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I reflected on my state being that of observing opportunity cost. Meaning when I choose some thing and take action, I am consistently noticing what I couldn’t do because I took that action. Energy I am using to do that may not be balanced. And I’m still reflecting on it couldn’t be any other way than it is. my mind naturally goes to all the alternatives of the way that it could be, but of course it can’t be any other way than it is so that is worth noodling on
Yeah, I see what you mean. If you are interested in balancing this tendency you are describing, I might simply spend as much time as possible "tracing the path that you actually took" rather than imagining what could have happened. Practice. Honestly, we are trying to disprove or undermine that old way of believing that things could have been different. It's the difference between using our imagination to learn from our experiences VS living in our imagination. It's recognizing what is internal VS what is external.
I have been prone to looking backward in my life at how everything from childhood trauma to adult decisions have altered my path , in challenging ways. During this mediation I found freedom in recognizing accepting the present moment and all that brought me here. There was release from the illusion of “if only this or that had been different”.
When I started to think about how things would've turned out differently from my childhood, I also realized that there was a lot that I have gained that I wouldn't have if the path had gone differently.
I went through this process twice bringing me even more awareness. There are these brief windows in time, where I can see and feel a song singing through my heart of who I am and what is mine to be doing as if I can almost grasp the echoes of songbirds through a gentle breeze but slips away. It’s as though the song has always existed only showing itself as different reflections of light at different times. Then I look at the contract to sign for a room rental agreement for a developmental trauma support circle for the umpteenth time. I’m asking myself why this time will be any different than all the other similar failed attempts. What if no one comes and I have to pay for the rent myself? My passion is strong but my vital energy is low. Who am I anyway? “Nothing could be other than it is” - ya sure - right! Acceptance - ha! Half my life is behind me and this is not where I wanted to be. I should’ve done a whole lot better, knew better. I don’t want to just be a victim of my conditioning. I want to be the creator of my reality and control how things turn out. I beat myself up, if only…. I hadn’t…. I can see given past experiences why I would be hesitating moving forward. My life got turned totally upside down and I feel completely beaten down. It makes total sense but hearing those words offers me no relief - after all - I allowed this mess to happen. I trusted someone who let me down, I ignored the signs, I rationalized, I was attached to the fantasy but I thought I could somehow be the exception. I would prove to be the greatest healer ever, rewrite all my child failings (as if they were really mine) and I would blossom into the most radiant glorious expression of myself riding on the back of a unicorn, wind blowing in my hair into the sunset. (How grandiose of me) I would turn my property into the most beautiful sanctuary for others to come find peace. Ugh, why can't I get there already? I would prove myself to be able to handle the very worst and rise triumphant to receive my shinning gold star and live happily ever after in endless adoration. I would be the exception, yet I saw myself as extremely flawed. My mind landed back to the first grade when I was put in special ed. Why was I put in special ed? I wasn’t having difficulty in school and besides that’s for retarded kids. Am I retarded? My mom started giving me extra school work to do when I got home from school. It was horribly grueling. My parents had no interest in the things I wanted to do. My dad got upset with my apparent intellectual inaptitude. Maybe there really was something wrong with me. Shut up - go away - stop daydreaming - I’m right, you’re wrong - get to work - it’s you’re fault - didn’t they teach you this in school? There were rules, I obeyed the rules, thinking that one day, only if….. Of course nothing can be other than it is. Look at the rules, I followed. What if things had been different? What if I was encouraged and supported to discover my own talents and pursue my own interests? I probably would have had a very different path. I might have explored the performing arts, sang, danced, painted and possibly even been on stage. (Gasp…no... me? Be seen?) and I probably wound’t have quite the zeal for the healing arts that I have today. And forget about engineering physics, oh my goodness, what was I even thinking? I asked again what is it I need to hear? “I am not God.” Yep, it’s true, I’m not God. I am not that exceptional (to be God) and yet I am exceptional. That is a sense of relief, what a burden.
Wow. Thank you for sharing all of this. You are a good writer, I really felt like I was on the journey with you. 🙏 You may already know this, but just a couple small points of clarity, "it couldn't be other than it is" is step one. It's SO important not to confuse step one with step two. The purpose of step one ("it couldn't be other than it is") is to dissolve the critical, overthinking part of ourselves. When this critical, overthinking part of ourselves is gone then we can move into step two, which is clearly see the actions we can take to move forward in the productive ways we desire. If we mix step one with step two, this process will not have the full impact that it can have on our lives. We have to first, fully discover how "it couldn't be other than it is" from am empowering perspective. It we see the words "it couldn't be other than it is" as disempowering at all, then we haven't allowed step one to fully do its magic. Its' helpful to start seeing our lives, or past as factual or unchangeable, we can tbegi to make a change in it TODAY. “The acceptance of ourselves as we are gives us the freedom to change.” I would love to talk more about this in person. Please come to our next You Are That Which You Seek Meditation Group. It's free to all and you can ask questions about this there if you feel clarity as needed. Or, I would be happy to share a phone call with you anytime. 🙏
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I reflected on my state being that of observing opportunity cost. Meaning when I choose some thing and take action, I am consistently noticing what I couldn’t do because I took that action. Energy I am using to do that may not be balanced. And I’m still reflecting on it couldn’t be any other way than it is. my mind naturally goes to all the alternatives of the way that it could be, but of course it can’t be any other way than it is so that is worth noodling on
Yeah, I see what you mean. If you are interested in balancing this tendency you are describing, I might simply spend as much time as possible "tracing the path that you actually took" rather than imagining what could have happened. Practice. Honestly, we are trying to disprove or undermine that old way of believing that things could have been different. It's the difference between using our imagination to learn from our experiences VS living in our imagination.
