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Newt Bailey
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Exceptional Workplace Communication is truly possible. I'm talking about the kind of workplace communication that creates the kind of workplace you'd be excited to go to on a Monday morning?
What Communication Dojo Participants are saying #2
Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo.
In this video: More comments and testimonials from participants in Newt Bailey's "Communication Dojo" workshop.
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[ABOUT ME]
My name is Newt Bailey and I'm the founder of Communication Dojo. My passion is to help people connect, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually satisfying change that lies within conflict. I'm convinced that personal growth and change in consciousness is essential if we're to bring about the changes we want to see in our communities and our world.
Since I started studying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2005 I've set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. I believe strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo is both a place where I teach the NVC practices, skills and awareness I use in my own life, and also a place where I experiment with new teaching tools, resources and ideas.
Since 2006 I've been facilitating NVC groups, leading workshops and retreats, and developing my unique approach in public settings and organizations in the corporate and nonprofit sectors. Some of my greatest steps in my personal understanding of NVC came from working with prisoners and parolees. I've taught NVC, NVC mediation and NVC coaching across the USA and in Europe.
In this video: More comments and testimonials from participants in Newt Bailey's "Communication Dojo" workshop.
[WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-IN CLASS]
www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-nvc-online-class
[WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-IN PRACTICE SESSION]
www.communicationdojo.com/weekly-practice-session
[COMMUNICATION AND CONFLICT COACHING]
www.communicationdojo.com/client-services
[IN-PERSON CLASSES IN SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA]
Please click on "Event List" on my website and look for "IN-PERSON" events
www.communicationdojo.com
[RESOURCE PAGE]
www.communicationdojo.com/resource-page
[PLAYLISTS]
ua-cam.com/play/PL1JH0JlVZVC_rT19t5atCv2xvwIbhciJf.html
Other playlists: www.youtube.com/@CommunicationDojo/playlists
[ABOUT ME]
My name is Newt Bailey and I'm the founder of Communication Dojo. My passion is to help people connect, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually satisfying change that lies within conflict. I'm convinced that personal growth and change in consciousness is essential if we're to bring about the changes we want to see in our communities and our world.
Since I started studying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2005 I've set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. I believe strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo is both a place where I teach the NVC practices, skills and awareness I use in my own life, and also a place where I experiment with new teaching tools, resources and ideas.
Since 2006 I've been facilitating NVC groups, leading workshops and retreats, and developing my unique approach in public settings and organizations in the corporate and nonprofit sectors. Some of my greatest steps in my personal understanding of NVC came from working with prisoners and parolees. I've taught NVC, NVC mediation and NVC coaching across the USA and in Europe.
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Відео
What Communication Dojo participants are saying...
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. In this video: Comments and testimonials from participants in Newt Bailey's "Communication Dojo" workshop. [WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-IN CLASS] www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-nvc-online-class [WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-IN PRACTICE SESSION] www.communica...
"You made me look like a complete fool!" (part 2)
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In this video: Continuing to look at a possible response to someone who approaches you after a meeting and, showing clear annoyance or anger, says "You made me look like a complete fool in that meeting"? Please contact me about bringing communication training and coaching into your workplace: www.newtbailey.com/ For public workshops, practices sessions and coaching please visit: www.communicati...
You made me look like a complete fool!
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In this video: How might you respond if someone approaches you after a meeting and, showing clear annoyance or anger, says "You made me look like a complete fool in that meeting"? Please contact me about bringing communication training and coaching into your workplace: www.newtbailey.com/ For public workshops, practices sessions and coaching please visit: www.communicationdojo.com/
Listening to "Good News"
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] When someone is talking about what's going well for them, we can often be lost for words. In this video Newt and Kathryn play with ways of listening to "good news" - ways which build connection and enhance the speaker's experience of...
Responding to Anger
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] Suggestions on how to respond to anger without fanning the flames of further disconnection and conflict! Thanks to Kathryn Aaker! [WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-IN CLASS] www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-nvc-online-class [WEEKLY ONLINE ...
