Riley Conder
Riley Conder
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The mistake everyone makes (you’re doing it wrong)
In this video I discuss how to overcome comparison, improve your self talk, and actually self improve. Most people forget that self improvement is a personal journey, here is a little of what I have learned on mine.
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00:00 - My self improvement journey
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КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @AaronRHale
    @AaronRHale 7 годин тому

    Appreciate you making this 💪 I had that “people are mirrors” realisation a couple weeks ago, and it’s changed the way I look at and interact with people. I used to be so focused on trying to control the things outside myself, like the behaviours of others and their perception of me, rather than focusing on what I actually can control, which is my perceptions, intentions and actions. Still figuring out how to put that in practice and be aware of in interactions on a regular basis, but once you realise that what other people do (for the most part) has nothing to do with you, that pressure kind of lifts off your shoulders.

  • @kombimabunda1030
    @kombimabunda1030 2 дні тому

    You have a beautiful voice

  • @Thierfavcathy
    @Thierfavcathy 7 днів тому

    ORRRRE MAYBE YOU NEED TO MIND YO OWN BUSINESS AND LET ME HATE MYSELF

  • @SorchaIsibeal
    @SorchaIsibeal 8 днів тому

    Thank you I needed this today!

  • @timothykooiman9236
    @timothykooiman9236 9 днів тому

    Love my mess

  • @reyganbanaga2321
    @reyganbanaga2321 10 днів тому

    You're right! Like a man facing the sun the shadow Is always following. Don't chase the blessing let the blessing follow you. Ps. 23:6 KJV

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 8 днів тому

      @@reyganbanaga2321 beautifully said 🙏

  • @matthewwilliams1187
    @matthewwilliams1187 14 днів тому

    I wish we were friends

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 8 днів тому

      @@matthewwilliams1187 let’s be friends!

    • @matthewwilliams1187
      @matthewwilliams1187 8 днів тому

      @@therileyconder I thought you would never answer 😔 and awesome. It's nice to meet you.

  • @bigsmellyman9578
    @bigsmellyman9578 Місяць тому

  • @brandonadam1665
    @brandonadam1665 Місяць тому

    The paul brothers' long lost 3rd sibling.

  • @Kapitan07
    @Kapitan07 Місяць тому

    Why exactly does there need to be an intention? You can't just take it without any?

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder Місяць тому

      You can do whatever you want to however I don't think it is a good idea. Psychedelics are no joke, and I like to say "will abuse you, if you abuse them". You can definitely go into it with the intention of wanting to have an interesting or enlightening experience - I personally just don't recommend doing them just to do them / escape because they have repercussions.

  • @ButtSeggsFTW
    @ButtSeggsFTW Місяць тому

    sup

  • @ebenflown
    @ebenflown Місяць тому

    Right on, Riley

  • @bigsmellyman9578
    @bigsmellyman9578 Місяць тому

    Hell yeah

  • @chuchotron7967
    @chuchotron7967 2 місяці тому

    I really needed this

  • @ilyasbouelbaraka7291
    @ilyasbouelbaraka7291 2 місяці тому

    not trying to hate or anything, but you your content does not reach millions of people please pin another source if it does in another platform to correct me if I'm wrong. much support from morocco!

    • @roven7730
      @roven7730 2 місяці тому

      thats part of his visualization ;)

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      @@roven7730 you got it haha! only a matter of time, more consistent content on the way

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      @roven7730 nailed it, but I appreciate your willingness to comment!

  • @misterben88
    @misterben88 2 місяці тому

    Proof of u earn million dollar?😅

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      stay tuned for a video I'll post soon breaking down my real estate career with screenshots of my earnings since I started

  • @merkins87
    @merkins87 2 місяці тому

    As a guy building up after a big accident & surgery, it was rather serendipitous being suggested this video, especially as I'm trying to visualise getting myself back to my former lean, competitive state. Thank you for the video.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      With visualization you got it in the bag my friend. Wishing you a speedy recover & comeback

    • @merkins87
      @merkins87 Місяць тому

      @@therileyconder thank you mate, all the best to you too!

  • @DiegoAllune
    @DiegoAllune 2 місяці тому

    This is awesome man- super articulate. This practice is also central to tantric yoga techniques, which are fundamental to spiritual evolution and have been practiced since the the dawn of humanity (though usually to overcome worldly struggles and desires). Use wisely!

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      Thank you my friend! Also - yes, use wisely. The same tool can be used to create your deepest desires, or destroy you with your deepest fears!

  • @jamesjones8552
    @jamesjones8552 2 місяці тому

    Yes, ruts are challenging. Feeling sad, lost, and lonely. Hoping that someone understands and will pull me through but find out that i have to do this so that i can become stronger. Just see the light, do the steps to get it out then do things daily to feel better. Lastly, never hurt yourself. Just Love yourself. Ask for help to. ☮️🙏

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      you got this my friend! can't get tough without being tested.

