmom and “the devil”.
Mandatory forgiveness is BS.
And what if you don't WANT to forgive that person for what they did to you?
@@tdsollog so the devil forced him to be with her, it wasn't just his desires. I'm sorry that happened to your family. He definitely holds some responsibility here.
How about we institute mandatory accountability?
Man why is “Born again Christian” such a huge red flag? Even hearing someone say that puts me on edge a little.
Mandatory forgiveness is fine. But just because you forgive people that doesn't mean you aren't going to break their kneecaps, too. Forgiveness is about your feelings, about letting go of hate. But just because you don't hate someone, doesn't mean you can't punish them. And it doesn't mean that you'll continue to let them hurt you.
The puppet being served a different SHUT UP clip every time is fast becoming my favorite bit 🥰🤣
I continue to be shocked @ the shit this puppet talks to kids abt. Horrifying. *deconstruction intensifies*
We need a compilation once the ten commandments videos are done
Idk if anyone remembers this but me or if it was a fever dream, but when I was a Christian kid in the 90s we had this toucan and he never talked about adultery... Just talking about faith in the mildest of platitudes. Cartoon plot happens, say something vague about God to pad the run time at the end, bam. Why did they think this topic belonged in a kid's show???
I JUST started watching the video while reading this comment and I DON’T want to know how Douglas is gonna talk about adultery in the most monotone, boring way to kids…but I’m watching the video all the way through anyway (Trevor had to find and edit these clips together, so the least I can do is watch his hard work!)
He's like a dollar store Fraggle. Like, on the package it would say something like "Praggle Rock-n-Roll" or some shit.
Hot take: Sexism is bad
As a Polish crime goblin, I agree: sexism is bad.
Social hierarchy in general is bad.
you were so real for this💕
best Adam take
Seems like a pretty cold take if you ask me.
31:13 Fun Fact: I saved my first kiss for the person I married. But I don’t remember it. I went numb and blacked out from anxiety. Apparently I just stood there and didn’t respond to the kiss. Thanks purity culture.
Oof! My sympathies!
Adultery is bad unless I do it and it’s a minor -Pastors
Same as being gay, it’s wrong until you do it to a little boy then it’s fine in the churches eyes
"there's a reason it's called adultery and not minory" - hopefully not one of these mfs
lol 🤭
it's not adultery if it's a minor! /satire
how can it be adultery if they arent adults? -some pastor or priest, probably
They’re not sorry they did it. They’re sorry they got caught.
What if God Smoked cannabis? La lala
Yep… and then they roll out the story of King David
I'll never understand why so many people still think that straight men and women can't be friends. Every one of their relationship has to be about seduction. Weird
@@yohanrives3752 theyre projecting. they cant be around someone of the opposite sex without making it weird, so they think everyone is that way.
@@missowlessbro have you been on the Internet at all? these ppl are constantly thinking about sex especially men but if you think it's still possible go for it
@csmdatboi We weren't talking about the internet boyo. We were talking about real life. The internet is famous for the amount of sex and horny people on there, meanwhile people are meant to be able to think of more then that IRL. And they often do, especially the older you get. In college for instance you have to be able to make friends with both men and women. If you can't do that (at least on my hogeschool) you wouldn't be able to even to make it through the first week, let alone first year. Sure the real tight groups do often end up with mainly boys or mainly girls, but it is not uncommon to have groups of multiple sexes. Without anybody in that group dating to be clear.
This is even more common in certain types of neurodivergent groups and queer groups. They typically just care less about what people look or were born like, and more how they are.
Apologies: *camdatboi.
Guys are not friends with women they wouldn’t have sex with
BOOOO SEXISM 👎👎👎👎 ‼️‼️‼️
SEXISM BAD
couldn't have said it better myself!
ME NO LIKE SEXISM
AHH DONT SCARE ME LIKE THAT
Boo sexism 👻👻
The way my ick factor went into overdrive when John Hughes said "sweetheart" 🤢🤢
I have the best husband. He is a present partner, the best father, and fully takes part in household chores, cooking, and yardwork. When I was most recently pregnant I could barely muster the energy for anything other than work. That man took over 98% of household work so I could spend what little energy I had growing a human. He basically got to experience virginity for almost a year and not even once considered cheating. Only mind it crossed was mine in my hormonal state. He's amazing.
And not an ounce of Christianity in him. Do with that information what you will.
I don’t have a partner but I’m such an introvert and control freak about what goes in my body that she’d probably be *banned* from the kitchen while I’m doing my thing lol
I’m happy for you 😊
I'm actually just happy for you.
The whole "God/Jesus are always watching" message traumatized me so much as a child that I'm now managing severe OCD about being watched/stalked/divinely judged at my worst and most vulnerable moments. I REALLY hate that message in Christianity. - A former Southern Baptist 🫠
Don't turn around!
@RasheedGazzi lol wow so original and scary 🙄🙄 haven't heard that a million times before.
Absolutely. Until this video, I never thought that my obsession with having "nice" and "good" thoughts comes from my religious trauma. I never connected it, but it's obvious now! After finding out I was an atheist, I still had the fear of ever finding a "mind-reader" like in the movies who was judging me for my thoughts. This fear lasted for years and I just realized it's from this! I'm taking this to my therapist.
