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How is calling someone Godless is interpreted as anti semitic?

new to your channel and all I can say right now is WOW you are THAT girl. Like this is my second video of yours that I have seen--I subscribed after watching the first, which was the editor's review of the viral and infamous cut opinion piece--and I know I'm here to stay. The thorough investigation, empathetic/compassionate commentary, wit, and vibes? unmatched!!

As a 40 year old man, she didn't marry and old man, she just married a rich dude. He just a man OLDER than you. Old is like maybe a man in he's 60s. You know, like the man's daughter/son is the same age as you.

Please, please, please continue to make book review/reccomendations here on youtube! I really want to get into reading non-fiction, and your channel seems like a lovely way to venture into that!

12:08 my personal interpretation at least on first glance was that she was talking about work: labor in the office, and pregnancy: labor in the hospital. May be talking about how women are expected to fulfill roles of both bringing in money and also children which can be taxing. Its a little weird to be getting this from a victorian novel so im not sure

When she described herself as having high breasts and most of her eggs I let out an audible "eugh!" That paragraph, to put it evocatively, was icky squicky. I've thought of marrying an older person for their money but these fantasies involve someone in their sixties with a chronic heart condition and a castle. This is very much not that. I do want to address the switcheroo test of the male gaze. Change the virginal gait so something a little more masculine and it wouldn't be out of place in a certain kind of romance novel.

When you coke, you do not eat. And if you're doing it everyday, then obviously you're not eating much. It's not plastic surgery, his appetite simply came back after stopping the coke.

Contra points had actually made a tedtalk ish presentation about this exact thing, presenting the information from a point of view of a fictional character

The fact that she hates men yet benefits from them financially sounds like she’s disconnected to reality and unable to take accountability for her own actions.

40:40 - 41:10 SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!! 41:35 YESSSS!! You get it!!!!

35:40 I cackled out loud!! This is the metaphorical explanation people need to understand !!

Great video

This was such a good video, review, conversation piece, everything! Youre so well spoken and i loved you bringing up various perspectives and other reviews that really did make this a discussion

I hate when women blame feminism for issues that actually stem from capitalism. If feminism didn’t give you “ease”, that’s because it’s not supposed to. Feminism liberates us, what we do with that liberation is up to us.

For the people calling the writing bad, it's like saying a comedian is not funny because you find their jokes offensive. Just an attempt to hit where it hurts, knowing that the person probably doesn't care that you are offended, but does care about being good at their job. I don't love everything about the piece but, for The Cut, I think it's ridiculous to deride the quality of the writing. This isn't the Paris Review. Now, for the content . . . I thought it was nice that the piece acknowledged reality. Seeing the reactions, it sounds like a lot of people are not prepared to acknowledge reality. I don't think there's really any point in arguing--certainly, the commenters don't. These are matters of cultural and social norms, and the piece deviates from those norms. But it doesn't seem to be prompting any real reflection or substantive engagement. That's typical in this day and age, but depressing as usual.

I've been following a similar morning routine but I hate the fact that it makes me really drowsy after lunch :/

Thank you for renewing the energy I forgot I needed here; it can be easy to forget that inspiration and structure can be friends rather than mortal enemies!

Make more videos… please. I am entrhralled with your analysis of these pieces.

I should add some gossip here. Olivia knew John around 2013-14. She was kinda had a crush on him back then but he was engaged with Anna Marie at that time. Even she tweeted about John. In 2020 she tweeted “Sending SO MUCH love and support to John Mulaney. You got this ❤️” I can never forget this iconic tweet. Then she deleted ofc. But you can find it online. She was waiting for them to fall apart.

Hey gals and non-binary pals, just a man raised by strong, powerful, intelligent and kind women in my family saying that I'm with you :) Fantastic video, instant subscription. Explaining very thoughtful feminist ideas in such an approachable way is such a skill!

My heartspace is swelling in recognition of your courage and sincere storytelling. This brought me to laughter and tears right with you. Goodness to you 💗 And your Spanish is beautiful!!!

I have no idea how I got here, I have no idea why I clicked on this, but I'm glad I did. You're dope :D

Wow, I did not expect to sit here listening for this conversation, but my goodness did I do exactly that. So appreciative of your grounded and to-the-point- intersectional!!! (Thank you)- perspective and review. Thank u

@siobhanbrieraguilar intersectional queen 🫶

I think celebrity memoir book club had a great review of the book and captured how a lot of her feelings about herself came from her total lack of ambition and self direction. Men aren’t responsible for inability to self actualize. She just isn’t that remarkable.

The book title should be “Professional Victim”. “Men are the cause of all my problems.” No they aren’t and she’ll always be a perpetual victim until she takes responsibility for her life. No wonder Mulaney left. She sounds insufferable.

