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That adult-child script is something else. I had my short cut mostly during the early days of covid, so I can't compare, but in general people read me as younger than I am and assume I'm out of place or need to be put in place. It's equal parts hilarious (once they learn my age or encounter my authority at work and are taken aback) and frustrating.

I am in the thick of it. I think hot yoga helps with coping with the hot flashes. I have grown to love the feeling of my body in intense heat. I am trying, but not sure I am going to learn to love the acne and the weight gain. I am trying to just accept them as part of the process and not be judgmental or negative. The surprise physical change is the hypersensitive sense of smell that comes at times.

What would you tell _your_ younger self about menopause? What resources currently exist that you wish you had access to (or knew about earlier)? What are your best tips for perimenopausal women?

never had hot flashes or weight gain but I was a little cranky at times

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I feel less alone. I’ve never heard anyone name the spiritual aspect.

Thank you for sharing, Kerry Ann! I'm experiencing hair changes and hot flashes. When I take in less sugar, I am cooler! 😂 I've joined a Rally Coach community through my medical insurance, which has been helpful in eating mindfully and reducing physical perimenopause symptoms. I look forward to leaning into psychological and spiritual possibilities during this transition. ❤

I think it’s good to do the honeymoon phase things to get the out of the way if they aren’t lasting. They become lasting and so that’s really good ie golf. My husband grew up on horseback but was always working on his parents farm. Now at retirement he wants access to a horse as a pet/friend and as a leisure activity. For me (I’ve never ridden a horse and don’t want to) I love making quilts and home Decor items. I need a swimming pool close by and access to a gym for exercise. I prefer a large room with lots of windows for natural light to sew,knit, embroider and be creative. So this can be anywhere. I think us retirees don’t need to find a final place. We can move anywhere (after downsizing) and try anything.

HI KERRY TFS I'v been in my one story home for 22 yrs.a great convenient regular neighborhood and will most likely stay put at 78yrs. of age .

We were fortunate to have bought a holiday home about 15 years before retiring on the coast, that we renovated & extended to suit our permanent needs. 17:44 At the time we needed a “bolt hole” to retreat to regularly from demanding work lives. Loving nature our criteria was the beach or the mountains. The beach won for safety (less fire risk) & still within reach of hills & mountains. Plus proximity to the city (2.5 hrs away) & family. We love the peace & quiet & big skies. One mistake I’ve observed is people choosing a place, expecting to remain central in their children’s lives - we cannot assume this as children & grandchildren’s careers & interests may take them far afield. We need to find & create our own pathways for this stage of life for our sake as well as theirs.

I'm not at or near retirement, but this has made me consider where I would choose to live if I could move someone totally independent of my job. Every place I've lived, I moved either for school or for a new job. Those places still met a certain type of criteria, but this is a great thought experiment: what would I want from a community if I was able to move anywhere?

I am so grateful for the recommendation of 1440!

thank you Kerry Ann. all of what you're saying feels so applicable in various disasters - i live in asheville and this is what i'd have wanted people to hear and do in the immediate aftermath and beyond ❤‍🩹

WHAT a great view! when I lived in LA I loved going to Santa Monica Beach with my children.glad your ok. subby connie murphy :)

Thank you for this message, Kerry Ann. Been thinking of you ❤ and all the others. Found myself in that space of watching watching watching all of the videos and spiraling in all sorts of feelings. Your message offers a needed alternative. 💕

GOD BLESS>>Many prayers

Thank you so much for what you've shared. I'm praying, too.

“Marinating misery” - perfect phase for as you say - sitting in disempowerment. Thank you for the reminder of serving and that serving sometimes means not acting right now.

Wisdom. Thanks for sharing ways for us to serve ❤

Thanks for this video, I 'retired' (still weird for me to say that) about 3 months ago and I've been searching for the 'language of retirement' and because it's so new to me I am going with this vibe of embracing all the change involved. I can definitely concur with some of your thoughts, I've had some ugly experiences telling people. But I'm learning!

HI KERRY CUTE cut. I tried 15 x and now I'am at 9 months in my hair transition. for me gray is the new blond :) Happy New Year!! new subby here connie murphy

I think if the individual is fortunate enough to have reached the usually life long goal of becoming financially able to retire , IOW answered all the scary questions of running out of money, missed opportunities costs, astronomical healthcare costs, SSI etc etc Good on you btw. Impressive work. I’d encourage them to ask themselves a few questions before pulling the trigger. Are they emotionally equipped to be retired? Some people’s self worth or ability to feel fulfilled is tied up to their profession. Do they have a plan for all that time they used to spend making a livng? That’s a significant amount of time without a built in purpose. For those of us in the US that’s usually 40 hours a week. In OECD countries, the average workweek is closer to 36 hours. In France it’s 35 hours, that’s a lot of unstructured time. Are you ok with a life full of lazy Saturdays? Lastly I’d ask how’s your social life outside of work? Are all of your friends work friends? A lot of people do the majority of their socializing at work. You’ll no longer have that built in socializing. How will you replace it? Are you involved in any communities outside of work that can fill in that gap humans are social creatures. If the individual has the financial puzzle sorted, yes that’s the most difficult, but there are three other aspects that they need to think of emotional, time, & social. There’s so many people that retire and regret it. You don’t want to become depressed or. socially isolated in retirement and not all of us have a built-in partner.

