The Narcissist Doesn't Want You To Be With Anyone Else

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 223

  • @joshuaanzalone2060
    @joshuaanzalone2060 Рік тому +139

    She will have to get over it because one day I will be with someone that loves me and actually cares for me.

    • @Solidsaw
      @Solidsaw Рік тому

      Make that "one day" today. See that girl over there you keep staring at each other? Go fucking approach her

    • @cherylthompson2731
      @cherylthompson2731 Рік тому +4

      True

    • @ean3345
      @ean3345 Рік тому +3

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @christianwininger77
      @christianwininger77 Рік тому +6

      Same brother! I can’t wait for that day for me too!!

    • @harryzoe
      @harryzoe Рік тому +6

      Absolutely. I’m a new(ish!) wife that followed a narc one. Boy, did she have a major tantrum- spouting verbal abuse, calling him an idiot for marrying me and screaming that I’d disinherit her children. Never mind that she’s never met me in her life 😂. She’s sad, angry and pathetic and I now refuse to be triggered by her. There’s life after abuse, believe me. Never let your ex deceive you into thinking otherwise, because they will try to prevent you from finding what will make you happy. You do you. 😊

  • @joshuaanzalone2060
    @joshuaanzalone2060 Рік тому +45

    We aren't toys,we are human beings.

    • @spaideman440
      @spaideman440 9 місяців тому

      unfortunately narc see you as one of his/her puppet or chess piece

  • @tanyawatts3896
    @tanyawatts3896 Рік тому +87

    I’m so exhausted and broken from what my malignant narc husband did to me over the past three decades that now I have left I never want to be with another man again. I want to give myself the love and time I never really had. I want to focus on the people around me that matter, like my children and grandchildren.

    • @amandabalsitis6748
      @amandabalsitis6748 Рік тому

      Keep burning off dead wood. Find the pieces of you that they made you be, burn it. Reconnect who you actually are before but more importantly now. You can do this. It takes time. Be gentle to yourself. Investigate your attachment. Figure that out. Learn to embrace your shadow. Be around only people you look up to outside your kids and grandkids. Keep working on you. You may or may not find someone. Find the solace in finally figuring out you is the most important. You can do this. The narcs can never do this. You can if you allow it. Godspeed to you.😊

    • @oilselevated4808
      @oilselevated4808 Рік тому +6

      Wow, I thought this was my post!! 32 years, devastation and chaos left behind…

    • @MarriageFraudSurvivors
      @MarriageFraudSurvivors Рік тому +8

      Same here dear, you aren’t alone. I wasted 10 years of my life with a toxic man. I learned a valuable lesson and I’m committed to ME now!

    • @QueenBee-fg1iz
      @QueenBee-fg1iz Рік тому +4

      I was with mine for 17 years and free for 1 year. I’m enjoying my life as a single woman with time to do the things that I enjoy. I’ve reconnected with my family after 5 years and nothing brings me more joy.

    • @jasonbeyer915
      @jasonbeyer915 Рік тому

      Excellent plans goals and intentions. Wishing you all the greatest of luck and success in doing so Tonya. This message really resonates with me because I know exactly how it feels getting negated from love and time never really experienced replaced with unruly and unjust time bestowed evily and reprimanded with primitive abuse that one should had never endure nor ever wanted deservance in that manner of speaking yet individuals somehow are power in numbers at the most timely opportune moment supposedly and got away somehow with criminalistic acts that are down right high definition deplorable enhanced lifestyles. I think it's something in the greed river energy waves on the planet. Something like why bed and breakfast air bnb get-away when you can create artistic luxuries indescribably to the naked mind you know, makes me really wonder about the world and the people in it quite a bit. Like that BARFMAN ESTATE'S enterprise scandal. The upper dont bee please never with the serious woeful vomit showz. Some appalling news documentation about clergymen and church leaders that got away with some very grooling crimes fitting their lushish plushish lifestyles. Sths! Are we weakened and played ? Defeated? SMH

  • @empathicwarriorlissy3716
    @empathicwarriorlissy3716 Рік тому +17

    Once you lose hope in them you will be free. Hope keeps you stuck

    • @juliethomas1811
      @juliethomas1811 2 місяці тому +1

      I totally agree. Once you know they are so un fixable you feel free and detach.

  • @prettysuretv2910
    @prettysuretv2910 Рік тому +13

    I don't want my narcissist man, but I can't stop thinking about him. I don't want him on my mind anymore

    • @baldersn4474
      @baldersn4474 3 місяці тому +3

      Your trauma bonded tjriugh the abuse it's not real...Get therapy with a therapist who knows about NPD

    • @VeraOhiaer
      @VeraOhiaer 2 місяці тому

      ​@@baldersn4474. Thank you. I'm doing better now.

