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very good ; you ought to upload more alike

I would think John Reed/Mrs.Reed from Jane Eyre might work for an example of overbearing from classic literature.

I'm not a mother with children per se, but I have noticed the devouring mother in myself in friendships and relationships... I often want to "fix" the other person rather than let them deal with their own problems themselves. It can be uncomfortable to sit in that lack of control, but trust is so important! To me, Kali represents a mother who cares for her children, but will also loosen her grip and let them experience adversity. She makes her children strong and independent.

This was an excellent video to watch on Mother's Day 2024. My late mother was neurotic and controlling.

Great video

Jung said that in the current civilization the feminine has not been integrated! I think it is a big mistake! I don't praise middle ages but at least they respected mother goddess!

Hey mom! armchairdeductions.wordpress.com/2019/04/16/the-borderline-mother-matriarchy-and-its-discontents/

This is gold. Thank you!!

😂 this is awsome, especially like how you humanized narcissistic perants to show it actually comes from a place of wanting the best for the children but going about it all the wrong way. Its never just black and white. Would have loved to hear how much of the narcissistic perant is the child's fault. Or What the children in this situation should do?

Funny how in cases like this, the capacity for interpersonal violence in males might actually be reducing the harm that social media can do. For example, as a teen I got in more than one fight over comments made on social media- and as far as I’m aware the buck stopped with some good old fashioned pugilism. When you’re young there are fewer legal and health consequences to fighting and you establish a reputation early. Women don’t get that luxury very often

Good clip. I think this summarizes a very critical error in our "modern" human existence. Pleasure (or dopamine high) for its own sake leads to trouble and Huberman explains it using dopamine. Miyamoto Musashi wrote in the Dokkodo, “Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.”

ENMESHMENT TRAUMA. Enmeshment is a developmental form of trauma where you’re raised in environments where there is blurred, unclear, or a complete lack of boundaries between family members. In cases where enmeshment is present, members often have a difficult time differentiating their own emotions, needs, desires, and issues, from others in the dynamic. If dad is upset, then you are too. “I can’t be ok, if you’re not ok. So I need to fix others to feel safe." There’s excessive over-involvement and over-reliance on others to make decisions for you, with an over-expectation of receiving emotional support from you. This pattern gets hard-wired into your nervous system. Your intimate partnerships start to become chaotic: - lack of identity and sense of self, inability to think for oneself - fawning ("fixing" identity) - people-pleasing - excessive fear of conflict - trouble forming and maintaining healthy relationships - reliance on external validation - over-run by feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment - chronic health issues This creates a massive push/pull dynamic that’s characteristic of a Trauma Bond. Anyone who says “I’m done with relationships” is likely Enmeshed...

Anything like this on Fathers ?

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I’m not aware I have a “mother” nor “children”. I never conceived children.

Just read the archetypes link in the description and bought the moore/Gillette book. I want to leavevmy son to it, but also... connect, in the future

Really fascinating video! More! (please) 😀

The verucca salt example is very good, I can see that I have been afraid of my son's emotions.

I think rapunzel's mother is an extreme version of my mother. She has her narrative, a version of the truth that flatters her and she is quite good humoured if you reflect that back to her. But if you attempt to challenge her narrative, well hard hat, buckle in.

I was just wondering if there was a book that would explain what my mother has put me through (to my mother? maybe, if I'm brave enough). She's the controlling type but wouldn't she sees herself as perfect. eg, it's not that she never had the empathy to hear me when I was hurt, no, it's that I was always sensitive. It's not that I should have had the right to ask her to stop labelling me, no, it's that I HURT HER by asking to be heard. It's not that she was defensive when I tried to communicate something important with her, no, it's that I was out of line trying to give feedback. It's not that she gave me the silent treatment, it's that she was protecting herself from my aggression. It's not that she gaslighted me telling me that it was merely my perception that she gave me the silent treatment, it's ''Do the facts really matter?'' I feel like she almost drove me crazy. She certainly labelled me crazy.

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So interesting i love this area of analytical psychology. Also you're gorgeous as hell

Word salad.

The industrialist: John D. Rockefeller

New York teacher was John Gatto. He wrote "The Death of Education".

Do you believe there is a correlation between the tower meaning you outlined in this video and the tower found in tarot cards?

Wonder if the dynamic.between joan Crawford and her adopted daughter featured in the film "mommy dearest" would fit in this list?

