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Okay I really have to say, as someone who does her own model art and tries to make things perfect because I don’t want to cause trouble for whoever rigs for me, I love this video. It really helps me put less stress on myself 🥹

Really enjoying your videos, thanks for making them.

Kozii, it's been a hot minute since you posted something. Did you go on vacation? Hope you're doing well.

if you complain about someone playing games as jobless, that is immaturity.

TLDR: As always, good subject, good video with arguments people need to hear, even if it can hurt them. Be friends with someone for who they are, not for the persona on stream or other media. Not much else to say because I agree with mostly everything you said. I never tried to be friends with a Vtuber because they're a Vtuber or streamer. I do understand the person we see is often a persona or just not their full personality. Like you said, the key is communication; without it, I've learned only frustration will rise. I've wasted a few good friendships because we were not aligned; as much as I regret it, those are valuable lessons. Now, to be more in depth on the subject, as a viewer, if I want to befriend a streamer, I need to ask myself who I want to be friends with. Is it because I think I like the person behind the screen or because I want to be friends with the persona on video? I think there is a difference between who people think the streamer is and who is really the streamer. First, be careful of the streamer who "sells" their friendship to make their business, and those where a genuine connection can be made. Then put on the side the fan side of the viewer to make a connection with the person, not the personality. And perhaps it can work, as long as the golden rules of communication are open and clear and expectations are in check. I have my own standards; for example, I don't expect an answer from someone I know is busy within the hour; it's usually between 1 or 2 weeks. If I don't receive an answer, I try a few more times to establish communication; if nothing happens, I just move on and lose interest in the person. As a friend, I fully understand that you should not be a top priority, but I do expect some sort of respect and to be given an answer at some point. Of course, if there is proper communication on an issue or circumstances, this changes the situation. (Since I don't use social media, I don't know what "subtwit" means.) I think this video is very important, mostly for people who do not have any contact with people outside of the internet. Genuine connections are rarely made because someone asked you to be a friend. It's meeting people and interacting with them that make the friendship grow over time. Going too fast on making friendships will usually finish in a disaster.

TLDR: Good video, interesting subject; I just want to add my opinion to it. Drama is part of our lives; we need to not be interested in all of them and look somewhere else sometime. Social media are bad for this. Handpick the drama you want to be invested in and do your best to ignore the rest, but I understand for content creators it's harder to do so. Taking a break is healthy, and being "selfish" is important to do it sometime. Drama is always part of life, but nowadays, with the internet, we are exposed to it every day. Before that, it was usually small stuff at work, drama in the family, and the big one hitting the news on TV. Today with the social media, it's like a giant office 24/7 where pointless drama never ends with the sheer amount of people. Except UA-cam, I do my best to avoid any social media. I do know what's going on with the news channel, but I'm never overexposed. For content creators who are in need of those accounts to build an audience, it's harder to avoid, plus, like you said, viewers want the opinion of all creators on all drama subjects. It's impossible to care for everyone and everything; it's not in human nature to do that; it's unhealthy. It's ok to care when there is drama that touches you directly, concerns a friend, or even a content creator we like and follow, but the more we care, the more numb we grow. In the end, it became the doomscrolling phenomenon, if I recall. Yet drama sells; look at all the TV series with drama in them to get people hooked on them. I think it's in our nature to be drawn by it, but too much of it can damage us. No wonder people can live by reporting or even making drama on the internet. I understand those who report all drama; I think it's up to the viewers to handpick the drama they deem important and want more info on. But it's hard to control this emotion and just want info and opinion on everything. In those situations, it's important to take a break, like you said, look outside, take a walk, or do something else. Sadly, I think the FOMO started as well and to not be in touch with what's going on. But once you succeed in passing that phase, I think it's possible to find balance and inner peace.

"If you don't care about this thing then you're a bad person" Couldn't have said it better myself. I've only recently begun to accept that I'm always going to be a bad person to some. Too many of us tend to focus too much on what we can't control, and nowhere near enough on what we can control, and that doesn't even include the "holier-than-thou" hypocrites. Nobody can pour from an empty cup, that's just reality.

This video saved me!! It was so helpful and I didn't know any of these shops/artists! Thank you so so much!

I think we all grew up thinking adults knew what they were doing and answers to questions or at least know how to get the answers. Nope, everyone, even parents now that are in their 50's, 60's etc , no one has a damn clue what we're doing and we have to just fumble through life reacting to one giant WTF after another LOL. When in reality maturity is just taking the brunt of the life sheet storm and shield the youngens from it the best we can.