Connected Communication - An introduction
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] Newt Bailey (Collaborative Trainer at Bay Area Nonviolent Communication) introduces the communication model he teaches (often known as Nonviolent Communication (NVC) or Compassionate Communication). Executive Producer, Director, Came...
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in Action (Part 3)
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] Isabella (Joya Cory www.joyacory.com/) and Simon (Newt Bailey) have a rather tense conversation. Simon attempts to use Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in the form of self-empathy, empathy, and self-expression and ...
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in Action (Part 2)
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] Celina (Elena Gardella) and Isabella (Joya Cory www.joyacory.com/) chatting in the kitchen. Celina decides to use a little of Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in response to unrequested advice. [WEEKLY ONLINE DROP-...
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in Action (Part 1)
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Please scroll down to find out how you can learn and practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC), aka "Connected Communication," at Communication Dojo. [IN THIS VIDEO] Simon (Newt Bailey) and Celina (Elena Gardella) start to fight. Simon recently read Marshall Rosenberg's book "Nonviolent Communication (NVC) - A Language of Life," and he tries to use what he learned to respond in a new way. [WEEKLY...
Hey Newt it's Patrick I just saw you in California on Bart. Good to meet you, it's really cool when you meet a 1st generation user of NVC. Like you're the ones who will pass it on to the next generation of people. Keep up the good work. Maybe some day I'll attend a NVC workshop in the bay and we'll meet again. Peace 👍🌏
@@patrickkennedy5308 Thanks Patrick! I look forward to that!
This was so well done! Thanks for making NVC easy to understand. It is such an important topic for everyone to learn. .... but the concepts were not so clear from the articles I've read. Thank you again!!
Great..
Why do the subtitles not match what is said?
Thanks for letting me know. The subtitles I'm seeing look like they're Russian, although I'm not enough of a linguist to be sure. They were added by someone out there in UA-cam land. I have a vague memory of someone asking permission to add them. Sadly I don't speak or understand the language they're written in. I'll try and find someone to look over them and even replace them!
@@newtbailey the ones I saw were in English and they're very different from what is spoken. It's like they are conveying basically the same meaning but using different words, and it's not a word here and there, it's throughout the whole video. Anyway, just thought I would let you know.
Hi, I am learning NVC and I am new at it. My spouse and I are having trouble with hearing one another. He feels I dnt hear him and I feel he does not hear me. He thinks that although my feels are mine and he's not responsible for how I feel. It feels like my feeling are not important
Thank you so much for this. It was so helpful. I get stuck that I am not the only person who blames, judges and criticise. Even when I accept this for my part the other person then make it like they were not judging, blaming. It was just me. And I am aware that's also a judgement on my part on them. But I guess I am not able to generate that kind of empathy and make it sound like I am the only one who is blaming and not them. I also know that this is not helpful. But I also don't want to take all the blame. Much appreciate if there is anyway to clarify this. With much gratitude. 😇😊🙏
What about talking about his needs??
Such a good example! Thank you for this short video which in quick manner represents how NVC works
That is it, what I have been looking for all my life :)
Beautiful modeling and realistic situations. Thank you! I could hear the shift take place and noticed the de-escalation in the tone of voices. Well done. All this takes such repetition and practice practice practice, right?
Hi, Question: for me i get so scared of the expression of anger that it is hard for me to communicate at all. What can i do in those situations?
Ah ha ! That was someting. Thank you. Very much like an mma instructor said. "You got to test to known if your tecknik is any good." 😍😘
Well said
Recognize what you are experiencing and what you want to be experiencing is golden!
NVC is a religious cult.
Newt, these videos are really helpful to me, they explain in practical terms how to apply NVC in a way I understand. I would love you to post more videos. Are there any planned?