    • @MarkFlanagan-h1o
      @MarkFlanagan-h1o 29 днів тому

      It's a DEMON 🤷🏻‍♂️. Its spiritual. Dont mistake it as anything else.
      Narcs follow the pattern the lord revealed to us.
      Its why they devastate us snd then leave to pursue new victims.
      And they intuitively KNOW WHEN YOU SRE Healing,. so they hoover you back. .
      Its sll through the scriptures
      Two quick ones that come to mind.
      John 10:10
      Proverbs 17:17
      They are here to destroy. Some, knowingly. And the others dont even know they sre carrying out the demons desires.
      Its why they lie, gaslight, show zero empathy, etc..Theyre allergic to TRUTH because satan is the father of lies snd the author of confusion. . The narcissists intent is to destroy, get you to lash out and act out of character. Then they shame you. It's purpose is to isolate you and shame you.
      Your protection and your deliverance is in your heavenly Father. He will being you peace, comfort, guidance. And he will heal your broken heart and bind your wounds.
      If you're fighting this demons alone. You're doing it wrong .

  • @lisedoucet8984
    @lisedoucet8984 Рік тому +17

    Toxic people never change, they are like spoiled kids on a playground. They want everything for themselves, fight and cause drama in all circumstances 🙄
    Thank you so much Anoushka for your awakening videos. The more I listen to you, I realize I am such an Empath who attracted toxic people all my life. I was experiencing toxic relationships with family members, friends, and ex. The last 2 years I had to dump 2 friends and take a break from my mother 😥
    When I turned 50, a bell clicked in my head and I said that's it I am done and I love myself enough to walk away. Now my priority is me 🩷🙏

  • @ErnieLeblanc
    @ErnieLeblanc Рік тому +26

    Anyone can have her, nearly everyone has!!😆😅😁😂🤣😄🙃🙃🙃🙃

  • @flowersofthefield340
    @flowersofthefield340 Рік тому +29

    That's true ........ Like leaving a toxic job 😁 they don't change no matter how much chaos they cause ☠️🐍👿

  • @LooseCan88
    @LooseCan88 Рік тому +6

    Dumped my Narc in an unplanned moment and it was more of a feeling you get. Like you cant take no more. Enough. Checkmate. Awesome Job Anoushka, ty

  • @tanyawatts3896
    @tanyawatts3896 Рік тому +18

    ‘The connection to self is the golden key’. ‘They can’t connect to themselves’ they cannot change! Wow. 😮😮
    ‘You stay stuck because you believe they will change’ Wow.
    ‘They believe you will come back and love them again’ Wow.😮😮😮

  • @shirleyvanderheijden5934
    @shirleyvanderheijden5934 Рік тому +5

    They try to put you on the shelf but want you to jump to their need when it arises! They dont see that I have a life and not available to cater to their whims!

  • @ladydragonrider421
    @ladydragonrider421 Рік тому +19

    This is a great explanation of object inconstancy and its terrifying when you understand the complexity of the mental dysfunction.

  • @lucye5752
    @lucye5752 Рік тому +7

    I’m not even remotely interested in getting into another relationship or even dating because I just feel numb! Empty inside x

  • @tyronesmith8305
    @tyronesmith8305 Рік тому +9

    I'll be with someone who deserves me, and can appreciate and value me

    • @silentsmilez503
      @silentsmilez503 Рік тому +1

      Hah, that won't happen
      Most are narcs

    • @tyronesmith8305
      @tyronesmith8305 Рік тому

      @@silentsmilez503 are you? Troll much?

