How to find Right GIRL/BOY for Marriage? | Sahil Adeem
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I am 29 but still bachelor I don't want to involve myself in any haram relationship.but it is a biggest truth in our community that people are always judge a girl by her beauty and colour.may Allah subhan tala bless me with righteous man. Please pray for me guys 🇮🇳🧕🤲😭
Aap bhi dua karo muje Allah wali neak bandi mere zingdi aaye or muje v meri famaley ko chamka de
@@edwardlawrence8448 ji bilkul 🤲
@@aneesh.ali17 are you indian
@@aneesh.ali17 how can I contact you.
What do you do
This 🔥
A man can sacrifice everything but not the limits of Allah no matter what 👍🏻
Namaz is compulsory to be a Muslim but only namaz is not a complete Deen, the way u spend ur time or life tells how u value ur Deen
Correct
Hi
Yes sahi kaha iska Matlab kisi aise se karo Jis ka koi acha vision ho yeh cheez important hai
As per Mufti Rasheed Ahmed Ludhianwi marhoom (of Jamia tur Rasheed Karachi) to check deendari of a man you check the presence of hubb e maal and hubb e Jaa.. which means desire for money and fame I suppose. Because any person who has these desires strongly can’t be a deendaar person. The detailed beyan is on UA-cam. But my own little analysis found this parameter very helpful and appropriate for checking deendari. Jazakallah
Thats so true...i use to think that atleast men and specialy women studying in madrasaas and offering namaz,doing hijab in public must be deendar and true muslims...but no, even such people are not neccesarily Deendar and in many cases they can be worst than other fasiq people..... i've learned as what someone said that "Never Judge A Book By Its Cover" ....
On the other hand we should also look upoun ourselves, who knows we can be one of them..May Allah guid us the right path ameen
I'm 26 years old.i have done my master education.i have no relation in whole life.i want to do nikkah with positive and educated girl.please pray for me...
Ami.😊
Wah wah wah ahaaaaaaa
Mashallah
Reality is that most people look for money while doing marriages. You can be truthful, honest and hardworking but if you don't have money then nothing matters in our society. 99 percent of families will reject any Rishta based on financial reasons.
Not everyone .. .. i think thruthful honest and hardworking people can have more money .. cuz earning money more noney does need these qualities only . Hardwork honesty .. skills .. intelligence .. .. be strong ..
@@FatimaKhan-fq9ho Maybe you statement is true for West but not for Pakistan. My father was a hardworking, very honest and truthful man. People took advantage of him throughout his life. He died even without building his house. His crime was that he was a non-government civilian and he just believed on uprightness and truthfulness. He used to work 16-18 hours a day. So the question is that whether Pakistani society rewarded him and the answer is No.
@@kawan5851 not Pakistan but every where . Here in Canada we experienced the same
@@aszak8654 my experience is that it is the not the boys but the girls families that typically rejects based on finances. Anyway if you live in Canada then there is no obligation to marry within Pakistanis only.
@@kawan5851 I m going to marry a person actually, my fiancé has not a big job and I m from a very well family . My mom is so against it but my belief is rizq is in hand of Allah . I want to be with a person who has moral and respect for me and number one is loyalty. Pray for us that my mom agrees to it . Otherwise what ever happens it is for best . Allah Kareem
bhaijan!!
Thank you for your thoughts, i am struggling right now but inshallah i"ll be on the right track.
Love and Peace from Hindustan!!
Pray for Peace
May Allah bless you
True👍 bilkul Sahi kaha apne sirf 5wqt nmaz pdh lene se kisi ke deen ya achhayi ka pta nahi krskte..maine ekse ek munafiqon ko b namaz pdhte dekha hai ..dhokhebaz orr jhute logo ko b nmaz pdhte dekha hai ...nmaz frz cheez hai ,we have to offer nmz ..but munafiqat orr jhut sbse zada bura hai
So true NAK makes understand islam in practical way..
