I feel like loneliness is one of those things that people don’t really talk about enough. And it’s underestimated how severely it can affect one’s mental health
I found after years that my “anxiety” was actually sensory overwhelm, something no mental health professional ever mentioned. I feel like the neurodiverdity framework has helped me a lot where mental illness framework didn’t. Her point about learning feelings is very key to diagnosis.
Neurodivergent is an umbrella term used for people who have different brain wiring, and includes people with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, synesthesia, etc. Often times the medical and psychiatric community look at us through the lens of something wrong with us that needs to be “fixed”, the problem often being that such professionals tend to be not be neurodivergent and often miss (or refuse to listen to) the underlying reasons and internal experience of our difficulties. The neurodiversity framework looks not just at external symptoms classified as “deficits” (i.e. anxiety in Tamar’s case) not necessarily deficits, but also that lived in experience and classifies it as acceptable and valid differences in brain wiring (e.g. a different way of processing sensory information like touch, smell, etc.). But in a world where most things are suited for a “normal” person’a brain (aka neurotypical brain), a lot of neurodivergents struggle. Its kinda like having your computer mouse’s sensitivity set to high; there’s nothing wrong with it and it can be quite useful for certain situations, but for an average person the mouse will be difficult to use.
Me too, I'm 25 years old and i just recently learned that when I shut down it's always because of sensory overload, I've always felt bad when I did because I wouldn't be able to interact with anyone, and it exhausted me because I had to made a huge effort to even reply and stay polite, and people never even tried to understand or respect my needs to isolate
As a veterinarian who's dealt with panic attacks and PTSD myself, and aware of the high frequency of depression and suicide rates in our field, I honestly thank you for all of these videos. They make me even more empathetic and inclined to see how many mental illnesses affect animals' behavior around their owners as well. I live and work in the UK as well, so who knows, if you ever do a public speaking, I'll be delighted to come and listen to you. We need more professionals like yourself in this -still- highly prejudiced world as far as mental health is concerned. Thank you. 🤗
Thank you for all you do as a veterinarian! I know the job isn't easy and the emotions that come with it can be a lot. Always remember you are a rockstar and I am certain that the field is blessed to have you.
@@harleycarroll4775 Thank you so very much for your kind words, they mean the world to me, I truly appreciate your taking the time to respond. Many hugs. ❤️
I just got diagnosed with bipolar around this time last year. I really appreciate Selena for sharing her story and reducing stigma around it. One of the hardest things is ppl not understanding what the disorder really is.
Hey, I don't have bipolar myself, but what helped me get a better idea on what bipolar looks like, I watched the documentary by stepfen fry, the not so secret life of a manic depressive. It's called manic depressive because the doc is kinda old, butbI have a friend with bipolar and I believe shw feels understopd by me, or at least validated. Maybe because I have adhd ans understand the grip of impulsive behaviour, but to a big part I think the doc did a good job at helping me be a better friend to someone with a very scary hmood disorder. So maybe this could help you, making your close ones watch that doc. If it doesn't work, it's just one of many attempts to get that across🤷🏻♀️ either way, I hope you have a not overly problematic journey. Take care
I remember how happy my mom was when Demi Lovato came out about having bipolar. My mom has been open with me about it since I was very young so that I was prepared for when she was manic or depressed and I knew what to do (and then my mom found out why I never did learn what to do to help her through it when I was diagnosed as autistic). Demi Lovato and Selena Gomez were two people that I really admired as a child (maybe around the ages of 6-8? My memory is not that clear), and my mom was always looking out for those I do admire to make sure they were good role models for me. I wonder how she'll feel when she finds out about this.
Hey! I have a very similar story to you and just wanna say, props to you. I know EXACTLY what it’s like having a mentally ill mom you’re expected to take care of, and the after effects of an autistic child not having an “autism friendly family” if you know what I mean.. like you always had to adjust or change yourself to fit their needs but never the other way round. I’m proud of you, fam!
I know this is a little bit besides the point but Demi said she was actually misdiagnosed and has adhd and ptsd, not bipolar disorder! Still awesome that she and Selena are so open about everything tho
@@idkidc8485 thank you for saying that. I have a family member that was misdiagnosed the exact same way. While I know the doctors know their stuff, some just can't look beyond the symptoms they see in front of them and don't dig deeper to be sure of an initial diagnosis. I myself have to keep reminding doctors of my chronic physical conditions (most ive had for two thirds of my life) and that those have a huge affect on mental health and that sometimes what they think is mental health related can just be... one or more physical conditions flaring. I have to say that when I heard Selena had lupus and was open about it, I felt a little better. I'm glad they are willing to discuss their experiences with us.
I know it seems pretty stupid but I was diagnosed with social anxiety at the beginning of the year, and I was *so embarrassed* to talk about it before Selena's documentary. I thought I was weak for having panic attacks and struggle with a mental illness but now I that I see that someone public like Selena openly talking about it I don't feel like this anymore. It's really good to know that we're not alone and that everyone can go through that.
It’s not stupid at all when society hasn’t entirely acknowledged mental health importance and how it’s entirely connected to physical health. Western medicine has a long way to go. Happy you felt braver when you knew you had an ally
As an autistic and epileptic, I always find it strange when I want to hug people I don't know because they're suffering. It's just, I know what it's like to be depressed and would never wish it on anyone else.
I'm autistic too and I used to find it strange too. I've explained it to myself as an expression of high empathy that's very easy to do. Words of comfortable often need to be specific to the individual to work and that requires insight that I don't have. Hugs/physical affection are universal and I feel that they touch something deeper and more abstract than words. I'm also sensory seeking and it's an excuse for me to be hugged back.