Hi Chris, Thank you for the feedback. Right now I'm working on videos for my online courses (findable at communicationdojo.com). I also have some longer audio I'll be uploading to UA-cam soon.
you say "ok, cool" to her suggestion "go to museum, get lunch, go shopping" it seems me that you are totally bored with that suggestion and perhaps even resentful of that option. in fact, asking her "what do you want to do today?" is likely the beginning of the problem in this interaction, since you are disconnecting yourself from your needs and giving her the right to choose for both of you how to spend your day. then it seems like you want to take some of your individuality and power back, but you are afraid to do so and so you make a passive-aggressive joke "anything that does not involve your mom, huh?". I guess it's a nice example of violent communication, but the way I see it, the problem is in your relationship dynamics and your violent communication is just a symptom of your being disconnected from your own needs. then you give empathy to yourself and to her. now how about her giving empathy to you or you standing up for yourself and asking her to hear you out about your need for individuality and the need to be yourself in the relationship? that's the core issue for me in your relationship example.
Yes, I very much like the idea of both members of a couple listening to each other with empathy. I also like the NVC teaching that, very often, "Empathy before education" is a guideline that can support connection. I'm playing Simon as someone very new to NVC, who decides to start with empathy for Celina, rather than immediately "educating" Celina about his own needs. This video is one of a set of three where the primary intention was to show some early stages of trying to use NYC in dialogue 26th family members. In the next one we show Celina both giving and asking for empathy while in conversation with her mom. My hope was to show that we can start taking steps with NVC even if they're just tentative first steps. It's definitely a journey though, to take a relationship from habitual blame, judgment, criticism, demands etc. into ever deeper living of the principles described by NVC. Thanks for your comment.
Thanks for this Newt. The hardest part for me is that when I communicate in this way there often is no opening, no intimacy that opens up. I appreciate your description that we keep checking in with ourselves. I love how this way of communicating really gives us true power on the battlefield, it just doesn’t always feel that way probably because I’m so used to “power” being something I have over someone, or that I want to reach an agreement so that things can feel nice, but human relationships are often not very nice at all, and as i am learning, this is not a bad thing. It’s actually quite thrilling. Thanks for sharing!
Your comment reminds me of Kelly Bryson's NVC book "Don't be nice be real"
Brilliant, thanks
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Hi! I'm sorry I don't want to be a trigger for an irritation.. Just decided to check in with you - in case you forgot about me. I'm still waiting for the Russian subtitles to be approved for this part... and I wanted my students to watch this part too before we meet for the last final time for our NVC practice on Friday. Coz it has those part that especially appreciate and want them to see! IAnd autotranslate option doesn't do a good job, it is rather misleading. So I would appreciate if you could approve my subtitles asap... Thanks in advance.
Thanks for the reminders. I just published them. Thank you so much!
Yey! Just submitted Russian subtitles for this part as well. By the way, American English version has a few imperfections in terms of punctuation and as well the name Celina is spelled as Selena there. You might want to check it out and correct there. You know I have to confess something... It's been almost 10 years I live away from Russia, and I internalized English to the extent it became a language I think in and easily express myself in. So sometimes I KNOW and FEEL the meaning behind some English words or American expressions I would not know how to translate precisely in Russian. There were quite a few in this video. The journey of finding a proper translation/equivalent in Russian for them in this video moved me with another edge of beauty I have not seen in them before... It is also moving to see that level of honesty you express here in the process - commenting what's alive in you... how you feel upset and you need a pause to find out what's happening to you and understand things for yourself... I was really impressed by this part as I watched it with so much attention probably at least 20 times today... I never saw anyone doing it before. I think I will try it next time I have a moment when I hear a hard message like that. Showing yourself in such vulnarability and humanness actually seems to disarm the other who came to attack. So I think I got my aha moment that I'd like to mention during my next NVC practice group gathering. Thank you! Can't wait to see these subtitles approved soon. Xox
Thank you. I just did some corrections to the English subtitles. Thank you for the feedback too! Yes. Attention to what's true in the present moment, down to whatever is the most vulnerable thing to express. Sometimes that's the only way to find connection with another person.
Ok. Added English subtitles and Russian ones here as well. I did the English ones as it is easier for me to translate the text rather than audio. And auto-generated ones are not so good - they are incorrect in so many places. The only word I had a difficulty to hear and recognize was around 33rd second... Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think what I wrote didn't change the meaning. She is saying that what's happening to her at work is a routine kind of thing - nothing unusual. Look forward to see my subtitles approved as I need them asap. Will do the same for part 3 tomorrow. It takes 2 hours to do each video even though each video is crazy short.
