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@@mattdad8429 I’m sorry to hear this brother. I have my almost 20 year old son with me this summer, and I’m already dreading him going back to his mom because I feel like I’ve had so little time with him these last 10 years. Still, I know the only reason he’s here this summer and the only reason we still have a great relationship is because of the work I’ve put in to remain a positive fixture in his life. Good luck brother!

This is heartbreaking to read. I’m sorry you’re going through this. In my experience and talking with others, chances are things will get better for you. But you have to stick with the therapy and focus on getting through it in a positive way. My thoughts are with you brother.

Thank you as well for taking the time to leave a comment.

Thank you! I’m in a much better place now. I remarried and we have a great relationship. As hard as the divorce was, I learned a lot from it.

Those two years will feel like an eternity, but stay strong and seek help as necessary. It will do you good to seek and accept help, and it’ll help maintain a strong bond/relationship with your son. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

I hear what you’re saying, but to say that those who stayed to 20 liked it is a generality. Look up any post of a service member asking for advice past 10 years of service and you’ll see dozens if not hundreds of comments from retirees who stuck around to 20 even though they hated it. Most will say it was worth it for the benefits, but they still hated their last few years. I’ve had numerous conversations with friends who are recently retired or currently active duty who hate it as well, but they stay in uniform because it’s all they know and they like the idea of a pension and benefits. I’ve stayed in past 20 because I sincerely love what I do, but too many of my peers are simply sliming by to get to retirement. It’s not good for them as individuals, but it’s terrible for the junior Marines who have to serve under them.

@@LivingMAD I think the military and the people going in now is a lot different then when I was in 1977 to 1997. Sure when I was in a lot of people did not like it and got out. However I did not know anyone stayed in to retired hated it and just stayed for the benefits. Yes people stayed for the benefits also they like it like me. They like the travel and challenge of the job. I knew some that stayed for 30 years and a few for 40 years. Nobody is going to stay that long if they hate it. Like I said the military is a lot different then when I was in.

I’m sorry to hear that brother. I wish you the best.

In my opinion, it’s worth it if you have a healthy relationship. The challenge is being healthy enough ourselves to actually find and keep a healthy relationship. That’s where many of us fail. We blame women or the system, but we fail to acknowledge our small part in it. I don’t know if this is the case for you, I’m just making a general statement for you to consider if it applies.

Absolutely agree with the acceptance of own faults, and working towards emotional/mental health. God knows since my breakup I’ve gone down my long, LONG list of faults. Some have been rectified, some haven’t. However, just because a man has faults, does that mean he has to lose everything? That is the major fault of the system. And the only thing that stops a woman taking everything from a man via that system is…her conscience! That’s a cold, hard truth right there, and thinking logically about this (no blame, no emotion) ultimately leads many men like me to withdraw from romantic relationships with women.

Amen bro

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It absolutely is. Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment.

You’re welcome and Thank you as well.

I sincerely appreciate your words. Thank you!

So true. Thank you!

Thanks a million bro.

It’s true, they are high stress professions, but for the right person, they are totally worth it. The military has been a stressful career for me for sure, but I wouldn’t change a thing and I would certainly do it all over again.

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​@@LivingMAD Don't stop making videos man. You see things for what they really are. I finished my bachelor's as a Sgt, almost done with my Masters, get to travel around and make more money making my own schedule now than my AD check was. I'm all for the military, I might even consider a reserve commission in the future or something, but you hit it on the nail in this video. Too many SNCOs and Officers get blinded by the system and forget that the civilian world works completely differently. They give Marines/Soldiers/etc. advice based on the institution, not the individual. For perspective; My old LtCol was miserable compared to a few of my civilian friends who run a small coffee shop next to Carlsbad and make a bit less. The grass is always greener wherever you decide to water it ultimately Rah'

I hope you’re right. Thank you!

Same, haven’t seen my 11 year old daughter in 8 months. I still have my other 2 kids, and my new wife and our 8 month old. Ex wife refuses to let me see my oldest and she wants nothing to do with me. Kill me inside

I’ve done the math. My point takes this into account. If you save and invest consistently over the course of 20 years, you’ll build up more wealth than the military retirement is worth. I’m coming up on 24 years now, as an officer, and I’m still pushing, but my military retirement is less than my net worth thanks to saving and investing. That’s considering the fact I nearly started back at zero ten years ago, after divorce.

Damn man this my reality. Scared and confused. I want this nightmare to be over. Somedays I’m suicidal.

It’s been six months since you left this comment. How are you coping now? I hope you’re making it through and staying in the fight somehow. 24 years is a very long time to have to start over. As hard as it was for me, I can only imagine what it’s like for you. I’m keeping you in my thoughts.

24 years…that’s incredible. I’m so very sorry you’re having to join this miserable club of divorced men.

I’m glad it helped you brother. Sharing our stories can be a great way to heal.

Nice. It’s always good meeting fellow service members. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment.

Yeah, divorce is high in the military, but I don’t blame the military. We just couldn’t make it work. I have many friends who have long marriages while serving a long career in the military. Our careers add stressors for sure, but I do believe when two people are a good fit and they continually work on their marriage, they can survive just about anything.

Also, congratulations on your long marriage. That’s incredible. I’m sincerely happy for you. I love seeing couples thrive year after year. I hope to one day be able to celebrate a long marriage like yours.

I hear you brother, but I personally hope you’re able to soften up again and let someone in. I know how hard that is and how painful it is to have your heart broken all over again, but in my opinion, if you build yourself up to be a good man and seek the same, it’s all worth it. Either way, I wish you nothing but happiness brother.

Wow! That’s a terrible blow after preparing for adoption. I’m sorry to hear that. All I can say is focus on the future and rebuilding yourself to be a good and kind person who will one day attract someone new to love forever…if that’s what you want.

Greta advice. Thank you!

That’s terrible. I’m sorry you had to go through that. However, if he was treating you that way and you didn’t do anything to deserve it, you’re better off without him. My thoughts are with you. I wish you the best.

I hear you, but for some of us it’s not always easy to move on. That said, we do need to. We can’t be happy if we hold on to the pain. Thanks for the advice brother.

You’re absolutely right. Thank you!

It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

It all depends on your plan and your state of mind. The military benefits after retirement are hard to beat, but with the right post military plan, you can exceed the benefits of military retirement. I wish you the best regardless of what you choose to do.