This is awesome!! Please do one about Vtuber outfit assets!! I have no idea how to set them up correctly [TTOTT]

Personally: There is a meter bar [immature]-[normal]-[mature], for most people they will live in the [normal] section since they don't break the walls of their box [_]. For people who do things outside of the normal, example: watching anime, AI, gaming, even stepping out of the norm, will be seen as [immature]. For those who seem [mature] they usually are seen as those who can get stuff done & excel at the [normal] category so much they rise above the [normal standard]. Anyways the point is: If you don't stand out in a (Odd) Unique way, you usually get overlooked. "The nail that stands out, get's hammered down."

To society maturity just means you agree with society and not thinking for yourself as society never evolved past the monkey stage and actively sabotages anyone who tries to help society as it is like crabs in a bucket they will drag the others back down to the lowest point

I just wanna say im really liking this channel. I enjoy the topics and this opens a lot of discussions on the topics. Im someone who has been called mature but lately i have been feeling immature. Im turing 18 next month is the idea of becoming an adult scares me so much.

7:16 The reason why people call you immature is not because of being a woman or having some kind of misogyny. There are guys who get the same treatment as well. I've gotten that almost all the time. Now, there are different ways of being mature and immature. It's just one of those things that have nuance, but what you said is definitely not one of them.

America trying to explain maturity/intelligence is like going to the Italian mafia to be explained morality. 😁

Mature was never the word used, but I've noticed how much people hate hearing someone disagree with them, or at least hate hearing me disagree with them. Shutting up is preferable My parents taught me that all my life and my managers I've worked for reinforced it. Do not disagree with authority

Basically maturity is not letting the weight of the world crush you while pretending you know what you're doing

As a child I thought being an adult would suck.

maturity is a scam, the goal is to squeeze as much value out of you as possible, and you should only take on as much responsibility as you want

Nobody ever really feels as mature as they should be. That's because your models for maturity are always people who are older than you. Problem is: while you're getting older, so are they.

Maturity is understanding others have needs and that you aren’t the center of the universe and you don’t know everything and that you understand that people might have more going on then you may believe. Understanding that people may have struggles you don’t expect. That’s all maturity is the rest is just a sham to get children to behave and understand these core parts of maturity you’ll be more mature when your older etc when in reality you stay the same but get far more experience and understandings and you learn to not take things so personally because often times it has nothing to do with you how others treat you. But hey I’m young and may have more to learn

An insight from this: Interpersonal dynamics are dynamic. It seems odd on its face, but attributing/blaming self completely or attributing cause to other ppl completely easily happens especially if feeling hurt, yet it denies the dynamics. Your reflection considered both self and the other in a good balance! You noting care if a conversation intended to be productive gets too tense or hostile was a great point. Just as we can see more clearly understanding the dynamics of relation, if the other is blinded by “all my fault” or “all your fault” type thinking, reasoning may more likely fail. Thank you for the vid.

Na how you acted as a kid is the same as me

In my experience, I found most people around me have sorta weaponized the terms "mature" and "immature" to mask their gaslighting or favoritism. As for what I consider someone is mature, its the self awareness of one's strengths and limitations and the mindfulness of others without compromising their own integrity. It varies from person to person but for the most part, thats what I noticed. That said, we are all human and no one is perfect. All we can do is our best even if sometimes it ends up being our worst.

As an autistic man i feel so understood, holy shit, thank you i feel so heard.

When you ask multiple people, maturity or immaturity has different definitions, and I don't think there is a wrong answer. The only "wrong" thing to do is force your definition of maturity/immaturity onto others. I think respecting others' thoughts can be considered a sign of maturity, and it is Ok to not even agree with others' thoughts all the time.

I used to think that it means to understand why things should be done or not, instead of just following rules. For example with alcohol, or crossing the road. I too used to be a lonely, scared and quiet child spending most of my time reading and being in my head, and people called me 'mature' for not breaking the rules or causing issues, I guess. I think the main reason was that I was too self-conscious? Nowadays I would put more emphasis on empathy, being able to learn from your mistakes and the ability to change your opinion when presented with new information. Maybe it's staying open-minded as you grow older? But as you said 'maturity' is often weaponized by people to force you to conform and to shut you up. Which then brings us to being critical (that I think is an important aspect of it) even of this 'maturity' itself. And I think you need to be a little immature and ask the childish question "why?" to challenge them, to be mature. Maybe it is to realize that there is value in being immature and to embrace your own immaturity?

im considered immature by those who disagree with me and extrEMELY mature to those who agree with me. I feel it for sure.

The way you talked about your childhood made me feel so seen and less alone with my feelings. ❤

i think maturity is defined by ones own self awareness, intelligence, but also the ability to know who you are as a person. I personally have always been called "mature for my age" due to my own life experiences making me seem much more "wise" and "self aware" than most people my age, especially since even when i was up to 3-4 years old i was always quite articulate. i think i gained i guess what most would call "self awareness" or "conciousness" much earlier than most did for whatever reason.

