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The Couples Workshop
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Приєднався 18 лип 2019
No BS Couples Therapy. I do this in my practice and I want to share these tools with you online, too!
This is the place for looking forward, and not primarily focusing on your past. This form of couples counseling acknowledges that problems will obviously keep happening in your life together, but you don't need to talk about them forever in therapy.
Real talk: more problems will come up in the future, so you can expect us to focus on HOW to deal with the problems instead of EACH individual problem.
So start now to get back on track in your relationship - so what do you say? Let's get to work!
This is the place for looking forward, and not primarily focusing on your past. This form of couples counseling acknowledges that problems will obviously keep happening in your life together, but you don't need to talk about them forever in therapy.
Real talk: more problems will come up in the future, so you can expect us to focus on HOW to deal with the problems instead of EACH individual problem.
So start now to get back on track in your relationship - so what do you say? Let's get to work!
4 Steps - How Can I Talk To My Partner About Stress?
If you want to talk about something, but don't know how, then here are 4 steps to make the conversation go E.A.S.Y.!
Sometimes couples wait for counseling before they talk about something important because they don't know how to talk about it at home. If this is true for you, then here are 4 steps to help.
Just remember to make it E.A.S.Y.
E: explain without escalation
A: ask for help
S: start small
Y: "yes"!
00:00 Introduction
00:44 Step 1 explain without escalation
03:14 Step 2 ask for help
05:09 Step 3 start small
06:38 Step 4 yes!
08:00 Thank you from The Couples Workshop
The Couples Workshop is a practice that provides No BS Couples Counseling in Colorado. Specializing in entrepreneurship, The Couples Workshop works primarily with couples who are business owners and career professionals.
The Couples Workshop is not an emergency clinic. If you are in an emergency, then please contact 911 or visit your nearest emergency room.
Sometimes couples wait for counseling before they talk about something important because they don't know how to talk about it at home. If this is true for you, then here are 4 steps to help.
Just remember to make it E.A.S.Y.
E: explain without escalation
A: ask for help
S: start small
Y: "yes"!
00:00 Introduction
00:44 Step 1 explain without escalation
03:14 Step 2 ask for help
05:09 Step 3 start small
06:38 Step 4 yes!
08:00 Thank you from The Couples Workshop
The Couples Workshop is a practice that provides No BS Couples Counseling in Colorado. Specializing in entrepreneurship, The Couples Workshop works primarily with couples who are business owners and career professionals.
The Couples Workshop is not an emergency clinic. If you are in an emergency, then please contact 911 or visit your nearest emergency room.
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I don't have a sex life and I never will, because it's too damn small!
Where is the most romantic place to travel? Leave a comment to help other couples find a unique spot!
I just realized I missed some spots in the midwest! The top place that comes to mind are the Black Hills in South Dakota!
I appreciate your straight forward and non-raunchy approach to this subject. Well done.
Thanks so much, Thomas! No BS approach to relationship advice is one of my top goals, so thanks for the feedback!
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Sex life
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Comment below with your favorite stories of adaptability! 👇 A great one is from WD-40 - named that way because it was the 40th attempt at the formula! Keep adapting!
Emily, so helpful of you to acknowledge different styles of communication can enhance a relationship. Thanks for the reminder!
Exactly! No matter the style, they can all be helpful!
What advice do you have on managing your busy schedule when many things are set?
I like to take a mental tally of everything I accomplished. Sometimes it doesn't work in my favor but at least it's a datapoint.
@@samie8 sounds like great advice. If you don't know where you REALLY spend your time, then you don't know where you can save it!
Help other viewers by sharing your thoughts on how to strengthen your sexual connection! 👇
Could something new involve role playing maybe with costumes? I’m not sexually actively yet (virgin). And am not in a relationship. Just thought I’d ask. I’m in my 40s. I’m Andrew.
Hi Andrew. Sure - role playing with costumes might be a way to add something new. As with any new idea in the bedroom, you want to be mindful of building trust, so setting boundaries and understanding one another's expectations will be important. Thanks for commenting with your question!
@@toolsforus Thanks ☺️. I’m a virgin. What advice do you have for virgin guys? As for the role play … I was thinking of educator (principal or teacher type roles) and student, or boss and subordinate. I’d kinda like to be the sub in these. How common is that? Man being the sub in straight (male and female) sex I mean. I also have outfit ideas 💡. Is that too much?
