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Yep, that's exactly how I felt, Mercedes. And he's not a unicorn... It's totally doable for other men too, and it also shows what power moms of boys have... Thank you for your comment. ❤

Beautiful sharing, thank you, Shilpa. Enjoy asking yourself that question more often and keep me posted! :)

I appreciate your thoughtful comment. For me, we are talking about the same thing. The goal is for our children not to collapse when they can't hit it 1000% right, not always - especially when the drive for perfection comes out of a "not good enough" trauma, and the fear of not being worthy/lovable if they are anything less than perfect. If it comes from a positive place of ambition and drive to do something great, that's a different ball game. There's no trauma behind it. My key message is not to make our kids feel like they need to be perfect to be worthy of love. Hope that clarifies.

@@ZenSupermom it does. Thank you. You sound like a great mom 👍

@@General_Snips and it sounds like you're really passionate about the quality of your work. Which is quite rare, and amazing. Keep up the great work. And thank you for your interest in this podcast.

Thank you for your kind comment, Natalia. It's great to see that you've got so much value from this work that you're even sharing it publicly. That takes a lot of courage. I appreciate it.

Thank you for your comment. I don't believe in coincidences... I hope you found what you needed. Sending compassion and strength.

Thank you for your courage to share. I would never give any advice to anyone about what to do with their hair (or their relationship)... But I bet it's not the first time that you question/judge what you want based on how others react. Would that be a correct assumption? I did tell my husband and our daughter a few days in advance, I explained why I wanted to do it, I showed them photos of beautiful women with buzzcuts and I reassured them that I was ok and it had nothing to do with them. They thought about it, asked lots of questions, and then accepted it. My husband is not with me because of how I look. The looks go away with years. My physical appearance gave me an advantage at the beginning of our relationship, it was easy to catch his attention. But that's not why we stayed together over the years. I'm sending you lots of compassion on your journey. I hope my sharing can help a bit.

OK, explain more, please. So your little girl did something, and your mother judged her by saying something mean? And what did you say? ... In general, if you say "I don't appreciate you talking to me/to my daughter this way...." And share what exactly it is that you didn't appreciate and why. That's a clearly communicated boundary. In a calm, non-judgmental way. (Because you don't want to judge her back, that would kind of undermine this whole attempt at being respectful towards each other.) And yes, some people might get upset, even if you communicate back clearly, calmly, without judging them. Because if they are used to criticizing you and you never stood up for yourself, the first time you do, they'll try to push you down again. And so what? :) Is that a reason to be quiet and let them emotionally bully you or your daughter? I can hear there's a lot to unpack in this general example you're sharing... Hope these first few little pointers help.

@@ZenSupermom thank you for your answering me, 🙏🏼🙂 yes it has a lot to do with the "gentle girl who did everything my mother wanted me to do to"protect her" and protect me in another way. It's very difficult for me to put bounderies since I'm used to take on me. I have to learn to do that. The pb is I 'm dependant to my mother for keeping my little girl when I am at work. Then I feel "indebted", and do not dare to say anything...

Thank you so much @ems3307! I believe that we are never given more than we can handle and life when it is challenging just makes us resilient and strong. I am incredibly grateful for my life and experiences and what I have learned along the way!

Thank you for your kind comment. I'm curious, what exactly was it that you needed to hear?

Thanks for your comment and interest. Neither of these actually, but the second one is close enough. I explain it here: ua-cam.com/video/WpLOHi2SEGA/v-deo.html

Thank you. This is a bold decision. You are a real beauty even without hair

@@jackwinter8592 Thank you. How did the Zen Supermom podcast find you? You don't look like our usual audience...

Glad you got value from it. How did it help you?

Happy it spoke to you, Vera. So I'm curious, what you do differently if you stopped being worried about what others would think? :)

Dive in and let me know what you get out of it, Vera. I'm here if you want pointers to any specific topics...

By healing the pain (trauma) from your childhood underneath - by working with a specialist at healing childhood trauma, not just any counselor, psychologist, talk therapist... They help too but in different situations.

Sorry you felt that way, that's a trauma response on it's own if you feel like people are screaming if they speak in a direct way. Otherwise I'd recommend turning the volume on your device down if it's too loud for you. Hope you feel ok soon.

I appreciate your feedback. And I'm curious, what is it that you love about this approach specifically? For sure, listen to more and keep me posted about what you get out of it! Sending you lots of compassion, supermom!

I appreciate you sharing your aha moments, Ellen. You're right, children are our best teachers... :) And the little ones you take care of are so lucky to have you!

Happy it helped, Anna! Keep me posted about how it's going and feel free to listen to my other podcast episodes, if you'd like to dig deeper. Take care!

And how did that go, Jenny? What was your biggest takeaway from this podcast episode?

Thank you for sharing your experience. Who am I to judge your parents. I bet they did the best they could and knew, like all parents do. I'm not a parenting expert, I heal childhood trauma. And I never said anything like "think kind thoughts". Using physical violence to teach a lesson that physical violence is wrong...? The lesson the child gets is I need to behave not to get hurt by people who are supposed to love me (because if not them then who)... My practice is full of people who have suffered from this kind of parenting. If you say you didn't I'm really happy for you. Sending you peace and compassion.

Thank you, Janet. I appreciate your thoughtful comment. Hopefully, this episode helped those who needed it the most.

Thank you for sharing, Dimple. We are all a work in progress... And what matters the most is that you're doing your best - and counting all the times that things go/you do well. Every little win matters and is worth celebrating. "Eyes on the road..." :)

Thank you for your kind comment, Gulsen. Look forward to seeing you in the live training soon! :)

You're welcome, Alwina! What resonated the most with you in this episode? Share here to inspire others who might need to hear this too...

Thank you for sharing your feedback, Alwina. I appreciate it. What makes you think I don't get the credit I deserve? :)

Thank you, Alwina. I'm happy it helped!

Thank you for your feedback! I agree. The challenge is that I spent 2 hours looking for the music but none of it felt right. And I remembered the times when I listened to a great meditation/affirmations but the music in the background was so annoying that I had to turn it off. That's why both the video and the podcast version of this episode are without any music. It was meant to be more of a belief test anyways. To see which of these statements your brain reacts to in what way... To go further, as I mention in the video, you can look up tons of professional meditations/affirmations. UA-cam is full of them. Thanks for tuning in and sharing your thoughts!