That's a sub, these are the type of vtubers i need on my feed!

I wish i could get money for watching anime and playing games 😭😭

dang america is rly downhill, here discussions have always been well received, sometimes messing around, sometimes trying to understand the truth behind it all, sometimes just trying to see why we differ and where beyond what's right/truth maybe just the friends i attract, but never have i overheard a case like those, about just speaking up and being called immature

Love your content.

I've been thinking a lot over the past month or so about finally starting to do some sort of online content creation (an idea I've actually been bouncing around and procrastinating on for like 10 years but whatever), and I've been looking into the idea of doing it as a vtuber. And honestly if I do, my take is basically that I'm just gonna be doing my own thing. I don't care what other people in the space say or think vtubers are supposed to be and what they should or shouldn't do. I don't care what any individuals or groups say the rules or requirements of being a vtuber are. I don't care what the culture is and whether I fit with it or not or where the community is shifting and if I'm following or not. I mean look at it this way, I have no delusions about "making it" by any means. Sure, it'd be cool to pay my bills off of it, but it's probably just going to be a hobby for me. And hobbies are supposed to be fun. So I'm gonna try to do what I find fun, first and foremost. I just wanna make neat stuff that hopefully a few cool people will find and get some enjoyment out of. And if I ever get hit with a "you're not a real vtuber" or some similar nonsense I'm just gonna be like "oh no!...anyway, new video tomorrow" BTW just found this channel today and think I'm getting sucked into binging all your videos. The topics look really interesting and if you couldn't tell vtubing is something that's been on my mind a lot lately.

"a juvenile becomes an adult when, and only when, he acquires a knowledge of duty and embraces it as dearer than the self-love he was born with." -Robert A. Heinlein, _Starship Troopers_

maturity is just learning how to get what you want while angering people as little as possible.

Good video, very insightful. Maturity is very related with adults, so if a kid acts like an adult, people might see them as "mature". However, not every adult is mature and every kid is immature. It really comes down to things like discipline, responsibility, judgement, and behaviours depending on the circumstance. Things like hobbies, ways of speaking, activities don't really tell about how mature someone can be. If it were like that, then every mature adult would be drinking sofisticated wine at a restaurant, talking about taxes and politics without telling a single joke. Anyway, anime and video games are cool, some people just don't know how to separate maturity and fun.

Maturity is taking all the wild, unhinged, damn near life altering things you want to do/say and go “Nah, that’s not what’s expected of me.” *But by the grace of God if I could get a 24 hour tomfoolery pass…*

While I agree with the general concept you're working with, especially from personal experience, I want to offer a slight counter argument. I believe that what people are actually doing is confusing maturity and wisdom for professionalism and reservedness. As an autistic man myself, I used to be called very wise and mature for the way my autism manifested itself. Normally quiet, but able to make rather specific observations on the world around me. Point out small things people don't think about. But as I get used to someone I'll grow more loud and impish around them. In my teens this was viewed as highly attractive, but now that I'm pushing 30 saying "Oh, this reminds me" or "Hey, did you know" will often elicit worry from those around me. Almost like me priming the room for a tirade is the verbal equivalent of loading a gun. Now granted, I think thats funny as fuck. I don't really care about what it means to be mature. The only thing I'm worried about is coming off as obnoxious or twitter-y with how I embrace my autism. However, I can see how disheartening that could be to someone in a similar position. To spend half your life with one behavior consistently reinforced, only to have it one day become widely frowned upon with no prior warning. Suddenly changing the rules of engagement on someone is hard enough, but you're also reverting it to how they were as a kid. "You can't be loud, you can't be passionate, and you can't be happy, but you better not be upset either." I think thats the one part of our society where we're damaged by cultural mixing. The Christian American "Honor God with everything you do" mindset and the Japanese's insane work culture has created this god awful negative feedback loop where both sides want you to sit down, shut up, and just embody whatever your job is. But don't forget to have friends and stay in shape! Honestly, I think people are just overcomplicating it. The original definition of "maturing" is simply "growing into its true form." So if you feel stable, self assured, and capable of pulling fron your lived experience to inform how to navigate hardship, does that not make one "mature" by its most literal definition? Cause if so, I think everything else is just junk people added on in order to justify this, that, or the other thing.

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I've been a fan of this style of videos on your channel, even if they aren't directly related to vtubing. Please keep up the good work.

Its alot of learning. I know grown adults who can't figure this out still.