I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (and comorbid depression) in college. Having that diagnosis wasn't some magic cure or anything, but it helped so much because it gave me a place to start learning. And the more I learned, the more I realized I'm not "just crazy" or "just lazy" or "just broken". I mean, I often still feel like I'm broken, but at least now I know *how* I break, and that I'm not the only one. In my experience, the distinction between "normal human experiences" and my mental illness often comes from others. When people start saying things like "no one else has a problem doing this, why do you?" or "everyone's going out tonight, why don't you want to come?" etc... that confirmation that, yes, how I feel *is* different from how "everyone else" feels; what I have a handle on *is* less than what most people do without issue; etc. That's when I know for sure the difference. At least once in my life, during a really bad depressive episode, I forced myself to call a friend and basically word-vomited all my thoughts at her just to see what she'd say, and her response -- proving my thoughts wrong *with evidence* -- probably saved my life that day. Knowing that I had distorted thinking, and having a reason why, kept me from continuing to believe those thoughts that might have otherwise killed me. Having the diagnosis also gave me years of introspection, from which I learned more about myself. I learned the core issue upon which all my anxiety and depression is founded, in every area of my life. I haven't yet figured out how to suppress that issue (or deal with it), but knowing that there is one specific thing causing all my problems, and knowing what it is, means that as often as I'm one step away from the edge, I'm also one step away from the light. So, basically: knowledge is power. Even if it's not everything you need, it definitely helps. Sometimes more than you'll ever know.
I wish more psychiatrists were willing to approach patients in a way that is open to collaboration. My diagnosis was delayed for years because the psychiatrists I worked with didn't acknowledge my own knowledge and experience with mental illness and wanted to avoid "labeling" me. My degree is related to the mental health field (and psychology has been a special interest of mine since I was a child), I knew I had genetic risks for bipolar disorder, and I recognized when the symptoms started occurring and got help as soon as I could, yet I suffered for years due to psychiatrists who didn't listen to me, and who didn't believe that I understand things to a level that the general public may not. It was so validating when I moved cities and found a psychiatrist who not only respected my knowledge and experience, but also actually took the time to work with me to help me find relief.
I'm still mad at 2020. Before lockdown I was at my best in my mental health journey (7 yrs in and out of therapy, on meds, etc). I was finally starting to do my old hobbies again and just started a beautiful relationship. During lockdown, my bipolar and ptsd went into high gear in a way I had never experienced. It hurt so much having all this knowledge and still feeling so helpless. I managed to get help quickly, but not quick enough. I had my appointment ready, and about a week or 2 before, I broke and was about to really hurt myself (I don't want to trigger anyone with the story so I will stop there). I quickly realised I had to stop before i destroyed myself and the life I built. It's been over 2 years, and that night and those feelings have stayed with me ever since. I'm continuing with the therapist who saw me then, but oh mental health is hard. Even when you have so many tools, and so much gratitude. Everyone experiencing mental health issues, or just having a rough day, my heart is with you everyday and I am always rooting for you ❤️
I'm the (hypo)mania leaning bipolar type 2 and it is EXHAUSTING. I can't emphasize enough how always being intensely and constantly jittery and tense can just wear you down in every way. At times I wish I could force a depressive state just so I could get some sleep or calm down for a short time, that's how bad it gets sometimes. I think my hardest struggle is when I get reminded this is for life. I can't cure this. It's forever. And that's so disheartening. I am very impressed with what she did here. When I was younger and still struggling with bipolar, it would have meant a lot for someone to so bluntly discuss the condition this way, so I think she will genuinely change lives.
This video really made me emotional because it was so raw, and as a person with mental health problems I found it very relatable even tho I am dealing with somewhat different stuff (anxiety and depression, but I feel like I still didn't get my full diagnosis). Loved it and loved how you covered the topic🥰
I really wish they had more support for families dealing with loved ones with mental illness. My mom was institutionalized three times when I was a child. No one explained to me what was happening and there was zero support. It wasn’t until later after talking with her that I found out about the bipolar disorder. It is a very isolating disorder and it impacts families as well.
I'm bipolar II (diagnosed in 2018). I suffered from anxiety & depression (sadly, that hasn't changed other than the understanding that they're bipolar-related) for twenty years before my diagnosis, and I now take what feels like a metric ton of prescription meds daily (a total of 19 pills a day), not just for bipolar but for other health issues as well. It's exhausting & can be hard to keep track of. I don't know if it's available outside the US but there's an app called Medisafe that reminds you to take your meds (it literally makes a pill bottle shaking sound). You enter your different meds & when you usually take them & the app reminds you. Then you mark off that you've taken them & you have an accurate log of your medicine intake. I've been using it for years & it's very helpful. Anyway, I love your channel. Keep up the good work.
Openess about mental illness will help people to realize their own problems and able to get help in early stage. Selena is true amabssador for mental illness,and she will help many to understand,not only those suffering but those parents,educators,politicians,the govt to help more and emphasize the importance of early interventions. Being a psychiatric nurse, I deal it everyday at work. I admired Selena`s openess and hope she cope it and be proud of herself coz she can help many other celebrities and ordinary people suffering from mental disorders.
I think this is the most aware we have been of mental health. Past generations you were called crazy and there was a huge stigma. We are accepting the fact that illness isn’t just physically is mentally. We are beginning to speak out and understanding one another. It’s definitely getting better
This was extremely interesting to watch.. Thanks so much for covering this. I haven't seen her documentary but I am quite interested in doing so, especially after watching your take on some of what she went/is going through.
Thank you very much for covering this in such a sensitive, empathetic way (as always). One trick for daily pills in the long term I've found helps me: I take something I already do every day at about the same time (for me, it's brushing my teeth) and put my pills on the edge of the sink right next to my toothbrush. That way, even when I'm traveling or busy, that one thing is always constant and it helps keep me on my schedule. By the sink is also nice because I always have water.