Indeed
According to me, it's totally under the control of Allah s.w.t . We can try to judge at Islamic level but what is Islam in our minds in Pakistan is more something of culture than Islam itself.
Nicely put
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اَلَّھُمَّ ارْزُقْنَا جَلِیْسًا صَالِحًا(اے اللہ! ہمیں نیک ساتھی عطا فرما) الہی آمین۔۔۔
آمین
AAMEEN
Ameen
You points are just too understandable.
Bcz you create wisdom from knowledge somehow. 👍
My mother used to say that if you seek a woman inspect her mother and if you seek a man inspect his father.
Company matters(saying of Prophet S.A.W). Also inspect
his/her company.
Also no one is perfect in this world, everyone has some flaws.
You have to endure and ignore something's. Just look on the bright side and try to become a better person.
"You can not be a true mumin unless you do for others what you do for yourself."
(AL-Quran)
Recite the Quran with its translation. So that you can understand.especially in fajar and pray Oh Allah open my heart for Islam.
May the infinite mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you Sahil. May Allah SWT accept all your efforts towards Deen. Aameen suma Aameen
Very Right ,,,,i Been looking for original lady since long,,,, Really hard to find the deen criteria & standards in current society,,,
Her chez ka waqt muqarar hy sab Allah pe chor do or bharosa rakho Allah bhtreen se nawaze gaa Allah se acha mango acha ghuman rakho bus
Ameen
اللہ المستعان 🤲🏻
Aameen❤❤❤🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻
We should always keep indulge ourselves in such Islamic thoughtful lectures.. Read Quran with Translation and keep in mind that we have to go back to him.. may ALLAH help all of us and bless us the right life partner Aameen
Mashallah 💓
Ap bilkul thk kah rhy sir mai khud bhtt qareeb se asy logo ko dekha jo dekhway k ly namz our bhttt hi galtia log
Kuch logo k sath shetani jinnat ya jadu k masle b hote h .. deendar namazi hote h pr zahiri taur pr logo ko bure ghatiya nazar ate h..may be koi azmaish ho unke sath ya saza ho ALLAH ki trf se..
Shetan ka maqsad hota h namzi perhezgaro ko digana behkana unhe defame krna..may ALLAH bless us and guide us always.. jazakallah
Is video ne mujy seeda kr diya or mary sary concepts clear kr diye im done ✅
کسی کا بھی دینی ہونے کا مطلب ہے کہ وہ کتنا قرآن و حدیث کے اصولوں پر کاربند اور متمنی ہے۔ اور اس سے بھی آگے کہ، کوئی کسی جی بے اصولی پر جتنا دُکھی ہوتا ہے۔
Bhai you are a gem mashaAllah
I am ur big fan Sahil Adeem sir 😍😍🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩🇧🇩
In our society we check how much is the earning of a guy , how much educated he is , and for girl how beautiful is she ? How well she can cook ? 😊😁. and deen hum aysay check kartay hain Kay pardah karti hay ya nahi , nimazi hay ya nahi ….
You explained complex thing in a very simple way that no one pointed out !
It's amazing as always 👌👌
Indeed
Good man good girl only Allah can gift for you just pray for it ❤
سمپل بات سب سے پہلے یہ دیکھیں
کہ۔اسکا وقت کن کاموں میں گزر ھوتا وہ کن جگہ پر اپنا وقت لگاتا ھے زیادہ تر
اور پیسے کہا خرچ کرتا اور کہا سے کماتا
کیونکہ یہی 2 چیزیں ھوتی ھے انسان کی زندگی جو زیادہ اھم
اگر انکا مقصد صرف پیسے ہی بنانا ھے تو اپنی آخرت کو چھوڑ کر وہ سب کچھ قربان کردے گا پیسے کے پیچھے
حلال چیز ھو چائے کم ہی ھو گزارہ ھو جائے گا
اصل میں مرد تبھی حرام کی طرف جاتا ھے جب اسے باتیں سننی پڑتی ھے پھر وہ کچھ بھی کرتا
اس لیے جیسے بھی ھو گزر جائے گئی حرام کی طرف نہیں جانا یہ چیز جب مرد کو گھر سے سپورٹ کرے تو وہ کبھی غلط نہیں کرتا نا کچھ چھپاتا ھے
Behtreen insan zindagi ka sathi aur saleeh naslain ALLAH SWT say Tahajud key namaz main dua mangain.
