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Very thankful of your braveness for coming forward , many men are abused by women or a same sex partner. Abuse in any relationship is dangerous and very unhealthy. If experiencing any abuse please seek help immediately. Domestic violence does not just go away and it most likely will escalate to higher and more frequent abuse . Caroline Cantelmo survivor and advocate for Domestic Violence . Former voices member for NYC Mayors office .

My mom is a domestic abuser. I haven’t seen my dad in 15 years

None of these things are abuse.

Thank you for this video. This is the point I am at - stuck. I’m looking for ways to exit and have been looking to divorce for 10 years, but am still stuck. I’ve been in this relationship since 2006.

Amazing video ❤

It's ultimately having self control and self respect for yourself. That's hard when we grew up without the respect shown to us. We end up accepting the disrespect as what we deserve bc that's what's we felt growing up

Very common. I hear it a lot. Gotta be willing to walk away or be patient enough to help them walk thru their bullshiggity. You only get one life, do you want to spend it helping your partner feel better about themselves so they can't love you better??? Some of us say yes 🙌🏾

Wow, I feel for you. You just explained almost word for work my last 4 years with the wrong woman

After listening to this, I don't know if my gf is honestly aware of what she's doing. Maybe I'm being naive and too forgiving, but most of her behaviour seems to stem from her own trauma and her unhealthy coping strategies, where she's unconsciously acting out her childhood issues or something. But, that said, she does have a BPD diagnosis and a whole heap of other health conditions -- and sometimes it's like she's using these to deny any accountability for her behaviour -- I swear, I've turned into her carer! The following might be conscious though: The other day she laid into me with her fists for the first time (allegedly my fault because I was grumpy). It wasn't exceptionally painful thankfully, but the next day, she was like nothing had happened, and all over me, trying to initiate sex -- when I failed to respond she started crying over being rejected, and the crying got louder and louder until I comforted her -- because comforting her is the only way I can get any peace. So, why would she get louder if it was a simple outpouring of emotion? Whatever though, I feel stuck and, because she's currently staying with me, it's not as simple as just throwing her out in the street. :/

I am in this now, and what you described is almost a complete match for my experience. I'm going to keep listening, because I'm currently stuck and out of options. :/ Thank you for uploading this.

The CDC statistics tell us that men are victims of domestic abuse more often than women.

Thanks for sharing. I lived with my son and his mother for a year. In that time she verbally assaulted me approximately 5 times a week, for several hours each occasion. And she physically assaulted me multiple times during that span. I never found it acceptable and I left after a year. But then we had to deal with family court, which was obviously gender biased in her favor, despite her domestic violence in our home. It took me 3 years to finally have primary custody of our son. So if fathers want to leave this bad situation, they know the family court will be of no help.

Thanks for making this channel. I was in an abusive relationship: physically assaulted multiple times in just one year, along with the verbal abuse 5 times a week. But we had an infant son together, and i couldn't just walk away...and leave him behind. It took me 3+ years in family court, but I got custody of our son and an order of protection against her. Now I teach dads how to navigate family court. So I'm glad you are also raising awareness on this specific topic. Many men need help and have no resources available.

I'm going through this emotional abuse right now. I have ended things just now. I pray that this time I'll have the strength to stay away

Thanks for sharing

For a very long time my late mom and grandmother wouldn't allow me to assert myself in front of them whenever they yelled at me. When I tried doing so it was always "Pack up and get out, be on your own". This happened even after I graduated from high school.

I'm so grateful to see more men speaking out about their abuse ❤ Women can be just as abusive and cruel as men. I hate that there is a stigma with men reporting abuse and speaking up! We all deserve a voice to share what we have gone through. Thank you for this channel. I will show it to my brother who was with a narcissistic wife for 12 years and she almost destroyed him. It was horrible.....😢