    • @silentsmilez503
      @silentsmilez503 Рік тому +1

      @@tyronesmith8305 we always hope for best but reality hits

    • @tyronesmith8305
      @tyronesmith8305 Рік тому

      Your reality is what you believe it to be, some of us are learners

  • @meowmeow7212
    @meowmeow7212 Рік тому +17

    Thank you Anoushka. Your videos are very helpful. My partner isolated me from everyone and even made me give up my job. Then I was left all alone within the 4 walls of my home. He didn't even like me watching TV, going out to buy the groceries or going for walks. Both my parents too are Narcissistic and it was the same story with them too. They wouldn't allow me to befriend anyone or to watch TV or cartoons as a child. They wouldn't allow me to go out and play with other children. I think this is coz they feel that if we do all of this we will learn stuff, get aware and become independent. I had to curb all my activities for my partner and I was living all along within the 4 walls. But still this did not make him happy. He would constantly fight with me and abuse me and he would say that m not good for him and that I spoiled his life. Then he would block me and walk away for weeks, convincing me that it's over and that he will never return to me again. But he would always return after a few weeks saying that he loves me a lot and cannot live without me that's why he returned to me. In the meantime if I took up a job or if m meeting friends or taking therapy he doesn't like that. When he returns after weeks and finds out about my activities, he becomes more abusive. He says I should give up all this as a proof of my love towards him. While I was suicidal and was going to a psychiatrist he started saying that m having an affair with the psychiatrist and made me give up my treatment. So basically comes back after every few weeks, makes me give up evthg I am doing and just sit aimlessly at home, uses this as an excuse for fighting and then walks away again for weeks to go, again telling me that the relationship is over. This same cycle has been repeating over and over again for the last 13 years. He knows that my parents are Narcissistic and I have no one to support me, so he takes advantage of that. He also tells me that I am the bad one, evil one and that's why my parents are treating me this way and that I deserve this treatment from my parents and him. He says that he will never let me get away and that I am only his. I am his property. Whether he stays with me or not and even if he marries someone else and moves on he won't leave me and allow me to settle down in life personally with someone else or career wise too. He says "that's how I am. I cannot see you with anyone coz I love you. No matter what I will never ever let you get away..." He threatens of murder if I try to get away.
    Now I have had enough and I have blocked him from my life. I do love him, But I don't want to be with him anymore. I am sure in a couple of weeks he will come back to me again... m scared of that... he is capable of doing anything untoward... but still I don't want him in my life anymore. It's a crazy life with him... it's hell.
    Infact I pray to God everyday to help me to forget him and gall put of love with him. Maybe I hope it happens one day that I am able to unlove him and become indifferent.
    Thank you for these insightful videos. They remind me to stay away from him.
    I pray to God for all of you out there who are going through this kind of abuse at the hands of narcissists. I pray for your healing, strength and peace. 🙏🏻

    • @SweepDailyWin
      @SweepDailyWin Рік тому +9

      Oh my goodness, I read only part of what you wrote and it broke my heart.
      I too had punishments and not allowed to watch my favorite TV show as a child.
      So cruel.
      I will read your whole comment but had to stop because my heart hurt so much for you...
      Pour ALL of the love that you think you feel about these garbage narcissists...
      And shower yourself with treats and comfort and joy and anything and everything that makes you happy.
      I am enjoying even the smallest moments...eating when I'm hungry because we were starved a lot.
      🙏 God bless you and your cats if you have them. I am a cat lover and I have the sweetest cat thar I treat wayyy better than I was ever treated!
      We will heal, it just takes time💖🌷

    • @thrivingnow7395
      @thrivingnow7395 Рік тому +4

      Get out while you can and stay out. Move if you can. If not, change your phone, change your locks, block and delete on all social media. Good luck!

    • @banjiddle
      @banjiddle Рік тому +3

      I understand and sympathize what you are going through. Both my parents were covert narcissists. I only knew how I was treated growing up. When I met one, it was the norm for me, until life got worse! I was fortunate to get help. Anoushka is keenly spot on this subject! It’s difficult to break away, but you have too in order to see reality. I watched Joyce Meyers on TBN, and could relate to her. I prayed crying out to God for help! He did! I decided to pack up and move far away from this evil. Of course, I was found, but the distance was too far. Meanwhile, they found new supply X 3 since me. I am safe, free, happy, and praising the Lord. Church friends will help you, and therapy.

    • @Bob-zh6dw
      @Bob-zh6dw Рік тому +2

      Saying a prayer for you as well. God be with you and give you peace and happiness 😊

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin Рік тому +22

    I was the one to leave....but it took decades 😔 its hard when irs your mother and sister and you don't know you're in the narcissist fog 😔
    It's not easy when you don't have other family members to go to for comfort and support. 😔

    • @sajor1847
      @sajor1847 24 дні тому

      I went no contact with all my siblings and my daughter in order to save my life! They were driving me crazy!

  • @maxmaximus8323
    @maxmaximus8323 Рік тому +1

    After 3 decades with a narcissist, I really don't give a darn about being with anyone else at this point, I'm actually better off by myself and doing what I like to do, period. I stay busy doing many things that interest me, I still work, hang out with my friends and we are all busy doing activities we have a mutual interest in.

  • @sajor1847
    @sajor1847 24 дні тому

    That's so insane! He would ignore me constantly devalue and treat me horribly but wanted me to just be around so he could destroy me completely! Sheesh!

  • @oilselevated4808
    @oilselevated4808 Рік тому +5

    Even when my husband of 32 years “came clean” about his trash on the side, he said he didn’t want me to find a friend..lucky for him I was around when he came back during the last 4 months of his life. Very sad, all of it. Chaos, destruction and devastation

  • @captgraybush2890
    @captgraybush2890 Рік тому +8

    Relationships are to easily thrown away these days.