  • @NationalATM
    @NationalATM 2 місяці тому

    💥💥💥

  • @awolf81
    @awolf81 2 місяці тому

    Probably a dick comment but it’s true. If ending your relationship was the hardest thing you’ve ever done. Your bar for hard things is quite low.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      Hahah I appreciate the comment - brother I've been through some hairy Shit like losing my brother. However when you are with someone since age 14 - and go that deep (engagement etc) it's brutal. Subjective, but brutal.

    • @awolf81
      @awolf81 2 місяці тому

      @@therileyconder Ok, the end of a 14 year relationship would definitely change the vision of your life. But I think the loss of my older brother would be worse. Like you said, subjective.

  • @jaymondrichardson4873
    @jaymondrichardson4873 3 місяці тому

    This content is rich with insight. Thank you for sharing brother.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 2 місяці тому

      appreciate your support man! thank you!!

  • @floflo9562
    @floflo9562 3 місяці тому

    I always struggle with this when working even though I KNOW done is better than perfect, it's a constant struggle

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 3 місяці тому

      Haha I relate! I feel like this was what I needed to break that pattern.

  • @jaymondrichardson4873
    @jaymondrichardson4873 3 місяці тому

    Notion is fantastic!!🔥

  • @lameart2041
    @lameart2041 3 місяці тому

    You just read out everything I told myself after I got dumped a month ago. Thank you

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 3 місяці тому

      Glad this helped you my friend! Get excited because life is about to get way better!

  • @whyevencare1735
    @whyevencare1735 3 місяці тому

    My best friend killed himself a year ago. And i guess it changed me. Had trouble dealing whit it and became distant and moody. And becaus of that my partner left me. Now im trying to deal whit the loss of him and her at the same time. Thanks for any advice

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 3 місяці тому

      Sometimes hard things come in pairs, I can imagine that is tough as hell to deal with. I've learned that things happen for a reason, and it may not make any sense now but one day it will. If your partner left you during that time, it's probably for the best because you don't want someone who isn't there for you during dark times. Sorry to hear about your friend, do what you can to honor her in how you show up moving forwards - much love.

  • @adambaida4657
    @adambaida4657 3 місяці тому

  • @jaymondrichardson4873
    @jaymondrichardson4873 4 місяці тому

    I feel lucky that i incorporate 2 of the 3, without putting in much thought. Journaling however, has been the area I always let myself down in. Constantly wishing I had been journaling, wondering what thoughts I’ve had, that could potentially help me out when I need motivation, or simply having some memories written in my own words. I’ll commit to journaling/meditating. Thanks for the insightful video Riley!

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 3 місяці тому

      Appreciate the self reflection my friend. Journaling is the single best habit I have for overall quality of life, and it definitely is great to document all of your experiences. Looking forward to hearing how that, and meditation help you!

  • @Caramelinfused
    @Caramelinfused 4 місяці тому

    Thank you 😊

  • @raglm
    @raglm 4 місяці тому

    I got dumped about a month ago, and even though it’s not my first rodeo, it hurt so much. I thought I had really found the “one”, but complex trauma can be a bitch and it just happens that (at least now, it used to be worst) it gets triggered when I’m in a vulnerable state and fully committed to someone. I have come to terms with my part of it, wish this beautiful person the best, and know it was part of the journey. Now, I am better prepared to tackle my deficiencies. Long story short, thanks for the video, was very helpful…Stay strong everyone, onwards and upwards

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      I feel you my friend. In relationship is when we have a giant mirror exposing us to ourselves. It can be so great for growth, and also very challenging to cope with along the way. Give it time, learn from it, and keep your head up!

  • @justinalden3138
    @justinalden3138 4 місяці тому

    How do you learn to forgive someone?

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Realize that forgiving them isn't about them. It's about letting yourself off the hook from the resentment you are feeling, so you can find peace. It's like that one analogy around holding a grudge being like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die - it only hurts you. Find the lesson from the experience and person, gratitude for the growth, and then clarity on how to honor yourself moving forward with how you show up & how you choose to engage with the other person.

    • @justinalden3138
      @justinalden3138 4 місяці тому

      Thank you...that makes a lot of sense! I've always been a person that holds grudges and won't forgive or forget. I'm trying to change that and reinvent myself to be a better version of me.

    • @deerlow1851
      @deerlow1851 4 місяці тому

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  • @Neasi-he3eh
    @Neasi-he3eh 4 місяці тому

    Most underrated channel. Lot of things helped me, showed me another view how I can see my break up situation. Ty for that ❤️ even therapist cant helped me and say things like you here in 10 mins video. Big shout out to you brother. Ty

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Glad it helped you out. I know how you feel my friend

  • @CynthiaReddington
    @CynthiaReddington 4 місяці тому

    👏👏👏👏👏

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Thanks for the support, I appreciate it!