Hi, I’ve listened to your videos and I’m very sorry for what happened to you. This is the first time I searched for domestic abuse, the reason is that I’m worried about my brother who turned from being very open, cheerful and outgoing to being very reserved and gloomy. This happened shortly after he started a relationship. I told family members that he looks like he’s being abused but the rest of the family kept saying: that’s just because we don’t like her, if he likes her that’s good enough for us. I agree in principle but what if this is not the case, what if he is stuck in a cycle that he can’t break? If it’s merely that I don’t like her, then it’s my problem and I’ll just have to find a way to accept it, but if it isn’t, how can I know? Most of the resources I found are about physical abuse or how someone would know that they are abused. What I would like to ask you to do is to make a video that explains how one would recognize that a loved one is being abused, especially if they don’t want to talk about their relationship and just want to please their partner even if that doesn’t seem to make them any happier. How can I know if my brother is being emotionally or psychologically abused? And if he is, how can I help him?

I really want to share your wonderful videos to my loved ones. But your sound is so bad. Don’t use the camera microphone. Please. Invest in a simple clip-on microphone. It will improve the watchability of your videos tremendously.

Please. For goodness sake. Get a proper microphone.

Man, I appreciate your videos so much. I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. Its been 16 months since I left and I still fall back into thinking that maybe it wasn’t that bad, and I feel guilt, shame and regret for leaving her. despite the responses I get from so many people that what I experienced was abuse. It’s hard for me to view her that way. Would be cool to chat with you about it. Much of what you describe, I went through as well.

I’ve just woken up over the last year, after being married for 18 years. It sounds like your ex and my wife are twins.

Seriously man thank you for your channel. You just don’t know how much it helped me. I’m finally breaking away just I can’t thank you enough

Blimey the not talking thing was so true with her/ I want to say us but their gone. Ty for these videos pal

ua-cam.com/video/buWKu14q-sw/v-deo.html 🤔 Yes it was hell. Mirroring yes.

G'day, from Melbourne, Australia 🦘🇦🇺 Thanks for posting. I'm female, and I spoke with my therapist years ago about my abusive brother. She told me to move out of my parents house. I'm still saving up to leave home. I want to buy a studio apartment in the city. It might take me the next 5 to 10 years 😁👍

If you want to continue to be happy, please stop trying to get back into a relationship with a woman... All will go backwards if you do, and you seem like you can't wait to go back to the plantation... Please, don't make that mistake again!! Having a woman in your life does not mean happiness, much rather the opposite 90% of the time

bro yr not getting enough love

I can relate. I am trying to get separated from my wife but some times doubts starts to forming in my mind. If I am the one wrong or She might change with time. But some part in me know she not gonna change. It might get worse even. I hope for a better life and that's what keeps me going.

I have been through this. Too many times. These women present psychologically as an abusive man. They hate women and they view men as predatory and sexually deviant or weak and pathetic. Commit this pattern to memory, “idealize, devalue, discard, replace”. You cannot manage an intimate relationship with these women. They feel entitled to abuse you and derive sadistic pleasure from doing it. Each time you leave and return, you will be punished. Some of these women are capable of murder. The only tool in your arsenal that will be effective is permanent “no contact”. When you leave, you will get smeared. They will smear you to anyone that will listen. Ignore it. They will abuse anyone they are involved in a romantic relationship with. Period. Don’t be tempted to peak into their world after you leave. It’s all a show. Any interaction with them is an opportunity for them to abuse you. Don’t waste your time arguing, explaining, or debating when you go. Get out quickly and quietly. Statistically, the most dangerous time for a victim of abuse is when they are leaving or when they are returning. They will make multiple attempts to pull you back in. They may hoover periodically for years. They are always looking for a quick and easy meal, the goal of “no contact” is to allow you to heal and if they do try to reach you, they give up and move on. Get out and stay out once you identify one of these women. Trust me gents, give ‘em enough rope and they will hang themselves. If you hang around, you will get blamed for the abusive or absent father that they want revenge on. Stay out of their kill box.

Great video. How can I get in touch with you?

Thanks for sharing your story.

This happened to me. More than once. Men are not allowed to talk about trauma or abuse. Started with my narc ex-wife. I jumped from abusive relationship to abusive relationship after that. The chaos “seemed” normal to me, a reflection of my own abusive childhood. When we do try to talk about this stuff, even with professionals, we are often shamed, blamed, and labeled as “weak” by both men and women. It’s an injustice. Enough.