When I get to feeling depressed, my response to so many things becomes "why bother." I could shower: why bother I could go out and walk: why bother I could go to the movies: why bother My therapy is going really well. I'm not where I hope to be yet, but my feelings are not being overwhelmed by "why bother"
I am an avid mental health awareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💚
Amazing video, been really meaning to check the whole thing out. Definitely going to now, especially after being diagnosed with some of the same mental illnesses Selena has gone through. Thank you Elliott! 🙏🏽👏🏽 keep up the great work
I wouldn't consider myself a fan of Selena. I've always thought she was a pretty plain gal, just an average girl but then after watching this it makes me quite sad. It's sad when celebrities come out and talk about their problems, because it makes me realize that money and fame mean nothing. People are people. Selena is a human being, who still experiences sadness and confusion. She's someone's little girl, and seeing someone who's so successful with so many illnesses and so much turmoil makes me worry for my son. I'm a mom, and I wish to never see him go through so much pain. I hope that Selena feels better with time. Depression is an ugly monster. Bipolar sounds worse.
I agree with you (as you know) in general, anxiety shouldn't just be sedated away. HOWEVER, sometimes there are simply no other options especially when it's idiopathic.
this is such an amazing video - thank you! I am trying to create awareness around Neurodiversity and invisible disability in my workplace and this video was very very helpful. I have been nodding all throughout.
Hi Ellitt. Listening to Selena, it brings back the extreme guilt I feel about breaking off a long, long friendship with a friend who is Bipolar 2. She was very unkind to me at the end of our friendship, and prior to that I found her very disagreeable, and what you said about how anxiety can translate into snippy, difficult behaviour really hit home with me. But regardless of that, I know that we were very close and loved each other very much. I have to admit that immediately following the breakdown of our friendship, my main emotion was relief. It's not nice to admit, but a very close friendship with someone who regularly experiences manic episodes and paralysing depression can be extremely draining, especially when you have your own issues to deal with. My real question I suppose is: to get past this guilt I feel, should I reach out to her (we live in different countries, so not easy) or should I deal with my feelings of guilt myself?
Reach out if you have their contact. It may seem awkward, but will make both of you feel better. Even if your friend doesn't respond, atleast you would know that you have done your part
Listen to your gut, and what you think is the right thing. Just because someone is struggling with mental illness doesn’t mean that is an excuse for hurting your feelings etc if that is what you friend did, I’m sure you had your valid reasons for breaking off the relationship, then struggling with mental illness shouldn’t completely take away your side of the story too, because at the end of the day you are both two people who are just as significant as each other in the relationship. Think about the best thing for you, you can’t please everyone if it’s not the best thing for you right now. Listen to your heart. But also if your heart is saying to reach out, there is no harm in that if that feels right right now and you mentally feel up to it, but remember to value yourself as well in the relationship, your feelings are just as valid.
It's okay to put yourself first, and to take care of yourself. If being friends with this person was affecting YOUR health and well-being and peace of mind, it is okay to know that that friendship turned into something that was no longer correct for you, and to leave it in the past. If in the future , you miss that friend and want to reconnect out of love/ really wanting to see them, I would encourage you to follow what you feel is right. But reaching out just because you feel guilty would not be healthy for you, or fair to your friend. It actually sounds like that feeling of guilt might be something that's really important for you to work out on your own. I know it's hard - but sometimes the things that feel the worst turn into our biggest opportunities for growth
As an AuDHDer who had a psychiatrist recommended mood stabilisers for me when giving the ADHD diagnosis my understanding of bipolar has been improved by watching this video so thanks a lot for that. I may eventually watch Steven fry’s films about it at some point and would love your expert opinion on them if it’s of interest.
I would like him to react to Criminal Minds: Spencer Reid. More specifically; -Season 1, episode 9 -Season 2, episode 15-16 -Season 3, episode 16 -Season 4, episode 3(with the follow up of season 14, episode 1😮) -Season 4 episode 6-7 -Season 6, episode 12 -Season 7, episode 2 -Season 8, episode 11-13 -Season 11, episode 11 -Season 12, episode 11 -Season 12, episode 13 -Season 12, episode 22 (Any episode is fine. This lit is only episode recommendations. I relate to Spencer Reid a lot.)
I got turned away by the mental health services because I wasn’t not severe enough, the services are so underfunded:( They alluded to bpd and then turned me away because of the lack of severity, I’m doing well regardless but that’s only because I’VE done the work and I’ve gotten the help. They told me that they’re trying to steer away from diagnosis, because of the effect it has in life… I think I could’ve been helped with it, but I know myself and I know the way my brain functions so even if they won’t treat me for bpd, I’ll treat myself in the ways that are available to me.
I’m bipolar and I’m manic right now after being in a depressive state for months. It’s been a while since I’ve felt so energized. It’s late and I’m wired. I want to go do Disney Sea, USJ, and Puroland and go clothes shopping, but I don’t have enough savings to do that really. I nearly bought tickets to Disney Sea earlier today. I’ve been doing 5 different languages on Duolingo today, lol. I also have rheumatoid arthritis. I wonder if there’s a connection with autoimmune disorders.
I have a question. Is it common for bipolar to be misdiagnosed? I recently went through a very thorough assessment with a psychologist and we came to the conclusion that I was misdiagnosed as bipolar almost 9 years ago. The problems I was having was from untreated ADHD
Same for me.. I found out last year that I have ADHD and my untreated ADHD looks a lot like bipolar 3... its interesting that her mom got diagnosed with adhd (and J.B. as well)..
I even heard woman get misdiagnosed with bipolar when they have PCOS. The health imbalances seem to always go unoticed for a lot of people who get diagnosed.
@@ritaevergreen7234 That sounds like it would be so hard to go through. Knowing that there's something happening with your body and everyone is telling you it's your mind that's the problem.
My dad had a lung transplant in 1992, and while he was abusive before that, he was impossible for my mom or myself to live with after that and he got progressively worse. He was always hyper religious, but that spun way out of control after that, especially after she left him. He constantly had rejection and his behaviour was all over the place. Towards the end, he was incredibly inappropriate in public. Part of that could have been oxygen deprivation, but my guess is that the transplant itself had an effect. He went from being very conservative and abusive to being psychotic and delusional.