    • @bryanoconnor6897
      @bryanoconnor6897 Рік тому +1

      That’s what they are for, relate to some things then ship them away LOL.

    • @ianstewart942
      @ianstewart942 Рік тому

      When narcissist people don't do issues. They take the easy option and run. Cowards come to mind.

  • @dailystriver2727
    @dailystriver2727 Рік тому +25

    My narc ex discarded me out of Nowhere, when I spoke to her about us and the relationship she ignored me, gave me the silent treatment and ghosted me. After a month I confronted her about her giving me the silent treatment and ghosting me and she showed no emotion, no empathy whatsoever for my feelings and me as a person. She was cold, nasty and emotionless she even told me there’s nothing to talk about and to move on. Completely discarded me for no reason of my own then after a few weeks I get a letter served to me saying she filed for a restraining order against me. The last few months have been so painful accepting the fact that I fell in love with someone who never loved me and someone who used me for attention and validation and fun then got rid of me when she got bored and lost interest and all the pain and suffering from loving someone and then being discarded like this. I will never be the same person after this painful experience. During November and December I felt suicidal and she has broken me inside, emotionally and psychologically. It feels like a dream that sometimes I can’t believe this person who was my world did this to me. This whole nightmare and painful experience bought me here on the path of learning about narcissistic and toxic partners.

    • @Francois2raw
      @Francois2raw Рік тому +8

      I’ve been through exactly the same process as have many people listening to Anoushka. At first I was exactly like you, feeling all the pain and exasperation you described. I listened to years of Psychology lessons and readings. I think I’ve watched every video I could on narcissism and many other forms of mental dysfunction. I must say that Anoushka has it down Pat. Very clear and precise explanations and wonderful advice to help you through all the pain issues caused by this narcissistic relationship. I purposely Got back into the relationship with my abuser just so I could logically understand what this chaotic mindset does to people. I am not going to pretend that I still didn’t have feelings for her, but the knowledge I gained from being more in control of my emotions, and actually knowing what the person was going to do to me as time passed, was unbelievably valuable. I’m so much wiser and in control, it was a challenge met head on and thoroughly researched. Stay busy and push forward, there’s so much to look forward to!

    • @thrivingnow7395
      @thrivingnow7395 Рік тому +10

      You fell in love with a mirage, a toxic and dark individual. It was a lie from the start. Take care and keep strong! You are strong.

    • @jennylopez9146
      @jennylopez9146 Рік тому +2

      Me too

    • @dailystriver2727
      @dailystriver2727 Рік тому +2

      @@thrivingnow7395 thank you for your words of support. I try to remind myself everyday that I am getting stronger by the day. I know the heartbreak and healing process will take a long time, a few years to be honest. Even though you can never forget someone you genuinely loved, and erase them from your memory I just remind myself that this person I fell in love with did not exist and it was a mask she was wearing during the beginning of the relationship. Hope you’re keeping well.

    • @dailystriver2727
      @dailystriver2727 Рік тому +2

      @@Francois2raw I appreciate your comment and words of encouragement and support. You know how painful this process is, I am assuming you have now moved on from this ex of yours many years ago? Educating ourselves about psychology, narcissism and other personality disorders have been a great help in regulating our emotions and brain through the pain and heartbreak of it all. This relationship is what got me started on learning about these subjects. I will try my best to remind myself everyday that there is still so much to look forward to in life including hopefully a real genuine relationship with a genuine partner.

  • @daisybudikova
    @daisybudikova Рік тому +21

    Narcissist are such losers just move on ! It's the best thing you will do!

  • @anthonyperrow4421
    @anthonyperrow4421 Рік тому +12

    You're knowledge and understanding of narcissistic personality disorders has changed my life !! Thank you for educating me and making me understand what I was involved with !! 💯🙌✨️😎✌️

  • @inserter400
    @inserter400 Рік тому +7

    I am still waking in the night thinking about her , it doesn't rest 😔😪
    She is Always on my mind .

    • @monikaschroder2328
      @monikaschroder2328 Рік тому +1

      I felt exactly the same. And now, very slowly, it is becomming better - after two years. All the best to you.

    • @JaimeLopez-uy7hl
      @JaimeLopez-uy7hl Рік тому +2

      I suffer from the same problem. It is very hard to stop thinking of him.