Awesome, thank you! I just went out and made some edits and published it. I think if you read through the English ones again you might find some places where you want to change the Russian translation based on my rewording of the English. I've published the Russian subtitles too...although I'm proceeding completely on trust as I can read not one word of Russian!
@@newtbailey Thank you for trusting me! And please don't worry - you can! :) I'm not a professional translator, but my recent experience in translation and listening/reading to other professional translators showed me to my surprise that I am pretty good at it. I made an official translation work this year - it is an intro to Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions that can be found at www.ecstatic-birth.com (Sheila Kamara Hay is my teacher and a business partner) That's my other passion in life - being a birth educator, Ecstatic Birth Practitioner, and bringing new messages across cultures I live in. + I've been sharing NVC for this past year on a level that made me think of considering going through CNVC trainer certification process. It is just a matter of time (hard to find time for inperson training while being a mom of 2 kids under 5). This year I basically created and ran a pilot version of NVC course in Russian that is ready to be monetized. That's a course I want these subtitles for. There is almost nothing to show people NVC in action in Russian so far. There is only 1 certified trainer and 1 candidate in Russia as much as I am aware of, and I have not seen them creating anything like that, and for me it is a bit challenging to create a similar video as I live in Guatemala and there are not so many Russian speakers around you know. Even my husband is not. :) Anyway, back to subtitles subject: I submitted a new version of Russian subtitles for this video. The changes were very minor. Can you please, also revise and approve the subtitles for the 1st part of this video trilogy? (The subtitles still didn't appear there) I will work on part 3 in the afternoon. Thank you!
This is so cool. And beautiful.
Just submitted Russian subtitles for this part. Will do for part 2 and 3 tomorrow. Please, approve, so I can repost for my Russian students. We will focus on NVC dance at our next meeting, and I find these videos very helpful to watch before practice. Thank you in advance! And with a heart full of gratitude for letting me doing it. Hugs!
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@@newtbailey Maybe... :) but not right now. I'm overloaded with work for the moment. Just started studying at the course about how to create my own online school. :) But I have some questions about CNVC certification process and I wonder if you could help me to clarify them? If yes, where shall I write to you?
@@birthwithpleasure9685 newt@communicationdojo.com
Hi! I love your videos with NVC in action - all 3 parts! They are awesome demos! Can you please open an option to submit subtitles? I'd like to add subtitles in Russian, so I could share it with my class. :) Thank you!
Thank you for this feedback. I'm glad you like the videos! I'll look into switching on the subtitles option...
I think if you follow this link you can add in subtitles: ua-cam.com/users/timedtext_video?v=tYDa8Zl0AMg&ref=share
and if you replace tYDa8Zl0AMg with the code for other videos of mine on the same channel you can create subtitles for them too. I'll also go switch on the same functionality for the Communication Dojo channel on UA-cam.
@@comdojo I actually don't need the link :) Now since you changed the settings, I can open settings on my side - click subtitles and then I see the option "add subtitles" :) This is great! :) I may add some today! :)
@@birthwithpleasure9685 Great! I hope your translation will lead to benefit for many Russian speakers!
Those are so great! The book and articles are very informative but actually seeing it in action is very very helpful.
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Just discovered your channel(s), just what I was looking for! Scripted but not stilted conversations about how to engage with a way of communication to ourselves and each other. In this video, I like others felt so triggered and pissed off and shut down listening/seeing Convo #1. I've been on the receiving end of that sort of 'conversation' and I feel soooo invisible (helpless even, ugh!), and underneath, a rage, and underneath that, a HUGE sadness. But the thing is - I would LOVE to see another video about how the character/Kathryn responds, and a couple/few different ways in which she could do that, beyond what's represented here. I realize this video is meant to focus on Newt's character. A spin-off about Kathryn would be so great, how could she respond in a way that voices what she really wants in the convo, and from him, and in general. You know? Maybe you've covered it and I just haven't found it yet. I also find well-'acted' scenarios like this to be really helpful for me on a somatic level, just as if it were 'really' happening. I can feel how my body is even re-arranging itself around healthy modeling as though I were witnessing it in person IRL. Thank you so much for the genuine spirit you all bring to these videos, it's really great!