Great lecture i was confused about it. Now i know what to do. Humare dramas hume yehe criterias sikhate he love at first sight Bakra etc😂😂. I hope you all something out of it. I actually want to participate in some kind of activism can anyone give me idea or guide i am talking about Islamic activity. Actually i have very little time as i am studying as any help would be highly appreciated
Apko recently sunna start kia h, kafi acha lag rha h
Nice name mujtba
The best place to find a good deendar man or woman is at volunteer places. When one volunteers , see their personalities for atleast one year there and see if they are the right person to get married . Unless you meet the person several times it is hard to see through their personalities. Find out what kind of work they do , how are they in their education.
Bilkul sahi baat... MashaAllah Alhamdulillah.
Dear daughters and sweet sons as well, keep believe on Allah subhana ho wataal in sha Allah you will get best Husbands and wives, only pray pray and pray all girls please read surah Rehman daily 3 times and keep strong faith on Allah subhana ho wataal within few months you will see its results and boys please read Hazrat Musaa' s duaa. Allah Kareem bless you all my dear children.
Amen. Thanks🌸
I am waiting for an Allah-lover person who has a good morality and sensibility. Pray for me so that I can have him.
Apko zaror milega ameen or mere liye bhi dua karein mujhe bohat achi biwi mile kyun ke haqeqat main bilkul sahi kaha ke namaz or ikhlaq hota hai lekin munafiq hoti hain
May Allah create unimaginable possibilities and make way for you to find a righteous , pious , Fearing , Straightforward person. I will pray for all of you. Don't be sad. Indeed Allah's help is near.💕💕💕✨✨✨✨
@@Dantetheoneatpinnacle JazaakAllah khair
@@jamiamasjidmisriwahan1202 JazaakAllah khair
Allah Ko razi karo! Instead of searching for a person. Allah will open up the doors for you. May you get the rite match.
Insan k feham or ilm bohat mehdood hai. Don’t be over smart by selecting and rejecting people. Submit your will to Allahs will.
Sorry to say here if a man is well of to istekharay bhi Sahi atay hain. I been through this!
Good information 👍
Our biggest problem is show off (dikhawa) .nama ka ,eman ka, .
Ya Allah Meri Madad farmay.... Mujy Halal kaamon ki trf ly ja.Aameen
I am 22 and doing my bechelor's degree in islamabad, i got no financial problem , I've done towbah" from like every thing and i am trying to be a Momin within all whats in my force, and truly i want to get married ,but this society, our culture is just so messed and hard to find the Acttual "Allah ki bandi"
And sir you criticise boys that they are like that....sir aurtain ajj kal ziada status conscious .... Mra to masla nhi financials ka.....lekin jin ka shadian ni ho rhi....reasons sb ko pata
Lrky b beauty dykty Bhai
I dont think that boys are also facing such problem !!!! I always see that boys prefer girl's beauty job or demands list in our society .....ye problem hamare moashre me aise ghar kar gayi hai jaise koi problem hi nhi hai ....no one want to promote islamic nikah chahe wo aalimo k khandan se qu na belong karte ho .....aaj kal to grand shadiyo ka riwaj ho gaya hai.....ab to family wale v girls ko Job karne k liye force karte hai ....how can we resolve these problems
End me thek keh rhy ap itni bareeki se dekhty hain khud ko sharam hi ajati h larki hony pe
AsslamualAikum.. eye opener answer.. full lecture kha milega apka is questions se related??