I think it’s rather interesting how so many psychiatrists throw around bipolar without doing any real digging. Many actually have unhealed trauma wounds and/or chronic illnesses which is actually “inflammation” in the brain and body! I personally was diagnosed with bipolar many years ago but after careful research into my past have found my anxiety and depression are due to both trauma and chronic illness….go figure
So many illnesses are based on trauma. It’s so crazy! At least some medical doctors like Gabor Mate are trying to tell society they aren’t asking the right questions and pushing them to see how the whole system is messed up.
I saw you today on the way to a Christmas Market! :) I was too scared to say hi 😅 If someone recognised you, would you want them to say hi, or would you rather be left alone?
Hi I have bipolar disorder and hyperthyroid ... Recently I got extremely sick I thought I was going to die . They said my white blood cells were low but all my blood work was good but then they did an ultrasound and urine and CT scan and found that my kidneys were inflamed. They prescribed me a week of anti biotics and I cut out sugar and kept drinking water and I had a severe manic episode for about three days after I started feeling better ! I'm just starting to feel normal but lots of joint pain anxiety and exhaustion and chronic back pain . Should I bring up lupus to my doctor ?
Her friend says psychosis could last for years or forever. My understanding is that it couldn’t last that long unless you are unmedicated with bipolar or you have schizophrenia?
I don’t know if I’m not understanding your words correctly, but bipolar and BPD (borderline personality disorder) are different mental health disorders. Bipolar is a mood disorder and BPD is a personality disorder.
i dont think shes bipolar i think shes stuck in a toxic world. if she got away from all these people and all the pressure she would get rid of most of her health issues. sometimes the wrong environment can drive us CRAY
I agree. There's not much shown about her disorder but from what I see, I dont think she fits the diagnosis criteria of bipolar disorder at all. I also feel like she's just using this as an excuse for outbursts and tantrums and this is so bad because she's misinforming her audience about the actual disorder. She probably does have some sort of mental disorders though such as anxiety or depression and Narcissistic personality disorder
A lot of people are misinformed because of all the entertainment articles never giving any depth😅 Selena wasn’t dissing Francia. In the one interview she did, she was explaining how she didn’t feel like she fit into the (music) industry with all the “cool girls”, and Taylor has been legit her only best friend in the industry for years, which she meant, MUSIC industry. Taylor and Francia were only ever in two separate industries, it just wouldn’t make sense to compare them. Selena has been grateful to them both in different ways, and certainly HAS expressed gratitude publicly about Francia being her donor plenty of times in the past. 😕 Honestly the only thing that was trashy was the fact Francia went out of her way to leave a petty comment on Twitter in response to the interview where Selena said that. It was an obvious emotional reaction because she deleted the tweet later. That’s actually more trashy because instead of reaching out to her friend and talking privately about whatever truly concerned her, she didn’t think about the fact her one petty comment would stir up so much negativity 😕 The main focus should have been on the documentary which was to raise more awareness on MENTAL HEALTH. I personally get so confused as to why people would Selena’s response was bad… she said something like “I’m sorry I didn’t list all of my friends” as a response right? How is that even trashy? 😅 She’s literally indicating that she still thinks of Francia as a close friend, but she wasn’t thinking about her in THAT CONTEXT at the time. Sorry, but I felt the need to say this because it seems people like you who feel the need to be salty over a relationship/situation that isn’t even any of your business, is adding to the problems in mental health even without realizing. Like this psychologist comes out with this whole reaction video to a documentary on MENTAL HEALTH , and this is what you take from it?….😕 Please, just take some time to reflect about that.
@@KandiWellness You are missinformed as well. She didn't say music industry and it is clear as hell that she didn't imply that her statement was referred just to the music indutry. Her following statement (should I count out everyone I know) shows that she doesn't value her life saved and that she doesn't see her as a friend. Stop defending someone and spinning things.
@@KandiWellness She isn't someone she knows. She is literally her life saver. She could have used another expression but she used this one and we all know why.
@@FM-fm1dg dude if you really know selena she always gratitude Francia, don't you see her old interviews, old twitts??? Why always bashing someone just for 1 mistake? Do you think you can tell someone you are trashy when you are the one why is trash before knowing both parties just because you see on social media when 99% false. I feel so bad for you close persons for your toxic mindset.
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Her drive to want to bring mental health education to K-12 kids makes me so, so, so happy. I hope she finds success in this endeavor.
I feel like loneliness is one of those things that people don’t really talk about enough. And it’s underestimated how severely it can affect one’s mental health
I found after years that my “anxiety” was actually sensory overwhelm, something no mental health professional ever mentioned. I feel like the neurodiverdity framework has helped me a lot where mental illness framework didn’t. Her point about learning feelings is very key to diagnosis.
me too 💜
what you mean by neurodiverdity framework?
Neurodivergent is an umbrella term used for people who have different brain wiring, and includes people with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, synesthesia, etc. Often times the medical and psychiatric community look at us through the lens of something wrong with us that needs to be “fixed”, the problem often being that such professionals tend to be not be neurodivergent and often miss (or refuse to listen to) the underlying reasons and internal experience of our difficulties. The neurodiversity framework looks not just at external symptoms classified as “deficits” (i.e. anxiety in Tamar’s case) not necessarily deficits, but also that lived in experience and classifies it as acceptable and valid differences in brain wiring (e.g. a different way of processing sensory information like touch, smell, etc.). But in a world where most things are suited for a “normal” person’a brain (aka neurotypical brain), a lot of neurodivergents struggle. Its kinda like having your computer mouse’s sensitivity set to high; there’s nothing wrong with it and it can be quite useful for certain situations, but for an average person the mouse will be difficult to use.