I was born in to a cult, and diagnosed with OCD and a mood disorder, among other things. In my late teens. Firmly believe the religiosity with its constant shame, judging ect was the perfect catalyst for my mental illnesses. And it effing sucks. Cause even tho i got away from the religion (minus my family, friends and life basically) im still left with crippling trauma. I understand.
I hope you're doing OK, my friend.
Ugh, gods, as a former catholic, I feel your pain.
That message, comboed with "We're all inherently sinful, it's in our very nature because of 'original sin', all we can do is beg for forgiveness we don't deserve" message was part of the dark depressive spiral I had as a teen, that I was lucky to come out the other side of. :(
Christians: abstain, no sex untill marriage
Ace: I don't want sex, like ever
Christians: sex is a human experience, it's how god made us
MAKE. IT. MAKE. SENSE.
Asexuality would also be really good for following the teachings of Paul because he believed you could be closer to god if you abstained from sex. So it extra doesn't make sense to hate on asexuals
It still doesn’t make it at all right, but the logic they have is that it was meant for a specific context and purpose. They want all people to be in married couples to have as much procreative sex as they can. The “be fruitful and multiply” line is considered the marriage mandate. The only exception is celibacy but that doesn’t necessarily make room for asexuals because it has to be out of zeal for God, not a lack of attraction. They don’t care about autonomy. They want people to follow their religious teachings regardless of whether that requires a submission to a r @ p i s t.
As an aroace, this is specifically terrifying. But it’s also bad for literally anyone who doesn’t innately want to live the life of mutual sex slavery + child rearing.
I'm a 50-year-old Christian man that does not desire sex or romance. However I do love platonic snuggles and cuddles. So I guess I will be in trouble with the purity culture Christians.
@@dolfunyThe only time I have a problem with asexuals is when they want to be in relationships with people who aren't asexual.
Exactly! I have had far too many people saying that "it must have been so easy for you being in the church and being ace." and I argue it was not because the things they would say "you cant simply not want that!" i would argue "why should I want it?" and they would get so offended and some would start trying to cast some demon out of me, convinced that Satan was 'doing things' to me in order to make it so I didn't want it.
The wedding night advice is so creepy and gross. As if women don't have sexual desires or wants - just bubbleheaded teenagers dreaming of their wedding dress. It's infantalising and gross.
Ah but see, that's how these guys like it. If she's old enough to be having sexual desire, she's too old for them.
Yeah, who doesn't want to bang someone they see as a little girl? A very normal and healthy world view.
excellent point. Every single evangelical environment I've been in, including my church, would only ever talk about men having sexual desires and never talk about those of women. It just isn't talked about whatsoever. Every single sexual topic was always men-centered and women were just seen as flowery, sex-blind people who liked organizing events where they got together and ate dinner or whatever. It's certainly odd.
Fortunately, the men of Islam have solved that "women & sexual desires" problem. It's called "female genital mutilation." I mean "circumcision". And the men love it!
I'm surprised Christianity hasn't picked up this handy way of controlling their woman.
@@CasperdaGreatyea I have heard some male psychologists say that they are certain women don't have any fantasies, because they had asked their clients and they all said they don't...
Meanwhile we smut in the literature section is its own genre lol
It's incredibly telling how these people think when they claim you can't hang out with people of the opposite sex without "temptations"
I chuckled, because what's to say that these guys, who try to avoid temptation from women by hanging out only with men, aren't doing gay stuff with said men? 🤔🤫😅
@@RainbowFlowerCrow That too, lmao
@RainbowFlowerCrow when i went to couple's counciling i think the therapist said it best: it only becomes inappropriate if someone is trusting in their friend of the same gender as their partner more than their partner.
I'm a reformed baptist, and I had begun to question everything I'd been taught in church for years by the time I had my daughter in 2012. Family members and in-laws, however, guilted me into attending church after she had been to a week of VBS with friends. In the rural area we lived in, within a "bible belt" state, so many of the community activities organized for kids are by the churches in the area. In 2016, after suffering through a sermon about "biblical marriage," my line was crossed. I didn't want my child to be taught that it was okay to shit on anyone's civil liberties based on some misguided moral self righteousness. She started school that fall, so there were secular activities through them. My daughter is almost 13 now, and she thanked me for making that decision. She didn't understand then, but since she's gay, she was glad that was my limit. Your content helped me make sense of the guilt, and anger that I struggled with in the deconstruction of my childhood brainwashing. ❤ thank you
This is very powerful and I'm so glad you took her out of there. Have a nice day!
It's really sad that you had to go through that. Hope you made it out ok :)
Thank u, and we moved to Birmingham this past year. It's the city that I'm from, and it has a more open-minded board of education, as well as a larger multi cultural community.
19:22 dude can't find the clitoris but they think they can tell a partner sexual history by eyeballing it.😂😂😂😂 I laughed out loud so hard. Dude keep this s*** up I love this series I've learned so much from watching your videos
No literally tho😂
I like how by this logic every bisexual couldn't be friends with anyone or they'd end up cheating
Dude . I'm pansexual and this is what I think EVERY time I hear either religious nutjobs or dudebros sitting in their cars filming rants on their phones say stuff about this. Like who am I supposed to be friends with if I'm not supposed to be friends with anyone I could POTENTIALLY find attractive??
But I've long since come to the realization that to those two groups of people who approve of this stupid rule, bi or pan people don't really exist. We're just confused.