I respect that but in reality n specially in Pakistan it's not possible for both genders to find righteous person. Parents are the biggest problem in our society, they have a different list to qualify a boy n a girl. Whenever i hear well settled from both sides, it triggers me so hard. I don't get what well settled is actually mean for those people. Anyways i hope n pray that everyone gets righteous people. JazakAllah hu khair
yes you are right...may ALLAH bless all of us with with hikmat and Hiddayet
Same here in India.
well settled is also important though meaning they aren't at poverty or financial loss and hence are capable of starting a new family
Me smjhti thi sahil sir koi star hn hahha mger em shocked 😲 he is scholar
Haaahaaaahaaahaha
7:17 Allah waliya UA-cam k comments mein nahi milain gayi 😜
Uff yar🤣🤣
Mtlab smjh rhy ho na,
100%sahi
May Allah create unimaginable possibilities and make way for you to find a righteous , pious , Fearing , Straightforward person. I will pray for all of you. Don't be sad. Indeed Allah's help is near.💕💕💕✨✨✨✨
But I think people are double standard now a days girls finding rich man and boys beautiful girls may be that's why rising divorces than marriages
Because of this There are lots of religious ladies are unmarried in Alhuda international and other madarssas also Marriage is became really a big task.
دین پر چلنے کے مقابل، دین کے اصولوں کو توڑنے والے کے معاملہ میں سختی بھی ایک مومن کی پہچان ہو سکتی ہے۔ نیز معاشرہ میں برائی پر دُکھی ہونا اور دین کے بیان پر مضبوط ہونا بھی
Adeem in our society only 2 types of girls they choose boys parents one if her father are rich,ofgously for Money and 2 if she is beautiful. What we should do like as girls the age of 30,34
Exactly..👍
Hahahahaha 💯%true .... 5 tym nimaaz pard li oor janatt pa li hehehehehe meko iss say ziyada hilarious kuch bhi nei lagta
For right spouse
ALLAHUMA YASIRLI JALEESAN SALIHAN اللهم يسرلى جليسا صا لحا
Very straight forward thanks
JazakAllah khair
May Allah SWT always bless you Sahil.
Aj k time me aurt b lalchi h or mard b,apki baty sun ly gy wa wa b krdy gy but money he haqeqt h unk mind me .
Please pray for me Allah pk mujhy naik or acha life partner Ata kry
امین
Aameen❤❤❤🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻
Nice answer but the first step in finding the right person is believing it exists secondly believing that it is connected divinely to you thirdly you work on "yourself" so that your spouse will automatically feel the same if you are a true believer Allah will let you know who is your spouse and then you believe and move accordingly. That is what is meant by for believers there are believers and for non believers there are non believers.
Start searching for girls, start searching for Allah.
Our primary objective is to please Allah
Most difficult question for pakistani culture .
Kya joray asmaan pa bantay hain ? Jo paksitani boltay hain
Kya soulmates exist krty hai? To agr hr soulmate ki shadi hoti ha to divorces kyun ho jati hain logo ki after even love marriages?
Kya insaan hud sa choose krty hain ya Allah na jo choose kya wohi insaan krta ha choose
Qader ma insaan ki choices ka role kya hay?
I am 30 and still not involve in haram relationship .plz pray for me so that I can found my soul mate .
Inshallah
💗The Gem !!
i think even for marriage, you can choose a person who is not very religious, it will be more reward to bring him or her on the righteous path if you are a determined Muslim yourself! bacho ki maa see ziada important hai k as biwi nibhy gi k nahi, agr biwi achi hogi to maa b achi bany gi, but aisa ni ho skta k biwi achi an bany but maa achi ban jaye aur ghar ma skoon ho! so I disagree with your opinion here. jitna b koshish kr lo insan ka sahi pta tb chlat hai jb saath rehty hain, so is fikr ma nahi prna chahye k ye apke ikhtiar ma hai sahi insan choose krna!
