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Thank you so much for watching, yvenisem!! ❤

Yeah, that's not how stress and anxiety and illnesses work.

@@WhatthePatriarchy no it's same. All these things feels same first time. I have tried and tested.

No. That's not how anxiety works. There's actual research on it that you can look into to better understand it, but it's not about shame. Shame contributes to it, but it's not all.

Thanks so much for watching! Welcome to the journey of love and acceptance and respect and openness! ❤️

It's rare I think everywhere except in South America!

Same! It was so, so challenging - and the results have been so amazing for me! ❤️

Omg! Thank you so much for watching - and for the lovely email!! Will respond!

Thank you for watching, Sibz! Yes, there were many, many older people participating both weeks that I was there. Definitely!

@@WhatthePatriarchy That's good to know as ya' girl ain't getting any younger😄

lol!! Hey, there's no age limit on healing, loving yourself, taking care of yourself!

@@WhatthePatriarchy Indeed!😘

My heart!! I know what carrying guilt and shame is like, and honestly? A lotttt of the guilt and shame I was carrying for so long got released from my system, and I feel amazing. Sometimes, it's an uncomfortable feeling because I feel like I'm supposed to be feeling guilty and ashamed at all times, and I just ... I just now refuse to do so. Yes, there''ll be a part 2 with some of the things/lessons I learned on the ayahuasca. Thanks for watching!

@@WhatthePatriarchy 😘

@@lailaelo9755 Just saw that you meant, laila!! The video ends abruptly - that wasn't the plan! I'm preparing the part 2 to go ahead and upload. I don't know how to attach it to this current one, sadly!

Ok, here's part 2 - in the last 2 or 3 mins of this video: ua-cam.com/video/Zac25IKnLUk/v-deo.html (I uploaded the whole full video because I didn't want it to be in parts!)

Thanks for watching. Feedback for what?

Thanks for watching, uncle!

Okay ❤️ Don't worry about what others are doing or not doing or what they'll like or not like. You do what feels best for you!

Thanks, Almarojo! I'm so glad you came across my channel as well - this channel is only for those who are ready to hear what I've to say and feel what I feel! Perfect timing, isn't it! Blessings on you and your loved ones.

Aww, thank you, RSA, for the subscribe and for engaging! I agree - I can't imagine God being hateful towards anyone who simply wants justice, when that's what we're required to do anyway in the Qur'an! I'm glad you found us!

I'll have to ask Kecia about that! I definitely find The Fatal Feminist's interpretation convincing myself.

Thank you for your engagement, deedee! Appreciate your comments!

Thanks for your comment, deedee! I didn't say the hijab is for men; I've never believed that. Men should be and are totally irrelevant as are their opinions on our bodies and whether and how much we cover. I'm not a fan of the whole "we need to be distinguished and identified as Muslims" - why? How do men distinguish themselves as being Muslims? Why is it that women have to carry this burden of representing themselves and their religions and their communities and men not so much? What's the equivalent for men - how do they make sure people know they are Muslim?

@@WhatthePatriarchy The identity as Muslims actually ties back to my first point about orientation of a woman to her ultimate life pursuit which is worship of Allah SWT. I realize by saying also, it seemed like it was an independent point and not related. When a woman wears hijab, she is identifying her self as a Muslim and therefore all tht it entails, i.e. she is not interested in unwanted attention, catcalls, etc. or anything that will distract her from her pursuit of worshipping Allah. To the question of 'why': I think we need to ask ourselves why the question in the first place? We could easily say why do men have to provide mahr or financial support for their wives when women are capable of working and earning their own money? In a changing world, women's earning potential is at or even above men's, yet those rulings don't change (the exception is that in some interpretations, the financial arrangement can change, but again it's situation-dependent. The default is what is outlined above). I don't think differences necessarily mean 'unequal'. Both men and women are being accommodated in ways that suit them best, because they are from Allah and we know that they are best. Also, respectfully, you state that hijab is and never should be about men, yet you ask at the conclusion of your comment ask what about men? If we believe that hijab is ultimately for Allah, regardless of what men do or say, why are we still concerned about them (RE: "as are their opinions on our bodies and whether and how much we cover".) If it's about taking men out of it, then let's do that completely, as far as why we do what we do. Jmt.

