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Do not try to fill their glass just because your glass is empty.

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What do you do when they don't respond at all?

I am secure however the frustration of trying to get My Darlin to communicate causes me to push for communication. In doing so I say too much which is more than she can process which leads to her shutting down. Withdrawing. She cant correct so I have to. Remain secure do not be anxious.

How about avoidant partner takes responsibility for themselves and they also have to care about how their actions affect their partners? Why are there all these channels acting like avoidants are helpless babies?

Good point about slowing down. If it's emotionally charged, you still need to have the conversation, but you need to cut it down into tiny bites and not try to spend more than a few minutes at a time on the topic. If you try to put everything on the table all at once, you're going to have a shut down and you'll take 10 steps backwards.

excellent video, the anxious partner will only make things worse by showing impatience and irritation when the avoidant just needs a moment to think. if thats too much to ask then the anxious partner needs to learn some self control and patience! demanding answers NOW is hostile and threatening, the opposite of loving. maturity involves patience! things that are easy for you may be incredibly difficult for others. if you can show no understanding and empathy for the other person struggling to answer your demanding interrogations, why are you even with them in the first place? you are expecting them to be someone they are not and cannot be.

Having a developed emotional intelligence and dealing with the emotionally blind or underdeveloped Avoidant is always like water flowing freely from the tap into a too small constricted container. It does not mean you are unnecessarily Anxious because of the mismatch in emotional flow. I've been there. Exhausting and constant. Thank you

🎉😂my ex dumper coming back after 16 years ago when I am not in a mood for anything to do with her She's remarried and divoce she's was dumped me for another man when I was seaman's now I love my self and not care anymore while I'm hearts she was remarried and I was struggling but I am healing fast because when you are military person you used to be pain and gain for me I am displayed my emotional control as I lost my met i in military 🪖 line ups with method of loosing ups with your wife and mates let's them go etc.

I’m done, I’ve had enough, I’m gone from her! It’s absolutely futile!!! I wish her the very best in her future.

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This was incredibly to the point and useful. Thank you.

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Please don't make this mistake: don't tell yourself for months and months your partner is only avoidant when he is a NARCISSIST. If he's sadistic I'm sorry to say this, I didn't want to accept this for so long, but it's not a normal avoidant.

I like what you said, thank you so much! Yes asked which is better, sex or intimacy(to simplify), the answer is yes. We are dynamic and variable. It’s the selfish ones that mess up, and there’s the givers and the takers. Keep going, don’t give up! You have a lot of work to do.

Until she actually makes the effort - NOTHING I say or do is going to bridge the gap that she is walled off behind. Simply checked out and will not engage in anything resembling affection, let alone sex. will not seek help, seems that some marriage therapy has helped, but she simply won't engage to any degree. Prozac and Propranolol have done the damage for sure, add-in Perimenopause for the last 8-10 years and she simply is for lack of a better term "gone".

No sex creates a void that simply cant be filled by emotional intimacy. You have to have both, if you want your relationship to survive.

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wish my beautiful ex did this 😢

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Whenever you start talking "emotional needs" it's like you started to speak Greek to me...that's simply a language I don't understand (and I speak 5 actual different languages, lmao!!). It just seems like a huge liability, it only takes time, resources and health away. It's so much better, wiser, more relaxing and profitable not to have emotional needs, it works wonders.

That's a never ending negotiation setting, which is exhausting from my point of view. Being alone, or simply having a girlfriend (each one living in their own home), it's far more rewarding and less problematic then trying to merge with the other person and taking all the decisions by negotiation, like "it's my turn to get what I want, then it's your turn...that's acceptable, that's not acceptable"... I fail to see the advantage, the benefit, the profit of having long standing relationships while, probably, both people need to resign a lot of their withes and personalities simply for that company association to work. Yeah...I'm already divorced, and I'm an avoidant.

It's (mostly) not about conditioning: nature creates men and women to be different, and the majority of men are naturally more stoic than the majority of women. We evolved that way to better protect women and children, and hence the human race. Present-day pop psychology-based therapy trying to make males live and communicate like females doesn't help men, and doesn't make men that women find attractive, so will often just make their lives even more hard and lonely. If there's an answer to the issues listed here, it's probably to encourage women to accept, love, openly appreciate and support men as they are, rather than trying to alter them to their half-thought-out whims. Also to get women to see they themselves need to push back against anti-male legislation and representations in law, politics, work, and the education system. Having said that, and while I disagree with a good deal of the framing and conclusions of the person in this video, I'm sure her heart is in the right place and is genuinely trying to be of help, which is a good start and should be applauded.

That was a lovely video, thank you. I think this is an enormously important topic, I would say quite a hot topic even. I can only speak from my own experience, as a man who is very much in touch with his own heart, feels emotions strongly including those of others. When I was younger I struggled a lot with this as I saw this as "not manly". As I got older I embraced it, now I see it as one of my most beautiful and strong sides. I think society at large still struggles a lot with this. My ex girlfriend used to ridicule me for crying easily at movies. When a female friend told me her husband had cancer and did not have long to live I shed a few tears. She then replied to me "Are you crying? Are you a man?" Some people are so not used to it and in my experience particularly some women react with repulsion. I never had this with any of my male friends. In fact quite the opposite, I have had friends thank me for it, because it gave them a feeling that it was safe for them to show their emotions with me when talking about difficult things in their lives. I do think that the negativity that people have towards seeing a man show his emotions is a programmed one, based on ideas on how a "real man should be". One idea in particular I am still working on to fully detached myself from, the idea that the man's worth is measured by how much he has achieved and how much he provides. That remains a tough one, because a have a deep desire to provide for my woman and (in my case literally) build a beautiful home. On my path I have learnt, it only comes from the authentic self if it is done out of love and with love and compassion for oneself.

Lets cut the BS! Women dont care about men they never did, not in this corrupted and demoralized society. It is mostly women that have the problem and need serious psychological therapy not men. People today have a severe case of arrested development.

Talking to someone doesn't change how society treats me or my wanting a woman who treats me like a human. Therapy won't change that a woman will require I perform. Telling me im human wont change that society will not treat me as such. Its not a sense of inferiority, its understanding that this society is sick. Male vulnerability is not attractive. Men who are valuable in societies eyes are attractive and their vulnerability is attractive because they are attractive. Clear example. I just bore my heart and it will be met poorly. This isnt conditioning, society is just sick.

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My partner and I have been navigating this dynamic. We are both open to change and working through our anxious/avoidant dance. We would LOVE a coaching session to get us on the right track 🤎 thank you for offering this!

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Good lord, are we dealing with an adult or an autistic child!?! It's not anxious, it's being an adult and not having arrested development. Avoidant should be relabeled as disassociative autism. I spent 3 years being unbelievably patient and accepting, it doesn't get better unless they are in active therapy. If you want an adult relationship, it will not be found with an avoidant. You will always be first on the chopping block compared to their pet, friends, family, job, home, and independence.

I'm avoidant. She calls me a robot

Sharing your story is extremely helpful for me. Thank you!

I only learnt yesterday tht I’m an anxious avoidant and I’m dating a dismissive avoidant. The journey hasn’t been easy bt bcoz I love him I’ve always had to be submissive and break the silence when needed, yet I ddnt know it would push them further away (that I only learnt yesterday through your videos..lol) My question is should I let them know that I know who they are (DA) and I totally understand and would like to help/be with them through their journey to/in healing? Or me addressing this issue in this way will just upset them and close off completely?

I’m still leaving him . Can’t do it

So they care but we should be ignored?

I was an SA until I fell in love with a DA. Now I have an anxious attachment.