Hi Victoria, Thank you for your feedback. I feel encouraged to make more videos! Not sure if you've seen this one, but I think it somewhat addresses what you wanted to see: ua-cam.com/video/KuuLFIb11Pw/v-deo.html
@@newtbailey Hi - thanks for your reply, Newt. I did view the one that you've linked to here. I remember thinking wow, that's amazing, to think that people can actually soothe themselves and get in touch with what's going on so that they can be open and curious instead of blindly furious or hurt, to connect with someone else. That feels foreign and unreachable to me in most moments. I feel way more triggered in this video though, the dynamic, the guy/girl, the language, just everything - I live through it almost every day with other people and mostly walk around with a vanished sense of humor and a compounded sense of disbelief and debilitating anger (yes therapy/ yes meditatation / yes reflection and workshops and and and lol). Anyway - thanks for checking in, and if you and Kathryn ever do feel inspired to make another video that would be pretty great.
There is a reason for a man to criticise her mother, he still have unresolved feelings about her. He should opened up and tell her what is really bothering him. He didn’t express his needs.
Yes, lots more for my character to learn about Nonviolent Communication here. I'm playing him here like someone who has only just read the NVC book and is just starting to try communicating using what he's learned. First baby steps!
It’s a struggle when the other person doesn’t have the willingness to go down this path of communicating.
Matthew Freye I agree. *And* I believe that if you commit to integrating NVC in your life...not just techniques of putting words together differently, but building a practice of self-connection and developing your skill with empathic listening and "self-expression from the heart," then something will change in the relationship. You might find that effective communication begins to grow with the other person when you change yourself. Or you might find that even though the other person is not changing, you no longer have an expectation or demand on them to meet certain needs... Living authentically from the heart, with both kindness and authenticity, is likely to lead to some changes in your life, including in your relationships with others. Whatever happens though, if you've integrated NVC you will not carry "enemy images" of the other person in your mind, and you will see the humanity in all they do and say, even if you don't like it. Lots more could be said on this... My summary to people is "don't let someone else's level of willingness to change be the deciding factor on your willingness to change."
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Nobody has to agree with my willingness to see what there needs are. When some needs are hard to recognize in others, it is a signal that that need is probably not being met in me. Ex: "you went to the gym when I was sleeping while we both agreed that you would not go but that it was my turn to go in the morning." Self empathy: (I was scared so I agreed. I was scared so I did not tell here where I went. I saw an opportunity and I went to the gym) To my partner: Did you felt scared because you did not know where I was? Did you feel angry that our agreement was not respected? Did you feel disrespected? (I don't know. I m trying)
wow, this is awesome! Please post more!!!
Thank you for that feedback! I'm making more...and there are already some others at ua-cam.com/users/CommunicationDojo
And there's some good stuff here too: ua-cam.com/users/baynvcplaylists
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helped!
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How do you use NVC on covert narcissist who provokes you all the time in subtle ways and doesn’t admit if u confront?
Remember, the narcissist is only provoking you because they need constant validation. That is their (need), which means their need is being unmet so they keep provoking everyone around them. They probably hate themself worse than anyone out there. Persist on getting to their root feelings. The narcissist is truly scared of how they really feel and that's why they cover up their feelings. The narcissist wants to make everything about them, so go ahead and make it all about them. They will lie at first, but keep prying, the narcissist will realize how they're lying to themselves. If they try to blame you for how they're feeling, ignore this, that's a self-defense mechanism, and still trying to get their unmet need. Keep pushing. Once you unveil their true feelings, then you can connect and tell them you're feeling.
the older lady is a pretty good actor actually lol
Wow great. Narrowing it down to just the 3 things, 3 options, really helps me a lot. I think that just remembering these 3 options in stressful situations can be really helpful to me. Thanks
Thank you
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Thank you
It is really unnerving when someone uses NVC on you. They seem like a scripted person. You feel like there is this procedural wall that has come down between you and the other person.