Thanks for your engagement, deedee. What I meant by the hijab isn't about men is that we need to treat it as WITHOUT thinking about what men think of us, how they'll treat us, etc. Or what men think of the hijab. Everything you said about worship, a woman's purpose, etc. applies to men, too. So I'm still not understnding what the equivalent of the woman's head-covering is for men - why don't men have to cover their head in Islam? If the hijab is about identifying ourselves as Muslims (which I totally disagree with), how do we apply that logic to men? Why do only women need to be identified as Muslims? Also, I have a video on the hijab you might be interested in watching. One of the things it talks about is this notion of identifying ourselves as Muslims. Historically, in the sahaba's time, it was an issue of class and slavery/freedom. Here's the link: ua-cam.com/video/tmJafU0K1cE/v-deo.htmlsi=FapMkY2aRRO0D2YZ

Indeed!!

Thanks for watching!

Those questions only raise more questions. what’s the purpose of clothing & covering, if in some cultures (like the ones you’re describing), society finds it totally acceptable for women to show their breasts? don’t forget that in Islam, too (like in fiqh), I t’s totally fine for SLAVE WOMEN (women who are seen as sexual objects to be purchased and sold!!) to show their breasts too. So the bigger questions need to include: -what’s covering? what’s the point? who does it benefit and harm? -does it need to be the same everywhere? -what is inherently sexual about it whichever parts of the body a group of people decide to cover? -did you know that according to fiqh, even a woman’s voice is awrah (ie, a sort of genital!) and so it’s to be hidden from the public? Ridiculous, isn’t it. What’s wrong with wearing bikinis? If it’s that women are showing skin, let’s ask - why are men “allowed” to show skin and women not? There’s a time and place for everything. hope that helps!

@@WhatthePatriarchy I know the problem with many classical fiqhi rulings. I know according to many classical scholars slave women only need to cover from naval to knee and are allowed to expose their breasts while a free woman has to cover from head to toe. I don’t blindly follow the scholars. But that wasn’t my question. What I want to understand is where do you draw the line in your understanding of awrah/hijab? Like if a Muslim visits those tribal places then is he/she allowed to get completely naked since nudity is okay in that culture? Or is there a bare minimum which a Muslim should never uncover under any circumstance (unless it’s a life or death situation)?

Oh, you're asking what my own personal individual opinion is? I don't think that matters at all - it shouldn't to anyone but me. I'm more interested in encouraging people to question the things they're taught as normal when they cause us or anyone else harm. When you or another Muslim person visits a place/culture where people are allowed socially/culturally in that culture to be completely naked, we should use our conscience to decide what's best and what the most correct thing to do there is. That's where the questions I ask become relevant - do we cover to avoid being objectified? If so, if EVERYONE around us is naked and we're the only ones covered, what does that mean? And so on. For me, personally, it most likely will depend on what I am personally comfortable with and what feels right to me in the moment.

Well maybe find out why we should be modest in the first place. It has nothing to do with men. In the quran u can wear what u want infront of male slaves, they wouldn't dare do anything to u. Its a form of protection for women

You’re ver welcome! 😊

So glad for you that you found something that works for you!

@@WhatthePatriarchy Yeah like no one will judge or rate my body if it's all secluded. The family will love me regardless. The sneaky eyes have no view if I am pregnant or not, if I follow the trends etc😌. At home I can turn into a completely different person and it's actually quite exciting🤭. I wonder if the problem with sisters finding it hard may be not appreciative spouses. Like if your wife decided to wear the hijab and takes it off around you, show appreciation, be proud of her, especially in the West.

​@@sadiqdelil5189not all of us have spouses tho sis

Good point, enfpgirl!

there’s no punishment in Islam for immodesty. In patriarchy, there is. Watch the video again to understand better.

No one should ever be told to leave or enter any religion except per their own choice. Thank God I have options and the option to be a Muslim by choice if I want to be and to leave it if I want to ever. I don't want to leave it, so I'm happy being a Muslim. But I hope you find peace with whatever your beliefs are! ❤️

You are everything that's wrong with the religion

You need to leave this channel.

Thanks for the chuckle, Rya! I don't know why anyone would speak to another human this way, telling them to leave a religion as if that's the solution to anything at all.

YES!! Exactly! Thank you. Removing that autonomy from us, agency, individuality (so that we at least in theory aren't allowed to wear our hijabs in our own individual ways and styles but some official and corrupt and sexist-ass way like covering the "outline" of the body to make yourself invisible!) is definitely an essential in all cults! Men conveniently benefit from all these ideas - because who tells men to be better, who tells men to just control yourselves, while women must go to lengths to make men comfortable. It's so effed up.

Right, violence is always unacceptable except in self defense.

If you can clearly explain to me the difference between culture and religion, I might be able to take this comment more seriously. But also? As long as I, as a Muslim woman, am affected negatively by ANYTHING Islamic or cultural, I - and all other Muslim women affected - definitely care.