Ah, see, here's the kicker: Bisexuals (and pansexuals, and asexuals, and gays for that matter) don't exist. /s
They either think we're confused (I mean I am, but I'm still questioning, and it's less confusion and more so doubt) and don't exist. Or they're a bit more "progressive" and just think we are greedy and will always end up cheating, how lovely :`).
At least not everyone, actually more then you might think, aren't this way :D!
Gold 😂
@@druelia9485have you ever considered that they themselves are pan or bi and confused as well? That’s my default assumption on the homophobes.
A realistic look at the David story is that DAVID killed the baby. He wanted to keep Bathsheba as a wife so he took her and killed Uriah, but she was pregnant right away and David didn’t know if the baby was his and didn’t want Uriah’s baby being his heir so David killed the baby and made up this story about god. Bathsheba either believed him or pretended to cause she knew David would kill her too. He made a big show of mourning and then got straight back to banging her.
this makes so much more sense than the bs in the bible that they want us to believe.
Yeah I think that fits his character to a T
It’s either that, or GOD killed the baby. Some pro-life god that is.
@@kadenoneill7227If you ignore that 2 Samuel 12 says Solomon was born.
Wasn't the baby Solomen though, who very much lived into adulthood
"If forgiveness is required, forgiveness is useless." This should have been a part of Proverbs-repeated about a dozen times.( Matt.18:32-35)
Matt was my favourite to read. He depicted jesus in such a different light, made him feel more complex, funny and with a « cut the crap » attitude, and this verse really reflects that!
23:42 I fucking hate that. I'm tired of people thinking I'm dating my male friends, of thinking that we surely have a crush on each other. I'm aroace but still, it's freaking annoying
Reminds me of when I was a kid and other kids would say that I was dating this boy just because we hung up.
Didn't know I was ace at the time, but it was frustrating, to say the least.
Also turns out the guy is transphobic, so double no for me.
I hate this too . I'm pansexual--i can find literally anyone attractive regardless of what's in their pants, so it would be REALLY hard for my spouse to police my friends based on gender!
But I'm guessing to this nitwit, our sexualities aren't real anyway. We're just "confused". 🙄
Same. I went and saw Black Panther with a friend who was a girl and when I told my mom she gave me a suspicious glance and asked “does [insert my gf’s name] know?” Yes. My gf did know because I told her outright I was going to see a movie with a gal I’m friends with and she didn’t care. I hate how so many people don’t understand that two people of the opposite sex can spend time with each other and enjoy being around them without wanting to get in each others pants. My mom still gives me shit about it
I don't know if this was your experience, but I've been in this church for a while. I don't like the gender dynamics in that church. I was cool with the unwritten rule of the opposite gender not sitting next to each other and not touching each other. But man is it annoying that as a woman, you're not allowed to speak to any of the male members unless spoken to. One time I came in late and everyone was singing. I didn't know what the hymn number was. I asked a guy behind me what the hymn number was and he straight up ignored me. There was also a time where I accidentally bumped into a guy and he freaked out. Experiences like that make me not want to go back to that church.
@elmoworld850 Wow. That sounds pretty medieval/puritanist/insert crazy centuries old fashioned religion thingy here.
I typically avoid churches, because I'm an Atheist and all my friends either believe different things, go to different churches, or like most also don't really typically go to churches, but this doesn't seem normal to me. That's some previous millennium conservative type bs.
16:31 Thank you for talking on ableism built into the Bible. Even in non-fundamentalist churches i have found this mindset to be quite prevalent. Progressively becoming more symptomatic and intermittently disabled due to chronic health conditions was a HUGE part in my deconstruction this year.
Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck. So glad I left the church.
Thank you for another great video!
The irony is that "God" had all these "checks and balances" with adultery to "preserve the lineage of the messiah" but in the end Jesus most likely was a product of adultery and that's why the Bible attributes this pregnancy to "the holy spirit" and not to an out of marriage affair
the brainwashing from Christian upbringing is so hard I had never even thought that was a possibility lol
Either adultry or a 13 year old girl was raped by the Holy Spirit (God's penis 😂).
This is what I don't understand, he is God, he is supossed to be all powerful, can't he do something else, like make the uterus poisonous to non-David's DNA.
@@bluester7177 Also why should lineage even matter? It's not like he needs the uterus of a specific bloodline to enter the world. Why would the creator of the universe care so damn much about a tiny group of people occupying a tiny strip of land in the middle east?
It's taken for granted but it's bonkers when you think about it.
@@flyinggyrados4591I always learned that the bible is jist a book with metaphors for how we are supposed to live...
I have no idea what the virfin birth is a metaphor for.
That puppet is always distressing, and in this context it becomes downright horrifying
Yeah to teach about adultery you need to give proper sex ed and you know they don't want to do that.
I can't imagine being the child that sits there for like 30 minutes straight watching this.. It seems like a form of torture.
Seriously wtf IS Douglas??? I love puppets but it's giving creepy old man pretending to be a child on a playgroynd. That... thing is not meant for kids. Unless you want to spend a f^ck ton on therapy anyway.
When I was a teenager and trying to be a good little Christian girl, I put up with a boyfriend that cheated and I thought it was best for me to be unconditionally forgiving as a model for a good little wife someday. (Also he was manipulative enough to encourage this too.) And I'm so glad my parents set me straight by telling me forgiveness is not an obligation; not in marriage and definitely not in a high school relationship. I'm glad I unlearned the brainwashing before marriage.