She was a cokehead too.. thats why he left her

Honestly I find these women who expect their husbands to do everything for them while they act like spoiled leaches to be gross.

so john's friends staged a long needed intervention because his then wife - who was clearly miserable herself and admittedly reliant on her talented husband's wealth to support what she described as her mediocre artistic talent - either enabled or ignored his drug addiction. sounds like divorce was the right move. and nothing will give you meaning and purpose in life like having a child will. probable why john hasn't relapsed. key take away - modern feminism makes women miserable and solipsistic.

not me getting spoiled on madame bovary 😔😔😔 I must vacate the video now

So she’s dramatic, got it

Melissa Febos wrote an amazing essay about trauma around men called “Thank you for Taking Care of Yourself”.

Hello. Great vid. One quick thing. I’m a dog trainer of 20+ years and I deal with dogs that have “man fear” a lot. The truth is that we don’t truly know where “man fear” comes from. From all that I have experienced it seems most likely a result of a lack of exposure to men as opposed to exclusively an association with negative experiences. It’s an understandable misconception but it was something I thought I’d put out there. Again great video.

It sounds like they both had issues that made them both incompatible with each other.

New subscriber here 👋 I liked your review of Anna Marie's book. However, I think you've misattributed her unhealed trauma and misplaced blame to femininism. Please don't contribute to further muddying the waters around such a relevant and vital thing for women and men. (As true femininism seeks the healing and justice of both women and men). She may be a feminist. I wouldn't know but her complaints and her blame aren't to be equated with the political and social idealogy of femininism.

"But, I feel a kinship with all women, and all artists." Ugh I love how you said that. Tendler annoyed the shit out of me sometimes. I listened to the book on a 13 hour drive, and sometimes it was impossible to not want to skip over her grandiosity or her intricate, "Look at me! Look at how much of a tortured artist I am!" discussions of self harm and anorexia. Yet, the endless 'shitting-on' that was done by Call Her Daddy-esque 'feminists' felt wrong and misplaced. Tendler was like that friend you have in high school who is endlessly infuriating, and always asking if she can copy your assignments- but you still care for her. Also, thank you for the wonderful book recommendations! I will give Dog Medicine a try :)

Edit: JFC I should have waited to comment. You deserve all of the attention this video is getting. I loved the last section most of all. Intersectionality means a lot to me personally because, it means I have a place, a voice, and a contribution to repairing the harm of these systems. When I hear anyone say "all men are trash", I can shrug it off... but it makes me feel helpless and trapped in a situation I did not choose and unwelcome to contribute to a solution that I feel strongly about. Thank you for sharing this video. _ (I'm just over halfway through so add a grain of salt) But I am struck by how difficult it is to engage with art on it's own terms these days. It is natural to be curious about the circumstances surrounding her trauma and her goal for the book as a whole. Is it meant as art? Is it meant to make us side eye him? Is it all performative? This video was my introduction to your channel. Love your work!

Thank you for bringing up gender essentialism!!! Trans men catch so many strays with the “i hate men” mindset even tho we’ve been victimized by men too 💔

I love confessionovels. AMT's "Men Have Called Her Crazy" reminds me a lot of Chris Kraus' "I Love Dick," which is both deliciously gossipy and devastatingly gruesome in its depiction of arthouse romances and behind-the-scenes complexities of public drama. Female desire is so raw, and so is female pain. I'm glad Anna Marie Tendler has added her voice to the collective scream. (I'm also glad that UA-cam suggested me your channel and this video!!)

... no matter what you think of him personally... and don't lump him in with Ned from try guys or Dave Grohl... he didn't cheat on his wife, as far as any of us can gather. He left his wife for reasons and he found something with Olivia... No matter what you think, he's still funny. He's funny. He's a comedian's comedian. He makes Bill Hader laugh and break consistently, and he's one of the funniest guys out there.

I was going to see just a portion of this video but this is so good that i have been trying yo watch it since yesterday. You are very articulate, you use metaphor when you want to explain yhis to dumb people like me and you are funny!! I don't know if I will always have time to watch a 1 hour video but i will gladly give you a follow!?

I think an angle a lot of reviewers are missing here is that Anna Marie Tendler seems to be profoundly disabled. She spends most of her time self harming and admits at the end of the book it is not improved. She is going to many, many therapists. While she is lucky to have had men provide for her through her disability, it doesn't seem like she has ever had a time where she could handle the stressors of working without easily falling apart. Like, me, and other disabled people I know who are disabled primarily by mental health related conditions have a very similar struggle with working or reliance on others. Maybe because Anna is not conceptualizing herself through disability rights but through Feminism, people are missing it, but all of that behavior just IS someone who needs others support due to disability. And let's be honest, if she wasn't imagining this as a Feminist Memoir, marketing as a fuck you to specific men, if it was about disability would anyone pay attention? At almost every turn even progressive movements feel more comfortable ignoring us. Maybe she's ignoring she's one of us bc a Feminist moment is one that gets more attention, more validation, and implicitly is about taking power back. Admitting to inability gains you only people ignoring you, or insisting they know more about your capabilities than you or your doctors, and feminists (as a whole) don't really go in for supporting a woman who can't Do Things. Makes sense she's trying to cling, for personal or public facing reasons, to the version of what went wrong that people are more likely to support- even if she wasn't fully accurate about how much support she'd get without feeding into the gossip mill for her ex. People don't want to hear about disability unless it's inspiration p*r n. They don't wanna hear from you if you aren't somehow doing what you can't. Look at how many reviews were upset she wasn't following the usual mental health Memoir playbook. But also like. Her gender essentialism is awful and she's still a highly privileged person who needs to be able to see that- I just also think that maybe all this "your 40 just get a job" seems to be ignored glaring Red Neon signs