    • @browneyes9507
      @browneyes9507 Рік тому +2

      One day you’ll wake up and won’t think of them at all- it’ll be a fleeting thought …

    • @tracychristian7486
      @tracychristian7486 Рік тому +1

      One day at a time PRAY stay connected to FAITH think about all the horrible things that was done to you! You must love GOD & yourself! They live in a INTERNALHELL! I felt with one for 4 Months I cut her off for 3 Months She came back for revenge I have her in my phone as the DEVIL she didn’t like it! So she played nice for a while to get revenge! But I’m a SEP I can see her dark soul! I had to change my SM because of the fake req! I think about her sometimes but then I say nah I’m good BLOCKED STRAIGHT NO CONTACT thank God it was only 4/4 8 months not 8th! Hold tight learn how to love and validate you!

    • @alessandro8736
      @alessandro8736 Рік тому +1

      I wonder if anyone of you here has blocked their ex narcs ? She’s also always in my mind, so every time she comes back, I’m back in the game. Im not strong enough to block her

  • @elizabethash4720
    @elizabethash4720 Рік тому +1

    I am finally realising not every neighbour can be a friend . Acceptance is a wonderful thing. I thought I was a weirdo walking on egg shells, thought I was rude, avoidant, unfriendly, unkind. All along the attachment disorder of my neighbours is what I have been experiencing. What a waste of time and my energy. What a wonderful person you are to uncover the truth of situations like this. Thankyou.✝️

  • @cheezinhoweree
    @cheezinhoweree Рік тому +14

    They don't care about who you're with they only care about destroying you and taking your love out of the world..it's really true and sick and me saying it sounds so negative but it's true. You can't even mention this to anyone that hasn't been around one of these things without looking bad too.and it's all done because you loved them

    • @kenmichielsen1642
      @kenmichielsen1642 Рік тому +1

      I know right? Nobody understands this unless they lived it.

  • @chriscole5990
    @chriscole5990 Рік тому +4

    Ya were like their toaster oven they just had to unplug you for a while

  • @isabelmarcheselli
    @isabelmarcheselli Рік тому +3

    So insightful, thank you! You have a wonderful way of explaining the attachment disorder and it helps to hear about it every time. This video was helping me understand the objectification and service part…

  • @ekaterinavalcheva9025
    @ekaterinavalcheva9025 Рік тому +1

    Hahaha Omg I haven’t heard a better explanation. So clear- it corresponds exactly to everything. Thank you!

  • @AXA747
    @AXA747 Рік тому +6

    I left him 2 months ago and I have stayed no contact and thank god he has stayed no contact and I’m hoping that’s the end of it he’s blocked everywhere and I will never unblock him I did believe for 3 years he could change and I had the lightbulb moment when I looked at him and thought he can’t change and he doesn’t want to

  • @longjohnny
    @longjohnny Рік тому +4

    The thing that I don't understand is the 'it's worked so, far so why change' argument.... like it's literally never worked for them... they leave a trail of destruction and pain behind them... and it never works out.

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +2

    Hello Anoushka, I discarded him many years ago. I never understood WHY they want you to be ALONE while they "Monkey Branch" all the tme. They have very sick minds. Even when you never see them again, they feel they OWN you! Mine never came back, and it's been almost 11.9 years! They are sicker than I once thought! Thank you for the great video..❤️⚘️💙

  • @bobbyjj5372
    @bobbyjj5372 Рік тому +2

    Narcissists are just unconscious people we don't have to hate them every step of the way, just identify them and then stay away

  • @gracelovvheals2169
    @gracelovvheals2169 Рік тому +5

    Hi Annoushka, I appreciate your channel so much! You have definitely clarified all that I have gone through the past 30 yrs.

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin Рік тому +5

    Not "should" have the right...DOES have the right.
    Anoushka, I'm so angry with them. Like who are they to harass me!!!!
    Leave me alone!, they have no right to keep bothering me.
    It's unlawful.

    • @kiransagar8557
      @kiransagar8557 Рік тому

      Yes, they will not understood your pain so they are bothering. Stay focussed and love yourself...

  • @davidbell8320
    @davidbell8320 Рік тому

    Words match exactly how I was treat, used and abused,now I will move on.

  • @StudyTalkWithAshima
    @StudyTalkWithAshima Рік тому +1

    Hi Anoushka, love from India.. I feel such love to my heart because of your video.. yes each detail you have given is absolutely correct and trust me it is a living hell and you dont realise you are in one with a narcissist and a gas lighter.

  • @aliceroberts1980
    @aliceroberts1980 Рік тому +1

    They also think the reason you left them is you were cheating on them. They thinks the reason you left is an other guy

  • @puremaledark8305
    @puremaledark8305 Рік тому +5

    Ya know what was crazy. She said she didnt care if i cheated. I never did, but what an odd freaking thing to say

  • @banjiddle
    @banjiddle Рік тому +1

    Thanks!