Me too, I'm 25 years old and i just recently learned that when I shut down it's always because of sensory overload, I've always felt bad when I did because I wouldn't be able to interact with anyone, and it exhausted me because I had to made a huge effort to even reply and stay polite, and people never even tried to understand or respect my needs to isolate
As a veterinarian who's dealt with panic attacks and PTSD myself, and aware of the high frequency of depression and suicide rates in our field, I honestly thank you for all of these videos. They make me even more empathetic and inclined to see how many mental illnesses affect animals' behavior around their owners as well. I live and work in the UK as well, so who knows, if you ever do a public speaking, I'll be delighted to come and listen to you. We need more professionals like yourself in this -still- highly prejudiced world as far as mental health is concerned. Thank you. 🤗
Thank you for all you do as a veterinarian! I know the job isn't easy and the emotions that come with it can be a lot. Always remember you are a rockstar and I am certain that the field is blessed to have you.
@@harleycarroll4775 Thank you so very much for your kind words, they mean the world to me, I truly appreciate your taking the time to respond. Many hugs. ❤️
I hear this about almost every field that they have high suicide rate and I’m just like which one doesn’t have it 😢
@@Emmiiii267 I agree... Sadly, it's true. We are lucky that psychiatry is always evolving. Stay strong and take care. :)
I just got diagnosed with bipolar around this time last year. I really appreciate Selena for sharing her story and reducing stigma around it. One of the hardest things is ppl not understanding what the disorder really is.
Hey, I don't have bipolar myself, but what helped me get a better idea on what bipolar looks like, I watched the documentary by stepfen fry, the not so secret life of a manic depressive.
It's called manic depressive because the doc is kinda old, butbI have a friend with bipolar and I believe shw feels understopd by me, or at least validated. Maybe because I have adhd ans understand the grip of impulsive behaviour, but to a big part I think the doc did a good job at helping me be a better friend to someone with a very scary hmood disorder.
So maybe this could help you, making your close ones watch that doc. If it doesn't work, it's just one of many attempts to get that across🤷🏻♀️ either way, I hope you have a not overly problematic journey. Take care
I remember how happy my mom was when Demi Lovato came out about having bipolar. My mom has been open with me about it since I was very young so that I was prepared for when she was manic or depressed and I knew what to do (and then my mom found out why I never did learn what to do to help her through it when I was diagnosed as autistic). Demi Lovato and Selena Gomez were two people that I really admired as a child (maybe around the ages of 6-8? My memory is not that clear), and my mom was always looking out for those I do admire to make sure they were good role models for me. I wonder how she'll feel when she finds out about this.
Update: my mom said that she kinda saw it coming and it makes sense.
Hey! I have a very similar story to you and just wanna say, props to you. I know EXACTLY what it’s like having a mentally ill mom you’re expected to take care of, and the after effects of an autistic child not having an “autism friendly family” if you know what I mean.. like you always had to adjust or change yourself to fit their needs but never the other way round. I’m proud of you, fam!
I know this is a little bit besides the point but Demi said she was actually misdiagnosed and has adhd and ptsd, not bipolar disorder! Still awesome that she and Selena are so open about everything tho
@@idkidc8485 thank you for saying that. I have a family member that was misdiagnosed the exact same way. While I know the doctors know their stuff, some just can't look beyond the symptoms they see in front of them and don't dig deeper to be sure of an initial diagnosis. I myself have to keep reminding doctors of my chronic physical conditions (most ive had for two thirds of my life) and that those have a huge affect on mental health and that sometimes what they think is mental health related can just be... one or more physical conditions flaring.
I have to say that when I heard Selena had lupus and was open about it, I felt a little better. I'm glad they are willing to discuss their experiences with us.
I know it seems pretty stupid but I was diagnosed with social anxiety at the beginning of the year, and I was *so embarrassed* to talk about it before Selena's documentary. I thought I was weak for having panic attacks and struggle with a mental illness but now I that I see that someone public like Selena openly talking about it I don't feel like this anymore. It's really good to know that we're not alone and that everyone can go through that.
It’s not stupid at all when society hasn’t entirely acknowledged mental health importance and how it’s entirely connected to physical health. Western medicine has a long way to go. Happy you felt braver when you knew you had an ally
As an autistic and epileptic, I always find it strange when I want to hug people I don't know because they're suffering. It's just, I know what it's like to be depressed and would never wish it on anyone else.
I'm autistic too and I used to find it strange too. I've explained it to myself as an expression of high empathy that's very easy to do. Words of comfortable often need to be specific to the individual to work and that requires insight that I don't have. Hugs/physical affection are universal and I feel that they touch something deeper and more abstract than words. I'm also sensory seeking and it's an excuse for me to be hugged back.
I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (and comorbid depression) in college. Having that diagnosis wasn't some magic cure or anything, but it helped so much because it gave me a place to start learning. And the more I learned, the more I realized I'm not "just crazy" or "just lazy" or "just broken". I mean, I often still feel like I'm broken, but at least now I know *how* I break, and that I'm not the only one.
In my experience, the distinction between "normal human experiences" and my mental illness often comes from others. When people start saying things like "no one else has a problem doing this, why do you?" or "everyone's going out tonight, why don't you want to come?" etc... that confirmation that, yes, how I feel *is* different from how "everyone else" feels; what I have a handle on *is* less than what most people do without issue; etc. That's when I know for sure the difference. At least once in my life, during a really bad depressive episode, I forced myself to call a friend and basically word-vomited all my thoughts at her just to see what she'd say, and her response -- proving my thoughts wrong *with evidence* -- probably saved my life that day. Knowing that I had distorted thinking, and having a reason why, kept me from continuing to believe those thoughts that might have otherwise killed me.
Having the diagnosis also gave me years of introspection, from which I learned more about myself. I learned the core issue upon which all my anxiety and depression is founded, in every area of my life. I haven't yet figured out how to suppress that issue (or deal with it), but knowing that there is one specific thing causing all my problems, and knowing what it is, means that as often as I'm one step away from the edge, I'm also one step away from the light.