These are all great ideas to help men but it’s all just lip service because men don’t get helped as I am now at the end of a narcissistic relationship that has all but killed me. No one will help me get my money back from her, no one will give me shelter or a Car…all the things my abuser has provided has now taken away so I can’t leave…I sit as I write this in fear she is plotting to either set me up by the cops and get me sent back to prison or something worse…I haven’t slept in 3 days, my son won’t listen to me and he is the only family I have left alive as my parents died months apart in 2021 my step father passed a few month after mom so needless to say I’ve lost contact his family, my fathers family won’t talk to me for some sin my father had committed and I don’t personally know any family from my moms family. I’m totally alone , I can’t leave because of my condition of probation requirements. I’ve truly been backed into a corner I feel and I can’t fight back.I think if I am dead I’ll have it

this really hits close to home...thank you for making this video.

Chilling. My wife to a T. Dud all of these to me. Start a fight when you are trying to go somewhere: How could you leave when you made me upset? Cut up all my clothes while I was at church. That was the end.

When did you meet my wife? This is my story almost down to the last detail.

Men are verbally abused and extorted everyday by wives, girlfriend or lovers knowing we can't do without pussy

The truth is men are not abusive but under pressure to bend to the unnecessary and unusual demands of society. A man who is abusive has been abused hundred times over.

To everyone who has been abused like this..I’m sorry you went through it because genuine compassion is not everywhere may those who inflict pain be measured be by their actions. Thank you friend this is very familiar

This perfectly sums up everything I’ve been through in the past year. I have bipolar disorder type 1 and she has repeatedly taken advantage of my mental illness and used everything from my manic episodes to extort me to my depressive episodes to keep me from leaving (ie making me feel like I need her) I decided to leave a little over a week ago and I’m currently homeless living out of my car. The emotional roller coaster cost me everything; the roof over my head, my mental stability, and worst of all the child we had together, who she refuses to let me see now citing my homelessness and emotional instability. Despite all this she repeatedly has begged me to come back. She is truly the most manipulative, narcissistic person I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting. She showed me what I wanted to see, sunk her hooks into me and trapped me with her by convincing me to have a child with her. Only after she got pregnant did she show me her true colors. I’m working intensively with my therapist and psychiatrist to manage my symptoms and process the last year of hell I’ve been through. I’m hoping it will get better but right now I feel hopeless, helpless and like things will always remain the same. My biggest fear is that I will either end up dead or back with her. I honestly don’t know which one is worse. D****, if you’re reading this, you have no power over me anymore. I will not put up with it anymore. I still love you and care about you but I refuse to be your emotional punching bag anymore. I truly hope you get the help you so desperately need.

This video deserves millions of views. You were my voice in a way. Thank you

Do they leave you alone when you go no contact. She always said i can find better, leave me alone, let me move forward as I was always trying to fix things. I bought her a ring, and we had an argument and instead of talking about the issue, she called me a motherfucker and slap me on the arm. I walked away, she tried calling 4 times, texted me to say pick up the phone. She then wrote an email saying that I will never realise all the hurt i have inflicted on her, that i always play the victim, but thats fine, I dead to her now

Thank you. Just, thank you.

I was in a coercive and covert abusive relationship for 25 years. It did a lot of damage. She was a classic narcissist and ‘gas lighter’. She drove me crazy and blamed me for everything. I can identify with what this guy is saying. It was relentless. My dad was also was an abuser and I knew nothing else when I left home aged 18 to get away from him. At 19 I met her and married her at 22. I couldn’t see it was abuse because I just didn’t know any other environment. If you think you are being abused please get to a safe place and seek help quickly. Very quickly. Don’t compromise. I have depression, anxiety and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a result. 😳 Thank you for posting this video.

Thank you for going public. It’s not an easy thing to do. It has helped me beyond measure.

Thank you so much for confronting this hugely complex and difficult area. I have been through it. I hope so much you are healing.

First of all I commend you on your courage to speak out and shred light on what is a Taboo subject in Western Society. A Woman as an Abuser. Your channel is good so keep up the good work.

Thank you.

Thank you.