  • @gilliangiles7589
    @gilliangiles7589 9 місяців тому +1

    I BELONG TO THE MOST HIGH. ❤️🙏

  • @danajaye2911
    @danajaye2911 Рік тому +3

    I don’t either. As lonely as I am - I’ll never love again. I am a good partner- treat them like a king and work hard and low maintenance- but I will remain alone. Never want to experience that kind of pain again. Ruined my life. Thing is I am a couple and family person- they are my inspiration- can’t have either- life is dull and pointless.

    • @roncolem4558
      @roncolem4558 Рік тому

      That's what I'm running into. I'm a romantic one woman type of guy but I always seem to attract females who have a husband, boyfriend, or fiance ' who what me as a " back up plan" or " second arrangement ".
      One woman I was interested in and she was interested in me had a boyfriend. When I ask her about it, she actually said " what boyfriend?".
      So when I said" I guess the better man won, she seriously said " Not really "and tried to gaslight me into thinking it was my fault . When I started ignoring her, she would do anything to be near or around me despite the fact her new boyfriend was around ( we worked together)
      It made me think " Is anyone serious about dating anymore?".

    • @howyduinyall7653
      @howyduinyall7653 Рік тому +1

      Every negative thought comes from satan every positive thought comes from God, Revelation cpt 21 verse 3,4. The future’s bright Psalm 37 verses 10,11.😊

  • @BaawBee
    @BaawBee Рік тому +10

    Imma just stay single forever

    • @spaideman440
      @spaideman440 9 місяців тому +1

      you stop eating because a few people ate some bad apples?

  • @CallmeKiki10
    @CallmeKiki10 4 місяці тому

    My beautiful slavic anoushka❤
    Enjoy my dear🥰

  • @kenmichielsen1642
    @kenmichielsen1642 Рік тому +16

    Thank you for this episode Anoushka! I broke up with my ex narcissist gf on Dec 27th after almost 4 years. On that day I discovered that she was secretly dating (swingersclubs and prostitution) multiple exes during our whole relationship. I saw all the red flags like the glossy black pumps under her car seat, disappearing for 2 or 3 days and returning only to gaslight me, the constant smearing of all her exes, etc. Etc. But being in the narcissist fog I doubted my own sanity. I would be afraid to question her. Now, I will never take the b) {ch back. But I must say that I miss the mask now and then.
    Anyway, I'm working hard on recovery and your videos are very helpful. ❤️

    • @jacquelinefroehle3583
      @jacquelinefroehle3583 Рік тому +2

      Good for you. We were naive and now we grew in strength to know how evil works and how to recognize evil. Heal and enjoy your peace and you can attract good people in to your life. Narcissist will destroy any good relationships you have. Do No Contact and avoid them like a plague.

    • @kenmichielsen1642
      @kenmichielsen1642 Рік тому +1

      @@jacquelinefroehle3583 thank you! No contact whatsoever has been great for me and it enabled me to land back on earth. I'm doing the work now and slowly I'm starting to appreciate myself again. I can tell that I'm doing a little better because I have been attracting some nice people and reanimating old friendships lately. But... The trauma bond has yet to fade away. I have the time though. 😉

  • @alricklloyd2163
    @alricklloyd2163 2 місяці тому

    I really enjoy this video it really open my eyes

  • @Gigi-pd8vj
    @Gigi-pd8vj Рік тому +1

    How strange?! My ex-narcissist told to move on after the break up! She's the one crawling back to me but not for me, I know it!

  • @carlydaniels4184
    @carlydaniels4184 Рік тому

    The delivery was excellent.

  • @BeABossQueen1
    @BeABossQueen1 7 місяців тому

    That’s wild. He’s being controlling horribly and I’ve never met the man. He’s a horrible narcissist.

  • @tamador9301
    @tamador9301 Рік тому +6

    In the past I was like a narcissist that I couldn't detach from people in a healthy way and I didn't attach to them in a healthy way.

  • @Mandooze
    @Mandooze Рік тому +2

    Thankyou❤❤

  • @arthurlangille4604
    @arthurlangille4604 Рік тому +2

    Not interested in another relationship. Relationships are for having children. I think my journey is now a solo one. And I've never been more happy and content.

  • @iopakayalo3459
    @iopakayalo3459 Рік тому

    This makes alot of sense.
    Thank you Anoushka.
    Alot of help.

  • @ritadoran5039
    @ritadoran5039 Рік тому +2

    Hello Anoushka
    They don't like the idea of their whipping post being gone control ect Well they drive us away so we go simple really abuse us we move on eventually
    Thanks for great vid
    Ps you dress lovely

  • @martinhays6811
    @martinhays6811 Рік тому +3

    She is covert and married for many yearz he a good man we are friends but she disrespects her marriage when she is talking to me on the phone we dated back in high school i cant be friends with her husband because the way she is she said that she cant handle it if i was with someone well im done with that after 2 divorces and lost everything im not going down that road im 65 and happy for the first time in my life!