I really needed to hear that the neglectful & neurotic mothers qualify as devouring too. Thank you 🙏

Orbanist Nazi State Media: You have met Viktor Orban, who is also often maligned by certain media outlets. Do you think what you could have read about him reflects reality? JBPeterson: Possibly, I can't say for certain. I know that one of the things your Leader is trying to do is reinstitute the metaphysical foundations of Hungarian culture. He might be lucky and succeed. Another guest of Führer Orban in the Nazi eagle nest, the Führer-Castle of Buda, Father Jim Blount: I would like to tell you a secret about Jesus and a secret about your prime minister. Another name for Jesus is Viktor.

I just had a therapist ignore my warnings that my partner was a narcissist, therapist told him all he needed to do was be positive and not discuss anything negative..he is now a narcissist on steroids.

Fantastic insight: we teach kids to focus on feelings rather than actions.

I think this is great, particularly the first 2. But, I do think you missed the mark on the over nurturing mother though. Over nurturing is not just from a place of people pleasing and avoiding conflict. Over nurturing can come from a place of deep neediness from the mother. A need to be wanted forever, a need for significance ('I am the perfect, selfless mother'). I would also have liked to have sen a bit more about a need for co-dependency and accolades ('My child is a product of me. My child is me. Therefore, everything great they do is related to me') - there are many many mothers who are over nurturing who do not shy away from conflict at all. I have found they can be quite defensive, actually. They can viciously defend their position, if challenged. But they will over nurture in an attempt to fill a void, retain, control, gain significance and self-congratulate.

This is why most Asians are good in math, engineering and music. We grew up with high expectations from our parents and they don't praise us. Our grading system are A = average, B = below average, C = can't eat dinner, D = don't come home, F = find a new family 😂

My first and only child (son) was born with a language delay. I found myself early on speaking for him even before he would try because it became painful to see him fail. Since then he has been in speech therapy and although a little behind others he has made honor role, makes many of his own choices and will respectfully disagree with me which I LOVE. I hope I didn't damage his psyche early on but I tell him why I am the way that I am and let him know he is loved. Great video!

I'm a neurotic narcissist. Lol.

You now should understand there are two dualities, time and matter. To accept time is the souls connection to all, to accept matter is your mortality and worth within this dimension. There are moments of forward and moments of need, I say now to you , never neglect neither. For never knows worth, neglect knows love and neither knows the difference

Just noticed you posted this video on my youngest daughters birthday, Sept.27, also Meatloaf's birthday, and Avril Lavigne's birthday.

Let's not put too much pressure on moms, as many of us are already suffering and overburdened. Effort to be a good mom, but not a perfect mom. Sometimes the best thing the burnt out mother can do is to give their child screen time and take their space.

Thank you so much for making this video!

It's all so clear now......nooo....not really....ohh..but it issss...🙄😜

Feelings…emotions….actions Feel whatever you want but cool down your motion and do not react immediately. 例you’re sad…revenge/complain/fight/etc….wait don’t go an attack…. Finally, you can have a better decision about acting or letting it go. From my point of view you cannot change your feelings, but you can control the outbursts of your emotions and you can decide the action. It’s difficult but not impossible

Yes perfect storm

Jordan B Peterson is on the payroll of Orban the Neonazi Terrorist leader organizer of the Magyar Gárda neonazi paramilitary group 2007-2010 and since the dictator of Hungary As the guest of Führer Orban in the Führer Castle of Buda, Knight Impotent B. Peterson: "my message to the Hungarians: Do not rebel against your leader! What your prime minister is trying to do is to restore the metaphysical foundation of the Hungarian race

ouch. yes. that rat lady is spot on.

Kapo Hazony and Jordan B Peterson are on the payroll of Orban the Neonazi Terrorist leader organizer of the Magyar Gárda neonazi paramilitary group 2007-2010 and dictator of Hungary As the guest of Führer Orban in the Führer Castle of Buda, Knight Impotent B. Peterson: "my message to the Hungarians: Do not rebel against your leader! What your prime minister is trying to do is to restore the metaphysical foundation of the Hungarian culture"

