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Thank you, this is exactly the sort of content that is so helpful to me! I have been slowly moving through life noticing these kinds of things and trying to be more considerate towards my loved ones, but it definitely speeds the process along to hear other people’s insights.

I am myself (self diagnosed) autistic. Currently on the list for a diagnosis. I guide clients that are also autistic. A lot of my clients have this “ableist” mindset. They want to be able to do the same als NT people. How to guide them in that? Because I know that thats not going to happen. For them, it feels like they can’t grow, like they can’t accept it.

I just got my late autism diagnosis on the 22nd of may 2024. Just 8 days ago. I'm 43 years old. I'm forever grateful for autistic youtubers like you. It means the world to me. Thank you. 🏆❤

what i am about to say will be spiritually liberating. there is a scripture in the bible that say ( and I am paraphrasing) in the book of Matthew. " what comes out of your mouth reveals the core of your heart" so by that biblical logic their shouldn't be a problem taking someone's words literal or serious. perhaps the problem is the person not thinking before they speak regardless if they are joking, being sarcastic, serious or not. its fair game to critique or to ask for understanding after the fact. perhaps the problem is your discernment is revealing their true intentions. " the lips profess whats on the heart at all times according to the bible. and if its not the case then maybe we as people should do more thinking before we speak. but to call it autism is something i will not agree with when the bible tells me otherwise.

Loved this. Thanks for sharing ❤ subscribed

"Eugh". Is that British for "ew"?

Is this within my realistic physical control at the moment? I ask myself that often and also say "i am here st this point in the timeline, so i suppose i was made for these times... may as well figure out what to do by doing"

thank you, very interesting. i think i am an undiagnosed autistic and i very much can identify inwhatvyou said and in monotropism (including the difficult controllability of attention and more " how i am built thing.)

This video did a lot to explain your journey through undiagnosed autism, and perhaps the failure of therapy because it centred on attachment theory and didn't overlap that with an understanding of your autism. Sadly, the video doesn't explain the interaction between the various Attachment Styles and Autism, and how to distinguish when the attachment style is in play, vs the autism. The attachment styles are named 1) Secure, 2) Anxious, 3) Avoidant 4) Disorganized. I don't recall your video using these terms (or alternative terms such as Fearful-Avoidant etc). It seems to me that your understanding of attachment theory is extremely limited. An autistic child might well be being raised by a parent with a Anxious, or Avoidant, or Disorganised attachment style. The questions remaining are, how might each of these attachment styles in the parent impact the sense of self in the autistic child? Which needs will be met, and not met? In the face of being raised by parents of insecure attachment styles, how will the autistic child relate to friends or partners exhibiting the same, or different attachment styles? How might the Autist of each attachment style relate to their own children? None of any of that was covered. So in short, the video did ramble on about your pathway with autism, but really didn't achieve what the title suggested.

My iQ score is 161. High visual spacial intelligence. Artistic savant with full spectrum ASD.

Thanks for sharing!

"Window of tolerance is low"? Build up your window? what? A window is to look through. What psychological word salad.

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What the hell is that? A fire in your oven? You UK people are so strange, building fires in an oven for your video. And the stove has a dishwasher? Complex Ptsd generalized anxiety blah blah blah too much, England. Gee, I want to say "grow up", but that isn't it.

Bed in background is not what I want to see.

What the hell is this "uncanny valley"? You UK people are so strange. Lots of neuropsychology stuff going on. Nothing like that here in the US.

"Untuned piano"? I did not understand how you came to that idea. How will it be "tuned" then? I am 76, got diagnosed at 74. ASD- mild. I am a pianist. Not untuned at all. So why did you use this analogy? I am baffled.

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That's what i was wondering. They found ADHD and now it's looking like I'm austistic, I'm 57. It explains so much.

Thank you.. you are helpful to me. ❤

Hello. You seem to have a lot of the symptoms as the people I work with. Just worth considering some of your symptoms could be coming from the medications you've taken. It happened to me too.

What’s hard is not knowing where we really are… in every sense. It’s exhausting

I wish we could pray to have this end… the worst is not being able to “brain.” But not wanting to move or not being able to sleep. You’re just sort of in torture like someone having extended sleep paralysis. I call it Prometheus syndrome… or locked in syndrome or who knows It’s nuts

The hoarding of thoughts… so many screenshots, memos and notes… forwarding videos-- secret understandings and info that can’t be formulated and shared effectively w others. Then I need to clean them out of my mind and computers and phones because they’re clutter and dead weight

I hate this. I don’t care too much to die but there’s not point to existing. Wake up, survive, cry, unable to exercise, desperate for peace and a plan for the day week month year and none- eat sleep hope to wake up w some energy and focus with which to try to build/rebuild a life. I’m fighting so hard to survive each day but waiting to check to the end of my life?!? Wish to come Alive. Work again, run again. Ski. Even have friends be able to keep them or care to reconnect with them. I avoid them unless I’m feeling here. I hate this