  • @nayanmdesai
    @nayanmdesai 8 місяців тому

    SO TRUE.

  • @ahmedshaban5601
    @ahmedshaban5601 Рік тому

    This is truly heart breaking unfortunately.

  • @dcikaruga
    @dcikaruga 6 місяців тому

    Narcissists have a need to hurt people? That's what I saw with my own eyes but I never realized why until now.

  • @mariawcislo301
    @mariawcislo301 Рік тому

    It helped and explained what had happened to me.

  • @wow2den
    @wow2den Рік тому +3

    I work with my ex narcissist they are falling over there self's to get my attention every time I walk past my ex narc they keep banging into me see if I react

  • @metricdeep8856
    @metricdeep8856 Рік тому +2

    My ex got a dog. Apparently it's fine for a dog to be alone all day until mom comes home and hopefully has time for them. Yet another one-sided relationship she has burdened.

  • @arthur.phoenix
    @arthur.phoenix Рік тому +4

    *Like # 181* Always good advice given, knowlegable information shared in a kind, empathetic relatable way. Your consistency is a powerful example within itself. Thank you.
    *Be Pro-Active* . If you are not being Pro-Active then you are being re-active. Read, listen, watch Self-help content. It is like mental-gardening. Sow thought-seeds, nurture them, and they will grow, mature into beautiful edible food for your body, mind and soul.
    Never allow someone's lies to replace your goals or possibilities.
    And remember to be *Kind to your Self* . A kind word is never forgotten.

  • @spaideman440
    @spaideman440 9 місяців тому

    if you no contact with a narcissist, the narc only want ONE thing for you, that is you SUFFER forever as cast-away

  • @marylourodriguez9227
    @marylourodriguez9227 Рік тому

    Thank you!

  • @stacey.adrianne
    @stacey.adrianne Рік тому

    This is what I’m currently dealing with. My narc ex isn’t respecting my need to move on from the relationship. I believe he has a new supply but it’s not stopping him from blowing up my phone from unknown numbers and showing up at my place when I don’t answer. It’s making me scared to cut him off completely

  • @johncrookston6111
    @johncrookston6111 Рік тому

    she's gone,
    "Princeless" Diana!

  • @angelahart1479
    @angelahart1479 Рік тому

    Thankyou again. Yes my ex narc talked regularly to her ex's. Don't know why they are hanging around. Probably enablers tho I don't think they have any idea.

  • @arkenseth7532
    @arkenseth7532 Рік тому +2

    Yes this video helps ,how do you get over them

  • @djangopipo5712
    @djangopipo5712 Рік тому

    ❤thank you very very much

  • @meriladiba9855
    @meriladiba9855 Рік тому +2

    How narcissist react when they see u in the street by accident or in the public??

  • @rosewitch1186
    @rosewitch1186 Рік тому

    Ur right.

  • @latenytgamer8451
    @latenytgamer8451 Рік тому +2

    We can pray for them guys..

  • @MarkFlanagan-h1o
    @MarkFlanagan-h1o 29 днів тому

    Psychology says narcissism is childhood trauma or from overly enmeshed parents that spoil the child. Scripture tells us its spiritual. 🤷🏻‍♂️ You decide.
    If you treat it as a spiritual attack, you'll recover more quickly and more completely.
    John 10:10 and proverbs 17:17 tells you EXACTLY what we're dealing with. And there's plenty more 🙏

  • @Danzaxe69
    @Danzaxe69 Рік тому

    Anoushka, wish you were my girl..smart, pretty and not a covert narc. Above all smart. perfect.

  • @blacksuperman2657
    @blacksuperman2657 Рік тому +2

    So, Jealousy and a Narcissist are the same?

  • @hankhill3417
    @hankhill3417 Рік тому

    Like a child in a sandbox that breaks a toy when done with it so no one else can play with it

  • @aneishasingletary4553
    @aneishasingletary4553 Рік тому

    Do I have to worry? I am 5 months no contact, I met someone this past week and she seems nice and outspoken, she's not blaming others in her life she seems empathic. But I don't need the narc coming back.

  • @kimMorgan4813
    @kimMorgan4813 Рік тому

    After 20 years of marriage and a divorce, I realize I knew no intimate details about him. what scared him or bothered him .I was an open book. He has never tried to contact me in 5 years. I meant nothing to him as his wife or as a human. Our son is 23 and he hasn't talked to him in 5 years. I just don't understand but maybe I was clingy .I just don't know anymore.

