Consequences of Raising Spoiled Children
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2023
- Do you want your child to grow up as a person who is always afraid of making mistakes or as a person who is confident to take on challenges?
As parents, we want our children to grow up happy and healthy. An essential component of that is for them to learn how to regulate their emotions. This video will discuss a common mistake that is destructive to our children's emotional development.
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yep spoiling is narc training
life happened to my child even though I spoil him. he had no choice but to learn these skills early. we can't protect them from life
You dont keep a child safe by over protecting them. Over protection will make them weak.
And weak people will take advantage of you then stab you in the back if they get the chance. You keep a child safe by making them strong. You make them strong thru responsibility and consequences . Then you allow them to separate and socialize. It is so important!
And please stop telling our little boys "big boys don't cry"
That is shaming them and arresting thier emotional development. Crying is not weakness it is human.
I was very spoiled by my dad who had his own business and my mother hated me for it, I got the attention she didn’t. However when I left home, I turned it around and made my own money, paid for my own clothes, cars and holidays by working my ass off. Yes, it screwed up my relationships with men for a variety of reasons, I never liked them lavishing money on me for a start.
This is so true. My first son was spoiled and he doesnt take disappointment very well. But he has the determination like no other so even though he breaks down or is over dramatic when things dont go his way he still wont let it stop him from continuing to get back up and try
love is allowing kids to explore life, challenge themselves, make mistakes, assess risk and consequence, overcome limitations and tackle problems BOTH physical and emotional. Doing all this in a non structured environment subsequently develops Social skills, teamwork, respect, appreciation of individual strengths......
No truth is better than this. Perfectly ssid.
It is a horrible injustice and systematic failure to reput children of any age or expose parents back into malignant abusive situations where emotional, verbal, gaslighting, manipulation, pathological lying and mind games exists. It is so damaging to ones self in both short and long term relationships where it impacts your mind, body, nervous systems, cognitive and overall development and the law courts and police need to awaken and tackle it without ego based responses and should be doing more to assist people to fully leave toxic situations for their overall wellbeing. It's crimes against humanity and even our human and child right acts state every human being and child on the planet has a right to live free from violence, tyranny, control and any situation that causes them harm and each person has rights to their liberty and freedom. Society should not be keeping people entrapped in these situations as it is not beneficial in any way shape or form to those having to be on the receiving end of it. Spoiling is the least of the issues at play here and much of the problem comes from early childhood trauma and examples in the environment.
My brother was spoiled and I wasn't. I'm okay with that
Life is balance coming from a loving childs perspective you have to know what your capable of how to treat people / how you wanna be treated
Rule 1 - Make your kids tough.
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Well said 😊
So basically they think they are doing a good job but are actually doing a huge disservice for their child. I think it comes from “I never want my kids to go through what I went through” kind of phenomenon.
yes I was single mom . stripper and one of the first female longshoremen in canada ,... well now I Have a spoilt abusive son and I have an autoimmune illness from working myself to the bone on a good note I guess a narcassistic spoilt child is better then one in jail .
This is very interesting to learn about.
I guess me and my brother the exception to this rule, my father loved my brother he was my father favorite child and still is I remember when my dad use to spoil my brother he's the middle child I'm the youngest, I remember when him and my father would drop me off at my sister's house and they would go to the movies and get dinner together, They would go to the mall and bought matching snow boats for the winter😂 I can't ever recall my brother getting a whopping but I got my ass tour up, my brother and father use to tell me I wasn't going amount to anything, my father use to slap the shit outta for speaking out of line right after my brother just did it. My father defended him no matter what I use beg my father to love since my mother passed in 98 I was only 6 my brother was 12. My now a fire fighter and own his own clean business and he djs as well, loving family 1 boy 1 girl his life is incredible, me on the other hand can't even find steady work and still living with my father no wife no kids and im 31 I disagree with this so much
Sorry to hear about your pain. You might need to do trauma therapy and self development to help you start gaining faith in yourself and learning to love yourself. This kind of emotional abuse what you’ve experienced will likely cause a lot of self doubt, hate and criticism inside of yourself. I hope you can find a way out. I had narcissistic parents and also was emotionally abused. Help is all we can hope for but it takes taking those steps forward. You say these things about your life because you haven’t found you were able to do them. Once you clear up your wounds you will do well in life brother.
Sometimes it's because they are abusing the child and they simply are playing a game making one child THE favorite so the children don't talk to each other and can't fight back....
Either way....if they suffer...mom's fault. If they are spoil....mom's fault. Never ever again would I want to raise children in the sick world we live in. It's a set up where no one wins. Better to have dogs and cats.
Yep!
Being a parent isn’t easy and not everyone is capable of doing it well.
Omg fr we natural humans can’t adapt so fast to the new unnatural world
boy do I Wish you and I could share a bottle of wine , You nailed it !
So true. I was already ok with the idea that I was never going to be able
To have kids and he came along! I don’t regret it but it’s such Bs world and raising children is so damn tough on us.
“The worldview created in cases of overly indulged children is a sense that “I can do no wrong” and that others will do their bidding. As long as these children remain in the mini Garden of Eden their parents have constructed for them, their mental model is in relative harmony with the world and all is well. However, as the child gets a bit older and goes off to school, things get ugly. The real world doesn’t operate according to the same rules that the indulged child has internalized. Others don’t treat him like a prince, and when he asserts his needs more aggressively, or attempts to bully others into getting his way, he gets rejected or even beat up. Such rejection is a radically foreign and painful experience for a child who has never learned to deal with hardship or disappointment, but has only been taught that he’s the most wonderful creature in the world.”
-Dr. David Gustaf Thompson
That's middle son now a hateful spiteful mean person.
Yes
A brilliant visual example is photos of kids in 1950-1970s playgrounds. These are happy kids, challenging themselves (, taking calculated risk (.
There's one dramatic photo that lots of comments (todays adults) ASSUME a child in the background is falling from a height. He is NOT, he is on a swing.
I would love to know the age of the commenters, I have a hunch if the photo was shown to residents of a nursing home (80+ year olds) would be keen to tell stories of their own exploits & not be concerned about the ability of the kids pictured to weigh up the risk.
They're now grown = pinching babies 😢
If the parents don't discipline their children, the world will eventually do it for them. And the world will do it a lot harsher b/c they don't care about those kids the way their parents did.
At least when the world beat them up their parents are still standing by their side. It’s worse when there are no parents and the world is tough. It can be a very very lonely place.
What they also learn is to be "Hedonistic", when they are spoilt.😂
I Did it and it backfired , I Was a single Mom no support worked 2 jobs , paid his way into a career , cars , a condo etc etc etc and now he treats me like garbage
It hurts kids when pple generally look at an only child and say they're spoiled. Only children are not automatically spoiled and adults who just spit out society's common rants wo thinking really need to look in the mirror. Thts not ❤ either.
For the love of GOD everything is parents fault
ya when they grown their worthless
You can talk
I taught my child how unfair life is
bro my friend fuvking gets 200 dollars a month and he says iM nOT sPoIlED like bro💀
disciplined child is better.
You mention people with pronouns as part of being "spoiled" when, in actuality, many I know had entirely abusive parents who despise their children for just expressing themselves, don't act like you know everything because you're plain out of touch