It's recognizing what is internal VS what is external.
I have been prone to looking backward in my life at how everything from childhood trauma to adult decisions have altered my path , in challenging ways. During this mediation I found freedom in recognizing accepting the present moment and all that brought me here. There was release from the illusion of “if only this or that had been different”.
When I started to think about how things would've turned out differently from my childhood, I also realized that there was a lot that I have gained that I wouldn't have if the path had gone differently.
Yes! How outstanding. When one follows the timeline, it can be seen that nothing could be different... So cool. 🙏
Yes! What freedom to see clearly what has been gained from our unique life experiences. 🙏 🙏 🙏 Thank you for sharing! 🫶
What did you guys feel at the end?? I would love to hear your experience. ❤ 🙏
I went through this process twice bringing me even more awareness.
There are these brief windows in time, where I can see and feel a song singing through my heart of who I am and what is mine to be doing as if I can almost grasp the echoes of songbirds through a gentle breeze but slips away. It’s as though the song has always existed only showing itself as different reflections of light at different times. Then I look at the contract to sign for a room rental agreement for a developmental trauma support circle for the umpteenth time. I’m asking myself why this time will be any different than all the other similar failed attempts. What if no one comes and I have to pay for the rent myself? My passion is strong but my vital energy is low. Who am I anyway? “Nothing could be other than it is” - ya sure - right! Acceptance - ha! Half my life is behind me and this is not where I wanted to be. I should’ve done a whole lot better, knew better. I don’t want to just be a victim of my conditioning. I want to be the creator of my reality and control how things turn out. I beat myself up, if only…. I hadn’t…. I can see given past experiences why I would be hesitating moving forward. My life got turned totally upside down and I feel completely beaten down. It makes total sense but hearing those words offers me no relief - after all - I allowed this mess to happen. I trusted someone who let me down, I ignored the signs, I rationalized, I was attached to the fantasy but I thought I could somehow be the exception. I would prove to be the greatest healer ever, rewrite all my child failings (as if they were really mine) and I would blossom into the most radiant glorious expression of myself riding on the back of a unicorn, wind blowing in my hair into the sunset. (How grandiose of me) I would turn my property into the most beautiful sanctuary for others to come find peace. Ugh, why can't I get there already? I would prove myself to be able to handle the very worst and rise triumphant to receive my shinning gold star and live happily ever after in endless adoration. I would be the exception, yet I saw myself as extremely flawed. My mind landed back to the first grade when I was put in special ed. Why was I put in special ed? I wasn’t having difficulty in school and besides that’s for retarded kids. Am I retarded? My mom started giving me extra school work to do when I got home from school. It was horribly grueling. My parents had no interest in the things I wanted to do. My dad got upset with my apparent intellectual inaptitude. Maybe there really was something wrong with me. Shut up - go away - stop daydreaming - I’m right, you’re wrong - get to work - it’s you’re fault - didn’t they teach you this in school? There were rules, I obeyed the rules, thinking that one day, only if….. Of course nothing can be other than it is. Look at the rules, I followed. What if things had been different? What if I was encouraged and supported to discover my own talents and pursue my own interests? I probably would have had a very different path. I might have explored the performing arts, sang, danced, painted and possibly even been on stage. (Gasp…no... me? Be seen?) and I probably wound’t have quite the zeal for the healing arts that I have today. And forget about engineering physics, oh my goodness, what was I even thinking? I asked again what is it I need to hear? “I am not God.” Yep, it’s true, I’m not God. I am not that exceptional (to be God) and yet I am exceptional. That is a sense of relief, what a burden.
Wow. Thank you for sharing all of this. You are a good writer, I really felt like I was on the journey with you. 🙏 You may already know this, but just a couple small points of clarity, "it couldn't be other than it is" is step one. It's SO important not to confuse step one with step two. The purpose of step one ("it couldn't be other than it is") is to dissolve the critical, overthinking part of ourselves. When this critical, overthinking part of ourselves is gone then we can move into step two, which is clearly see the actions we can take to move forward in the productive ways we desire.
If we mix step one with step two, this process will not have the full impact that it can have on our lives. We have to first, fully discover how "it couldn't be other than it is" from am empowering perspective. It we see the words "it couldn't be other than it is" as disempowering at all, then we haven't allowed step one to fully do its magic. Its' helpful to start seeing our lives, or past as factual or unchangeable, we can tbegi to make a change in it TODAY.
“The acceptance of ourselves as we are gives us the freedom to change.”
I would love to talk more about this in person. Please come to our next You Are That Which You Seek Meditation Group. It's free to all and you can ask questions about this there if you feel clarity as needed. Or, I would be happy to share a phone call with you anytime. 🙏