So, basically: knowledge is power. Even if it's not everything you need, it definitely helps. Sometimes more than you'll ever know.
I wish more psychiatrists were willing to approach patients in a way that is open to collaboration. My diagnosis was delayed for years because the psychiatrists I worked with didn't acknowledge my own knowledge and experience with mental illness and wanted to avoid "labeling" me. My degree is related to the mental health field (and psychology has been a special interest of mine since I was a child), I knew I had genetic risks for bipolar disorder, and I recognized when the symptoms started occurring and got help as soon as I could, yet I suffered for years due to psychiatrists who didn't listen to me, and who didn't believe that I understand things to a level that the general public may not. It was so validating when I moved cities and found a psychiatrist who not only respected my knowledge and experience, but also actually took the time to work with me to help me find relief.
I'm still mad at 2020.
Before lockdown I was at my best in my mental health journey (7 yrs in and out of therapy, on meds, etc). I was finally starting to do my old hobbies again and just started a beautiful relationship.
During lockdown, my bipolar and ptsd went into high gear in a way I had never experienced. It hurt so much having all this knowledge and still feeling so helpless. I managed to get help quickly, but not quick enough. I had my appointment ready, and about a week or 2 before, I broke and was about to really hurt myself (I don't want to trigger anyone with the story so I will stop there).
I quickly realised I had to stop before i destroyed myself and the life I built.
It's been over 2 years, and that night and those feelings have stayed with me ever since. I'm continuing with the therapist who saw me then, but oh mental health is hard. Even when you have so many tools, and so much gratitude.
Everyone experiencing mental health issues, or just having a rough day, my heart is with you everyday and I am always rooting for you ❤️
I'm the (hypo)mania leaning bipolar type 2 and it is EXHAUSTING. I can't emphasize enough how always being intensely and constantly jittery and tense can just wear you down in every way. At times I wish I could force a depressive state just so I could get some sleep or calm down for a short time, that's how bad it gets sometimes. I think my hardest struggle is when I get reminded this is for life. I can't cure this. It's forever. And that's so disheartening. I am very impressed with what she did here. When I was younger and still struggling with bipolar, it would have meant a lot for someone to so bluntly discuss the condition this way, so I think she will genuinely change lives.
This video really made me emotional because it was so raw, and as a person with mental health problems I found it very relatable even tho I am dealing with somewhat different stuff (anxiety and depression, but I feel like I still didn't get my full diagnosis). Loved it and loved how you covered the topic🥰
I really wish they had more support for families dealing with loved ones with mental illness. My mom was institutionalized three times when I was a child. No one explained to me what was happening and there was zero support. It wasn’t until later after talking with her that I found out about the bipolar disorder. It is a very isolating disorder and it impacts families as well.
I'm bipolar II (diagnosed in 2018). I suffered from anxiety & depression (sadly, that hasn't changed other than the understanding that they're bipolar-related) for twenty years before my diagnosis, and I now take what feels like a metric ton of prescription meds daily (a total of 19 pills a day), not just for bipolar but for other health issues as well. It's exhausting & can be hard to keep track of.
I don't know if it's available outside the US but there's an app called Medisafe that reminds you to take your meds (it literally makes a pill bottle shaking sound). You enter your different meds & when you usually take them & the app reminds you. Then you mark off that you've taken them & you have an accurate log of your medicine intake. I've been using it for years & it's very helpful.
Anyway, I love your channel. Keep up the good work.
This is a special documentary. Very grateful for her.
Openess about mental illness will help people to realize their own problems and able to get help in early stage. Selena is true amabssador for mental illness,and she will help many to understand,not only those suffering but those parents,educators,politicians,the govt to help more and emphasize the importance of early interventions. Being a psychiatric nurse, I deal it everyday at work. I admired Selena`s openess and hope she cope it and be proud of herself coz she can help many other celebrities and ordinary people suffering from mental disorders.
I think this is the most aware we have been of mental health. Past generations you were called crazy and there was a huge stigma. We are accepting the fact that illness isn’t just physically is mentally. We are beginning to speak out and understanding one another. It’s definitely getting better
This was extremely interesting to watch.. Thanks so much for covering this. I haven't seen her documentary but I am quite interested in doing so, especially after watching your take on some of what she went/is going through.
Thank you very much for covering this in such a sensitive, empathetic way (as always).
One trick for daily pills in the long term I've found helps me: I take something I already do every day at about the same time (for me, it's brushing my teeth) and put my pills on the edge of the sink right next to my toothbrush. That way, even when I'm traveling or busy, that one thing is always constant and it helps keep me on my schedule. By the sink is also nice because I always have water.
When I get to feeling depressed, my response to so many things becomes "why bother."
I could shower: why bother
I could go out and walk: why bother
I could go to the movies: why bother
My therapy is going really well. I'm not where I hope to be yet, but my feelings are not being overwhelmed by "why bother"
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I am an avid mental health awareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💚
I'm teary eyed watching this. thank you for your reaction..
Amazing video, been really meaning to check the whole thing out. Definitely going to now, especially after being diagnosed with some of the same mental illnesses Selena has gone through. Thank you Elliott! 🙏🏽👏🏽 keep up the great work
I wouldn't consider myself a fan of Selena. I've always thought she was a pretty plain gal, just an average girl but then after watching this it makes me quite sad. It's sad when celebrities come out and talk about their problems, because it makes me realize that money and fame mean nothing. People are people. Selena is a human being, who still experiences sadness and confusion. She's someone's little girl, and seeing someone who's so successful with so many illnesses and so much turmoil makes me worry for my son. I'm a mom, and I wish to never see him go through so much pain. I hope that Selena feels better with time. Depression is an ugly monster. Bipolar sounds worse.
