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I’m 30 and never had a relationship before. I was always the outcast growing up, because I have high-functioning autism, which has many times brought out a socially awkward side of me. Because dating these days is toxically and outrageously infested by hypergamy mindsets…….well……..just by that information you can guess why I’ve not had any luck. In fact, I’ve learned the wrong things things that I need to stay away because I’m not wanted. It’s gotten better in friendship settings ever since I started college, but people are still not mature to handle me. They are more like “You’re handsome, but the autism is a dealbreaker for me” kind of people; they in other words have still much growing up to do, but this time it’s in a way in which people never grow up in. Even their parents are not open-minded and say, “I don’t want you dating someone who’s autistic! They are a burden in relationships than they are otherwise! Nor do I want my children to be given autism!” People have even told me, “Why would you ever biologically have children instead of adopting?! You’d be a selfish father for giving your children the curse of autism! Adopt only, or else you’re a horrible person!” It’s evil to talk to me that way! It’s just as messed up as saying “Black people shouldn’t be allowed to live in desirable homes. That should only be for the whites. Black people are breaking the law for being allowed such privileges.” And yes, especially back in the even more racist times of fifty to seventy years ago, such arguments were made by evil racist people who said good is bad and bad is good like that; when telling me I’d be a terrible father for biologically having children, it’s just as evil all the same because it’s still gaslighting similarly as saying good is bad and bad is good. (I’m not black, but I still point these things out! Even racism still exists today, but not as firmly, which we need to treat carefully because racism seems to be rising once again.) Again someone’s race, it’s racism. Against someone’s autism, it’s ableism. In the situation of those in the spectrum, people may not be too ableist to be friends with someone on the spectrum, but they still too often are too ableist to think of giving even the most high-functioning autistics a chance! Even their parents could be too apathetic against the idea, in which case they will scare their naive children into staying away from any autistics in the dating realm. They are so prejudiced if they do this, because they ignorantly feel like being with someone who is autistic romantically isn’t…..”practical.” That further proves my point on their ableism because that is how they feel. They may even feel like “all autistics have crazy outbursts” or whatever else they may generalize about autistics. Even if the parents feel like it’s ok if their children dates someone with autism, their adult children might still not be mature enough to be open minded in giving autistics a chance, and will try to come up all kinds of ludicrous excuses. People often just like being hypergamy-minded, being very self-centered. People may ask why this is not addressed so often. It’s because these ableist behaviors are done and expressed so covertly! Like how racist people nowadays are covertly racist. It’s because they don’t want to let people find out they are racist, ableist or whatever “-ists” there are out there! So yeah, covertly they do these things. They will deny it and even gaslight if you call them out on their prejudices. Whatever “-ists” there are out there, I feel like there needs to be a change for the better, which means getting rid of what influences people to become the “ists” or prejudices that are out there! As a man with autism who has experienced these things, where people even denied they were denying me chances when they were, and also seeing other autistics having gone through the same things and their oppressors just kept denying they were doing hurtful things to them and even went on as to gaslight the autistics were the ones that did something hurtful to them (hence lying about the autistic individuals) when said autistic individuals had not done any such things to them, I know quite a bit of the unfairness and how people can be better than this and should be better than this! I feel like there needs to be another push for better change. This is why I write this. Because of how covertly these prejudices are done or expressed, many good people out there often miss recognizing the prejudiced behaviors for the prejudices they are, which makes it hard for the good people to realize they are being gaslighted when they are. With this said, I also call out to the good people out there to keep their eyes more open and more aware of these circumstances, because more often than not these prejudices are everywhere! Good people could be right next to a racist, ableist or what other prejudices there are out there!

I’m 23 and I have yet to have a boyfriend. I tried dating apps but I feel they’re the only option for dating. I just wish I could meet someone who I feel attracted to. For years, I felt like I missed out on experiences but at the same time I always felt nervous to get close to someone mainly because of my worst social experiences when I was a kid. But I just wish that finding someone would be easier for me and not be scary. I’m also very skeptical about who to trust.