I am braced for 48 minutes of ace erasure from sex pests being analyzed by one of my favorite Aces!
Edit: I'm amazed it took 25 minutes.
Ugh, it was rough! X(
But it's always nice to see a fellow Ace _and_ appreciator of Trevor's awesomeness (and Ace reppin').
Ace eraser is frustrating. Also I found it funny that men are always characterised as horny sex obsessed people but I’ve met many Alosexual men straight men who have lower sex drives than their partner.
@@goosie8207 I thought I was one of those until I realised I was wrong about the allosexual part :)
aces tend to do that themselves by not committing to the concept
30:16 So basically, don't help out at all in planning or executing your own wedding, famously one of the most difficult and stressful events to plan, but spin it so it's somehow you doing a big favour for your wife? And then expecting sex as a reward for your weaponised incompetence?
I had no little to know input into our wedding except the guest list. My mother, mother in-law, sister-in-law, an assortment of aunt's, cousins and close friends planned the whole shabang.
Yup. So, so, so grossss 🤮🤮🤮
@@sreyarthakrishna6195 to be fair, I think the point he was making is that the man doesn’t care about the wedding at all, so they shouldn’t fight the fiancée over it, and just do what she says.
I don’t think that’s necessarily true, or healthy if it is, but still.
@@Colddirector Fair. I know that's the intended meaning, but I've seen enough men who say stuff like "You care SO much more about this so I'm going to leave it all to you" or "You are so much better at this", and use that as an excuse to pass off all the work to the women in their lives, and then expect them to be told where to stand and what to do on top of it all. And spin that as doing a favour to the women. Hell, it's a tendency I've noticed even in myself, and know I need to do more to correct.
The way the pastor described it, it sounded more like a r#pe.
"No, it's the 21st century. I get it faxed to me."
Beautiful delivery.
Also, I'm going to need you to apologize for not only *replaying* Robert Jefress' weird noises, but then zooming on his lip licking.
These people are gross. They say we all have sexual desire, which was already so confusing for me growing up asexual, but then also make it clear that it’s something men want and women have to do.
I am asexual too.
4:46 a puppet talking about adultery considering the target audience is kids is MAD weird.
And that he said "it's mostly for adults ". MOSTLY?!
@@faustina9328 well ya, plenty of child marriage in the bible so you need to leave an out for that.
In fairness, he was talking to kids who are not far from puberty. They gotta get that purity culture planted early.
@@jursamaj five year olds.
@@youllfindmeattthemoon you’d think they’d make this commandment applicable to children by saying ‘don’t cheat in games’ or ‘don’t cheat on god’ or some shit for kids, but at my youth group (kinda makes sense they’d teach us there) and in my Sunday school classes they’d just talk about how it applies to marriage
As a bisexual (ex)Christian, the heavy emphasis on more sex in the marriage (didn't happen for a myriad of reasons) and the heavy emphasis on not being around women created this loophole in my mind where I could bang men and it didn't count lol
To be fair, it seems like it wasn't, apparently, men only commit adultery when they have relations with married people, if the dudes were not married, it seems like you were fine.
So I get how that loophole could form in your head.
@@bluester7177 yikes but... Yeah. Gross, isn't it?
@@bluester7177i mean, if we take it to the absolute extreme, even two married men together wouldn't be committing adultery if it's only adultery when it includes a married woman, right? i'm not suggesting anyone does that because cheating is still wrong but the loophole is even bigger than we thought 🤔
I love how you think.
@@existential_horror5045 we just keep stretching that loop hole until we can get our while fist inside it 😜
The message I got from my church was that I was not to be a sexual being until I was married. (Not in those exact words, but the subtext was there.) It's a big part of why I never realized what it was to be attracted to someone, or have a crush, or anything about my sexuality until I was nearly 19. And then realizing I was a gay man bought a whole other level of abuse and trauma.
I'M SO EARLY!! You're one of my favorite UA-camrs by far! You've helped me so much with my deconstruction journey, and dealing with the thoughts that my evangelist family will never accept me.
“gay marriage ruins the sanctity of marage!” Barbra says whilst filing for her fourth divorce
And it's not even a sin
Imagine you're getting to know someone, having friendly conversation, wanna spend some more time chatting about a shared interest, but you're getting hungry and like, "hey, wanna get some dinner together?"
...and suddenly they freeze up. Then out of nowhere shout at the top of their lungs, "I LOVE MY SPOUSE!!" and heel-turn and book it out of there as fast as they can...
Just imagine...
Just makes me think of Mike Pence (I think he said he refuses to be alone with a woman who is not his wife in any context as well), so I consider that a bullet dodged.
But in their heads that makes sense. Because (to them)there is NO reason to be getting to know someone of the opposite sex, except to sleep with them. That's the whole Idea behind this thinking.
There are some situations you should avoid. No woman who is not related can be in my house when my wife's not home and vice versa.@@SlinkySphinx
@@SlinkySphinxWhat’s wrong with that? There isn’t anything wrong with being uncomfortable with other women while being married or in a relationship.
@@Hi_times_2 It's weird. It signals that you have a lack of control around women. Though, I'm glad he's doing everything he can to curb his sex addiction. 😂
Silly idea: If the patrilineal system requires deaths, make a matrilineal system. Fixed it. In ancient times the identity of the mother wasn’t in question.