  • @terronmecham3849
    @terronmecham3849 4 місяці тому

    Your advice always hits home! 'So tuned to the story of other people’s lives that they aren’t paying attention to themselves' - this really resonated with me. It's a reminder I needed to hear to focus more on my own journey. Thank you for always sharing such valuable insights!

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Glad this resonated with you. I was just thinking about you the other day!

  • @Banukaperera-xf7cl
    @Banukaperera-xf7cl 5 місяців тому

    Yes thank you for sharing your story, it actually helps

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Glad to hear it, thanks for letting me know.

  • @BT-be8rh
    @BT-be8rh 6 місяців тому

    Great video! In the same thought as what’s this going to contribute to my life is return on investment, I used that when quitting alcohol and I’m using that to quit corn ( though I’m not a daily user ) now unlike alcohol, corn is free, so I equate my time to money there. Again appreciate the honesty of your video and yes triggers are very important to recognize and change.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 4 місяці тому

      Thanks for sharing some of your journey man! Eventually it won't even be something to tempt you because you'll outgrow it, but it can be difficult until then.

  • @nathanmontague7818
    @nathanmontague7818 6 місяців тому

    Riley: I appreciate your openness and telling your experience. I too have found that being honest and vocal with myself and others has opened a platform to talk about it safely without judgement. I commend you for sharing these moments with the world.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 6 місяців тому

      Thanks my brother! Appreciate the support, and am glad you found it valuable.

  • @RCoperator
    @RCoperator 7 місяців тому

    💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

  • @user-ck5rt2ci5h
    @user-ck5rt2ci5h 7 місяців тому

    Interesting Video!

  • @ryanlatterell2079
    @ryanlatterell2079 8 місяців тому

    Just lost an AMAZING relationship w my wife over this

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 8 місяців тому

      hang in there brother! some lessons are learned the hard way, but always lead to growth & a better life.

  • @HiHi-ek1dd
    @HiHi-ek1dd 9 місяців тому

    I will remember you when you blow up I am suprised you only have 96 subs, you will blow up if you continue respect.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 9 місяців тому

      thank you! that is the plan, and I appreciate your support!

  • @christopherpotter6753
    @christopherpotter6753 9 місяців тому

    I comming from a different circumstance that I had bad father figure and since my 16's I was conciusly mentally choosing myself my own father figure that I wished to live up to. Periodically I changed him. So if I faced a new situation or I set a new goal in life I could think about, this my favourite figure what would expect me where to reach, or so. (A Kinda shortened comment)

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 9 місяців тому

      everyone has a different experience and with that comes different challenges, thanks for sharing your experience!

  • @Lemendeer
    @Lemendeer 9 місяців тому

    I am lucky. My father died 10 years ago.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 9 місяців тому

      Sorry for your loss, learn what you can from who he was - and step into who you know you can be!

  • @behonestwithyourself3718
    @behonestwithyourself3718 9 місяців тому

    As an older guy this is all good advice I wish I had when I was younger. Keep it up man.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 9 місяців тому

      appreciate the support my friend! glad to hear it resonated!

  • @Divyv520
    @Divyv520 9 місяців тому

    Hey Christopher , really nice video! I was wondering if I could help you enhance Editing in your videos and also make a highly engaging Thumbnail which will help your video to reach to a wider audience .

  • @ShaneFuller333
    @ShaneFuller333 11 місяців тому

    LOVE IT bro. Great message.

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 6 місяців тому

      somehow just seeing this! appreciate it brother!

  • @sweetpie8928
    @sweetpie8928 11 місяців тому

    What the hell is he talking about .. is talking about turning into an owl 🦉

  • @PaulAutumnFireHunter
    @PaulAutumnFireHunter 11 місяців тому

    Solid message, Riley! I love how’s it broken into pieces…truth about planting good flower seeds into the subconscious soil of our minds…reminds me of the Book The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandingo taken and read daily in a specific pattern for 10 months…that book and method changed life for me in my early 20s by shifting overtime the subconscious programming of the mind!! 🔥 🎉❤

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 11 місяців тому

      Thank you brother! That book is still on my list, I appreciate the reflection - gets me fired up to read it!

  • @reyganbanaga2321
    @reyganbanaga2321 11 місяців тому

    BIG sense 💪

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 11 місяців тому

      Appreciate the support man, glad you enjoyed the video!

  • @bigsmellyman9578
    @bigsmellyman9578 11 місяців тому

    Hell yeah🔥🫡

    • @therileyconder
      @therileyconder 11 місяців тому

      Thanks for the support brother! 🫡