I have been thinking a lot about this (Really so much) I think this is very important for a muslim boy to know @Sahil Adeem We can ask questions from a girl about Deen. Like we can do a psychological game, We can ask her questions to trigger and and check the level of Deen she has. If she is a deendar khatoon she will respond with strong arguments and aggression (probably) otherwise she will agree with us in everything like the liberal scholars do with the west.
e.g. Ask her point of view about parda. Why is she doing it? it is actually an old tradition and mostly the women of time of Prophet SAW and khulfa e rashidoon does this, in this modern era where we have to engage with the society so much in so many ways, I don't think a women should have a strong parda from non mahram. she can just do hijab and do everything like normal girls do.
Then see her response.
(Sahil bhai if there is way I can share one or two other ways with you as well that we can do this without violating the boundaries of Allah swt.)
App idar bhi toa batoa
Absolutely right sir thank you 🌚👏
JUST BE ON THE RIGHT PATH YOURSELF! nothing else matters, FOR MOMIN EVERY SITUATION IS WIN WIN SITUATION, YOU DONT HAVE TO OVERCONCERNED ABOUT MARRIAGE ETC SINCE, RATHER HAVE FAITH AND BE THANKFUL IN EVERY SITUATION. IT WILL REWARD YOU MORE THAN A NAIK WIFE OR NAIK HUSBAND. WE HAVE EXAMPLES OF PROPHET LOOT (A.S), PROPHET NOAH ( A.S ), HAZRAT ASIA (RAZIALLAHANHU).
Yes i think brain can't solve these issues only Allah can make a path for us if we are obedient to Him
Mashallah..... ❤
ye bat tou quran pak may b hy k paak mardon ko pak orten or pak orton ko pak mard milengy... tou sab sy pehly apna kirdar paak rakhen khud ko is qabil rakhen k Allah ap k naseeb may paak mard ya paak orat he rakhy...Allah py b bharosa karen k agr apka kirdar pak hy tou ap k hissy may b paak life partner aega..
Use pak nhi use naik kehte English maiin pious kehte hain hain pak sirf ALLAH Azzawajal ki zaat hai
Sir, in your view, who is better:
-a girl who give full attention to her family , protect herself from namahram eyes, fully comply with Deen commandments in regards to her duties towards her husband, do not leave home without a mahram and would seek husband permission
Or , a girl who is religious, hijabi but prefer to be going out for anything even alone, just want to be involved in any social causes but neglect her home, family.
Unfortunately,99.9 % of so-called religious girls fall in 2nd category.
What is wrong with going out? Where does Islam say a woman cannot go out ?
Looks like you think a wife job is just cooking, cleaning and looking after her husband need mayb it be at the cost of ignoring her own needs
@@rmimalik that's again your assumption, I did not say it. As much as its wife duty to take care of her husband needs, a husband is equally or even more liable to fulfill the needs of his spouse.
The teachings of our Deen are very clear on this topic but then it depends on level of Emaan of each person to follow.
You have raised a good point....
But we should see that the man/women prays 5 times a day Or not....... It's very important....
Assalamualykum warehmatula wabarakathu masha Allah subanAllah jazak Allah khairan kasira Allah bless you and your parents and family ❤esy soch wali ensaan to kab ke guzar gy😢😢ab to 3rd world War ke bad hi new soch waly log peda hon gy lagta hy esa 😢😢Allah hum sab ko hidayat dy ameen
Mera point of view thodha different hai Jo larkay Allah KY Deen ko follow kartay Hain , well-off Hain achay educated Hain har Haram cheez sy dur Hain un larkon ko chahiye ek normal Larki Yani Jo full Deen per nhi chal rahi choti umer ki hai un sy Shaadi karhain takay aap apna knowledge spread karhain us Larki ko bhi sikhain na KY aap phely sy hi ek almaha talash karhain phir tu aap ki dawat of Islam limited hogi ek perfect + imperfect = perfect
Aisa Nahi Hota sister is Tarah to hum apni sari life ko hi stake par laga de ge agar shadi k baad bhi wo ap ki tabligh se change na ho to phir !!
not your job to raise an adult, what you are describing is adoption
you should seek to raise your children instead, hence find a good fellow parent for them
Hum ny kaiy larki daikhy jo bazahir deendaar hain but ikhlaaqi tanazul ka shikaar
Allah ko dhunden achey log khod milen gy ,ya pher borey log milen gy or apki azmaesh hogi ,takey ap ko dunia ki haqeqat pata chal sakey.
