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@@R1se-Inspire Yay, thank you! I sometimes worry I’m just giving everyone motion sickness trying to run around the garden, lol. Glad you’re liking them!

@ 😂 it’s all good 😁

@@Mark71158 🤷‍♀️

@@LouisaWatt I’m in 12b, tropical, ~110” of rain per year.

My pleasure, thanks for watching!

@ You’re welcome!!

Anytime! :) Eeek, a foot of snow! I've got to be honest, I don't do well in the cold. Anything under 75F, and I've got to start layering up, lol. I do kind of envy the downtime, though. This is supposed to be the "slow" time of year, but everything still seems like it's growing out of control, haha. I'd love to have an excuse to get stuck inside and do some arts and crafts, but alas, the climate here says, "not for you!"

@@DaynaLachapelle Aw, thank you! Thanks for watching! :)

@@medickaisu Thank you. Much appreciated. :)

Right, I do worry about what his reaction will be. Luckily, he lives on the other side of the country. But he does have a huge platform, so could still do some damage with that. Fingers crossed, he just lets her go her own way, and that can be that.

Good points. I think there can be a pretty significant difference between starting a smear campaign against someone and discussing something that happened. But it depends on context; I guess the more "UA-cam famous" or whatever a person gets, the harder it is to keep anonymous, so it does kind of lean into iffy territory when it's clear who they're talking about. Thanks for the watch and comment. :)

Right. It wasn't until the last year or two of a couple different six year plus awful relationships that I even spoke to friends about how bad things were getting. It's hard to maintain the cognitive dissonance when other people who care about you know the truth, so got to keep it a secret until you're really ready to GTFO. Thanks for the comment.

Agreed. Any kind of physical danger absolutely isn't worth it. Naming names probably isn't a great idea, either. I think her relationship with him was well known enough that there wasn't really a way to publicly vent without it outing him. As satisfying as it was to see, I do worry a bit. The guy has a huge platform, which definitely gives him the potential to do harm in ways that aren't necessarily physical.

There definately areas of healing that can make us less susceptible to narcissistic abuse. But it's important to remember the very clever ways they create a trauma bond. That is closer to psychological manipulation/brainwashing than a 'shared fantasy.'

@ all relationships with cluster B are shared fantasy and the non cluster B who enters one is in a vulnerable traumatized state which is why they agree to enter bc fantasy is more exciting than reality. The only way to fully heal is to not only blame the cluster B bc one person being all good or bad is splitting which is a cluster B trait. We have to take responsibility for our part and hold them accountable for theirs. A healthy non cluster B brain is able to hold two opposing truths.

Thanks for watching! Yes, I've got to admit it felt good to see her be strong enough to talk about what happened. I just hope she stays safe and he doesn't try to retaliate in some way.

@@johenderson3742 Right!? Maybe it seems petty, but I don’t think survivors should have to keep quiet. And I do think there’s something to the reasoning that the more people you tell, the less likely you are to go back.

@@juliegrows And it's good to warn others so they don't get victimised.

@@johenderson3742 Ah, dammit. Classic projections! My mom liked to use “vindictive” and “facetious” a lot, too. And “instigator” when she was stoking the sibling rivalry with my brother. Like something about using a more advanced vocabulary to mess with her kids somehow offset how shitty it was.

@@juliegrows I dunno about other 7 year old little girls but I did not then even have the capacity to be vindictive or facetious (sorry about spelling!)

@@annipsy2185 Thank you! ❤️

@@FindtherealRachel Ugh, I don’t know if it’s worse to be told that in a bunch of indirect ways, or just be told outright that you were unwanted. That’s lame, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re doing better, now.

@@FindtherealRachel Thank you so much! ❤️

@@R1se-Inspire Thanks for watching and confirming that for me. Sometimes I fool myself and think she wasn’t so bad, because she wasn’t…all the time. But she sure had some zingers.

@ You’re welcome! 😁

May he rest in peace.

Ha! Thank you for clarifying that for me! I can't imagine my mom hadn't heard that rumor; funny she didn't consider it could be true until it fit her narrative.

So that’s where the biiillllyyy shears 🎶 came about , wow still learning about references in the great sgt. Pepper…

And so all his friends and family didn't say anything. Kay 👌 😂

Aw, I think that's the first time I've heard someone likes my voice! Thanks, I appreciate the feedback! :)

@@SputDobt Lol! I guess that is One Direction, isn’t it? Learned something new today!

Thank you so much! I do *try* not to go on too, too long, but it happens. I appreciate the feedback. :) And yes, garden therapy is EVERYTHING! Happy New Year!

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you! I’m excited to check out your latest on easy mode! I’ll be back to video consumption first thing tomorrow. :)

@ You’re welcome! All good 😁

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you!! Happy New Year!!!

@@NOORKHAN-5 Thank you for watching! ❤️

@@johenderson3742 I totally get that. It’s the idea of having an actual community, where people are willing to trade or share knowledge, skills, produce, what have you. It seems like real life community is getting more and more rare, the more we live on our devices. But I still think we all long for that sense of belonging and connection. And it can sometimes backfire on us when we pour too much of our “community” focused energy into the wrong people.

