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I think being lied to about your past intentionally and being told how you are supposed to feel happy and grateful with no acknowledgement of possible trauma is what rubbed me the wrong way most. Once I realized that there is a good reason why I don't feel like I fit in or don't know who I am I can start to heal. Without honesty how do you expect us to become our full potental

This is the best explanation I have ever heard. I have learned so much.

That segment - from 2 minutes to 10 minutes - should be its own video. That was an excellent overview of the whole dynamic.

So narcissists are just emotionally immature adults?

Thank you for sharing❤. I went through almost two decades of wrong and harmful treatment, now at 45 I have received the correct diagnosis.

So cool that you had Lindsay on your show. Btw her website NEW isn't working

OMG OMG you got Dr Lindsay Gibson on a podcast. Very nice.

Brilliant understanding of this subject. I'm clearly the internalizer. This is a lifelong cross.

This is an important conversation. Not only should we date someone for a long time before becoming exclusive or intermingling lives, but we should avoid sexual relationships because sex releases oxytocin, and other chemicals that make it seem like a connection exist when it may not be able to exist in reality due to the level of emotional maturity, or the level of values similarity, which can only be known over time and through many vulnerable discussions.

I followed along and tried to connect with my vulnerable self at 5 years old. But she was completely shut down with no idea about how the world worked. She was too far gone to trust anyone. It was too late. I couldn't access any earlier events. I do know from years of therapy and insights from relatives that my very early life was violent and chaotic. Now I feel very sad that I sat with my young self and witnessed a little girl who appeared dead inside. By 5 years old, ot was already too late.

47:30 That episode you mentioned, is it still up somewhere? thanks

My mom absolutely hates me, it’s not even lack of empathy, it’s beyond that

Thank you for your podcast Monique

16:30-20:00

I really liked the section on Preparing for the Conversation. Very helpful!

How about a follow up book, “Spouses of the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature People”?

So how do we self reflect and find compassion for people like this? This is to find peace with the situation rather then go through a cycle of choosing guilt or resentment. I’m talking about going much deeper within yourself to understand they too have traumas that stunted their emotional intelligence which resulted in lost children within adult bodies. Especially if they are our parents. “The best of you are the best to their families, and I am the best to my family.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3895 Is it not best to be a reflection of your own character rather than theirs?

There is a cure for wellness after all.

Mother said to me, "We knew how to get you to do anything we wanted...just ignore you, ." Neither of my parents should ever have had children. Their children were there to do their bidding...to serve them. I was extremely parentified. This video brought up a lot of pain. But I'm thankful that someone could put my childhood into words.

I see so much advice nowadays saying “Stop blaming your parents for your flaws and trauma.” I can see how blame can hold you back, but isn’t it good to recognize where trauma came from? I’m so confused

I LOVED this demo and Q&A so much!!! It filled in some info that totally resonated with me to give me aha moments. So happy about that! Thank you for doing this and posting it! It's amazing!

Thank you so much for this great conversation. God bless you 🙏

Very little info what's specific about Attachment Focused

Thank you for sharing this. I'm on this journey right now.

Great ❤

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! I'll be relistening. Got so many insights and Ah's. Will also be getting Deb's books and sharing her teachings with friends. Also - so touched by how compassionate and understanding Deb is. ❤❤❤ 🙏

Great conversation. I really like the attitude towards the pathologising of trauma. It does no one any good to just label and send on their way with meds. I wish this was a video because it is easier for me to take it in when I am watching a person speak but, I still enjoyed the chat. Thankyou to you both.

Psychologically toyed with like an object. Same here.

19:03 OMG!!! I needed to hear this❣️ Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! ♥️❤️♥️ 26:45 BINGO!!!

I’m looking forward to watching this. ❤

Well. This happened to me. And I let it happen. I came back promising that when it did happen I’d walk. And I did. Right into her bosses office. And reported it.And I’ll never go back there.

When they talked about a "delicious feeling" that was SO uncomfortable to watch. But a great discussion otherwise.

You can observe the same innate love and goodness we have, in animals too. I've seen where horribly traumatized and isolated lab animals were taken into a sanctuary and the sole act of receiving regular compassion from another animal allowed their stifled feelings to bloom. Very moving and insightful to our own human experience. Love and kindness are not acquired from bibles or customs. These feelings are innate and will be expressed when it's safe.

Thank you for this interview and for sharing such a personal experience! This was so helpful.

It doesnt feel good when they sleep with your husband

Theres no there there

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Good book!

Parents suck

I’m sorry but I don’t know exactly what the abuse was.

Thank you- this is excellent

I learnt this method in a hypnosis course I was taking in South Africa in 2008. It was called Ego states hypnotherapy.

This was the book that turned it around for me. What bllessing

I was rejected from birth. My mother likes to laugh at a story that she told the nurse to take me away so she could watch her soap operas.

Perfectly performing 😢

Excellent thanks very much 😅❤

Excellent thanks very much 😅😮😅

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Thank you!! Thank you!! This interview is a lifesaver!!❤️