You’re crazy and if you don’t repent you’re in hell. What would Hazrat Fatima think of you.

Right?!

The Qur'an never tells us how to, or even to, wear the hijab. The hijab doesn't mean a head-covering in the Qur'an. Look it up.

@@WhatthePatriarchy The Quran is crystal clear about it. The hijab is mandatory, even Maryam is depicted wearing one. You have a conformational bias. Why do contemporary researchers not study the eminent conformational bias in Muslim feminists? Sis, you need to stop viewing all the sahabas as our enemies for starters. They had bigger problems to worry about than just policing women during their time, like, for example, being forced to immigrate and start all over from scratch.

​@@waniaiftikhar635lol, "the quran is crystal clear" where

Unfortunately, I think you have a misunderstanding of the usage of the word hijab in the Qur'an. The word "hijab in the Qur'an does not refer to any article of clothing. It refers to a symbolic or physical barrier between 2 things. In the case of verse 19:17 (the verse that you are referring to when "Maryam is depicted wearing one"), Maryam has placed a screen in between herself and her family (as told in verse 19:16). The Qur'an sets no hard limits on manners of dress because it's meant to be for all times, not just the society at the time of revelation because manners of dress are influenced by many cultural-political forces. Allahu alam ❤

Did you watch the full video?

You need to understand that times change

Don't care about that guy or any other misogynist mansplainer.

Exactly!!

Why're you apologizing? be confident! ❤️ But also? Why should I consult anyone other than my Rabb, my Creator and my Sustainer, to tell me about my religion? C'mon.

That’s the issue with most Muslims. You tell her to go to another source outside of the words of Allah to learn about Islam. Do you really Quran yourself or you need others to explain it for you? She is offering free, thought provoking content for people who actually think critically.. You’re clearly not the target audience.

Sadly, a lot of us do just give in so the patriarchy will leave us alone. Except, it's never enough! Nothing we do can ever be enough. If we cover our bodies "correctly" enough for the patriarchy, making ourselves totally invisible with a full covering, then maybe we laughed or maybe we smiled or smelled good and the patriarchy got mad. So better to just live our way.

YES!!! InshaAllah!! Can't wait! ❤️ ❤️

Thank you for watching!! ❤️

To not be arrogant and obnoxious, like police how women dress and behave, and just be a good, humble person. Humility is a big deal in Islam.

Thanks so much!! Would love to hear your thoughts on this one!

Don't give up! And don't feel bad! We all have shortcomings. Read the history, all the greats screwed up all the time! It is a learning curve. Do not despair of Allah's mercy!

Surround yourself with Muslims that are good hearted and kind people, not judgemental. Reduce time with people that stress you out. I wish you the best of luck

Just believe in the Viking gods!Odin is the best!

its sad I'm going through exactly the same

You can help make it reach more people, Maha ❤️❤️

Right, Maha?!

​@@WhatthePatriarchyabsolutely! its sad your channel is not getting any reach

I'd start with the book "The Unforgettable Queens of Islam: Succession, Authority, Gender" by Shahla Haeri. But you can also find some freely available academic (research-based) articles online on this issue. If you go to scholar.google.com and type in something like "bilqis demon," you can find plenty of articles discussing this. Here's one: journals.co.za/doi/epdf/10.10520/EJC101026

No such thing as "under all circumstances" - always, always depends on context.

I do know about him. I agree with a lot of his views. He's making a good difference in Pakistani society, although he's not there anymore I hear due to people's contempt for his ideas like Aisha wasn't 6-9 years old when the Prophet s. married her! Can you believe that?

@@WhatthePatriarchy I watched his video where he explained why he left Pakistan. His friend was murdered and his neighbour requested him not to come to the mosque because extremists might blow up the mosque with bombs. That's when he decided to leave

That's so sad. I hope he's at peace where he is now.

Yep. Internalized patriarchy / misogyny is so deeply ingrained in people. It's so sad.

Hi, Daina! Thanks for watching and engaging. I haven't made a separate video myself just yet, but I do discuss 4:34 with guests/authors I have spoken with about the issue that'll give you a good idea of my position on 4:34. Here are two such videos where we talk about it: - ua-cam.com/video/8U6aJRxmt7w/v-deo.html - ua-cam.com/video/opjJYIjW3H8/v-deo.html

@@WhatthePatriarchy oh nice appreciate it love your work keep going you have a small following but within a few years your works will have drastic impacts ❤️

You're welcome, Mary! Thanks for watching!