Flashing the ol' "Westside JP" in the thumbnail

I suspect holding this point of view (as you and I have both done faithfully for YEARS) is PRECISELY why we and our children (and I mean you and yours and me and mine specifically) are suffering from autoimmune diseases. Within our PSYCHE, you and I are literally teaching our bodies to attack themselves; the brain has carte blanche license to attack and destroy any rogue negative feeling instantly, and that is showing up in the body as well. As above, so below. "Rationality" and "Troubleshooting" and "Problem Solving" are literally our Drug of Choice. We haven't thought of it as such because we didn't fall into it or wake up one day wallowing in the gutter and asking ourselves, "How did I get here?" We CRAFTED this ourselves meticulously, with conscious intent and purpose. Because of our capacity for self-analysis AND our ability to thoroughly articulate ourselves TO ourselves and others AND to map out our internal territory with ease, we CRAFTED this new machinery with our thoughts, words, and actions. We uninstalled and dismantled (what I called) the "less effective" or "unevolved" or "primitive" or "immature" machinery that was running up there in our heads, and like skillful engineers, we installed these new streamlined contraptions that would dispense with negative emotions automatically and handily; no disreputable external substances required! A much cleaner fuel. Then we hooked it up to all the proper electrical outlets and now it's running like a charm with all the INTENDED consequences . . . AND some totally unintended autoimmune diseases that come from our doing precisely what you're suggesting here in this video. We created and implemented these systems without noticing that our "Rationality" serves for us the same purpose any junkie's drug of choice serves him--as a way to avoid having to look into that empty and unfillable space within us. And in that function, of course it's every bit as addictive and go-to for us as heroin or alcohol is to any junkie on the street. Then, when people accuse us of being bitter or heartless or jaded or whatever people are calling us these days (especially if they are inarticulate and poorly state their argument), we can dismiss both them and their argument because . . . A) we KNOW the materials and craftsmanship that went in to our argument and that it's watertight. (We ourselves unleashed a firehose into it for hours and hours and it's still ticking merrily away without a glitch.) B) They haven't got the verbal or intellectual capacity to complete with us. C) We saw the interview they did with so-and-so, which demonstrated their complete lack of integrity, while we, FOR YEARS, have systematically and continuously rooted out the slightest evil we find within ourselves ON SIGHT, ZERO mercy. And D) They deferred to their emotions and threw in a bunch of logical fallacies to boot. Which we would never do. And we just go on and on like that, in as much denial as any alcoholic ever. What makes ours different from other people's pet drugs? The fact that we are TOTALLY WILLING to be proven wrong by anybody who has the capacity to take us on, which is pretty much nobody. We can beg for someone to give us a sufficiently intelligent counterargument, but there is no one in sight. All the truly smart people already agree with us, at least as far as the intellectual machinery we're using is concerned. Obviously; they've installed their own similar inventions based on the same first principles we based ours on. I still respect you, my friend. But we are WRONG. We are dead wrong if we keep on this path. Yes, we should keep whatever baby, but the Frankenstein's Monster has got to go. We cannot let the genius of our creation obscure the fact of our addiction to it and block the pathway to our evolution.

What about Dr Spock….back in the day.

Even though "facts don't care about your feelings" is absolutely true, it is likewise true that "feelings don't care about your facts." And since we're dealing with ACTUAL PEOPLE who are, themselves, a subset of "the facts," we (who like to consider ourselves rational thinkers) need to take that into account with the rest of the facts. Facts and feelings are literally a marriage within the individual's life, and each person must decide whether to make it a communicative marriage or a dysfunctional one.

As a mother, I purposely and overtly replaced my nurturing with Rationality and an insistence that the kids at least strive to be rational at all times. When they'd come to me with a hurt, my response was "What are you going to do about it?" or "How can I help you fix it?" or, even to myself, I would say, "Feeling this does absolutely nothing. What am I going to DO about it?" So there was ZERO nurturing to myself or my kids when there were hurts, no encouraging them to define what they were feeling or even to feel it some; just an immediate analysis of what I (or they) can do next time so this pain doesn't happen again, "because that's at least PRODUCTIVE and rational" rather than "stupid and emotional." I insisted on this. A few years ago, I was cleaning out our sand box and I found an empty closed Mason jar with a piece of masking tape over the top of it that read, in Sharpie, "Feelings." My daughter had literally buried her feelings in the back yard in that jar. And now we're going through all this therapy because my kids were not allowed to feel their feelings; we just covered them up with compulsive rationality, TOTALLY unwilling to go into the "void" or to acknowledge the archetypal "empty space" that we all come born with. This has left my kids DETACHED from their emotions, and not even able to define or even LABEL THEM half the time. What I'm learning now is that it is far more balanced to have a nurturing "mother" (even if it's literally the father) who represents Love and its accompanying charge to LISTEN, and ALSO a "father" (even if it's literally the mother) who responds with the needed Respect and its accompanying charge to teach rational thinking. BOTH are needed simultaneously. And of course a single parent is going to have to figure out how to be somewhat schizophrenic and do both. Obviously we don't want the parents contradicting each other, but complementing each other in this way does not require any stretch of the imagination. It may be better that my kids cultivated the rational thinking first and are figuring out their feelings later, but it doesn't change the fact that my kids totally could not turn to me to nurture and listen to them without me putting on my fix-it hat. They had to look elsewhere any time they needed a nurturing mother. It was not right of me, and I deeply regret now not having better thought this out.