@juliegrows Thanks for responding! There are only 4 houses within sight of me and all 4 don't communicate. Some have even trespassed each other! Any suggestions on how I can find my community?! Travel to town is a no no due to distance and cost. 👻 Ps, Dysfunctional family, likely have CPTSD, so maybe it's me putting others off with my behaviour?

I wish I had a better answer than "the internet" for finding community, but it really does seem to be the way at this point. I live in a subdivision full of one acre agriculturally zoned lots, but I'm one of few who's doing anything agricultural. (A lot of people just bulldoze the native forest and use poison to keep their giant empty yard "tidy.") So, there aren't a lot of people I have a whole lot in common with nearby. Besides the farm stand people down the road, a lot of what I'd consider my "real life" community of farm and garden folks live too far away to visit or trade with regularly, so they come together in groups on Facebook. I think there's some potential in this UA-cam thing, too. The unfortunate thing about doing it all online is that we're kind of limited to exchanging thoughts and ideas; trading products or services is a little more complicated. The place I live is almost notorious for attempts at "intentional communities," which are really interesting in theory, but tend to fail in reality. Something always tends to come up regarding issues with land ownership, division of labor and fairness, interpersonal drama, or it just turns out to be a dang cult. From what you've described, it doesn't sound like you've done anything to put people off with your behavior. (But If I'm being honest, I don't know you well enough to rule anything out.) But my guess would be your neighbors are just like most people in the modern western world: trying to figure it all out on their own, and not making time for the connections that could actually be beneficial to everyone involved.

@@juliegrows Bulldoze the trees and use sprays? How horrible! Yep, they are likely the consumer types that I wouldn't want to chat with over a cuppa. I looked into one of those Community Group Landshares as they were just in the discussion phase. Omg, it was so easy to see why that never eventuated! It was clear that some thought they were more equal than others and wanted all their adult children and their kids to have the right to move in if ever the shtf (with no contribution). I guess the, "good fences make good neighbours" saying stands. 😁

@@R1se-Inspire Haha, yup! 😆 Thanks for watching!

@@juliegrows You’re welcome!

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you! Thanks for telling me I should! :)

@ You’re welcome!

Okay, so one vote for “this is all normal, but religious trauma is making me question it?” Let me know if I’m not understanding correctly. Can’t say I’ve had much religion (or trauma related to it that I’m aware of) instilled in me. But I suppose that (religious trauma) is what America was built on, and is supposedly trying to go back to even harder. So, there could be some truth in that.

You're so right! Thank you! ❤

Aw, thank you! I hope you've been well, too! It's so hard to turn off the people pleasing, right!? I really have to catch myself sometimes, so I don't get myself in trouble.

@@juliegrows I know what u mean

@@R1se-Inspire Thanks for the comment!! 😁

@ You’re welcome!

Aw, thank you, much appreciated!

I thought I was the only girl whose mum didn't teach such things to. Thank you.

@@johenderson3742 I think my mom was so disinterested, I wasn’t even sure it was something moms would or should do! But now that I have a few friends with teenage and young adult daughters, I understand what I was missing. I don’t like to give her a “pass” for too many things, but I am grateful not to rely on makeup to feel comfortable in the world. Thank you for watching. ❤

Hi! Glad to have you! I'm sorry to hear you went through all that; it's way more common than it should be. It's unfortunate that the abused are usually the only ones who end up in therapy, when the abusers need it just as much. I'm glad to hear you got support, and so interesting that you wrote a book!

@juliegrows thank you for your reply. cu later. im well now but i have been trough hell;)

@@minanovkiril I’m happy you made it through to the other side. Take care, and thank you for subscribing. :)

@@R1se-Inspire This one felt like a bit of a dumpster fire. But hey, I used CapCut! 😁

@@juliegrows😂 it’s all good. That’s awesome 😁👍🏻

@@R1se-Inspire Thanks for the comment! 😁

@@juliegrows You’re welcome!

@@deanvanlaarhoven1413 Thank you! Yes, the garden is definitely my therapy away from therapy, among other things. 😊 I appreciate the support!

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you! 😁

@@deanvanlaarhoven1413 Haha, thank you! Yes, I did, and I suppose I didn’t show much of it, did I? 😆

@juliegrows No one's complaining☺️... but the information is appreciated as well. Keep up the great work.

@ Thanks! I’ll try!

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you! I genuinely didn’t believe it was possible! I feel like a ninja or something, lol. Although I don’t think I could pull it off, again.

@@R1se-Inspire Thank you, I appreciate it. ❤️

@@R1se-Inspire Thanks for watching! :)

@ You’re welcome! You’re shorts hit 2k 😁👍🏻

@ I know! Is that normal?! Almost 20 hours of watch time from that thing. I guess people like to look at fruit!

@ It can be! It depends on the video. Keep up the great work. 😁

@ That one’s going to be hard to follow, lol!