To be fair, they did change, jewish lineage is matrilineal nowadays and it has been that way since 200 or 300 CE, so it took a long time but they got to the logical solution.
@@bluester7177came here to say this. I’m Jewish but I’ve had so many people tell me that I’m not because my mother isn’t. Wild.
B-b-but, but then men won’t have a legacy to call their own!!!1!!!1
God the whole "I'm not gonna kiss another person who isn't my wife" is such a weird fucking outlook, heard it first when I was around 12 and even then I thought it was weird. Maybe the reason divorce is so common among evangelicals is because they aren't allowed to find out what they like at all through simple dating antics.
I like the ice cream analogy. Baskin Robbins has 31 original flavors. If you had to pick one flavor to be the only flavor you could ever eat for the rest of your life, and you didn't get to taste any of them first, then you're probably going to be unhappy with your choice. You'll always be wondering if the other flavors are better.
I’m AFAB, and i wasn’t allowed to have a job because of “well what if you like your job and your husband doesn’t want you to have one?” Meanwhile I’m 15, never even dated or had a crush (aro/ace lol), and then when I’m 21 and still not dating, all the sudden my dad is literally screaming at me to get a job(I had been selling hand made goods, volunteering, and doing odd jobs for ppl @ the church).
Like all that week I had been helping a mom with insurance brokering and taking/picking up her kids from school, and the last couple of weeks had been watering property(there was a heat wave and they had new sod) and house cleaning for someone else, while volunteering to help with teaching and food service at the church.
My mom couldn’t drive either, so I was helping her go places and do the shopping. When not doing any of this, I was normally cleaning and taking care of our pets while my siblings had other activities(opera/sea cadets/jobs). But god forbid I sit on the couch and have FMA:B running while I filled out applications, cause ya know I was just being lazy.
Religious parents have very creative ways of hurting their children, I'm sorry you went through that. My parents pretended it was in the name of "our family" when they forced me to give them every penny of my first salaries. I begged them to let me have money for the first time ever, and they still took it. After leaving home, I barely talk to them, I never ask them for money and I never give them anything. You have no idea how free I feel. I hope you also find your peace.
@@Techno-WolfYou seem like a very cool productive person and I'm sorry you had to go through this, parents are often complicated relationships to have, I'm 32, I'm helping my father because he had an stroke and he got religious because of this and I have never believed, so imagine how good it goes, religion does weird things to people.
Regardless, I imagine thst many people appreciate all the things you do for them but take care of yourself too, please, you deserve to take a break when you want to, no matter what your parents think.
According to Adam ruins everything, You could say women have also been sexually assaulted by the concept of the intact hymen, There is no medical reason to look for a woman's hymen (unless it is an imperforate one that needs to be removed), that alone is assault in of itself (putting someone in a questionable situation where they could easily be harmed).
I just wanted to tell you that your content really helped me when I was questioning my belief. Thank you for your great content!
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Dude, I'm asexual. I literally don't feel sexual attraction to ANYONE. Yes, I have a boyfriend and I love him with all my heart(romantically) but I am not sexually attracted to him. I have no urge to touch him that way or make out with him, and I didn't feel that urge when I had a crush on my best friend either. Like with my bf, all attraction I felt to her was romantic, not sexual
As an Ace dude myself, in a doting relationship with wonderful Ace lady, I'm right there with you!
@AegixDrakan
Congratulations on your wonderful relationship, random citizen!
I'm very intrigued. Does your boyfriend also not want a sexual relationship?
@Exauce-t7s
It hasn't come up in conversation considering the fact that we are early into the relationship and that would be a very big step forward... Also we are just barely turning 16 in about 2 months for me and 4 for him and so even if he himself is sexually attracted to me, knowing who he is as a person, he probably wouldn't want us to have a sexual relationship as teenagers
@@Jacob-kx8go that's interesting
This series has been so helpful finalizing my deconstruction.
Have a midterm in 4 hours, this is more important tho
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I find it interesting how healthier you look now compared to your other videos.
You have no idea how much I want the guilt and shame show to be a recurring thing
The story about David and Bethsheba is fncked up on so many levels.
It's so crazy because there was no indication that Bathsheba had ANY consent in that interaction
She was SAed
@zemmym.9437 definitely. And the English translations don't do the story justice. If I remember correctly it wasn't just a typical bath she took but a micva (a Jewish ritual cleansing) and you cant just choose where you do it. Dr J Bird did a video on David and Bathsheba, it was insightful.
That story near the end is one of the most despicable things I've ever heard. God killed an innocent child because some guy happened to lust after her and commit adultery before murdering her husband, and then watched a man suffer and cry out desperately to him, begging him to spare the child. Sure the guy did some bad stuff and probably deserved pain, but God is supposed to be forgiving, not sadistic. That's like if God killed you because your Dad cheated on your Mom. We didn't cause that to happen, and we had nothing to do with it, but we're killed for it anyway. The most insane thing about all of this is that the pastor has the audacity to say "It shows you the extreme mercy and grace of God". If this is the mercy and grace of God, then I am proud to be an Atheist! Just not in front of my Christian family...
Also to this dingus talking about the victim of the adultery at 46:41, you were SO CLOSE!
It's also an example of collective punishment in the bible, David is the person who made the mistake and he was also king, so Bathsheba, not only was graped, because how do you say no to a king? she got pregnant, her husband was killed, then her child was tortured for a week with a sickness and then died, why is she being punished for David's BS? And why is the baby suffering horribly for a week?