It really hurts me when people suffering from illnesses 😢 and this reaction is good 👍
I agree with you (as you know) in general, anxiety shouldn't just be sedated away. HOWEVER, sometimes there are simply no other options especially when it's idiopathic.
this is such an amazing video - thank you! I am trying to create awareness around Neurodiversity and invisible disability in my workplace and this video was very very helpful. I have been nodding all throughout.
Thank you for your video! I love Selena - it's interesting to see, what you have to say about the documentary
Hi Ellitt. Listening to Selena, it brings back the extreme guilt I feel about breaking off a long, long friendship with a friend who is Bipolar 2. She was very unkind to me at the end of our friendship, and prior to that I found her very disagreeable, and what you said about how anxiety can translate into snippy, difficult behaviour really hit home with me. But regardless of that, I know that we were very close and loved each other very much. I have to admit that immediately following the breakdown of our friendship, my main emotion was relief. It's not nice to admit, but a very close friendship with someone who regularly experiences manic episodes and paralysing depression can be extremely draining, especially when you have your own issues to deal with. My real question I suppose is: to get past this guilt I feel, should I reach out to her (we live in different countries, so not easy) or should I deal with my feelings of guilt myself?
Reach out if you have their contact. It may seem awkward, but will make both of you feel better. Even if your friend doesn't respond, atleast you would know that you have done your part
Listen to your gut, and what you think is the right thing. Just because someone is struggling with mental illness doesn’t mean that is an excuse for hurting your feelings etc if that is what you friend did, I’m sure you had your valid reasons for breaking off the relationship, then struggling with mental illness shouldn’t completely take away your side of the story too, because at the end of the day you are both two people who are just as significant as each other in the relationship. Think about the best thing for you, you can’t please everyone if it’s not the best thing for you right now. Listen to your heart. But also if your heart is saying to reach out, there is no harm in that if that feels right right now and you mentally feel up to it, but remember to value yourself as well in the relationship, your feelings are just as valid.
It's okay to put yourself first, and to take care of yourself. If being friends with this person was affecting YOUR health and well-being and peace of mind, it is okay to know that that friendship turned into something that was no longer correct for you, and to leave it in the past. If in the future , you miss that friend and want to reconnect out of love/ really wanting to see them, I would encourage you to follow what you feel is right. But reaching out just because you feel guilty would not be healthy for you, or fair to your friend. It actually sounds like that feeling of guilt might be something that's really important for you to work out on your own. I know it's hard - but sometimes the things that feel the worst turn into our biggest opportunities for growth
As an AuDHDer who had a psychiatrist recommended mood stabilisers for me when giving the ADHD diagnosis my understanding of bipolar has been improved by watching this video so thanks a lot for that. I may eventually watch Steven fry’s films about it at some point and would love your expert opinion on them if it’s of interest.
I would like him to react to Criminal Minds: Spencer Reid. More specifically;
-Season 1, episode 9
-Season 2, episode 15-16
-Season 3, episode 16
-Season 4, episode 3(with the follow up of season 14, episode 1😮)
-Season 4 episode 6-7
-Season 6, episode 12
-Season 7, episode 2
-Season 8, episode 11-13
-Season 11, episode 11
-Season 12, episode 11
-Season 12, episode 13
-Season 12, episode 22
(Any episode is fine. This lit is only episode recommendations. I relate to Spencer Reid a lot.)
Your voice is so soothing 😌
I got turned away by the mental health services because I wasn’t not severe enough, the services are so underfunded:( They alluded to bpd and then turned me away because of the lack of severity, I’m doing well regardless but that’s only because I’VE done the work and I’ve gotten the help. They told me that they’re trying to steer away from diagnosis, because of the effect it has in life… I think I could’ve been helped with it, but I know myself and I know the way my brain functions so even if they won’t treat me for bpd, I’ll treat myself in the ways that are available to me.
I’m bipolar and I’m manic right now after being in a depressive state for months. It’s been a while since I’ve felt so energized.
It’s late and I’m wired.
I want to go do Disney Sea, USJ, and Puroland and go clothes shopping, but I don’t have enough savings to do that really. I nearly bought tickets to Disney Sea earlier today. I’ve been doing 5 different languages on Duolingo today, lol.
I also have rheumatoid arthritis. I wonder if there’s a connection with autoimmune disorders.
completely unrelated, but love miss fiercalicious in the background!! (i bet you recognize my profile picture lol)
Have had bipolar forever and it is terrible... I wish her the best!
It's manageable. Many successful people deal with it and live a normal life.
I love Selena at least she tells her doctors that hey this medication is making me feel a certain way or it’s not working at all
Thats what patients are supposed to do
Awesome insight. Would love to hear your take on the Andrew T Austin debacle.
Being bipolar myself I can really sympathise and relate to her.
I have a question. Is it common for bipolar to be misdiagnosed? I recently went through a very thorough assessment with a psychologist and we came to the conclusion that I was misdiagnosed as bipolar almost 9 years ago. The problems I was having was from untreated ADHD
Same for me.. I found out last year that I have ADHD and my untreated ADHD looks a lot like bipolar 3... its interesting that her mom got diagnosed with adhd (and J.B. as well)..
Yes I have read of a number of women being wrongly diagnosed with bipolar when they actually turned out to be neurodivergent.
I even heard woman get misdiagnosed with bipolar when they have PCOS. The health imbalances seem to always go unoticed for a lot of people who get diagnosed.
@@ritaevergreen7234 That sounds like it would be so hard to go through. Knowing that there's something happening with your body and everyone is telling you it's your mind that's the problem.
Soo good 👏👏👏✨ Thank you
Demi Lovato says she was misdiagnosed with Bipolar, she got diagnosed at 18, but she hasn’t said what she later was diagnosed with.
Selena Gómez es una mujer hermosa y admirable
My dad had a lung transplant in 1992, and while he was abusive before that, he was impossible for my mom or myself to live with after that and he got progressively worse. He was always hyper religious, but that spun way out of control after that, especially after she left him. He constantly had rejection and his behaviour was all over the place. Towards the end, he was incredibly inappropriate in public. Part of that could have been oxygen deprivation, but my guess is that the transplant itself had an effect. He went from being very conservative and abusive to being psychotic and delusional.