23 almost 24 and it makes me feel some relief i'm not the only one who hasn't dated anyone in their 20's.

have you never had a boyfriend or have you never been on a date ? you youngster are lucky to have youtube to tell you its not just you. I was about her age deeply ashamed of my inexperience and afraid people would laugh at me to the point where I made a mistake at my job because I was depression. now you will say for adults it wouldn't laugh etc but I had a single mother coworker who sensed it and roasted me about it

The problem with modern romance is we've turned it into an all encompassing thing where the romantic partner is supposed to be everything to you. A best friend, a sex partner, a domestic supporter, a therapist, a provider. All wrapped into one. This is unique in human history. We used to value friends and other relationships beyond the nuclear family. We need to get back to that because it's pretty clear that putting all of that on one person isn't sustainable. And worse, if ylu neglect your friendships every time you're in a relationship you'll gradually lose them. And romantic relationships break down A LOT. If you date someone at 22 it's highly unlikely you'll get married and have kids and die together at 90. That's just how it works. So people need to honestly treasure their friends more. Friends are much more likely to go the distance.

thank you for this ❤❤ i really related to it and enjoyed the insights

im mad at the fact that i can never meet people like you so i can say "ive never dated anyone" and she says back "me too" do you wanna have one? so i can say YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES

These young ladies need to be in the United States! It's better here in terms of culture, and race. August 13, 2024, USA

Is Rach officially back from Brazil? Is she coming to Limitless Festival? ❤

Wine and alcohol are just too dangerous for the body. Avoid bars! Just rely on drinking water, and you will be okay. USA2024

Comment: Finishing your college degree is very important along with having some community service under your belt so you can put that in a future resume. Your degree is very important, but you also need to fill it up with volunteering activities in where people (future Managers) will see that you are a team player. There is nothing wrong if you work at McDonalds for a while along with doing some Janitor work (in terms of volunteering). I think you live in England, why don't you work for some time for Ludlow Book binding (doing volunteer work). It's all great experience! I wish you guys the best. You have to learn some soft skills such as interacting with people of all ages, and classes. Stay in your city and get to know your city in where you pay your taxes, opening up a bank account, etc. England is just too beautiful, why leave to somewhere else in terms of vacationing?! You can just do a staycation and enjoy your country to the max. Christ God be with you! Take care. Peace! July 22, 2024. USA

Community service such as working at a food bank/food pantry can help you out during these times. Don't let the thought of not having love affect your life. You have friends, and family along with a dog I assume. You may also want to do some speed dating just so you can know what type of guy you want in the future. Speed dating won't lead to marriage now, but it's good experience. This may sound distant but maybe you need to attend a Matthew Hussey lecture on dating. I think you ladies need to marry for substance in where the man has a great heart and someone who understands your mind. You will find that man but at the workplace so please finish college/Private University and "get" that degree. It's important! :-) July 2024, USA

True Fact: Great Chemistry is a great deodorant. People that have Great chemistry will have a life full of boyfriends and girlfriends (depending on your Gender). Love is very tough for the person who does not have any chemistry with the opposite s@x. You can have a nice home, have a great bank account at the bank, be popular at school, perform community service for the food bank, you do work as a bell snuffer at your local Catholic church, but if you as a person does not have magnetic chemistry when it comes to attracting the men or women that you want in life (when it comes to Romantic Love), then your love life will be a little bit boring. What happens if this happens to me? Take up community service, attend Church mass; Catholic mass, and also focus on finishing your college degree so you can get a job once you graduate. You need to be occupied in life right now, so you don't get down about being single at a certain age. We all want love in our lives, but at times it gets very complicated, so one needs a backup plan in case if he or she does not arrive tomorrow, or in 5 years, or the person does not arrive at all. This may sound a little bit distant to you guys but pray to God when at church when it comes to Him (God) bringing you a caring loving boyfriend, husband into your life. But you need to pray in faith, and you must be patient. Christ God works in mysterious ways and on His timeline. July 21, 2024 USA

Comment: It's simple because you two guys are studying at College. Love will come at the appropriate time. You need your degree and your job in order to move forward. Have patience. July 21, 2024. USA

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Can't wait for Limitless Festival this year!! I am so excited 🎉😊

I'm 27F and also never had a boyfriend. My reasons are basically the same as hers, although I also have a chronic GI disease making it even more complicated for me. I think she described it very eloquently. I'm actually quite happy being single, but what bothers me the most is how it makes me "abnormal" or "weird" in other people's eyes. They don't say it directly to my face, but you can feel it and hear it indirectly.