Kelly E Montana Yes. Many people who come to my workshops talk about having had that experience with partners, roommates etc. who have learned a little NVC. Maybe they've learned just enough NVC to put others off NVC for life. This video is meant to demonstrate this difficulty, and at least to encourage people new to NVC to be transparent about what they're trying to do. I generally recommend that people not think in terms of "using NVC on others." That mindset is fraught with difficulties....like "using NVC to get my way" or "trying to force others to use NVC" or "using NVC to pretend that I care even if I actually don't." I recommend using NVC firstly and primarily as a way of understanding myself, and seeing the humanity in others...seeing what's important to them, and that what's important to them is just as important as what's important to me, no more no less. If I really get that then the way I communicate with others will be changed, but I won't be "using NVC on others," I'll just be talking like someone who cares about others, while still caring about myself.
Maybe her mom puts the man down, possibly in subtle ways, disrespecting him. You then focus on her feelings. Then the conversation becomess about how you're (the man) blaming, judging and criticizing. She feels better and agrees with your self criticism. No thanks. The man's needs and feelings about the mom never happened. I believe that never happened because the other partner wouldn't be understanding, apologetic and self abnegating. I didn't get that what's important to the man is just as important to the woman. The man's needs and feelings didn't exist in the video except to verbally say he wants connection, which was achieved by focusing only on her feelings and needs.
@@thorn9351 For sure, sometimes someone leads with the empathy. Attempting to integrate NVC in my life has meant frequently being the one who is leading with empathy. People are frequently living in an empathy desert - not getting it and not giving it. I can perhaps change that by giving it. Often (though, I concede, not always) once a person feels thoroughly heard for their feelings, needs etc. they start, quite "organically," to become more interested in what's going on for the other person. I don't want to wait for the other person to see my feelings and needs as equally important as theirs before I'm willing to see theirs as equally important as mine. At the same time, if I'm going to build a life with someone I'll certainly be speaking up honestly if my sense is that the empathy is only ever flowing in one direction. That would not be a tolerable status quo for me.
Perfect messages !!! Congrats !!! 👍😊
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This actually shows another conversation that this couple should have but they are not having, "I thinks that jokes hides a little pinch of honesty that your boyfriend/husband is not yours mom fan for some reason" show compassion today will not solve yours feelings towards her mom. You may avoid one argument today but I visioning another way bigger tomorrow. Be honest is a need that doesn't always come in the package of nice words.
Thanks for the comment. Looks like we didn't quite show what we were aiming for :) We're never aiming for a package of nice words without honesty, but rather a package of words that contain equal honesty and compassion. It's an interesting balancing act, and always possible to slip one way or the other. A quote I like is "Honesty without compassion is brutality. Compassion without honesty is powerlessness." My approach is to communicate about whatever is coming up and aim to resolve whatever is presenting itself, then if there's another issue, or a bigger issue, still to resolve, I move onto that one as soon as it appears. Step-by-step toward greater peace and connection between us, which can then spread out to other people around us...including your partner's mom :).
This is so ahead of my time ( at least here in italy ; for the moment ) ....fantastic!!! could it be linked with compassion and loving kindness ?
samuelesdrucciolo Very much connected to compassion and loving kindness, I think. You might be able to find trainers in Italy through CNVC.org
facebook.com/cnvmediazioneitalia/
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That was really beautiful
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Brilliant! Just fantastic. I'm Working with teams in a company. Helping them talk more skillfully with each other
I agree with the other comments, this is really helpful, thank you very much
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it sucks
Thank you, Im learning so much from this!!! please would you make more of this?
I'd love to make more. I've actually made a lot more videos with my collaborator Ali Miller, you can see a few in the communicationdojo channel here in UA-cam. The rest are awaiting final edits so we can launch them... Thanks for the comment :-)
Very nice example. Thank you!
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Awww! The dreaded Mother in Law comes thru in the end :-)
This was well done and very helpful.
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Ugh when I watched version one it triggered so much anger inside me! I just cant do people anymore...I am at a point where I am super frustrated with people that have never hear about what empathy really is.
Enjoyed this.
my greatest fear is that my gf will say this to me one day as I am practicing. Thank you for this encouragement
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@@newtbailey Could you submit English subtitles too?