  • @geraldpleasant7733
    @geraldpleasant7733 Рік тому +6

    A narcissist knows what they doing are wrong but go against what is right so with that being said a narcissist doesn't own me period their problems is with their parents they give her that shame that her reality that she can't face her Shame it not my problem at all I turn this problem over God period and I realize is incapable of love all the way around I don't want to be with her every again and I stand on what I said she knows that I don't care hoovers or flying monkeys that want change face what done and the scare she left in my heart and that remain there for the rest of my life someone that can't give love back that is a waste of time and life as well I hate to said this this person is lost forever and enterally hell but don't care about that at all and I m glad that this information is getting out to the public about the narcissist they need to be expose for their wrongdoing in life I going to say this their is love for everybody and One day God will give me that but it want not be with no narcissist and that for sure word...

  • @dezonwill33
    @dezonwill33 3 місяці тому

    They honestly do believe they own you I haven’t dealt with my ex narcissist in years almost 4 to be exact this nut job had the nerve to tell my girlfriend from a spam number that I still belonged to her I almost started to feel sorry for her because she really needs to go get some help!

  • @edwardmontinola2311
    @edwardmontinola2311 Рік тому

    After the break up I was about to get married, but theirs one small problem,the girl doesn't like me.

  • @Naarvana
    @Naarvana 4 місяці тому

    Why did my ex call me tell me she is with someone else, acuse me of being with and ex wife of mine and lay the blame of my breakup with her all on me ..
    3 months later also acuse me of stalking which I don't ..she is with my neighbor I'm confused

  • @palawanczech
    @palawanczech Рік тому

    What would happen if I show this video to a narcissist and will try to have a talk about it, would they even try to understand it?

  • @bronyk7997
    @bronyk7997 Рік тому

    My Cray Cray narcissist is a dude who just thinks it’s ok too talk too me when he feels like it .. Mine spends his weekends in chat rooms when he’s not working picking up women Then decides if I’m worthy of his attention…He’s decided too call me today which I wasn’t awake for so missed it .. Not answering anything anymore he has made me suffer for nearly two years… I’ve not blocked him he hasn’t he blocked me .. I’ve had my mobile & iPad turned off .. He said hello I acknowledged the hello by saying hello then I turned my phone off…If I don’t do this then I will never do it .. I’m so upset & depressed but you know what it’s worth it too feel this way for a short period of time than suffer one more second with this moron…

  • @bobbyjj5372
    @bobbyjj5372 Рік тому

    But the only thing is you can really focus on them too much because then you attract more narcissist into you are life. What I noticed when I was watching these videos I started to attract some clients and customers who were narcissistic and even some people who where in customer service and it just made my life difficult. That's when I realized it is not a good idea to indulging this videos all day.

  • @ZonyWest
    @ZonyWest Рік тому

    Yep and if you run into a married one! He wants you to stay single and will only want to be bothered with you when the wife and he are not getting along, or she doesn't want to have sex. As long as things are running smoothly and going good and rosy? You won't hear from them.

  • @rachelrose9348
    @rachelrose9348 5 місяців тому

  • @artifactis
    @artifactis Рік тому

    My ex wife had an affair then left me for someone else and since then I have been cock blocked for years.
    Only recently did a beautiful girl go on a date with me and I still felt so guilty 😔

  • @ean3345
    @ean3345 Рік тому

    🖤

  • @TFrancis-ev1lo
    @TFrancis-ev1lo 6 місяців тому

    Causing problems you dont own me

  • @뿡뿡이-d4q
    @뿡뿡이-d4q Рік тому +1

    funny they can go date others but i cant interesting

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 3 місяці тому

    I really loved my ex the best when he bashed my head in n broke my jaw! Totally manly

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 Рік тому

    😂😂😂😂😂no sorry game over race finished one winner ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂

  • @candiddeclarations7364
    @candiddeclarations7364 8 місяців тому +1

    These videos on narcissism are becoming too bitter and unforgiving. Jesus Christ of Nazareth said that if we don't forgive each other truly then we will not enter into Heaven.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 3 місяці тому

    Your best mate was amazing last nite lmfao! Check mate RR

  • @SafarBadalov-d8i
    @SafarBadalov-d8i Рік тому

    Looool I got with a new girl in a week just to piss her off.

  • @lordenlightenedluciferian
    @lordenlightenedluciferian Рік тому +1

    Too bad for her... I'm good with Mt true love! These videos have truly shed Light upon the issues with narcissistic people... Me and My wife now started a channel describing our experience with narcissistic people from our past relationships... @LatoyaandLord