11:45 thought you were vaping lol

I keep coming back to the conclusion that maturity is the willingness to do what an adult should do and the refusal to do what they know they shouldn't despite clearly having the availability

As a man in my 30s, my opinion on maturity has changed a lot over the years. For me, right now, a mature individual knows how to articulate their opinions, knows the time and place to do and not do so, as well as knows the types of individuals whose thoughts and opinions are worth their time. Still working on all that myself. I think you do good work in these videos. One of my favorite quotes, one attributed to Abraham Lincoln, "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt." Food for thought for anyone to consider before voicing their inner thoughts.

in my own experience, i was a truck driver and everyone i met treated me like a mature man. and i am a mature man, but a lot of people's opinion of me changed when they learned my hobbies are gaming/anime/gamedev. yet i am the same person lol. very interesting hearing your thoughts on this! good video, kozii!

I maybe an Ancient Dragon (40ish), but I have not taken the time to think about being mature or what maturity is. After some thought, I feel that maturity is one of those concepts that is different depending on the individual. My idea of maturity is the willingness to take on responsibility. Great video ❤❤❤

Maturation is growth/development as an organism ages. Wrt people's behavior, it is behavior typically associated with people of a certain age (the age being determined by context). Typically as people age they have experiences and learn knowledge/behaviors that help them increase their quality of life (and the QOL of others around them insofar as it makes their own life better for them). E.g. don't touch the boiling pot, it will burn you and hurt. E.g. don't spontaneously run into traffic because you're likely to get hit by a car. E.g. take that Dramamine before that long car ride because you get really motion sick. E.g. keep your mouth shut when other people are fighting because that is likely to get you dragged into a conflict you didn't want to participate in. E.g. don't fight or be rude to your boss because that's likely to get you fired or held back from promotion and having less money sucks. E.g. when your loved one dies, don't let the misery consume you. It's going to be incredibly hard, but you'll make it through, be happy again some day, and still be able to treasure their memory. A lot of these behaviors are "don't do x and cause a problem," so on the outside it can look like maturity is just being passive and following the status quo. And since being passive and maintaining the status quo does usually allow a person to avoid a lot of problems, that's a lot of (but not all of) what "maturity" is. This "mature behavior" is not necessarily good or bad given any particular situation and value system, it just describes typical behavior that is practical to have in usual cases to solve your own common problems and avoid common unnecessary problems. Sometimes people want to solve problems that are part of the status quo. That requires doing some things contrary to those status-quo-maintaining behaviors. An attack like "that's not mature/that's rude/that's crazy/that's stupid/etc." might be thrown at them. Attacks like that are a bare appeal to norms. Sometimes the norms are useful "don't touch that boiling pot, that's dumb". Other times they're bad and prevent positive change, like "dumping toxic waste into the river is cheap and easy, everyone does it". Useful generalizations can be helpful for interactions that need to be quick and the other party was just lacking information and happy to comply-e.g. "stay quiet in the library"-but if there is a hard disagreement, maturity has no place in an argument. It's a vague, blunt tool that produces generalizations about some typical life situations. It is not a pattern of behavior to solve every specific problem. Sometimes passive behaviors that maintain status-quo either cause the problem or prevent solutions to the problem from being developed and/or executed. Ironically, calling someone you're having a disagreement with "immature" can itself be considered not mature: doing this doesn't tell a person what specifically you think they are doing that is bad, nor does it explain why you think what they're doing is bad; in most cases this doesn't really do anything to solve the problem and potentially gets the other person angry and defensive. There's no persuasive power behind it, and you'll probably not get the desired outcome. It's essentially name-calling and saying that the other person is too childish to have their opinion matter. Sometimes in order to solve specific problems and make the world a better place, or simply to do what you want to do, you need to do some things that other people will dislike and label as "immature (crazy/stupid/wrong/...)". But if their stance is unsupported by reality and those things are sufficiently important to you, you should do those things anyway! Learning that is also part of maturing!

I got some thoughts (23, male, diagnosed autistic, high-functioning). My definition, when ever I think about it, is very lose. It feels like a word cloud in my brain. The biggest things that stick out is money, and having your shit together. As I've grown up, money is a part of it, but no one has their shit together and that's fine. My newer one is probably money, respect, and emotions. I'm lumping emotional maturity into this one, but if you don't have a good way of dealing with what you are feeling and lash out instead of talking, I view that as immaturity and a lack of respect. When people talk on the internet or in real life with no respect to others, that's immaturity. Sure respect is earned, but you don't start out with 0 respect. You still need to have respects to different things, like situation, context, humanity, the power that you wield in conversations (could also be somewhat defined as emotions). If you are someone who just lashes out because "They made me feel bad" and/or go around talking mad shit in real life or hiding behind anonymity online, you are immature and have no respect from me. TL;DR My pillars of maturity are how you handle respect and emotions, because those are, to me, the basis of how you behave. The money thing is just a left over from being a kid and wanting to buy Bakugans or something lmao.