Sahil Allah sy doa ha k aap jaysa koi mil jaye dunya ma b or aakhrat ma b doa krein. Plz
Sahil Sahab, 5 times prayer/Namaz are prescribed by Allah SWT.
Please explain yourself properly. We can't say we might be munafiq/hypocrite too. Hazrat Umar RA use to fear that his name might be on hypocrite list
Definitely you create awareness about not to be arrogant about being namazi but if the person is praying 5 daily prayers at least he is obeying and bowing down to his CREATOR and slowly namaz stops you from all bad stuff. So you never know. But we can't criticize the person who do 5 daily prayers and doubt him/her. I personally met two non-praying people who criticise the people who pray and they say the same thing that 5 times namazi are majority bad people. So please explain yourself/Islamic concepts properly. Its a great responsibility you are having. Thanks I like your passion and like you I am also a student of Maulana Maududi.
Allah has better plan …😊 in sha Allah everything will be ok 😊😇
Well explained man 🥰
The journey has begun.
I am hopeful that Allah will help me to find such a person.
Alhamdulillah im reading Islam and hope ill get a islamic wife inshallah
Love Allah and Allah will love u and give the best.
Bunda acha kaha say milyga ,time has passed a lot 😑
I'm,Al ham du lillah
Bhut hen ALLAH K Qanoon KO follow kareh sab mil jayga IN SHAA ALLAH
Very well said brother 👏
Salaam, can any one provide the reference for the hadith, where Sahid Adeem quots "Allah will be surprised" naozibillah. ???
Allah ko dhunde!MashaAllah !
sorry to say we are a society of hypocrites, rather than purifying ourselves we seek for the pure deendar partner and most of the times we fail. hamein chahye hum Apnay ap ko paak kary aur Allah par tawakal kar ky effort kary deendar partner dhondany ki. there would be two results in my opinion; either you end up finding a deendar partner or you make them deendar after marriage. Allah hum sab ko aesa banaye jesa usay pasand aye aur we always do things to satisfy Allah, Ameen. keep trying brothers and sister but consistently koshish zaya nahi jaye ghi, In shaa Allah
Exactly
@Hassan Butt I wish i could find a person with same mentality as you said,as its what i practise
I SECOND YOU, BRO 100 %
ALLAH make every girls 👧 for boys 🙍just need to ur parent can selaket first ALLAH and then parents just blive then you see ALLAH kareshma 😇
Sir i like ur words and hairstyle too..
You are giving advice to the wrong people…the boy’s mother is the criminal who says “ we want a fair skinned , “ gharelu” 20 year old girl”…they don’t care if she is islamically highly educated …if a girl is dark skinned, older, divorced, poor but has an excellent deen, nobody cares and no the will marry her..but if a girl
Is white skinned , knows fashion, cooking and is 20 year old.all mother in laws want that…this is reality of Pakistan…
True..
actually, if a man isn't capable of choosing his life partner and is under such influence of his mother... such that he can't even talk her out of this, then how will he uphold his own family and protect his wife and defend her in front of everyone including his parents?
i m already married.....i wish i listen this before...
Very nice 👍
Well said sir ❤
3:10 best comment
Assalamualaikum aj k dor m jis ka hisa ma b hu jahn larki ne .M.A islamiat kia but trjuma NAHI prha Quran ka . R rishty waly pochty han M.A islamiat kia to trjuma sunao Quran ka and jb usko NAHI ata to usy reject kr dia jta bcoz .M.A kia islamiat m trjuma q NAHI kia .
You are 💯 right
Indeed
Speechless 🛡️🛡️🛡️
اللہ آپ کی حفاظت کریں 🤲
Thanks sir.