I think it’s rather interesting how so many psychiatrists throw around bipolar without doing any real digging. Many actually have unhealed trauma wounds and/or chronic illnesses which is actually “inflammation” in the brain and body! I personally was diagnosed with bipolar many years ago but after careful research into my past have found my anxiety and depression are due to both trauma and chronic illness….go figure
So many illnesses are based on trauma. It’s so crazy! At least some medical doctors like Gabor Mate are trying to tell society they aren’t asking the right questions and pushing them to see how the whole system is messed up.
I saw you today on the way to a Christmas Market! :)
I was too scared to say hi 😅
If someone recognised you, would you want them to say hi, or would you rather be left alone?
should I go on mood stabilizers?I don't want to miss the euphoria and I hope my depression doest get worse.I feel so lost.and my family is in denial
Distinction between normal emptions and disprders 🔥
You should watch The View From Halfway Down from Bojack Horseman. It has some of the most amazing and profound things you’ll ever see!
❤ Selena!
What about doing "Horse Girl" on netflix?
You should react to Taylor Tomlinson’s standup special “Look at You”
Hi I have bipolar disorder and hyperthyroid ... Recently I got extremely sick I thought I was going to die . They said my white blood cells were low but all my blood work was good but then they did an ultrasound and urine and CT scan and found that my kidneys were inflamed. They prescribed me a week of anti biotics and I cut out sugar and kept drinking water and I had a severe manic episode for about three days after I started feeling better ! I'm just starting to feel normal but lots of joint pain anxiety and exhaustion and chronic back pain . Should I bring up lupus to my doctor ?
This all happened in the past month
@@toriamari649 yes I think you should bring it up to your doc just in case!! Goodluck!!
Yes see a rheumatologist
I can't imagine what Selena has gone through 😭
she was my favourite as a child
Her friend says psychosis could last for years or forever. My understanding is that it couldn’t last that long unless you are unmedicated with bipolar or you have schizophrenia?
U r human Selena😘😘😘😘😘😘
Can you PLEAAAASE react to season 2 episode 5 of euphoria it’s so strong and was rlly impactful for a lot of people when it first came out
X todo lo q paso cualquiera 😢
You should react to Ted Lasso!
Gracias
I'm so, so sorry Selena.
I'm bipolar
Semangat selalu tuk Selena...love u...
Join the club. Now just add BPD and we can be friends!
The correct terminology is “she IS bipolar” not “has” if you were to use “has” you would say “she has bpd”, not bipolar.
Right it annoys me too...
I don’t know if I’m not understanding your words correctly, but bipolar and BPD (borderline personality disorder) are different mental health disorders. Bipolar is a mood disorder and BPD is a personality disorder.
She has bipolar disorder is the correct terminology.
i dont think shes bipolar i think shes stuck in a toxic world. if she got away from all these people and all the pressure she would get rid of most of her health issues. sometimes the wrong environment can drive us CRAY
Hormones also play a role in bipolar. Sleep habits stress everything.
You need more education about this.
I agree. There's not much shown about her disorder but from what I see, I dont think she fits the diagnosis criteria of bipolar disorder at all. I also feel like she's just using this as an excuse for outbursts and tantrums and this is so bad because she's misinforming her audience about the actual disorder. She probably does have some sort of mental disorders though such as anxiety or depression and Narcissistic personality disorder
Sorry but I’m salty… Selena dissing her donor who literally saved her life was a trashy thing to do.
A lot of people are misinformed because of all the entertainment articles never giving any depth😅
Selena wasn’t dissing Francia. In the one interview she did, she was explaining how she didn’t feel like she fit into the (music) industry with all the “cool girls”, and Taylor has been legit her only best friend in the industry for years, which she meant, MUSIC industry. Taylor and Francia were only ever in two separate industries, it just wouldn’t make sense to compare them. Selena has been grateful to them both in different ways, and certainly HAS expressed gratitude publicly about Francia being her donor plenty of times in the past. 😕
Honestly the only thing that was trashy was the fact Francia went out of her way to leave a petty comment on Twitter in response to the interview where Selena said that. It was an obvious emotional reaction because she deleted the tweet later. That’s actually more trashy because instead of reaching out to her friend and talking privately about whatever truly concerned her, she didn’t think about the fact her one petty comment would stir up so much negativity 😕 The main focus should have been on the documentary which was to raise more awareness on MENTAL HEALTH.
I personally get so confused as to why people would Selena’s response was bad… she said something like “I’m sorry I didn’t list all of my friends” as a response right? How is that even trashy? 😅 She’s literally indicating that she still thinks of Francia as a close friend, but she wasn’t thinking about her in THAT CONTEXT at the time.
Sorry, but I felt the need to say this because it seems people like you who feel the need to be salty over a relationship/situation that isn’t even any of your business, is adding to the problems in mental health even without realizing. Like this psychologist comes out with this whole reaction video to a documentary on MENTAL HEALTH , and this is what you take from it?….😕
Please, just take some time to reflect about that.
@@KandiWellness You are missinformed as well. She didn't say music industry and it is clear as hell that she didn't imply that her statement was referred just to the music indutry. Her following statement (should I count out everyone I know) shows that she doesn't value her life saved and that she doesn't see her as a friend. Stop defending someone and spinning things.
@@KandiWellness She isn't someone she knows. She is literally her life saver. She could have used another expression but she used this one and we all know why.
@@FM-fm1dg dude if you really know selena she always gratitude Francia, don't you see her old interviews, old twitts??? Why always bashing someone just for 1 mistake? Do you think you can tell someone you are trashy when you are the one why is trash before knowing both parties just because you see on social media when 99% false. I feel so bad for you close persons for your toxic mindset.