@@abkeener81 For role play, you'll want to ask these questions to your partner. See what about role play would be interesting or comfortable for them to try. That might include the different roles or outfit options. Compromising may be necessary, but it also may completely align with them - so it's hard to say until you're able to explore that with them. My advice for your first sexual experiences is to take the pressure off of it occurring. When you start to explore sex with your partner, it can be a trust-building experience as well as a physical one, so be open about your needs and listen to your partner's as well. Take it one experience at a time and learn about your likes and dislikes instead of focusing on your preconceived expectations. If you want to explore this further, perhaps exploring journaling or reflections on what intimacy and/or sex mean to you. If you want additional support, you may want to explore individual therapy as a reflection tool. I hope this helps!
I really like the idea of a shared mission statement!
Thanks! I'm glad you like the idea! I recommend couples explore their proudest and/or inspirational moments when starting a shared mission. That way, you know what might be driving you in life and what to add to the mission statement!
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Sound off with other fun date ideas! 👇
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What a great way to integrate connection into something your already doing!
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You can learn more about this here: toolsforus.com/the-drafting-table-blog/f/its-our-bedroom
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Hi Gateway Productions. Thank you for your positive feedback! You are correct - relaxation is important for overall wellbeing and health.
Share your favorite relaxation technique to help anyone else watching this video. Your insight into what helps you may help others!
How bad was "hit that curve ball out of the park" analogy?
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This is the last video I will be posting in 2020. I started the channel this year and have learned a lot about video creation, editing, lighting, and more. Your support of my small business and this small channel has helped me tremendously. I will continue to grow and create more videos in 2021 and I look forward to the new lessons I learn along the way. Thank you as always for your support!
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Potato latkes with the fam!
@@samie8 so delicious!
For some reason, UA-cam has deleted a couple comments from my videos. I have not deleted your comments and I will never delete a comment that has true intent for information, growth, and reconnection. I am looking into this issue to see if I can do something on my end, but wanted you to know this update. Your continued support of my small business and of this channel mean so much to me - thank you as always for your engagement here!
*Do you think it is realistic for couples to use this new goal?*
Great video! It was nice to hear someone talk about this, as it doesn't often come up when talking about conflict. I am definitely someone who pushes forward, married to someone who pulls away. He often describes that his mind goes "blank" in conflict and he needs time to gather his thoughts and calm back down. He has said that I talk too eloquently in the moment for where is head is at, and feels intimidated. I mostly feel like I want to hash things out right away so that we can move on, and waiting to have conflict resolution conversations feels like agony. What are your recommendations for me, to allow my husband time to process the argument, without feeling like the argument is lasting hours or days without resolution?
This is a great question @jayehawk88! I'm planning on making a secondary video for next week on this same idea, so stay tuned for that. You said you want to talk about the conflict in order to move on; however, I when you want to push your partner pulls away. The next time you want to talk about, I would suggest you challenge yourself to think about the ultimate goal of this conversation. Often times, when we are upset and wanting to talk the ultimate goal is to be heard and validated. If this is true for you, then the goal cannot be accomplished in this moment. Your partner is not at a place to hear and validate your point. The next time you want to push the conversation, maybe say to yourself "but my husband cannot really hear me right now". I would also set up some parameters around conflict. Something such as: if he needs a break when the conversation is heated, then you will give him a break. When he is ready to talk about it, then he needs to be the one to bring it back up. That's a common middle ground. Set up a specific time and day that your husband tends to have down time that can be a regular time to go back to these conversations. Last point (I know this is a big reply!): When you set up these regular times to talk, I would ask your husband what he wants to discuss. If you are the one that tends to bring up the conversation, then have him bring up some concerns as well. This can help it feel more balanced. I talk about this more here: toolsforus.com/the-drafting-table-blog/f/are-you-a-challenger-or-an-escape-artist. This post goes more in depth on creating a plan around this. Good luck - and thank you for reaching out. Comments like this helps my small/new channel. I'm always honored to help!
@@toolsforus thanks for responding so thoroughly! I will definitely keep these things in mind! I will also stay tuned for the next video. Thanks!
@@GoblinnDogg Here is the next video I discussed briefly where I discuss what your goal should be during conflict: ua-cam.com/video/F85rlgGjoR0/v-deo.html I hope this helps paint the picture even more clearly for you!
Awesome 😍💋 💝💖♥️❤️
Thank you, Nia!
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Some great advice. Well done, too.
Thank you so much, Evans!
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Tip #1 Should Be A PSA!
Great advice! Will have to give it a try in the future! 😄
You'll have to see how it helps - let me know!
Burn that canvas!
It's so satisfying to watch!🛠🔥
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