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Thank you Dr. Lindsay Gibson, not the book, or anything specific. Just thank you. We are grateful that we walk on this earth in the same time with you.

This episode stopped me in my tracks. My world stopped. Thank you so much.

Yes I had a break through. Thank you. 🎉

I am deeply grateful that dr Lindsay has done this work and offered it to us. It is so hard to explain what it is like dealing with these personalities for a lifetime. This helps my sanity so much, to see that people see this struggle for what it is and that I'm not crazy.

I have an emotionally immature parent and an emotionally immature sibling & they're besties, allies, each others favourites, almost addicted to each other. Maybe they help each other feel better about themselves??? And its definitely both of them 'against' me - I'm too sensitive, I'm imagining things, I think too much, I feel too much, I exaggerate, I interfere, I'm judgemental, I analyse too much, I'm stirring up trouble etc etc etc ad infinitum

I’m wondering why my emotionally immature mother treated my younger sister a bit differently than me. Mother seemed to have more empathy towards her and would have what seemed to me “normal” conversations. She definitely fits the profile and I saw myself in the Dr Lindsey’s book but hmmmm…..why the difference?

I just discovered this site tonight after attending an advent event with Cathy Lorezel last week. However, I can't seem to find out much about what you offer, resources etc. I have a PC and no social media really, except FB, but I have a few questions about what I might be able to access. I am dissociative and have severe complex PTSD from church abuse that started at the age of 60. I am retired and living in total isolation now due to all of the misunderstanding and rejection of three churches. Is there a contact #? I'm not even sure where I am. There are so many resources available, and I'm an avid listener to Adam Young, just went through a cohort with Brian Lee (Broken to Beloved) but I keep hearing of others that look good like Tears of Eden and the Healing Trauma Podcast. I've read a lot of the authors you have interviewed and they are all so good. There is a lot of overlap The main thing for me right now is that BECAUSE I am totally alone (no family, no church and a handful of friends - mostly long distance), and have chosen to isolate for two years due to misunderstanding and abuse that I just couldn't live with anymore (I'm 17 months into it) I'm just looking for resources to educate and support me on this now-almost 8 year journey that started with a stroke in 2016 and the rejection of my church and craft group.

Absolutely soooooo comforting knowing that Dr Linsay has such a great understanding and support in this area where one feels emotionally challenged. Realising that I have the right to do in my life the things that make me happy. Parents have such an awful control on their children when they themselves are emotionally immature ....... thank you both for such words of great comfort blessing and love very grateful.........

Thank you sooo much Adrian and Monique. Adrian, inspiration, if I may, the word that came to mind..your presentation.. thank you!! Some thirty four years ago I became aware of the phenomenon of DID, then yet revered to as MPD. My initial read, a booklet written by two clinicians working with DID clients, was followed with “More Alike Than Different” authored by Margo Rivera, one of the clinicians. More or less a “light bulb” moment some several years later, when I self diagnosed as having DID. About this time I has an epiphany like experience. This helped me tremendously..more than tremendously..such that my world view became one of acceptance..acceptance for my person and a desire to know him fully. Wow and then some..how does one survive such as brings about this DID phenomenon..I do not know, but I do know I have!! Love to you both, love to us all!! ❤️🙏

Excellent interview. Wise insight. The observations about 'parentified children' are especially poignant. The strange reversal of the child having to study and navigate the parent's emotional minefield, to learn not to set it off, and to help the parent 'feel good about herself'.

Great episode!! Love the pod❤️

Who cares about the labels.

Does this mean that people who are emotionally immature like this is the result of a personality disorder? Is that what it is?

The topic of high functioning autism spectrum is missing from this conversation. I hope viewers look up high functioning Autism, and other terms that go with it like, “mind blindness”, “Theory of mind“, and “ Alexathymia”. It is a bit shocking to me that the clinical psychologist does not discuss this as a possibility for all the symptoms that she is talking about. My father had high functioning autism and had a very late diagnosis at age 82. It explained why he didn’t lean in and take an interest in us kids, why he was not comfortable with other people‘s emotions, Seemed to lack empathy, would become defensive at criticism, Yet he seemed to hold it together better in front of strangers And acquaintances, but not all the time. His high functioning autism would still bleed through because he had mind blindness and could not empathize. Much of this is genetic trait baked in. And some of it can be ameliorated through counseling to be more aware. I’m not saying that all parents have high functioning autism. Some have accompanying different comorbidities just like we all have, which would impede them from Being able to relate with their children. But it’s not uncommon for high functioning autism to be in tandem comorbid with narcissism due to The parent, having to mask their entire lives, which can come off as arrogant and dismissive behavior. It’s very complex. To simply talk about symptoms is one thing. But to understand, the origin is another. I think it’s a bit dangerous that the signs of high functioning autism are not being discussed here. The steel face experiment is the only smoking gunn symptom that doctor Gibson talks about that even remotely touches on autism. That is exactly what it can feel like to be with a high functioning autistic person. They can be still faced and unemotional with flat affect and seem not to care about your needs.