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I’m 42, I have an all salt & pepper bob. I don’t mind it at all. TBF I had gray hair in m6 30’s & never dyed my hair regularly so it’s never been a drastic transition or a became age related fear. That said, I’m premenopausal & the changes in my body is becoming a truly uncomfortable transition.

I came here to check on you! Love your message and so happy you are good.

I am so glad you're okay! I've been watching in disbelief the destruction and unfortunately, there is no rain in the forecast for next week that would tamper the fire and clean the air. I pray every evening for a little bit of rain. My husband and I live in Sacramento and if you know anyone who needs a temporary shelter and are willing to come up here, please get them in touch with me. Also, I have 3 air purifiers that I could probably overnight to you, I assume they are all sold out in your area. Stay safe!🤗

Woohoo! So excited for you! Love the mohawk plan too.

I’m so happy you’re doing this on UA-cam! This process has been a huge part of my life for the last few years! Thank you!

thank you Kerry Ann for this final video of the Annual Clarity Retreat! i was wondering about goals since step 1 😬 and not surprisingly, there is a method to your process 😁. i especially appreciate the normalization of how we each have different goal-setting styles, as well as what time frames work best for us. my overarching vision and goals for the year is two entrees with sides, and i'd say i'm starting as a monthly tapas gal 😉. having the more manageable monthly picture as well as my annual view is really supportive for me. speaking of which, now i need to develop the supportive accountability piece! thanks again, Kerry Ann 💗

It's true that curly helps with the transition ❤. I do find myself going for clothing that is salt and pepper in color. Like you, when my hair was dyed, I had warm colors, so I needed to adjust my wardrobe to fit the coloring of my hair, skin, and eyes. I feel sorry for your curl guy; he may be out of a job soon!😂💰

So glad to have you going before me into retirement. You're a treaure!

I’m trying to journey thru this stage of going gray,( and the deeper implications) with the same attitude I applied to becoming an empty nester . Just enjoy every stage and see it as the start of something new to experience rather than something ending that was better. I try to just move through the feelings / emotions as they come up and move along with the flow of life as it is. Sue from Australia 😊

I've been hoping you would update about this! Love how your grays are coming in. I am so grateful for what you share here. I am 46 and in perimenopause, and this is rough! Oddly, it reminds me of what puberty was like: lots of change quickly, lots of not knowing, and getting used to a new version of myself. Do you have any books or resources that supported you during this time?

❤ Share your insights, comments, and experiences with your own gray hair journey! 🔔 Please like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations about midlife. 🦋 RESOURCES 🦋 My "curl guy" is Joshua Borrayo www.styleseat.com/m/v/2164514 If you're looking for a curl specialist in your area, I'm a huge fan of Ouidad: www.ouidad.com/pages/salons My gray hair inspirations: ua-cam.com/video/ReXdAcA30ck/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/4IHN-WmHSj0/v-deo.html

Thank you for sharing this with the world! Your laugh, wit, and wisdom are an absolute joy to experience. Working through these first steps has been eye opening for me and I feel this is the beginning of something that will be a significant part of my life moving forward. Thank you!

More firsts for me on this step. For the first time I had 99% half circles. I only had 1 completely empty circle. My life vision is wordy (LOL) so small concrete goals (some of them were tasks) flowed to me pretty easily as I filled in the circles. AND I remembered what I learned about the data I collected on unmet goals in step 1. That step taught me that my unmet goals were a result of me not having the mental or emotional capacity to manifest anything (2023-24 have been very personally difficult years). My takeaway from that was to NOT get sucked into the "new year, new me" faux energy and to underplan instead. I'm still recovering from all that, so while I'm better, my mental and emotional capacity can't sustain a lot of lifts. So this led me to 2 things: 1) brainstorming felt heavy and exhausting when I thought about it, so I skipped it and 2) I realized that my goal setting style was tapas. Lol... one small plate at a time. I finish it and then I take a minute and decide if I want another small plate. And that small plate has 1-2 bites on it. Lol... so those small concrete goals and tasks are my tapas.

Way to go! I saw your next video with gray before this one, and I love it! I let mine come on during covid-19 shutdown; it's been a great way to save money. The one piece of advice I've received is to stick with hair products that are white or clear so that your gray hairstyle don't turn brassy. Enjoy the process❤

I've done this for several years and for the first time, nearly my whole list was T's. I'm at such a unique crossroads in my life that I realized that all of my limiting beliefs were guilt, fear or worry about THAT. So it was helpful to summarize them in that way, as themes, and then instead of trying to reframe each individual belief, offer myself compassion and assurance that guilt, fear and worry at this particular crossroad is normal. Definitely taking this list of themes to therapy next week.

I quit drinking by reading This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. I’m so happy to hear you had great success with her program. If anyone is thinking of quitting, just know that it can be done and it’s so wonderful for your mental and physical health. Thanks for sharing, and Happy New Year!

In 2019, I failed Dry January but my intuition led me to try another method. I've been alcohol-free for 5 years, 7 months and 16 days AND I've saved a ton of money! ❤ Share your insights, comments, and experiences with Dry January below! 🔔 Please like, comment, and subscribe for more conversations about midlife. 🦋 RESOURCES 🦋 The Alcohol Experiment: thisnakedmind.com/blog-the-alcohol-experiment/ How to Make A Radical Change in Your Life: ua-cam.com/video/f738Bg_5vGA/v-deo.htmlsi=eRN3kN_orMf_2bkC