I feel like the word "dingus" is extremely underutilized, so thanks for that.
Also, it seems like a certain evangelical portion of Americans like to make excuses for a certain indefensible individual they elevate to cult status by evoking King David. Basically excusing a class-A m0fo by equating him with another class-A m0fo.
But it's ok, cuz when David repented he gave him a replacement child and made it alllll better! Cuz children are replaceable, of course...
10:13 the way he nonchalantly says, if your partner cheated, u wouldn't need a divorce, you'd just bury them and "get on with your life", with ZERO emotion...i man, wtf is WRONG with you, guy?
He's Mark Driscoll
So, so much 😐
I feel like Trevor's relationship with Douglas the Puppet has gone from bewilderment to hatred to what it currently is: love-hate. 😂
As an ace spec person and a former pastor's spouse, I feel so seen. Thank you, Trevor.
18:35 That sentence has caused so much abuse. I don't think we should be taking health advice from a book that doesn't understand how illnesses or handwashing works.
My mother had an affair with her pastor many years ago. It was a betrayal of not just my father, but my sisters and I as well. It was a pretty terrible time in my life already and finding that out made it so much worse. 😢
Oh wow, that sucks!
Keep god first: *set in stone*
No carved images: *set in stone*
His name in vain: *set in stone*
Sabbath is Holy: umm… but maybe?
Honor father and mother: *set in stone*
Don’t murder: umm… but maybe?
Don’t cheat: umm… but maybe?
You'll never be guilty of sex outside the marriage if you never marry.
Follow me for more biblical loopholes.
In a strictly biblical view, marriage is a covenantal relationship established before God, who binds a man and woman as “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). This spiritual covenant goes beyond human laws, forming a lifelong union witnessed and upheld by God Himself. Biblical marriage involves solemn vows made in the presence of God, committing the couple to a lifelong covenant that reflects God’s unbreakable commitment to His people (Ephesians 5:31-32).
However, government-licensed marriage operates as a legal contract rather than a covenant established in God’s sight. When a couple signs a government marriage license, they enter into a state-regulated contract governed by secular laws rather than biblical standards. In this arrangement, a government representative (often a pastor or officiant) serves as a legal agent for the state, signing alongside the couple and placing the marriage under civil jurisdiction. This license, governed by state law, often includes legal terms that can permit divorce on grounds other than those specified by the Bible, therefore undermining the permanence that God ordains for marriage.
Signing a Government Marriage License
By signing a government-issued marriage license, couples are legally binding their marriage according to the state’s regulations rather than a biblical covenant. This secular contract includes conditions that supersede any vows made solely to each other or before God, subjecting the marriage to legal standards that allow for dissolution on grounds that do not align with biblical teachings. In this way, signing a government marriage license can be seen as effectively abrogating the biblical marriage vows, as the couple’s commitment now exists under the authority of the state rather than exclusively as a covenant before God.
Impact on Biblical Vows and the Covenant
1. Biblical Vows Superseded by Secular Law: When a couple signs a government license, their vows are interpreted within a legal framework rather than as a binding spiritual covenant. This act places the marriage within a system that often conflicts with biblical values on divorce, fidelity, and the covenantal commitment. Thus, the legal terms of the government license can nullify the intent of biblical vows, as the marriage now operates under secular authority.
2. Role of the Pastor as a Government Agent: When pastors sign government licenses, they act as representatives of the state, not exclusively as ministers of God. This dual role complicates the spiritual sanctity of marriage, as the officiating pastor is not solely witnessing a covenant before God but is also binding the marriage under civil law. Consequently, the biblical vows of lifelong commitment can be compromised by legal conditions that allow for dissolution outside of biblical grounds, thereby nullifying the covenant’s exclusivity to God’s standards.
3. Biblical Marriage vs. Government Marriage: Government marriage lacks the divine foundation essential to biblical marriage, as it is a secular agreement that includes provisions for dissolution that do not align with scripture. Thus, government marriage does not constitute a biblical covenant and cannot serve as the foundation for biblical adultery. For an act to qualify as biblical adultery, it must involve the violation of a marriage covenant witnessed by God, not merely a legal contract governed by the state.
4. Implications for Biblical Adultery: Since biblical adultery is a violation of a divine covenant, it requires a covenantal marriage to exist. In a government marriage, which does not establish a God-witnessed covenant, the requirements for biblical adultery are not met. Adultery, in a biblical sense, involves the betrayal of a covenant made exclusively before God, typically implicating a married woman (Exodus 20:14, Deuteronomy 5:18), and is not applicable within the confines of a secular government contract.
Under a biblical perspective, signing a government marriage license places the marriage under the authority of the state rather than under the covenantal witness of God alone. This act effectively replaces biblical vows with a secular agreement that can be dissolved on non-biblical grounds, thereby abrogating the sanctity of the biblical marriage covenant. Consequently, without a biblical covenant, the conditions for committing biblical adultery do not apply. True biblical marriage remains a sacred, God-witnessed covenant that transcends legal definitions, and believers committed to biblical marriage should recognize that a government license lacks the covenantal obligations that define marriage as God intended.
Thank you for what you do! It is invaluable!
Thank you!