Great information for clinicians and civilians alike. Badly needed with so much misinformation. Thanks for your courage. It can't be easy to disclose on the internet with potentially millions of viewers. Paul Falstad, CDCA

EVERYTHING that came out of her mouth sounded like compete B.S. EVERYTHING! It honestly sounds like you or your team didn't verify her story. Secondly you and her referring to the small things as trauma REALLY EXTREMELY just minimizes when people do go through real trauma. Like a scrapped kneed being equated to a fractured skull. Its just insulting to those who have suffered real trauma. I speak from real experiences with actual trauma and being adopted as well. Not to mention my childhood friend was in a similar boat except the levels of trauma we went through. In truth it yall just sound like the stereotypical basic divorced white women, always wanting to be the biggest victim around. Its simply revolting.

Being friends with your nervous system - I love this!

Love “going downstairs into our body”

Love your new intro!!!

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All people come to terms on their own time. Love one another. If your mature enough to see your more mature than your parents, your mature enough to love others unconditionally.

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Yep we have DID and it can get messy because it was born from trauma and so yeah you can’t make everyone happy. When you do fuse at least with us we let it happen naturally but we are doing the functional multiple thing you can say. Good video.

“…that deep, best friend, mate level…” - I don’t think I exist at that level

Yes. In my family emotions were not to be talked about. And if so you were shunned

my face when she started talking about the feeling of loneliness and hostility about my inner world: 😦 i bought her book on Amazon before i even got halfway through this video.

I really like Dr Gibbons’ in-a-nutshell explanation at the beginning of what EIPs are. I thought I had come to a point of acceptance and was managing my relationship with my mom really well until I had my baby. Every time I’ve seen her since I gave birth I’ve felt anger and I also end up getting physically sick somehow. Cutting ties is probably what I should do, but that’s not something I can do easily for various reasons so I really don’t know what to do other than to look for an energy coach because I’m starting to wonder if my mom’s just so toxic that her mere presence in my proximity makes me sick. If anyone has the same experience please share any suggestions 🙏🏻

I’m surprised there’s no comments yet, this story is so relatable. It’s not been my exact experience but I know someone very similar to this man, and everyone has reacted so similar when I tried to confront him. Thanks for helping us feel less alone and for confirming we’re not crazy 😅😂 Looking forward to more of your content 💖

Woman in pink doesn’t need to say mmhmm and yeah every second.

Both my mother and father unfortunately act like teenagers… the arguments, reactions to everything.. Now I’m in my 30s with my own kids I just shake my head.

“The more internalizing person might feel rude when they change the direction of the conversation.” Could this mean, in some cases it is okay to interrupt -- an off topic, “helps me feel” annoyed - monologue, to get back to the subject of the meeting?😅

“The more internalizing person might feel rude when they change the direction of the conversation.” Could this mean, in some cases it is okay to interrupt -- an off topic, “helps me feel” annoyed - monologue, to get back to the subject of the meeting?😅

It all gets rather complex. In my experience, when the child is placed in multiple roles (parent, abused child, ...) there is splitting that goes on, resulting in personas that come forward as adults under different emotional conditions (normal, stressed, weak, ...)

A problem I'd notice was they could identify and empathize with fictional characters well. But when that same or similar situation was happening in their very lives, there would be no empathy.

Hi thank you for this. I actually checked out few times while listening Looking for some help!

I’m 62 years old and I don’t have finances to be able to afford any resources to help me. I’m lost??

I suppose as children we find ways to “hide” from our dangerous emotional reality.Survival comes first. They are all time frozen trances or ego defence. A safe place.

I just read the book and it is so helpful

I think of my mum as a 'scaregiver'

How do we make ourselves feel safe if we’re alone have one or more people exploiting us? I’m not convinced that feeling safe is the only way to move forward.

Very Great And exactly hits home!!

YEAH. YEAH YEAH. Most spoken word. Nice discussion....

Brilliant!

Love your podcast!

I went no contact with my emotionally immature mother because I was tired of being an afterthought. Everything is about her, and she doesn’t give two sh*ts about my inner world. Not to mention her emotional outbursts are just plain crazy. Of course she painted herself as the victim and made it look like I’m just making a mountain of a mole hill. She has zero capacity to look at her own actions critically. Everything is always someone else’s fault.

I have a question in mind:..when the child needs a hug from me do i imagine myself giving her a hug in the memory or if not what should i do ?

This is excellent! Such wonderful and valuable information!!

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Be everything for yourself… screw other people… they can’t fill you

Yeah this is like the child that becomes king they sit there and everyone plays the game with them isn't it