7:50 Ok now the crazy part is making sense

To be fair, if a woman made the decision to leave her husband and have a baby with another man would be celebrated as "her choice" and she's declaring her "independence" and she does NOT have to explain herself to her husband, let alone all of you people. John entered into this marriage an addict with unresolved issues. You have no idea what it was like for either of them. What I'm saying is, if a woman did this, she would be supported. Because "you don't owe him anything" no matter what he did while they were together, she doesn't owe him anything. But John does, John has to explain himself John gets raked through the mud. John is scum because he did this... but any woman can throw any man away with ZERO criticism. Because we NEED to support her. If there's anything I know... it's that I do not know what happened between them. Neither do any of you . I'm not defending John. Maybe he is just a piece of s**t. But if you're going to support women who cut out their "family" when they feel they need to... don't send your mob after John. If he left, there were things going on well before he met Olivia, and we should also remember that they were already separated or in the process of divorce when he started seeing Olivia... he may have met her before, things happen, you meet people and you fall out of love with others. You do not have to explain yourself. Or... you do and it's all bulls**t to say always believe her, never believe him. That's just bald-faced sexism. It's exactly the same as "always believe the police, never believe the person who may or may not have committed a crime who was murdered in police custody" Or always believing men and never believing women. Don't let your own gender-bias get in the way of the fact that you do not know these people. It's your own parasocial relationship with them... which is in an of itself, pretty delusional.

I'm not even his ex and seeing him posting everywhere about his baby with the girl he cheated with is nauseating

Ok I was kinda gobsmacked when she said it was just a ten year gap. I thought it was gonna be 20+. Is she this thirsty for attention?! And as others have stated, she’s listing the benefits of marrying rich, not older.

40:15 “Hate is a burden to bear that often hurts the person who feels that hatred more than the person they hate.” WOW. That came for me right in the therapy, I needed to hear that.

37:19 This is one of the most articulate analogies I’ve ever heard in my life. Bravo.

22:20 deconstruct what social messaging and cultural forces are shaping this antisocial behavior that can be seen in men. I have no doubt that she was seeing those patterns of behavior in so many men in her personal life as well as in greater society. I also recognize in my own experiences echoes of that description. I feel for the frustration, deeply and personally. It’s simply un-useful to leave it at “men bad.” Biological essentialism is foolishness. Sex essentialism, aka “your hormones and chromosomes determine EVERYTHING about your character and behavior” is an idea that hurts so many women and people and it’s not okay to reinforce that idea as having validity. Biology may add a slight _lens_ onto how male sex people and female sex people experience the world and express themselves, just like how any other variance in hormones can affect how the world feels to you, but it’s downright eugenicist to imply that someone’s character is determined by their genetic makeup. It’s already observable that culture has a vast impact on behavior. Societal values and what is allowed and disallowed, rewarded and unrewarded and punished are great altering forces on how someone’s personality develops, what personal entitlements they buy into and what behavior is expressed and reinforced. Investigate the cultural and societal driving forces behind this undesirable behavior first. I’ve known incredibly thoughtful and courteous men who respect the women around them the same way they do the men around them. My sister is married to one. The fact that that is _possible_ shows that poor behavior is not genetic or chromosomal. Basically, get specific. Overgeneralizing is useless, and in fact is counterproductive to every goal you’re hoping to meet. Is sex-essentialist “feminism” also known as second-wave feminism? I forget, but that line of thinking definitely also throws gender-nonconforming and trans people under the bus. Taking a broken system - the dichotomy bought into over millennia of “man valid, woman dumb and evil” - and simply inverting it just leaves you with a broken system. And again, men can behave really poorly and in really narcissistic and dismissive ways, in a uniquely culturally-empowered manner. That happens. But pure blind hate is not how we, as humanity, change and improve. I realize that this is an expression of pain from the narrator of the book. It’s also a choice on the part of the book’s author to not temper this expression of blind pain with a thoughtful discussion that is more grounded and objective. The material you put out into the information ecosystem has an impact. Do you want it to be effective in building long-lasting change? Or in stirring senseless cyclical conflict and finger-pointing? It does women no favors to hand fuel to red pill misogynists.

This was a great review. Good luck with the channel