Whoa- me except notndiagnosed Autistic, but there is depression, ADD, chronic trauma, what looks like OCD, but is an attempt to be clear, impose order try to assemble thoughts and collect them and perseveration and inability to filter information prioritize etc. exhausting so I go through passively receiving and trying to actively organize but become obsessive to others and not present or peaceful. It’s crazy and I’m overwhelmed. Don’t know how I’m gonna live with aging parents, they’re not working and I’m not working I’m not sure marriage will ever be an option and don’t know where to start and how to get motivated and have Neemergy at all. It’s. Crazy

I need this. So dysregulated and disconnected. Have not been back to work since COVID and my life Is getting smaller and smaller. Impossibly scary to go back to anything I was already so troubled in all my life. My everything has changed and I fight to bother being interested in anything these days.

Feel like I should have been an animal if I’m supppsed to have such poor executive function… It’s so frustrating and anxiety inducing… I won’t say how many ways

Yes! Same w my brain.. more like the flow of thoughts… sometimes they blank often I don’t follow others… sometimes too many conversations at once and I think,” Huh.?” With ideas, occasionally I have three at once or goes away before I express it and another comes in then I go back. Other times, I am assimilating thoughts, priorities, executive functions and things disappear like smoke in air.. doctor appt 5:00-7:00 something else. It’s like they’re appearing and disappearing, floating and I’m trying to get them to remain as well as pin them down in a place After that move the pins so you know where they belong exactly. It almost feels like disorganized thinking or schizophrenia but I reckon it isn’t. Crazy. No amount of Prozac pr Vraylar or anything helps that

This makes sooooooo much sense. My entire childhood was like this but my father was such a prick about it that I ended up thinking every step of the way through and through in order to see the nuance.

yes, it took discipline to get up and go to my yearly physical appointment with a blood draw. now I've got my feet up on a picnic table with a big glass of water and I'm enjoying the beautiful weather and your video.

Thank you Amanda 🙏

welcome back to taking up unashamed space. you are allowed to have all your feelings and you are allowed to make yourself your own intense interest and you are allowed to share your experience.

im a woman shaped being as well

Awesome video!

so true. I'm 40, got an adhd diagnosis few months ago, medicated autism symptoms surged. Been doing several therapies for the past 15 years and they all could only go the attachment theory way, it did more harm then good, I never felt understood.

uuuuuh, LOVED that comment on feeling "better", totally recognisable, happy you owned it and opened up about it, i feel the same and feel bad about it, because i don't want to be (nor do i think i am) narcissistic. Nice to know i am not alone. But honestly, there is something weirdly "not-better" about how neurotypicals are governed by their emotions and their incessant need to be "social" all.the.time. :-D Also: autistic humour is the best!

you are 10 years older than me and i've been watching many yonguer autistics, i loved to hear from you, so relatable!

I have autism too- I was diagnosed late though, around 2014.

That uncanny valley of autism, when you haven't had an explanation, or diagnosis is a Crippling thing, can drive you Mad

Men probably don't talk as much about it, we have communication self esteem issues, women are un doubtably better at it. Yes, yes yes, thus is one of your best videos.

Yes, for sure, and I've had a deep constant abiding feeling of being seen as the freak as I am, but at the se time Invisible to other, total self conscious, and invisibility, but also like you say.. I felt I had more capacity some how than others to see things, but then blind and dumb at the same time, aaah the living paradox of autism, omg this is quite the experience lol, if people only knew

My new supervisor recently took a shot at my head and now with a diagnosis, I understand, and will stay down in the trench more. Thank you for returning to take up space 🤗

Thank you for putting this into words. I'm learning to identify how burnout may present in my late diagnosed ASD/ADHD dance in life. Lately life has been more difficult that "usual" and tolerance is low. I always enjoy your content.

Good to see you again, Amanda! You have been through a really stressful time and these things do take their toll on mental health, changes in living situations affecting Autistic people is underestimated. (btw, I am AKA Traci K)

Welcome back Amanda, thank you so much for sharing your experience it has helped me identify my own feelings a blind spot for AuDHDers. I am a chemist too and through chemistry I sometimes come up with explanations seeing my self as a compund naturally an odd stereo configuration one interaction with environment as light hits different parts in my peers the whole thing activates some hidden chain reaction one not desirable for the environment and the resisting of disinegrating or reconfugration makes a slight inconvenience turns into full blown existential dread. However we 'look' chill and calm on the outside lol. Keep the videos coming ❤

glad to see you! yes. we feel unwell. i hide. i rest. i think and not think. i move around. its not fun. but the other way is messy and more not fun.

Thanks for another great video Amanda. I hope you have a restful, healing day and weekend when it comes. 'I don't give a duck' - love that! 🤣 What month is your birthday? I'm 50 this year too! 😊

Nice to see you here!

I'm so glad to hear from you, thanks for posting.