The “Adultery in the bed begins with adultery in the head” bit should have been followed up with that clip of Vitruvius from the LEGO movie saying “All of this is true… because it rhymes” 😭😭😭
My demisexual ass who doesn't want sex all the time 😂
Posted 18 minutes ago?! Fastest I've made it to any of the commandments series yet. The algorithm hath blessed.
Oh, the "fine" was 50 sheckles, which translates to $12.50. The bibble doesn't recognize inflation, so it's still $12.50. That's even cheaper than a mail order bride.
The bibble? That blue and purple thing from Barbie movies?
@@CesRaisons That's Mr. Bible Fairytopia.
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Oh how charming. Making sex into a chore won't make someone prone to adultery at all. It's not like sex is an intimate act that's supposed to be enjoyable for all parties. It's a weekly objective you have to complete so you get your God Points for the Heavenly Gacha.
When Robert started mentioning big brother, I knew it was gonna be good. Also thanks for correcting all of us on the fornication confusion. Language barriers are weird.
Thank you for encouraging and reminding us to vote. 😊
Less than 7 minutes in, they're already saying that it's okay for men to cheat wtf
Man, for a “free gift”, God’s salvation sure does come with a lot of terms and conditions.
Someone who (was) dear to me, who is a devout Christian, once taught me as a young Boy not to experience pre-Marital Bed-Dancing because every (yes, he said every) relationship that has pre-marital wedding-buffet ends in adultery... Take a guess who takes my number 1 slot for "worst stories I've been told about someone's sexual history"
Trevor you put so much thought into accessibility for these videos, but just FWIW maybe don't make the warning at the beginning a flashing/strobe graphic :) :)
Damn it I did it again. I’m so bad at not thinking of that. I’m trying. It was literally the last thing I added. Thank you
In Italy we actually had a law that made murder legal if the husband or the wife (but mostly the wife) was caught cheating
It was called "Delitto d'onore" (roughly translated to "murder by honour") and it was only made illegal in 1983
Thank you 🌈
Normal men don't struggle this much with "temptation". If you can't have a casual lunch or a drink with a female friend or coworker without obsessing over having sex with her, that's all you, brother. Normal men are perfectly capable of having women as friends while still being faithful to their wife.
Have you done a video on Yahwism? I'm sure Evangelicals will love to find out that their god used to be a minor god in the Canaanite pantheon.
I’ve talked about it in a few videos but haven’t done a full video in it
@@BeliefItOrNot I didn't realize how early I was on this video. I usually find your videos hours or days after it was uploaded. Sorry for the comment that had nothing to do with your topic. I appreciate your content, and enjoy everything you make.
The off topic Nestlé slander was in fact needed
Nestlé slander is always righteous and needed.
Listening to pastors talk about sex is just sooooo creepy
As an ace person and an ex evangelical, sitting through these sermons was always so damn confusing. Like really you guys are tempted by this stuff? When I expressed my absolute non-interest in saxaphoning as a teen, church elders just assumed I was lying. Maybe some people thought I was gay. Somehow those are both worse than adultery I guess lol
3:20 I just voted yesterday in florida, unlikely for my presidential or senate vote to matter, but abortion protections were on the ballot and if there's one thing I believed could pass in this state it's that.
I’ve been waiting for this episode let’s just hope UA-cam doesn’t take it down, age restrict or demonise it. (They probably will)
ready for ace erasure and misunderstanding of how attraction works? i am!
27:39 - it took them a while, but now i don't exist! I am beyond human!
“Officer it wasn’t me! The devil made me diddle that woman! I didn’t want too! The devil made me do it!”
Genuinely disgusting.
Yeah. Ive been a cheater, poor reasons. I still struggle with hating myself for it, but my wife forgave me. She has helped me in weeding out where that dark, selfishness came from, and how to overcome it. I realized part of it was abuse by my father, feelings of inadequacy, and the fact that i was closeted about part of my sexuality. We now have a much more "gomez and morticia" kinda thing going, and it's great. Being close, open and vulnerable with my wife did more than any scripture and pastor could.
I don't know why you insist on calling it 'dark'. Humans are pretty much programmed for selfish pleasure, like any other creature alive. You saw somebody who clicked all the right buttons and you wanted to get off. That doesn't make cheating on your partner ok, but neither does giving in to a natural impulse make you a horrible person.
One of the first things I noticed reading the bible was the obvious lack of a role for the devil, for jews believed in no such things, nor do so to this day. The seconds is how many sex "sins" supposedly holy men commited for which my mother would berate me for, thumping her bible and and guilt trip me with God, as if she knew what was in it to begin with. Seeing this.... yyyeah... suppressing my sexual development was not even biblical. It's just not worth it. Not for a God who does not value women at all. And I've come off worse for it. Part of why I am so socially isolated. And the thing that made me quit christianity for good.
25:19 Ryan's brain must implode whenever he meets an ace couple who have a healthy marriage
Ace isn't considered healthy from a abrahamic perspective.
Abrahamic Religious marriage ,which includes Christianity, is designed for childrearing and community growth.
Couples where the woman isn't getting pregnant every few years at the start of the marriage is suspect. And back
in the day would be grounds
for the man to divorce the wife.
Being happy for other peoples content relationships takes a backseat to doctrine Everytime.
@@DarkFleurofIra he’d say they’re roommates and deny the validity of their marriage. He’d be horrible for it, but he’d have an answer.