Well spoken. Good questions. Vulnerability Courage Respect Kindness -- thoughts What are the major factors that influence confidence, why? What are the major factors that influence guilt, why? Knowing the factors, how will you steer them to align with your character? Have a mindset game plan before going out to party. Use AI Leverage Anapana technique to exit thoughts. Highest status man: - most perceived violence - most perceived money - most perceived intelligence Perception not always reality. How will you differ perception from reality to align with nature? Or would you prefer to live in a perception? You will always be changing, law of nature. Impermanence. All high status men will change you, it depends on how change is being led. We all want to change. What are the factors that influence positive change? At any given moment you and your peers are moving from - darkness to darkness - darkness to lightness - lightness to darkness - lightness to lightness Partying is hedonistic, 24 year old men at parties will not make good fathers unless they are also good sales men. Energy Discipline Respect Value PEACE

I'm 24 as well and really wish I could be in a relationship. I'm also in the situation where no one I like likes me back. I'd settle for anyone I'm even remotely attracted to. I feel like there is something wrong with me that makes me unattractive and I'll probably be single for life. I don't know how it's so easy for other people.

Yes, no, no, no, yes

I read "I need to comfort them but I don't know how" which could also be a good episode hahaha Thanks for the podcast, I've been listening to it for a couple of months and it's great! 🌻

Soph can you please tell Steph and Bethan that i am not going to be coming to the Tuesday club anymore due to my surgery but hopefully i will see both of them in Limitless since i will be better before then? Thanks Amanda x

i have just recently had surgery on both of my feet last week Friday, and there has to be wires to straighten out my toes. now i have to wear boots and crutches on my feel for the next 6 weeks. But i am so happy that i get to take off my bandages not next week the week after, hence why i can't even go to the UDB clubs anymore until September. But hopefully, i will be on my feet before Limitless Festival which i am really excited about. So overall this podcast makes me feel a lot better and a lot happier and comfortable. Thanks for making this podcast!! Love you guys xx ❤

is this prerecorded?

Hi guys!! I can't wait to go to Limitless Festival this year!! My mom just needs to sign me up for it, it was incredible last year and i enjoyed my time there especially with my cousin ❤

love this

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Lindz is my dad

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Rachel is correct about Adidas. I didn't believe my mom when she says, it's all day i dream about sports, my mom love Adidas as well❤

Love the podcast! Can you please do a podcast about how to split your time between your friends and not leave your friends out of activities or conversation?

Fav podcast

It's important to bear in mind context. It seems you're very influenced by western media. You're only talking about 'beauty standards' in the UK and other areas where there are Europeans. But only 10% of the world population are European (or 'white' as you say). 60% of the world population are from Asian countries, 20% are from African countries and the remaining 20% are from European, North & South American and Oceanic countries combined. So beauty standards are dependent on where you are and who the people are there. Only 2% of the world's people are blonde haired, so this is rare. It's not the beauty standard in most places.

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I’m a 23 year old girlie from Japan, and never had a boyfriend. Hearing Soph's stories, I really relate to you. For me as well, I haven't felt the strong genuine feeling of "I want this person to be my partner". Although I do like talking about love life with my friends, I never felt the need to make a boyfriend. My friends always tell me that I am a healthy single and I really agree haha It was my first time hearing your talk, but I really love how you guys are sweet and genuine💞All the best:)

im interested to know as to why in such a dire situation as described in the title above that you wouldnt just think back to when I met you at big church fest we were so in the mo x

see you there next year, so lovely meeting you guys, so in the mo

loved this ep so much

Hi ❤

Just discovered you guys and I love!!! Keep doing what you’re doing 😍😍

Y’ALL BOTH ARE GORGEOUSS❤❤❤

I’m 24 and never been in a relationship. I don’t go to clubs or bars, I don’t do hook up culture. I go to the gym, play basketball with my friends, I like skateboarding and hanging out with my friends. But I’m still ignored by woman. I’ve realized if u ain’t a bad boy or fit the bad boy stereotype be expected to be ignored completely by woman. If you’re an old soul, be expected to be ignored by woman. They want excitement, and if u can’t do that for them, they don’t want u. Woman choose to be single, men can’t.

I didn't know you were in UA-cam too! Greetings from México 🙌🏼 you're great!

ugh im so glad you guys popped up on my recommended!! ive been craving girl-hosted podcasts with topics like yours 🫶

get the beanbags!

You guys touch on some amazing points. I love to talk in depth about personal experiences, but don't usually get an ocassion to talk about it. I'm glad you guys do so and I can relate!

Such a good podcast episode! I definitely struggled with these beauty standards growing up as a black, dark skinned teenager x

As a fellow dark skin girly with 4c hair, I feel seen, all three of you are stunning and gorgous🤍

My comfort podcast ❤

Love this podcast. So relatable, love you guys ❤