I live in rural MO, and my neighbor came by to tell me the amendment referendum on the ballot concerning abortion rights (currently banned in MO) would enable schools to perform "sex changes" on minors without parental consent. I was happy that they felt comfortable talking to me about this and tried to point them to accurate sources for what the amendment says. It's a real struggle and a genuine threat.
"I don't read p*** magazines... I get my images faxed to me" amazing, love how you brought it back around haha
On a Saturday? Let’s go
Perfect for former SDAs lol
Bless you for the station breaks when John Hagee got freaky. You're a thoughtful and caring person.
That puppet talking to children about adultery was so ick🤢. The "protect the children" crowd just love to tell on themselves.
For as many times pastors get caught in adultery, they have no business slut shaming women nor bashing same-sex couples.
Oh my god.... My jaw is on the floor.... I can't even believe women have been going through this for centuries upon centuries. This is absolutely sickening. Feminist movement, unite. No more marriage. No more seggs slavery. No more bad, stupid men.
Thank --- I'm queer.
I'm never more glad that I'm ace than when my afab friends are talking to me about their str8 relationships.
@@bluester7177 I feel that way a LOT as an Ace dude too.
It is incredible that these people condemn teenagers and children from learning about sexual education, but at the same time they talk about sex in the most flowery and ridiculous way in their own sermons.
Like here in 18:25
“Friggin love secret bread…” 😂😂
Because of your videos I'm now OBSESSED with Douglas. Like that is the most absurd form of comedy I've ever seen and the fact that he's sincere makes it so much funnier
Not all women are born with a hymen or their hymen can be elastic and not break. Crazy
Thanks for the PSA about voting for us Americans, Trevor. Your concern for what is about to happen here is genuine and appreciated.
For the record, I did my part last Thursday. 🗳
I'm in the middle of watching this. But the "OMG EW DAVID" is sending me😂😂😂. It's just such perfect timing lol!
"Do not.
Commit.
Adultery."
You know, for kids!
That joke right out of the gate absolutely got me. All your jabs at Douglas are great, but for some reason that one had me chortling for a solid five minutes.
Do you think it counts as adulatory if someone else puppets Douglas?
I hope that this makes you temporary feel good. ❤️🔥
Thank you so much
Love that i caught this so early, these videos are always so thought provoking
40:40 When I was a kid, I was also taught that the Sermon on the Mount was about the secret laws that you're also breaking. Jesus said that you were told not to commit adultery, but you have also committed adultery if you look on another woman with lust. You were told not to murder, but you have also committed murder if you look on another man with hatred. You were told not to steal, but you are guilty of theft if you envy another man's home.
When I read the bible again during college, I read Matthew 5:33-37 for the first time. Jesus says you were told that if you break an oath to God, then you must be put to death. But it's better that you don't make any oaths at all, because you can't guarantee that you can hold to any oaths you make. Just say yes or no and let that be enough.
This verse struck me, first, because it was good advice, and second, because it starts like the other "you were told" verses in the sermon, but it doesn't end on "here is the secret sin that you also commit." It made me reconsider what the sermon was doing.
Sometime later, I argued with a conservative online about rich people who don't pay taxes. I said that wealthy people were basically committing tax fraud by finding ways around the tax code. The conservative replied, "But they didn't do anything illegal. The tax code lets them take these tax breaks." And I'm like, "So what? It's still awful?"
At some point, I thought about the other times that Jesus talks about the law. The Pharisees accuse Jesus of doing work on Sundays, and Jesus replies, "Then what about the people who work in the temple for Sunday service? Are they sinners?" The Pharisees accuse Jesus of healing people on the Sabbath, and he replies, "If a sheep feel down a well on a Sunday, would you leave it until Monday?" The Pharisees ask Jesus whether it's good to pay taxes to Caesar, trying to trap him into conspiracy for tax avoidance or hurting his authority by showing deference to Caesar. Jesus doesn't reply that it's okay to pay taxes-he says "Give to Caesar what is Caesar's," as if to say that paying taxes has nothing to do with his mission one way or another.
I started to see the Sermon on the Mount as Jesus saying, not that there are secret laws that you should follow, but that the laws don't really matter. The law says that you shouldn't commit adultery, but does that mean it's okay to go to the strip club? The law says that you shouldn't commit murder, but does that mean it's okay to vote for politicians that would put immigrants into concentration camps? Is it okay to hurt people as long as you're technically following the law?
Now we're listening to pastors tell you that UM, ACTUALLY, adultery is only when a woman cheats on her husband. It's not really adultery when the husband cheats! But these days, I read the Sermon on the Mount to say, "If you're trying to find a way to UM, ACTUALLY, your way around the law, then maybe you should chop your own hand off before it leads you to hell."
23:42 This kind of assumption is really annoying & tiring because it A) Push the belief that people can't just be friends with those who are a different sex or gender B) Makes the assumption that anyone who isn't cis & straight are just lying and C) That being friends with people especially those of the opposite sex or gender is a bad thing. I get this nonsense every time I talk about my best friend who just happens to be a man & people assume that because we've known each other for 10+ years we must be wanting to date & get married to each other despite us both seeing each other more as like siblings than anything along with the fact that despite us both being bi-romantic & ace we are both more attracted to woman over men
One thing I love about living in Colorado is that I got notified when my ballot was on its way to me, I was notified when it was received, and I was notified when it was counted!